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Flaka
08-29-2008, 06:45 PM
I feel the loneliness. I have a boyfriend (5 years) and i still feel very lonely. I started talking to an old friend and felt a lot better and happier and he just stopped talking to me out of the clear blue, so I really feel like shit.

If you could just go out once in a while, like to parties and bars, and talk to people you probably won't feel so lonely, and may meet someone that you really like and that likes you too. Talking to guys in a bar/party kinda feels like speed dating to me, because if you click, you take it further, if not, you move on to the next guy.

Hope this helps, I suck in this department right now. I feel lonelier than ever!

golden41
08-30-2008, 03:09 AM
Ooooooo gay friend is a problem solver!!! When I go to bars it is the gay ones. I like watching the men be the ones who are the sex objects no matter what. And I have met a variety of understanding guys there in the past. I think I will go this saturday night!!!It is great talking to a gay guy when you are bored and lonely cuz they like to talk about all the same things as u but have a different perspective

Flaka
08-30-2008, 07:09 AM
^^ So true-gay guys are the best!!!

Sveta
08-30-2008, 09:22 AM
I enjoy being single. I'm not goona lie and say I rather be single than in a good healthy relatiohship, but I really don't have anyone I'd consider being with like that right now.

1. I go out a lot- if no one wants to come with me I go by myself
I love hitting the beach on a Monday during the day when everyone is at work. I bring a magazine and a book, ciggarettes or clove ciggarettes, and just relax.

2.Smoke ganga before bed- I have cut down drastically on the amount of pot I smoke, but there is something so relaxing about changing into big flannel jammys and an old concert tee shirt and smoking a J.

3.Get creative- writing storys, poetry, etc. Who has time for this when in a commited relationship

4.I enjoy having crushes on 3 guys at once guilt free- I love the butterflys and feeling like I'm in middle school all over again.

5. Shopping, drinking, eating- anything that a man would guilt trip you for doing!

6.A lot of my friends are male- so I get some sort of male bonding regularly. We don't hook up, but we go out to see a movie or grab a bite to eat.

:yes: to all of the above! I actually love being single. Especially because of #4: getting butterflies and the rush of flirting with new people. ;D Best. Feeling. EVER.

I do miss the cuddles when I'm single though.

britt244
08-30-2008, 10:10 AM
5. Shopping, drinking, eating- anything that a man would guilt trip you for doing!.

um i just wanted to point out that it's really a shame if you're dating guys who guilt trip you for doing those things.

Sveta
08-30-2008, 03:15 PM
i'm not really into casual sex either, but i am into casual foreplay/non intercourse hookups.

hehe, same here. I like to just make out and then leave. 8) Being a tease is so much more fun.

i.breathe.in
08-30-2008, 11:23 PM
hehe, same here. I like to just make out and then leave. 8) Being a tease is so much more fun.

i would be but then i would get too horny and feel guilty about rapint hem after haha.

Optimist
08-31-2008, 03:14 PM
I can absolutely relate...it's backfired on me before where I get "spoiled" by the attention at the club and when I go back to my normal life there are times my s/o seems inadequate, or dare I say sometimes unworthy. I know bad...bad...

It's sad sometimes where you get treated better and more like a goddess at work than in your real world...

OMG, that's funny! I dated a guy I met at work and at first he was all sweetness and light and worshipful and next thing I know he's bitching to me about his day and asking me to rub his feet!!! :O D'OH! I should have let him keep on worshipping!! :D