View Full Version : A cab driver kind of attacked me
MeanGirl
06-02-2008, 03:37 AM
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MeanGirl
06-02-2008, 03:38 AM
WTH does that mean?!::) and again How would it have helped ?! Because I really want to know.
It wouldn't have helped. She is wrong.
jaizaine
06-02-2008, 05:09 AM
He is a sexual predator. He wanted to pick up a dancer because he thought he would get away with that behaviour. He will end up raping someone so I am so glad that you reported this.
It is in no way your fault. don't feel bad for paying him. while i dont think u should have, I certainly can understand why you did - u were in shock and just wanted to get away from the situation as quick as possible.
I hope he gets his own back. He probably has a wife too and will have to explain why he lost his licence - stupid cunt.
jaizaine
06-02-2008, 05:16 AM
Sorry for double posting but the edit feature won't work.
Can't we have one thread on SW where the victim isn't in some way blamed for the disgusting behaviour of a fucking man?
Her drinking is 100% irrelevant. I don't care if she drank herself into a state of unconsciousness you do not consent to sexual touching by acquiescence. Just because a person has had a drink doesn't make them blameworthy.
pookie
06-02-2008, 05:25 AM
^^^totally agree
anywho.
i am so glad you are ok. do you carry a tazer or pepper spray? do you know self defense? Of course none of this is your fault, and i think you handled the situation as best as it could have been
:hug:
MeanGirl
06-02-2008, 05:31 AM
The hubby is getting me some pepper spray, which will make me feel safer. However, i will never get in a cab by myself again.
loveandluxury
06-02-2008, 07:40 AM
Yeah but it would've helped to have been more clear-minded I'm sure.
How uncalled for. She did the responsible thing by taking a cab and she wasn't asking for opinions on her drinking at work. She was attacked through no fault of her own and needs support.
I'm sure that if you were in a cab and started being touched by the driver you would easily be able to get out of the situation perfectly due to your sobriety and you not being scared. ::)
*Iris*
06-02-2008, 09:24 AM
It wouldn't have helped. She is wrong.
I know that ;) But I want to know how SHE would think it would help, because I dont see how it would've .
Jenny
06-03-2008, 08:15 AM
Well by that logic no one should drink EVER just incase something happens. Regardless of whether I was at work, a friends house, party, etc. i did the responsible thing by taking a ride. I don't feel the need to defend myself and feel that my drinking in this situation is irrelevant.That's exactly what I meant. I don't think she was asking you to defend yourself or saying you should have anticipated it.
pink_staR
06-03-2008, 10:41 AM
Aww I'm so sorry hun :(
No one deserves to be treated like that...I can totally see how upsetting this is! I don't know what I'd do in your situation.
Hang in there babe <3 At least you have ur hubby & ur friends to support you...And us, of course.
MeanGirl
06-03-2008, 10:31 PM
I actually feel MUCH better. Although i won't be going on vacay to Vegas as planned next Thursday. Too stressed about money now that i have missed so much work due to this crap, not to mention all the cabs we'd be taking! I'm just not ready for that.
*Iris*
06-04-2008, 11:31 AM
Im glad your feeling better :)
Brendita
06-04-2008, 01:37 PM
I am so glad you are ok! What a horrible experience. I always thought that cabs had cameras in them, but I guess not. Between this and the Bone Collector movie, I am scared shitless of cabs.
virgoamm
06-04-2008, 01:41 PM
So any updates? I would have thought the police would've nabbed this perv by now. Glad you're feeling better. :)
greenidlady1
06-04-2008, 11:30 PM
I'm so sorry to hear this. I hope you are starting to feel some better. *hugs*
Zinaida
06-05-2008, 07:23 PM
She is wrong.
Um, excuse me. Where did I ever say it was her fault she got attacked? Get over yourself ladies.
Jenny
06-05-2008, 07:33 PM
I also hope you are doing well, and that whatever action you want taken against the driver happens.
MeanGirl
06-05-2008, 10:44 PM
Um, excuse me. Where did I ever say it was her fault she got attacked? Get over yourself ladies.
Way to misquote me. I said you were wrong about the fact that I was not clear minded. You made your opinion very clear thank you for your contribution, we can't all agree.;)
scarlet_is_yummy
06-06-2008, 04:57 AM
:grouphug: wow, MG you sound so strong, i'm so so so sorry this happened to you. well done on reporting him and getting his details, you showed great pressence oif mind- you have almost certainly prevented him from attacking another woman in this way.
please do not feel in any way responsible or beat yourself up. He is mentally deranged if he thinks he can treat women like that. this kind of situation makes me understand why people hire hitmen.
it sound like you have a wonderful husband and i'm really glad you're feeling better!! :) :grouphug:
CKXXX
06-07-2008, 11:11 PM
Just a question..NOT saying it is your fault AT ALL..but why were you sitting up front? Anytime I've taken a cab I sat in the back unless there were too many people in the same car..thats the only time I've ever seen anyone sit up front. Some cabs even have a divider between the back and front seat to protect the driver. Did he suggest you sit up front? I'd be REALLY suspicious if he did...and never sit up front where he can easily reach you again. I'd bet he pulls this trick a LOT.
Hopefully he gets nabbed and put away.
thechaosfairy
06-08-2008, 06:51 AM
That's not "kind of", that's a sexual assault. How horrible.
*hugs MeanGirl*
I'm glad you got the tags and are going through the police. Don't let anyone talk you into backing down! They need to get that guy off the streets, whether or not they're inclined to believe it at first.
pookie
06-08-2008, 07:02 AM
do you have any more updates about this? Did they catch him or chop off his...
LilyLove
06-09-2008, 01:30 AM
Just a question..NOT saying it is your fault AT ALL..but why were you sitting up front? Anytime I've taken a cab I sat in the back unless there were too many people in the same car..thats the only time I've ever seen anyone sit up front. Some cabs even have a divider between the back and front seat to protect the driver. Did he suggest you sit up front? I'd be REALLY suspicious if he did...and never sit up front where he can easily reach you again. I'd bet he pulls this trick a LOT.
Hopefully he gets nabbed and put away.
Some places its common or at least semi-common to sit up front. When I take a cab around here its usually a minivan and I sit up front.
LadyM
06-09-2008, 05:19 AM
Um, excuse me. Where did I ever say it was her fault she got attacked? Get over yourself ladies.
Actually you insinuated it was her fault because she'd been drinking. You are the one who needs to get over yourself. While I don't wish ill on people, just remember Karma is a first-class bitch and she sells front row tickets to the show.
missjzone
06-09-2008, 06:45 AM
Some places its common or at least semi-common to sit up front. When I take a cab around here its usually a minivan and I sit up front.
why? are the back seats not available?
MeanGirl
06-09-2008, 10:44 PM
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Bella21
06-09-2008, 10:47 PM
^Please do it ASAP, you don't want to waste time on this.
LadyM
06-10-2008, 05:46 AM
Yes, please do it as soon as possible. He's calling you for a reason and you do need to get in touch with him, as frightening as it is to relive it.
*hugs*
loveandluxury
06-10-2008, 06:46 AM
MG, please call.. don't let him get away with what he did to you. You're very strong and you can get through this. You didn't do anything wrong and you certainly don't deserve what happened to you. PM me if you need anything, I'm not too far from you :hug:
virgoamm
06-10-2008, 01:25 PM
Please call the detective back. If not for yourself, do it for other girls that may not be as lucky and get away from him like you did. :hug:
LilyLove
06-10-2008, 03:25 PM
why? are the back seats not available?
They are available. I'm not really sure why other people do it, but I do it because I like to sit shotgun! Its just a more comfortable seat.
MeanGirl, I am really sorry that you're going through this. You did absolutely nothing wrong, obviously the guy was a predator. I know its hard, but definitely call the detective back.
Flick6
06-10-2008, 07:10 PM
Can you ask your boy to make the call for you?? Sounds like you are feeling a bit of anxiety now, dont be scared or feel silly to ask for help.
Lysondra
06-10-2008, 08:40 PM
Update? I've been away but this has been troubling my sleep my entire away tume.
MeanGirl
06-10-2008, 10:25 PM
Well I called , but I was instructed not to discuss it with anyone after meeting with an attorney. So things are definately going in the right direction. Except my sleep is awful too.
jaizaine
06-10-2008, 11:48 PM
^^
excellent news
you might want to request that this thread be deleted just in case.
Starfire
06-11-2008, 11:39 AM
I am so happy to hear this case is getting somewhere. People who attack other people deserve to be punished, and so often crimes go unsolved.
Ps. Shame on you, zinaida, for implying that it was her fault what happened. I know other people have already commented, but just...shame on you. The last thing a victim of an assault needs is someone saying, "well, you SHOULD have" or "I WOULD have...." She already feels bad enough as it is. In fact, she was trying to do the right thing by taking a cab instead of driving with even the possibility of intoxication.
missjzone
06-11-2008, 05:52 PM
I am so happy to hear this case is getting somewhere. People who attack other people deserve to be punished, and so often crimes go unsolved.
Ps. Shame on you, zinaida, for implying that it was her fault what happened. I know other people have already commented, but just...shame on you. The last thing a victim of an assault needs is someone saying, "well, you SHOULD have" or "I WOULD have...." She already feels bad enough as it is. In fact, she was trying to do the right thing by taking a cab instead of driving with even the possibility of intoxication.
I don't think that's what she meant. Ladies lets not get all catty with one another over immaterial comments. I think we're all agreement that MeanGirl was taken advantage of by a perv. The real important thing here is that MeanGirl is fine and that with any luck that man will be behind bars.
Bella21
06-11-2008, 06:02 PM
^^
excellent news
you might want to request that this thread be deleted just in case.
That's probably true. You can't be too safe. This guy can't go on taking advantage of girls. But... please give us an update when it is all said and done.
Starfire
06-12-2008, 03:04 PM
I don't think that's what she meant. Ladies lets not get all catty with one another over immaterial comments. I think we're all agreement that MeanGirl was taken advantage of by a perv. The real important thing here is that MeanGirl is fine and that with any luck that man will be behind bars.
I just can't let this one go. Maybe I am oversensitive because I have some experience with this kind of issue...
Blaming the victim of a crime is never cool, and can cause a lot of emotional damage to the victim, who a lot of times is already beating themselves up with "coulda, shoulda, woulda" anyways. Blaming the victim is exactly what the posts I am referring to was doing. There is no other way to read them.
Pointing this fact out is NOT catty.
Zinaida
06-12-2008, 10:58 PM
Ps. Shame on you, zinaida, for implying that it was her fault what happened. I know other people have already commented, but just...shame on you.
Um.....LOL.
Zinaida
06-12-2008, 11:05 PM
Actually you insinuated it was her fault because she'd been drinking. You are the one who needs to get over yourself. While I don't wish ill on people, just remember Karma is a first-class bitch and she sells front row tickets to the show.
Yeah, I don't recall saying that drinking equals deserved assault but hey, you ladies would know what I said and I meant better than me right? This karma shit cracks me up to btw.
Flick6
06-12-2008, 11:15 PM
Um.....LOL.
Wow you have no class lady, why not apologize for saying something that was obviously hurtful to many people who have been victims, whether you meant it that way or not. Why the need to be a smarty pants over it? Been biting my tongue, but yeah, no class at all.
Zinaida
06-12-2008, 11:19 PM
Wow you have no class lady, why not apologize for saying something that was obviously hurtful to many people who have been victims, whether you meant it that way or not.
Because I'm not holding myself accountable for other people's misinterpretations/witch hunting. Cheers!
seraya
06-12-2008, 11:23 PM
Wow just found this thread...
MG I am so sorry you had to exp such a horrific and frightening ordeal... I can only imagine the fear you were feeling. HUGS.
Maybe it would be a good idea to delete some of your posts for legal reasons. Please do let us know how the investigation goes, when it has been dealt with.
If you need to speak with somebody please please do... sounds as if you maybe suffering from PTS.
Be safe sweetie, HUGS.
seraya
06-12-2008, 11:24 PM
I don't think that's what she meant. Ladies lets not get all catty with one another over immaterial comments. I think we're all agreement that MeanGirl was taken advantage of by a perv. The real important thing here is that MeanGirl is fine and that with any luck that man will be behind bars.I totally agree with this. Lets not turn this into a flame fest.
Peanut_Butter
06-12-2008, 11:47 PM
Because I'm not holding myself accountable for other people's misinterpretations/witch hunting. Cheers!
othe people's misinterpretations? What you said as the equivelent to " well, if you had worn panties instead of that slutty thong, maybe he wouldn't have raped you"
Or maybe that was just your way of being holier than thou. This is Why I never drink at work.
Either way. Why doesn't matter. Point is....any time ANY TIME a woman is sexually assulted, regardless of the circumstances surrounding the attack, she is never at fault. ever. She could have been passed the fuck out drunk in that cab, it wasn't her fault. Insuinuatng that the attack could have been avoided if she were more clear headed is just stupid. I hope you never face a sexual attack. There are always things you could have, should have done differently. But the fact still remains. it is never the girls fault.
and finally....when someone is in pain and needing to talk...the very last thing a kind hearted persn would do is point out her faults in the situation. 'm sure that she has gone over that night over and over and over wonderiong what she could have done differently to avoid that attack. But unfortunatly, even if everythign was perfect and right, it still could have happened to anyone. It is never the woman's fault.
In threads like these, where girls need support for serious tramatic situations, if you can't say something nice, don't say anything at all.
noelle
06-14-2008, 11:49 AM
Point is....any time ANY TIME a woman is sexually assulted, regardless of the circumstances surrounding the attack, she is never at fault. ever. She could have been passed the fuck out drunk in that cab, it wasn't her fault.
AGREED. Assault is assault and saying that someone could have done this or that to prevent it is unfair and cruel. We have to live, we have to take cabs, and fucked up shit happens. Acting like the OP could have somehow prevented what happened to her isn't appropriate for this kind of thread.