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beauty21queen
05-22-2008, 12:21 PM
^Nope never . Unless there all undercover or something. I think the cops in Plano are the ones with the black cars where you cant really tell if there cops? Thats probably why.

Joplin
05-22-2008, 12:23 PM
Some people swear there's a million cops up by Dallas/ Arlington but I've never seen one.

In the city is a different story, but coming in or going out, never.

Sophia_Starina
05-22-2008, 12:29 PM
My "medical issues" are technically because I was starving and a vegetarian I refuse to eat greasy fast food french fries.. I was in a hurry to get home. I told him I was cramping really bad and my blood sugar was low and I needed to eat something but I have a real strict diet. I could say something of that nature in court?


:rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl: "technically starving"? Omg.... your ticker says you've been Veg for *gasp* 4 days.... yeah.... that's one bad-ass medical condition.

Worst excuse ever.

You can try using that in court *giggle* but you'll run the risk of getting arrested for being criminally dumb. ::)

Thanks for the laugh, speedy. :laughing:

Hello_Kitty27
05-22-2008, 12:38 PM
I wouldn't pay it, I'd do the court route, plead whatever you want to, they may give you a smalelr fine and it may not go on your record.

For example, in IL, by paying for the speeding ticket, it is considered a guilty plea and jacks your insurance up. I know from experience. I went to court for another ticket, plead guilty, but was apologietic and polite and very put-together looking, and the judge gave me a $55 fee (as opposed to over a hundred) and gave me 6 months of supervision, nothing stays on my record, insurance doesn't know about it. (at the very same time, there was a lady that had no tickets in three years, just like me, was also polite, etc and the judge gave her the full fine....it just depends on their mood, but I'd rather chance it and go to court and you do NOT need an attorney. I've never heard of people hiring attorneys for speeding tickets that they were guilty for. It's only a speeding ticket, not DUI, etc.

Lilah29
05-22-2008, 12:40 PM
I don't understand when people are saying to not plead guilty...is one then going to court and saying that the officers' radar was off or misread, and one was in fact not going that speed?

Sophia_Starina
05-22-2008, 12:47 PM
I don't understand when people are saying to not plead guilty...

I don't get it either. :no:

The poster admits to speeding. So what's the problem? Fess up, pay the fine, accept the consequences and keep an eye on the speedometer next time.

Trying to be all cutesy, feigning a medical condition, and then getting all weepy-eyed when you don't get your way is incredibly immature. Maybe you could have gotten out of the car, dropped to the floor and had a full-blown tantrum too!

Grow up.

Lonelily
05-22-2008, 12:48 PM
Sophia, please to clear out your PMs. Kthx.

Madcap
05-22-2008, 12:48 PM
Those radar guns are notoriously unreliable. You can beat it if you try hard enough, and have a little luck.

Joplin
05-22-2008, 12:49 PM
When I got caught speeding I did defensive driving and my insurance actually got REDUCED. You can only do that once a year though....

Jay Zeno
05-22-2008, 12:51 PM
The state has the burden of proving guilt. What you do when you plead not guilty is say, "Prove it," to the state.

If everything went to trial, the system would be overwhelmed. They count on plea bargaining just to keep things going. Usually if you plead not guilty, you'll be offered a reduction. And as noted, if you go to trial, there's always a possibility it'll just be dismissed, either because there's too many trials that day or the witness (officer) isn't there to testify.

Lilah29
05-22-2008, 12:52 PM
Those radar guns are notoriously unreliable. You can beat it if you try hard enough, and have a little luck.

That's what I mean - does one insist that one wasn't going the speed the officer says?

Does one actually lie, or just not admit guilt?

Jay Zeno
05-22-2008, 12:56 PM
My observation varies from that. The guys that I've talked to calibrate their radar guns every time they go out. If the cop can testify to what he did to make sure the eqiupment is accurate, it'll sound a lot more scientific than, "But I'm sure I wasn't going that fast."

Madcap
05-22-2008, 12:57 PM
I got caught doing 104 MPH on the highway one night rolling out to my friend's house just east of nowhere (Long drive on a straight highway). They damn near took me to jail. I fought it tooth and nail. Didn't get all they way out of it but it got way reduced. That was a trooper.

He got me on the opposite side of the highway & had to Uturn through the grass. Guy told me i prolly could have gotten away and asked me why i didn't run. I was like "because i'm not stupid." (Honestly, i probably could have beaten him but i'm not retarded enough to turn something little into something big). Prolly why i didn't go to jail.

Zabrina
05-22-2008, 01:42 PM
Ah don't feel too bad L&L. I just got a speeding ticket too. I was dressed up, hair did, super low cut top, push-up bra and tits up to my collarbone. The highway was a confusing one where the speed limit changes from 65 to 45. I was lost, had never been to that town before, honestly hadn't seen the sign saying that the limit changed. The cop still gave me the damn ticket. Clocked me for 64 in a 45, ugh!

I think he just wanted to make a point that tits don't get you everything. Dickhead!!!

VenusGoddess
05-22-2008, 01:47 PM
^ This shounds shitty, but it's not techinically lying. I wasn't racing somebody or driving like a jackass, the roads weren't very crowded and I wasn't bobbing and weaving. I was just going a little faster than I should have been because I was fucking starving and the only food I can eat is in my fridge at home. All I had to eat all day was an english muffin and it was damn near 8:00PM when I got pulled over.. My tummy is getting used to no meat, and super healthy food and I didn't want to fuck it all up by getting something at a gas station or a drive through.

I guess I'm just a cop-hater. Seriously, when people are getting robbed and killed and you don't have anything better to do than pull people over, there are either too many cops or somebody need to fucking reorganize their job duties.

I'm in a very shitty mood right now, but I'm beginning to hate this country and the way things are run here. If Obama doesn't get elected and changes aren't made, I'm getting the fuck out of America and not looking back. :bomb:

You weren't driving like a jack-ass? You were doing almost 20 miles over the speed limit. You were almost within reckless driving zone. I'm sure if you would have explained to the cop that the only reason you were speeding is because you lacked the forsight to take along a bagged lunch to work and needed to get home to the food you had sitting in your fridge before it went bad in the extra 3 minutes it would have taken you to get home had you been going the speed limit, he would have totally just laughed, patted your head and said, "Oh, geez. Well, I'll forgo that ticket." ::)

Let me pass you over to my friend who lost his little sister because some jack ass hit and killed his sister as she was crossing the street. He really shouldn't have gotten arrested because he was late for work and took the side street so he could speed and by-pass the evil traffic. I mean, he wasn't driving recklessly, or bobbing and weaving...he was just going 25 miles over the speed limit and when my friend's sister stepped out from behind a parked car, he didn't have time to stop.

I totally get why you are so upset at getting a speeding ticket. It so wasn't fair and I hope that every person in America sends that cop a mean fucking letter and that the judge takes his badge away from him. He has some balls to give you a ticket for speeding almost 20 over the limit.

Slow the fuck down and you won't have to worry about a speeding ticket. The logic in that one really isn't that hard at all...for people who have an ounce of common sense.

Geezus, this pisses me off!! >:(

Alia_of_the_Knife
05-22-2008, 02:05 PM
I only want to say is that speeding really doesn't make trips faster unless you are driving across the country. Saving a few minutes isn't worth the risk.

Madcap
05-22-2008, 02:13 PM
Yeah, the only times i ever really speed is away from everyone. In city limits it's not worth the hassles.

The story i had a couple posts up, for instance, took place on this stretch of highway 100 that is straight for like 40 miles and nobody lives anywhere near it. Not really the best course of action, but on a 90 minute drive out to Leslie MO (a few blocks from Timbuktu) it's easy to get the lead foot. Literally the middle of nowhere. Speeding in any city limits, highway or not, is asking for trouble. The best of which is a speeding ticket.

I still prolly speed when i go out there, just not with the needle half buried anymore. lol

Lilah29
05-22-2008, 02:24 PM
I only want to say is that speeding really doesn't make trips faster unless you are driving across the country. Saving a few minutes isn't worth the risk.

Yeah, it doesn't really seem to make that much difference. I can't count the number of times someone has sped ahead of me, making some dangerous move, only for me to catch up to them easily at the next light.

Also, even on barren stretches of land, one can hit an animal out there, and that would feel pretty bad. Wish I could remember the numbers, but I saw a stat once talking about this very thing - the huge number of wild animals who could be spared from injury and death each year if people followed the speed limits, and thus had more time to react to them.

loveandluxury
05-22-2008, 02:34 PM
Thanks to everybody that was a total bitch. I appreciate it. Next time you guys have a bad day and just need to vent and are obviously talking out of anger I'll be sure to post really mean, hateful, bitchy things in your thread, mmkay?

I was speeding, and it's cool, I got caught, my bad.. I'll take care of it. Part of the reason I'm so stressed about it is because of my husband, I haven't told him about it and he's not a very nice person so I'm just a little scared of telling him and getting yelled at or worse. If I wouldn't have been speeding, then it wouldn't have happened and I wouldn't have to worry about telling my husband, I already know all that. I did something wrong and got caught.

Seriously though, I didn't expect hugs or people being super nice and saying it's okay. However, when I very obviously started the thread about 15 minutes after it happened and I made it abundantly clear I was writing out of anger, I'd maybe expect a little less of the absolute bitches that posted in here. Absolutely ridiculous. Like you people have never said anything stupid or that you regret out of anger? ::)

I don't wish any harm on the cop, I was just mad. I hope he made it home safely last night and safely makes it wherever he has to go. For everybody that wants to be a bitch just to be one, please just leave the thread.. it's not needed anymore.

loveandluxury
05-22-2008, 02:36 PM
:rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl: "technically starving"? Omg.... your ticker says you've been Veg for *gasp* 4 days.... yeah.... that's one bad-ass medical condition.

Worst excuse ever.

You can try using that in court *giggle* but you'll run the risk of getting arrested for being criminally dumb. ::)

Thanks for the laugh, speedy. :laughing:


Was this post necessary? Did it do anything other than make fun of me? I can understand the posts that were tough love type stuff, which I appreciate but this post.. Just fucking bitchy, rude and absolutely not needed. I can't wait until you need to vent about something, I'll be there to tear you a new asshole.

Lilah29
05-22-2008, 02:39 PM
Part of the reason I'm so stressed about it is because of my husband, I haven't told him about it and he's not a very nice person so I'm just a little scared of telling him and getting yelled at or worse.

Ugh I'm really sorry for that :( I wonder if there's some way you can not tell him, or if it needs to come out.

loveandluxury
05-22-2008, 02:40 PM
^ I took care of a past due inspection sticker ticket without telling him, so I'm thinking that's the way to go.

Sophia_Starina
05-22-2008, 02:43 PM
Thanks to everybody that was a total bitch. I appreciate it. Next time you guys have a bad day and just need to vent and are obviously talking out of anger I'll be sure to post really mean, hateful, bitchy things in your thread, mmkay?

I was speeding, and it's cool, I got caught, my bad.. I'll take care of it. Part of the reason I'm so stressed about it is because of my husband, I haven't told him about it and he's not a very nice person so I'm just a little scared of telling him and getting yelled at or worse. If I wouldn't have been speeding, then it wouldn't have happened and I wouldn't have to worry about telling my husband, I already know all that. I did something wrong and got caught.

Seriously though, I didn't expect hugs or people being super nice and saying it's okay. However, when I very obviously started the thread about 15 minutes after it happened and I made it abundantly clear I was writing out of anger, I'd maybe expect a little less of the absolute bitches that posted in here. Absolutely ridiculous. Like you people have never said anything stupid or that you regret out of anger? ::)



Gosh.... I feel really guilty for making so much sense. I mean... if being logical = being a bitch.... I am guilty as charged!

You see that?............................................. .................................................. ........................^^^


I just admitted to something!

Maybe you can learn from my example instead of blaming shit on the cops, your rumbly tumbly vegetarian "medical condition", your "scary" husband, or the absolute bitches that were kind enough to give you a fucking wake up call.

Yeah... keep on being the victim. You're just lucky something worse didn't happen when you were zooming down the road to get to your healthy food. God forbid you fucked up and hit someone... I bet even that wouldn't be your fault.

loveandluxury
05-22-2008, 02:45 PM
Thanks to everybody that was a total bitch. I appreciate it. Next time you guys have a bad day and just need to vent and are obviously talking out of anger I'll be sure to post really mean, hateful, bitchy things in your thread, mmkay?

I was speeding, and it's cool, I got caught, my bad.. I'll take care of it. Part of the reason I'm so stressed about it is because of my husband, I haven't told him about it and he's not a very nice person so I'm just a little scared of telling him and getting yelled at or worse. If I wouldn't have been speeding, then it wouldn't have happened and I wouldn't have to worry about telling my husband, I already know all that. I did something wrong and got caught.

Seriously though, I didn't expect hugs or people being super nice and saying it's okay. However, when I very obviously started the thread about 15 minutes after it happened and I made it abundantly clear I was writing out of anger, I'd maybe expect a little less of the absolute bitches that posted in here. Absolutely ridiculous. Like you people have never said anything stupid or that you regret out of anger? ::)

I don't wish any harm on the cop, I was just mad. I hope he made it home safely last night and safely makes it wherever he has to go. For everybody that wants to be a bitch just to be one, please just leave the thread.. it's not needed anymore.


Can you read? WHERE DID I SAY I WASN'T SPEEDING????????????????????

Seriously, just leave the thread, your presence isn't needed or wanted here.

Sophia_Starina
05-22-2008, 02:47 PM
Was this post necessary? Did it do anything other than make fun of me? I can understand the posts that were tough love type stuff, which I appreciate but this post.. Just fucking bitchy, rude and absolutely not needed. I can't wait until you need to vent about something, I'll be there to tear you a new asshole.

You can play with my asshole all you like. But I only get turned on by smart chicks. ::)

loveandluxury
05-22-2008, 02:48 PM
Gosh.... I feel really guilty for making so much sense. I mean... if being logical = being a bitch.... I am guilty as charged!

You see that?............................................. .................................................. ........................^^^


I just admitted to something!

Maybe you can learn from my example instead of blaming shit on the cops, your rumbly tumbly vegetarian "medical condition", your "scary" husband, or the absolute bitches that were kind enough to give you a fucking wake up call.

Yeah... keep on being the victim. You're just lucky something worse didn't happen when you were zooming down the road to get to your healthy food. God forbid you fucked up and hit someone... I bet even that wouldn't be your fault.

That's incredibly rude and immature of you to mock a situation you know nothing about. Maybe you're fortunate enough to never have been hit, yelled at or cursed at in your life.. Some of us aren't.

I've had a busted lip for driving in the "wrong lane" from him, and I've also had him throw an electric shaver at my leg as hard as he could for not buying batteries for it because I thought we already had some at home. I had a bruise in the shape of a shaver on my thigh for about 2 months..

Still want to mock the situation? I didn't think so.

Sophia_Starina
05-22-2008, 02:52 PM
That's incredibly rude and immature of you to mock a situation you know nothing about. Maybe you're fortunate enough to never have been hit, yelled at or cursed at in your life.. Some of us aren't.

I've had a busted lip for driving in the "wrong lane" from him, and I've also had him throw an electric shaver at my leg as hard as he could for not buying batteries for it because I thought we already had some at home. I had a bruise in the shape of a shaver on my thigh for about 2 months..

Still want to mock the situation? I didn't think so.


Where is the emoticon for a smiley face playing you the worlds smallest violin?

Your husband (what ever his personality may be) didn't make you step on the gas pedal. So bringing this shit up is irrelevant. I'm not making fun of your married situation..... I'm making fun of the fact that you are grasping at straws trying to make any and every excuse imaginable.

What ever girl..... I wish you the best on the road and in life. Hopefully you'll get a clue.

loveandluxury
05-22-2008, 02:57 PM
I was speeding, and it's cool, I got caught, my bad.. I'll take care of it. Part of the reason I'm so stressed about it is because of my husband, I haven't told him about it and he's not a very nice person so I'm just a little scared of telling him and getting yelled at or worse. If I wouldn't have been speeding, then it wouldn't have happened and I wouldn't have to worry about telling my husband, I already know all that. I did something wrong and got caught.




Please tell me where I am "grasping at straws" and "trying to make excuses". I'm pretty sure I said it was all my fault oh, I don't know.. THREE FUCKING TIMES in that one paragraph. Nowhere did I say it was my husband's fault, I said I was stressed because I didn't want to tell him about it. Please show me how I'm blaming it on him and making excuses since according to you, I'm stupid. ::)

High_Heel_Lover
05-22-2008, 03:05 PM
You do realize that most cop cars now have video cameras right? IF you spoke and said "I'm sorry officer that I was speeding" and you go to court and say "I wasn't and the cop says "yes you were and I have the tape to prove it" then you are in big trouble and look really bad in court.

TigersMilk
05-22-2008, 04:30 PM
Can people chill out in this thread?

NinaDaisy
05-22-2008, 04:42 PM
I don't think you're a failure or that he's gay.

I think he was doing his job.

NinaDaisy
05-22-2008, 04:51 PM
I can't wait until you need to vent about something, I'll be there to tear you a new asshole.

Maybe your husband can do it. He sounds highly experienced in hurting women, according to you.

VenusGoddess
05-22-2008, 04:52 PM
:spit:

LOL

Ok, that was wrong, but funny as all hell. heh

NinaDaisy
05-22-2008, 05:06 PM
:spit:

LOL

Ok, that was wrong, but funny as all hell. heh

Let me post something that may actually help. I haven't read the entire thread, just skimmed it, but here's some legal advice for the ticket:

If you haven't had a moving violation before (or in years) go to court and ask for a probation before judgment. It should just be expunged, you get no points and your insurance doesn't go up.

BB1984
05-22-2008, 05:24 PM
Maybe your husband can do it. He sounds highly experienced in hurting women, according to you.

That was really hurtful, the fact that the OP has been abused is nothing to laugh at, make fun of or trivialize. Yes she was wrong for speeding, and yes she should learn to take responsibility for her actions, but noone should ever be made fun of for being abused.

NinaDaisy
05-22-2008, 05:27 PM
That was really hurtful, the fact that the OP has been abused is nothing to laugh at, make fun of or trivialize. Yes she was wrong for speeding, and yes she should learn to take responsibility for her actions, but noone should ever be made fun of for being abused.

I'm not making fun of her. I'm afraid for her safety and pity her for staying with him.

ColetteCalahan
05-22-2008, 06:12 PM
You do realize that most cop cars now have video cameras right? IF you spoke and said "I'm sorry officer that I was speeding" and you go to court and say "I wasn't and the cop says "yes you were and I have the tape to prove it" then you are in big trouble and look really bad in court.

most cars do NOT have vid cams.... radar, laser, LIDAR, etc., but definitely not often equipped w/ cams. then again, if you admit guilt on the scene or say anything about 'i'm so sorry for speeding' you're fucked, as it's still your word vs. the cop's, and guess who the court is gonna believe....

NEVER admit guilt when pulled over. Just take the ticket, get an explanation for why you're being pulled over, take a good look @ the conditions around you so you can remember them later (heavy traffic, good weather, lots of construction, etc.)

High_Heel_Lover
05-22-2008, 06:30 PM
Oh I thought State troopers did have cameras, and more cars were putting them on for safety and to avoid getting sued for abuse, I heard this some place but I don't remember.

Jeska
05-22-2008, 06:34 PM
So my day was okay I guess, I worked dayshift which is rare for me. I was about 10 minutes from home and got a MOTHER FUCKING SPEEDING TICKET. I was doing 89 in a 70. I still had full stripper makeup and hair and was wearing a rather low cut dress so I figured I had a chance since it was a male state trooper. You guys, I even told him I had medical problems and had to get home and then I started crying. I still got a ticket.

When I'm a cute stripper with my face on and hair done, boobies hanging out and crying and I still can't get out of a ticket, I suck at life. What a fucking prick ass state trooper, I hope he gets in a terrible car wreck 10 minutes away from being home. >:(

Well to be fair he had a reason to ticket you, yeah it sucks, but I would never pray he got into an accident just for doing his job, that's just me.

ColetteCalahan
05-22-2008, 06:48 PM
Oh I thought State troopers did have cameras, and more cars were putting them on for safety and to avoid getting sued for abuse, I heard this some place but I don't remember.
it probably depends on the state.... i.e. state funding. i know CHP's (california highway patrol) don't have 'em. shoot, the CHP bikes don't even all use radar! visual estimation of speed= FAIL!


Well to be fair he had a reason to ticket you, yeah it sucks, but I would never pray he got into an accident just for doing his job, that's just me.
dude, she took it back. stop quoting it. i think she's heard enough in this thread about what she could have done differently.

Kaiyla
05-22-2008, 07:09 PM
I'm so stressed about it is because of my husband, I haven't told him about it and he's not a very nice person so I'm just a little scared of telling him and getting yelled at or worse.
Ugh. Different thread altogether I am sure, but geez...I will never understand why women stay with men who aren't "nice" people. In a nut shell, don't you see that staying with someone who is capable of "worse" than yelling at you just reinforces that he can be abusive and get away with it?!

Anyway, back to the matter at hand; you got caught speeding, no big deal, most of us have done it. I think people are just having a difficult time with you not taking responsibility for your actions, and just trying to weasel your way out of them. Speeding tickets, they happen. We all pull up our big girl panties and deal. Lying your ass off just shows bad character, not to mention invites shitty karma your way.

iseestars
05-22-2008, 07:20 PM
I think this thread has gone too far. I'm sure she knew that she was wrong and made a mistake in speeding and only wanted to rant and get it off her chest. Her speeding ticket should have been punishment enough. Who here hasn't made a dumb mistake and misplaced our anger at someone else instead of ourselves before we calm down?

I can't believe that I seriously read that abused women should be pitied and apparently be made fun of. It's not easy to just get up and leave an abusive relationship.

Jayne Doe
05-22-2008, 07:23 PM
...Perhaps you were just trying a bit too hard....

TheSexKitten
05-22-2008, 08:03 PM
Holy crap! There is WAY too much bitchiness in this thread. Christ and capers, it's just too far.

Ok, she felt entitled to get out of a ticket because she was being a ditz, yadda yadda. She typed some silly exaggerated comment about wishing harm on the cop.

Waaaah, waaaah, so what? What the fuck are we? The morals police? ::) Have none of us done anything worse? Really? I was about to post all like "Well I think this is an irresponsible attitude etc etc" but when I saw the bitchfest in here I decided there was a more important post I needed to make.

She obviously gets it, not that it was even a big deal in the first place. The bitchy, tactless, and pointless comments aren't that cute or clever. Save your crusade for shit that matters.

NinaDaisy
05-22-2008, 08:05 PM
Save your crusade for shit that matters.

Battered women, perhaps?

TheSexKitten
05-22-2008, 08:09 PM
Well, yeah. That's a damn good cause, but I haven't read more than maybe one post in here that conscientiously addressed that issue, so...

Heatherette
05-22-2008, 10:16 PM
To the OP, I'm sorry about your ticket i know it sucks but I've gotten tickets that I was sure I could get away with just for looks... didn't work for me either, so I guess they're just really trying to get money out of us. It doesn't mean we suck :)

BrunetteGoddess
05-22-2008, 10:21 PM
No, for the last time. They are doing their job. Period. Especially when one is speeding one mile under a felony charge.

jaizaine
05-22-2008, 10:35 PM
L&L it sounds to me like u need to get rid of your husband. He gave u a busted lip for driving in the wrong lane? What are u doing with this man?

Pay the ticket and then file for divorce. Im not being insensitive, I've been with an abusive man before (he never hit me but did get physical) and men like that never change. You should have to not live in fear.

kitana
05-23-2008, 01:22 AM
Wait a minute. You were speeding, got caught and now you wish he gets into a terrible car wreck?

AND, you have the nerve to get upset because your feminine wiles didn't work on him when you were clearly in the wrong?

:-X ::)

Exactly my thoughts.

I'm gunna keep shut too, lol!:-X