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GoldCoastGirl
08-04-2008, 01:44 AM
When you're not in an image centered industry, have a non-naked career, and maybe a significant other and family you'll be so happy and OK with yourself that it won't bug you. Aging is shitty, but natural.



When you get out of stripping, the intense criticism of yourself will wear off. Most of us are WAY better looking than most average women out there.


I'm finding this out myself as I'm transitioning .... or at least I'm hoping to find this out for myself.

I'm involved with a man that really does love me, he has two kids so I'm inheriting a family and looking to get into dog grooming (which is NOT looks based!) and various other animal orientated 'work'.... whilst at the same time working on internet based projects (that make me money).

;)

jaizaine
08-04-2008, 02:07 AM
I know you do. It wasn't critical. I just meant that maybe when you are at the point that you are now worried about you will be advancing in your other career - or planning to be soon and wrapped up in other things to the degree to which you are now focused on your looks. Like you might be too busy worrying about publishing your next article to worry about whether your breasts are sagging more than peripherally.

I know 100% that no matter what ever I achieve in life and whatever I have going on in my life that my looks will still matter to me in a huge way. Im not saying this is good or that everyone will be like this but I am vein to an extent and self conscious and how I look is extremely important to me - not because of stripping either as I've always been like this.

I could have the most successful career, a beautiful house etc and I would still stress over not having a perfectly flat stomach.

I do stress about aging and try to do things to minimise the effects. I haven't noticed a change in metabolism (Im 28) but that's def something I'm not looking forward to. I am planning to get botox soon too.

jaizaine
08-04-2008, 02:12 AM
^^
cant edit my post for some reason. it's meant to say 28 not 2.

vixy
08-04-2008, 02:32 AM
"I know 100% that no matter what ever I achieve in life and whatever I have going on in my life that my looks will still matter to me in a huge way. Im not saying this is good or that everyone will be like this but I am vein to an extent and self conscious and how I look is extremely important to me - not because of stripping either as I've always been like this."

I am absolutely the same way!!! For me it's important to always look my best...and if theres something thats not perfect ( my way ), I become self conscious!!... I hate that!!
So I guess YES!!

vixy
08-04-2008, 02:35 AM
Sorry Jaizaine... I still haven't figured out how to quote yet!!

msonyxorb
08-04-2008, 05:25 AM
(and i'm sooo not saying that older women are not attractive.. and i dont mean older like 30, 40. i mean actually old.)

does this even make sense? haha.. i'm trying to explain what i mean but sometimes things make more sense in my head!
what do you care if youre not at tip top shape at 60...seriously, who is gonna be seeing you naked besides your equally as old husband?

Lexi
08-04-2008, 06:30 AM
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CKXXX
08-04-2008, 08:43 AM
what do you care if youre not at tip top shape at 60...seriously, who is gonna be seeing you naked besides your equally as old husband?

well I'D still like to look good for my husband at 60...not to mention that I'd like to actually LIKE what I see in the mirror even at that age. Not to mention that not everyone is married at 60, and some who are may be swingers(yes I know swingers that age who are still having a grand old time) so there may in fact be others who will see me naked.

TigersMilk
08-04-2008, 08:48 AM
Lots of old people enjoy other old people hotness. One of my managers at one club is a nudist and gosh I think she's a bit over 60 with pink hair too! lol She stays at a nudist colony even. I say rock on with your skin and feel good in it. They got grandma porn out there so someone likes it.

Vyanka
08-04-2008, 09:03 AM
Not really. Because there has to be someone out there who is gonna like my old ass the way I am. lol. Not only that, I take care of myself... I diet/exercise...and when shit hits the floor i'm flying my ass to South America for some nip & tuck.

britt244
08-04-2008, 09:16 AM
I know 100% that no matter what ever I achieve in life and whatever I have going on in my life that my looks will still matter to me in a huge way. Im not saying this is good or that everyone will be like this but I am vein to an extent and self conscious and how I look is extremely important to me - not because of stripping either as I've always been like this.

I could have the most successful career, a beautiful house etc and I would still stress over not having a perfectly flat stomach.

I do stress about aging and try to do things to minimise the effects. I haven't noticed a change in metabolism (Im 28) but that's def something I'm not looking forward to. I am planning to get botox soon too.

yup, i'm the same way. man but you have an awesome body haha!


what do you care if youre not at tip top shape at 60...seriously, who is gonna be seeing you naked besides your equally as old husband?

i care because its about ME. i dont care what other people think. as i said in my op. it's for me, and about me. i like to look good for me. it is a matter of how i feel.

Andygirl
08-04-2008, 10:35 AM
The other thing is, you might not be able to imagine not feeling this way NOW, at your present age. But as you get older, your ideas about everything evolve, and if you are like most people that will include your attitude about what beauty really is. When we are young we tend to look at superficial things to define beauty, but as we age we realize that someone who is truly beautiful has more than just good looks and a good body. It's the total package that counts.

anomar
08-04-2008, 10:35 AM
Oh man, ever since I stopped dancing my metabolism's slowed to a crawl and I've gained nothing but fat and lost nothing but muscle. It's not too obvious to anyone but myself -- I can eat a small meal and still feel bloated. I see little freckles not fading away and old stripper injuries always always hurt, especially if it's humid outside.

And yet, I look at my partner, someone I have complete conviction I'll stay with forever, and I'm just excited to think about how he's getting better and better looking. He has sharp features and high cheekbones and classy hair that will look good as it gets silver. He's going to get hotter and hotter as time goes on, so maybe I will too..?

msonyxorb
08-04-2008, 11:50 AM
yup, i'm the same way. man but you have an awesome body haha!



i care because its about ME. i dont care what other people think. as i said in my op. it's for me, and about me. i like to look good for me. it is a matter of how i feel.

Yeah it is you...at 60. you will probably look 60. its normal to be saggy and a litttle wrinkly at that age. it is so sad how women nowadays want to look young forever. why do you think you cant feel good looking like a normal 60 year old??? skin sags when you get older, so what??? everyone your age will be going through the same thing. the younger you try to look the more ridiculous you will look.

ViolaStrings
08-04-2008, 11:52 AM
Am I the only one who is in better shape when I'm NOT dancing? I can't make myself go to the gym when I work 2-5 times a week. I wake up in the afternoons and just be lazy. When I'm not dancing I wake up early and go to the gym.

britt244
08-04-2008, 11:52 AM
okie dokie thanks for your opinion.

anomar
08-04-2008, 11:58 AM
Am I the only one who is in better shape when I'm NOT dancing? I can't make myself go to the gym when I work 2-5 times a week. I wake up in the afternoons and just be lazy. When I'm not dancing I wake up early and go to the gym.

Nope! I was in much better shape then. Aaaaaaaaaaaaaaah. :P

CKXXX
08-04-2008, 12:08 PM
There are some 60+ women that are DAMN sexy still...Raquel Welch....Sophia Loren...Helen Mirran...Candice Bergen...Susan Sarandon(not over 60 yet,but getting there!)

Hell....Tempest Storm is still sexy as hell at 80 yrs old!!

They are my inspiration to age with class, grace and sex appeal!!

keira0304
08-04-2008, 12:36 PM
nope I'm not worried. I take really good care of myself now by not drinking, smoking or doing drugs. I eat really healthy (aspiring towards being a raw foodist but I still need to educate myself better on it), and I exercise. I don't bake in the sun and I don't put any chemicals in or on my body- I'm doing all I can right now that will prevent the physical and mental signs of aging. The women in my family age really well, so I'm not too worried about it. When you're old you should be proud of your age anyways, not hide it and pretend to be a plasticized 20 year old.

StarryEyes
08-04-2008, 12:52 PM
^^ Ye. Embrace your age.

Age is just a number anyways. I know 25 year olds who are "old" and 40 year olds who are still young.

jaizaine
08-04-2008, 07:32 PM
yup, i'm the same way. man but you have an awesome body haha!



i care because its about ME. i dont care what other people think. as i said in my op. it's for me, and about me. i like to look good for me. it is a matter of how i feel.

thanks sexy and so do you!!
at least our boobs will still be perky when we are old hehehehehhee.

Jenny
08-04-2008, 07:36 PM
I could have the most successful career, a beautiful house etc and I would still stress over not having a perfectly flat stomach.This is not meant to be critical - but don't you think that is actually a bit of a problem?

jaizaine
08-04-2008, 07:41 PM
This is not meant to be critical - but don't you think that is actually a bit of a problem?

Absolutely but I am FAR from normal when it comes to body image. I'm pretty sure I have BDD.

britt244
08-04-2008, 08:23 PM
This is not meant to be critical - but don't you think that is actually a bit of a problem?

yeah, it's not great.. but what's wrong with wanting a nice body? the same way that a career, or kids, a house, whatever, is important to some people, other people feel that way about their body. why is that so bad and considered "shallow"?

kitana
08-04-2008, 09:00 PM
I second the "sexier as I get older" comment. I was so insecure when I was younger. Not now!

Ditto!

We are all meant to age, it's just how gracefully that is the problem, lol.}:D

I feel better now than I have in years though, I am in better shape, I can cook better, dress better, have more curves, more sex appeal, and dammit, I got MAD bedroom skills, lol!

Flick6
08-04-2008, 09:17 PM
yeah, it's not great.. but what's wrong with wanting a nice body? the same way that a career, or kids, a house, whatever, is important to some people, other people feel that way about their body. why is that so bad and considered "shallow"?

Been following this thread, and wasnt sure what I feel about it, but on this point I think the key is, its a problem when you ARE NOT HAPPY because you are worrying about it. And can never achieve it.

Wanting a nice body or bog house or good job or whatever is fine to have a as a goal. But is not good if it makes you miserable...

Personally I seem to be getting better as I gwet older body wise, or maybe I just dont have the critical kind of mind that focuses on the blemishes that I used to have. But I definitly dont want to be old and fat and frumpy either. My mother is 58 now and she stills cares very much about how she looks, and it has nothing to do with attracting men.

Jenny
08-04-2008, 09:36 PM
yeah, it's not great.. but what's wrong with wanting a nice body? the same way that a career, or kids, a house, whatever, is important to some people, other people feel that way about their body. why is that so bad and considered "shallow"?Because your definition of "nice" is by nature ephemeral and impractical. Because a career is about accomplishing things with all of your faculties, not just looking good; kids are about... oh my gosh, so many things and looking good is just... looking good. Because it speaks to a value system based mainly and excessively on mere appearance.

Like okay - I don't want to attack someone who has a problem; but I also don't want to pretend that it is normal for someone to privilege a flat stomach over or even on par with all these other accomplishments.

Lysondra
08-04-2008, 10:58 PM
My grandmother always said, "It took me a long time to get this old.. you think I'm gonna hide it NOW!?"

Corey
08-04-2008, 11:59 PM
I'm 37 and have been a part-time dancer for a while.

I had a custy tell me recently that my body definition was so perfect that I looked air-brushed.

I had a new dancer (four days of dancing) tell me that of all the dancers she met, I had the best abs and that my pole work was the standard.

I get carded at liquor stores....in broad daylight.

But, I do need a lot more sleep these days.

Fuck aging....I'll kick it's ass:)

britt244
08-05-2008, 06:57 AM
Because your definition of "nice" is by nature ephemeral and impractical. Because a career is about accomplishing things with all of your faculties, not just looking good; kids are about... oh my gosh, so many things and looking good is just... looking good. Because it speaks to a value system based mainly and excessively on mere appearance.

Like okay - I don't want to attack someone who has a problem; but I also don't want to pretend that it is normal for someone to privilege a flat stomach over or even on par with all these other accomplishments.

i get what you're saying and that's ok for you. but like, kids? for me? having a child is not an accomplishment to me. it's not something to get excited about. because that isn't something that i personally want. having a day when i wake up and feel great and look toned? that is.

now, i could see if that were my ONLY goal in life. but since it goes along with a bigger package, maybe i'm just missing something, because i don't see why it's so bad. i went to school. i have a job besides dancing. i kind of rock AT dancing. i have other priorities. but that's up there for me too.

though i'm kind of veering from the original point of my thread.

britt244
08-05-2008, 10:12 AM
i just wanted to say, also, that it isnt about sitting around looking pretty. it takes a lot of hard work and effort to look good, and that's something i can be proud of.

TheSexKitten
08-05-2008, 11:21 AM
My grandmother always said, "It took me a long time to get this old.. you think I'm gonna hide it NOW!?"

Tip your hat to your grandma for me, because that is l33t.

One more thing! I want to have sexy gray hair.
http://www.foodnetworkfans.com/forum/attachments/paula-deen-her-sons-jamie-bobby/36d1194537934-paula-deen-pulled-herself-up-become-celebrity-cook-doc473279ed4e8aa251789439.jpg
http://glamourmag.typepad.com/fashionbeauty__insider/images/bty071022-1.jpg

Especially it all goes gray-white like that, I'm gonna stop dying it and rock that shit.

Andygirl
08-05-2008, 11:22 AM
i get what you're saying and that's ok for you. but like, kids? for me? having a child is not an accomplishment to me. it's not something to get excited about. because that isn't something that i personally want. having a day when i wake up and feel great and look toned? that is.

now, i could see if that were my ONLY goal in life. but since it goes along with a bigger package, maybe i'm just missing something, because i don't see why it's so bad. i went to school. i have a job besides dancing. i kind of rock AT dancing. i have other priorities. but that's up there for me too.

though i'm kind of veering from the original point of my thread.

I think it's fine to want to look good and feel toned, but it seems like you are saying that you never actually attain the look you are going for. It's like chasing something that is always just out of reach. I could be interpreting you wrong, but that is what I'm getting from what you are saying. It's when your looks become an obsession that it is a problem. Surely you can see how that isn't psychologically healthy.

There are so many wonderful things in life to do and see, and goals and desires to attain. I'd hate to see anyone miss out on the great things life has to offer because you are obsessed with every little physical imperfection. That, IMO, would be a tragedy.

britt244
08-05-2008, 01:56 PM
I think it's fine to want to look good and feel toned, but it seems like you are saying that you never actually attain the look you are going for. It's like chasing something that is always just out of reach. I could be interpreting you wrong, but that is what I'm getting from what you are saying. It's when your looks become an obsession that it is a problem. Surely you can see how that isn't psychologically healthy.

There are so many wonderful things in life to do and see, and goals and desires to attain. I'd hate to see anyone miss out on the great things life has to offer because you are obsessed with every little physical imperfection. That, IMO, would be a tragedy.

hmm. let me try and explain it a little better. when i'm older, i won't be able to achieve what i'm going for, most likely. and that does bother me. but as you and some others have said, maybe it won't bother me so much then? i guess i won't know til i'm there, haha. but i don't think that now i'm always going after something i can't have. i'm just worried about what the future will bring.

i'm sure there are those who can sympathize with me when i say that if i put on a few pounds, i physically do not like how that feels. if i sit down and a roll of fat were to roll over my jeans, i wouldn't like that. when i get older, and i mean OLD, not like 30, though there are valid concerns there, too, i won't have a body that i feel like i'll be able to love.

i'm bad at explaining things. i think them in my head but it's hard for me to get them out to other people...

VegasPrincess
08-05-2008, 02:17 PM
I'm really not too worried about it. I dress pretty adorably, and always will...

I take care of myself, and always will (although I'm certainly not the healthiest eater out there I do the moderation thing and am working on cleaner eating)

I will definitely not be shy to have botox, plastic surgery

I take good care of my skin, etc.

In short, I'm doing the best that I personally can do. There really isn't anything more I can do about it, so I'm not going to sweat it. I'll be somebody's hot mom one day ;)

Andygirl
08-05-2008, 03:31 PM
i'm sure there are those who can sympathize with me when i say that if i put on a few pounds, i physically do not like how that feels. if i sit down and a roll of fat were to roll over my jeans, i wouldn't like that. when i get older, and i mean OLD, not like 30, though there are valid concerns there, too, i won't have a body that i feel like i'll be able to love.

That's understandable, and the good thing is that not having a fat roll is completely within your control. I can't imagine getting to that point without noticing that I've gained a bunch of weight. As long as you keep an eye on your weight and try to maintain a good diet/exercise regimen, you'll be fine.

Jenny
08-05-2008, 04:09 PM
i get what you're saying and that's ok for you. but like, kids? for me? having a child is not an accomplishment to me. it's not something to get excited about. because that isn't something that i personally want. having a day when i wake up and feel great and look toned? that is.
Well, kids were your example, not mine. I'm not saying that everyone should want kids; I'm saying that comparing the accomplishment of raising a child to having a flat stomach and cute hair is ... just not comparable.


now, i could see if that were my ONLY goal in life. but since it goes along with a bigger package, maybe i'm just missing something, because i don't see why it's so bad. i went to school. i have a job besides dancing. i kind of rock AT dancing. i have other priorities. but that's up there for me too.
Okay. I don't want to pick on you because I honestly do think you have a problem, but you just started a thread saying that you are frightened of getting older, not because you'll die eventually, not because you'll get sick but because you won't look cute (read youthful) anymore. Like it is obviously preoccupying you. Having an interest in your looks and grooming is normal; prioritizing a youthful appearance up with career goals and life accomplishments to me seems a little disturbing. And I'm afraid the reason it is shallow is on its face - because it is a preoccupation with surface or appearance. That is what "shallow" means. I mean in this context. Not like for water.

snow white
08-05-2008, 04:39 PM
meh, if i become a lifeless vegetable when im older or succumb to alzheimers or something of that nature i'd probably kill myself. so thinking about those kind of things kinda make me sad and worry because i think when? how old? worry that i wont finish doing what i want in life before something like that happens.

as far as appearances go, i take MM advice which was along the lines of "I want to grow old without facelifts ....i want to have the courage to be loyal to the face ive made. " one day i will have the courage to face my wrinkles ;D

Dottie Rebel
08-07-2008, 12:55 AM
I'm 37 and have been a part-time dancer for a while.

I had a custy tell me recently that my body definition was so perfect that I looked air-brushed.

I had a new dancer (four days of dancing) tell me that of all the dancers she met, I had the best abs and that my pole work was the standard.

I get carded at liquor stores....in broad daylight.

But, I do need a lot more sleep these days.

Fuck aging....I'll kick it's ass:)

Rock the fuck on. I can honestly say that, at 28 (in two months) I look better than I ever have. My body is bangin' and I've just...I don't know...settled into being me. I get better every year. I look for this trend to continue to the point that by the time I'm 40 people will explode just by looking at me.

Glamazon
08-07-2008, 07:03 AM
Rock the fuck on. I can honestly say that, at 28 (in two months) I look better than I ever have. My body is bangin' and I've just...I don't know...settled into being me. I get better every year. I look for this trend to continue to the point that by the time I'm 40 people will explode just by looking at me.

I have been experiencing a similar trend since I was about 28. I'm 31 now and getting better every day!!

britt244
08-07-2008, 10:10 AM
Rock the fuck on. I can honestly say that, at 28 (in two months) I look better than I ever have. My body is bangin' and I've just...I don't know...settled into being me. I get better every year. I look for this trend to continue to the point that by the time I'm 40 people will explode just by looking at me.

/:O didnt you say in sophia ashley's thread that you felt like you were regressing and your confidence was way down n the last few years?

Dottie Rebel
08-07-2008, 01:40 PM
a) I find this odd because I can honestly say that I never notice what you say.

2) Self-confidence and self-esteem are complicated little buggers. I know that I look better than I ever have. I know on account I have photographs from a couple of years ago and I have eyes. However, day-to-day, how I interact with others, how I view myself as a whole person, my confidence has actually regressed. Sometimes do I think "Goddamn it, I am a hot bitch." Absolutely. I also suffer no confidence problems in the club, strangely. There, I reign Bad Bitch Supreme. However, outside of the club, I have become more withdrawn, more unsure of myself. I suppose you could say there is a bit of cognitive dissonance between my physical assessment of myself and my psychological state. In other words, I know what I've written here is true. But I still have this little voice that whispers what I wrote in Tart's thread. You know, I'm not sure, but I bet if you asked her she'd say she looks better than she ever has. Some of the world's most beautiful women and models have ED and huge confidence problems. Do you think they don't know they are "beautiful"? It's hard not to know you're beautiful when you're getting paid for it. But sometimes even that isn't enough to convince some part deep down inside of you.

I should add that I was being facetious when I said that people will blow up when they look at me by the time I'm 40. Just a little humor. I have settled into myself. I am no longer searching for a style. I know what looks good on me. I can say in an instant if I like something or not. But, I still struggle with whether or not the person I have "settled into" fares well when compared with other women.

I don't know. It's hard to explain. Yes, it is super contradictory, but I wholeheartedly stand by both statements.

britt244
08-07-2008, 01:44 PM
im curious bc the 2 things dont seem to line up to me. which is why i asked. geez.

got2havespunk
08-07-2008, 02:01 PM
There was a great show on anti-aging today.
The biggest factor is having High HDL and low LDL Cholesterol. Studies in humans and mice, show that humans that are older and feel younger have higher counts of HDL, and they're HDL is larger. Sounds odd, but true. To help with the affects of aging it's great to eat foods that lower LDL(bad) and raise HDL(good) cholesterol. Studies also show that drinking 2 alcoholic beverages a day (controversial to heart studies) increases HDL, especially if it is red wine. However, the stuff in red wine that REALLY lowers your LDL takes A LOT of red wine to drink, so give the pill form a try.
Other things to eat that lower LDL or oatmeal, and oat bran, Omega-3 fatty acids, nuts and many more. Just search "how to lower LDL" or "how to raise HDL".
There are no concrete studies that any one thing INCREASES HDL, just studies that show what lowers LDL. There seems to be a direct correlation though.
Also, eat foods high in anti-oxidents and take a supplement that helps eliminate free radicals. These things help with aging, skin, hair etc.
I just watched a FANTASTIC documentary on this last night, and E's research in Doctorate school related slightly. He his HIGH interest in getting into the field of life extension.
Silly as may be, there are drugs being actively researched to slow the process of aging, thus allowing humans to live longer. People used to call you crazy if you believed it, but it looks like in 10 years there are going to be drugs on the market that might be able to at least "help" slow the effects of aging.
I'm no pro...and I'm sorry this took so long.
You're gorgeous now though, and I'm sure that'll carry over.
Also...just because hair is gray doesn't mean you have to cut it. I know plenty of little old ladies with long gray hair...they just always keep it in a bun :P

jaizaine
08-07-2008, 11:20 PM
I dont think grey hair flatters anyone. It totally looks awful next to any skin tone. I think not colouring grey hair is letting yourself go.

Corey
08-08-2008, 12:48 AM
I just re-read the original thread,"Are we afraid of aging, bodywise"?

If the emphasis is on the body, then (as may have read in my above post) no.

Now, facially, THAT I am afraid of. I'm lucky to have good skin texure, but I know eventually gravity will take it's toll:( :'(

britt244
08-08-2008, 12:51 AM
^ i didnt mean just body. face, hair, etc are part of what i meant. :)

Andygirl
08-09-2008, 09:31 AM
I dont think grey hair flatters anyone. It totally looks awful next to any skin tone. I think not colouring grey hair is letting yourself go.

I've always thought Emmylou Harris is beautiful with her grey hair.
http://www.music-atlas.com/images/artists/emmylou_harris_1.jpg

Here are some more pics of older women who look great with grey:
http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/20379688/

I don't think that having grey hair is letting yourself go. Some people aren't comfortable with dying their hair. And a lot of the time, color doesn't go on grey hair properly because of it's texture. That's why you see "blue haired" old ladies. The dye just kind of slides off.

There's something to be said for aging gracefully and not trying to hang on to everything young. At some point you just have to face the fact that you are getting older. You can either embrace it or you can spend your time and energy trying to recapture something that is no longer there. That's not to say you shouldn't try to keep yourself up--of course you should. But accepting yourself the way you are is part of being a mature adult.

margo80
08-09-2008, 03:09 PM
I kind of have Diane Sawyer as a role model for when I get older. She looks a lot like me in an older version, and I love her grace and style. She takes care of herself, and it shows.

I think happiness-that true sparkle in the eye kind-is really important toward beauty and youth. I'm also all for plastic surgery, working out, eating well, etc.

A lot of what we think about getting older depends on our environment. I mean, if our mothers and other women in our lives "taught" us that old is 35, then between that attitude and the likely genes they have given us, that will be the number. Genetics play a very important role.

It's a little sad that women have come so far, yet there is still that pain of needing to look 18 in order to be acceptable for a lot of us. There are still many women who depend on their looks for their core of self-esteem.

CherryBomb954
08-09-2008, 08:52 PM
.. but what's wrong with wanting a nice body? the same way that a career, or kids, a house, whatever, is important to some people, other people feel that way about their body. why is that so bad and considered "shallow"?


NOTHING is wrong with that.

I hate it. Why is it considered "vain", "self centered", "pretentious" ....I don't get it.
I care very much about having a nice body. Like you said too about having the fat roll and not liking the way it feels and how it makes YOU feel. When I am out of shape, I feel uncomfortable in my own skin even when I am home alone. It's not all about caring how other people see me and being an object of envy and admiration of others. Yes, those things are great too and anyone who denies they don't like that are liars. Everyone at one point in their lives, I don't care who you are, has fantasied about being envied, being lusted after, or admired by others. It's just human nature in my opinion and it doesn't make you a bitch, or "shallow" or any of those other terms listed above. There is a reason one of the biggest fantasies for the common woman is being a stripper. How many soccer moms probably have a 'Lil Mynx in their bedroom that they break out on the weekends when the kids are asleep? I'm gonna take a guess and say probably thousands. Also how many female custies that sit there and dog us, calling us every name in the book, given a chance to jump up on stage and swing around the pole would be all on it? All of them.
Also there is nothing bad about coming out of the gym feeling and looking like a million bucks. Never mind how excercise makes you look anyway.....how about the energy boost and feeling of wellness that is derived from it?

If others are happy with themselves, comfortable in their own skin being overweight and out of shape, or feel like they should not have to care about their appearance cause the world owes a debt to them for having a baby.....that's their life and the way they choose to live it is none of my business. However, don't look at me as "shallow" or a fake person just because I choose to diet, exercise and just be very body conscious in general. I LIKE fitting into my size 2 jeans. I LIKE looking good in my photo shoots. I LIKE feeling good in my own skin, feeling physically comfortable in clothes and feeling healthy. I am also a very nice person who by no means is caught up in anything bad or shallow in my lifestyle.