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thisunrest
10-08-2008, 03:12 PM
I actually feel pretty numb right now, and I'm def doing the pill. I already have panic attacks over nothing, and I start to go into a cold sweat when I imaging being dialated and stuck with needles in my coo!
I'll endure any cramps, whatever. I just can't get the needle!
I was four weeks and a few days with mine,and the shot to numb your cervix is actually not as painful as it sounds.I'm not sure if the anesthesia is different the farther along you are.
If you need to talk or vent,I'm here.
((hugs))
Aubreyyy
10-09-2008, 11:07 AM
So, its done.
So is my relationship. My boyfriend and I literally broke up as I was on the way home from the clinic.
I was the only person who was there alone, and I felt like everyone was looking at me trying to feel soryy for the girl who got preg and had to deal with it alone. :(
I'm glad its over though!
Cool Hand Lucy
10-09-2008, 11:15 AM
Hey, Aubrey, I don't know you but I've been reading this thread and really feel for you. I've been there, and I'm glad you're ok, but I'm so sorry to hear about your breakup. Like you really needed that today of all days. :(
Take care of yourself.
VegasPrincess
10-09-2008, 12:43 PM
So, its done.
So is my relationship. My boyfriend and I literally broke up as I was on the way home from the clinic.
I was the only person who was there alone, and I felt like everyone was looking at me trying to feel soryy for the girl who got preg and had to deal with it alone. :(
I'm glad its over though!
Oh my God! What happened? Why did you break up?
Rockell
10-09-2008, 12:59 PM
I'm sorry to hear that, that really sucks-especially at a time when you probably need his support the most. On the bright side, at least it confirms that you did the right thing by not having a child with someone who is unsupportive/insensitive. :hug:
ViolaStrings
10-09-2008, 02:22 PM
Did you tell your boyfriend everything? Is that why you guys broke up? Or did it push you to leave him?
Flick6
10-09-2008, 03:58 PM
I'm sorry, you must be feeling pretty yuk right now. I hope you get well soon, and take care of yourself xxx
Aubreyyy
10-09-2008, 05:40 PM
We broked up b/c...
We got in a fight last night and he hung up on me. I expected him to at least call me back b/c of how tough last night was for me- nope.
No call back last night, no call this morning, no text- and he knew when my appointment was.
When I walked out of there I called him, furious, claiming that recent events had shown me that I couldn't count him for ANYTHING- and I that I hated him. B/c at the time, I did.
I'm hurting but its probably for the best. He really dropped the ball on this and not only was I alone, but I FELT completely alone for it as well, and thats fucked up!
Dixie_Vancouver
10-09-2008, 05:47 PM
I'm really sorry to hear that, but you're right - you shouldn't have had to be alone and if that was on top of other problems, it sounds like you made the right decision.
VegasPrincess
10-09-2008, 06:18 PM
Wow, well fuck him! I'm glad its done and over with I had a PG scare myself today actually (really late period test came back neg tho)
Your man should have been there, I dont care what you had a fight about, there is no excuse for that shit....
On to bigger and better things!! Maybe you can find a hot SD that you can fall in love with who's single!!! OOOhhhh......
piepie
10-09-2008, 06:27 PM
hey girl aubreyy i hope you are feelin alright. just remember,this too shall pass. its just one of those things we have to learn from honey.
men can be very strange about having their cake and eating it too. it is not very fun to feel like a discarded play thing that broke or got too complicated. now that you know for sure what level he is on and that real love is not part of the equation you can handle him like he handled you. emotionless and cold. keep him on your playing field. you be The Boss Bitch. make him come to you and beg for your attention now. he is worthless. nothing but a trick. treat him like the bitch that he is. and if you still care..fake it till ya make it girl. he ain't worth a tear let alone a phone call. the best way to say how you feel is by saying nothing at all.
on your body.. rest up. mj is a good friend to have. some herbal remedies might help you regulate your hormones if your interested i'll look some up for you. just be sad or feel however you feel but don't wallow in it. keep your gorgeous head up and face the future like a star.
kicks part is you are so far ahead of that dude. you may have fucked up and let your feelings get involved but so what. your star is still raising. while his sets. next.
Kaiyla
10-09-2008, 08:04 PM
I think breaking up might have been a blessing in disguise. If you had stayed with this guy for years and he pulled this shit down the line, the fact that you had wasted years on such a cold person probably would have been even more devastating. He should have been there with you, supporting you. I don't blame you for feeling like you hated him at all. You went through a very traumatic, emotional thing...alone. That really sucks on his part.
Aubreyyy
10-09-2008, 09:19 PM
In his defense, we are long distance. I got preg when I went to visit him. He is in NYC, I'm in NC.
But that meant that he should have gone above and beyond to call me and text me, or even send me flowers. Instead I got NOTHING- he yelled at me last night for being bitchy the past couple of days. Hello dumbass, I'm fucking pregnant!
iambonbon05
10-09-2008, 09:53 PM
Wow, I'm sorry. That's really super douche of him. Even if you broke up with him beforehand, a phone call or something would have been a decent thing to do.
Hope you're feeling okay, physically and emotionally. Glad that you're optimistic- deciding to go back to school and breaking up with the boyfriend chalk up to a long term win I think.
Cassandra39
10-09-2008, 10:39 PM
Wow that was quick you must be feeling a lil relieve too I bet. I'm glad you took care of it quickly I thought this sort of thing was a long process.
I'm sorry you went alone, that sounds like a really hard thing to do you're very brave going thru all this.
ViolaStrings
10-10-2008, 10:34 AM
So, wait, I'm confused... did you break up with your regular BF or your SD?
Aubreyyy
10-10-2008, 11:12 AM
My regular boyfriend.
I don't consider my SD my boyfriend :) I wish he was though! I don't think I'm going to be seeing him anymore, but it has a lot more to do with that I now have no reason to go to NYC anymore :(
Fenriswolf
10-10-2008, 07:50 PM
Fucking hell, I can't believe that. What a prick. Hope you feel better soon, personally I'd be pretty upset :-\
Aubreyyy
10-10-2008, 07:58 PM
Its cool- I'm trying to see this as a blessing in disguise. I feel like if I got through this relatively emotionally unscathed that I handle anything- and BY MY SELF!
I want to be independent- this is great for me :)
I'm actually feeling so much better today, very happy! I was so depressed the past two weeks, but I know that was just my hormones freaking out. I feel like Aubrey!
MissAlethea
10-10-2008, 10:16 PM
Wait, wait wait.... he was pissing and moaning about you being "bitchy". While you're pregnant. By his stupid ass self. Really? I mean really. And he didn't call or anything the day you had to get aforementioned spawn of stupid-ass taken care of. Which, whether or not you knew was the right thing to do, is tough and sucky all around. WHAT? Oh hell no.
You deserve far, far better, and I'm tremendously happy for you for going back to school and getting far, far away from Senor Dickbag. And congrats on being back to yourself- hormones suck.
Bianca O'Blivion
10-10-2008, 10:38 PM
men can be very strange about having their cake and eating it too. it is not very fun to feel like a discarded play thing that broke or got too complicated. now that you know for sure what level he is on and that real love is not part of the equation you can handle him like he handled you. emotionless and cold. keep him on your playing field. you be The Boss Bitch. make him come to you and beg for your attention now. he is worthless. nothing but a trick. treat him like the bitch that he is. and if you still care..fake it till ya make it girl. he ain't worth a tear let alone a phone call. the best way to say how you feel is by saying nothing at all.
on your body.. rest up. mj is a good friend to have. some herbal remedies might help you regulate your hormones if your interested i'll look some up for you. just be sad or feel however you feel but don't wallow in it. keep your gorgeous head up and face the future like a star.
What she said. Given his timing and lack of consideration, I'd rub it in that he wasn't worth any part of your life. There might be some overweening part of him that was irked that you had the abortion, even though you both agreed it was the right decision. I think men have their Drama King moments as much as women do....
Your future is bright and limitless. I wish I had realized that when I was your age.......
Fenriswolf
10-11-2008, 12:49 AM
Its cool- I'm trying to see this as a blessing in disguise. I feel like if I got through this relatively emotionally unscathed that I handle anything- and BY MY SELF!
I want to be independent- this is great for me :)
I'm actually feeling so much better today, very happy! I was so depressed the past two weeks, but I know that was just my hormones freaking out. I feel like Aubrey!
That's awesome :) :) He's still a complete dick but all's well that ends well I suppose? At least you can definitely feel like the better person!
knp001
10-11-2008, 10:30 PM
I wasn't going to post, but then I read this whole thing and wanted to put my two cents in.
You seem very, very confidant and educated in your choice, and that is awesome. So, don't let ANYONE make you second guess yourself! From your posts, you seem like an intelligent, responsible girl with a very, very bright future. stay confidant!!!
And about the BF thing- DDOOOUUUUCCCCHHHEEEE. (plz to say with MN accent? Makes it better) But you are not alone- it seems like many SW girls are supportive of you. Feel free to PM me if you need to talk.
Sending tons o' love your way, hun!!also, some lolpics. lolpics make everything better.
Flick6
10-12-2008, 01:12 AM
In case u guys hadn't noticed th OP isnt on SW any more, she has joined the legions of the banned.
Tesla_Sativa
10-12-2008, 01:18 AM
In case u guys hadn't noticed th OP isnt on SW any more, she has joined the legions of the banned.
What? Why? Judging from her posts, I thought she was a sweetheart.
Tylenol Jones
10-12-2008, 09:56 PM
Well I heard through the grapevine she\'s doing fine and appreciates the intrawebz love!