View Full Version : Do women like men gazing at their breasts?
NinaMarie
07-09-2009, 08:06 AM
You love to make men suffer don't you?
No, see I just said up there that it had nothing to do with men. Did you read it?
NinaMarie
07-09-2009, 08:09 AM
Actually, I am very much interested in this subject as well. Although I like to look at dancer's breasts in SC, I consider staring at a woman's cleavage at work extremely unprofessional, rude, bordering on sexual harassment. Such staring exposes the business to a lawsuit at worst, and poor morale at best. I view the work place to make money, and not a place to ogle at women. It’s called professionalism. Even if the woman is not offended, consents to it, or invites it, staring at breasts of a co-worker, subordinate, superior, vendor, or customer creates hostile work environment and it is still wrong.
I’ve had various conversations about this subject with close female friends, and professionals in HR, and marketing, so I know what they recommend. I would like to know from women who get paid to be stared at, and who are presumably comfortable being stared at: what do you recommend for a guy to do as not to stare at breasts of women at work?
thanks for this post. I really appreciated it up until the last line? Are men monkeys that they can't control themselves? What do you do not stare at women's breast at work, you just DO NOT DO IT. If it is difficult for you I think you need to stop going to the strip club so much.
NinaMarie
07-09-2009, 08:18 AM
I can relate to both of these posts. There's a twentysomething woman who is a couple of levels down the chain of command from me that tends to wear low cut tops. Whenever I'm in her office, I find myself standing so that her flat-panel monitor is in the line of sight between my eyeballs and her chest. It makes it a lot easier to maintain eye contact. For what it's worth, I've never gotten an indication that I've creeped her out, but I still feel like a dirty old man. I don't mind being the dirty old man in clubs, but really hate it otherwise.
Whats the difference between being a dirty old man in our out of clubs? This is interesting to me. I would hate to be that dirty old man or woman anywhere because even if someone is making money for it, it is still gross and disconcerting.
Do we give so much power to money that we base our emotions on it, or allow it to make us feel like we have a right to be creeps?
A womans body is a beautiful thing, and my time as a stripper showed me that men don't care to respect that. They think what they pay is even worth what they get and it isn't.
I have had people stare at my breasts before and then catch themselves and I could tell they felt bad and so i wasn't offended but this situation is a phenomena with social and political significance. If a man is confused about this issue or can't control themselves, it is because they were taught that they didnt have to somewhere.
Staring is a form of touching. When a man stares at my breasts and does not notice my discomfort, I wish I could just punch them.
Even the dirty old men at the club. You aren't paying to be that character. You are paying to see my body alluring you and then a lap dance, keep your imagination to yourself you wanker.
NinaMarie
07-09-2009, 08:25 AM
Question for NinaMarie and the other ladies -- If I notice your cleavage... for a couple of seconds too long (you're wearing low cut tops, etc.),... without even realizing it, and then notice it, and notice you noticing it... Should I apologize or just pretend it didn't happen?
I don't go around staring at breasts, but a couple of times, revealing clothing has caught me off guard... What should a gentleman do to "fix" the situation?
Now that is a good question! I don't know. if you say you are sorry and mean it that's the end of the conversation, I think that would be a very polite and mature thing to do. However, if the conversation went on to something like what is going on here it would be inappropriate.
Do you know what I mean? I don't get offended when men do it briefly and I notice they make themselves stop.
thanks for this question
Nina
NinaMarie
07-09-2009, 08:30 AM
if its my dad or any other family members no
anyone else yes then i get a boost of confidence because i have boobs!!;)
What can I say about these kind of responses? I kind of feel like you are the types of women who make men think this kind of behavior is ok. It happens so much it is maddening and yet there are woman who say it is ok. It's in its very essence not ok.
Staring at anyone for any reason is rude. Staring at someones breasts is like so invasive, it shouldn't even be a question if it is rude or not.
shinysugar
07-10-2009, 03:38 AM
What can I say about these kind of responses? I kind of feel like you are the types of women who make men think this kind of behavior is ok. It happens so much it is maddening and yet there are woman who say it is ok. It's in its very essence not ok.
Staring at anyone for any reason is rude. Staring at someones breasts is like so invasive, it shouldn't even be a question if it is rude or not.
dont get all upset, if you dont want guys starring at your chest then dont draw attention to that area. theyre going to do what they want. not to mention, i am a stripper its normal for a guy to look at my boobs anymore.
Otoki
07-11-2009, 12:50 AM
^^Well, aside from wearing a fucking burka, (which still doesn't seem to stop guys from doing whatever) I think it's a little simplistic to tell someone not to draw attention to an area. Hell, I've caught guys staring at my tits when I was wearing a baggy sweatshirt. Some will stare no matter what, and I find it annoying and rude.
And I've been stripping for 3.5 years.
You definitely can't stop people staring, true, but that doesn't mean you have to like it. If you do, that's fine, but NinaMarie doesn't. I don't think she had a right to get upset over your response, but I don't think your post here is completely on point.
audrey_k
07-11-2009, 09:19 AM
OTC, no it really fucking pisses me off and is a sign of disrespect... and often stupidity.
ITC, yes I prefere a guy looking at my breasts and not my face while I'm giving him a dance or on stage. Eye contact freaks me out and makes me super uncomfortable.
shinysugar
07-13-2009, 01:16 AM
i do admit that i got defensive, but i did answer the question, i guess it comes down to who you are.
sananeko
07-13-2009, 03:35 AM
I don't really care, I don't need push-up bras but I wear the low-cut tops cause its more comfortable. I have caught men and women staring at them once in a while, I'm ok with it til someone tries to grab. Do I like it? No, but I'm not going to freak over it.
Otoki
07-13-2009, 12:15 PM
i do admit that i got defensive, but i did answer the question, i guess it comes down to who you are.
It really does. It's amazing how differently people react to the job, ITC and OTC.
ChoclatDiva21
07-19-2009, 06:50 AM
I enjoy wearing low cut, "figure flattering" tops. Can't wait for summe so I can wear tank & halters & tube tops & sundresses. Can't live without my VS very sexy's. I expect the attention, & generally don't mind it. But when some idiot actually feels the need to inform me that " WOW, YOU HAVE REAAAALLLY BIG BOOBS!" I'm like- NO SHIT, SHERLOCK!
johnnytwoshoes
07-19-2009, 08:02 PM
I tend to look at the snatch intensely while getting a dance. In fact, I look at nothing else. I have noticed that if I concentrate hard enough and stare at the snatch long enough, without looking at anything else at all, I will sometimes be given a peek!
That's a free tip for the fellas!:teacher:
krchab99
07-19-2009, 08:10 PM
I'm good, cause I have nothing to look at anyway. ::)
lmao im a 34 a i don't even know why i clicked on this thread.
Earl_the_Pearl
07-19-2009, 08:20 PM
lmao im a 34 a i don't even know why i clicked on this thread.
It's like driving by an accident on the highway one can't help but look. If I can't help but look now you know.