View Full Version : i'm losing it(vent)
happygiggles
08-13-2008, 03:14 PM
and i'm using wifi to someone else's internet connection. i do have a digital camera but it's broke. i use my phone. how many dollars do i have? zero. and even if my digital camera was working, it's not like i pay a bill on it so it doesnt mean i have money
NewMoon
08-13-2008, 03:25 PM
There has to be a reason you are unable to get a regular job. Could you brush up on your resume and interview skills?
Job hunting isn't easy and there is a lot of skill involved.
i.breathe.in
08-13-2008, 03:31 PM
especially a job that high school kids can get like retail, telemarketing etc...theres no reason you couldnt get something like that. at least try for part time, then dance one ot 2 days a week.
MsLayne
08-13-2008, 03:32 PM
When it comes to jobs, you need to follow up with your application, you also need to stand out. Slacks, blouse and a blazer....even if its Target.
Also, try a temp agency....they r great for finding temporary to permanent work.
i.breathe.in
08-13-2008, 03:35 PM
seriously if you cant get a job through a temp agency, you fail at life. they will hire anyone. and just becuase a job is labeled temp doesnt always mean it is, some are temp to hire if you work out well with the company.
holiday
08-13-2008, 03:38 PM
Well, there is the issue of needing a job that pays more than you'd spend on a babysitter, so you have a sitter that charges less than minimum wage, if you do that's great, but if not, you need to find a job that pays more (maybe not subway).
I'd look on craigslist for work. I know people who have done housecleaning and can charge a lot. Could you place an add to watch another baby? You could probably make $10 an hour babysitting, and you would be able to watch your daughter at the same time.
I'm really sorry you're feeling so down. I wish you lived near me and I could help watch your baby or something while you danced.
There are people that truly want to help and ways to get on your feet, but you have to have the right mind set to make that first step. You need to be positive and optimistic, you can't afford to be depressed right now :-\ your baby needs you to be strong and you do too!
LoveComesFromWithin
08-13-2008, 03:41 PM
go online and offer to clean houses if your club sux.
save money to go to counselling(sp?)
everyone needs a a counseller at certain points of their life
i.breathe.in
08-13-2008, 03:48 PM
i think you really need to look into getting public assistance, then work up from there. itll help you out till you get better on your feet and im sure they have programs to help you become employed.
vivianbear
08-13-2008, 09:33 PM
If you just want someone to say 'okay, give your daughter up for adoption because you cannot afford her'...well you aren't going to hear it from me. I know you are venting and asking for help but you just don't seem like you are willing to accept any viable alternatives. Maybe it's just me though.
Fine, then. I'll say it.
Give your daughter up for adoption. Why? Because you cannot afford to raise her. Like you said, there are several options for biological mothers to have relationships with their children and adoptive families post-adoption. Your child will continue to be in your custody (as adoption is NOT the same as entering into the foster-care system) until she is placed into the family you and an advocate feel can best provide for her. If you find the right agency, you will have access to councilors, lawyers and representatives who will provide you with all the support and walk you through literally every step of the process. You will not be left alone and after the process is complete, you'll have councilors and possibly even therapists who will help you transition out of life as a parent and help you cope with any feelings of loss or guilt. You will meet other women like you who share the same experience in your area who can offer support and encouragement. You sound like a very spiritually-led young woman and this could be your best resource.
I'm astounded by the myths that have been perpetuated in this thread surrounding adoption. Adoption is a viable and safe option for women who want better lives for their children. It happens all the time.
Adoption is not selfish, it is self-less. And the same goes for the family that will open its home to your beautiful child. Good luck.
NekkoStarz
08-13-2008, 09:40 PM
^^ I personally don't think she's doing it to benefit her daughters life. I think she just doesn't take care of her responbilities or own up to being a mother. Look at her attitude in all her threads towards everyone that's trying to give her advice & help her out.
LilyLove
08-13-2008, 09:50 PM
^ That's kind of cruel. If she can't take care of her responsibilities toward her daughter, then adoption is a very loving thing for her to do for her.
i.breathe.in
08-13-2008, 09:55 PM
i think shes capable she just doesnt have the initiative to do it, or willing to do it another way then the way she wants to.
shes getting good advice here.
if you give your kid up you will regret it, and it will damage you. its obvious you love her.
*Iris*
08-13-2008, 10:49 PM
When you feel like giving up, remember why you held on for so long in the first place.
happygiggles
08-14-2008, 08:21 AM
well i made some calls and i found out that i can register and file my appeal for my financial aid and be enrolled til it gets approved. i have my medical release from the hospital coming so hopefully it'll be approved. i went to the pony last night and they told me to come back on tuesdays. i think it's strange that they only want new girls to come on tuesdays but this is what the daytime manager told me a few weeks ago. i met a walgreens mananger and he's supposed to be getting me on there. my regular is coming in tonight. i'm praying this weekend at babes will be good. at least enough to keep my phone on and pay my credit card bills. i believe i'm going to get hired at the pony.......i hope so. last night when i went it was packed beyond belief
piepie
08-14-2008, 08:49 AM
see baby, keep it up! you doin' the damn thing girl. good job.
you made me really proud of you just now.it makes me smile so much just to read that.
i've been praying for you too.
way to go!!!hug:
MissDewdrop
08-14-2008, 09:14 AM
That's really good news re: the new club and school. Doing the best you can, being resourceful and innovative, and working hard definitely qualifies you as "good mom" material. There are plenty of poor people who provide good homes, so don't feel guilty about it. Hope it works out.
anomar
08-14-2008, 10:06 AM
Awesome. Thanks for letting us talk to you and I'm glad you can vent it all out. :)
happygiggles
08-14-2008, 10:46 AM
thanks to every one who posted on this thread. it's just hard discovering that the only way out truly is THROUGH
holiday
08-14-2008, 12:15 PM
^^^ That's very, very true. And you're a tough mama too. When I was 20 years old I sure didn't have to worry about the things you're having to. Keep going, make us all inspired by you.
LilyLove
08-14-2008, 01:53 PM
Keep up the good work mama!
NewMoon
08-15-2008, 05:23 AM
Nice to hear that!! Good luck at the Pony.
piepie
08-15-2008, 08:01 AM
i love what you said in your last post happygiggles. it is so true. i am also so glad you had everyone here to to talk it out with. it is challenging but not impossible. in the end your lil girl will say what mine does; "you are the best mommy in the whole world" even tho i know i still have lots to go.
remember to treat yourself really well. keep your standards really high as well as your aspirations. that way if you fall short of them you will still be close to the to the top.
Arizona_Angel
08-15-2008, 05:01 PM
thanks to every one who posted on this thread. it's just hard discovering that the only way out truly is THROUGH
Way true.
Congrats to you and I hope things start going your way. In time I truly believe that they will. :)