View Full Version : What made you turn to girls??? (Bi & Lesbian)
ahmeerah
09-28-2008, 12:46 PM
I've always liked girls. I remember being attracted to my friend when I was 7. When she slept at my house I'd tell her we were low on hot water so she'd have to take a shower with me ;D
That made me laugh. :D How sneaky of you!
ahmeerah
09-28-2008, 12:49 PM
Not offened by the question. I know you meant no harm.
I've never "turned to" girls. I think they are pretty, but it's not like I want to get on them or anything.
When I was about 6 or so I was playing with a friend at her house. She wanted to touch my naked chest, and when she did, it felt totally wrong for me. I left that house and I think from that day on I knew I was heterosexual.
I don't think we "turn to" anyone. I think people are just wired the way they are wired.
Hm, I've never had an aversion to girls. I've only had an aversion to yucky men/women and people with bad attitudes.
Maybe a lot of peple are biSEXUAL but the difference is really in who we want to have romantic one-on-one relationships with. Who knows!
PleasureVictim
09-28-2008, 12:49 PM
LOL I laughed too- how did you come up with that at the age of 7?
kaiarose
09-28-2008, 05:10 PM
LOL I laughed too- how did you come up with that at the age of 7?
LOL! I was born a pervert :D
Bianca O'Blivion
09-28-2008, 09:59 PM
I've always liked girls. I remember being attracted to my friend when I was 7. When she slept at my house I'd tell her we were low on hot water so she'd have to take a shower with me ;D
One of my first friends was like that. She would play a tickle game on the bus ride home, and once pulled down her pants while the classroom teacher was out and wanted everyone to do the same. We actually met because I did something obnoxious to her and then I made up for it- I might have seemed like a butch 8 year old. But I was clueless! Didn't reciprocate.....
We drifted apart. I hope she found fufillment & happiness in life- last I heard she was unhappily married with two kids. :'(
Intravenus
09-29-2008, 03:39 AM
To be honest, I think I like to have sex with girls cos they know how everything works and feels down there so they know what feels good more than guys do.
I To be honest, Im not sure if I could be in love with a girl. I thought I was once, maybe twice, but I was a kid and Im not sure if it was love or more kinda idolization.
I dont try and judge myself though. At the moment I have a boyfriend I adore, if I ever meet a boy or girl I adore more, then so be it. But at the moment I'm happy so I dont care if Im bisexual or pansexual or any of these silly labels people come out with...
Miss Jessica
10-01-2008, 12:25 AM
My first crush was a girl, in kindergarden! LoL. She was a tomboy, I got so much shit for that. I was teased well into middle school. I've always had more of a thing for girls than guys, but I'm way more shy around girls.
Intravenus
10-01-2008, 05:30 AM
Ooh, actually, I do love tomboys...
I remember I sometimes used to dance onstage at the club my boyf DJed at, and one Halloween I was wearing a PVC nurse outfit and dancing away, and there was this girl I was really into, although I had thought she was a guy for weeks! So that one time, when all these guys were trying to touch me, I got down into the crowd with her, grabbed her and gave her a full on kiss, had a little bit of a grope, hopped back up onto the stage and carried on dacing! It was hotttt!
Lysondra
10-01-2008, 06:28 AM
Men.
But I remember specifically in sixth grade having feelings for a friend and also somehow 'knowing' they were 'wrong'. Huh.
girlsinstrings
10-02-2008, 12:08 AM
Hello to all. I hope my spelling is not too bad, so please bear with me. My story about the topic (41yrs old woman).
I am a married woman for 9yrs with 2 teenagers. I had a few men relationships in the past. A lot of experience in life. I known from 14yr old that I liked to see gilrs. I had a cousin teenager who showed me hers at 4yrs old (memories not so clear). I believed that I was born to love all people in the world. I love both womans and man. I love the sexyness of a womans body. I love the look, I believe that a woman is softer. I also love a mans body and his main part. My kids and husband knows that I love to see a pretty woman and a handsome man. I am a designer and love to make sexy cloths for their body. I am very picky with people. I have no woman friends because I am afraid. I am very close to 3 people in my life. My day job is building cabints (working with machines and wood). I love to be soft and tough. I admire a woman who is strong and knows what she wants in herself and others. I believe that being gay or Bi is not a choice. I had someone who told me that I was not BI. What do you think?
Thanks
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kaiarose
10-02-2008, 12:22 PM
^ That right there is my BIGGEST pet peeve.
I have been attracted to both men and women ever since I can remember, although there are times when I am more attracted to one gender than the other.
Before puberty I was VERY interested in girls and how they looked and felt like and the things I could do to them. During puberty I was more interested in guys. Now that I'm married, my husband is the only man that really turns me on and I am much more focused on other women than I ever was before. Who knows how I'll feel in a couple years? /:O
I also don't think that you have to be in a relationship with a girl to be able to classify yourself as truly being a lesbian or bisexual. I consider myself to be bisexual even though I have never been in a relationship with a girl - although that might change very soon }:D I have been hanging out with an amazing girl.
Me too. I'm so excited to see her on Saturday. It' driving me nuts! I've never really felt this way about a girl before. It's like having a major crush on a boy except well, it's a girl.
Lysondra
10-02-2008, 06:15 PM
You know, on that topic - I don't think I could have a serious relationship with a woman. I really like them and WANT relationships with them but...
I am sexist I think? I would suffocate on diamonds I spent my savings on if it would make a girl smile. I wouldn't at ALL do any of that for a man... but seeing girl you love SMILE. When you give gifts to women they are so appreciative and thankful and men are 'eh, thanks'....
I can't have a serious relationship with a woman because I'd go broke. D:
AznExtasy
10-02-2008, 06:26 PM
Me too. If I was in a gay relationship, I would probably be the provider, cause that's how I am. My girl would have whatever she likes, and I'd be too dumb to tell the bitch no.
moll_flanders
10-02-2008, 07:14 PM
I never "turned" to girls, but have always been attracted to them - since before puberty. But I adamantly maintained that I was straight until two years ago, to myself and to other people. Once I finally came out, I stopped feeling like it would be such a dirty thing to hook up with a girl and I've fooled around with a few since. That was the extent of my "turning." Oddly enough, I started getting more and more interested in men after I came out to myself and had a couple of experiences with girls. It had been so taboo that I had developed a whole set of neuroses around my sexual identity and simultaneously put girl-girl sex on a tall pedestal, but once I stopped being terrified of liking girls and realized that the sex was about equivalent to man sex in pleasure, I was able to really enjoy being with men a lot more as well. Guess I kind of "turned" toward enjoying sexuality more in general, once I admitted my liking for girls.
All of my relationships have been with men, though. I've had crushes on women, but I think my attraction to women is far more fucked up than my attraction to men, which makes me balk at the idea of pursuing a relationship. I could see myself being a huge PL with a woman. We'll see though - may still happen someday, if I find the right woman. However, that wouldn't really be "turning" to women either, since I see that as renouncing men entirely. Yeah, I've toyed with the idea of never being with a man again after some rough nights dancing, but in reality both genders will always have a chance with me.
Lysondra
10-03-2008, 01:54 AM
Me too. If I was in a gay relationship, I would probably be the provider, cause that's how I am. My girl would have whatever she likes, and I'd be too dumb to tell the bitch no.
I write 3 paragraphs and you sum it up in a sentence. Nicely done!
girlsinstrings
10-03-2008, 05:23 PM
Nice to see ladies have these same feeling like me. I know that I am BI/curious because I get really hot when I see a nice looking girl. There are very few men that I would look at or give the time of day. I would like to hire a girl to dance for me alone and see how I feel. That would be fun and hot. (lol)
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PleasureVictim
10-03-2008, 09:56 PM
Me too. If I was in a gay relationship, I would probably be the provider, cause that's how I am. My girl would have whatever she likes, and I'd be too dumb to tell the bitch no.
LOL I could see myself doing that- I bend over backwards to give the ones I love what they want. The interesting thing is that in the female relationships I've been in- they always beat me to the punch. Very few men would offer their brand new GF keys to the apartment or their car, take them shopping when they've only been dating a week- etc.
G/G relationships are like on fast forward.
Aubreyyy
10-03-2008, 10:12 PM
I was always turned on by girls and was freaked out a little by it until I had my 3some. Then I realized that A- its pretty accepted now and B- I wasn't the only girl in my friend group that was a little curious.
I flirt like hell with girls moreso than guys. I've never had a gf but I'd love to try. Any takers? lol
Lysondra
10-03-2008, 10:14 PM
I was always turned on by girls and was freaked out a little by it until I had my 3some. Then I realized that A- its pretty accepted now and B- I wasn't the only girl in my friend group that was a little curious.
I flirt like hell with girls moreso than guys. I've never had a gf but I'd love to try. Any takers? lol
Depends.. you don't like really really really expensive things, do you?
Aubreyyy
10-03-2008, 10:16 PM
^^^
I have my SDs for that! lol
PS- I've mentioned this before, but I have a huge internet crush on you. I swear.
Lysondra
10-03-2008, 10:18 PM
^^^
I have my SDs for that! lol
PS- I've mentioned this before, but I have a huge internet crush on you. I swear.
:blush:
And this is how the ladies always get all my money - they know just what to say. Manipulative!
Aubreyyy
10-03-2008, 10:21 PM
Nuh uh! B/c I've said it before...I think it was over on the blue side. Perhaps the schoolgirl thread? :)
CKXXX
10-03-2008, 10:42 PM
Depends.. you don't like really really really expensive things, do you?
gifts and hot sexors with a cool chick I can watch Phantom with...I really need to move to Australia and claim you as my own!}:D
Depends.. you don't like really really really expensive things, do you?
LOL I know what that feels like--I'm such a sucker love to buy pretty things for pretty women so I actaully made a budget of what I can afford to do for my girl or the girls I'm seeing and a time table for when spending X amount is allowed. I'm very lucky however most women just want hott sex with me soo those flings never cost me a thing since they never seem to make it to dinner or out anywhere beyound the bedroom.
However I loved spoiling my ex and after the 1st few months where all she wanted was hott sex finally she let me take her out and doll her up take her on trips..ect..not that she ever asked her asnything, but she just looked great in everything I bought her and soo it was like shopping for me except I had this hott model wearing these sexy outfits to undress and such. I even bought her this hot pink stripper pole when she went back to dancing simply to be supportive and becuz I wanted to chain her up to it* Anyhow she kinda maxed out my buget time scale becuz I really really wanted to buy her the damn righ already and she kept suggesting that my time table was BS and that if I felt that way about her I should just do it(but I believe in not rushing into things and we had 8mos 2gether off the most crazy intense on off love/'hate realtionship I had ever been in) so I didn't becuz she didn't trust me and still had her stupid ex in our life and was on the dl about us since every1 talked shit about me and such nonsense drama that broke us up.
Anyhow I had 5gs left in the bank and I didn't want to see her w/her scruub loser ex she was running back to becuz the ex wanted to marry her and becuz she believed I had cheated on her(which was my fault for putting another girls panties in her draw--becuz I finally washed this thong that was hiding under my bed for over a year)well still I didn't cheat on her and she should of trusted me so I let her run back to her ex if she wasn't going to trust that I wouldn't of ever traded what we had to be with anybody else and I wanted to see if shhe could do taht to me--which is how it ended, but part of me just wanted to say fuck it and buy her the ring with whatever I had left just becuz I did love her like that and I wanted her to know that.
I was soo temped but soo pissed becuz she broke my heart soo I figured I had 5gs left taht I wasn't going to spend on her after all (I saved just to buy her this super hott pink stone designer earrings had we made it to Xmas) so just so I wouldn't go buy the ring for the woman that left me thinking I was a cheat I decided to get a boob job to double my money instead.
Which is what I did then I worked real hard and focused on doing right for me 1st. I still love to do for the 1 I'm with or for the woman I takeout, but I definately stick to my budget for it and if she can't wait and last w/me then she's not worth the investment. However as I like to be the provider in the realtionship the right woman who becomes my thropy wife in life really won't have to worry about much about money but rather more important things like taking care of my sky high sex drive and keeping me happy by being the beauty I love cherish and adore.
TaLlOnE
10-06-2008, 08:52 PM
I've never seen a girl that was "turned away from men by a guy", and usually she probably was always a lesbian/bisexual but didn't realize it. As some Comedian said, "if every girl who had a bad exp. with a guy went lesbian, there would be no straight women left"
I think the same can be said to guys, they really have it tough and after dealing with girls drama, I wonder why theres any straight guys left considering.
I think it's genetic or whatever and if affects us all to some degree, some are REALLY straight, others are in the middle, an the rest very gay.
What made me "think" of girls was when I ordered a "bulk basket of sex toys" from an online store because I really didn't have any clue on what I wanted exactly. Among them were a few strap ons but they were terrible except this one weird thing called a "Feel Doe" that also came with a really sexy black thong/leather strap for added control or whatever
Well I just threw it to the side because I didn't want to try it but after awhile I got horny and just picked it up and gave it a go.
I put it on with the thong strap and it looked awesome and I would look at it in the mirror and think (so this is how it feels to be a guy) or I guess this is the closest a girl will ever come to experience having a dick LOL
I decided to give it a go and started to practice "thrust" and it just escalated from there, long story short I was on my knees on the floor in extasy and ever since then I've had an "urge to jam a girl"
Lately all I do online is download lesbian porn where a girl is doing another girl doggy style
However I really dont' have that much of an attraction to 90% of women, mostly due to drama issues and I prefer mens bodies much more. Girls hit on me a lot because I'm tall & toned/tanned but most are the kind of girls where I would rather date a really fugly guy instead.
Maybe I'll meet up with a Femme stripper *winks*
Fenriswolf
10-06-2008, 09:05 PM
I do know a woman who was "became" a lesbian after being in an abusive relationship with a man. She saw women exlusively for like 5 years, and last I heard she was marrying a man. I figure she's bisexual but she can label herself how she likes.
Personally I'm bisexual but more attracted to men than women so I don't feel entirely comfortable with the label. It's just so weighted when a young femme woman says she's bisexual, and hell I can be an exhibitionist at times, but don't just kiss girls to get guys off... labels are more trouble than they're worth sometimes.
I had one girlfriend, sort of, but when she came to visit me for a week I was so damn intimidated by it I was left really confused. She's attractive, funny, clever and into me why am I more scared than turned on? In retrospect I was never that into her it's just that I wanted a girlfriend and she was hot. I was very young and inexperienced, she was older (older as in I was 18, she was 22) but inexperienced and wanted me to take the lead... that was never going to work.
The point's a bit moot since I'm in a relationship with a man but call yourself what you like and ignore detractors IMO. I do sort of feel that bisexual generally means someone mostly attracted equally to both (or all, however you want to look at it) sexes, but it's not like there's a good word for someone who's much more gay than anyone straight they know but generally more attracted to the opposite sex... or vice versa.
Hell my first boyfriend's gay and we've discussed how random it was that he was really into me when he's just not into women now. I figure he's like me, bi but mostly into guys. Whatever works for you! :)
MichelleJade
10-06-2008, 11:09 PM
I think I really realized I was bi when I was older... it was like, I finally realized it was okay for two people of the same sex to be together, when my whole life I had been told otherwise by Disney stories and church. I guess you could say I was in a bit of denial really...
I've only had one girlfriend (but, I've only had like 3-4 boyfriends too, heh) and I thought I might actually be straight since I wasn't into her. Nope. My guy friend dated her (small town) and he dumped her for the same exact reason. So just because the first one doesn't go well, don't give up. I haven't.
I'm dating a guy now, and he's always telling me I can have a girlfriend/make out with girls, but it just doesn't feel right. I'd just feel a sort of guilt; I mean, it would still be cheating, regardless of sex.
*Sigh* I have a huge crush on a female at the moment too... if she lived locally, well, I'm pretty sure the boyfriend would be gone... Oh yeah, sorry, back on track.
tempest666
11-19-2008, 04:15 PM
I tend to turn towards men for the emotional stuff and girl for sex. I wouldn't completely rule out women for a relationship, but thats how its been so far. I had a cute little gf/fuck buddy who could lick pussy and make me scream. But when it came to actually talking she was a complete airhead. She was like a good natured dog that came when she was called and went away when she was supposed to. Then came my other one. She was brilliant, gorgeous, we could talk... and she was clingy, obsessive, a total nutjob. The only girl that I ever loved died about 5 years ago. She was the total package..blonde, gorgous not clingy uninhibited. I miss her alot. Anyways 5 years later my jaded self remarks "I'm tri-sexual. I'll try anything"
Spankie55
11-19-2008, 04:34 PM
^^tri-sexual..I like that.
I consider my self bi sexual.
I've dated both men and women,slept with both men and women.
I really thought I was a lesbian untill freshman year in high school when I met my first love ((a guy))
I had my first sexual experience with a woman when I was 13,and knew I was attracted to women at a VERY early age-since Kindergarten,I had a crush on my teacher..haha.
I'm currently seeking a nice,good hearted woman that's just as freaky as me:)
any takers?haha.
sexual orientation is over rated..everyone should be BI.
:)
JayATee
11-19-2008, 04:48 PM
I've known I was bi since I was 6 years old. I didn't turn to girls. I've always had a thing for them. It's not a choice (as I think any gay person would tell you), it just is who I am.
pr317
11-20-2008, 09:03 PM
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elizabeth20042007
11-30-2008, 06:00 AM
I agree that sexuality is a very complicated thing...however the original question could be offensive to a lot of people, but a lot of people do feel that something "turned" them gay. An issue of semantics, whatever. Personally, I never "turned" to girls. I've loved women as long as I can remember. I don't get how you can be "turned" into anything, I think it's just an issue of the prejudices against people who are not heterosexual in our society that encourage people to not consider alternative sexualities or lifestyles until the "right" person comes along and "turns" them gay. I mean, does anyone question if a straight person was "turned" that way or if someone "changed" their sexuality. Makes you think. However, I do go through phases when I don't prefer one or the other, but it's more of an issue of what I want right then, not who I'm attracted to indefinitely.
I might prefer women right now, but it doesn't mean I'm not sexually attracted to men period I just really would like a woman at that time in my life. Preferably NOW ha, I'm pathetic. And vice versa. Anyways, people can define themselves however they want I know what I want. Hahaha ;D
simone26
12-01-2008, 12:53 AM
I am kind of like you MissNichole. I have only dated men, but I love hooking up with women. I stare at women probably more than I do at men. However I have never had feelings for a woman or have really wanted to date a woman, and I don't really forsee me ever wanting too. Women are crazy!!!!!!