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CherryBomb954
05-08-2009, 03:17 AM
Well, single moms are the only people that matter in the world and also the only ones that have financial issues......you didn't know?? Come on, get with the times. Squeeze one out from some random dude so you can matter in the world....sheesh. It's so simple.

chitownchick
05-08-2009, 05:21 PM
there will always be those guys who want to "save a stripper" and will do anything to make themselves feel like they are making a difference in the girls life. sad but true....but there are only so many of those customers in the world, so you cant rely on that hustle....

gypsydancer
05-10-2009, 10:35 PM
Well, single moms are the only people that matter in the world and also the only ones that have financial issues......you didn't know?? Come on, get with the times. Squeeze one out from some random dude so you can matter in the world....sheesh. It's so simple.

thats hilarious! ;D

Evan86
05-11-2009, 01:21 PM
Thank you!!

At my old club, there were some girls who were always whining to the custies about their financial woes. One of my semi-regulars did the same shit to me....talkin' about how "she needs to pay a ticket....she needs to pay her bills."

I said, "We all have bills. But if tacky and unprofessional girls turns you on, I won't stand in your way." He was getting on my nerves anyay and I knew I was probably leaving, so I didn't even care if he ever gave me another cent.

That is just...tacky and unprofessional. It is possible to parade around semi-naked/naked in a room full of strangers while maintaining at least some sort of dignity.::)

Crow2
05-11-2009, 03:34 PM
I really hate this sort of approach.. Wah me, poor me, I'm so poor. Gag me.

And - ( I'm not bagging on anybody, so don't even go there ) it seems like to me, it's always the little bitty, tiny frame girls who try to work this.

If I did something like that people would look at me as if I had just gone insane. Quickly.

* sighs *

black_widow
05-12-2009, 12:06 AM
I personally think this tactic is demeaing because it really highlights the crap end of what we are doing which could be construed as beggging men for money. Back when I started dancing it was always men begging ME to do a lapdance--there would be lines of them, and now because of this economy it seems like us dancers are all begging men for scraps. I seriously feel sometimes when I go into work that I am a dog fighting for table scraps. There is a girl I work with who will CONSTANTLY fight me for men and when only two walk through the door every 4 hours, I just feel completely demeaned to sit there and bicker with her about who "gets them".

Add to this the girls that tell tales of woe and sorrow and it makes us all sound like whiny, poor, emotionally fucked up people. I WILL admit that on a few bad nights I have sat down with a customer and when they have asked me how my night was going, I've seriously told them the truth and I've bitched to them a little about how much life sucks. But NOT with the goal in mind to GET MONEY. I figure that if I sit there and bitch negatively about my life and my money they will NOT WANT me to dance for them because it's a turn off. Honestly, I've never even thought you COULD pity hustle, but I guess if you're manipulative, and desparate enough it could work. I guess it also helps to have a million kids and to be single, and since I have neither one of those two things, my "pity hustle" wouldn't work as well.

I just am too proud to do shit like that. I'm ok with bitching and losing my temper but NOT ok with literally begging for table scraps. I try not to be negative, and for the most part I'm not (at least not at work), but we all have those days where we lose it. BUT it's another thing entirely to go to work every day with a new sob story and to lay on the guilt trip to men hoping they will give you money to go see your H man.

Urgh. The thought just disgusts me. No girls really do this at my work, and I honestly haven't seen much of it ever. But then again, I've just generally worked at a lot of clubs with a lot of snobby, bitchy dancers who think their shit don't stink, and they'd be the last ones to sit and beg for money.

chitownchick
05-12-2009, 07:52 PM
i haerd two girls ttalking in dressing room when i came and they were saying that other girls basically dont have the right to complain or earn as muchmoney as them ecause they have kids. not only do they have kids but are living off food stamps and obviously hen one of them makes at least 200 a night or more she sshould be spending that on her kid. it make me sick how they talka bout money everyone is short on money right now but your kids not entitle you to any more money then i shoud get to make, no matter what i spend it on.

i didnt want to say anytthing becaus e i stay out of shit but if this conversation had been anywhere else i would hav =e jumped in and said something. i thought they were talking about me, but i dont think they were, maybe they were, i know for a fact the one gir has a major drinking problem and drug proble, and im not judging but she spends all the money she mkes at work on drinks and drugs. then they proceed to complain about how their babaies dadies dont ask to see the kids nor do they offer child supports. ok idiots, take them to court then.

what the fuck. dont complain about something like this if you ir not going to do anything sbout it you. they blaintantly just ant everyone to feel bad for them, which i feel no here near bad for them. i mean kids are expensive, you know that before you have one. .so get your shit straight, make money or save money if you can. if you really love your kids then put all your money into them. dont rely on handouts and regulars to pay your bills for you,

the one girl who is a drunk, the other drinks alot but is gotten herself more together. the drunk girl does make decent money but she lives off food stamps. the whole point of dancing is to make more money then you would ith a regular job, so you have more tme to yourself, with your kids whatever. there is no reason that you should be begging for money from customers.

one customer said to me that she asked him for 43.00 to pay her dealer. i mean at least make something up, she just asked him straight up, not offering a dance or anything. the guy had more money then that but was annoyed that she just asked for it. he would have done a dance so she oculd have made the moeny but she expects handouts because she has kids. what the fuck???

cashing in
05-13-2009, 02:34 AM
there is one girl i know in an old club and she was a total addict and she was always saying how hard it is to pay for her kid - she wasn't alowed to see her and when after 3 years she was allowed to see the kid every other weeked she missed mst of the viits.
I worked one night and got in a blazing row with her after only one man came in and spent all his monney on me saying i was scamming him!, she tried stealing him off me when he was the only customer in the club making it so obvious.
She was angry because it was her kids birthday the next day, if she had saved £2 a week then she would have been fine or just bought a present the week before when she earned money! she bought her kid a cheap pencil case!

here's a picture

http://www.darkindulgence.co.uk/gallerys/phoebe/index.htm
http://www.darkindulgence.co.uk/about.htm

which is actualy a very good airbrushed picture add to that she stinks, is rude, loud beches and has n idea what being lady like means!

She snatches guys wallets when they say they dont want a dance and checks their money and when they are drunk will get a dance just to get their money back! Realy filthy dancer - when dances in the uk are air dances - dont know how she gets away with it!

Crow2
05-13-2009, 04:05 PM
You know, it's one thing to talk about somebody else you work with - but to out them on a public internet forum that CUSTOMERS and STRIPPERS alike frequent is terribly tacky.

No matter how much you dislike them or think they should not be working.

Not very ladylike of you... Really.

cashing in
05-14-2009, 03:19 AM
You know, it's one thing to talk about somebody else you work with - but to out them on a public internet forum that CUSTOMERS and STRIPPERS alike frequent is terribly tacky.

No matter how much you dislike them or think they should not be working.

Not very ladylike of you... Really.

how has that got anything to do with being ladylike?!

SerenaSin
05-14-2009, 07:56 AM
Regardless of the "ladylike" comment, I'd be kinda concerned about this dancer finding your post, figuring out who you are and starting some shit with you at work.

cashing in
05-18-2009, 02:20 AM
i dont work with her and there is no way my club would haver her inside even as a customer, she cant drive and wouldnt be able to get to my club because all her money goes on drugs and if she did fuck with me she would come out worse off!

Oksana23
05-18-2009, 02:48 PM
If i feel i need to come up with a reason *why* i need his money, i ususally say, it's x-occasion in 2 weeks, and I'm going to vegas! I then tell them I've never been before, but I hear its expensive blah blah blah, its kind of a pity tale, but its not sad, like "i have cancer". You just say how work hard all the time, you want to go relax and have a vacation...they can feel good about spending money on you, they are helping you with your trip, so everybody wins!

NREXM
05-18-2009, 03:26 PM
I've never done a pity hustle. It's too hard for me to be dishonest about my life. I could never lie to a customer about having children, being in debt, or trying to pay off medical bills. I'd just feel too uncomfortable and would later regret it. I tell people the truth when it comes to money--we talk about cars, investments, houses, ect.

Though I can see where the pity hustle works. I twisted my ankle one night and wanted to stay at work since it was busy and I needed the money. I ended up hobbling over to customers and made bank that night because so many people felt sorry for my injury.

firemaiden04
05-18-2009, 11:05 PM
I also refuse to do the pity hustle...I don't think it would ever have occurred to me that any girl would do this, till I actually saw it with my own eyes. Of course, if I did try that hustle it would be a total fucking lie.

At my club, the girls who use this hustle the most are the ones that come in late when they're not scheduled, have some desperate story about how badly they need money, then several hours into the shift start bitching about how it's so dead, then ask to leave early. Which makes absolutely no fucking sense to me.

Pretty_Penny
06-02-2009, 06:46 PM
If i feel i need to come up with a reason *why* i need his money, i ususally say, it's x-occasion in 2 weeks, and I'm going to vegas! I then tell them I've never been before, but I hear its expensive blah blah blah, its kind of a pity tale, but its not sad, like "i have cancer". You just say how work hard all the time, you want to go relax and have a vacation...they can feel good about spending money on you, they are helping you with your trip, so everybody wins!

yeah, but you're saying that when THEY ask YOU why and you aren't whining about it. there's a big diff. now if you were telling guys "i wanted to go to vegas next weekend. i have a hotel booked and everything, but i haven't made enough money..." that would be different.

J.D.
06-02-2009, 07:00 PM
There used to be a girl on here that would try to pity hustle us dancers! She always had a sob story and was asking for money, thank God she disappeared! People like that irritate me!

SerenaSin
09-22-2009, 09:56 AM
The other night got me thinking about this thread- a guy who had been in the club for hours was finally sitting alone after getting dances and chatting with girls a lot of the night. When I approached him and we started talking and laughing he looked at me, amazed, and was like "wow, you're like, really FUN! I'm glad you finally came up to me, I'd been waiting for you all night. You're actually nice and fun to talk to!" He said that he was bummed earlier cuz the other girl he got a dance from was telling him something about someone she knew having cancer and so he felt obligated to get a dance from her :P Ugh I don't want customers feeling OBLIGATED to get pity-dances. That does not bring them back into the club

femmefatale88
09-22-2009, 07:27 PM
Well there is nothing sexy about the "pity me" hustle even if it works. I would never be caught dead hustling that way because I aim to sell a fantasy and sex appeal rather than pity. And I agree with SerenaSin that it does not keep the customers coming back for more. Whatever way other girls make their money is their business. I am happy with what I make and how I make it.

cyberstripper
09-22-2009, 08:37 PM
Hey don't hate on the pity girls. ITC i could never use a pity hustle but I do so all the time with my webcam guys. My cam guys do eat it up they think they are helping me out, etc. (Please keep in mind i am completely sober and I live a nice lifestyle) BUT After all it is a hustle, don't take it so seriously. Instead of hatin on the pity girls, tighten up your own hustle, and if you cant beat em, swallow your pride and join em. Money is money, and it is a HUSTLE not the real you, then leave that pity party ITC and walk home with hundreds!

I have never used a pity hustle in the club, I cannot bring myself to do it in person, but on webcam it is an every day occurance. I have told "close" customers I have a kid (though I don't), that I have hurt myself (knee brace on and all but no injury underneath), no car, rent late, bills late, no man, etc. I don't consider it wrong because they feel really are helping. Keep in mind these guys are my sugar daddy types, they say they truly care about me, love me etc and that is THEIR HUSTLE!

If a reg customer goes with the girl who has the kids, bring him in close and say hey, you know, I find it hard to open up to people, and really do keep my personal life private here, but I have a kid as well. I feel comfortable letting you know because we have become sooo close, but I just cant blurt it out to everyone. Hope u understand yada yad ayada

God I am so evil it hurts!

cyberstripper
09-22-2009, 08:41 PM
There is a girl I worked with for years in a few clubs who uses the pity tactic. She tells her customers she is dying of cancer, and strips because she needs money for medical treatment. I have even seen her break down crying in the lapdance room telling her "story!" To me this is disgusting. At our last club she even tried to get dancers to believe it, but after some time went by they kind of figured things out on their own and called her out on it, haha. Well she's gone now, ever since she got caught in the club with heroin.


I just dont understand why you all hate the pity hustle so much! It totally works, of course the girl is making it all up! What a great actress! I am sorry but you have to do what you have to do to make MONEY period! Hell there is a whole section here on hustlin! For each customer you must change your hustle, even have a pity hustle for some!

cyberstripper
09-22-2009, 08:42 PM
Well there is nothing sexy about the "pity me" hustle even if it works. I would never be caught dead hustling that way because I aim to sell a fantasy and sex appeal rather than pity. And I agree with SerenaSin that it does not keep the customers coming back for more. Whatever way other girls make their money is their business. I am happy with what I make and how I make it.


See to some people being the white night and "helping the poor stripper girl" is their FANTASY!!! As we all know these guys like to feel like they are the ones in control at the club and play games. What is wrong with playin games back, NOTHING! I suppose here in vegas it is easier to pull a pity hustle because you will never have to see the guy face to face again! On cam it is just so impersonal that it comes naturally for me to say anything to make money, from faking orgams to usin the good ol pity hustle haha!

J.D.
09-22-2009, 08:49 PM
^^^ Yeah, we call 'em Captain Save a Ho

cyberstripper
09-22-2009, 09:03 PM
haha girl u make me crack up, little do they know this "ho" has a house, car, and is engaged to be married. I am ho ho hoin all the way to the bank!

femmefatale88
09-23-2009, 12:28 PM
No offense but it sounds a bit unethical to have to lie to that extent to make an extra buck, just my opinion.

cyberstripper
09-23-2009, 02:42 PM
There is also a good and bad way to do the pity hustle. You should only excercise pity hustle with guys who are REGULARS, and claim to care about you! Pull them to the side and start the pity party! Whatever your hustle, it can range from kids to bills to whatever. Tell the reg you are so sorry but you have no one else to turn to. You find it very hard to open up to people ITC but you trust them, etc.

ANY HUSTLE YOU USE IS A LIE, and hell we all do have bills to pay. You can use the economy as a GREAT WAY to tell customers things are slow for you and you are struggling. From what I hear here this is happening to alot of girls, so it is not a lie after all especially if it is happening to YOU!

A bad way to do the pity hustle is if you are obviously strung out on drugs, and or with complete strangers as a tactic to get LD's. People you hardly know could really care less about you or your situation. If you involve crying do not do so in front of everyone!

There is a tacky way and a more acceptable way to get away with any hustle. TOP selleres even have pity hustles, you must only use them at the right time, and know when that time is. If you don't know when the time is right you will only make an ass of yourself. There is a time and a place for everything. What is wrong with telling a regular about your current situation, if you are struggling, and exaggerating it a bit? Absolutely nothing, I feel. It may seem tacky but if it is done right it can also lead to a closer relationship with you and the client because he sees you as a PERSON who shares the same struggles in life as he does.

The great part about pity hustle is most of the guys feel SO BAD or want to feel good for "helping someone" that they do not even want ANYTHING in return, however if you do give lapdances in return they see that you are not just in it for the $$$!