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Gia2608
08-05-2009, 08:01 PM
I started at 20 because of credit card bills. I was going to a very expensive University and lived in my Best Friend's Dad's House so I had no rent but chipped in about $250 a month toward groceries and utilities.

I was working at two different rest. and also bartending two nights a week to a total of 70 hours a week and taking five courses.

I went to see a financial advisor who suggested I either work more hours or quit school. I couldn't work more hours and didn't want to quit school. My Best friend said "Well why don't you dance, you've already had your boobs done". I did. I thought it would be a temporary thing. Fuck that. Give someone who'd been struggling fast and easy money like that!!! Forget it!!!!


I moved into a three bedroom apartment by myself, bought a BMW (stupid), saved a little (hard because I was paying for school). Moved from RI to Miami and never looked back. had a few bad years but trying to get mentally back to the place where dancing was empowering so I can get off of SW and go audition already!

So back to the topic, maybe some Canada girls should weigh in. You can drink there at 19 so I'm assuming you can dance there also at 19? What do you guys think about this subject?

Earl_the_Pearl
08-05-2009, 08:25 PM
So back to the topic, maybe some Canada girls should weigh in. You can drink there at 19 so I'm assuming you can dance there also at 19? What do you guys think about this subject?
Unlike the USA Canada does not have a forced national drinking age.


Alberta - 18
British Columbia - 19
Manitoba - 18
New Brunswick - 19
Newfoundland and Labrador - 19
Northwest Territories - 19
Nova Scotia - 19
Nunavut - 19
Ontario - 19
Prince Edward Island - 19
Quebec - 18
Saksatchewan - 19
Yukon Territory - 19

sunnie86
08-15-2009, 02:35 PM
I started dancing because I wanted to, I didn't need to I was making good money for my age as a manager in a clothing boutique in town. I had few friends I was hanging out with, skinny dipping really. One said hey you have a great body and like being naked so why not dance. I auditioned just to see how it was and I made $800 and never looked back.

Granted I lived in the burbs from 8Th grade til I graduated, but My mother danced on and off since I was a small child as did many of her friends. She never hid that from me so when I got there it was kinda c'est la vie to me. I did have a hard time telling my mom that I danced cause I knew she didn't want me involved in it and when I did she blamed herself for not giving me a "better" life or keeping me more sheltered from the world around me, which was not the case I went to the best private school around had a close family and all that, granted up til 12 going on 13 lived down the st from the projects, yet it never phased me til I was much older. I knew I had other options I just happened to like being naked and was always amazed by strippers. not the money but the persona that they had Ooh and the SHOES! Stripping to me was kinda something fun to do I never viewed it as work, I had a job that was paying my bills in the 1st place, and because of that my personal experience was pretty mellow, as I didn't have to literally grind for money.


*NOTE* my friends where not dancers, have not even been introduced to the world of dancing until I started working in this profession, and the idea was not a random one radio commercial came on for a local club.

BuxomBeauty
08-15-2009, 04:28 PM
How are teenage girls supposed to put themselves through college then? Huh? Haters.Do you disagree that stripping is an extremely difficult job full of nasty potential pitfalls for inexperienced / naive young people?

I think it's interesting that anyone would accuse someone expressing concern for the well-being of very young women a "hater".

Society doesn't institute age restrictions to "hate on" or cause harm to people. We do it to try and protect them from known harm.

phonehome
08-21-2009, 10:57 PM
Whatever the other pros and cons may or may not be. I think I I were a club owner at least if my club was one that served alcohol I would require that all the dancers be 21. You know as well as I do that you put a bunch or 18 year old partygirls in an establishment serving alcohol and some of them sometimes are going to drink just like they do at frat parties in college, what they do or don't do in that enviroment is there business but as clubowner I just don't need run the risk of that whole "contributing to the deliquency of a minor" thing and would rather head it off at the pass. Why run that risk??

I don't believe I would have any problem getting all the 21 and up dancers I want. If you go to any club these days or read on this and other boards, the fact that "there are to many girls" are recurring theme If I were to lets say lower my stage fee to 50% of what other clubs in my area charge I would have more than enough 21 year olds to pick from.

Also by 21 they have the hustle down and maybe a string of regulars which is also better for my bottom line.

Elvia
08-22-2009, 01:17 PM
This is a tricky question. One one hand, I know what it's like to be completely on your own as a teenager and can understand how dancing could really save someone's ass. That being said, I'm really glad I didn't take up dancing at 18. And the girl's I usually see falling into the classic pitfalls (drinking way too much, letting nasty customers and bad management take advantage of them, taking stupid risks) are usually the youngest ones.

eagle2
08-22-2009, 01:34 PM
I think it should be 18, because at 18 girls are responsible for themselves and any children they have. For some 18-19 year old girls, this may be the only way they can make enough money to support themselves.

I agree with Elvia that it's easier to take advantage of an 18 year old than someone older and more mature, but many of those 18 year old girls might not have any other alternative.

I do think that dancers under 21 should not be allowed to drink.

laurcon
08-22-2009, 06:56 PM
i started dancing at 18 because i wanted to. i've wanted to be a stripper since at least 16. i didn't turn 18 till my freshmen year of college. i went to college in VA but danced in NJ at bikini bars when i was home on vacations. i learned a lot and it wasn't anything that serious in my life. i didn't have to work when i was focusing on school work and partying. if "kids" are old enough to deal with college, they can certainly attempt to deal with being a stripper. if they don't make it, they drop out.
i agree that it should be up to the clubs. the club i work at now is very nice and 21+ only. that way the girls def have experience and can all drink if they want.
i stopped dancing after college but 2 years ago the opportunity to work at "Scores" after growing up listening to howard stern proved too much for me to resist and i got back into it. i like working at a more grown up place now, but there was a time and place for my starter bars.
if you're 18 and going to be taken advantage of as a stripper, then you'll probably do the same thing with boyfriends. i think i've learned how to not get taken advantage of from being a dancer. sorry for the terrible grammar but hopefully you get the point.

audrey_k
08-23-2009, 07:51 AM
I feel like you should have graduated high school to be a stripper... but whatever.

I started dancing at 19 and a half but I think I am a bit more mature than the average 19 year old. But there isn't a huge maturity difference in those three years.

I notice most girls my age don't work half as much as I do, they come in every few weeks and work because they want money for something. They don't see it as a career or a job really just as a quick fix. Which is fine with me, I'll take all the teeny bopper loving customers for them.

laurcon
08-23-2009, 09:22 AM
I feel like you should have graduated high school to be a stripper... but whatever.

I started dancing at 19 and a half but I think I am a bit more mature than the average 19 year old. But there isn't a huge maturity difference in those three years.

I notice most girls my age don't work half as much as I do, they come in every few weeks and work because they want money for something. They don't see it as a career or a job really just as a quick fix. Which is fine with me, I'll take all the teeny bopper loving customers for them.

i def agree about graduating HS, but i have a feeling there are some 30 yr old strippers out there that never did that. not putting us down, just saying i'm sure they exist at some dive bars where the girls have knife-wounds.

i also agree with the young girls not working as much. i would show up every few months and didn't take it seriously until recently. its hard for me to even count my years in college as also time "in the industry" because it was sooo spread out.

threlayer
08-26-2009, 01:10 PM
I agree that it is riskier to the girl to start dancing before she is mature enough; it may bring on life-long problems. Some stories above demonstrate this. But when is she mature enough? Seems to me it is 21, but maybe with some at 18 or a bit more. This poses problems....

Maturity is not a really a specific age, but we don't have a specific test for that; even if we did, many people would not take it. Certainly one is not mature enough at one second after their 18th or 21th birthday, for any partiular activity. And some people mature very late or never mature at all. We don't have practical tests for any of that. We do know their age and overall, since normally humans progress at a certain rate, age is a good enough indicator for most. You parents know about that maturity progress already. You also know there are exceptions to that and many times the exceptions are not mature enough to realize they are not mature enough for many things -- first grade, movies, alcohol, smoking, driving license, selective service, credit cards, stripping, etc. Some decisions have to be made to protect people with unrealistic senses of themselves, and society from their more prevalent bad decisions.

Another thought, maybe (or maybe not) maturity-wise stripping topless is easier to start at a younger age, say 18, but that is often only the case in alcohol bars. And drinking at 18 is a big and legal problem, so many topless bars try to prevent under 21 yr olds from alcohol. And you don't always know what goes on in VIP rooms anyway. At least at 21 girls are more likely to be aware of consequences of their actions than just the immediate apparent rewards of risky behavior.

liannababeli
09-09-2009, 03:08 PM
Does anyone know the legal age for dancing in Minnesota? I live here and I can't even find out!