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dance77
04-22-2009, 06:18 PM
Guys who have both hands huddled around the one bottle of beer they bought all night, experience proved they are the ones looking for the most desparate girl for their pathetic $20.00 on a given night.

Crow2
04-22-2009, 06:23 PM
I assume she takes all payment up front. After that the DJ/ management usually has your back.

Speaking of obnoxious guys hooting...
I had this guy who kept making these... cat calls? He sounded like a dying cat, and kept doing the same sound every few SECONDS. The whole damn time he was there. Which was a few hours. And we could hear it in the VIP/ DR... And to top it off, every time he tipped, he took a dollar, slowly, and held it above his head as he SLOWLY folded it lengthwise, twice. Good job wasting my time... Fucker...
He was at the end of the stage closest to the bar and the bar maid made a motion like she was going to pour hot coffee on his head. I love her }:D


OhmyGOD... we use to have a guy that would come in and bark like a dog. His wife would come in to fetch him out of there. Hilarious. Then for a while we had a man that would do the "who let the dogs out song" bark.

Holy God.

lilac666
06-04-2010, 02:12 AM
It's werid and I'm probably the only one who does this but I usually avoid white guys! I used to to think they were the ones with the most money but lately I've been making the most off of men of color-black,latin, indian, middle eastern-doesn't matter. Don't know why but when I ask it usually is pretty easy money from them! In fact this last month all the guys I made bank from in VIPs but one were not white. I do dance for white guys if they ask but usually they are at the bottom of my priority list to get to. Usually old white guys are hit or miss and sometimes I find them real perverts and prefer not to deal with their creepiness.

BTW, I'm half white half Brazilian but people can never guess what I am anyway. Maybe those other guys get ignored and I'm just at the right place at the right time but when white guys come in and girls always think he is a good target and run over there I just avoid them and it usually works out.

jasmine22
06-04-2010, 02:23 AM
I avoid anyone who is condescending or rude to me or other dancers. Ive even walked away in the middle of a conversation if i feel like hes being disrespectful or wasting time.

CherryBomb954
06-04-2010, 03:53 AM
Gangster-wannabes of any shape, size or color. That's about it really, I seem to have luck with just about anyone else besides those fucktards....(Doesn't help that I have a loathing for them OTC/IRL)


I also tend to steer clear of guys who get up from their chairs and dance, normally they are there to get wasted, say and do stupid shit and get kicked out anyway

Kellydancer
06-04-2010, 01:47 PM
While some of the comments are borderling racist, I have to agree. Generally speaking I really hated young white guys, ghetto guys (black, white or anyone else), Indian guys (grabby), typical white guys (in other words the chauvinist type who thought all women were below), and the regulars who only came to drink (or so they said). My experience has been these groups either didn't tip or they thought we were all whores. The young white guys rarely liked me. Also, if I knew a guy was a pimp or connected to another dancer I avoided.

Having said that, I absolutely loved older professional guys, especially white and black guys. The black guys were usually very respectful and not grabby. The older white guys were often into talking (I had a few regulars that would pay me hundreds to sit and talk). I also loved the fetish guys (the guy I love is into feet), the nerds, the guys who were homely and often disabled.

Hopper
06-05-2010, 12:56 AM
...If the person trying to make a sale is carrying a chip on their shoulder for some reason all the customer knows is that s/he senses ambivalence. S/he doesn't know it has nothing to do with him/her. He just knows s/he can sense that person's knickers are in a twist and so the potential purchaser takes it personally and thus decides, within the first 10 seconds, that person isn't someone they want to purchase anything from.

...

So all I am saying is that it works against the seller to get upset by any of the people hanging out in their shop, whatever that shop might be selling, as you tend to carry that stuff with you where it can be seen by others who might want to purchase from you.

In the English language, "he" (or "him" or "his") is used, in a gender-neutral sense, to refer to a generic person of no sepcific sex rather than a particular person of known sex or a generic person of male sex. "They", "them" or "their" is a plural pronoun and cannot properly be used to refer to a single person. "S/he", "he/she" or "him/her" is not a word and is an awkard contrivance.

I know many people will probably think it's sexist that "he" is chosen for this role over "she" and that some alternative neutral word wasn't devised for it, but trying to get around it by the above means is grammatically incorrect and/or awkward-looking. That's just the way the English language is.

Hopper
06-05-2010, 01:27 AM
This is a perfect example of how white guys can be stereotyped just as easily as any other type of guy in a strip club based on mere profiling. Some strippers choose their customers based on drink choices, others based on race, et cetera. (I'm not picking on you, Crow--I'm just relating this back to the thread's racism discussion)

The wierd thing is that someone even has to point this out, along with the fact that profiling based on frequent experiences with people of a given category is not the same as judging all people in that category. Before Political Correct insanity took over our society, this was common sense. People are "profiled" according to all kinds of categories, but the PC lunatics have made sacred certain categories, such as race, sex, homosexuality, etc. and then imposed silly definitions of what constitutes actual discrimination.

e.g. If someone refuses to rent his house to a family from a poor neighbourhood, PCs automatically say it's because he has class prejudice, when it may be because many - not all, maybe not even most - people from those neighbourhoods have disregard for property and he does not know this particular family well enough to judge whether the given family are of that type. He doesn't want to take a risk. It doesn't mean he thinks all poor people are vandalising, freeloading slobs.

I say put all these PCs on the receiving end and then see if they still want to impose their freaky ethics on all of us.

CherryBomb954
06-05-2010, 05:29 AM
I do not feel bad at all for "profiling" people when I am seeking out potential customers. What the fuck ever....I mean, they are doing it to us too!!! Ever think about the flip side of things?

I have been told "No, sorry, I'd like a black girl". I don't go screaming racism on the person. I've also been told "No, sorry, I'd like a bigger girl"...I don't go calling out discrimination. I don't get all wound up around the fucking axle about it. I've even been told by guys in one word or another that I don't look like an extras girl so they'd prefer not to have a dance with me! Annoying and gross but it is what it is. We are all evaluating eachother on a superficial basis (because we are all strangers to one another) in order to benefit ourselves, it being money on the stripper end of things and the type of dancer they really want on the customer end of things.

It's the nature of the business, on both the DANCER and CUSTOMER side as well. We are all sizing each other up constantly when in the club environment. IMO racism, discrimination, whatever has no business being mentioned in this thread, it's riduculous. Some people have way too much time on their hands I guess to sit around and try to read something personally offensive into every little thing they see or hear.

It's also my belief that the people who are quickest to point fingers are usually filled with the most self doubt.

Sia
06-05-2010, 08:19 PM
I avoid anyone who is condescending or rude to me or other dancers. Ive even walked away in the middle of a conversation if i feel like hes being disrespectful or wasting time.

Last night there was a group of guys in for a birthday. While I was on stage I watched the previous stage dancer approach them, only to be visibly mocked by them. After my stage set, they tried (very loudly) to call me over, but I completely ignored them. I could have made some money from them, but I won't put up with complete disrespect of my coworkers.

They were typical young white guys who thought they were super-cool.::)
I also tend to avoid any group of young guys....they are usually more of a pain in the ass than anything, buying one dance at a time.

Jessamin
06-06-2010, 07:35 PM
I at least "Wanna dance" everyone in the club (unless they are really gross- spitting, smelly or sweatpants type stuff), but will take more time with some groups than others.

I take more time with:
-Older buisness guys by themselves (particuarly if they are from out of town)
-Japanese guys (I can speak Japanese, which normally gets me a few dances)
-Nerdy looking guys
-Women/couples

I just quickly ask:
-Bachelor parties
-Young guys (particuarly in large groups)
-Arabic/Indian guys (only because of bad experences - occasionally they will spend money, so worth asking, but have found normally not. Plus one grabbed me and physically pulled me off the stage one night, then held me down while he tried to kiss me until the bouncers pulled him off... so, fair or not, I'm wary around these guys)

Firewall
06-06-2010, 08:21 PM
I AVOID:

Very old men, especially when they come in wearing shorts.

Groups of: Young men, Mexicans (I can't understand them), Cowboys (I'm not a southern girl)

If they are grabby when I talk to them, they will be worse during a dance.

If they look like they are on something, too fidgety, paranoid, suspicious, etc.

Middle-aged+ in suits. They, in my club, for some reason, tend to stick to their beer and only want sex.


I LOVE:

Nerdy looking guys.

Groups of guys that are my type: Nerdy, Gamers, Laid back, etc.

Single guys, especially 20's-30's, casual clothes.

Groups of women. God bless the lesbians and their enthusiasm for my profession. <3

Single black guys. I find 2 or more hard to talk to, but a single guy is usually into me cause of my butt! :P

Firewall
06-06-2010, 08:23 PM
I do not feel bad at all for "profiling" people when I am seeking out potential customers. What the fuck ever....I mean, they are doing it to us too!!! Ever think about the flip side of things?

I have been told "No, sorry, I'd like a black girl". I don't go screaming racism on the person. I've also been told "No, sorry, I'd like a bigger girl"...I don't go calling out discrimination. I don't get all wound up around the fucking axle about it. I've even been told by guys in one word or another that I don't look like an extras girl so they'd prefer not to have a dance with me! Annoying and gross but it is what it is. We are all evaluating eachother on a superficial basis (because we are all strangers to one another) in order to benefit ourselves, it being money on the stripper end of things and the type of dancer they really want on the customer end of things.

This is very true! And I appreciate when a customer straight up says they want something other than what I have. Doesn't mean they are discriminating, they just know what they like ;P

girlundressed
06-10-2010, 12:14 PM
I avoid really young guys. I just don't think we see the world the same way most of the time. I've had a couple of them be great customers, but for the most part it just doesn't work out.

I avoid customers who are rude to me or my coworkers.

I don't like to approach men who are mentally disabled (used to get a few in regularly) because I feel like I would be taking advantage of them.

If a guy is uncomfortable in the club or is only there because his friends dragged him in I tend to stay away.

I also find myself avoiding lesbian couples. I love dancing for women, but for a while I worked at a club where the dancers shared the customers restroom and the lesbian couples used to go in together and have sex forever. It was so annoying when you had to pee, but the only restroom had a 30 minute wait. Now, I just can't shake the habit of avoiding the female couples lol. I need to get over this I know.

Emma82
06-15-2010, 03:34 PM
I guess I really only avoid the dudes who smell bad. Like, I'm walking by and can smell them. Yuck.

Other types I just don't seek out. It's not that I avoid them, but I have had enough experiences to know what types aren't interested. For instance, it's been said, but the 'gangsta' looking guys. They just generally aren't in the market for a super tall, small-chested white girl with tattoos and piercings who dances to Tool and doesn't do a lot of 'making it clap'.

alexa111
06-15-2010, 06:38 PM
The only guys I really avoid are young white guys, just because I expect them not to like me. I grew up around almost all white people and all the guys i went to school with made it clear they didn't find "chunky dark girls" attractive. So I think I just have kind of a complex about approaching them in the club. Otherwise I try to talk to every customer..you never know!

slowpoke
06-15-2010, 07:43 PM
Holy racism! :eek: I mean, wow. I'm willing to say that half of you probably deserve some of the shit you get. Your attitudes need a check up.

Some people learn from experience. Some are so politically correct they never learn.

slowpoke
06-15-2010, 07:46 PM
Holy racism! :eek: I mean, wow. I'm willing to say that half of you probably deserve some of the shit you get. Your attitudes need a check up.


The wierd thing is that someone even has to point this out, along with the fact that profiling based on frequent experiences with people of a given category is not the same as judging all people in that category. Before Political Correct insanity took over our society, this was common sense. People are "profiled" according to all kinds of categories, but the PC lunatics have made sacred certain categories, such as race, sex, homosexuality, etc. and then imposed silly definitions of what constitutes actual discrimination.

e.g. If someone refuses to rent his house to a family from a poor neighbourhood, PCs automatically say it's because he has class prejudice, when it may be because many - not all, maybe not even most - people from those neighbourhoods have disregard for property and he does not know this particular family well enough to judge whether the given family are of that type. He doesn't want to take a risk. It doesn't mean he thinks all poor people are vandalising, freeloading slobs.

I say put all these PCs on the receiving end and then see if they still want to impose their freaky ethics on all of us.

They are probably incapable of learning. Their PC prejudices are so strong, they can not recognize reality.

Kellydancer
06-16-2010, 04:16 PM
They are probably incapable of learning. Their PC prejudices are so strong, they can not recognize reality.

PC is the worst thing that has happened to society in a long time. While it is wrong to judge all people by a certain ethnicity (and I admit I do this) it's gone farther than that. Those of us who have certain moral views are judged as intolerant. For instance I will admit I think people who had kids without being married is very wrong and I can't accept it. I don't go around telling people they are immoral, but when I meet a guy with kids who never married the mom I tell him our values aren't the same. I've been kicked out of singles groups because of this. Yet society says that this is fine and we need to accept it. Not just this issue, but many more. Even religious views are often viewed as intolerant, but people who are clearly lacking morals (I'll say the women who have many babies by various baby daddies to receive welfare) are accepted. Not right at all but this is the result of PC, which was started to avoid nasty stereotypes about people that were wrong.

Hopper
06-17-2010, 12:01 AM
...this is the result of PC, which was started to avoid nasty stereotypes about people that were wrong.

No, political correctness began as a term to describe whether or not a given action is approved under a given political ideology, in this case left-wing ideology. The ideology was not about genuinely protecting minorities, it used minorities as a pretext for the tactic of manipulating people in general using guilt, grievance and division. It is also a means of controlling what people say or do using minorities as a pretext. It was unreasonable all along, it didn't start out as genuine and go wrong.

The left got the term from the Communist Party, who used it in the 1930s and later to refer to whether something was in line with accepted party ideology. And of course a large section of the left today is communist, and communists promote the left politically correct ideology.

Political correctness seeks to redefine language in such a way as to remould our ideas. Our language is largely a product of our ideas and consequently this also works in reverse: changing our language causes us to think accordingly. This is one of the themes in George Orwell's novel "1984", in which Big Brother is progressively alterring the state language in order restrict certain ideas and establish others.

ilbbaicnl
06-29-2010, 12:33 AM
WHOA!!!

Missed the point. :)

I'm simply talking sales in general. Any sales.

The first thing the customer has to do to purchase from you is decide he likes you. If the person trying to make a sale is carrying a chip on their shoulder for some reason all the customer knows is that s/he senses ambivalence. S/he doesn't know it has nothing to do with him/her. He just knows s/he can sense that person's knickers are in a twist and so the potential purchaser takes it personally and thus decides, within the first 10 seconds, that person isn't someone they want to purchase anything from.

That's general salesmanship 101 and works across all forms of sales. It could be riding mowers or dances. All the same in that sense.

So all I am saying is that it works against the seller to get upset by any of the people hanging out in their shop, whatever that shop might be selling, as you tend to carry that stuff with you where it can be seen by others who might want to purchase from you.

If there were large numbers of magazines and videos featuring naked riding lawnmowers, then your comparison would make sense.

When a woman you are attracted to allows you to view her naked body, she is providing you with a valuable service. Even if you are too broke or not enticed enough to buy an individual dance from her. Unless the club actually pays (rather than charges) the dancers for being there and stage dancing, you should at least give her a friggen' dollar or two.

Harleigh HellKat
06-29-2010, 01:08 AM
I love love love dancing for disabled customers. They are always respectful and very sweet. Especially deaf guys because I actually enjoy the silence. (Haha Depeche Mode much?) And since it's so hard to hear each other in the strip club anyway, it'a a lot of fun to write notes back and forth.

I avoid... well not that many people actually. Women that look pissed off or bored, or the wild party girls that think they are strippers. That being said I actually like dancing for women... it makes me happy in the pants region.

People that have terrible hygiene. And anyone who looks like they are on drugs or mentions drugs.

ilbbaicnl
06-29-2010, 01:58 AM
The only guys I really avoid are young white guys, just because I expect them not to like me. I grew up around almost all white people and all the guys i went to school with made it clear they didn't find "chunky dark girls" attractive. So I think I just have kind of a complex about approaching them in the club. Otherwise I try to talk to every customer..you never know!

Maybe, instead of entirely avoiding certain guys because you think they're not interested, you all should just try a quick and dirty "hey, would you like a dance?"

charlie61
06-29-2010, 02:11 PM
I love love love dancing for disabled customers. They are always respectful and very sweet. Especially deaf guys because I actually enjoy the silence. (Haha Depeche Mode much?) And since it's so hard to hear each other in the strip club anyway, it'a a lot of fun to write notes back and forth.



I loooove dancing for disabled customers! You're right--they're always so respectful. I just treat them like normal people (which they are, obviously), and they love me for it.

Harleigh HellKat
06-29-2010, 03:38 PM
Yeah I find it pretty rewarding and it's something that makes me love what I do. Always makes up for those asshole custies as well lol.

Oh, and remember how I mentioned above that I avoid druggers? Well these young guys come in and they're all pretty cool and they spend some money on me. All except for this one guy who is obviously fucked up. The other guys are like... 'We don't know him, he just kinda tagged along.' Well the fucked up guy ended up telling me he had drugs on him (in his words... a LOT of coke.) I guess because I'm a stripper I'm supposed to be impressed or something. ::) I ended up warning one of the other guys about him before they left, like hey watch out for this guy, cause they were giving him a ride home and apparently they had no clue he was a cokehead.

It was one of those executive decisions to tell them. It may have been unprofessional, but I've been 'guilty by association' before and I didn't want that to happen to anyone else. For all I know they could have been druggers too, but they did not seem like it.... polar opposite of the fucked up guy. It was kinda my stripper deed for the day.

Otoki
06-29-2010, 11:53 PM
Yeah I find it pretty rewarding and it's something that makes me love what I do. Always makes up for those asshole custies as well lol.

Oh, and remember how I mentioned above that I avoid druggers? Well these young guys come in and they're all pretty cool and they spend some money on me. All except for this one guy who is obviously fucked up. The other guys are like... 'We don't know him, he just kinda tagged along.' Well the fucked up guy ended up telling me he had drugs on him (in his words... a LOT of coke.) I guess because I'm a stripper I'm supposed to be impressed or something. ::) I ended up warning one of the other guys about him before they left, like hey watch out for this guy, cause they were giving him a ride home and apparently they had no clue he was a cokehead.

It was one of those executive decisions to tell them. It may have been unprofessional, but I've been 'guilty by association' before and I didn't want that to happen to anyone else. For all I know they could have been druggers too, but they did not seem like it.... polar opposite of the fucked up guy. It was kinda my stripper deed for the day.

Haha, you made the right call.

I have had a few disabled customers who were creeps, but most have been awesome. I remember my first one ever because he was a quadriplegic who needed one of those keyboards to communicate. I went up to him when I was on stage, gently put my boobs on his head, (this is back in the day when I thought this was normal) and backed off with a smile. He typed "I'm not fragile" on his screen, so I titty-whipped him. Biggest grin I'd ever seen on a customer. We did some dances, he was very polite, and when I rejected his request about whispering something dirty in his ear (I can't do it without laughing) he was totally cool with it and kept getting dances. If only all customers were like that:)

Harleigh HellKat
06-30-2010, 12:11 AM
^Yeah the other guys in the group seemed like good kids and I didn't wanna see them get busted for his stupidity.

The last deaf guy I danced for told me I looked like his high school girlfriend. Sooo sweet!

sananeko
06-30-2010, 12:52 AM
Another note on my list.. Learn to say no sex/touching in different languages. I'm learning sign right now, I might do spanish next.

tempest666
06-30-2010, 02:39 AM
Another note on my list.. Learn to say no sex/touching in different languages. I'm learning sign right now, I might do spanish next.
"No me tocas, pendejo" and the old classic "la migra, la migra" :-D. Worked for me in El Paso and LA @ the Pigpen

charlie61
06-30-2010, 07:09 AM
"No me tocas, pendejo" and the old classic "la migra, la migra" :-D. Worked for me in El Paso and LA @ the Pigpen

Or, if you're looking to say it more nicely (;)), say "No puedes tocarme." "You can't touch me."

tempest666
06-30-2010, 10:37 AM
Or, if you're looking to say it more nicely (;)), say "No puedes tocarme." "You can't touch me."

Alright Charlie has a point: for mild to slight grabbiness use the polite form of address above. Most of the time that's all it takes. I've just been dealing with an extras infestation turning all my nice customers into grabasses, so I've had to reprimand them rather severely. They're usually nice and polite.

girlundressed
07-06-2010, 07:29 AM
I find that using the, grab hand, shake head, and sternly say "no", technique like you're training a misbehaving dog translates fairly universally. I have learned a few phrases in other languages for the strip club, but the previous is usually all I need to get my point across.

charlie61
07-06-2010, 11:39 AM
I find that using the, grab hand, shake head, and sternly say "no", technique like you're training a misbehaving dog translates fairly universally. I have learned a few phrases in other languages for the strip club, but the previous is usually all I need to get my point across.

Lol...

wanderlust08
07-06-2010, 11:51 AM
Two words: cowboy hats.

alexa111
07-06-2010, 12:27 PM
^Omg yes! Cowboy hats never mean anything good in my experience...

yoda57us
07-06-2010, 02:29 PM
I find that using the, grab hand, shake head, and sternly say "no", technique like you're training a misbehaving dog translates fairly universally.

I love this post. I have a video that one of my favs sent me that shows her disciplining her dogs in exactly this manner! LMAO!

Harleigh HellKat
07-06-2010, 10:26 PM
@ Alexa... one of my dearest regulars back home was a rodeo cowboy who always wore his hat. He actually had several regular girls until the drunkie/clingy girls who found out he had money scared him off. :( He was sooo sweet too! Like I almost coulda sat with him for free! I miss back home sometimes. :(

Kellydancer
07-07-2010, 11:57 AM
^Omg yes! Cowboy hats never mean anything good in my experience...

Maybe it's different here but I remember this time these two cowboys came into the club. They were in town from Texas and they made it rain on stage. They didn't get dances I don't think, but were tipping $50 bills on stage. I think I made over $300 from them alone.

alexa111
07-07-2010, 08:21 PM
It's probably different in other states, but from my exp. in Southern Cali it's always cheap mexicans/or just annoying guys not planning on spending that wore them.

Molly123
07-15-2010, 10:49 PM
I tend to avoid the guys that look wasted or high; I am not willing to babysit *and* lapdance. I tend to avoid young guys. I *Definitely* avoid young military boys... I had one punch me in the face once.
People I go straight for:
Women, because I'm into them, and everyone avoids them.
The guys in white cowboy hats. For some reason, they are always nice, they always treat me like a lady, and they always have money to spend.
Gamers. Ask them if they're console or pc, ask them their game. They will spend and spend and come back and bring you flowers.
Xo,
Me

Firewall
07-15-2010, 11:00 PM
^ Jesus! What made him do that?

I agreed with going for women fast. More likely than not they are real into it.
I've had some real southern gentlemen as well.
I like coming across gamers and them not knowing what I mean by 'I don't do console.' :P

Otoki
07-19-2010, 12:51 AM
^ Jesus! What made him do that?

I agreed with going for women fast. More likely than not they are real into it.
I've had some real southern gentlemen as well.
I like coming across gamers and them not knowing what I mean by 'I don't do console.' :P

Haha. Yeah, gamers, tech geeks, pretty much all nerds like me because I'm a huge geek. It's amazing what a difference it makes when they rarely (if ever) come across a stripper who is a gamer.