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UtahMike
07-01-2008, 06:56 PM
Here we have a low income medical and dental clinic which has a sliding payment scale depending on your income and certain other expenses.

Check these links and see if anything on it is helpful:

http://www.myfoxtampabay.com/myfox/pages/Home/Detail?contentId=6866333&version=1&locale=EN-US&layoutCode=TSTY&pageId=1.1.1

http://www.dentalwalkin.com/

http://www.judeochristianhealthclinic.org/english/faq.html

http://www.pinellascounty.org/articles/pdf/Todd_0404_beacon.pdf

http://www.sptimes.com/2007/12/06/Northpinellas/Open_hearts_will_open.shtml

http://www.youqa.com/dental/1039-youqa-3.html

Mare
07-01-2008, 07:27 PM
Sorry to see you're in the boat too. The only thing I can say is get the tooth yanked and get the antibiotics he will need. Go to the dental school to do it. Then worry later about getting an implant or bridge as the other poster suggested.
DON"T sign away your car!!!!

Andygirl
07-01-2008, 08:31 PM
Do either of you have any family who can loan you money?

Pretty_Penny
07-01-2008, 08:48 PM
Do either of you have any family who can loan you money?

that'd be a negative.

Alia_of_the_Knife
07-01-2008, 08:57 PM
:hug: As someone who is a fellow student as well as someone who is searching to get health coverage I can definatly feel your frustration.

Stiletto135
07-01-2008, 09:16 PM
Dude that is horrible what you're dealing with. I agree, it seems deeply cruel and wrong that health care is so incredibly unaffordable, even for people who are financially on their feet.

Pretty_Penny
07-01-2008, 10:20 PM
Dude that is horrible what you're dealing with. I agree, it seems deeply cruel and wrong that health care is so incredibly unaffordable, even for people who are financially on their feet.

see, that's really that part that "gets me". am i rich? not be any means...

but we both work, we're both paying our bills. i don't have debt really and he has defaulted on his student loans.. but that's not really anything more than the average person.

so, what the hell? it just seems like health care shouldn't be a luxury. that's really what frustrates me. if it were a few hundred bucks... sure.. it'd be a pain in the ass, but it would be reasonable and affordable. hell, a grand would still be doable if they split the payment in 2 parts. it'd cramp our style for a bit, but we can do it. i did it for the dog.

but 3-4 grand? that's just not happening.

UltraViolet
07-01-2008, 10:45 PM
I agree, health care SHOULDN'T be a luxury, it should be a right. It's one of the reasons my husband and I are considering moving out of the country in the future. I fear I will die young here because of pre-existing conditions (according to insurance companies) and too expensive health care. :-\

madmaxine
07-02-2008, 12:21 AM
I agree, health care SHOULDN'T be a luxury, it should be a right. It's one of the reasons my husband and I are considering moving out of the country in the future. I fear I will die young here because of pre-existing conditions (according to insurance companies) and too expensive health care. :-\


Tell me about it....:(


Back to Penny's predicament, you can ask your local community hospital if they have a debt forgiveness/ sliding scale charge plan for you to use. You probably qualify.....Or can qualify temporarily with some paperwork adjustments. Also ask your "human services agency" (they're in the phone book) they might be able to point you in the correct direction re: medical aid. Social workers will give you ten minutes of their day to be helpful. They're by and large decent souls.

Don't give up....The start of all downward spirals is saying, "No, I can't/won't/ it just won't work." You have to make your own luck sometimes.

snow white
07-02-2008, 02:14 AM
I'm so sorry you're having a rough time. *hugs* I know it doesn't seem so right now but, things WILL get better. It just takes time.
I apologize if its not my place to say; im just trying to be helpful:
1. have you looked at other banks options for student cc? i bank at wellsfargo but was accepted for a student card at chase with a 1K limit. i too had/have NO credit and was still approved. i was also able to get one from wf, but maybe that one had to do with me banking there? anyways its worth a shot! not to add to the negativity your already facing -just giving a heads up-, but i tried getting a loan this year (both secured and nonsecured) and was denied because oh lucky me i still have 0 credit. so unless you can find a cosigner (aunt?) your loan approval chance is prob. pretty slim.
2. i have no business here so feel free to ignore my silly Q, but why cant you guys get health insurance? i would think that ins, even in FLwould be much cheaper than paying for all those medical bills.
3. do you have anything you can pawn? non-sentimental jewlery, cd/dvd collection, kitchen appliances you could live without, extra clothes/shoes, anything really that you can replace later. your health is obviously more important than material items and any amount, even if its just a few hundred, will help.
Just trying to be helpful :) You WILL get through this!

LadyM
07-02-2008, 03:55 AM
*hugs you bunches*

I'm just about in the same boat as you, and yeah, even the most logical and well-planning people get to their breaking point.

Have you checked into financing? Also, you mentioned you were in school. I know when I was in college, my uni had emergency loans for students.....I can't remember the specifics, but I'm pretty sure it wouldn't have covered $4K in expenses, but then if your school has it, it might be enough to cover whatever you can't finance?

Wish I had more advice :( *sends more hugs your way*

jasmine
07-02-2008, 06:37 AM
First off. Call around. They are fucking with you if they tell you they can't do the root canal without the cleaning. This will get him out of pain and immediate danger.

Root canals average about $500 bucks around here for a back tooth which is the most expensive, I can't imagine that they would be that much higher in Fl.

Dentists offices can have HUGE differences in pricing, so ask several places.

Also, I've never needed a deep cleaning, but my Dad has and that is a ridiculous price. Are they putting him under for that cost? If so, man up and just take a local. It will save you a crap-load and anesthesia isn't necessary. A deep cleaning or root canal is no biggie, if your numb.

Also, ask around, my colleges dental school would bill you for their services. Especially if you had an emergency like a root canal.

Violet Harley
07-02-2008, 06:52 AM
PP, sorry you're having such a rough time, first off. :hug:

I totally understand where you're coming from. I have a day job with insurance and even still need like $900 for dental work. Don't have it. So it's not easy, indeed.

In St. Pete, there are a couple options. (And I know you're in Tampa area, so you're fairly close...might be a help!)

There's St. Pete Jr. College. They have a dental college (I think near downtown) where students work on folks under an instructor's supervision. My dad had a root canal here a few years back, with great results. I don't think it was free, but it was a fraction of the regular cost. Maybe give them a call and see what they recommend.

There's also a bus kinda thing that goes around downtown and various outlying suburbs...I think it may go all the way up to Clearwater. It provides low cost medical care for those who are uninsured and also some dental. Try calling "211" and see if they can refer you. I've seen it advertised a LOT on the City channel on cable, so might be worth it as well.

Last but not least, there's 2 dental emergency/walk in clinics here that aren't too unreasonable. It may cost $200-500 for a filling or for them to pull it, worst case scenario, but at least he'd be out of pain. (Been there myself. In fact, right now am thisclose to getting one of my own molars pulled, same reason.) :-\

Anyway, hope some of these will help you. Perhaps the medical/dental bus thingie can also help with your knee problem, as well. (Been there too...dislocated my knee last year. BLAHH!!)

Take care!

Pretty_Penny
07-02-2008, 09:58 AM
I'm so sorry you're having a rough time. *hugs* I know it doesn't seem so right now but, things WILL get better. It just takes time.
I apologize if its not my place to say; im just trying to be helpful:
1. have you looked at other banks options for student cc? i bank at wellsfargo but was accepted for a student card at chase with a 1K limit. i too had/have NO credit and was still approved. i was also able to get one from wf, but maybe that one had to do with me banking there? anyways its worth a shot! not to add to the negativity your already facing -just giving a heads up-, but i tried getting a loan this year (both secured and nonsecured) and was denied because oh lucky me i still have 0 credit. so unless you can find a cosigner (aunt?) your loan approval chance is prob. pretty slim.
2. i have no business here so feel free to ignore my silly Q, but why cant you guys get health insurance? i would think that ins, even in FLwould be much cheaper than paying for all those medical bills.
3. do you have anything you can pawn? non-sentimental jewlery, cd/dvd collection, kitchen appliances you could live without, extra clothes/shoes, anything really that you can replace later. your health is obviously more important than material items and any amount, even if its just a few hundred, will help.
Just trying to be helpful :) You WILL get through this!

1. i will continue to look around, but now it's getting to the point where i think i'm applying too much and it's shooting red flags

2. any sort of decent coverage would cost us around 300 a month, and most of those plans don't include dental or have a huge deductable anyway. i'm still looking, it's just really hard to find. with most of them we would save on doctors visits, but would still pay most of the money for his dental surgery, the xrays i need, etc. then when you figure we're "saving on the visits" ... not really.. because we're paying 300 a month. it winds up coming out pretty even with most plans.
like i said though, i'm still looking.

3. no i really don't. i really dislike collecting "stuff", so everything i have i need/use. on top of that, besides the guitars/other musical equipment and the computer (which i am not pawning) i don't have anything of real value. i have some old clothes i need to get rid of, but i'm just going to give them to charity. they wouldn't pull much money anyway if i were to try and sell them.

madmaxine
07-02-2008, 11:18 AM
I'll say it again- sugar daddy. It's not as hard as you might think, and several girls on the site have them. I don't have one currently because I haven't met anyone "right" yet but if I put my mind to it, I could find someone in a week or two.

Remember, have a "CAN DO" attitude.

Pretty_Penny
07-02-2008, 11:33 AM
I'll say it again- sugar daddy. It's not as hard as you might think, and several girls on the site have them. I don't have one currently because I haven't met anyone "right" yet but if I put my mind to it, I could find someone in a week or two.

Remember, have a "CAN DO" attitude.

i don't know how any of you find a "sugar daddy" you don't have to fuck. i have nothing against girls doing that, but i'm not going to fuck someone for the money.

i mean, sure, everyone has a price. mine is just really really high. :P

hyzenthflay
07-02-2008, 12:47 PM
I ended up having to pull my front tooth and replace it with a partial. I spent over a grand just getting 2nd, 3rd, 4th...etc. opinions. One dentist was gonna charge $500 just to drain the abscess, but most of them told me that a root canal wouldn't hold since my tooth had a vertical crack. They ALL recommended a $3500 replacement tooth. Um, I've been driving the same car since 1998, if I am going to spend $3500 on anything, it would be a newer car!! In 30 years, my looks won't matter much anyway so I am completely content with the fake tooth (partial) which in total with having the bad one pulled was under $500.
Thank god I have VA health insurance and only have to worry about how F'ing much it costs to go to a dentist.

hardkandee
07-02-2008, 12:48 PM
Are there any health insurance programs through your school?
It may be worth nosing around for (especially because you can usually only sign up during a small window before the semester starts). :-\

madmaxine
07-02-2008, 11:33 PM
i don't know how any of you find a "sugar daddy" you don't have to fuck. i have nothing against girls doing that, but i'm not going to fuck someone for the money.

i mean, sure, everyone has a price. mine is just really really high. :P

That is understandable. You need to find an older man who JUST wants companionship. You already have "Marqee Value" as a SG model. The money he gives you is so he can brag to anyone who will listen that he's "with you", and he pays for your companionship and attention. It's like babysitting but you get paid more and put in less hours.

A dancer pal of mine had a 90 year old sugar daddy who gave her $7,000 ever time he saw her and all she had to do was wear Victoria's Secret Lingerie and play with herself in front of him (toy show.) NO kidding.

It's not that hard. I live in a tiny town so I don't want any local sugar daddy, but I need to put my feelers out again. I'll even PM an update to prove how easy it is to find one. A pretty girl doesn't need to suffer.

Emily
07-03-2008, 02:09 AM
I can't believe nobody has said it....but whatever, I'm going to....why is your boyfriend's shitty teeth and bad credit your problem?

A sugar daddy? Why? So he doesn't have to come up with the money? Doesn't make sense to me. And I don't see how any self-respecting man would feel comfortable with that anyway.

LadyM
07-03-2008, 03:32 AM
PP, you mentioned you're paying your aunt back for your car. Any way she can just let you slide for a few months on the car payment? That seems like it would be a better option than taking out a title loan and then having to essentially make two payments on your car?

Jenny
07-03-2008, 07:14 AM
1) You are unlikely to die from a tooth infection. I think death by tooth infection is the least of what should be on your mind.
2) You are currently neglecting your own health to pay for your boyfriend's no more serious health problem. He is not only not paying or seeking solution for your fucked up leg, but he is letting you wander around with no knee so that you can take care of his teeth. Just something to consider.
3) Dental schools should probably be your first stop right now. Call the dentist and tell them that you are absolutely strapped, and what is the bare minimum he needs.
4) Consider what Emily said - what steps, exactly, is he taking to look after his own problem? I'm all for being a team, but there is no good reason that you should be in charge of all the burdens. Has he considered looking for a second job? Maybe something under the table? Maybe he should be the one considering a sugar daddy.
5) I know I said this already - but don't neglect your own health for your boyfriend's teeth. As we all used to lecture another stripperwebber - for god's sake, you only get one body and in your case it is your livelihood. You are going to need those legs later in life. The fact that it is a low priority to (apparently) both of you is a problem.

CKXXX
07-03-2008, 09:14 AM
And I don't see how any self-respecting man would feel comfortable with that anyway.

Whoa...thats like saying no self respecting man would let his woman be a stripper. Everyone is different. Hubby would have no problem with me having a sugar daddy as long as I was ok with it(which I am...I've been looking for one,but I am looking for a companionship/arm candy one and all the emails I get are guys who just want to pay for sex..even though on my profile it says I'm not selling sex and I'm married::))

And believe me..hubby is a very self respecting man. He's happy as long as the bills are paid and I'm happy. So to insinuate otherwise is pretty offensive to me.

Emily
07-03-2008, 09:23 AM
Whoa...thats like saying no self respecting man would let his woman be a stripper. Everyone is different. Hubby would have no problem with me having a sugar daddy as long as I was ok with it.

No, it's not like that because I would say the same exact thing about a boyfriend of a stripper or of a woman any occupation (not a husband, because that's a different kind of relationship.)

I think if you read my post thoroughly instead of just reading the last sentence, you would have grasped my point. I have issue with her making his health problems her problems. Whether she stripped or was a school teacher, any guy that would feel comfortable with a woman working extra so he doesn't have to should feel bad. ...especially when she has her own medical problems!

Maybe there's more to the story, but I don't see the part where it says he can't work extra. He fucked up his credit and can't get a loan when he needs it. Again, how is this her problem?

Pretty_Penny
07-03-2008, 09:49 AM
I can't believe nobody has said it....but whatever, I'm going to....why is your boyfriend's shitty teeth and bad credit your problem?

A sugar daddy? Why? So he doesn't have to come up with the money? Doesn't make sense to me. And I don't see how any self-respecting man would feel comfortable with that anyway.

#1 i don't have a credit -problem- i just have limited credit history (like 0) which makes it hard to get a card. i have explained that already. he has bad credit because he defaulted on his student loan a few years ago. he is paying it back now and getting it out of collections, but it will take 7 more months for it to show on his credit. i explained that already as well.

#2 his teeth aren't "shitty" he has a bad back tooth. god forbid. you wouldn't know anything from looking at his smile. lots of people need root canals and don't know it yet. he had a cavity inside his tooth that wasn't really visible. what happens in those cases is that it continues to grow on the inside until it finally reaches the enamel. once that happens the outer wall of the tooth collapses and a hole forms. since the enamel is what protects the tooth, once the hole is there it RAPIDLY progresses, like within days. that is what happened in his case.

#3 we've been dating for over 5 years. he works full time at a decent job (i've mentioned all of this already). he also works weekends at his old job. he's in no way a dead beat like you are so graciously assuming. A LOT of hard working people can't just randomly come up with 4 grand. i don't know if you've noticed or anything, but the "working poor" isn't just a cute little buzz term. why do you think health care is such a problem in this country?

#4 our money is our money. it wouldn't matter if it were my teeth or his teeth it's -our- problem, like with plenty of other long term couples who live together.

i'm glad you got really excited when you saw that no one had attacked me yet though. it speaks volumes about your character that you went "omg i can't believe no one mentioned she has a shitty boyfriend yet! now it's my job!"

::)

i love how some people can't fathom others having problems that aren't somehow "their fault".

Pretty_Penny
07-03-2008, 09:53 AM
1) You are unlikely to die from a tooth infection. I think death by tooth infection is the least of what should be on your mind.
2) You are currently neglecting your own health to pay for your boyfriend's no more serious health problem. He is not only not paying or seeking solution for your fucked up leg, but he is letting you wander around with no knee so that you can take care of his teeth. Just something to consider.
3) Dental schools should probably be your first stop right now. Call the dentist and tell them that you are absolutely strapped, and what is the bare minimum he needs.
4) Consider what Emily said - what steps, exactly, is he taking to look after his own problem? I'm all for being a team, but there is no good reason that you should be in charge of all the burdens. Has he considered looking for a second job? Maybe something under the table? Maybe he should be the one considering a sugar daddy.
5) I know I said this already - but don't neglect your own health for your boyfriend's teeth. As we all used to lecture another stripperwebber - for god's sake, you only get one body and in your case it is your livelihood. You are going to need those legs later in life. The fact that it is a low priority to (apparently) both of you is a problem.

i get your point, but really, his tooth is causing him more trouble than my knee. it progressed so fast in those few days that it was worrying. he actually didn't want to go to the dentist, but i pushed the matter. also, i didn't know it was going to be this expensive. i figured a grand total maybe. i'm pretty sure i need xrays and such, so i assumed mine was the more expensive problem. he was worried this would be the same... and it turns out he was right.

it's not like he's "not doing anything" about my knee. if i wanted to i could make the appointment, and like i said, i was about to when this hole/whole tooth thing happened. it's just that i see it as this long huge list of bills i won't be able to afford anyway. i'm going to go to the doctor, they're going to want xrays, and then they're either going to tell me it will heal on it's own or i need some sort of surgery. it's not that it's a low priority it's just that it's not like i'm going to go to the doctor and they're going to say "here. take this pill and it'll get better". something is wrong with it. i know that... and i'm pretty sure it's something "mechanical". i've looked up a bunch of info as well as talked to a nurse that i know and it's most likely bursitis, or a tear. maybe a pinched nerve to go along with it. oh and, something else i should have mentioned is that a couple weeks ago it actually started feeling better. so i was like "oh thank god maybe it's healing" i was going to make the apt anyway. then his tooth thing happened and i was really thinking "maybe it's getting better" so i put it off again. then, of course, this week it started getting worse again.

also:
he has a second job on the weekends. he works for his old company (the one that could never pay him enough). they never wanted him to leave and needed him there. he had the highest output there. so he called them and asked if they wanted him to come in on weekends and they were more than happy. it works out to about 400 a month in pay, give or take.

Emily
07-03-2008, 10:10 AM
Just because nobody said put your needs ahead of his, it doesn't make me a cunt. I never called you names or him, but whatever. I give up.

Emily
07-03-2008, 10:13 AM
Well thank you for editing the part of your post where you called me a cunt.

Pretty_Penny
07-03-2008, 10:33 AM
Well thank you for editing the part of your post where you called me a cunt.

i edited it before you wrote any response, this one or the last. i rarely retract what i said, but i knew maybe 3 minutes after posting it i shouldn't have.

i was (and still am somewhat) a little pissed. it's difficult not to be defensive when someone is basically implying you have the typical dead-beat stripper boyfriend.

Pretty_Penny
07-03-2008, 10:34 AM
Just because nobody said put your needs ahead of his, it doesn't make me a cunt. I never called you names or him, but whatever. I give up.

you don't have to call someone a name in order to bash them. *sigh* i'm just tired/wary of this whole "holier than thou" attitude some people on here seem to have... or at least work up to way too quick and way too often.

happygiggles
07-03-2008, 10:42 AM
i don't know about where you live but see if there is a dental school in your area that will help. my ex got his teeth pulled for like 50 something dollars. and as far as insurance goes, are there not any government places that give insurance. or free clinics?

Emily
07-03-2008, 11:05 AM
I'm not saying he's a stereotypical stripper boyfriend.

Actually, that's twice in this thread that people have misinterpreted what I wrote.

Anyway, I'm just surprised that you would consider dropping out of college so you can earn more money, over his tooth.

There has to be a better solution, but the two that instantly come to mind were immediately shot down.

Him working more.
Him taking out a loan.

Okay, so he has bad credit. That's not your fault, but you are still putting his medical needs not only ahead of your own, but ahead of your eduction. It's not just an knee. You are a stripper. It's your livelihood! And college. I don't even think I need to explain why that's important.

And you make it seem like I was just chomping at the bit to attack you. Come on. That's not my MO. I really don't get off on that, but when I see something that seems so obvious, I am surprised nobody said it. Somehow the burden is all yours. Why can't the burden be his? Or yours as a couple?

Pretty_Penny
07-03-2008, 11:13 AM
I'm not saying he's a stereotypical boyfriend.

Actually, that's twice in this thread that people have misinterpreted what I wrote.

Anyway, I'm just surprised that you would consider dropping out of college so you can earn more money, over his tooth.

There has to be a better solution, but the two that instantly come to mind were immediately shot down.

Him working more.
Him taking out a loan.

Okay, so he has bad credit. That's not your fault, but you are still putting his medical needs not only ahead of your own, but ahead of your eduction. It's not just an knee. You are a stripper. It's your livelihood! And college. I don't even think I need to explain why that's important.

And you make it seem like I was just chomping at the bit to attack you. Come on. That's not my MO. I really don't get off on that, but when I see something that seems so obvious, I am surprised nobody said it. Somehow the burden is all yours. Why can't the burden be his? Or yours as a couple?

i didn't consider dropping out of school to pay for his tooth. i considered it over EVERYTHING... so i could work more and be able to pay for MY health problems as well. you obviously haven't read/paid attention to anything i've written.

if i said "my boyfriend is paying for me to get my knee taken care of" everyone would be all "oh that's great" but i say "WE are paying for his tooth" and you have a fit?

come on. and besides, no one is paying for his tooth now because we found out it was going to be so much. we only paid for the initial consultation to find out what we were dealing with.

it IS "our" burden, i don't understand where/how you're picking up that this is "all my burden". in fact, HE paid the damned bill for the visit. it's just that it comes out of our collective budget/money.

Emily
07-03-2008, 11:15 AM
I'm not having a fit, and someone said it earlier. You have an excuse for everything.

I'm out.

Pretty_Penny
07-03-2008, 11:16 AM
and for the record, and i'm pretty sure this was clear already:

i'm taking the summer off of school. i was SUPPOSED to do more gallery work, but i've wound up dancing more instead because it's slow. right now he's working just as much, if not more, than i am. when i'm in school full time he works MORE than i do. the only reason i've considered dropping out is so i can work more as well.

CKXXX
07-03-2008, 11:17 AM
No, it's not like that because I would say the same exact thing about a boyfriend of a stripper or of a woman any occupation (not a husband, because that's a different kind of relationship.)

I think if you read my post thoroughly instead of just reading the last sentence, you would have grasped my point. I have issue with her making his health problems her problems. Whether she stripped or was a school teacher, any guy that would feel comfortable with a woman working extra so he doesn't have to should feel bad. ...especially when she has her own medical problems!

Maybe there's more to the story, but I don't see the part where it says he can't work extra. He fucked up his credit and can't get a loan when he needs it. Again, how is this her problem?

Its her problem because its his problem. Married or not they are obviously a team. Her job allows her the freedom to work more if she needs to and make more..while his prob doesnt.

I love how if this was reversed everyone would be saying "cant your bf help you?",but because SHE is helping HIM all of a sudden shes a shmuck and hes a deadbeat. Way to go equality..::)

Pretty_Penny
07-03-2008, 11:18 AM
I'm not having a fit, and someone said it earlier. You have an excuse for everything.

I'm out.

you are absolutely not paying fucking ATTENTION to anything i'm saying. you're just skimming it and posting comments about how you THINK things are.

and then you "quit the thread" so you can "have the last word". great.

again, thanks for all your incredibly helpful advice. of which, you have given me none. for the record.

Emily
07-03-2008, 11:20 AM
you are absolutely not paying fucking ATTENTION to anything i'm saying. you're just skimming it and posting comments about how you THINK things are.

and then you "quit the thread" so you can "have the last word". great.

again, thanks for all your incredibly helpful advice. of which, you have given me none. for the record.

I've read it, but there is no solution for someone that wants to wallow in self pity.

I don't need to have the last word. I just realize this is an exercise in futility and I give up.

Or I can continue if you want? ::)

Emily
07-03-2008, 11:26 AM
I love how if this was reversed everyone would be saying "cant your bf help you?",but because SHE is helping HIM all of a sudden shes a shmuck and hes a deadbeat. Way to go equality..::)

huh? I never said that either!

In any thread!

I feel like I'm in the Twilight Zone.

Pretty_Penny
07-03-2008, 11:28 AM
to all of those who actually gave helpful advise and took the time to read:

thank you. seriously. i feel like we have more options now and we're trying to come up with the best plan to take care of everything. i'm looking into (again) a few different options for instance. i should be making a doctors apt for myself in the next week or so, after i pay a couple bills. i'll find out what i'm looking at for the future (considering my knee) and hopefully work out something insurance wise or other to get it started. i assume we'll be calling around next week to see if there's any financially doable options for his tooth at dental schools and such. if it still seems outrageous he might go the option of just having it pulled, but i'd rather that not have to happen.

and, other than maybe updating on this situation, this is the last time i will bring up anything personal on this board. i don't like the feeling i get that this thread will be discussed by people without me. it's not something i want to replicate in the future.

maybe i care too much about what people think. that's probably true. i'm just not comfortable with assumptions being made about my life and personality. i know that's bound to happen whenever you bring up personal stuff, and i really should have thought about it before doing so. it's perhaps because i don't explain things in enough detail or i come across wrong in typed words... but either way... i won't make that mistake again.

Pretty_Penny
07-03-2008, 11:31 AM
I've read it, but there is no solution for someone that wants to wallow in self pity.

I don't need to have the last word. I just realize this is an exercise in futility and I give up.

Or I can continue if you want? ::)

see? i'm someone who wallows in self pity (which is so far from truth it's not funny) and you're this wonderous person who is trying so hard to help (also not true in any way) but it's "futile".

i'm amazed that you don't find your reactions condescending.

and also: i HAVE been seeking solutions.

again. you are not paying attention. i am OBVIOUSLY taking suggestions and working on it. what part of that isn't clear to you?

you YOURSELF offered no suggestions.

the only suggestion i outright didn't take was taking my bf to mexico to have the dental work done.

virgoamm
07-03-2008, 11:31 AM
You said it's a back tooth, right? Just have it extracted and get it fixed later with a bridge when one of you guys have insurance. I know a few people have mentioned it already, but I don't think you had said where the tooth was. That's the simplest solution to your (immediate) problem.

Lysondra
07-03-2008, 11:33 AM
It's a back tooth, just pull it. He can live with the barely noticable cosmetic reprocussions for a year until you save up.

Pretty_Penny
07-03-2008, 11:54 AM
You said it's a back tooth, right? Just have it extracted and get it fixed later with a bridge when one of you guys have insurance. I know a few people have mentioned it already, but I don't think you had said where the tooth was. That's the simplest solution to your (immediate) problem.

i did say, a page or so back, that it was a back tooth. i also mentioned (2 or 3 posts ago) that we are considering that option as a last resort after we check at some dental schools first. we want to make sure that we truly can't afford the root canal/crown before having them extract it.

:)

virgoamm
07-03-2008, 12:01 PM
Oh yeah, I totally understand what you mean. A root canal/crown would definitely be the best route to go, since 'saving' the tooth is much more ideal than having it pulled completely if you can find an affordable option like a dental school. If not, at least it's not a front tooth-yanno? So if he has to have it pulled it won't be that big of a big deal since he won't end up looking like Bubba from the trailer park, lol. :P

Pretty_Penny
07-03-2008, 12:03 PM
Oh yeah, I totally understand what you mean. A root canal/crown would definitely be the best route to go, since 'saving' the tooth is much more ideal than having it pulled completely if you can find an affordable option like a dental school. If not, at least it's not a front tooth so if he has to have it pulled it won't be that big of a big deal so he won't look like Bubba from the trailer park, lol. :P

i told him i'd have to leave him if it was a front one. :P

i also told him i could fix this whole problem for 25.00

bottle of whiskey + pair of pliers + home sewing kit

CKXXX
07-03-2008, 12:09 PM
i told him i'd have to leave him if it was a front one. :P

i also told him i could fix this whole problem for 25.00

bottle of whiskey + pair of pliers + home sewing kit

Not so far out...my father in law once pulled a tooth of his own with an exacto knife and pliers!LOL

Bunny
07-03-2008, 10:15 PM
It's a back tooth, just pull it. He can live with the barely noticable cosmetic reprocussions for a year until you save up.


I knew someone who did this. She had no insurance and didn't make enough to afford the work she needed and there was a two-year wait at the dental school. She just had the tooth pulled. Kind of a last resort, but if it's in pain and it's a side or back tooth, it could be a solution.

Has he actually gone and consulted with another dentist or just called? I know I had a very painful back tooth and figured I'd need tons of dental care. I went in and he basically dug out a HUGE cavity full of food and filled it. I had a food trap back there. It cost about $150. I have a very honest dentist. I don't notice if you mentioned his history with his dentist, but there are ones who will rip you off.

I hope it gets better for you. I know how when shitty things happen they all seem to pile up, but it will get better.

Corgan
07-04-2008, 12:12 AM
^ yes, my dentist in beaumont was going to fuuuuuuck me! 2k!

i have an appt with my friend's dentist in houston tuesday... my estimated cost should be $600 for the same thing.

veronicachick
07-04-2008, 12:57 AM
thanx.

he can't get care credit because of he defaulted on his student loans. he just started paying them back and got them out of collections (see? we WERE moving foward) but they said it will take 9 months before it shows up on his credit.

i can't get credit because i have no credit. i've never owned a credit card. i've always paid my bills but UNFORTUNATELY that "doesn't count". i'm going to have to get a secured visa when i ever have 5 hundred (the minimum for my credit union) to put on hold and say "bye" to for awhile. yes i've tried applying for store credit cards (target and etc). i've been denied for everything because of "lack of credit history".

we both applied for care credit when my dog needed surgery. we were denied and i had to bust-ass to make the money.

kind of off subject... but I had the same problem. I applied for several credit cards and always got denied for "lack of credit"
I applied with capitalone and finally got my first credit card... after 2 of my friends told me they got their first credit card from there as well. I have a small spending limit and my interest rate is a bit high but it's something to start with if you'd like to build your credit and eventually have a higher spending limit.

but anyway... back to your post. I know what it's like to struggle and constantly worry... but just remember that eventually things will work out. I think it's great that you guys help each other out when needed...
I don't know if it was already mentioned... but my school offers insurance... I'm not sure what school you attend but maybe you can take a look into it. at least so you have insurance for yourself to get your knee taken care of.
if you have any free time at all maybe you can get a part time job? starbucks offers benefits for part time employees that work a min. of 20 hours. this is more of a solution for the future tho because it sounds like your bf needs help now.
either way. good luck. i wish you the best. :-)