View Full Version : I fell in love thru phone convos...help me!! one convo posted (long)
Ms. Mia Roberts
11-01-2008, 09:31 PM
...you don't seem to know how to listen and believe him or us, thats what. We all have someone in our past that we think about, dream about, but we understand the reality if it and dont dwell on the fantasy of it.
but if you knew a way to get rid of that person from being in the back of your mind and preventing you from moving forward, wouldn't you hop at the opportunity to do it?
I was in love with him a long time ago, and now i just want to do what i always said i would....and let that be the end of it. If i go there, see him, and i still have this problem. I will agree with everyone saying i'm a crazy obsessed person and i will read all the self help books you throw at me.
I wouldn't be doin this if i wasnt 99.9 percent sure this trip wasn't gonna work.
Ms. Mia Roberts
11-01-2008, 09:34 PM
and more than anything....i wanted some advice or help from someone who had something similar to this happen to them....fallin in love through a phone convos, or emails, or hand written letters....whatever.
I really wanted confirmation that it wasn't an outrageous concept....and that i wasn't retarded for fallin in love that way. Not about wanted to see him again
But from all these replies, i'm starting to think it is
i posted the convo cause i wanted people to read the part about him saying it wasn't a "Real" relationship because it wasn't supported by the physical aspect that a relationship generally has. I wanted people to read the parts about it being important to be able to pick his face out of a crowd and those things he said.
And everyone got stuck on me wanting to see him which i was gonna do regardless of what people said on this forum.
If i knew people were gonna get rude and be bitches, callin me stupid and all sorts of things.... i wouldn't have asked for advice. But i thought from previous threads...the girls on stripper web were alot better than that, even if not more understanding....alot more respectful....but i guess you find bitches everywhere there is concentrated estrogen levels huh?
Honey71783
11-01-2008, 10:38 PM
She sounds like me after I've gotten some good dick... all obsessed and shit... cookin' and cleanin' and outwearin' my welcome... can't wait until i get my next hit... :dance: :D Did you guys have sex? Was it THAT good? Damn!!! Let me know... I would never let a guy talk to me like that (even on messenger) and then want to see him again... NEVER!!!... So, I'm thinkin that he must be King Ding-a-Ling... :pickle: Why else would you put up with this?!?! He must have that Looooong Stroke... Ya'll probably cuss at each other when you have sex and that's why you are so used to him talking to you like that... That's some serious sadomaschistic forplay... Get it how you like it, girl... ::) Can't knock you for that... ::)
Sounds like we've got another keira0304..
Ms. Mia Roberts
11-01-2008, 10:45 PM
She sounds like me after I've gotten some good dick... all obsessed and shit... cookin' and cleanin' and outwearin' my welcome... can't wait until i get my next hit... :dance: :D Did you guys have sex? Was it THAT good? Damn!!! Let me know... I would never let a guy talk to me like that (even on messenger) and then want to see him again... NEVER!!!... So, I'm thinkin that he must be King Ding-a-Ling... :pickle: Why else would you put up with this?!?! He must have that Looooong Stroke... Ya'll probably cuss at each other when you have sex and that's why you are so used to him talking to you like that... That's some serious sadomaschistic forplay... Get it how you like it, girl... ::) Can't knock you for that... ::)
i can see not what kiera was talking about. and thats funny you say that too becuase when i first joined this site....i was defending her from all the bitches on here.
I just find it sad that people insult other people online but know that they would never say shit like that face to face.
its just really pathetic.
And to answer your question (if it had any seriousness to it at all), we didn't have sex. I would never be obsessed over dick, because i know i can get good dick whenever i want.
And i'm not gonna let him get away with talking to me like that....
veronicachick
11-01-2008, 11:55 PM
She sounds like me after I've gotten some good dick... all obsessed and shit... cookin' and cleanin' and outwearin' my welcome... can't wait until i get my next hit... :dance: :D Did you guys have sex? Was it THAT good? Damn!!! Let me know... I would never let a guy talk to me like that (even on messenger) and then want to see him again... NEVER!!!... So, I'm thinkin that he must be King Ding-a-Ling... :pickle: Why else would you put up with this?!?! He must have that Looooong Stroke... Ya'll probably cuss at each other when you have sex and that's why you are so used to him talking to you like that... That's some serious sadomaschistic forplay... Get it how you like it, girl... ::) Can't knock you for that... ::)
Sounds like we've got another keira0304..
whaaat? where did that even come from.
I agree that calling you names is really unnecessary... but like I posted before the convo sounded creepy. What if seeing him makes you like him even more?? Might be possible that your plan will backfire on you... just be careful.
I know you said you have a man... are you genuinely happy with him? The only way I've been able to get over someone is by meeting someone new and start to really like him... since you are already in a relationship, not sure if that's possible... either way good luck.
Ms. Mia Roberts
11-02-2008, 12:28 AM
whaaat? where did that even come from.
I agree that calling you names is really unnecessary... but like I posted before the convo sounded creepy. What if seeing him makes you like him even more?? Might be possible that your plan will backfire on you... just be careful.
I know you said you have a man... are you genuinely happy with him? The only way I've been able to get over someone is by meeting someone new and start to really like him... since you are already in a relationship, not sure if that's possible... either way good luck.
thank you. i see what your trying to say. If it does back fire on me and i end up falling for him again, when i come home, i will erase all contacts from him and read some self help books. Ill even check into seeing a therapist....because i would have done everything in my power to get over him and it would not have worked, and i will have deemed myself retarded. But when i say i highly doubt that would happen.....i mean, i HIGHLY doubt that would happen. I don't want to be with him...
MsLayne
11-02-2008, 07:48 AM
Its fuuny how you come across as an "internet gangsta," throwing around fuck you's like I'm a child and will be offended by it. I was calling your actions stupid in my previous post, not your intelligence but you just proved your intelligence just now.
There was no need for your vulgar language. I would be giving you the same advice if you two had been previously married. As far as the comment saying it to your face....I am an adult and if I said it to you on here, I would definitely say it to you in person. That shows your way of thinking. I even saw in a previous post that you even asked where another girl had lived; for what? Advice has been given and all you can say is that you haven't seen the advice you were looking for. So why the hell ask for it? That's like asking for money and getting mad you got a dollar.
HoolaTwist
11-02-2008, 10:58 AM
because until he can look me in the eye and tell me that, i don't believe thats how he really feels. People can say and do things online and on the phone....that they would never say or do to someone's face...... like ms. liz
You sounds liek my psycho ex bf. Not cute.
grindonme
11-02-2008, 12:09 PM
I think the posters started to turn on you when you dismissed all the advice you were given. If you check the other threads they all go the same way when the OP asks for advice and then doesn't wanna hear it when its something they don't agree with. I'm with the guy you can't have a "real relationship" without an initial physical interaction, that one meeting doesn't really count because it was the first meeting. This is whats gonna happen if you carry out your plans, you're gonna go meet the guy, him being a man he's gonna say whatever he thinks you want to hear to get some sex (same with the other guy you're going to meet) and then you're gonna come back home confused leading to your current man knowing something isn't right, in the end in the span of a month you're going to have had three dicks and now no man
Flaka
11-02-2008, 01:06 PM
Wow Ms. Mia, sorry if you felt insulted, I was just bein honest, not bitchy.
And for the record, whatever I say on the internet to you is exactly what I would tell you in person. Makes no difference to me, I don't know why it would to you either. You have your mind made up about what you want to do, so do it.
veronicachick
11-02-2008, 01:23 PM
I think the posters started to turn on you when you dismissed all the advice you were given. If you check the other threads they all go the same way when the OP asks for advice and then doesn't wanna hear it when its something they don't agree with. I'm with the guy you can't have a "real relationship" without an initial physical interaction, that one meeting doesn't really count because it was the first meeting. This is whats gonna happen if you carry out your plans, you're gonna go meet the guy, him being a man he's gonna say whatever he thinks you want to hear to get some sex (same with the other guy you're going to meet) and then you're gonna come back home confused leading to your current man knowing something isn't right, in the end in the span of a month you're going to have had three dicks and now no man
lmao. with men it always somehow goes back to sex.
Ms. Mia Roberts
11-02-2008, 02:04 PM
Its fuuny how you come across as an "internet gangsta," throwing around fuck you's like I'm a child and will be offended by it. I was calling your actions stupid in my previous post, not your intelligence but you just proved your intelligence just now.
There was no need for your vulgar language. I would be giving you the same advice if you two had been previously married. As far as the comment saying it to your face....I am an adult and if I said it to you on here, I would definitely say it to you in person. That shows your way of thinking. I even saw in a previous post that you even asked where another girl had lived; for what? Advice has been given and all you can say is that you haven't seen the advice you were looking for. So why the hell ask for it? That's like asking for money and getting mad you got a dollar.
read what you posted before and then correct yourself. There is a difference between calling somone's actions stupid and calling them stupid. You would have to be stupid yourself to not see the difference.
And if you (or her) live anywhere close to me, i would be happy to talk to you face to face, so you could tell me how you really feel.
I hate when people insult others online, its stupid and a punk move. If you are gonna insult someone, bring ya ass to me and say it to my face, otherwise, the most i can do through internet forums is tell you to go fuck yourself.
now, on the topic of giving advice. You seem like you posses some intelligence...you might be a bitch, but you are bitch that can read. Like i said before, i asked for advice and got insulted instead (on an issue i really didn't want advice on anyway).If i'm get insulted, i'm goin to insult back. I don't want anyone on this forum to think that i'm just gonna let people call me stupid and not say anything about it. Be respectful, or get the fuck off the topic. Those seem like fair rules to go by.
Ms. Mia Roberts
11-02-2008, 02:16 PM
Wow Ms. Mia, sorry if you felt insulted, I was just bein honest, not bitchy.
And for the record, whatever I say on the internet to you is exactly what I would tell you in person. Makes no difference to me, I don't know why it would to you either. You have your mind made up about what you want to do, so do it.
read what i said to ms. layne
and no, i would never insult or disrespect a stranger to thier face unless they disrespect me first. Which i did not do to either of you (or anyone else on this forum)....whether i agree or not, i'm gonna be respectful because thats the kind of person i am
unlike i have now found out most of the girls on sw are.....i should have listened to kiera and other members when they said this site was full of bitches now....
Ms. Mia Roberts
11-02-2008, 02:22 PM
I think the posters started to turn on you when you dismissed all the advice you were given. If you check the other threads they all go the same way when the OP asks for advice and then doesn't wanna hear it when its something they don't agree with. I'm with the guy you can't have a "real relationship" without an initial physical interaction, that one meeting doesn't really count because it was the first meeting.
This is whats gonna happen if you carry out your plans, you're gonna go meet the guy, him being a man he's gonna say whatever he thinks you want to hear to get some sex (same with the other guy you're going to meet) and then you're gonna come back home confused leading to your current man knowing something isn't right, in the end in the span of a month you're going to have had three dicks and now no man
he won't, he is not that type of guy. We aren't gonna have sex. You don't know me enough to make that assumption. And i'm just gonna tell you that its flat out wrong.
on the thing about initial physical interaction, thats what i wanted to hear from posters....that was the whole topic....but people don't know how to listen/read
and i don't know if i can agree with you on that either if you have never experienced anything like it
i want to hear from anyone (if there is anyone) that fell in love (that was requited) through anything but the conventional way
MsLayne
11-02-2008, 02:23 PM
No one has disrespected you until you did the same. People can be smart but still make poor decisions. That's what you don't seem to understanbd...you are focusing on non-sense. If I wanted to call you stupid I would. I'm far from unintelligent and I will have three degrees in May to prove it. You sound foolish when it comes to fighting as you do with the decisions you have made in regards to seeing someone who doesn't want to see you.
I'm done with this thread and waiting to see your next one in regards to your visit. Good luck with ur foolishness because you are definitely living up to it.
Ms. Mia Roberts
11-02-2008, 02:28 PM
lmao. with men it always somehow goes back to sex.
unfortunetly.....for some people
Ms. Mia Roberts
11-02-2008, 02:31 PM
No one has disrespected you until you did the same. People can be smart but still make poor decisions. That's what you don't seem to understanbd...you are focusing on non-sense. If I wanted to call you stupid I would. I'm far from unintelligent and I will have three degrees in May to prove it. You sound foolish when it comes to fighting as you do with the decisions you have made in regards to seeing someone who doesn't want to see you.
I'm done with this thread and waiting to see your next one in regards to your visit. Good luck with ur foolishness because you are definitely living up to it.
i will call bullshit on that one. Read through this entire thread and you will see not once did i call anyone out of thier name, insult thier intelligence, or just be out right rude to them until i got a comment like yours.
now if you want to make yourself look like a victim and not like a bitch, go right ahead....some people on here might take the bait....but not me
so you tell me how i disrespected you for you to come on this thread and insult my intelligence in your first post....
grindonme
11-02-2008, 06:18 PM
lmao. with men it always somehow goes back to sex.
he won't, he is not that type of guy. We aren't gonna have sex. You don't know me enough to make that assumption. And i'm just gonna tell you that its flat out wrong.
lmaooo...i don't even have a response to that
on the thing about initial physical interaction, thats what i wanted to hear from posters....that was the whole topic....but people don't know how to listen/read
and i don't know if i can agree with you on that either if you have never experienced anything like it
i want to hear from anyone (if there is anyone) that fell in love (that was requited) through anything but the conventional way
You can't really make a thread and say forget this BIGGG part of it only focus on this little part. If your first post had been simply "has anyone ever fallen in love over the phone or another unconventional and if so how did it work out" that would've been good but you posted a conversation were for the most part a guy was basically dogging you out and you're still trying to meet him. Anyone that read that conversation isn't gonna be thinking about anything but "how could she wanna meet someone that is talking to her like that".
Ms. Mia Roberts
11-02-2008, 10:36 PM
lmaooo...i don't even have a response to that
You can't really make a thread and say forget this BIGGG part of it only focus on this little part. If your first post had been simply "has anyone ever fallen in love over the phone or another unconventional and if so how did it work out" that would've been good but you posted a conversation were for the most part a guy was basically dogging you out and you're still trying to meet him. Anyone that read that conversation isn't gonna be thinking about anything but "how could she wanna meet someone that is talking to her like that".
thats why i took that part out. And its not about meeting him, its seeing him again. And its BECAUSE he is talking to me like that, that i want to see him again.
I'm gonna either A. get an apology and gain some understanding.... or B. Get some shit off my chest and tell him off
Honey71783
11-03-2008, 09:19 PM
thats why i took that part out. And its not about meeting him, its seeing him again. And its BECAUSE he is talking to me like that, that i want to see him again.
I'm gonna either A. get an apology and gain some understanding.... or B. Get some shit off my chest and tell him off
I don't see guys unless they want me too. The last time I saw a guy without him wanting me there, I cooked him a wonderful surprise dinner, he came home, we had a serious argument, and I ended up with a DUI. Soooo, don't go where you are not welcome... It does not sound like you're welcome in the least, not at all... yucky... spend your time with someone who has open arms... why waste your energy on this loser, when there are guys out there that you can have a connection with, and there conversation will go more like this:
Guy: Hey, babe... whatcha doin'?
You: ...
Guy: I enjoyed your company at dinner last night...
You: ...
Guy: I love the way your eyes sparkle when you laugh...
You:...
Guy: You looked really good when you walked through the door. I was thinking about buying you something that I really would like to see you in...
You:...
Guy: When's the next time I can see you?
You:
Guy: I really want to see you... Whenever is good for you...
You:...
Guy: I'll come and pick you up... and maybe we can go to dinner and a movie. Sounds good?
You: ...
Guy: It's whatever... Let me know what you wanna do...
You:
Guy: Great! Can't wait to see you on Saturday...
You: ...
Guy: xoxoxo
Doesn't that sound soooo much better? You can find him... He's out there...
That other loser is not The One...
Ms. Mia Roberts
11-04-2008, 04:30 PM
I don't see guys unless they want me too. The last time I saw a guy without him wanting me there, I cooked him a wonderful surprise dinner, he came home, we had a serious argument, and I ended up with a DUI. Soooo, don't go where you are not welcome... It does not sound like you're welcome in the least, not at all... yucky... spend your time with someone who has open arms... why waste your energy on this loser, when there are guys out there that you can have a connection with, and there conversation will go more like this:
Guy: Hey, babe... whatcha doin'?
You: ...
Guy: I enjoyed your company at dinner last night...
You: ...
Guy: I love the way your eyes sparkle when you laugh...
You:...
Guy: You looked really good when you walked through the door. I was thinking about buying you something that I really would like to see you in...
You:...
Guy: When's the next time I can see you?
You:
Guy: I really want to see you... Whenever is good for you...
You:...
Guy: I'll come and pick you up... and maybe we can go to dinner and a movie. Sounds good?
You: ...
Guy: It's whatever... Let me know what you wanna do...
You:
Guy: Great! Can't wait to see you on Saturday...
You: ...
Guy: xoxoxo
Doesn't that sound soooo much better? You can find him... He's out there...
That other loser is not The One...
you are absolutely right... i shouldn't want to spend time with someone who talks to me the way that guy did. i need to find a man who wants to be with me and that i don't have to ask more than once to see.... i understand where you are coming from...
charlygirl
11-04-2008, 11:06 PM
You went through all that and didn't get paid for your time? Girl next time find that job working on a chatline and get PAID for that.. You can't have a real relationship like that at all.
Ms. Mia Roberts
11-04-2008, 11:10 PM
You went through all that and didn't get paid for your time? Girl next time find that job working on a chatline and get PAID for that.. You can't have a real relationship like that at all.
Can i do that?!?!?!?! seriously, are there jobs like that????
Honey71783
11-04-2008, 11:43 PM
Can i do that?!?!?!?! seriously, are there jobs like that????
yeah...
You talk to the guys in the chatroom like you did to him and you'll make out like a bandit...
Ms. Mia Roberts
11-04-2008, 11:58 PM
yeah... www.cams.com (http://www.cams.com)
You talk to the guys in the chatroom like you did to him and you'll make out like a bandit...
LMAO!!!!
Honey71783
11-05-2008, 12:03 AM
LMAO!!!!
I'm serious... All you need is a webcam, highspeed internet, and a picture...
Are you above the age of 18?
Ms. Mia Roberts
11-05-2008, 12:20 AM
the webcam part scares me...i don't want to get naked on camera
Honey71783
11-05-2008, 12:25 AM
the webcam part scares me...i don't want to get naked on camera
LOL... That will defeat the whole purpose... But, hun, you could make some serious money, typing/talking like that...
Ms. Mia Roberts
11-05-2008, 12:34 AM
i'm sure i could...i might look into it...
grindonme
11-05-2008, 11:53 AM
the webcam part scares me...i don't want to get naked on camera
Boooooooooooooooo
charlygirl
11-05-2008, 08:45 PM
The skills you'll get working on a chatline will set you up good with any man. Look into it.
Ms. Mia Roberts
11-05-2008, 09:12 PM
The skills you'll get working on a chatline will set you up good with any man. Look into it.
maybe but maybe not. He did most of the talkin when we were in a relationship.....i was the listener...