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Gemini_Syn
04-01-2009, 02:22 PM
It is what I do, not who I am...

Exactly the point!

EVERYONE knows what I do for a living, I really don't care what they think of me. I can point to each of the homes down my street and tell you which one is the boozer, the child beater, the crack addict, the gambler, and who has had what repossessed. I know who has had numerous utilities shut off, and I know who needs to have animal control called on them.

When I first moved here people assumed I worked nights, then they thought a bar, and then I told them in casual conversation. They got to know me first. I still can babysit, house sit or gossip with the other mom's here. They know I'm a good person and what I do for a living does not define me as a person.

I rarely get rude comments, I get more questions than anything else. How do I give a lap dance to my hubby (and can you baby sit so I can do this)? COuld you help me with hair and make up? When is your next self defense class? Yes, I've taught them and I need to do it more often.

Your chosen career does not define who you really are. Well, most of the time.

Otoki
04-02-2009, 02:23 AM
My dad will be in shock and disappointed. I don't particularly care, because I don't give a fuck about how he feels about my job.

My mom might stop talking to me for a while, but the worst part is that she'd be WORRYING all the time, every time I go to work. That's why I'm waiting to tell her until I'm done, because I don't want to put her through that.

chitownchick
04-03-2009, 08:25 AM
I ALWAYS get the ever so common "can you hook me up with a hot stripper"? wht really really gets me is that every guy i have dated except my current boyfriend thought dancing was so hot, but when they startede dating me they freaked out and couldnt handle it. I always tell men that ask me to hook them up that it is hard to date a stripper especially if the guy has friends that frequent strip clubs or have friends that know and give them shit about it. MY ex couldnt even go to dinner with me without making a comment about how many men saw me naked that night. it got to be to much.

Right now my boyfriend bestfriend is living wth us temporarly and he always talks about how dancing is sooo degrading and awful. He doesn't even agree with phone sex, because i was work as a pso too. He can only see things from his closed off perspective. I had to tell him to worry about himself and not me. Meanwhile he works miserably and bitches about H and R block while I am fine with what I do. Im not going to change because he is judging me. he also is dating my best friend and she (although she cant take her shirt off in front her her boyfriend, so obviously would never do this) keeps saying she would be such a good dancer. She is one of those people that have never set foot in a club and think that you go on stage, take your clothes off and guys give you 500 bucks. yeah right. but she keeps saying in front of her boyfriend that she wants to be a stripper and he says, flat out, i will never be with you if you decide to dance. So thats her excuse for why she wont dance, efven though the real truth is she is to sel fconciouss. sorry this was so long, i had to get all that out.

chitownchick
04-03-2009, 08:28 AM
Gemini_syn : I always get the "how do i give a lap dance question"? Its surprising how many women really want to have the ability to be "sexy" in their boyfriend/husbands eyes. I have been dancing for so long that I have started to think that everyone knows what to do with a pole (as in the metal ones) and everyone knows how to walk in 9in heels and give a good lap dance.

Gemini_Syn
04-03-2009, 10:10 AM
Chitownchick, you need to tell your boyfriend's best friend that he's in your house and he needs to respect you if he's going to stay there. I would not put up with that bull shit! That's crossing the line.

Lemonz
04-03-2009, 12:38 PM
Everyone that knows so far is fine with it, except for the occasional degrading, lack of self respect speech I get here and there. Mom doesn't like it, but she's of the 'do what ya gotta do' attitude, so it's fine. If everyone else knew, I don't think much would change- my family would bust my balls more about it if anything. :P

chitownchick
04-03-2009, 06:32 PM
Gemini - good point, im already on it....hoping he is leaving within the month

TravelandStrip
04-03-2009, 09:31 PM
I would hate to tell my parents, mostly because I put them through a lot when I was younger and I don't want to rock the boat anymore. I have a degree and good work experience and they wouldn't understand why I would choose to be a stripper, which is fun and self-motivating, rather than a 9-5 wage slave, which makes me feel miserable.

Currently I'm traveling around South East Asia and haven't told any of the local friends I've made because in this part of the world strip clubs are just brothels. I don't think Indonesia and Malaysia have SCs at all due to them being Muslim countries. I don't know if they would understand what I do and if their feelings would be changed towards me so I just choose to keep it quiet.

Also, like has already been mentioned, some men think that because you take your clothes off in front of men, you're easy, and I don't like that.

However, having said all that, sometimes I like to tell random people I meet that I dance because I like to see the look of shock on their face... it's a bit of private amusement for me :D

xxameliaoo
04-04-2009, 10:50 PM
Maybe I can't really talk on this yet because I have not started dancing yet.. but I absolutely REFUSE to hide what I'm doing. It doesn't mean your a slut it doesn't mean your a druggie it doesn't mean ANYthing in particular.. so pretty much everyone can SUCK IT. Although I'm sure my family will flip out it's not like they are trying to help me go to college my self so yeah I hope it eats them up alive.!!

BlueJeanBaby
04-05-2009, 04:44 PM
I agree... it's a lot like that.

Maybe the reason that I don't hide what I do is because I'm not really ashamed of it and I don't want anyone trying to "out" me like it's something I should be ashamed of.

I agree with you Kylea (and amelia ^^^), but the reality of the situation for some of us is that if we were outed, we may lose some important people, jobs, or opportunities. It's not really a matter of shame, it's a matter of wanting to say get into law school (like a previous poster), or pharmacy school (myself), or keep my pharmacy technician job which I need to get into school.

I can't change everyone's opinions. I have a handful of people I trust that know, and even with them I get the whole "you're too good for that" crap, and the attitude that I need to be "saved". I'd just rather not deal with that. I'm not ashamed of dancing, but I recognize the reality that if certain people or organizations knew, it could make life difficult for me. For example, if certain people at work knew, they might be inclined to say something negative in my letters of recommendation.

And for that I am not open with most people about what I do when I'm not in class or at the pharmacy.

I would love to say "stick it" to society, but the real world (my real world) beckons...

charlygirl
04-06-2009, 05:30 PM
I tell everyone and anyone and I explain to them how the hustle goes. Once they understand that being successful is less about walking around in just a g-string and more about working your business they have respect for you because they know you're a hardcore hustler just as much so as any one of those a*holes that put our country in this mess.

patchouli
04-06-2009, 08:58 PM
Maybe I can't really talk on this yet because I have not started dancing yet.. but I absolutely REFUSE to hide what I'm doing. It doesn't mean your a slut it doesn't mean your a druggie it doesn't mean ANYthing in particular.. so pretty much everyone can SUCK IT. Although I'm sure my family will flip out it's not like they are trying to help me go to college my self so yeah I hope it eats them up alive.!!

:thumbsup: I plan on telling my family to suck it as well.

moxilicious
04-10-2009, 01:07 PM
i am currently working on getting into dancing...
my b/f would call me a hoe
my family is old fashioned and might not talk to me for awhile or try to "rescue" me by forcing me into their car which is what they've done in the past.
yea, i can see why you shouldn't feel ashamed t dance and should be able to tell everyone
i used to have that view point and i was an open book!
but now, i feel like it's my business and not yours and i don't have to tell anyone or explain anything to anyone.i don't have to listen to anyone's bullshit!
plus, when i was an open book-i had no secrets, and i felt like i wasn't mysterious anymore...

Sophia_Starina
04-11-2009, 11:31 AM
What would happen if everyone knew?

The earth would stop turning, fall off its axis, and fly into the sun. ;)

CherryonTop
04-12-2009, 11:59 PM
I think the only thing that's really happened for me so far was that I was meant to be getting a new tat done for super cheap by a friend of a friend, but when the friend's gf found out just WHO he was meant to be inking up, she spat the dummy and said he couldn't do it for me.

stupid insecure bitch, what did she think I was gonna do? Suck his dick for ink??

grr.

I get frustrated by the 'taboo' aspect of my job, but appreciate that without it I wouldn't be able to make the same money I do.

chris91
04-14-2009, 06:47 PM
I've told everyone that I'm a stripper, and I've had maybe 5 people in 12 years look at me sideways because of it. My mom is one of those people. My dad says he worries about the physical toll it takes on me, because I'm always hurting myself, but other than that he totally gets it.

Maybe this is just in New Orleans, but every landlord that I've known or tried to rent from says that they prefer to rent to strippers. They know that we make a lot of money. I've always been honest with potential day job employers, and if they say anything at all about me having been a stripper, it's to acknowledge that strippers must have good customer service skills.

Actually, being a stripper in New Orleans comes with a lot of perks. We get into clubs and often drink for free. I've seen lots of restaurants print up "Entertainers eat for free" gift cards, because they think that having pretty girls in their restaurant will bring in more business. I've gotten discounts on hotel rooms, and free concert tickets. The best thing though is that the cops here LOVE strippers. I even had a judge completely dismiss a ticket once when he found out that I was a dancer.

Maybe I'm just lucky. I know there is a stigma, but I think it exists in a part of society that I don't belong to and never see. Really, the only place I ever see it is in some of my customers.

Ms. Mia Roberts
04-14-2009, 06:49 PM
What would happen if everyone knew?

The earth would stop turning, fall off its axis, and fly into the sun. ;)

Lol...it seems that way to most people :D

Ms. Mia Roberts
04-14-2009, 06:50 PM
I've told everyone that I'm a stripper, and I've had maybe 5 people in 12 years look at me sideways because of it. My mom is one of those people. My dad says he worries about the physical toll it takes on me, because I'm always hurting myself, but other than that he totally gets it.

Maybe this is just in New Orleans, but every landlord that I've known or tried to rent from says that they prefer to rent to strippers. They know that we make a lot of money. I've always been honest with potential day job employers, and if they say anything at all about me having been a stripper, it's to acknowledge that strippers must have good customer service skills.

Actually, being a stripper in New Orleans comes with a lot of perks. We get into clubs and often drink for free. I've seen lots of restaurants print up "Entertainers eat for free" gift cards, because they think that having pretty girls in their restaurant will bring in more business. I've gotten discounts on hotel rooms, and free concert tickets. The best thing though is that the cops here LOVE strippers. I even had a judge completely dismiss a ticket once when he found out that I was a dancer.

Maybe I'm just lucky. I know there is a stigma, but I think it exists in a part of society that I don't belong to and never see. Really, the only place I ever see it is in some of my customers.

Yea, u are VERY lucky. I would kill for that kind of treatment.