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Aubreyyy
08-10-2008, 10:35 AM
Ok :) I can handle this!

Friday we're going to drive around "horse country" in New Jersey since I haven't seen a horse in 6 months. His idea. What a cutie :D

I am very glad that I did this- he told me last night if I ever needed anything from him (obviously talking about money) that he'd always help me out. I hope I never have to call him, but its always good to have a backup plan :)

retiredangel
08-10-2008, 10:49 AM
Well...gonna' put a different twist on this: I am married and when I "want something",I often play up to my husband a bit and then mention that ,"Oh...by the way,I need X amount of dollars for." He bites everytime and I know I'll get what I want that way even though I already get an allowance,I can count on this little scenario for extras.
I see no difference,really...women have been "using men" to get something since the dawn of time and it's been my experience that they usually expect and love it.

Don't be so hard on yourself: you didn't "set out" with a plan to become a paid-companion,it simply happened and good for you that a decent and generous man is involved.
It's nice to have "friends" you can count on that aren't bad in bed either!
Let the flames begin...LOL!

txchick008
08-10-2008, 11:19 AM
Why? /:O

It was just the initial feeling I got when I read the OP (wife being out of town, etc).

I could be completely wrong, so please don't think I am trying to start drama or anything. I just wouldn't put it past a man to feed a story like that (about having an "open marriage -her idea"), to someone he was having an affair with. Just my $0.02. I sincerely hope (for everyone's sake), that he is being honest and really does have an open marriage, and no one gets hurt in the end :)

TigersMilk
08-10-2008, 11:25 AM
paid for sex=hooker. I don't see how the lines can be blurred.

I agree with this. I also don't see a damn thing wrong either. You know how many CL hookers would love to get that much? lol

TarsTone
08-10-2008, 12:25 PM
I would have a hard time believing that.
Add me to the list of non-believers.

I'm just not buying that his wife came up with the idea for this dude to bring a girl home and bang away while she's out of town!!

Sorry. I'm calling BS on that one.

Aubreyyy
08-10-2008, 12:39 PM
The thing about his wife is...that I really don't get the "lie" vibe from him when he tells me how she can to this decision- and I'm normally a very skeptical person.

Well, that, and the second time I was over a family friend stopped by to get a towel. I was naked, and the friend didn't bat an eyelash and neither did he. He introduced me as his "friend". The fam friend even joked with him about being naked together at their last nudey pool party :)

I'm pretty sure she's just really cool.

99baloons
08-10-2008, 12:50 PM
Hey he's a lawyer, he's charged more for less and never felt bad about it.
Why feel guilty about earning from your assets.

i.breathe.in
08-10-2008, 12:54 PM
aubreeey im still curious i dont think you answered, would your bf care that you are getting money and gifts from someone you are fucking even if you are in an open relationship?

Aubreyyy
08-10-2008, 12:59 PM
^^

My boyfriend has called the guy my "mark" farrrrr before I ever saw him OTC. After I told him I was dancing, he'd always ask about my custies. I've told him about the guy and he thinks its pretty funny that he does all these things for me- mainly b/c my boyfriend is selfish and would never think to say... GIFT me when it wasn't required. He's kinda dumb.

For that reason, I doubt he'd see it as anything terrible. We do have a "don't ask, don't tell" policy about going outside the relationship though, so it'd never come up.

i.breathe.in
08-10-2008, 01:00 PM
gotcha i was just curious.

CKXXX
08-10-2008, 02:01 PM
Add me to the list of non-believers.

I'm just not buying that his wife came up with the idea for this dude to bring a girl home and bang away while she's out of town!!

Sorry. I'm calling BS on that one.

I do when I'm out of town. I'm ALL for hubby finding a girl he likes and has fun with while I'm gone. I'm usually with friends and having fun even though I'm working...so I feel MUCH better when he's having fun too...whether its with friends or fucking another chick he likes. It's all good.

Sophia_Ashley
08-10-2008, 02:13 PM
I agree with this. I also don't see a damn thing wrong either. You know how many CL hookers would love to get that much? lol


lol CL hookers get paid in "roses" this is 1,500 roses hah

Yekhefah
08-10-2008, 02:15 PM
I do when I'm out of town. I'm ALL for hubby finding a girl he likes and has fun with while I'm gone. I'm usually with friends and having fun even though I'm working...so I feel MUCH better when he's having fun too...whether its with friends or fucking another chick he likes. It's all good.

Ditto that! ;D

LilyLove
08-10-2008, 03:22 PM
lol CL hookers get paid in "roses" this is 1,500 roses hah

Haha. There is one around here who gets paid in "spankinz." lol.

ExoticEngineer
08-10-2008, 03:59 PM
I do when I'm out of town. I'm ALL for hubby finding a girl he likes and has fun with while I'm gone. I'm usually with friends and having fun even though I'm working...so I feel MUCH better when he's having fun too...whether its with friends or fucking another chick he likes. It's all good.


Third on that.

Granted, not everyone can even think this way, so I know it can be hard to believe, but as long as we are open with each other, everything is fair game.

And I usually want to hear the details! }:D

Kaiyla
08-10-2008, 06:12 PM
I wouldn't fuss over the semantics of it. You know in your heart whether it's right for YOU or not, and that's all that really matters.

Miss_Luscious
08-10-2008, 07:03 PM
Yeah, I'm fourthing the pen relationship thing. I love to watch and I like hearing the details of his experiences with other women. It's just sex after all. I know where his heart is.

Aubreyyy - I'm glad you're enjoying yourself. It's rare to find that kind of combo in a guy who also happens to pay you handsomely for the privilege of fucking you. You must got that good stuff girl!

GoldCoastGirl
08-10-2008, 08:09 PM
Add me to the list of non-believers.

I'm just not buying that his wife came up with the idea for this dude to bring a girl home and bang away while she's out of town!!

Sorry. I'm calling BS on that one.

If I was his wife, I would. Damn, I already say this to my boyfriend! I already tell him that if there is ever a time I can't fulfill him sexually for whatever reason (illness, not in the mood for a week, etc) then I would not hold it against him to go find sex elsewhere.

It's about sex. Not love, imo. The fact that they're naturalists/nudists thus already pretty alternative doesn't phase me that they may also be in an open relationship.

I'm with everyone else that says enjoy what you have since you are enjoying it.. don't question it. He's just being generous. Put a label on it or not, totally up to you.



I'm also with the others when I enjoy the voyeuristic aspect of it. I'm always telling my man that whenever he does (tho' he says he won't at least he knows he can), my favourite thing to say to him is "Don't forget to take the camera!". ;)

I found my "inner voyeur" in a 3some experience, funnily enough. I totally got off seeing "the man" I was with at the time (my playmate, nothing more) getting 'blown' by the other girl. Oh so hot! :hot: :drool:

Ever since .. yeah.. I'm totally into "my man" (be it a boyfriend or playmate) fucking other women.

I wasn't always like this as I've said. Thus I believe it.

Lexi
08-10-2008, 08:26 PM
......

margo80
08-10-2008, 08:30 PM
There are a lot of people who find this completely fine. This is a big part of why it's difficult to make the kind of money dancing should offer-too many dancers sleep with their customers for money. They always say how hot, etc. the experience, but really, they are customers and the dancer is getting paid. Doesn't take much to figure out what's going on, as for your "question".

I almost guarantee you this guy will have different expectations for the rest of us dancers (the ones offering only dancing for money) if he comes to our club.

To see the responses of some of the SW dancers, it makes me realize why dancers are (generally) having the difficulties they are re dealing with customers who want extras. It makes me not feel sorry for dancers, as it appears it's our own fault. For a day of big bucks (multiplied by MANY dancers meeting OTC), the potential many good days at the club are being ruined for clean dancers. I'm glad this isn't my main source of income, that's all I have to say.

Aubreyyy
08-10-2008, 10:16 PM
^^^

You're right. The general downfall of strippers everywhere has NOTHING to do with the economy and everything to do with me. Where's that eye-rolling smiley?

Lysondra
08-10-2008, 10:18 PM
There are a lot of people who find this completely fine. This is a big part of why it's difficult to make the kind of money dancing should offer-too many dancers sleep with their customers for money. They always say how hot, etc. the experience, but really, they are customers and the dancer is getting paid. Doesn't take much to figure out what's going on, as for your "question".

I almost guarantee you this guy will have different expectations for the rest of us dancers (the ones offering only dancing for money) if he comes to our club.

To see the responses of some of the SW dancers, it makes me realize why dancers are (generally) having the difficulties they are re dealing with customers who want extras. It makes me not feel sorry for dancers, as it appears it's our own fault. For a day of big bucks (multiplied by MANY dancers meeting OTC), the potential many good days at the club are being ruined for clean dancers. I'm glad this isn't my main source of income, that's all I have to say.

Hmm prostitution is legal here and strippers still make bank. Your argument does not work.

GoldCoastGirl
08-10-2008, 11:44 PM
Prostitution is legal in Nevada and a lot of girls make bank there..... right?

margo80, you will find you are alone in your argument. i cannot agree either. it's all the sex industry even if you work in a bikini no touch strip club. if it's labelled 'adult entertainment' then you are sex industry and thus .. yeah.. I don't see your point.

Lysondra
08-10-2008, 11:46 PM
Now that I think of it... money seems to be more fruitful for strippers where there's legal prostitution. :O

madmaxine
08-11-2008, 12:11 AM
This whole thread made me have many thoughts. The most relevant one being a riddle from the Middle Ages:

"What does a woman want the most?"

"Her own way."

You got it your way with this guy, which was fortunate. You don't have to call yourself anything you don't want to be.

OTOH, hookers have been around since the beginning of recorded history so there's no reason for navelgazing. Remember to invest some of that money!!!

Perry
08-11-2008, 01:37 AM
^^ Isn't that from the Canterbury Tales? Loved it!

Except that the guy was a rapist and still ended up all happily ever after... :O

shasta
08-11-2008, 03:11 AM
I don't see why you'd give a rat's ass "what people are going to think" (why would they even know, it's none of their business) or what kind of label you put on it. Some people are going to consider it prostitution, some aren't. What matters is what YOU think of it. If you want to have sex with him, then do. If you don't, then don't. If you want to take the money, then do. If you don't, then don't. Anyone else's opinion is irrelevant.

What she said.

Vyanka
08-11-2008, 07:30 AM
My conscience is I guess just really hard for me to deal with about things like this... I've found myself recently doing things that I thought I would NEVER do (dance, have sex with an "SD", etc). I don't really feel bad about it til I realized I never thought I'd do any of these things.

I don't know, I'm weird like that.

All I know is that I'm veryyyyy lucky that the one guy from the club that worships the ground I walk on is cute, rich, generous, great in bed and willing to pay :)

Lucky b*tch:P , is all I have to say. LOL. ;)

VegasPrincess
08-11-2008, 09:52 AM
There are a lot of people who find this completely fine. This is a big part of why it's difficult to make the kind of money dancing should offer-too many dancers sleep with their customers for money. They always say how hot, etc. the experience, but really, they are customers and the dancer is getting paid. Doesn't take much to figure out what's going on, as for your "question".

I almost guarantee you this guy will have different expectations for the rest of us dancers (the ones offering only dancing for money) if he comes to our club.

To see the responses of some of the SW dancers, it makes me realize why dancers are (generally) having the difficulties they are re dealing with customers who want extras. It makes me not feel sorry for dancers, as it appears it's our own fault. For a day of big bucks (multiplied by MANY dancers meeting OTC), the potential many good days at the club are being ruined for clean dancers. I'm glad this isn't my main source of income, that's all I have to say.

Don't take it out on us because you're having a hard time making money at work!! And I'm sorry, this guy will not have different expectations of going to a strip club! He never asked her to do anything in the club, he totally respected the boundaries there! I've *gasp!* dated two guys I met at work...I still talk to both of them...and they still go to the strip clubs looking for a dance, not a date.

How rude!

Miss_Luscious
08-11-2008, 10:35 AM
While I agree that extras in the club may be bad for a club (although there were extras in my old club and I never saw a decrease in my money), What happens OTC often has no effect on ITC girls' earnings. Especially if it's with a regular. I've had guys who have been known to do OTC activities wih girls come in and pay me for my time and dances. They often get what they can get from whoever is giving even if it's not full out sex.

wasfatboy
08-11-2008, 11:05 AM
you are in no way a prostitute under the definition or by your actions.
you did not state a fee for services to be rendered prior to the service.

pros·ti·tu·tion (prŏs'tĭ-tū'shən, -tyū'-)
n.
The act or practice of engaging in sex acts for hire.
The act or an instance of offering or devoting one's talent to an unworthy use or cause.


i would say you are a mistress

mis·tress (mĭs'trĭs)
n.
A woman who has a continuing sexual relationship with a usually married man who is not her husband and from whom she generally receives material support.
A woman in a position of authority, control, or ownership, as the head of a household: “Thirteen years had seen her mistress of Kellynch Hall” (Jane Austen).

A woman who owns or keeps an animal: a cat sitting in its mistress's lap.
A woman who owns a slave.
A woman with ultimate control over something: the mistress of her own mind.

A nation or country that has supremacy over others: Great Britain, once the mistress of the seas.
Something personified as female that directs or reigns: “my mistress . . . the open road” (Robert Louis Stevenson).
A woman who has mastered a skill or branch of learning: a mistress of the culinary art.
Mistress Used formerly as a courtesy title when speaking to or of a woman.
Chiefly British. A woman schoolteacher.

the monitary contribution was a gift and not payment of a fee for services renderd.

now that the technical explaination is over, i say if you feel good about it do it!

ViolaStrings
08-11-2008, 11:32 AM
I totally did the rich guy mistress thing for a while. At the time it was awesome and I was showered with money, gifts, and went on lots of awesome trips. In retrospect, I see that I would have been treated better and made more money if I had invested that amount of time and energy into being an escort :( But I NEVER want to be a hooker, but I didn't see myself as one because I really cared for the guy. I think he saw me as one, though. They can take advantage of your affection for you and short change you over time - watch out!

Sophia_Starina
08-11-2008, 12:01 PM
Define yourself, don't let others define you.

Dixie_Vancouver
08-11-2008, 01:27 PM
Who needs a label? Regardless of whether you decide it was or wasn't prostitution, it happened and the logistics of the situation are the same, so the label doesn't mean anything.
From what you've said here, you don't see anything wrong with it and that's all that matters. Have fun, and if there happens to be extra benefits, then all the better!

jasmine
08-11-2008, 01:35 PM
I wouldn't worry about defining it. You are NOT doing all the things that make prostitution so unsavory imo. You are not sleeping with someone you don't want to, you are not risking your life by hanging around with the lowlifes that frequent some prostitutes. His wife knows about it (and I do believe him on this, because guys who are sneaking around generally don't want you anywhere NEAR their zipcode, much less in their actual home).

Guard your heart, because this sort of man really is usually looking for short time entertainment, but in the mean time, if he treats you well and you feel good about it.... Enjoy!

head turner
08-11-2008, 06:56 PM
just don't label it..

I wouldn't call that crystal clear prostitution. But I have to give you a HIGH FIVE.

StarryEyes
08-11-2008, 08:11 PM
Are you falling in love with him?

Aubreyyy
08-11-2008, 08:20 PM
^^^

Nooooo wayyyyy :) He still does things that make me go "Oh, bless his 45 year old trying-too-hard heart" lol

StarryEyes
08-11-2008, 08:43 PM
OK. :P :D

For a second there I was like Oh Shit she's falling for him...

Elusive21
08-11-2008, 11:27 PM
I didn't read any of the responses, if that makes a difference, but in my opinion:

You genuinely like him and enjoy spending time with him

Sex is great

You get money on top of it - a LOT of money

It's a win win situation for everybody!

Who cares about the technicalities of what this would be called? A call girl, an escort, a fuck buddy - those terms are relative. They don't mean much.

StarryEyes
08-12-2008, 12:48 AM
If everyone is happy and nobody is getting hurt, then hey...

txchick008
08-12-2008, 04:12 AM
I had an older man (early 40's) that I dated about 5 years ago. He got me a very nice 4-bedroom rental home and paid the rent a year in advance, all my bills, sent me about $2000/month for incidentals, and spoiled me like CRAZY. He traveled a lot, so we only got together about once a month. Was I a "call-girl"? I didn't think so, but a lot of people used the term sugar daddy/sugar baby. I had no idea what that REALLY meant back then, but I can see how it looked now. I never felt bad and I still don't. Not ashamed of it in any way. He was attractive, not some ugly fat guy. He was brilliant (Harvard-educated), and generally nice to be around. It was mutually beneficial. I never looked at it as money for sex, or ANYTHING like that. I called him my boyfriend, didn't date others....it just so happened he was wealthy and helped me out so that I didn't have to work and could spend time raising my daughter.

I say, if this guy's marriage is truly an open marriage, no drama (that would be my only concern and would NEED to verify that myself) - you might as well enjoy it while you can. A lot of women would take advantage of the situation as well. They may judge, but the majority would do it themselves. You are definitely not alone in any of it. I hope it all works out for ya.