View Full Version : I Need Friends...
fancygirl
07-07-2008, 10:04 PM
I liked the okcupid.com site for friends and dates...you can maybe scope some girls out there who share your interests to do platonic stuff.
gingergrl
07-07-2008, 10:26 PM
I know how your feeling. Then add in the factor of your job an it scares everyone away.
piepie
07-08-2008, 05:16 AM
i think a lot of it is our jobs and or age. i know when i was younger i would have these horribly lonely days when i would feel so vulnerable like my skin was inside out i was so exposed. the only thing getting me out of the house was my dog or work, and that was before i went back to dancing. flash forward ten years and i'm now creeping up on thirty. been dancing on and off for 8 years and most recently for 1 1/2 years straight. in my town clubs close at 4 or 5 am. then i have to go pick up my daughter from the sitter. bed time sometimes is seven. wake up at 11 or so and i'm basically a zombie. how can i make friends? i've been relying on my out of town girls for sooo long now. so no lunch dates or shopping ,hanging out etc. at work i'm friendly w everyone but don't take it otc. recently ive decided to stop dancing to work an a biz i'm starting and to be a more present mother. i feel so much more sane!!! i pray i can last until the biz makes $ and i am grateful for every moment i'm not too tired to play w my daughter, to be nice to strangers, to talk to people. grateful for every moment i don't have to choke down some asinine comment from some some insecure custy. we are bad bitches!!! practice the same confidence itc as otc. reinforce yourself w positive sayings/thoughts. pray meditate and be grateful. tell yourself how great you are. and don't be afraid. loving yourself is the place to start. don't use negative statements to describe yourself. there are lots of wonderful books to read about loving yourself. forgive the past.plan your future!!!!! you only have one life. sorry so long. i could go on for days cause i think on these things too.
piepie
07-08-2008, 05:21 AM
oh yeah yoga or some other exercise too. makes your brain happy.
Sveta
07-08-2008, 10:00 AM
Count me in the "I need friends" boat. Of course I've only been in this city for a week, and I didn't really have close friends back home either. But at least I KNEW people, and had casual friends from work that were fun to go out with. Here I know NO ONE. :( And it sucks a lot more than I thought it would.
I was thinking about my pathetic lack of friends the other day, and seriously I have no idea where or how to meet people. I don't like internet dating and OKcupid-esque sites....I also try not to get too friendly with girls at work because doing so usually fucks with my money and work ethic. Meeting people at school isn't likely b/c it's a technical program, not a college, and most of my training is spent one-on-one with the instructors.
So if I spend 6 nights a week at work and do school during the day...where else am I supposed to meet people? And with what spare time? The only times I've ever made real good friends were when I was in college, or in the cast of a play. Maybe I need to cram in some time to start doing local theatre again after I get back on my feet financially, since it's something I love to do and it's where I've met most of my friends in the past.