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JayATee
05-14-2009, 03:48 PM
UGH!
It has nothing to do with it.
The "why" of the existence of the attitude doesn't enter into it. Just that it exists.
To the dancer does it matter why a customer is a being a dick, or is her sole concern just that he is a being a dick?
Ugh, is absolutely right dude. You don't get it. And this thread is a thinly disguised way for you to hate on dancers, whether or not that's your intent.
I hope you are comfortable not judging anyone you haven't been or anything you haven't tried.
Myself, I will stick to judging - like eating shit is probably something I am not going to like even if I haven't tried it.
I don't judge other ppl at all actually. But if judging ppl makes you feel better about being you than more power to ya.
Deogol
05-14-2009, 03:57 PM
I don't judge other ppl at all actually. But if judging ppl makes you feel better about being you than more power to ya.
It is more power to me because I protect myself from bad situations and getting fucked over. Being judgmental is called having judgment (and hopefully it is good judgment.)
JayATee
05-14-2009, 04:04 PM
It is more power to me because I protect myself from bad situations and getting fucked over. Being judgmental is called having judgment (and hopefully it is good judgment.)
No having good judgement is called having good judgement. Being judgmental is not knowing the whole story and already deciding you know more or know better than someone else and never seeing anything else but your own opinion.
Golden_Rule
05-14-2009, 06:36 PM
Ugh, is absolutely right dude. You don't get it. And this thread is a thinly disguised way for you to hate on dancers, whether or not that's your intent.
I try not to hate on anyone. Though being a human being it becomes difficult sometimes. Being self-aware though allows me to recognize it, instead of denying it, and then counter the effect with logic. That would be instead of simply pretending I don't have a sour bone for anyone.
I don't judge other ppl at all actually. But if judging ppl makes you feel better about being you than more power to ya.
People, being people, judge all the time.. ESPECIALLY other people. It's only the young and inexperienced who would argue differently. Then you've never been an old person so you couldn't know about that. :) [sorry, couldn't resist]
Sometimes having a discriminating eye can be a good thing, and sometimes not, but we ALL place values on things, people included, and when you do that judging is precisely what you are doing.
So when it comes to the topic of judging it is better to admit you do discriminate and take proactive steps to keep that discrimination as a positive force in your life, rather than deny its existence thus allowing it the latitude necessary to become a negative.
Deogol
05-15-2009, 05:39 AM
No having good judgement is called having good judgement. Being judgmental is not knowing the whole story and already deciding you know more or know better than someone else and never seeing anything else but your own opinion.
There you go, making shit up again just to slam on people.
Why don't you try a little education:
JayATee
05-15-2009, 11:53 AM
There you go, making shit up again just to slam on people.
Why don't you try a little education:
http://www.thefreedictionary.com/judgemental
Why don't you stop pretending that Im an idiot bc Im female. Im not. I know precisely what the dictionary meaning of JUDGEMENT is. I also know what it means to be JUDGEMENTAL. Why don't you stop being an ass. If someone says you're being judgemental it's not a compliment and it's not a good thing.
JayATee
05-15-2009, 11:54 AM
People, being people, judge all the time.. ESPECIALLY other people. It's only the young and inexperienced who would argue differently. Then you've never been an old person so you couldn't know about that. :) [sorry, couldn't resist]
You're right, so you won't find me on forums for medicare and social security telling old ppl how to fix their problems.
Earl_the_Pearl
05-15-2009, 04:43 PM
You're right, so you won't find me on forums for medicare and social security telling old ppl how to fix their problems.
But PLs are your problem and we be PLs. ;D
Golden_Rule
05-16-2009, 05:42 AM
You're right, so you won't find me on forums for medicare and social security telling old ppl how to fix their problems.
And that wasn't the point, but you knew that. :)
It might be better if you addressed the point of the post if you are going to bother to reply: Which was that ALL people judge and if you didn't it would make you the only person in the world so inclined. So it is better to admit that you do and use logic to temper your discriminating so as to keep it a positive force in your life.
JayATee
05-16-2009, 03:13 PM
And that wasn't the point, but you knew that. :)
It might be better if you addressed the point of the post if you are going to bother to reply: Which was that ALL people judge and if you didn't it would make you the only person in the world so inclined. So it is better to admit that you do and use logic to temper your discriminating so as to keep it a positive force in your life.
I truthfully don't see the point in responding anymore, which is why I didn't bother to address the actual point of your post.
You side stepped mine beautifully though. Kudos.
Golden_Rule
05-17-2009, 05:30 PM
I truthfully don't see the point in responding anymore, which is why I didn't bother to address the actual point of your post.
You side stepped mine beautifully though. Kudos.
Post #57 was a precise and exact answer to your initial query.
I pointed out why I thought such a thread would be of use to some folks, particular newbies. I pointed out why you were totally wrong, or absolutely unique in your make-up, when you said you don't judge. It is an empirical fact that EVERYONE judges.
Look, other guys around here may treat you differently because you are female and probably pretty and somewhere in the back of their minds they think agreeing with you is going to win them some sort of brownie points but to me folks are just folks.
In this medium you are a stream of electrons and the only thing you are exciting is phosphor dots. To me, in this medium, you are nothing but another intellect.
In this medium I am never going to treat you like a "dancer". Just another human being with a brain whose points have to have something to them if they want to make any headway with me. If your logic is fuzzy I will point it out and I am just fine with you treating me the same.
Outside this medium I would like to think I'd do the same, but I acknowledge that outside this medium I am more than intellect and being male sometimes the id gets in the way... but I'm working on being a more perfect me [all the time] so perhaps some day... :)
Golden_Rule
08-18-2009, 02:24 PM
http://forum.stripperweb.com/showthread.php?t=134764
Again, NOT about making judgments. In fact I can well understand how dancers think on this subject.
Only about posting markers to threads, especially for the newbies among us, that point to the realities of the strip-club environment.