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Obenta
09-07-2008, 04:22 AM
Sounds like the man is a controlling piece of shit. It will only get much worse if you have his baby (you already said you don't want it anyway).
Just find a way to get the money. Pay 2 bills late = $300. Borrow the money, sell some shit...whatever ya gotta do. $300 isn't that hard to come up with! Or just do the suction thing. It's not that bad this early in the pregnancy. Do it NOW, like *today*.
Or...continue hemming and hawing over the whole drama until it's too late to have an abortion... then have a life FILLED with his bullshit for the next 20+ years. It's your choice. 20+ years of nightmare...or FIND $300. It's not that hard.
VegasPrincess
09-07-2008, 01:15 PM
First, if you can't afford three hundred dollars for an abortion, how the fuck can you afford a child?
Second, you're making this harder than it needs to be. He's an ass. This is fixable. Work a couple extra shifts, get the 300 dollars and the gas money, go get the pill if that's what you want. You do know right that you don't just take a pill and you're done? Usually they give you a suposotary and then you take the pill later...this might requite more than one visit...
Just stop asking him for money, ask anybody else if you must.
MoetATL07
09-07-2008, 03:11 PM
Has she even been back on here with an update????
pixierocksonthepole
09-08-2008, 08:46 AM
Don't rely on him to give you anything now. He disrespected you and you need to be strong and take care of it as you see fit. If he doesn't like it that is too bad and he should've thought of that a long time ago. You went through a lot I think it is time you just stopped him dead in his tracks. When you are ready for another kid you'll have one.
still no word? i wanna know that you're ok OP!! sounds like you were going to make the best decision for yourself which is wonderful!! how are things?
Optimist
09-08-2008, 07:10 PM
She's probably switched back to her old account. She hasn't logged in with this one since the day she posted.
MoetATL07
09-08-2008, 07:51 PM
Well lets hope all is going well with her and the whole situation.
hot4ablackchick
09-12-2008, 02:47 AM
extra money is worth having sex with a custy to you? i say, condom or not, you kind of did bring this on yourself. i know you may think that's shitty of me to say, but like my mom always told me, "if you're ready to lay down with someone, you're ready to get pregnant." with that said...
i think you're making a good decision!
:O "If you're ready to lay down with someone you're ready to get pregnant." That is a very 1950 way of thinking and complete bullshit. The idea that we can't have sex for pleasure and enjoyment is very fucking stupid. The idea that people can't have sex unless they like each other is stupid. This is a different time and era. I don't think every girl who isn't head over heels in love with her partner is "bringing it on herself" if she gets pregnant. If you have sex without the use of any birth control, then you brought it on yourself. People are different and for some sex is just sex. She used a condom. Condoms are VERY reliable and I used them for years and NEVER had a prob. Saying she brought it on herself???? I also don't see why her having sex for money is an issue. If she wants to have sex for money, that is her right to do what she feels with her body. You don't know what her situation is, and I would damn sure sell my body to provide my kids with what they need. I thought it was shitty of you to say extra money was worth having sex, obviously it was and we don't know what is going on in her life.
To the OP: Take it as a lesson NEVER to let a custy use his own condoms, or leave your condoms within access of a custy. You can't trust anyone these days, and I hope you are OK. I still don't think it was your fault.
Sirona
09-12-2008, 07:20 AM
:O "If you're ready to lay down with someone you're ready to get pregnant." That is a very 1950 way of thinking and complete bullshit. The idea that we can't have sex for pleasure and enjoyment is very fucking stupid. The idea that people can't have sex unless they like each other is stupid. This is a different time and era. I don't think every girl who isn't head over heels in love with her partner is "bringing it on herself" if she gets pregnant. If you have sex without the use of any birth control, then you brought it on yourself. People are different and for some sex is just sex. She used a condom. Condoms are VERY reliable and I used them for years and NEVER had a prob. Saying she brought it on herself???? I also don't see why her having sex for money is an issue. If she wants to have sex for money, that is her right to do what she feels with her body. You don't know what her situation is, and I would damn sure sell my body to provide my kids with what they need. I thought it was shitty of you to say extra money was worth having sex, obviously it was and we don't know what is going on in her life.
To the OP: Take it as a lesson NEVER to let a custy use his own condoms, or leave your condoms within access of a custy. You can't trust anyone these days, and I hope you are OK. I still don't think it was your fault.
I think you missed the point.
Any responsible adult realizes that everytime they have sex there is a chance they might find themself pregnant.
It isn't a 1950's way of thinking, it's a fucking biological fact.
In addition no one said she was bad or wrong for having sex for money.
They said that the situation itself led to the situation she's in.
Again, a fact.
Corgan
09-12-2008, 07:22 AM
^ whoaaa i'm not knocking fucking for money ok?!?!
what i meant was, she said she just used him for extra cash. if fucking him for spending cash was cool for her, then dude, she knew what she was doing, and knew she could get preggers. condoms are not 100%. not trying to fight, just wanted to clarify.
hot4ablackchick
09-12-2008, 09:22 AM
I think you missed the point.
Any responsible adult realizes that everytime they have sex there is a chance they might find themself pregnant.
It isn't a 1950's way of thinking, it's a fucking biological fact.
In addition no one said she was bad or wrong for having sex for money.
They said that the situation itself led to the situation she's in.
Again, a fact.
I still disagree. Quite perhaps when there was no access to birth control/condoms it was logical to think sex=pregnancy. Its not a fucking biological fact IMO when a person is taking effective measures to NOT get pregnant. Of course its possible to still get pregnant while using BC and a condom but the odds are SLIM. If a girl was taking the pill or whatever (as she was suppossed to, like same time every day) and using a condom, I wouldn't say "you brought in on yourself because you shouldn't have sex with people you wouldn't want to have a baby with." Condoms are reliable and I have never had a prob with a condom. We aren't even talking a failed contraceptive device, we are talking about an asshole poking a hole in a condom. Totally different scenario. I never said anyone said it was bad, the comment/question "Extra money is worth having sex with a custy" was made and it had a derogatory undertone to it IMO. Maybe it wasn't meant that way.
jasmine
09-12-2008, 10:58 AM
I think you missed the point.
Any responsible adult realizes that everytime they have sex there is a chance they might find themself pregnant.
It isn't a 1950's way of thinking, it's a fucking biological fact.
In addition no one said she was bad or wrong for having sex for money.
They said that the situation itself led to the situation she's in.
Again, a fact.
I agree here completely. Nothing is foolproof and I sincerely wish people were intelligent enough to realize this. Not saying people should wait until their lives are perfect to have sex, I'm just saying if you are at a point where EVERYTHING would be totally fucked and you wouldn't know how to deal and your partner would be zero help, then maybe you shouldn't be having sex.
Before someone says I'm a hypocrite or it's unrealistic or whatever, I actually lived by this rule myself. Got a ton of flack from my friends for remaining a virgin WAY late. Then went through a huge celibate phase in my early 20's because, once again I was in a position in which an accidental pregnancy would have ruined my life.
I'm a stickler for such things though. I never once had sex without a condom before meeting my husband and in 8-9 yrs of birth control only forgot 2 pills which were took later that day. That being said I still had one condom completely come off during sex, one guy pretended to put one on and didn't (I figured out as soon as we started) and 2 condoms broke. Obviously, protection isn't foolproof.
questionexisting
09-12-2008, 01:08 PM
Guys Im OK. Ive been without internet here since my laptop has a virus!!
Well i had the abortion this morning. Did the suction thing here in town. $400 a friend let me borrow. (Thank God) It was painful for a few seconds, and I cried a little thinkin OMG WHY AM I DOING THIS But I know I cant provide for another. I just have one more little life to pray for everynight before bed, I hope he/she is OK in heaven.
I Tried to get the money from him .Nothing. I told him Ill be out of work for a few days,maybe weeks if I bleed a lot. He said he'll give me money. I said OK. He said " You come mi casa tonight sex 300" The fucking nerve!!!!!. I cussed him out, he sent me messages saying " you know how much i love you" "im sorry" bla bla bla. What do I look like you can manipulate me or something? What the fuck ever. So i did change my number, I quit that club, I intend on NEVER speaking to him again. How dare he put me through what he did, and then say I have to fuck him for money while Im out of work BECAUSE OF HIM!!!!! Im never having sex again,for money. I got my Nuvaring and will start once im OK to go back on birth control.
I have been testted for std's. all good. I will get another test in 8 weeks...like my doctor said. So Im OK, thanks for all the support guys,
Im still considering deportation. Asshole.
Thanks everyone!!!
sparkleeyz
09-12-2008, 01:13 PM
Don't ever talk to him again. I'm so happy that you're okay.
sidebar: your dr. gives same day std results? AWSOME! That 2 week wait while they send it to the lab kills me.
jasmine
09-12-2008, 02:01 PM
I'm glad everything is working out. Definitely a good call on leaving that club! Stay the hell away from Crazy McFuckedup.
i'm really happy to hear that the abortion went ok, i'm sure the soul of the baby is in heaven. make sure you take time to grieve and treat yourself ALOT LOL that guy sounds like an absolute toxic nut job and you are so much better without his dumbass. do what ever you want to do about the deportion, go ahed and report him if you feel it'll make you happier/get some peace...just make sure you're not taking too much energy from yourself
StarryEyes
09-12-2008, 03:49 PM
I just want you to know that I feel for you and I can't believe what a douche that guy is. Good riddance to him! Take care of yourself and get that fucker out of the country. I'll be thinking good thoughts for you. :hug:
Sirona
09-12-2008, 07:16 PM
I still disagree. Quite perhaps when there was no access to birth control/condoms it was logical to think sex=pregnancy. Its not a fucking biological fact IMO when a person is taking effective measures to NOT get pregnant. Of course its possible to still get pregnant while using BC and a condom but the odds are SLIM. If a girl was taking the pill or whatever (as she was suppossed to, like same time every day) and using a condom, I wouldn't say "you brought in on yourself because you shouldn't have sex with people you wouldn't want to have a baby with." Condoms are reliable and I have never had a prob with a condom. We aren't even talking a failed contraceptive device, we are talking about an asshole poking a hole in a condom. Totally different scenario. I never said anyone said it was bad, the comment/question "Extra money is worth having sex with a custy" was made and it had a derogatory undertone to it IMO. Maybe it wasn't meant that way.
I know a woman who got pregnant with twins after having her tubes tied.
Nothing is 100%
Everytime you stick a penis in your vagina you take the chance that you might end up pregnant.
To the OP, glad ot hear things went all right.
Don't talk to that guy anymore. Block his number, get a retraining order.
He isn't right. If you think he stop with just poking holes in a rubber you're in for a very rude and possibly scarey awakening.
demonika
09-13-2008, 02:00 AM
planned parenthood is crap for helping you with getting up money. i was in a similar situation and sickly pregnant, couldn't work to get the money and ended up having to get it at week 12 for nearly 1000 dollars. get this done NOW. don't feel bad. and if you do feel bad and are going to smash your head against the wall forever over it dont do it.
lie to the motherfucker. tell him you are going to keep it or something that sounds like it. get some more money and get the abortion ...or maybe say you had a miscarriage...even have him there after you take the pills. maybe letting him down lightly will make things kind of okay so he doesnt go crazy on you.
idk..just thinking out loud..im sleepy.
good luck.
Dottie Rebel
09-13-2008, 03:52 AM
Looks like this is all wrapped up but I have a few comments.
First, OP: I am fucking spitting mad for you. I can't believe this happened to you. Despicable piece of shit. I can't say what I'd do, of course, because this didn't happen to me, but I'd like to tell you to tip of immigration. Hell yeah. Why not? Fuck his like the way he fucked yours. The way he fucked with you is equivalent to rape in my opinion.
As with most things, I agree with hot4ablackchick: women should not be bound to their biology. If a woman has taken good faith measures to avoid conception and still gets pregnant, it is wicked for anyone to tell her "sorry bout yur luk! shoulda not had the sexors! luls!" Fuck that.
Finally, I think happygiggles is a robot who will eventually destroy the world when it gets as smart as humans.