View Full Version : Question for Customers: Motivations
Nuclear Teabag
01-19-2009, 09:14 PM
Uh no. That is far weirder than Yoga guy./:O
Yeah. I'd say.
commanderadama
01-20-2009, 05:45 PM
IMO I think this question is moot in the current cultural environment, since this is the age of the "hookup".
So I guess my motivation is to hang out. BTW, I answered, "don't seek" but I do accept invitations to hang out later. It never turns into anything serious. Just dancing or breakfast or something like that. Strippers in my area have great tastes in music so we instantly have that in common. ;D
This is my first post, been a lurker for about 1 year.
Nuclear Teabag
01-20-2009, 08:06 PM
The only times i ever met a dancer outside the club was at bars and stuff. We'd usually dance and just party... stuff like that. It's all hustle, of course, but it's usually a good time so why complain. Not usually any sex involved, which is just as well. I dunno. Fun times, though.
If you call that a date, so mote it be... but i don't.
Lapaholic
01-22-2009, 09:30 PM
Ive never asked a dancer out in my long career as a custie. But recently a dancer asked me out. I accepted and we have hung out for the past 7 months. Im not sure I would do it it again. I prefer the anonymity of going to the club and having fun then go home. To me thats really the point...
Kicks
01-26-2009, 10:37 AM
Attempting to date a dancer is not the primary reason I go to clubs. But, if we are getting along really well (beyond the typical dancer/custie transactions) I'd be willing.
This topic reminds me of the guy that was asked "Why do you rob banks?" and he says "Thats where the money is".
In a club, there are lots of beautiful women, they are approachable, friendly, and having a good time. You certainly can talk to a lot more women there, than in the grocery store or post office.
Otoki
01-27-2009, 04:25 PM
This topic reminds me of the guy that was asked "Why do you rob banks?" and he says "Thats where the money is".
In a club, there are lots of beautiful women, they are approachable, friendly, and having a good time. You certainly can talk to a lot more women there, than in the grocery store or post office.
That's like saying you go to restaurants in the hopes of snagging a date with the waitresses. They, too are approachable, friendly, and AT WORK. See the similarities?
Kicks
01-28-2009, 11:26 AM
That's like saying you go to restaurants in the hopes of snagging a date with the waitresses. They, too are approachable, friendly, and AT WORK. See the similarities?
You are right.
As long as the waitress is younger than the greeters at Wal Mart, and doesn't remind me of Aunt Bea, I'd be open to the possibility of going out with a waitress, too. I don't think I would put anybody's occupation in the category of 'would never date'.
Well, except drug dealer.
commanderadama
01-28-2009, 07:00 PM
Again, just my opinion, but the best women seem to work in the service industries. (Strippers, Waitresses, Counter sales, Nurses etc...) and the career women are the worst (Accountants, Lawyers, MBA's etc...).
So for example, I hung out with a stripper who was studying to become a nurse. She had two kids, which wasn't cool with me at the time (10 years ago), but she was/is a really good person and my type, skinny and brunette.}:D
I think life is a game of chance, so I take the hey you never know approach to it. If I meet someone like her again, the kids won't bother me now, so like lotto, "hey, you never know". ;D
latingod
01-28-2009, 09:24 PM
I use to go to SC's and my motivation was to entertain customers....however I've gone out with 3 dancers over the last year and a half... not what I was looking for at the SCs though, things just evolved into that ....
Otoki
02-02-2009, 12:40 PM
You are right.
As long as the waitress is younger than the greeters at Wal Mart, and doesn't remind me of Aunt Bea, I'd be open to the possibility of going out with a waitress, too. I don't think I would put anybody's occupation in the category of 'would never date'.
Well, except drug dealer.
*whoosh*
bigmarv
02-12-2009, 03:05 PM
While I don't actively try to date dancer's, I am open minded to the possibility. ;D
she sells sanctuary
02-12-2009, 05:29 PM
There have been dancers who have posted about dating customers.
i am one of these dancers. i never ever say yes to guys who ask me. i only ask who i want to ask. a customer would be correct to assume i would tell him no if he asked, because i would.
Not interested in the slightest bit. I like most of the girls that work around here, but as far as dating goes forget it. Deceit is not a good way to start up a relationship. And while it might be deceit without real malice, it is still deceit.
what do you mean by deceit? like the fake name thing or something? something more? how much do you think girls lie about? (i'm pretty sure if a girl is willing to date guys she meets in the club, she's probably not lying about much. i know the only lie i tell is my name.)
Ive never asked a dancer out in my long career as a custie. But recently a dancer asked me out. I accepted and we have hung out for the past 7 months. Im not sure I would do it it again. I prefer the anonymity of going to the club and having fun then go home. To me thats really the point...
ultimately, i agree with you.
Otoki
02-12-2009, 09:56 PM
what do you mean by deceit? like the fake name thing or something? something more? how much do you think girls lie about? (i'm pretty sure if a girl is willing to date guys she meets in the club, she's probably not lying about much. i know the only lie i tell is my name.)
Same here.
mediocrity
02-14-2009, 07:50 PM
what do you mean by deceit? like the fake name thing or something? something more? how much do you think girls lie about? (i'm pretty sure if a girl is willing to date guys she meets in the club, she's probably not lying about much. i know the only lie i tell is my name.)
I will admit, 95% of what I tell customers is a lie. Where I grew up, that's always true. What I'm going to school for, always true.
But when guys say "Hey, how old are you, 23?" it's "OMG! How did you know? Good guess!" or "I love natural blondes." it's "Aw thank you. That's why I don't colour it." Am I single? Always. Can I go out and have dinner sometime? Aw that's sweet but I have school/ 8 dogs/ work a lot/ going on vacation, let's go to VIP and spend time together NOW.
I am providing a fantasy, a character, a dream girl. I am not obligated to tell a customer who I "really" am. Hence why I am adamant about having a realistic stage name. "Jane" is different than "Mediocrity".
I think I have the same perspective as Mr BSteve.
Phil-W
02-15-2009, 05:03 AM
I think the biggest "lie" (if I may call it that) is the difference between the personality a dancer portrays at work and her real life personalty.
I think the great majority of dancers soon learn that most customers come in with a mental stereotype of a dancer in mind and that behaving like that stereotype is the best way to maximize earnings.
Hence dancers who are relatively honest about themselves in conversation are still projecting a different image to their IRL personality.
Phil.
she sells sanctuary
02-15-2009, 08:43 PM
I will admit, 95% of what I tell customers is a lie. Where I grew up, that's always true. What I'm going to school for, always true.
But when guys say "Hey, how old are you, 23?" it's "OMG! How did you know? Good guess!" or "I love natural blondes." it's "Aw thank you. That's why I don't colour it." Am I single? Always. Can I go out and have dinner sometime? Aw that's sweet but I have school/ 8 dogs/ work a lot/ going on vacation, let's go to VIP and spend time together NOW.
I am providing a fantasy, a character, a dream girl. I am not obligated to tell a customer who I "really" am. Hence why I am adamant about having a realistic stage name. "Jane" is different than "Mediocrity".
I think I have the same perspective as Mr BSteve.
oh, don't get me wrong, i lie too. i just don't lie to guys i might be willing to go out with (like i've said, i pursue them, i know who i want). because if i'm willing to go out with them, well, i want them to know who i am. besides, the good/bad thing about the strip club is that you could walk around with your home address written on your top and no one would believe you. haha. usually i lie because customers believe my lies more than the truth. men are bizarre.
I think the biggest "lie" (if I may call it that) is the difference between the personality a dancer portrays at work and her real life personalty.
I think the great majority of dancers soon learn that most customers come in with a mental stereotype of a dancer in mind and that behaving like that stereotype is the best way to maximize earnings.
Hence dancers who are relatively honest about themselves in conversation are still projecting a different image to their IRL personality.
Phil.
that's a really good point. i know i've had that problem before. it goes both ways too. we aren't the only ones who put on an act. the guy who was so fun to be around in the club, outside of it he's trying to hard to impress a girl half his age at a restaurant he assumed was her style (wrong), talking about a car he thought she'd be wild about (wrong), and how he got an awesome condo far from town for the same price as a not as nice place right in a fashionable area (wrong wrong wrong). i liked that guy a lot as a person. if i'd had any sense, i'd've pretended to be impressed and done the sugar daddy thing. but well, fuck that. i'm all about steak, sedans, and location. i'm too young to be going through a midlife crisis. he was just right for one. such a nice guy though, too nice to take advantage of like that. cute too. definitely thought he was cute. but out of the club, the spark was gone.
but long story short, that's why i decided to only date guys from the club if i asked them and was myself from the get go, instead of guys who seemed good over time.
the act just fucks everything up.
bsteve
02-18-2009, 09:15 PM
I think the biggest "lie" (if I may call it that) is the difference between the personality a dancer portrays at work and her real life personalty.
I think that anyone who knows has been in a SC once or twice can understand the pretty basic concept of dancers' behavior: a dancer while at work portrays a certain character which is attractive to a customer. It is not a lie but an act.
To me it is a game. An act. Just as if I were to go to a movie theater. I know that in a film an actor pretends to be a cowboy, a gangster, or a superspy. I know that it's an act -- but I like it. Similarly, I know that a 20-something woman pretends to be a horny slut, or a ditzhead, or an innocent naive Ukrainian 19-year old. It makes me feel good to be in her company, to watch her seminaked body inches away from me. If I wanted the reality, I would not go to a SC.
I kinda feel sorry for guys who can't separate the fantasy from the reality.
seekr34
05-17-2009, 08:03 PM
I chosed "would accept date but not seek". My earlier days I would have picked "date with significant motivation". As for my reason why I would have seek out a stripper for a date back then was not that I thought she was a easy lay, but because being a stripper, exposing her body, I knew she wouldn't be too conservative and would at least be a bit outgoing. I figured it would be easier to have a relationship. But since then I haven't, mostly because many of them only care about their customers money and I been lied to when they accepted my date invitation, only never had the intentions to date me.
Earl_the_Pearl
05-17-2009, 09:51 PM
There is "date" and date. The former the escort "date". I am always looking for a "date". As for date fer'get aout'it. :ill: It does not exist for PLs.
jack0177057
05-18-2009, 03:50 PM
I used to fancy the idea of dating a dancer... But, the dancers in this forum have convinced me that trying to pick up a dancer at a SC is a bad idea...
There is no need to be fixated on dating a dancer... I'm sure that most "regular" women will oblige you if you tell them that you are turned on by erotic dancing and lap dances. There are great instructional videos out there: Carmen Electra's series, The S Factor's series, The Complete Idiot's Guide to Exotic and Pole Dancing (book + video) and The Art of Exotic Dancing: Lap Dancing and Entertaining Your Man.
magic501
05-26-2009, 12:10 AM
Many of the dancers I know are also college students, whether part-time or full time taking classes. While not actively "seeking a date", most of them have appreciated a nice meal and maybe a movie or a trip to the video store.
Yes, some have been more "appreciative" than others, but it's not big deal to me. I view a SC as a fantasy for guys; whatever fantasy you have is up to you.
Above all, I always remember that dancers are people, too. We all have to live in this world.
magic
silk55
05-27-2009, 05:46 AM
i voted "I would accept the chance but do not actively seek a date with a dancer"
my main reason for going to strip clubs is to stay away from the drama and just enjoy looking at beautiful women. My last gf was a stripper that lasted for over a year. It would have worked out but I just travel too much to keep a relationship. Plus since my job is stressful at times its nice to take a mini vacation on Wednesdays or Fridays since those are the days I work remotely from my home.
Cyril
05-27-2009, 08:05 PM
I think there should be one more option:
Are you interested in a one-night stand with a dancer?
Earl_the_Pearl
05-27-2009, 08:17 PM
I think there should be one more option:
Are you interested in a one-night stand with a dancer?
You must understand PLs will never get it for free and a one night stand is expensive. A quick BJ in the car is enough.
Cyril
05-27-2009, 08:23 PM
If it is not free then it is not for me.
Earl_the_Pearl
05-27-2009, 08:26 PM
If it is not free then it is not for me.
You aint never gonna get, never gonna get it. See what you get next time in a club when you don't tip.
It's all good; it's a business and no love is lost.
Cyril
05-27-2009, 08:33 PM
I guess I will get over my stripper fantasy and move on to cocktail waitress fantasy or something like that. :)
Earl_the_Pearl
05-27-2009, 11:28 PM
I guess I will get over my stripper fantasy and move on to cocktail waitress fantasy or something like that. :)
You can have it; you just have to pay. You can pretend the shopping trip had nothing to do with play 4 pay.