View Full Version : guy im seeing his best friend is his ex.....
xdamage
08-15-2008, 04:10 PM
i dont think its that, the guys i am physically attracted to, generally arent the best guys sadly. im only attracted to heavily tattooed guys, and most have issues, hate to say.
Well, you have heard the tale about the Madonna Whore Complex.
The equivalent tale is the one about "Women Lust after the Bad Boys, but eventually end up Marrying the Good Guys".
Both are stereotypes and there are a huge number of exceptions, but like so many stereotypes they probably became popular because there is something to it.
SportsWriter2
08-15-2008, 07:31 PM
i dont think its that, the guys i am physically attracted to, generally arent the best guys sadly. im only attracted to heavily tattooed guys, and most have issues, hate to say.
Get the rainbow set of 25 Sharpies and draw on guys. That gives you more options. Some guys secretly want tattoos but don't feel people in their profession would accept it. :-\
Golden_Rule
08-17-2008, 01:20 AM
hey this is my first time posting a question on blue so i hope i get some good responses.
im dating this guy, he is totally amazing, everything is perfect....except one of his best friend is his ex that he was with for 8 years.
they have been broken up for 2, and he seems to be a really honest guy, but it still kind of bothers me. they go shopping together and sometimes get lunch. shes really the only long term relationship he has ever had, since hes 26.
should i worry? honestly? i want long term relationship with him and he seems really into me, but this just seems wierd.
The very first woman I ever fell in love with is still close to me. We are more like brother and sister now days than former lovers.
Every long term relationship since has had to get use to the fact that I have this person in my life who is a dear friend to me know, like family, that I talk to from time to time and travel to see [or she comes to see me - she lives in another state].
The way I handled the situation with my wife was to introduce the two of them and she became a friend of my wife as well. So that put her at ease because this was no longer just my former GF, now very good friend, but her friend as well.
See if you can arrange to meet this woman and make a friend of her. It will set your mind at ease. She'll tell you everything she knows about him, including things from his past you probably wouldn't know otherwise. You'll not only be able to rest easier, you'll know more about the man in your life than you do now.
Just a notion.
P.S.: I don't mean meet her without his knowledge. I mean go through him to meet her. Tell him that if this person is important to him as a friend you'd like her to be your friend too.
That is something that people who see each other do. Introduce them to each others friends, after all. :)
P.P.S.: If you TRULY love someone romantically and it ends for reasons that weren't horribly ugly [in this case it was that she couldn't imagine being married to a cop, so when I choose to become one she begged off because it wasn't something she could see herself doing the rest of her life] the love CAN evolve into something else.
Frankly, if you can just stop loving someone I would wonder if you ever actually loved them in the first place.
i.breathe.in
08-29-2008, 06:29 AM
update: apparently his ex WAS trying to fuck up his life, he emailed me and said i was right and he was sorry. i knew my intuition was right, but at least i found out about his character early on.
no i will not give him another second chance.
xdamage
08-29-2008, 06:57 AM
update: apparently his ex WAS trying to fuck up his life, he emailed me and said i was right and he was sorry. i knew my intuition was right, but at least i found out about his character early on.
no i will not give him another second chance.
I hate to be the pessimist but someone should be.
Possible translation - His EX just cut him off again and he is looking for replacement booty starting with his most likely options.
After all, the previous story if I understood right is that they were good friends, but that is all? Now he is painting her as evil and asking for what? A sympathetic ear? That evil witch is trying to fuck up my life! IBI, Come hold me?
i.breathe.in
08-29-2008, 06:59 AM
ill intentions or not fuck him. he had his chance.
UtahMike
08-31-2008, 12:29 AM
^^ And considering whom he passed up, he is too stupid to bother with.