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Earl_the_Pearl
05-19-2009, 03:47 PM
What other choice do you have??? Are you for real??? If you don't want to be in a relationship than don't! That's the other choice. Be single. Be whatever you want. Is she holding a gun to your head and forcing you to stay? Gimme a break.

Point of order; I am not talking about a particular relationships but man/woman relationships in general. I am single as in not married, I will never sign the papers again. Men and women will never understand each other.

*~Angel~*
05-19-2009, 03:53 PM
True they may not understand eachother fully, knowing everything or why they do certain things at certain times. But does that stop them from loving eachother, and being committed and happy with one another? Just b/c you dont understand when your SO does something, that shouldnt stop you from being happy, now should it?

glambman
05-19-2009, 03:53 PM
Men and women will never understand each other.

'Butt' it's fun trying. }:D

Earl_the_Pearl
05-19-2009, 03:55 PM
Exactly if he doesnt want to be in a relationship he will have to stay single. I mean what girl his age wouldnt stick around if he wanted nothing more then sex, i mean they are not getting any younger lol.



A women my age is lucky if she gets sex period. Their biological clock has stopped ticking and their womb is dead. I still make sperm fresh daily, my sperm is much younger then any female's eggs; that is the way god wants it. :highfive:

charlie61
05-19-2009, 03:56 PM
All right all right. Let's get this thread back on track. Maybe y'allz discussion up thurr ^^ deserves its own thread?

vivianbear
05-19-2009, 03:59 PM
Of course I think ALL LTRs with women are pointless...

And this is why you make the most perfect custy. You just keep complaining about women and posturing like you have the upper-hand. I'll continue to sit on your lap, smiling and laughing and tossing my hair, while you slip twenties into my garter all night. You're comforted by my soft voice telling you over and over, "Oh no, I don't have a boyfriend. I travel too much! I'd never be married either! Who does that anymore?" When its all said and done, I'll have more than enough by the end of the month to treat my beautiful husband to a weekend trip to Disneyland on his birthday this year.

Kthanksbye!;D


I couldn't care less if my husband went to a strip club as long as he doesn't spend money we cant afford (but that goes for anywhere he might spend money and it goes both ways..I don't do something if we cant afford it either).

I couldn't agree more and I should hope the OP is as open with his partner about his social habits/hobbies as ours are with us. Personally, I don't understand the concerns of "$300?! But what does your fiance think?!" As long as he's working and his family is provided for, how he spends his excess cash is his business.



And to the original poster: If finding out that strippers are real people with real problems and thoughts and ideas and lives are intimidating to you, it may be best to just stop coming here and go back to immersing yourself in the fantasy

Agreed. This forum is specifically designed for strippers to discuss and process the intricacies of the nature of our work. Its very physically (and at times, emotionally) demanding. Ultimately, customer input is fairly irrelevant, anyway.

*~Angel~*
05-19-2009, 04:01 PM
Exactly, we should get back on topic, some people dont know what they got till they aint got it no more...

^^
Stops thread jacking now
^^

he should probably get his fiancee's opinion on it all before they marry. I mean they are gonna move in together, she is gonna probably do the finances, or at least have a knowledge of them so she will probably figure it out. And if she doesnt like the idea of you getting all horny up at the stip club then you could be looking into getting a divorce if she rlly has a prob with it, and you end up losing more money, and losing your wife.

If you really cant come up with an agreement then take her along with you when you go to the club. Mayb get a dancer to give your girl a lapdance, im sure that will turn you on watching another girl do that to yours.

Or better yet. Ask your girl to learn to pole dance or striptease or give you lapdances in between your SC visits if you cant go that much if thats a part of your agreement, or whatnot. It's really between you two, and not between us lol... but still, you should prbly get her opinion on it.

echomadison
05-19-2009, 04:31 PM
In the US of A 1/2 of all marriages will end in divorce. I wonder what the rate is when the man visit SCs?

This is actually a completely false statement. This is something divorce lawyers and school guidance counselors say to make you feel better. The percentage of marriages ending in divorce is a varying number depending on age, gender, and number of previous unions. For instance the older you are when you get married, the higher success rate you will have.

Andy08
05-19-2009, 04:33 PM
You're welcome :)

Earl_the_Pearl
05-19-2009, 04:36 PM
All right all right. Let's get this thread back on track.

Did this thread ever have a track? It is beginning to look like a "Hit-and-run posting". The OP had several replies in a few minutes but did not acknowledge any of them. :missu:

charlie61
05-19-2009, 04:37 PM
AAAAAAAAAnnnnd endthreadjack, yez? Let's keep this on topic so the thread can stay open. Take the debate into PM's or start another thread.

charlie61
05-19-2009, 04:38 PM
Did this thread ever have a track? It is beginning to look like a "Hit-and-run posting". The OP had several replies in a few minutes but did not acknowledge any of them. :missu:

Regardless, it's still bad etiquette to turn someone's thread into something totally different. If this extensive of a discussion (off the OP's topic) is occurring here, then it should be taken to another thread.

A_Guy
05-19-2009, 05:52 PM
We need to get stanly back here to see if we convinced him one way or the other :)

FBR
05-19-2009, 06:02 PM
Arguing with a moderator is not a good idea. Just saying.

Regarding the OP (I'm pretty sure it was trollish but it has generated a lot of responses) I suspect some guys do go through this guilt trip. They come in and somehow take ownership of what a dancer goes through (even though she has long ago rationalized her decision to deal with it and make her money) and agonizes over it.

I've learned over the years that my only responsibility is to come to the club, pay the entry fee, spend some money so not to be a leech of other's spending and stay within the dancers boundaries in the club. I truly don't lose a moment's sleep over it.

FBR

Djoser
05-19-2009, 06:06 PM
You just keep complaining about women and posturing like you have the upper-hand. I'll continue to sit on your lap, smiling and laughing and tossing my hair, while you slip twenties into my garter all night.

:rotfl:

That's good!

The notion that men need women any less than women need men is ludicrous.


I don't understand the concerns of "$300?! But what does your fiance think?!" As long as he's working and his family is provided for, how he spends his excess cash is his business.

I'm one of the people bringing this up here. ETA, I make a large part of my living from guys like this, but I can see both sides of the issue.

Some women can handle the idea of 'their' husband getting his dick ground on regularly in lap dances by other women. More power to them. However...

The vast majority of women will be extremely unhappy if they find out their fiance is getting his dick ground on for a good half hour once a week by a succession of strange women. They will be even more unhappy if they find out he is spending 300$ a week for it, especially if he isn't spending anywhere near the same amount of money on them--the woman who is supposed to be the most important thing in his life, etc..

They are not 'wrong' to feel this way, it is human nature to want your spouse's genitals to be off limits to other people. They will tell you it is very much their business what happens to his genitals, and how much he pays for it. There could be some argument about that, but if the guy is lying to her about it, I would tend to agree with her

For this reason, the OP's concerns about the feelings of the dancers, when juxtaposed with his apparent lack of regard for his fiancee's feelings about the exact same thing, leave him open to the charge of hypocrisy. Not that I want him to be jailed or anything. ;D

I just want him to think about it.

JayATee
05-19-2009, 06:15 PM
Point of order; I am not talking about a particular relationships but man/woman relationships in general. I am single as in not married, I will never sign the papers again. Men and women will never understand each other.

Again for the 100th (and last time) just bc you have a shitty view of relationships and women doesn't mean everyone should or does. Stop telling other ppl not to get married, or not to get involved in LTR's based on YOUR experiences.

rockie
05-19-2009, 07:39 PM
stanly: If you are as sensitive as you suggest, I suggest you might want to stay away from Strip Clubs. There is nothing wrong with being respectful, but respect yourself. You can say yes, or no thanks, and spend your money the way you please. Paris: I believe you are the woman behind the curtain. The illusion is that there's a man back there! Angel: I prefer to do my own laundry! Charlie61: No challenge to your mod powers, but I've never seen a thread stay on track! If I missed some blow up, I withdraw my lame attempt at humor.

charlie61
05-19-2009, 07:45 PM
^ You're right: most threads do include threadjacks to some degree. However, there's a difference between making a few off-topic comments and starting a debate that takes over the thread and has very little to do with the OP.

Gia2608
05-19-2009, 08:32 PM
If you want convincing come see me and cry on my shoulder.

Hopper
05-19-2009, 11:44 PM
OP -

The dancers don't like being rejected any more than any other woman or salesman, but most dancers don't feel anything for you, so you don't need to feel anything for them. It's business. If they don't have what you want, don't pay. If they do, make it worth their while - tip them, buy private dances from them, buy them drinks.

Paying them for any more than you want will not make them appreciate you. If you don't spend any money in the club, they may think you are a cheap perve or a bum but spending money just raises you to "meal ticket". The dancers have to deal with so many jerks that they don't have any goodwill left over for the decent customers.

I went to a club twice in a fortnight for two hours each time and paid for only cover and one beer both times, tipping the waitresses with the change from a note. There were no dancers or stage shows I liked. The staff might have thought I was a time waster, but who's time was being wasted? It's up to them, not me. Like I care what they think or their bank balances. Their interest in me wasn't personal.

There are some nice girls who strip, but the the ones who aren't are good at acting, so you don't know who the nice ones are, the same as in any business situation. All you owe them other than payment is courtesy. They get even that so rarely that they will appreciate you for that alone.

If you don't pay them, someone else will. If it is a slow night, they'll more than make upfor it on a fast one. They make more than most patrons do. If they don't do well at all, they shouldn't be doing it anyway.

You'll feel a goose when you spend extra money on them out of sympathy or because they were "nice" to you and later they revert to their real self when they are finished with you. I've had dancers who switched right after I paid them, though I didn't pay them because of their "girl next door" act anyway.

If you are happily married, I don't know why you go to SCs often anyway.

firemaiden04
05-19-2009, 11:49 PM
Arguing with a moderator is not a good idea. Just saying.

:rotfl:

Hopper
05-19-2009, 11:57 PM
...

Second: I didn't go to strip clubs until my 30s & I think you should wait. They're great for the "I'm turning 30 blues" or for when your wife becomes the horrible women she's destined to be, nagging, lets herself go after the baby. Oh man I've seen it too many times, it won't be pretty.

...

Not all wives let it go. This is more likely to happen to Stanley's wife if he does go to SCs. I don't care what "some women say", no woman can or will forget that you spend $300 each week on other women, not even if she "gets the rewards" after you come home. Give your wife all your attention, and she'll pay attention to how she looks and behaves. So take CAs advice and you may never have to go. If you do, shut up about it and hope she doesn't find out. Don't insult her by telling her. But just the fact of giving some of your attention to other women subtracts from what you give to your wife, and what she gives back will be simple arithmetic.

Hopper
05-20-2009, 12:04 AM
First of all, don't feel sorry for someone who is earning more than you probably ever will... Save your sympathy for the ugly women (sorry couldn't think of a nice way to say this) that slave away in minimum-wage jobs like McDonalds, Taco Bell, Wal-Mart, etc..., with no improved future in sight.

...

Well said. I feel for dancers in one way and that is that many patrons are stingy with them or want to complicate the situation with mind games and chatting. But considering what most dancers do make, they are not high on my list of people to empathise with.

lemmiwinks31
05-20-2009, 02:34 PM
Point of order; I am not talking about a particular relationships but man/woman relationships in general. I am single as in not married, I will never sign the papers again. Men and women will never understand each other.


Been married 14 years........couldnt be happier...wouldnt trade it for the world...I understand her, she understands me.....Understanding just takes time, effort and committment.

gradpsych
05-20-2009, 03:05 PM
You don't know any happily married couples and you don't see any point in LTR's bc you only use women for sex. Maybe it's just me, but I really don't think you're in ANY position to give ppl advice on relationships, so stop telling ppl they shouldn't be getting married and whatnot bc you're not in any position to tell anyone male or female how to live. Fine marriage isn't for YOU. That doesn't mean everyone feels like that.


Couldn't have said it better! ;D Most of the people he probablys knows, who are married, don't have functional lives to begin with. Let alone get married. Seriously. If he doesn't know ANY couple who is happy that says a lot about him and who he is friends with...... Sorry my psychology brain is sprouting out :)

stanly
05-20-2009, 06:40 PM
Hello all, OP here…

I apologize for the hit and run post, I have been reading the responses in my inbox, but this is a site that would be hard to explain if I got caught sneaking a peak at work.

First I’ll speak to the issues that sorta sidetracked the discussion…

First, marriage… I’m 26 I’ve been with my fiancé for 7 years and we’ve lived together for two, essentially she’s already my wife we’re just making it official. For the gentleman who thinks all LTRs and marriages are pointless and doomed to failure, I really feel sorry for you. I hope someday you find a person that you love and admire enough that it makes you understand why some people choose to have committed long term relationships.

Second, money… This is not really the point, I was getting at. My fiancé and I are fortunate in that we both have advanced degrees and good salaried jobs. I’m completely open about my going to SCs every couple months and blowing off a few hundred bucks. She knows whenever I do go and she’s fine with it. If she asked me not to I wouldn’t, but it’s our money and she wants me to go have a good time… Just like I want her to occasionally buy an expensive dress, or go to see the chipendales or whatever will make her happy.

The thing is I don’t know if a SC is really going to hold the same kind of careless fun for me that it did before. I’m now going to think about the 31 year old dancer that doesn’t feel she can compete with the 25 year olds anymore, and doesn’t know what she’s going to do. I’m going to think about the girl I turn down for a lapdance (because I can’t accept every time) and how she feels at that moment when I turn her down… and then how she’ll feel in 15 minutes watching me getting a dance from another girl. I’ll think about the dancer who is kindof wholesome and having trouble competing because some of the other dancers are willing to “do more.” I’ll think about the girl in my lap flirting with me or giving me a dance and how she may feel completely burnt out, how she might really resent me and would rather be anywhere else in the world but there.


How is this supposed to be fun for me thinking those thoughts? How do I go in good conscience if I know the girls feel this way?




I used to think:
I’m having a good time blowing some cash and having a bunch of pretty half-naked girls flirt with me…
The girls are feeling good, working their game, making good money…
Nobodies getting hurt, this is all completely harmless fun.

I’m really not sure anymore…

hockeybobby
05-20-2009, 06:49 PM
There is nothing good or bad, but thinking makes it so.

William Shakespeare

Paris
05-20-2009, 07:48 PM
How is this supposed to be fun for me thinking those thoughts? How do I go in good conscience if I know the girls feel this way?




I used to think:
I’m having a good time blowing some cash and having a bunch of pretty half-naked girls flirt with me…
The girls are feeling good, working their game, making good money…
Nobodies getting hurt, this is all completely harmless fun.

I’m really not sure anymore…

Well, there's the waitress at your favorite restaurant that hates her job more than anything, but is stuck doing it because it is all she knows.

There's the hair stylist that has a meth habit because she has to deal with crummy customers all day long.

There's the bank teller that earns minimum wage, can hardly feed her kids, and she has to look at you and your wife depositing your substantial income every month.

There's the grocery cashier that had to take the job because her retirement savings disappeared with the stock market crash and she can't afford her medication otherwise.

There's the Latino cab driver with a Ph.D that can't get a job due to racial discrimination.

I could go on and on. If you just open your eyes and look around there are these kind of tragic stories everywhere. Are you going to feel guilty for hiring a cab or buying groceries? How about hiring a cab because you are going out for a fun filled evening or purchasing groceries for a Holiday Feast?

That's life. It is tragic and dramatic. Their lives are their lives and yours is yours. You aren't responsible for them and they aren't for you. Unless you decide to join the clergy and work toward saving souls, you need to learn how to just let it go.

Begin feeling humble for having received a service from another human being, even though you paid for that service. So often, in western culture, the attitude of purchasing a service is one of entitlement and arrogance. Just realize that no one is above anyone else.

rockie
05-20-2009, 08:01 PM
stanly: I don't buy the sensitivity!

Dirty Ernie
05-20-2009, 08:11 PM
If the decent custies quit going then the only ones left will be the asshats whose behavior makes dancers come to SW to vent. It may not be expressed often enough for some, here or in the club, but you do make a difference in a dancers night. Don't let the SW Board have that much of an impact on your ability to enjoy yourself in a club. If a dancer seems to be enjoying her work, chances are she actually is. The ones who are acting you don't have to worry about, they won't let you in for you to discern the difference. This is why for some custies a dancer's ability to engage you beyond her physicality is more important than the size of her rack. It makes the self-delusion so much easier! ;D

commanderadama
05-20-2009, 09:16 PM
Hello all, OP here…

First, marriage… I’m 26 I’ve been with my fiancé for 7 years and we’ve lived together for two, essentially she’s already my wife we’re just making it official. For the gentleman who thinks all LTRs and marriages are pointless and doomed to failure, I really feel sorry for you. I hope someday you find a person that you love and admire enough that it makes you understand why some people choose to have committed long term relationships.



There is research that suggests that living together makes the marriage much less likely to last. Plus if she's all that, why go to strip clubs. If Kate Hudson would have me, I'd never set foot in another club again. LOL

So tell us, it's an anonymous forum... is she chubby?}:D

vmurphy252
05-20-2009, 10:13 PM
^Paraphrase of a quote from somewhere: "Show me a beautiful woman and I'll show you someone tired of fucking her."

JayATee
05-20-2009, 11:35 PM
There is research that suggests that living together makes the marriage much less likely to last. Plus if she's all that, why go to strip clubs. If Kate Hudson would have me, I'd never set foot in another club again. LOL

So tell us, it's an anonymous forum... is she chubby?}:D

/HUGE eye roll.

There's research to suggest EVERYTHING. It's all bull shit too. If kate hudson would have you I guarantee you'd be able to find a hundred reasons to still go to a SC. It's all relative.


^Paraphrase of a quote from somewhere: "Show me a beautiful woman and I'll show you someone tired of fucking her."

^This is bs as well.

stanly
05-21-2009, 05:27 AM
stanly: I don't buy the sensitivity!

It's not about sensitivity!

Say your in an elevator with a beautiful girl and it gets stuck... You might have a conversation with her while she waits to be freed but you don't enjoy her company nearly as much as if she had agreed to have lunch with you. You know she's only talking to you because the elevators stuck!

That's the same way I feel with strippers, or any women. I only enjoy their company if I feel like they're having fun.

I only want to be there if they enjoy sitting in my lap taking my money. I think I got a look behind the curtain that I didn't need.


My fiance is beautiful and thin and I'm not even close to tired of fucking her. But that doesn't mean I don't turn my head when walking along the beach and see a nice looking girl...

And trust me, if kate hudson would have you, you'd still want to see other girls naked...

A_Guy
05-21-2009, 05:58 AM
It's not about sensitivity!

Say your in an elevator with a beautiful girl and it gets stuck... You might have a conversation with her while she waits to be freed but you don't enjoy her company nearly as much as if she had agreed to have lunch with you. You know she's only talking to you because the elevators stuck!

That's actually a great analogy. But you enjoyed her company, right?


That's the same way I feel with strippers, or any women. I only enjoy their company if I feel like they're having fun.

I'm right there with ya - I don't have fun unless I think on some level they're having fun as well. But the thing is stanly, they can have fun and give you a lapdance at the same time! Trust me. Be a gentleman and tip well (but within your budget, naturally). In most cases, you'll make their night or help to make it better.

To me, it sounds like you're upset with the hard reality that the dancers are in this for the money, and not just dancing for you because they think you're attractive.

Seriously stanly - think about it. Why does this site bother you so much? Before you came here you had to know on some level that the dancers were doing this for money, right? You also had to know that some dancers are going to have bad days and bad customers, right??




Frankly, I don't know why this thread upsets me so much... maybe it's because I've had a look behind the curtain as well, but I can still have a great time at a SC. In fact, I'll be at SR in Vegas tomorrow and I can't wait!!!!

hockeybobby
05-21-2009, 06:26 AM
I'm thankful I found SWeb and was able to inform myself about how things work in a stripclub. I believe you'll find your SC experiences will be improved due to your new found knowledge, and you will likely be the type of customer who is greatly appreciated by the dancers. Let that be a comfort to you...as it is to me.

Hopper
05-21-2009, 06:30 AM
^Stanly, of course they are only lapdancing and talking to you because you paid them. Possibly they do like you if you are a together guy. In any case, you worry too much. Let the dancers worry about their problems, they are nothing to do with you. Just treat it as entertainment and business. If the dancers don't enjoy it it's their own outlook.

You are just there for touching, close contact and a sexy lapdance. It's the stripper's job to make you feel good by acting that way. It's just like hospitality staff at any other establishment. Whether or not she feels good is irrelevant. The money she's making is good feelling enough for her and if you are courteous and well groomed she won't hate dong it (or at least it won't be your fault if she does). It's a service she provides for you, not a party for her.

However, if you are married, and you don't like the situation at SCs, there is no reason for you to go. I don't believe your wife. It's fashionable for women to tolerate SCs now but inwardly it must still affect her feelings about you. Have the same care for her feelings that you feel for strippers. Just because she says it's okay doesn't mean you have to do it. Not even if she goes to male strip shows. (It probably means less to you than your SC visits mean to her, since women place more value on their physical desirability.) There is no logic or fairness in sex and romance. At least don't tell her you go.

vmurphy252
05-21-2009, 07:08 AM
^This is bs as well.

OUCH! You hurt my feeling.

A_Guy
05-21-2009, 07:22 AM
OUCH! You hurt my feeling.

She hurt your one feeling?





:P

vmurphy252
05-21-2009, 08:18 AM
She hurt your one feeling?
:P

You mean there's more?

A_Guy
05-21-2009, 08:34 AM
You mean there's more?

Yes. There can be anywhere between 3 and 14,000.

MarvelGirl
05-21-2009, 08:51 AM
I just can't bring myself to care about your strip club experience being ruined. YOU wanted to look behind the curtain, YOU sought this place out, YOU have no real reason to be here, so if YOU screwed up your SC experience then blame yourself.

Since you seem very naive and ignorant, I'll go ahead and assume that you don't know about the stigma attached to stripping. Many of us can't tell the people in our lives what we do for a living. I'm lucky enough to have a family who is fully supportive of what I do, but even then, they can't understand half the shit I go through.

Case in point, when I worked at a Sam's Club as a cashier during my teenage years, I was forcefully groped by an irate customer. My place of employment considered that sexual assault. The police were called and they were sympathetic to me while they took my report. I called my mom when I got home and cried on the phone while she told me it was ok and helped me feel better about the situation.

Now, if that happens, if a customer gropes me against my will, my place of employment doesn't give a shit. It's up to me to handle the situation. If I were to call the police, they would LAUGH IN MY FACE. If I called my mom or sister, I would hear a moment of silence on the other end of the phone and then a confused, hesitant "But, you're a stripper, isn't that your job?"

Some of us need a place where we can talk to others who understand the stresses we deal with at work. We need to able to be ourselves and say what we really feel because we can't say it at work, and often, we can't even say it at home. If that hurts a customer's feelings, that's just too goddamn bad. You only came here for entertainment, and when you didn't get that, we're supposed to feel sorry for you. Fat chance in hell of that happening.

commanderadama
05-21-2009, 09:54 AM
Now, if that happens, if a customer gropes me against my will, my place of employment doesn't give a shit. It's up to me to handle the situation. If I were to call the police, they would LAUGH IN MY FACE. If I called my mom or sister, I would hear a moment of silence on the other end of the phone and then a confused, hesitant "But, you're a stripper, isn't that your job?"

I first saw this second "classness" happen at a dive club a little over 10 years ago, a friend and I went every week for about for about two years. We met alot of people and started hanging out with some of the strippers after work, my buddy even hooked up with two of them. Anyway, I remember one stripper, who no-one really liked, badly sprained her ankle. She, of course, had no health insurance and no one was interested in helping her get to the hospital to get it wrapped up. She called for EMT's and they said No. I was shocked, 911 wouldn't dispatch anyone to the dive strip club. One of the bouncers told me that one time someone shot at the door and the cops came the next day. So yeah, when they don't repsond to serious things like injuries and gun shots, I'm suprised they'll even show up to laugh at you for a sexual assult.

For the record I think this is totally wrong, I mean taxes are being paid, they should respond, IMO.

MarvelGirl
05-21-2009, 10:09 AM
I first saw this second "classness" happen at a dive club a little over 10 years ago, a friend and I went every week for about for about two years. We met alot of people and started hanging out with some of the strippers after work, my buddy even hooked up with two of them. Anyway, I remember one stripper, who no-one really liked, badly sprained her ankle. She, of course, had no health insurance and no one was interested in helping her get to the hospital to get it wrapped up. She called for EMT's and they said No. I was shocked, 911 wouldn't dispatch anyone to the dive strip club. One of the bouncers told me that one time someone shot at the door and the cops came the next day. So yeah, when they don't repsond to serious things like injuries and gun shots, I'm suprised they'll even show up to laugh at you for a sexual assult.

For the record I think this is totally wrong, I mean taxes are being paid, they should respond, IMO.

That's so awful that they wouldn't even send an ambulance. I don't understand how they can justify that.

I don't work in dives, but it still gets bad sometimes. Guys only get thrown out if they full on punch or try to rape somebody or if they don't pay. The bouncers can't even really do much because if they hurt the guy, the asshole will sue and win. It's ridiculous.

I've never called the cops. (I'm sure that would get a girl fired in just about any club.) But I have seen it happen. A girl called the cops after a guy shoved his fingers in her and she punched him in the nose. They charged HER with assault. I've worked many jobs in the sex industry and stripping is the most mind boggling one so far. It baffles me how hateful so many people are to dancers, we're just trying to entertain.

JayATee
05-21-2009, 10:20 AM
^ they see us as the bottom of the barrel. The dregs of society. So no one gives a shit what happens to us.

FBR
05-21-2009, 04:52 PM
I'm thankful I found SWeb and was able to inform myself about how things work in a stripclub. I believe you'll find your SC experiences will be improved due to your new found knowledge, and you will likely be the type of customer who is greatly appreciated by the dancers. Let that be a comfort to you...as it is to me.

HB makes an excellent point. An informed consumer is a better consumer. Granted, what you read here might burst a misplaced fantasy bubble or two but at the end of the day, that is a good thing for both the customer and dancer.

FBR

mediocrity
05-21-2009, 07:24 PM
/HUGE eye roll.

There's research to suggest EVERYTHING. It's all bull shit too. If kate hudson would have you I guarantee you'd be able to find a hundred reasons to still go to a SC. It's all relative.


I totally agree. Think about when Hugh Grant got caught picking up a cheap prostitute when he was living with Elizabeth Hurley. ELIZABETH FUCKING HURLEY.

There are always reasons.

vmurphy252
05-21-2009, 07:28 PM
/HUGE eye roll.

There's research to suggest EVERYTHING. It's all bull shit too. If kate hudson would have you I guarantee you'd be able to find a hundred reasons to still go to a SC. It's all relative.



^This is bs as well.

Hey, I just reread this. You're saying what I'm saying, but then you say mine's BS. You ARE mean. :(

JayATee
05-21-2009, 07:34 PM
Hey, I just reread this. You're saying what I'm saying, but then you say mine's BS. You ARE mean. :(

I said the line you used was bs. If you're with the right woman the sex is never boring. But then again I have a different view on SC's and why ppl (who are happily married) go.

Hopper
05-22-2009, 02:46 AM
...

...I think the only thing women here have said about being turned down is that they wished the men wouldn't tell them 'maybe later' if they don't want a dance from that at all.

...

Sometimes I really aren't immediately sure if I want a dancer, or just don't want an LD with her right away. But if I'm sure I don't, I say no flat out.