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Cameo
06-17-2009, 01:52 PM
How do I get my boyfriend interested in anal sex?

I love anal stimulation while masturbating and whatnot. I've brought it up to him before, but he's not into the 'other' hole. I'm frustrated because he wont even try it with me. btw, I'm clean and groomed down there, not at all nasty or bad to look at! I'm not chubby either, if anything I'm fit. So..... can someone give me some suggestions or tips? Am I just too horny or weird?

*sigh*

Winged Dinghy
06-17-2009, 02:07 PM
What's his problem with it? Does he think it's dirty or gross or something? Try opening the channels of communication with him. Then when you understand his objection, you can work through it.

For example, if he thinks it's dirty, you can do an enema beforehand, or have him finger your butt while he wears latex gloves, or he could use a dildo on you instead of his actual penis.

BTW, sometimes the harshest critics of anal sex become its most fervent devotees once they actually try it. My ex was initially TOTALLY against me using a strap-on on him, but after a while, he would literally beg for it. Seriously.

hockeybobby
06-17-2009, 03:46 PM
You could try watching some porn with him. Pick out something that has a little of what you like and a little of what he likes and go from there. Take it slow, maybe he can acquire a taste for the exotic over time. Is he into any Dominant/submissive stuff, or bondage, or role-playing? Or just vanilla?

Pick up some toys to play with like some different buttplugs and anal beads....some good anal lube too. Get used to playing with them on your own, using a mirror and such. Get comfy with them. Then ask your bf to play with you, explaining that you're interested in experimenting.

If he's not interested at all in stretching a little...well, you could see someone else who is more sexually compatible.

Earl_the_Pearl
06-17-2009, 10:49 PM
I know that some women want it but it seems gay. There is a perfectly good pussy only an inch away.

What do you do when you are having your period? That may be a time to convince him to try it.

pookie
06-17-2009, 11:49 PM
There is a perfectly good pussy only an inch away.

Have you been measuring your partners?
(I can just see somebody getting out the tape measure)

hockeybobby
06-18-2009, 08:43 AM
I know that some women want it but it seems gay.

Gay? Come on Earl. Your hair looks gay. A chick wanting some ass-play is definitely not gay.


Am I just too horny or weird?

No, you are a hot little anal treasure currently being wasted on a boring dude. This is a tragedy.


Have you been measuring your partners?
(I can just see somebody getting out the tape measure)

Now I'm keen to know the actual correct measurement. Pooks, measure your taint and report back please, in the interest of science.

Earl_the_Pearl
06-18-2009, 06:30 PM
Gay? Come on Earl. Your hair looks gay.

...measure your taint
Oh ya; well hockey is gay not as gay as soccer but still gay. If a girl wants anal sex she should date a gay guy.

A_Guy
06-18-2009, 06:48 PM
^^ This is disappointing. Ladies, do not listen to this man :)

Seriously EP, how old are you? Based on your avatar, and now your comments, I picture you as a 320 year old wrinkly white male. Anal sex with a woman is not gay. A gay man having gay anal sex with another gay man is gay. At your age, I would have thought you would have realized this by now ;)

A_Guy
06-18-2009, 06:53 PM
How do I get my boyfriend interested in anal sex?

I love anal stimulation while masturbating and whatnot. I've brought it up to him before, but he's not into the 'other' hole. I'm frustrated because he wont even try it with me. btw, I'm clean and groomed down there, not at all nasty or bad to look at! I'm not chubby either, if anything I'm fit. So..... can someone give me some suggestions or tips? Am I just too horny or weird?

*sigh*

Have you tried it on him yet? Unfortunately for most men, they don't realize that their prostate is their g-spot. Next time you're in the missionary position, give him a little back door massage when he's about to cum, and he may change his tune ;)

JayATee
06-18-2009, 07:06 PM
Some guys have an issue with this because for some reason they think it makes them gay (see Earl's post). I personally don't get it, I mean if your partner is female there is nothing gay about it. Maybe just try talking to him first and see what is holding him back. It may be that he just needs to be guided through it.

Earl_the_Pearl
06-18-2009, 09:59 PM
Have you tried it on him yet? Unfortunately for most men, they don't realize that their prostate is their g-spot.
I don't like it when my physician Stephannie sticks her finger up my ass; it's OK when she grabs my balls and tells me to cough though. My part of her donation is only $5 so she is a good deal compared to a $1,500 VIP room. :beret:

jack0177057
07-23-2009, 12:20 PM
Why not use toys?... Like anal beads, butt plugs, etc... Then, you can have double penetration.

jack0177057
07-23-2009, 12:27 PM
My ex was initially TOTALLY against me using a strap-on on him, but after a while, he would literally beg for it. Seriously.

Not to sound ignorant, but,... wouldn't this lead a man down a path of becoming bi? I mean, if a guy likes strap-on sex, what's to stop him from liking the real thing?

Gia2608
07-23-2009, 01:12 PM
Oh ya; well hockey is gay not as gay as soccer but still gay. If a girl wants anal sex she should date a gay guy.


I don't think there are many people who would agree that a sport where the players routinely beat the crap out of each other bare knuckled is "gay".

princessjas
07-23-2009, 01:40 PM
Not to sound ignorant, but,... wouldn't this lead a man down a path of becoming bi? I mean, if a guy likes strap-on sex, what's to stop him from liking the real thing?

Liking the sensation won't change who you are attracted to. Most straight men like to kiss women, but not other men, right? Kissing women doesn't make the majority of men go "Hmm, bet this feels very similar with a man. Let me go try it out!"


I don't think there are many people who would agree that a sport where the players routinely beat the crap out of each other bare knuckled is "gay".

Don't forget the big sticks! Lots of fights with not only fists but giant sticks. So, so "gay." ::)

Earl_the_Pearl
07-23-2009, 02:05 PM
Liking the sensation won't change who you are attracted to. Most straight men like to kiss women, but not other men, right? Kissing women doesn't make the majority of men go "Hmm, bet this feels very similar with a man. Let me go try it out!"
I was talking about this with my GF; she wants to feel my prostate from the inside like Stephine does, my physician BTW. I told her it is gay and she said what about BJs.

I like BJs but not things stuck up my ass. Now this argument doesn't hold water if the women wants things stuck up her ass I now have to admit.

jack0177057
07-23-2009, 02:45 PM
Liking the sensation won't change who you are attracted to. Most straight men like to kiss women, but not other men, right? Kissing women doesn't make the majority of men go "Hmm, bet this feels very similar with a man. Let me go try it out!"

This goes to the - what makes a person gay v. bi - debate... From debates I've had with people, I've concluded this: A gay person is romantically and sexually attracted to the same gender... A bi person might not be romantically attracted to the same gender, but seeks pleasure in sexual activity with both genders...

So, if a "straight" guy (with no romantic attraction to other men) loves the feeling of a fake penis up his butt, the logical next step is to try the real thing,... even though he won't kiss a guy, because he's not "gay". Just like a "straight" guy that lets a gay man give him a blowjob because it feels good, but insists that he is not "gay".

Earl_the_Pearl
07-23-2009, 02:50 PM
So, if a "straight" guy (with no romantic attraction to other men) loves the feeling of a fake penis up his butt, the logical next step is to try the real thing,... even though he won't kiss a guy, because he's not "gay". Just like a "straight" guy that lets a gay man give him a blowjob because it feels good, but insists that he is not "gay".
Many men do not consider themselves gay if they have sex with men; thus the term men who have sex with men.

There is a big difference wanting things shoved up your ass and giving a women what she wants; the original topic BTW.

jack0177057
07-23-2009, 03:10 PM
The solution to your problem is a cockring with attached dildo. While he is thrusting into your vagina the cockring dildo is thrusting into your anus. Additionally, a vibrating bullet will tease your clitoris.

I've tried a similar cockring (with the vibrating bullet for the clitoris, but not the anal dildo) and the girl I was with had a rocking time.

http://www.adameve.com/adult-sex-toys/cock-rings/sp-double-penetrator-cockring-12049.aspx

yoda57us
07-23-2009, 03:16 PM
Not to sound ignorant, but,... wouldn't this lead a man down a path of becoming bi? I mean, if a guy likes strap-on sex, what's to stop him from liking the real thing?

The same thing that stops a woman who likes having her pussy licked from becoming a lesbian.

Homosexuality is not about which orifice you use or how it is penetrated. It is about a sexual attraction between partners of the same gender.

jack0177057
07-23-2009, 03:29 PM
The same thing that stops a woman who likes having her pussy licked from becoming a lesbian.

I read somewhere that most "straight" women (about 70%) have had at least one same-sex sexual experience in their lifetime, specially women in college. I haven't surveyed enough women to offer verifiable proof of this, but those that I have asked seem to support this.

princessjas
07-23-2009, 03:47 PM
This goes to the - what makes a person gay v. bi - debate... From debates I've had with people, I've concluded this: A gay person is romantically and sexually attracted to the same gender... A bi person might not be romantically attracted to the same gender, but seeks pleasure in sexual activity with both genders...

So, if a "straight" guy (with no romantic attraction to other men) loves the feeling of a fake penis up his butt, the logical next step is to try the real thing,... even though he won't kiss a guy, because he's not "gay". Just like a "straight" guy that lets a gay man give him a blowjob because it feels good, but insists that he is not "gay".

What does this have to do with my statement? My point was, just because you like the sensation of something that is possible with your same sex, does not mean you have any attraction to them or desire to try said action with same-sex partners. Saying the next logical step is to try the real thing is ridiculous. That would be the next logical step ONLY if the man was already attracted to other men. Jeezus, I love sex, but this does not mean "the next logical step" is to try it with any available man with a penis, disregarding my level of attraction to that man.

I believe everyone but you understood my point.

Gia2608
07-23-2009, 03:48 PM
^^^ They probably count kissing as a "sexual experience" for the numbers to be that high. That's what all the cool kids do these days.

jack0177057
07-23-2009, 04:31 PM
What does this have to do with my statement? My point was, just because you like the sensation of something that is possible with your same sex, does not mean you have any attraction to them or desire to try said action with same-sex partners. Saying the next logical step is to try the real thing is ridiculous. That would be the next logical step ONLY if the man was already attracted to other men. Jeezus, I love sex, but this does not mean "the next logical step" is to try it with any available man with a penis, disregarding my level of attraction to that man.

I believe everyone but you understood my point.

I understand your point, but neither of us can speak in absolutes. You love sex, but are not promiscuous... Other people love sex and are promiscuous... Men, in particular, can separate love and sex and pursue sexual thrills without any romantic feelings.

There are people who are born gay (romantically and sexually). I have a family member like that. But, there are also people who are born "straight" and turn bi or gay through purely sexual (non-romantic) experimentation... My best female friend is one example and I've met other people like that in college. They are romantically heterosexual, but "play" with people of the same gender.

I'm not saying a little finger is going to do it, but I think the strap-on butt-fucking is a slippery slope...

Earl_the_Pearl
07-23-2009, 05:13 PM
... butt-fucking is a slippery slope...

May I suggest butter?
http://mercurykev.users.btopenworld.com/Pictures/dairy/butter.gif

xdamage
07-23-2009, 07:11 PM
What does this have to do with my statement? My point was, just because you like the sensation of something that is possible with your same sex, does not mean you have any attraction to them or desire to try said action with same-sex partners. Saying the next logical step is to try the real thing is ridiculous. ...

I have the same view/belief.

Personally I think our sexual orientation has absolutely NOTHING to do with which part of the body is stimulated. Gay men of course engage in anal sex because the fundamentals of how the penis is stimulated doesn't change one bit because they are gay; a tight body orifice is stimulating to the penis and the anus suffices, but their attraction to each other runs deep in the wiring of their brains, programmed over eons of time.

Homosexuality is by no means as common as Heterosexual genetic programming, but it occurs repeatedly in populations (and in animals they are now finding), is harmless, and not really a choice. There are exceptions of course.. social experimentation, and special circumstances (e.g., jails) where homosexual behavior occurs lacking normal outlets, but they are not the same as instinctive desire for someone of the opposite (or same) sex.

jack0177057
07-24-2009, 08:21 AM
^^^ I agree, but people will do things for pleasure, only, that have nothing to do with "attraction". For example, I read somewhere that it was common for boys in England 1 or 2 generations ago to practice mutual masterbation. It was considered doing each other a favor... Obviously, those practices would be considered "gay" by modern US standards.

We were talking about strap-on sex... All I'm just saying is that if a straight guy loves to get butt-fucked by a fake penis in strap-on sex,... at some point, he might (not speaking in absolutes here) be curious to try the real thing... I've heard about the male "G-spot" and I'm not talking about taking the finger when he's about to cum during regular heterosexual sex... I don't think that's gay... What I am talking about is the guy on his knees in the female doggie position role, while the person behind him (who he cannot even see) is in the male role, thrusting a strap-on dildo into him ... He has abandoned the male/masculine role completely and is experimenting with the female/feminine role of sexuality...

Anyway, why would a girl want to do this to her guy? What does she get out of it? Is it a power trip to turn him into her bitch?

Getting back on thread, the OP's problem could be fixed with a cockring with attached anal dildo. While he is thrusting into her vagina the cockring dildo is thrusting into her anus and everybody is happy.
http://www.adameve.com/adult-sex-toy...ing-12049.aspx

xdamage
07-24-2009, 11:04 AM
I have a few minutes waiting for guests to arrive. As to why would a woman do it? Do we care? Kink is experimentation and exploring fetishes in a safe way. Nobody is harmed. Let them enjoy for simply because it is pleasurable. I dont think any other reason is needed and I don't think a guy will turn homosexual because his hot female GF is screwing him the ass with a sex toy. Seems harmless to me if she enjoys it and he will at least tolerate it for her sake,

Earl_the_Pearl
07-24-2009, 11:42 AM
Seems harmless to me...
Think of poor Lemmiwinks.

http://www.jimpetrozzi.com/site_WW/thumb-wallpaper/Lemmiwinks.jpg

threlayer
08-07-2009, 06:43 AM
Idea:

reverse cowgirl with him using a small dildo on your butt --- DP-style

maybe once he sees how turned on you get while cumming, maybe he'll get the message

BTW, don't hold back on the dirty talk then

big_gdj
12-15-2009, 08:17 AM
First, I have to say that I cannot understand how he could say no to you.

Second, he is really missing out. I have a girlfriend that cums hard and faster with anal than with vaginal sex.

Three, you could make sure it is well lubed and guide it into your ass without him know, then he will see how good it feels and how good it makes you feel, hopefully before he catches it.

If he still won't do it, call me.

mediocrity
12-28-2009, 04:21 PM
^^^ I agree, but people will do things for pleasure, only, that have nothing to do with "attraction". For example, I read somewhere that it was common for boys in England 1 or 2 generations ago to practice mutual masterbation. It was considered doing each other a favor... Obviously, those practices would be considered "gay" by modern US standards.

We were talking about strap-on sex... All I'm just saying is that if a straight guy loves to get butt-fucked by a fake penis in strap-on sex,... at some point, he might (not speaking in absolutes here) be curious to try the real thing... I've heard about the male "G-spot" and I'm not talking about taking the finger when he's about to cum during regular heterosexual sex... I don't think that's gay... What I am talking about is the guy on his knees in the female doggie position role, while the person behind him (who he cannot even see) is in the male role, thrusting a strap-on dildo into him ... He has abandoned the male/masculine role completely and is experimenting with the female/feminine role of sexuality...

Anyway, why would a girl want to do this to her guy? What does she get out of it? Is it a power trip to turn him into her bitch?

Getting back on thread, the OP's problem could be fixed with a cockring with attached anal dildo. While he is thrusting into her vagina the cockring dildo is thrusting into her anus and everybody is happy.


Yup. Mostly.

You Know Me
01-01-2010, 07:55 PM
Never done it and have no desire to.

Is there actually that much stimulation for the women there. I understand normal sex i just dont get this anal stuff.

J.D.
01-01-2010, 08:15 PM
Yup. Mostly.

I've said it once and I'll say it again, I would rather a guy give me a blow job while I wear a strap on.

princessjas
01-01-2010, 08:23 PM
Never done it and have no desire to.

Is there actually that much stimulation for the women there. I understand normal sex i just dont get this anal stuff.

Yes, it feels really good for women. Takes a bit of getting used to, but once you do, it really is fantastic. For men I've been told it's hotter and tighter. That combined with the taboo are what prob make it so appealing to many men.

KS_Stevia
01-02-2010, 12:01 PM
I had a dream last night that I was having anal sex with David Duchovny. Hehehe...that is all. :)

FBR
01-03-2010, 04:13 PM
^ A better dream would have been anal sex with FBR...that is all :)

FBR ;)

mediocrity
01-03-2010, 04:23 PM
Yes, it feels really good for women. Takes a bit of getting used to, but once you do, it really is fantastic. For men I've been told it's hotter and tighter. That combined with the taboo are what prob make it so appealing to many men.

Eh, some women, not all. I don't like anyone enough to let them put it in my pooper.

KS_Stevia
01-03-2010, 08:06 PM
^ A better dream would have been anal sex with FBR...that is all :)

FBR ;)

Actually, I tend to dream about people I've had recent contact with, so tonight, who knows.....

I tend to dream/fantasize about anal more than I actually like to do it. But I'm not hating at as much as I have the last few months, might even be game for it again soon, since my boy finally laid off asking me.

Soth
06-06-2011, 01:51 PM
There is no sexual act a man can enjoy with a woman that will suddenly make him attracted to men. I find some of the ideas here a bit silly.

The ideas of here of getting the BF interested seem good, using toys, watching porn, etc. I suggest the Big Wet Butts/Asses series :)

My girl pretty much never lets me do it to her. It's just not comfortable and we've tried many fixes.

Jay12
06-06-2011, 01:54 PM
I love anal sex!

Too bad my boyfriend is into anal sex only in "special occasions", and not 24/7 like me.

Soth
06-07-2011, 06:16 AM
I love anal sex!

Too bad my boyfriend is into anal sex only in "special occasions", and not 24/7 like me.

Damn! I wish more girls had your attitude! LOL.

Coastie Joe
12-28-2011, 11:12 AM
Cameo, I'm not sure why he feels the way he does, but maybe we can help you figure it out. Post a few pics of yourself, naked prefered, This should help us see what the problem is

Chgojoe
12-28-2011, 12:45 PM
Cameo, I'm not sure why he feels the way he does, but maybe we can help you figure it out. Post a few pics of yourself, naked prefered, This should help us see what the problem is


Do you know that the OP started this thread in June of 09? Im sure she she will be excited that you have now chimed in to give her such good advice:-\

Coastie Joe
12-28-2011, 12:53 PM
Ha well there ya go

Smoothcat
12-29-2011, 06:11 AM
For those women who have had anal sex, or would like to try it: how about with another girl and a strap on, toys, or even rimming? Women seem to understand each other's needs better anyway. Maybe the OP and others like her need to find a sympathetic female friend first. Perhaps the BF won't mind.

jamsaugustine
05-05-2012, 03:53 PM
I think sex in more interest activity. I understand how filling on sex because of i want sex. A sex is a last step of love, a sex with out romance or filling not possible or not enjoyment. a man are fuck on girls its process to said sexual.

SkylerScarlett
11-27-2014, 07:44 AM
I had a guy tell me he didn't want to do anal with me because I was too small for him and he was actually afraid he would hurt me. But then we have sex in other positions so not sure what he means.

BambiCutieSlimePrincess
04-02-2015, 02:06 AM
Have you tried it on him yet? Unfortunately for most men, they don't realize that their prostate is their g-spot. Next time you're in the missionary position, give him a little back door massage when he's about to cum, and he may change his tune ;)

I could imagine my boyfriend flipping his ever living shit, lmao!

November_Scorpio
09-25-2016, 10:08 AM
How do I get my boyfriend interested in anal sex?

I love anal stimulation while masturbating and whatnot. I've brought it up to him before, but he's not into the 'other' hole. I'm frustrated because he wont even try it with me. btw, I'm clean and groomed down there, not at all nasty or bad to look at! I'm not chubby either, if anything I'm fit. So..... can someone give me some suggestions or tips? Am I just too horny or weird?

*sigh*

A female who actually enjoys anal? Wow most females I met absolutely refuse any anal sex. The only time my girlfriend has given me anal is when I accidentally slipped into the wrong hole during sex, lol. Most escorts will say "no anal" in their online ads. I am surprised a guy would say no to anal if his girlfriend offered it. Finding a girlfriend who is into anal is hard to come by he should feel blessed and extremely lucky. Maybe I am under the false assumption that most guys are more perverted then women and more into the kinky stuff. I tend to have a habit of really grossing people out and being called a pervert from a very young age the more perverted something is the more I tend to like it.