View Full Version : Gonna Be Homeless Again
PaigeDWinter
07-20-2008, 11:08 PM
I have a place to store my stuff if I have to. That's a start. A friend's mom has an apartment for rent that's cheap, but I'd need a cosigner. :-\
Bunny
07-20-2008, 11:53 PM
That's a good start. Are you sure they would do a credit check? After all, it is a friend's mom. Hey, you could always find a place with my ex. He's hating living in the middle of nowhere with his parents but too broke to move.
kitana
07-21-2008, 05:40 PM
The sleep paralysis is better than it used to be but it's not 100% gone, and the insomnia is kicking my ass. I've had vertigo for a month and no one seems to know how to fix it. That's the most for physical. Emotional? Egads what a list. Depression, anorexia, a near paralyzing fear of failing, I worry about EVERYthing in a blown out of proportion manner, I'm scared to death to change anything in my life because of my OCD. I'm having a very hard time keeping myself from giving up on everything and just hiding under a rock. It's really got too much of a hold on me. I need to get a new doctor and get help for most of this stuff, but I can't afford a shrink, my health benefits don't cover mental health.
Paige love, I have kept my mouth shut about this whole thing; but I had to respond to this.
I dunno about that area, but I know in THIS area they have medical testing places that PAY you to be a part of their study, and you are an in house patient, they cover ALL your medical and meds and it's a pretty good deal actually.
A buddy of mine did it for a whole year straight, and walked out of it with a new prospective on life, meds to cover his condition and OVER $40,000 when he was done.
Just something else to think about....
UltraViolet
07-21-2008, 05:48 PM
OT, but Kitana, do you have like a link to something like this or a keyword to google? I definitely want to look into this!
CKXXX
07-21-2008, 06:01 PM
OT, but Kitana, do you have like a link to something like this or a keyword to google? I definitely want to look into this!
yes please...I'd like to know too.Any ones I've found says you cant have ANY medical or prescription insurance coverage to qualify..>:(. Yeah,because I can really afford the amount of money it costs me every month even WITH insurance I pay in medical and prescription costs.
Joplin
07-21-2008, 07:16 PM
The one's around here always say "Otherwise healthy adults between the age of 18 and 34 with depression please contact blah blah". Not to be rude, but I don;t think she would qualify as "otherwise healthy" with so many things going on. On the other hand they need to know drug reactions so it's probably something to think about.
My friend actually was going to do one of these things and they found out he had a heart problem with vertigo! (he wasn't allowed to do the study). My brother said he did one for synthetic blood and he was sick for like 2 weeks....so there is some risk.
Actually Paige, I think you will be ok.
2.5 months is plenty time to find a place and ditch this guy.
Seriously. It may not be what you want to hear but its the truth.
Get rid of the trash now.
He is fuckin poison.
Bunny
07-21-2008, 11:12 PM
^^
I agree. I think this dude has a lot to do with your mental state. Try to get away from him and clear your mind and you'll probably feel a whole lot better.
PaigeDWinter
07-21-2008, 11:37 PM
The one's around here always say "Otherwise healthy adults between the age of 18 and 34 with depression please contact blah blah". Not to be rude, but I don;t think she would qualify as "otherwise healthy" with so many things going on. On the other hand they need to know drug reactions so it's probably something to think about.
Yeah I've called a few places about stuff like that. The ones for insomnia wont take me because of the paralysis, and vice versa.
kitana
07-22-2008, 06:08 PM
We have Medisphere and Covance and one more in this area.
PaigeDWinter
07-23-2008, 06:53 PM
Now that it's sinking in for real, my brain is fretting over the small things. Well, I mean they aren't small in my mind but... yanno.
I am supposed to go see a specialist for the vertigo. Wont be able to afford that.
I am supposed to see a dentist about all the ow in my face. Wont be able to afford that.
My best friends, who live in Holland, are getting married in November. I'm the MOH. They've already paid for my flight and hotel, but I wont be able to afford to take the time off from whatever 327365262 jobs I'll have, no will I be able to afford to not have that time's worth of pay not be there.
Gonna probably have to stop having acrylic nails.
Gonna probably have to stop dying my hair.
I dunno when I'm gonna be able to get interwebs, so I'll be a useless mod here.
Argh.
TigersMilk
07-23-2008, 07:28 PM
Paige you're a doll but instead of posting how much everything sucks post or privately write down what you are gonna do about your situation. There is no sense in focusing on the negative - it won't get you anywhere. Been following this thread and people have some great advice for you.
The move out date is also 2.5 months away which is plenty of time to arrange a new place to stay. You're giving yourself more stress over this than what is there.
PaigeDWinter
07-23-2008, 08:09 PM
I know. I honestly do... but I've always been a worrier. It's very hard for me to fend off the panic and stress, especially when I'm home alone (or in this case, home and ignored). I vent it out so it doesn't make me implode or something. There are some good things in the works. My old DJ's mom does real estate, she might be able to help me out. I'm also snagging a Sunday paper before werk #1. I'm also going to stop by two local Blockbusters and see about their hours. It's easier when I'm around my friends, like at work and stuff... They help me keep focused on the good stuff. When I'm alone? I have a downright canary and it's very hard for me to control it. :(
CKXXX
07-23-2008, 08:12 PM
^^ I'm the same way Paige...world is ending,I'm doomed kind of outlook a lot.Blows
Bunny
07-23-2008, 11:46 PM
I know. I honestly do... but I've always been a worrier. It's very hard for me to fend off the panic and stress, especially when I'm home alone (or in this case, home and ignored). I vent it out so it doesn't make me implode or something. There are some good things in the works. My old DJ's mom does real estate, she might be able to help me out. I'm also snagging a Sunday paper before werk #1. I'm also going to stop by two local Blockbusters and see about their hours. It's easier when I'm around my friends, like at work and stuff... They help me keep focused on the good stuff. When I'm alone? I have a downright canary and it's very hard for me to control it. :(
yeah, I worry too. Sometimes we just need to vent and get it all out to feel better.
PaigeDWinter
07-24-2008, 11:49 AM
I need to send HUGE thank yous to HHL and Sinder for keeping me fed recently. Seriously HUGE thanks. Thanks the size of Rhode Island.
VenusGoddess
07-24-2008, 12:46 PM
Ok, fellow worrier. This helps me when I'm fretting the small stuff:
It's called dump and flip!
You take a piece of paper and fold it in half. On one side you write all of your problems. On the opposite side you write the same situation with a positive spin on it. You rip the paper in half and toss the 'problem' side and tape up the positive side.
For example: 'I'm going to be homeless in 2 months.'
New thought: 'In 2 months, I will have a new place to live that is safe, secure, and happy.'
I used to be a huge worrier but since I write down all of my worries and find a positive spin for then, I'm much more at peace now.
Hope it helps. Just focus on one thing/one day at a time.
kitana
07-24-2008, 05:25 PM
Thats a good way to deal with things VG!
I'll have to try that!
PaigeDWinter
07-31-2008, 01:19 AM
*big breath in* Ok. Updatus Majorus. There about 23525182519512176251201271892 apartments in the area in a reasonable price range. Turns out this is going to be, whenever it happens, a total SW apartment. My roomie-to-be is MichelleJade. Everyone wave! I have to get another paycheck job before we can start calling about apartments, though. I gotta know what I will be earning per month, right? Right! :D Job hunting is going slow, but I'm hopeful. I just hope that her good credit is a big enough plus to make more apartments available to us.
Sveta
07-31-2008, 02:38 AM
VG: Very cool idea, the "dump and flip". I like it!
PDW: awesome that you found a roommate (and an SWer too...awwww :) ). See? Everything is coming together. Now you just have to have faith that the rest of the pieces will continue to fall in place. You've still got 2 months, and all you need now is a day job. You can do it.
CKXXX
07-31-2008, 07:25 AM
AWESOME!!! See....we all knew it would work out perfectly for you! And the two of you BETTER come visit me!! We can drink margaritas by the pool...now that I can keep it!
AmberHoney
07-31-2008, 11:38 AM
Paige... I sent you a PM so please respond ASAP :)
Miss_Luscious
07-31-2008, 04:27 PM
Welp I'm late as usual but I just wanted to at my two cents. My husband and I have fucked credit and rental histories. we got in over heads not once but twice in the pst couple of years. We put an ad on Craigslist and we were completely honest about our situation. We were abot to move into a fab new townhouse with a great school right up the street for our kids in a great neighborhood. Private landlords appreciate honesty and they are often willing to give second (and in our case third) chances to good people. I love craigslist. I've found al of my house and jobs over the last few years on there. I hope your plans work out but if they don't, it's ok. Go on the plan b,c,d,e...z until things are right.
High-Heel-Lover
07-31-2008, 05:41 PM
Paige I have been trying to find an update and saw this. It hurt me a bit when I read the tough love responses but they seem to do a lot of good. You know if you need anything you just give me a call babe. And you are welcome.
You are one strong woman and it will get better, you have tons of people here with great advice, places to go and much help so look at all the wonderful people who you have who care about you so stay strong mama.
Lysondra
07-31-2008, 06:30 PM
Can I say we told you so?
PaigeDWinter
08-04-2008, 04:56 PM
So far no dice on the job front. Ugh. My boss at werk #1 is trying his best to get me more hours. Here's hoping, right? Big smooches to AmberHoney for helping me out, I was almost out of my meds! And chow... :O Tomorrow I head in a whole other direction to look for jobs. I've hit up north of me, next is south, then as far west as I can go.
AmberHoney
08-04-2008, 05:14 PM
So far no dice on the job front. Ugh. My boss at werk #1 is trying his best to get me more hours. Here's hoping, right? Big smooches to AmberHoney for helping me out, I was almost out of my meds! And chow... :O Tomorrow I head in a whole other direction to look for jobs. I've hit up north of me, next is south, then as far west as I can go.
Aweee no prob sweetie :-* You're welcome.
More meds on Aug 7 at 1:45pm for me, lol.
PaigeDWinter
08-08-2008, 12:54 AM
A small plus for moi... I'm starting to get over him. A teeny bit. To the point where I WANT to move out. I still love him, but I want a new place to live. I wish I could just move out now. Meh!
*Iris*
08-08-2008, 08:40 AM
^ Thats great im glad to hear your taking this better than you were at first.
MichelleJade
08-08-2008, 12:45 PM
Awe man, I'm right there with you. I wish I could move out immediately as well...
And the job search? Ugh. I really hate waiting!
PaigeDWinter
08-13-2008, 09:41 PM
Tomorrow, er well today, is Official Apartment Hunt Day. My DJ's mom does real estate, and she has a few places for me to look at. It seems as though they're all in the $500's as far as rent goes, which is good. I hope they aren't TOO small lol. All I worry about is if they allow pets. Since I used to work for said mom (she owned the bar I worked at before the one I'm at now), she wont credit check me! :)
thechaosfairy
08-14-2008, 01:22 AM
Good luck! We recently had to apartment-hunt with just ONE month to find a place. Apparently landlords can kick out on 30 days with no cause here. We're moved now, and trying to turn lemons into lemonade and use the situation to buy a house.
PaigeDWinter
08-14-2008, 02:48 PM
Found an amazing place that is affordable. I SOOO have my fingers crossed that the background check thinger goes through. I have bad credit, egads!
velvet
08-14-2008, 02:52 PM
well background is for criminal and evictions. if you dont have those and she knows about the credit it should be fine. are you staying in the area you are in now?
PaigeDWinter
08-14-2008, 02:57 PM
are you staying in the area you are in now?
It's back in Cocoa Beach, so I'm moving basically to the other side of the air force base.
PaigeDWinter
08-15-2008, 09:46 AM
I can officially close this thread!;D;D;D