View Full Version : Is dancing turning you into an old lady?
princessjas
08-30-2009, 06:59 PM
I quit partying in my early-mid 20's. Work was WAY too much for me. I stopped going out entirely and quit drinking, except for maybe 1-2 times a year. Unfortunately, with my marriage failing I've started drinking again in recent months.
Physically, I creak like an old lady & am stiff as hell for 10-20 min when I first get up. It's worse during the winter of course. The STBEX said it looked like I was doing the robot every morning. :rotfl:
audrey_k
08-30-2009, 10:03 PM
It depends how much I'm working.
If I only work 4 days a week, I'm down to go out on one of them. But if I only have two days off-- usually Sunday & Monday-- then I really would rather just stay home and get some rest cause I'm exhausted from the week. And if I only have one day off, I'll probably just stay in bed for all of it.
I party at work and after work on the weekends... so I'm good.
lydiastardust
08-30-2009, 10:43 PM
I was an old lady before I started dancing. Big band music and everything.
My idea of an exciting evening is making hummus and singing along to Frank Sinatra.
femmefatale88
08-30-2009, 11:30 PM
Yeah I am definitely turning into an "old lady". When I'm not working, I sit at home in front of my computer going on stripperweb.com forums and replying to these threads. Also I work out and watch tv. I do a LOT of online shopping and sometimes when I am feeling more energetic I will go to the mall or the fabric store, sometimes sewing some new stripper outfits... and of course grocery shopping. Once or twice a week my man will take me out to eat at a nice restaurant or a semi-nice restaurant. I used to party a lot, now I don't anymore. I hardly see my old friends anymore either :( But going regular clubbing is a drag to me and feels like a waste of time/ money. I pretty much do nothing fun or exciting out of work, but then again I always have fun at work and make money too. For me work is like a party but a party that pays well. I find it hard to want to drink outside of work.
On my days off, I have no desire to do anything social. It's my time to decompress, and relax. We all need balance in our lives. I don't even wear makeup outside of work anymore. And yes, I completely feel like a little old lady.
callista
08-31-2009, 04:33 AM
FUCK YES. I hate going to night clubs. I like to sit and watch people go by. I'd much rather sit at home with a book or movie than go be social. I don't want to wear makeup, hell even put my damn contacts in. I'm definately a hermit!
Hell, i was even bitching about my bones being sore today, so i definately have the old lady bit covered. Luckily, my bf is 54, so we're well matched lol
minalynx
08-31-2009, 05:44 AM
Hermit.
I don't wanna get dolled up & go out to a club where girls show waaaaay more for free than I do at work. Puh-leeze. I'd rather stay home in my "Powered by Tofu" t-shirt (even though it has a hole in the armpit), my worn out oversized sweat pants (cuz they're SO comfy!), ponytail, no makeup, i-Pod loaded with my fave NON-CLUB songs & play in the dirt (i.e. gardening). Then I'd spend an hour soaking in the tub to get the dirt out from under my nails while blasting the stereo, sunbathe w/a good book or practice my Mandarin, order out or cook (depends on what I'm in the mood for), and watch movies on either my laptop, vhs or dvd (depending on which unit I have the movie). I usually fuck around on my PSP while the movie plays, but I keep an ear out for the funny parts. I love staying in & doing homebody shit. It helps keep me grounded.
:)
DizzieDee
08-31-2009, 06:56 AM
I can relate to the loss in sex drive. As far as being a hermit no. I don't necessarily go out all the time but going to a club with my coworkers is still fun to me after years in the business. I also love doing other things than go to clubs. Eating out movies the beach and lots of other things keep me busy on my days off. Maybe take a break from work and try some daytime activities or try going somewhere where drunk people and pounding music are not pn the menu :)
Faye449
08-31-2009, 09:00 AM
On my days off I can be found make up free, glasses on, hair scraped back, wearing jeans, T-shirt and wellies having nice relaxing walks with my dogs. If I told anyone I was a stripper they would never believe me. I look like I ought to live in the woods. On my evenings off I want to put on slobby joggers, get on the sofa, order a take out and cuddle my dogs. I don't even want to speak to anyone on the phone let alone actually have to make any effort to be polite. And when the winter comes and I can light the fire it will be even better..........
black_widow
09-01-2009, 10:44 AM
You know how they have posttraumatic stress disorder (PTSD) for people that have been through crazy, catastrophic events? Well, I believe we all have posttraumatic stripping disorder! LOL. I mean, it seems like it is a very common phenomenon, classified by very specific characteristics (a withdrawal from normal society, a ceasing in alcohol consumption, anti-social tendencies, a lack of sex drive, physical pain in the knees and lower back ect ect ect), and definately is the result of a very specific set of events (working in strip clubs, giving lapdances, dealing with coworkers). I would even go so far to say that it should be considered a job hazard and that we should recieve hazard pay for the risk we are putting ourselves in by engaging in this line of work.
But that will never EVER happen, lol. At least the DSM-IV could recongize it as a legitimate mental illness!
I definately have, and continue to, suffer the same side effects from dancing. While I was not really a going out person to begin with, before I started dancing I did drink a lot and have more friends and I definately went out moreso than I do now. I used to love to go to concerts with a friend, or alone, and I loved to get really messed up on drugs and alcohol. Not that I wish I could do that again, but dancing pretty much but the end to that real quick. When you party all night, the last thing you wanna do on your off time is party...it's just too much. Now, I don't even really like to go into any club or bars at all, even for shows, because all I think of is WORK. When men come up to me and start talking, all I can think of is "hustle" or "oh god he's that type of customer."
As for sex....pffftttt....what sex? I am never horny. Ever. I pretty much don't ever want to be touched, let alone be penetrated, and if I feel the need to have sex to convince myself I'm "normal" I always end up freaking hateing it. I hate cuddling (I've always hated that though), I hate people telling me I'm hot, or trying to be nice, I hate people trying to seduce me, I hate pretty much anything that has to do with sex. I do still enjoy porn but that's mainly because it doesn't really INVOLVE me. I don't have to be present and involved with the sex if it's on my TV. So porn is really the only sexual outlet I have anymore. I haven't had sex in probably 6 months.
I love how someone said one year in the real world = 5 in the dancing world. SO TRUE! I'm 23 and all my friends are always telling me I act like I'm 40, which I do. Men at work always think I'm older because I'm so mature. I have no bullshit tolerance AT ALL, and since I have to be nice at work to everyone I usually act like a raving bitch to everyone in the real world to make up for all the asskissing I get paid to do. I never smile, because I hate smiling and I really just act like an ass because I know I can and I don't get to at work.
Posttraumatic stripper disorder....they need medication for it, lol.
Corey
09-08-2009, 08:41 PM
I only work 3 times a week and lately have been taking more time off. I went through a period where I didn't want to be too social, but this past summer, I have actually been quite the social butterfly:D
I'm not into the typical club scene (a bit old), but I am passionate about music and have seen some great shows this summer including just last Thurs. a free one at the pier a mile from my house. I've been to some great parties, but they are parties for friends whom I admire, I don't go to a party just to get trashed and by seen, but to honor the person it is being thrown for/by.
But I'm feeling like I want to wind down and spend more time with me. Especially after this past weekend in Vegas. No, I didn't work there and don't but it was very social and there was lots of family time and not much time for me.
But I don't party when i work, so I think that makes a difference.
Evan86
10-19-2009, 09:37 AM
Dancing has turned me into a homebody, and a bit of a hermit. I accept drinks when I'm at work. On my days off, I never drink now. It's not that fun for me anymore. I don't go dancing. Walking into a nightclub with pounding music and drunk people feels like work. I'm not as interested in flirting or sex as I was before I started dancing.
I'd rather sit home, rent a movie, and brush my dog, or surf the internet, or take a lush bath, or read a good book.
Can anyone relate?
I could have written this myself. Absolutely 100% can relate.
Evan86
10-19-2009, 09:42 AM
I hardly ever go out to regular bars anymore...I can't help thinking I should be paid to put up with all that shit. Loud music, drunk guys, and slutty dancing? And I have to pay cover? Haha right. Give me a good book and a cup of hot cocoa anyday.
Oh, and as far as really being an old lady? I can feel the weather in my knees. I have visions of myself in a year or two sitting on the front porch in a rocking chair, petting a cat saying "yes'sir, I feels the rains a'comin. I feels it in ma bones"
;D
Amen.;D Reckon I'll make a pot of beans and some collards.
trishaxxxo
10-19-2009, 11:41 AM
I am there too!! I hardly ever go out to bars when I'm not dancing. I get pissed I'm not getting paid.
I often go up the street to my neighborhood bar to have one or two drinks for a nightcap and I bring a book most of the time hahaha. I get hit on like mad and just glare and tell them to go away- I am like dude, if yr not gonna pay me, i'm not gonna talk to you, dumbfuck.
then I go home, smoke weed, and cuddle with my kitty while I sew in front of the TV. granny anyone?
I do def still have a sex drive though! I was seeing someone for a while and the only thing was I didnt want to have sex after work ever, I felt like I was being pawed at. but next morning, nights off, a-ok.
Laurisa
10-19-2009, 12:21 PM
Are there smoke-free clubs? If there are, is that a common scenario?
I just don't think cigarettes are sexy and I really would prefer to not have my skin and lungs damaged from secondhand smoke.
trishaxxxo
10-19-2009, 01:59 PM
Are there smoke-free clubs? If there are, is that a common scenario?
I just don't think cigarettes are sexy and I really would prefer to not have my skin and lungs damaged from secondhand smoke.
Sure, in states where smoking is banned indoors like California, New York etc. I live in Oregon and they just put the smoking ban into affect this year and it is SO nice to dance and not come home smelling like smoke.
Gi$elle
10-19-2009, 02:57 PM
I can totally relate to not wanting to be touched. When I've work consecutive nights I also HATE having conversations/listening to people speak. I'm usually working on the nights when my friends are going out so It's hard to have a real social life.
Danni
10-19-2009, 04:34 PM
Old Lady? No. Hermit? Hell Yeah!
I think I got hit with a double whammy since I am a bartender AND a dancer. The last place I wanna be on my days/nights off is a bar or a club. I've never been a big drinker and although I am naturally social which is why I do well in both my jobs, I need peace and quiet on my down time.
I do still get "made up" even to go to the grocery store, it's toned down a lot. Not my stripper make-up for sure and I'm always in flat, comfy shoes.
It kinda makes me sad though since I feel like I'm missing out sometimes. I'm single, in my tweties and what I want to do most on Saturday night is clean my house, do some laundry, give myself a pedi and curl up with a movie.
showmethemoney
11-04-2009, 04:59 PM
Reading this thread makes me feel alive again. Here, I thought I was a going crazy... turns out it is only "post-traumatic stripper disorder" lol. TG4UGirls;D
gypsy_girlchild
11-04-2009, 05:05 PM
Total hermit, even the neighbors know not to mess with me unless in an emergency.
I too creak during dances, guys laugh a llittle, thank goodness, with me not at me, heh.
I am tired most days, never really had much of a sex drive, but like cuddles and def. talk to my dogs more nowadays than when I first started dancing.
Unfortunately when I do go out, all I seem to think about is that I could be making money right now and have to remind myself that I don't have to entertain anyone if I don't feel like it. Damn habit!
GoldCoastGirl
11-06-2009, 03:35 PM
Dancing has turned me into a homebody, and a bit of a hermit. I accept drinks when I'm at work. On my days off, I never drink now. It's not that fun for me anymore. I don't go dancing. Walking into a nightclub with pounding music and drunk people feels like work. I'm not as interested in flirting or sex as I was before I started dancing.
I'd rather sit home, rent a movie, and brush my dog, or surf the internet, or take a lush bath, or read a good book.
Can anyone relate?
I've been almost retired from dancing now for a little while ... and this describes me to a tee! Even when I was dancing full time (or used it as a main source of income), yup... me!
I can totally relate to the whole "walking into a nightclub with drunk people and feeling like it is work thus being turned off" thing! TOTALLY!
Even to the point that the nightclub hub of my city (Surfers Paradise)... I avoid like the plague. I lived and worked there for quite a few many years and seriously despise the place unless I'm being paid to go there.
For me it is also the fact that I'm a private person (introvert) and I need that "me" time --- http://www.theatlantic.com/doc/200303/rauch
Gwennnnnn
11-09-2009, 12:23 AM
Not only do I not want to go out on my days off, I don't even like to listen to music when I'm at home very much anymore, cos my ears need a rest from those pounding club beats...
emily405
11-09-2009, 12:30 AM
YES!!!!! Ever since i have started dancing, I never want to dress up nicer or put on any makeup on
my off days. I always want to be in sweats. Before, I used to dress nicer and fixed up a lil going to run
errands, dinners, and so on. (And its only a month that I started dancing!)
DorianGrey
11-09-2009, 01:57 PM
I've only been dancing a couple weeks, and it HAS turned my social life down radically. Where I used to want to party every weekend... I'm at work instead, and if I'm NOT at work, I'm either in bed, a friends house, or shopping. I am thoroughly disinclined to put on makeup go to a smoky, windowless room with pounding music and deal with peoples crap.
A wild night out to me now is movies with my tax lady and chinese, home by MAYBE 2am.
*DG*
Corey
11-09-2009, 03:22 PM
Old Lady? No. Hermit? Hell Yeah!
I think I got hit with a double whammy since I am a bartender AND a dancer. The last place I wanna be on my days/nights off is a bar or a club. I've never been a big drinker and although I am naturally social which is why I do well in both my jobs, I need peace and quiet on my down time.
I do still get "made up" even to go to the grocery store, it's toned down a lot. Not my stripper make-up for sure and I'm always in flat, comfy shoes.
It kinda makes me sad though since I feel like I'm missing out sometimes. I'm single, in my tweties and what I want to do most on Saturday night is clean my house, do some laundry, give myself a pedi and curl up with a movie.
I actually wear a bit of make-up too when I'm out and about, but that's only because I don't want to scare small children:-\
Corey
11-09-2009, 03:29 PM
This week I really feel like an old lady. When I added up my days in pole class and my days working, it turns out I've been on a pole for 7 consecutive days. ( I was actually interviewed for some Finnish TV station about my poling on Monday).
I was taught a simple move last Friday (not even up-side -down) and it pulled the crap outta my shoulder and neck. I was fine on Saturday morning, but then I bent down to refill my cat's water bowl and SNAP!! My lower back and torso are f*&cked! I can still dance and have on Sat. and Sun......I just can't walk very well or bend too far when i get home.
No pole classes for me until Wed.
Can a dancer pole too much?