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JayATee
09-05-2009, 03:08 AM
I don't know if I'll ever marry again, but if I do,... she'll be very special, even if she is my "second"... Also, unless I marry a much younger woman, I'll probably be her "second", too... You're right though, I would never treat her like my "second", even if she is.

It's the mere fact that you're even referring to her in that manner that bothers me Jack. Regardless of how "special" she may be, if you still think of her as your "second" your doing her (and yourself) a major injustice. I pity her, if that's really how you feel. And obviously it is, because you've now said it several times.


I've certainly seen the guy do that, only heard of women doing it though. I just thought that was selfishness, not the same giddy, nutso feeling of teenage "love." Could be wrong though.



Now that I'm older my feelings are no less intense, but they are less giddy, more grounded in reality and don't control my every thought or decision. I think the middle aged people acting like spoiled kids are more the exception than the rule.


LoL. All I can think of is that moment where Tom Cruise jumped up and down on Oprah's couch. ;D

hockeybobby
09-06-2009, 11:17 AM
You are brave. It's normal to wonder, have I done the right thing? How the outcome seems to you at this moment, will be different than how it seems a week, month or 5 years from now. This may be the crucial turning point in your life that propels you into something wonderful. Your mind is going to play tricks with you. These are just thoughts, and not the true you. Distract yourself with positive thoughts and pursuits. Celebrate. It's a new day.

JayATee
09-06-2009, 01:39 PM
Well this thread has become interesting.... Anyways, I dumped him yesterday.

It was first thing in the morning. I had been ignoring his calls for two days. I just had this nagging feeling that I need to stand up for myself for days now. I couldn't wait any longer, I dumped him over the phone!

I never thought I would do that to a person but we live almost an hour away from each other.

All I told him is that I didn't want to be in a serious relationship right now. I didn't want to elaborate and got off the phone with him in about 5 minutes.

I have to admit, I thought he would have drove over here and at least ask for an explanation, instead he just resorted to sending texts all day from his work.

WTF?

The texts started out kind of like "I don't want to bother you anymore, I can't believe you dumped me over the phone, I know I'm a loser but I wanted to be with you forever"

(manipulative bullshit, most likely)

then the texts turned into

"One day you'll realise what you are losing" and "I felt terrible all day"


What the hell is going on? I think if he really meant all of these things he would have at least been man enough to call me.


Now I slightly miss him, but I'm sure thats normal. I hope I get over him quickly, I just hope this doesn't mess with my hussle.

You're right. He's being manipulative. Actions speak louder than words. It's never easy... but give it a few days. Try and keep yourself busy. If you know deep down (and I think you do) that this was the right decision you'll be fine. :hug:

Djoser
09-06-2009, 02:49 PM
He sounds more insecure with the texting than manipulative. I would never text someone that I was a loser, especially if I was trying to manipulate them. And I would never text someone repeatedly without a reply, no matter what.

But whatever, you are free now and that is a good thing. Now go make money! ;D

Cyril
09-10-2009, 08:35 PM
When I moved in with some family members to save money recently until I resume school full-time is also around the same time he started being disrespectful to me.



Unless I am reading you wrong, it seems like his disappointment stems from you moving into a more humble housing. If his reason for lack of respect for you lies in materialism then only material things can cure this problem. However, you must ask yourself. Do you really want to be with someone who cares that much about material things?

WiseGuy_TX
09-10-2009, 10:27 PM
Unless I am reading you wrong, it seems like his disappointment stems from you moving into a more humble housing. If his reason for lack of respect for you lies in materialism then only material things can cure this problem. However, you must ask yourself. Do you really want to be with someone who cares that much about material things?...she already dumped him 4 days ago.

Christyismyalias
09-10-2009, 10:49 PM
If he doesn't repect you, then it can't possibly work out.

It's really sad, but the vast majority of men cannot handle our jobs. (Even the ones that get dances themselves. ::))


True and True...
If he does not show you respect, find someone who will.

I'm working on finding someone too, but it's hard. Even those who frequent the clubs think little of the girls that work. Even those who work in the club think the same... It's tough. The pool of men who are able to handle it and treat us with respect is very small!
Even though, we should not put up with men who treat us with any less respect than we deserve..

Earl_the_Pearl
09-10-2009, 10:58 PM
He moved in his mothers house
I am about to burst, need I say more?

Earl_the_Pearl
09-10-2009, 11:14 PM
Full Friction = FS, full service. Tell him to suck it up as it is only a way to make money. Tell him he is a loser that can't support your life-style so he is less than a man. He should sit in the corner like the PL that he is. :bullwhip:

Djoser
09-10-2009, 11:59 PM
...It's tough. The pool of men who are able to handle it and treat us with respect is very small!
Even though, we should not put up with men who treat us with any less respect than we deserve..

The bottom line.

It's just not a business conducive to romance, for either the men or women in it. Better to be single and make a pile of money and wait 'til later, than put up with shit from jealous men or women. Not that it can't be done, it's just very rare.

princessjas
09-11-2009, 07:35 AM
Oh yes because the pile of money is gone; spent on shoes and up their nose.

*vomit*

Djoser
09-11-2009, 10:12 AM
While I have known dancers who did a lot of blow and blew a lot of money, especially in Daytona, I think this is a rather offensive comment here. The kind of women who spend all their money on blow and shoes may exist in some clubs, but are not likely to spend much time on a forum like this. So, you are insulting the membership.

I am not moderator here so cannot delete it, but out of courtesy for the many fine, intelligent members of this forum who are trying to discuss rational solutions for relationship problems, I suggest you delete it, and refrain from the negative stereotyping and derogatory jokes in future.

ETA--Thanks Earl

callista
09-12-2009, 03:40 AM
^^ I agree. Earl, I know you spend a fair amount of time on here, but that was extremely disrespectful and rude. You know how much we bitch about the stereotypes, so bringing up another one was just an extremely dickish move.

However, you were respectful enough to delete that part of your comment, for which i will have to give you some respect.... I guess I'm just disappointed that you would say that to start with.

callista
09-12-2009, 03:42 AM
Yeah if they are driving your luxury automobile, I have no sympathy whatsoever for them.


Well this thread has become interesting.... Anyways, I dumped him yesterday.

It was first thing in the morning. I had been ignoring his calls for two days. I just had this nagging feeling that I need to stand up for myself for days now. I couldn't wait any longer, I dumped him over the phone!

I never thought I would do that to a person but we live almost an hour away from each other.

All I told him is that I didn't want to be in a serious relationship right now. I didn't want to elaborate and got off the phone with him in about 5 minutes.

I have to admit, I thought he would have drove over here and at least ask for an explanation, instead he just resorted to sending texts all day from his work.

WTF?

The texts started out kind of like "I don't want to bother you anymore, I can't believe you dumped me over the phone, I know I'm a loser but I wanted to be with you forever"

(manipulative bullshit, most likely)

then the texts turned into

"One day you'll realise what you are losing" and "I felt terrible all day"


What the hell is going on? I think if he really meant all of these things he would have at least been man enough to call me.


Now I slightly miss him, but I'm sure thats normal. I hope I get over him quickly, I just hope this doesn't mess with my hussle.

as long as you feel you made the right decision and are happy with it, then it's the right move for you. don't compromise because the sex is good - someone better will come along, and they might just be even more amazing in the sack.

Earl_the_Pearl
09-12-2009, 06:07 PM
ETA--Thanks Earl

^^ I agree. Earl, I know you spend a fair amount of time on here, but that was extremely disrespectful and rude. You know how much we bitch about the stereotypes, so bringing up another one was just an extremely dickish move.

I have said it before and I know it to be true that neither the typical dancer nor the typical PL contributes to this forum.
That said neither typical dancers nor typical PLs are hard drug user.

The part about spending too much on shoes still stands though. :joke:

princessjas
09-12-2009, 06:13 PM
I have said it before and I know it to be true that neither the typical dancer nor the typical PL contributes to this forum.
That said neither typical dancers nor typical PLs are hard drug user.

The part about spending too much on shoes still stands though. :joke:

There is no such thing as spending to much on shoes. Blasphemy!! :D

Elvia
09-12-2009, 06:14 PM
Did I miss something? when did "full friction"come to mean "full service?" full service means actual fucking, right?

callista
09-14-2009, 03:11 AM
I have said it before and I know it to be true that neither the typical dancer nor the typical PL contributes to this forum.
That said neither typical dancers nor typical PLs are hard drug user.

The part about spending too much on shoes still stands though. :joke:

True, I agree. Most girls that will take the time to research how to make more money probably don't want to spend it on silly things that give you a stuffy nose.

However, with shoes..... Hmmm. Most women love shoes, it just happens to be that dancers can manage to get the ones they want. I love shoes, but i don't have the 'typical' amount.... mostly due to the fact that i can walk in converses, flipflops, and stripper shoes - that's it. otherwise, i'd so be rocking heels constantly.

at least with shoes you have something to show for it!

callista
09-14-2009, 03:13 AM
Did I miss something? when did "full friction"come to mean "full service?" full service means actual fucking, right?

i always thought of full service as when the guy comes.

full friction would be, IMO, more of a grinding dance with maybe a lil naughtiness.... medium - high contact dance.

princessjas
09-14-2009, 03:38 AM
^^I always thought "full service" was sex, and "full friction" was not a commonly used descriptor but I also thought it was just a heavy grind lapdance. Earl admits to frequenting Paterson SC's though and seriously, they are such whorehouses I only lasted 3 nights at a better one and started driving 45 min to work. I think most guys cum during regular lapdances there, it's what they buy them for. It was creepy as hell.

Faye449
09-14-2009, 05:34 AM
Well this thread has become interesting.... Anyways, I dumped him yesterday.

It was first thing in the morning. I had been ignoring his calls for two days. I just had this nagging feeling that I need to stand up for myself for days now. I couldn't wait any longer, I dumped him over the phone!

I never thought I would do that to a person but we live almost an hour away from each other.

All I told him is that I didn't want to be in a serious relationship right now. I didn't want to elaborate and got off the phone with him in about 5 minutes.

I have to admit, I thought he would have drove over here and at least ask for an explanation, instead he just resorted to sending texts all day from his work.

WTF?

The texts started out kind of like "I don't want to bother you anymore, I can't believe you dumped me over the phone, I know I'm a loser but I wanted to be with you forever"

(manipulative bullshit, most likely)

then the texts turned into

"One day you'll realise what you are losing" and "I felt terrible all day"


What the hell is going on? I think if he really meant all of these things he would have at least been man enough to call me.


Now I slightly miss him, but I'm sure thats normal. I hope I get over him quickly, I just hope this doesn't mess with my hussle.

Hope you're ok? I'm sure you are. Go with the 'keep calm and carry on theory' for a week or so until you get used to not having him around and then you'll be just fine :-)

SerenaSin
09-14-2009, 06:15 AM
Full Friction = FS, full service.

What? Full friction = heavy grinding.

Why in the world would the club be advertising "full service" anyway?

vmurphy252
09-14-2009, 06:37 AM
Can anyone say indian burn?