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daniella_maria
09-04-2008, 09:49 PM
i have about 4 "would help you bury a body"-type friends.
i have 4 also.

CKXXX
09-04-2008, 09:52 PM
It sounds like you are assigning the kind of responsibilities to friends that are usually only expected of family members. Friends are just that, friends. I know for a fact that I can't call up 10 of my friends and expect them to post bail (or whatever). I'd never ask in the first place. I do know I've got 10 family members that would jump to my rescue, however.

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You are lucky. Without a doubt, my real friends would be there for me way before any blood family member would.

Lena
09-05-2008, 12:30 AM
Three for sure, maybe five.

I've always thought this was regional. I grew up in Alaska being a homeless teen and my friends were other kids like me and we'd do anything for each other. Even when I had a place to live, friends help each other out, that's just what they do. I was really shocked when I got to Pennsylvania and people thought it was sooo out of line to, like, have a house painting party and expect your friends to show up and eat gourmet food and paint your house with you. I'm happy to be back in Alaska where, well just the other day my boat broke and some guy I didn't even know left a party and came out on the river to rescue me.

StarryEyes
09-05-2008, 01:02 AM
I have 2 friends. 1) God, and 2) Hubby. They are the only 2 I can trust with everything.

I have my "peeps", but they live far away. We don't talk as much as I would like, but they will always be like family to me, no matter how much time goes by.

I have no girlfriends. Maybe one. I have a difficult time trusting people, because I have been burned so badly. I'm learning that it is going to take me more time to make friends from now on.

StarryEyes
09-05-2008, 01:03 AM
OH yeah and I can't rely on "family" for anything. They suck.

MeanGirl
09-05-2008, 01:13 AM
Besides my husband there is one friend that i know will be there for us come hell or high water. The others not so much. but that is what family is for:)

kitty69
09-05-2008, 08:38 AM
I have 2 friends that I know would help me in anyway possible, however I know one of them would never be able to just find £200 nor would I ask her. I myself consider myself to be a really good friend and will literally do anything for anybody, but would not be able to just find £200 either. Guess that just makes me a shit friend? :-\

SexyJess
09-05-2008, 11:05 AM
Personally, I would be furious if my friends "tested" me that way. That would be a good way to end the friendship. I am a giving person and would drop whatever I was doing to help a friend, and they know that. So if I found out I was being tested somehow, I would be PISSED. And I have a friend I have given money to several times (not expecting it back, of course) and I've seen her blow it and get herself right back into trouble... so no, I'm in no hurry to lend a friend money. If I give money, it's a gift, not a loan.

After years of doing anything I can to help my friends and getting burned when I asked for help in return, I would say the only person I can really count on is my husband. I know of three girlfriends who would probably come to my rescue in a time of need, but I probably wouldn't ask them to. That doesn't mean I think less of them or don't consider them friends, I just wouldn't want to burden them.

Candice
09-05-2008, 11:18 AM
real friends don't "test" each other. That's just childish nonsense.

kitana
09-05-2008, 12:39 PM
How do you KNOW if you never test or it is never put to the test? You can only guess or think but you will never know until it is actually put to the test or you put it to the test. That's fact!

And if you "test" them and it's not real; then it could damage the relationship to the point where you can't fix it.

I don't wanna chance that.

I know I have a few friends that would die for me and me for them. Only 3 or 4, but that is good enough for me.

CherryBomb954
09-05-2008, 01:05 PM
OH yeah and I can't rely on "family" for anything. They suck.


Story of my life.

Samba
09-05-2008, 01:10 PM
My definition of a friend is different from the OP's.

If any of my so-called friends felt the need to test my loyalty by pretending they were in trouble when they weren't just to judge my reaction, they'd have one less friend.

I don't expect my friends to bail me out financially, but probably about 5 people would loan me money.

I can think of at least a dozen people who would come get me if I needed them to.

chop
09-05-2008, 03:22 PM
i have about 4 "would help you bury a body"-type friends.

Yea, I have a couple of friends who would grab a shovel. Won't give me money though.

gingerlee
09-05-2008, 03:50 PM
2. One has been my friend since we were kids, and he took me in off the streets when I was homeless and let me stay with his family. He's the only person I can call no matter what and he doesn't judge me for whatever craziness I'm dealing with. I love him with all my heart.

The other is a girl I worked with when I first started dancing that had an amazing ability to relate to me and my problems. She always took care of me when I flipped out, and made me feel better one way or another. When I got in my wreck earlier this year she drove 4 hours in the middle of the night to pick me up and take me to her house. She took care of me every day until things got figured out, and made me feel totally at home.

thesightofoneself
09-05-2008, 04:16 PM
two. theres nothing i cant tell either one of them. and they've excepted me for me. which means a lot if you knew me. i'm hoping to one day make one my wife. :: goes off into lalaland ::

Flick6
09-05-2008, 04:31 PM
I have about 4 friends around the country that would do any of it for me (within their ability) house me, comfort me, loan (give) me their last dollar, forgive me for fucking up sometimes. '


But lately I am noticing I dont have ANY good friends in the sense of having someone to ring up because I am bored or sad, no one who knows what I am thinking or feeling day to day (except the boy..) and that makes me sad....