View Full Version : uh... a little advice, please?
pookie
07-28-2008, 07:10 AM
would the guy take it and play jokes?
Darcy Foxx
07-28-2008, 07:12 AM
no. definitely not. i was telling him about it being missing tonight before i found it in her room and he was like WTF, like he genuinely seemed grossed out that someone would take a dildo. and also it had batteries in it when i found it, whereas i'd removed the batteries to put them in a different vibe. and i think her reaction of shutting herself in her room as soon as she got home and hiding in there pretty much shows that she's guilty.
jaizaine
07-28-2008, 07:19 AM
^^
she is obviously realyl embarrassed as she should be. she doesnt respect other people's property which is wrong and obviously doesnt care about health and hygiene.
well she cant avoid u forever being in the same house.
pookie
07-28-2008, 07:20 AM
I just don't get it, why the fuck would somebody do that.
jeeeeeeezzzz
Darcy Foxx
07-28-2008, 07:25 AM
and ya know, i think i'm more upset that she blatantly lied to my face when i mentioned it, rather than the fact that she took it. the fact that she took my used dildo is just weird and gross, the fact that she lied shows she has very little respect for me and our friendship.
so now the big question. what do i do with the dildo? its a really fucking good one. should i just thoroughly disinfect and sanitise it? or throw it away?
Jenny
07-28-2008, 07:27 AM
and ya know, i think i'm more upset that she blatantly lied to my face when i mentioned it, rather than the fact that she took it. the fact that she took my used dildo is just weird and gross, the fact that she lied shows she has very little respect for me and our friendship.
so now the big question. what do i do with the dildo? its a really fucking good one. should i just thoroughly disinfect and sanitise it? or throw it away?
Just clean it. I mean, throw it out if you want, but that's just a psychological "someone has touched my dildo" thing. There is no actual safety issue if you properly clean it.
Does she steal compulsively? You said earlier that she does it quite a lot, according to mutual friends.
jaizaine
07-28-2008, 07:27 AM
I think disinfecting it should suffice. really? shouldnt it? that would kill any germs? i think its just the gross thought that she used it but realistically if its disinfected it will be ok.
Darcy Foxx
07-28-2008, 07:29 AM
Does she steal compulsively? You said earlier that she does it quite a lot, according to mutual friends.
honestly, i am starting to worry that she does. it's safe to say that right now i have very little trust in her and will be watching my belongings like a fucking hawk.
Darcy Foxx
07-28-2008, 07:30 AM
I think disinfecting it should suffice. really? shouldnt it? that would kill any germs? i think its just the gross thought that she used it but realistically if its disinfected it will be ok.
and yeah, i'm sure disinfecting it would make it completely safe for use, but it's just the whole 'ick' factor of someone else putting one of your personal belongings in their vagina.
jaizaine
07-28-2008, 07:33 AM
and yeah, i'm sure disinfecting it would make it completely safe for use, but it's just the whole 'ick' factor of someone else putting one of your personal belongings in their vagina.
I understand completely. well maybe u wont enjoy using it now? might have to go find an even better one.
btw any suggestions?? hehehe. are dildos more enjoyable than vibrators?
Hello_Kitty27
07-28-2008, 07:34 AM
....or ass....or yet someone else's vagina or ass....
I think I'd probably disinfect it and keep it.
Darcy Foxx
07-28-2008, 07:38 AM
I understand completely. well maybe u wont enjoy using it now? might have to go find an even better one.
btw any suggestions?? hehehe. are dildos more enjoyable than vibrators?
i own about 40 sex toys. i work as a web developer for a company who are setting up an online adult products store so i have a wholesalers license and i get free sample products. the silver one in question was a free gift from the guy who runs the warehouse cos he liked my tattoos haha.
i prefer vibrators. the one she stole was a multi-speed rabbit style vibe with a g-spot thing, thrusting head and clit tickler.
Jenny
07-28-2008, 07:39 AM
honestly, i am starting to worry that she does. it's safe to say that right now i have very little trust in her and will be watching my belongings like a fucking hawk.Well a lock will definitely help. But if she is stealing compulsively she might not be able to help it. Maybe if she knows you know she would feel more comfortable about returning things? (Conjecture - I know nothing about kleptomania.) Does this sound like her:
http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/kleptomania/DS01034/DSECTION=symptoms
I'm not saying "aw, she can't help it, just let her steal your stuff"; but if she has a problem, it might be easier to deal with it than just constantly suspect her.
Darcy Foxx
07-28-2008, 07:42 AM
i don't think she's actually a klepto. she only steals things that are nice. she's a spoiled rich kid with no sense of money management, and a lot of the time she doesn't try to hide the stuff she's taken. like she'll take stuff from people and it's like she just assumes it's okay to borrow it forever. the vibrator is the first thing she's hidden and lied about, i guess because she knew i'd have an issue with her using it.
MeanGirl
07-28-2008, 07:48 AM
Tell her she needs to buy you a new one and she can keep it or whatver.
Darcy Foxx
07-28-2008, 07:50 AM
if i thought she would ever actually buy me a new one i would suggest it but considering i'm still waiting on the $70 she owes me for the overdue phone bill it would be entirely pointless.
MeanGirl
07-28-2008, 07:53 AM
does she know you keep them all in the pkgs even after you use them or maybe she was under the impression you weren't using it? I'm
just curious. I just can't imagine using someone elses dildo...like at all.
pookie
07-28-2008, 07:55 AM
^^^ I also think thats a possibility
Darcy Foxx
07-28-2008, 07:56 AM
i really don't know.
pookie
07-28-2008, 07:57 AM
and why would she leave the package if she took it?
Darcy Foxx
07-28-2008, 07:57 AM
i would imagine that it's probably she doesn't know i keep them all in their packages. the only one that doesn't stay in the package is my little green vibe that lives under my pillow.
Darcy Foxx
07-28-2008, 07:58 AM
and why would she leave the package if she took it?
the package was under her bed too. the vibe wasn't in the package though. haha i left the package there but took the dildo.
pookie
07-28-2008, 08:00 AM
yeah, but if she stole it and kept the package under the bed it would be obvious to you that she stole it. if she threw the package away there would be less evidence that it was yours.
Darcy Foxx
07-28-2008, 08:02 AM
it's pretty obvious anyway. this particular vibe was given to me out of the samples box, which is a big box of stuff that the warehouse have decided not to sell so they just have one offs of stuff. since the warehouse supplies every adult product retailer in the state, the odds of her having this particular model are slim to none.
jasmine
07-28-2008, 08:02 AM
i don't think she's actually a klepto. she only steals things that are nice. she's a spoiled rich kid with no sense of money management, and a lot of the time she doesn't try to hide the stuff she's taken. like she'll take stuff from people and it's like she just assumes it's okay to borrow it forever. the vibrator is the first thing she's hidden and lied about, i guess because she knew i'd have an issue with her using it.
This type is really hard to deal with! They are bitches with too much attitude. Major entitlement issues. You are probably going to have to get rid of her before she drives you nuts.
(My ex-roomie was like this. Her grandparents had given her everything and therefore she thought if she wanted it she could just take it and how dare us pleebs question her. The first time I told her to stay the fuck out of my bedroom and my shit, she actually told me it was her apartment and she would go wherever she pleased. The apartment was in BOTH our names and I ended up paying rent for us both because she was to damn lazy to work.)
Darcy Foxx
07-28-2008, 08:34 AM
since i'm kinda annoyed at her... would it be a total cunt move to put a password on my computer just so she can't sit in my bedroom all day and use it tomorrow while i am at work?
jaizaine
07-28-2008, 08:35 AM
since i'm kinda annoyed at her... would it be a total cunt move to put a password on my computer just so she can't sit in my bedroom all day and use it tomorrow while i am at work?
Nope. Pales in comparison to what she did. Although leaving it on with this thread would be funny :D
pookie
07-28-2008, 08:37 AM
since i'm kinda annoyed at her... would it be a total cunt move to put a password on my computer just so she can't sit in my bedroom all day and use it tomorrow while i am at work?
I would just like to point out something
Darcy Foxx
07-28-2008, 08:38 AM
hahaha nah i'm not THAT mean
Darcy Foxx
07-28-2008, 08:38 AM
I would just like to point out something
lol. well, my computer is the only one with internet so i usually am fine with them using it. even though i pay for the internet, which is why i have it in my room.
pookie
07-28-2008, 08:39 AM
but it is your computer
MeanGirl
07-28-2008, 08:41 AM
do you have a lock on your door? bypass the password and lock your room up!
Darcy Foxx
07-28-2008, 08:41 AM
baha. i set up a password on my computer, so i'll just log off before i go to work and she won't be able to get back in. best of all, my password hint that will be visible to her is "not til i get an apology, or at least an explanation"
Darcy Foxx
07-28-2008, 08:42 AM
do you have a lock on your door? bypass the password and lock your room up!
not yet, but i'll be asking the landlord about it asap and hopefully getting one.
MeanGirl
07-28-2008, 08:49 AM
baha. i set up a password on my computer, so i'll just log off before i go to work and she won't be able to get back in. best of all, my password hint that will be visible to her is "not til i get an apology, or at least an explanation"
thats slick;)
MissDewdrop
07-28-2008, 09:11 AM
thats slick;)
i agree. it'll let her know that you're smarter than her, on your toes, willing to hold her accountable, but still classy about the whole thing. nice job :)
pookie
07-28-2008, 09:28 AM
thats a great idea Darcy
txchick008
07-28-2008, 10:21 AM
You are way too nice IMO. :)
kandie_kitten
07-28-2008, 10:48 AM
No offense...but you sound a bit like a doormat in this thread.
"I pay all these bills, and she steals my shit and stuff, but maybe I'll be tough and not let her use my computer that I pay for...but I'll be harsh and send a text message"
Um...why do people keep stealing from you? Because you let them take advantage of you.
You need to confront this girl and let her know that "borrowing" your things is not cool. Get a nice new lock for your door, and put a password on your comp. Then let her know she needs to pay what's owed. Now. If not, find a new roomie.
iambonbon05
07-28-2008, 12:08 PM
Ewww.
Tell her you have an STD :D
(didn't read the whole thread)
StarryEyes
07-28-2008, 12:20 PM
Tell her you have an STD :D
Hahaha!
Seriously though, this chick has no sense of boundaries, and I think it is time you set them.
Lock on the door. Password on the comp.
Tell her why. Tell her she is not allowed to borrow any of your things. With or without permission. And say that this is for her own good...say something like "What if I had an STD that YOU didnt know about? You could be walking around with herpes (or other STD) right now." Don'[t go yelling and screaming or anything, just tell her firmly. It's time to stop taking shit from this girl. You wouldnt do it from a guy at work, what should make this girl any different?
If she doesnt like it, then she knows where the door is. Then start fresh with a more respectful roomie and have the "No borrowing" policy set in effect from the beginning.
No you are not being a bitch. You are doing what is right.
NinaDaisy
07-28-2008, 12:45 PM
I'm rendered speechless.
Maybe the pod people finally got to me, but this is, uh...yeah.
Interesting?
Does she lick it clean if she sticks it up her pooper?
What, too soon?
On a personal note: fuck, I love living alone!
hardkandee
07-28-2008, 01:00 PM
I'd write about it in the ZOO Weekly article. That's a great story.
But then again, I'm a bitch.
Oh! Do a video on youtube. (That's just because I love listening to your accent. A good Aussie voice is hard to find!)
needtodance
07-28-2008, 04:35 PM
OH. MY. GOD.
psycho. I agree that your being WAY too nice about this. If she doesnt give you an explanation, I DEFINITELY would write both HER, and the LANDLORD, letting her know that she needs to resolve her debts or/and you will be finding a new roommate, and getting locks on your doors.
Obviously she doesnt give a shit about your "friendship" and your carrying the bills anyways? Fuck that.
Darcy Foxx
07-28-2008, 06:49 PM
oh, i am absolutely the first person to agree with you that i am a total doormat. i have absolutely no backbone. when i try to confront people i switch immediately into extreme anxiety attack mode and start shaking and choking on my words and i get dizzy and can't talk. i am without a doubt too nice, i always let people walk all over me and i am far too forgiving. i am very aware of this and i would say it is one of my biggest personality flaws.
needtodance
07-28-2008, 07:39 PM
In which case, I might hit a little lower, if she stilll doesnt adress the issue. Tell your housemates what she did, laugh and tease, make her WANT to move out(while CAREFULLY watching your stuff to make sure she doesnt get "revenge")
THats just the spiteful side of me, but yeah, in your position i'd feel REALLY violated, and its one of the reasons i HAVE ot live alone.
At any rate, if your too shy to confront, i would simply make sure others know about her entitlement issues. I'm sure after the rest of your housemates start making jokes about hiding condoms, etc. you guys can get your space back.
Elvia
07-28-2008, 08:24 PM
Darcy,
I absolutely have to give you my advice because I was in a similar situation a couple years ago. I wish to GOD I hadn't gotten rid of that girl sooner. I would have saved myself a lot of grief in the end.
Similar bad roommate story- stole stuff, borrowed without asking, took my batteries out of my things, used up all my toiletries, ate all my food. I confronted her on it, but was FAR to gentle with her and had a hard time really putting my foot down. She also never paid the bills, just kept saying she'd "get me later." Which really pissed me off- we were both pretty poor, but this was before I started dancing and I was REALLY poor. I was working for less than minimum wage (I had a health condition and this was the only job I could find that would put up with it).
It went from bad to worse. She started going out drinking every night (even though she supposedly couldn't pay her share of the bills- and made twice as much as me) And came home drunk- and nasty and rude. She would lose her keys constantly and bang on the door and drunkenly scream to be let in. Even when she lost her keys for days she would still go out and come home at 3 am and scream to be let in. She would take my laptop and baracade herself in her room and refuse to give it back for hours.
The last straw happened when she wrote me a rent check which bounced- causing a check I wrote to bounce. A check written for a class that I had literally been waiting for YEARS to take, which was very important for my future career goals. I confronted her and she blamed ME for "cashing it too soon."
She later moved out in the night, leaving a bunch of broken furniture behind, stealing a lot of my stuff, and owing me over $500 in unpaid bills. She had also spilled weird stuff all over the walls in her room, and I had to spend hours cleaning it all up.
GET RID OF THIS GIRL! BEFORE IT'S TOO LATE!
Elvia
07-28-2008, 08:26 PM
Personally, I would never ever live with a roommate again. I would rather live in a disgusting flop house than shack up with a roommate I wasn't super good friends with for years.
Darcy Foxx
07-28-2008, 09:03 PM
the thing is, we are both signed into a 12 month contract at this place. the only way i could get rid of her would be to somehow get her removed from the contract and that is not going to be easy.