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lopaw
09-11-2009, 09:48 PM
When I first started clubbing with a male friend years ago, I had the same attitude that james8 has....why should I have to chase down the dancers when I too wanted to have the hot ladies approaching me! It didn't take long before I realized that the "couple's syndrome" was a potential kiss-of-death in a stripclub. Thankfully that situation (for me, at least) was short-lived.

As it turns out I prefer to go to clubs alone, which made the "couples syndrome" problem disappear. Seems the dancers have no problem approaching a single lady that is there for the right reasons - and all it takes is some good word-of-mouth about you to be circulated around in the dressing room for you to be approached ALOT!

Unfortunately this does your average couple no good...unless they want to sit at separate tables.
Hmmmmm....that might make for an interesting "couples game" to play!;)

chris91
09-12-2009, 01:55 AM
I avoid couples. Couples are really the only kind of customers I avoid. I'll dance for them if they ask, but it's very rare that I approach them on my own.

Most of the time, when I do dance for them, it ends up being way more bullshit than I'm willing to put up with for $40. The women are usually showing off for their man by groping me or faking orgasms. Even when they are well behaved, they generally don't tip as well, if at all, and aren't looking to take anyone to the champagne room. That's the rule, and I know there are exceptions, but I don't have all goddamn day to hunt them down. They will have to come to me.

I know that you feel like you shouldn't have to approach the dancers, but that's just too bad for you, because this is the way things work. If you want, you can send me a check, and when you show up at my club, I'll make sure to approach you first.

Djoser
09-12-2009, 03:08 AM
If you want, you can send me a check, and when you show up at my club, I'll make sure to approach you first.

:D

That's funny as hell.

I know one member here who seems to clean up with couples on a regular basis. But I always figured different strategies work for different people, you're better off just going with the flow.

chris91
09-12-2009, 06:13 PM
:D

That's funny as hell.

I know one member here who seems to clean up with couples on a regular basis. But I always figured different strategies work for different people, you're better off just going with the flow.

I'm sure I could clean up with couples too, if I put in the effort. It's just easier to clean up with single dudes. If we could charge double for couple dances, then I would go for it. I've always thought it was bullshit that we only get paid once when we're dancing for two people and smacking away twice as many hands and mouths.

Djoser
09-12-2009, 11:00 PM
Oh I wasn't implying you couldn't clean up with the couples if you wanted to.

She cleans up with the couples because she wants to, and seems to have less of the trouble some dancers complain about. But you know how it is with the business, different dancers have different strategies, and go after different types of customers. I know a lot who won't go near couples as well.

laurcon
09-12-2009, 11:34 PM
wow we were at northern in fargo too, thats the club we went to early at around 6 or 7 pm. There was literally 5 or 6 patrons, and maybe 10 stippers, and none of them would even glance at us. I tried looking at them, figuring if i looked at them and smiled they would realise to come over, but they wouldnt even glance in our direction, they were clearly going out of there way to avoid us. Maybe we just picked a bad club (other club was scarlett oharas in sd) to go to, hopefully a club in ny would be better. hopefully we dont run into a stuck up bitch like jayAtee

lmao, i work at the best club in manhattan and i can't STAND couples. i make soooo much more off of men. the most a couple is going to do is an hour in VIP, and that hour isn't worth it to me. also, i don't like dancing for women, they try to touch me and they're all small so i feel like i'm going to break them if i sit on their lap. the man is watching me dance for his woman all pervy and leering. the whole situation is super lame and forced.
please don't come to ny. you are exactly the reason i stay away from couples.
and in case you didn't notice, you're paying us. $20 is not enough for me to deal with a couple, maybe $100 for once dance would be my couples rate. i don't need your money bad enough to deal with you. i couldn't even continue reading this thread when i read this. jay's the shit and was just relaying how many of us strippers feel.
i've gone to other clubs in manhattan with a man so i guess i was part of a couple but i knew how to treat the girls so it wasn't fucking terrible for them. and yeah i had no problem approaching a girl and telling them that i'm cool and looking to spend some money on her. then when she and the rest of the club sees how respectful we are we end up having like 6 girls drinking champagne with us. but i guess i just know how to treat people and don't have any fears of seeming "inferior", unlike you.

carmen_b
09-12-2009, 11:44 PM
I didn't realize I stumbled on such a heated thread. I don't approach couples that much and it's only because I've found that my niche market ( 35 -55 ish men by themselves ) is just much easier for me to sell. I mean ....... I wouldn't ignore couples, but I feel like I put a lot of energy OUT to get very little in return ( and very slowly ) with the ones I've encountered so far. I would LOVE to meet a couple who tips well on stage, buys dances quickly, is fun to joke around with ect. They just usually weren't that way with me personally.

As a customer ....... I have had SO MUCH FUN in a strip club as a couple. I've tried to use the same techniquies my first lapdancer used on me ( ignoring boyfriend , giving the girl all the attention ) .... but it just doesn't flow with me well.

I do know that couple do sometimes spend well. I've seen it ! It was on other dancers, but at least I witnessed couples spending generously.
The single guys are just the market I like to focus on.

I don't want to get lashed at for suggesting this...... but you do know you can just ask the girl to dance for you right ? We actually really love that ! It's fun to be asked instead of doing all the asking.

Djoser
09-13-2009, 02:31 AM
I didn't realize I stumbled on such a heated thread. I don't approach couples that much and it's only because I've found that my niche market ( 35 -55 ish men by themselves ) is just much easier for me to sell. I mean ....... I wouldn't ignore couples, but I feel like I put a lot of energy OUT to get very little in return ( and very slowly ) with the ones I've encountered so far. I would LOVE to meet a couple who tips well on stage, buys dances quickly, is fun to joke around with ect. They just usually weren't that way with me personally.

As a customer ....... I have had SO MUCH FUN in a strip club as a couple. I've tried to use the same techniquies my first lapdancer used on me ( ignoring boyfriend , giving the girl all the attention ) .... but it just doesn't flow with me well.

I do know that couple do sometimes spend well. I've seen it ! It was on other dancers, but at least I witnessed couples spending generously.
The single guys are just the market I like to focus on.

I don't want to get lashed at for suggesting this...... but you do know you can just ask the girl to dance for you right ? We actually really love that ! It's fun to be asked instead of doing all the asking.

It's true the best woman to take with you is a dancer, maybe that's why it's been easier for me the last few years. Best way to break the ice is the woman tipping and being cool about it, if no one comes over.

So much depends on the club, as well. Where I work is way better for couples, I know--except as with all the customers people tend to drink too much being the Keys and all. ;D

MarvelGirl
09-13-2009, 02:35 AM
I don't want to get lashed at for suggesting this...... but you do know you can just ask the girl to dance for you right ? We actually really love that ! It's fun to be asked instead of doing all the asking.

JayATee suggested that and he called her a stuck up bitch for it. Apparently he's extremely offended by the fact that he may have to speak to a dancer.

princessjas
09-13-2009, 06:19 AM
You know I hadn't really thought about it, but laurcon has a point about women being small and therefore harder to dance for. I never noticed...cause well I'm minature sized myself, so generally when I sit with couples I sit on the GIRLS lap (with a foot on the floor so I don't squash her usually), but without this strategy to get her involved I would be really, really lost on how to get women to relax and have fun. (I can't even imagine trying to give a lapdance to a girl that was smaller than me, I'd be so worried about hurting her.) Because really, couples are ALL about making the girl feel good. Men are much easier to please, they are generally thrilled just to see me sitting on their gf's lap and whispering in her ear and giggling and bingo they buy their girl a dance.

What are some of your strategies for getting couples to relax? Does everyone go with have fun with the gf and your good technique?

Anyway, end of long, rambling thread jack.

carmen_b
09-13-2009, 09:03 AM
I know she suggested he ask, but I just wanted to cast my vote too that it's the way to go. Really ..... it just IS ...... there isn't anything wrong with actually " picking " the girl you want. Some people actually get turned off having a constant parade of girls coming to their table and pushing dances. If that's the feel you like, you could try another club because there are MANY like that out there ( in San Francisco we are sort of pushy for example ).

Trust me - you can have A LOT OF FUN as a customer in a club as a couple. I haven't done that in a few years, but the few times I did ......... * wowie * ......what fun !

Stripper Hacks
09-13-2009, 11:58 AM
I'll finally comment on this thread...

It is easier to sell to one person than it is to two people. Usually it's ladies choice and I will tell you the best part is most girls that are there to get dances usually have a girl picked out fairly quickly and have a waitress hunt them down.

Otherwise girls pass up couples for two reasons: they are uncomfortable dancing for women or they don't see the potential for making a lot of money.

Djoser
09-14-2009, 12:38 AM
Trust me - you can have A LOT OF FUN as a customer in a club as a couple. I haven't done that in a few years, but the few times I did ......... * wowie * ......what fun !

I still do it regularly, and yeah it is fun.

JayATee
09-14-2009, 07:02 AM
I just danced for an AWESOME couple friday night and all of us had a great time! I actually was hoping they would buy more time bc they were so fun.

Faye449
09-14-2009, 07:53 AM
I'm guilty of avoiding couples. The first time I ever danced for a girl was horrible. I came out of the LD booth and parted ways with my last guy, was just walking across the floor when this girl, who was sat with 4 guys flagged me down and asked who in this club gave lap dances. I told her any of the girls would be more than happy to dance for her, if she picked one she liked I'd go get her. She picked me. I held out my hand and said come on then hun, lets get us into a booth, this will be loads of fun, she said she didn't want to go to a booth, I said I couldn't take all my clothes off on the floor but we had some double booths if she wanted to bring one of the guys.........so off we went. She sat rammed in the corner of the sofa with her arms and legs crossed (bad sign) and I asked her if she was ok, was she sure etc as it was fine if she was feeling a bit odd about it, I wouldn't be offended at all if she changed her mind but she said no. well I got 15 seconds into the song (still had all my clothes on!) before she had shoved me out of the way, gone running out of the booth shouting over her shoulder (and I quote) that I was disgusting. You can imagine that really put me off my hustle for a good couple of hours. (I made the guy pay double but thats NOT the point!)

Proir to this I had spoken to a few of the women that (rarely) come in and none of them want dances (not just from me, they don't want them full stop) and give you death stares for speaking to their partners. Not my idea of a fun evening never mind a lucrative one!

verfolgung
09-14-2009, 10:13 AM
James8, it sounds like you came on here with a chip on your shoulder after having a bad experience at a SC. The ladies have made several points as to why this regularly happens in clubs.


Here are tons of past threads where you can see this is a common topic, and the responses you have received are also common...

And here are just a few of them!

"Couples at a club"
http://www.stripperweb.com/forum/showthread.php?t=48848

"Give me the strait up - are female custies ok?"
http://www.stripperweb.com/forum/showthread.php?t=52955

"Couples in SC's"
http://www.stripperweb.com/forum/showthread.php?t=28776

"Are Female Customers More Fun?"
http://www.stripperweb.com/forum/showthread.php?t=26978

"Customer wives or girlfriends - how do you act?"
http://www.stripperweb.com/forum/showthread.php?t=25202

"Why am I suddenly seeing more women customers?"
http://www.stripperweb.com/forum/showthread.php?t=28799

"Do you girls that dance? Like to dance for?"
http://www.stripperweb.com/forum/showthread.php?t=26877

"Females" (NOTE: Thread is in Ladies Only)
http://www.stripperweb.com/forum/showthread.php?t=26990

"Do dancers have an issue dancing for couples?"
http://www.stripperweb.com/forum/showthread.php?t=25668

"Approaching Female Customers"
http://www.stripperweb.com/forum/showthread.php?t=28868

"Curious"
http://www.stripperweb.com/forum/showthread.php?t=25919

"Do the ladies like dancing for couples?"
http://www.stripperweb.com/forum/showthread.php?t=28898

"Women giving other women lap dances"
http://www.stripperweb.com/forum/showthread.php?t=26708

verfolgung
09-14-2009, 10:37 AM
Here might be a few reasons for your experiences ....

1) First night you and your gf did not tip the stage. Even male customers will find that it is easier to get a dancer's attention if you tip her on stage. The ladies are far more likely to take the path of least resistance in selling dances and will typically approach those who have shown an interest in them.

2) On your second night you and your gf went to the stage and tipped the dancers and still got no repsonse. It may seem odd, but it is club etiquette for dancers not to approach customers sitting directly at the tip rail. Many assume you are happy with the stage show and will not approach you for dances. Also, were you sitting with her? You're being with her, even while tipping the stage may have made it difficult to judge whether she was into the SC scene or not.


TIP: Next time you go to a club, have your GF approach the stage ALONE and tip the dancers early and often. Again, she should approach the stage and then leave it, rather than park there for an extended period. By doing this she'll send out a positive vibe, while also making herself available for dances.

I've gone to SC's before with female friends and, when we're not already known, we'll also experience a warming up period. Quickest way to break the ice is to let the lady tip. Once dancers see this, especially if she does it on her own, they will get the clue that she's cool with being around the dancers and with the SC scene. Then those ladies who are comfortable dancing for customers will be more likely to approach you.

Razzle
09-14-2009, 03:44 PM
Soooooo. We went to two clubs this weekend. As a couple. First one... just ok. but it was a juice bar and I have to say that I prefer to feel a little drink inside before feeling really into the club experience. Anyhow. 2nd night... waaaaaaaaaaaaay better. ;) we had a great time!

We spent our first time ever in VIP and it was good. Not great, cause I was too afraid to "ask" the dancer that I most liked to go to VIP... well actually I think I would of, but she was just going off shift... (on a sidenote, it was super sweet of her to come and sit with us in the club off shift and talk for 15 or so... :) ) So, the first dancer that asked us if we wanted VIP, saying we'd have a good time! Sold us. We did enjoy. However, her talking about her missing toenail, her boob job, and her NOT liking girls as she was rubbing her boobies on mine... kinda took a tiny bit of the excitement out of it. :) It was still enjoyable. And we blew a lot of cash... ;) it was worth it. But I think it could have been better.

Now, after being in VIP I can clearly say that once or twice a year, I will save money and do it again... but next time, I'm gonna pick that girl that gives me a good friendly vibe on stage and in lapdances... not the first one that actually asks.

Does any of that make sense? I might have drunk one glass too many of red wine while cooking dinner. lol.

OH, and ... I should add that plenty of dancers approached us. I think the fact that we tip well, and my husband goes searching for dancers to send to me and I for him... helps a LOT. It didn't take long for girls to approach us... some telling us directly (for hustle or not I'm not sure) that we're a fun couple and it's nice to see a female who is enjoying it for a change... one old guy custie actually asked me if my husband was my husband or not, when I replied yes, he said.... damn... lucky lucky man. and added a wink.

I liked that. :D

mediocrity
09-14-2009, 04:23 PM
I can't think of why you weren't offered dances. :( Maybe the girls in those clubs are inexperienced. Come see me, I'll make her blush }:D

I'm guilty of this. I hate dancing for girls. I'm tall and gangly and am always afraid I am going to squash them. I also have had a lot of bad experiences with girls trying to grab my boobs, lick me, make out with me, lick the side of my face etc... more so than with men. Also, many of them I have danced for moan a lot and it makes me feel embarrassed.:-[

I danced for a woman in her late 30s/early 40s the other day and she groaned like I was going down on her, stuck her tongue in my ear, tried to lick my boobs and then her husband stiffed me.

J and I have been and we get dances for him, but I always look away. I feel like I am invading their privacy or making the dancer uncomfortable if I stare them down.

verfolgung
09-15-2009, 06:48 AM
... but next time, I'm gonna pick that girl that gives me a good friendly vibe on stage and in lapdances... not the first one that actually asks.

Does any of that make sense? ...

Absolutely. It's your entertainment dollar, and VIP can be a bit pricey. You should definitely spend it to your preference. So long as you're not being rude about declining a dancer who asks, than you should be able to wait for someone who most appeals to you.

BTW - I like the fact that not only your husband approaches dancers, but you do as well. I'm sure this has a lot to do with breaking the ice and getting the dancers comfortable with approaching you guys.

carmen_b
09-15-2009, 08:52 AM
Razzle ... you should have definitely picked your favorite. Odds are good that she may have stayed for you if you offered to do VIP right away.

princessjas
09-15-2009, 09:02 AM
Razzle ... you should have definitely picked your favorite. Odds are good that she may have stayed for you if you offered to do VIP right away.

Definitely. I can't see anyone turning down VIP unless they HAD to, like an emergency situation or they were ill. I would also def get a feel for the girl first too. If she's not attracted to women then you may get another awkward dance, and there are plenty of dancers out there who are.

verfolgung
09-15-2009, 09:13 AM
Definitely. I can't see anyone turning down VIP unless they HAD to, like an emergency situation or they were ill ...

Granted, the VIP charge would likely have covered her if the club required an extra tip out for staying the next shift; however, don't some clubs then require the dancer to stay for the entire shift? She may have been able to spare the extra hour or so of VIP, but perhaps not getting home until after 2 AM was not a possibility for her. Just a thought.

Kudos to her for spending the extra 15 minutes though. Sounds like it will pay off for down the line. :)

JayATee
09-15-2009, 01:12 PM
J and I have been and we get dances for him, but I always look away. I feel like I am invading their privacy or making the dancer uncomfortable if I stare them down.

I personally like to be watched... but that's partially why Im in this business to begin with, Im a little bit of an exhibitionist. But most of the guys I dance for say the same thing when they're with friends. If the friend is getting a dance they look away or go to the stage or bar or something bc they feel weird about it.

lemmiwinks31
09-15-2009, 02:23 PM
If the friend is getting a dance they look away or go to the stage or bar or something bc they feel weird about it.


maybe its because they dont want to feel as if they are trying to steal a free show.

mediocrity
09-15-2009, 03:35 PM
maybe its because they dont want to feel as if they are trying to steal a free show.

That's part of it for me. It's like I feel like that is HIS time with her, not mine. I usually chat with the person next to me or something. :)

Jay, I wish I was into it because I was an exhibitionist- I do it strictly for the money and nothing more. Sometimes, that makes me a little sad.

Razzle
09-15-2009, 03:39 PM
Razzle ... you should have definitely picked your favorite. Odds are good that she may have stayed for you if you offered to do VIP right away.


Good to know. See, it takes me a little bit to get warmed up. So, I liked her right away, but she was leaving... so I would probably have brought up VIP if she'd been there longer... but I didn't think to ask right away.

The girl that did ask did so after the first dance. I think I got like 15 dances and VIP. lol. It was fun.

It was also pretty funny to watch the guys watching the dancer and I... cause almost always as soon as we were done the guy right next to us would buy one. lol.

Some of the time my husband and I would just switch dancers too.

This place had table dances (little side couches) and then VIP. But VIP wasn't mentioned a lot. The time we were in Vegas we were approached with VIP right off the bat. This time it took us prolly 4 hours before a dancer brought it up. And one of the girls who I also liked right away came over just as her shift was ending to point out certain girls who also "liked girls"... which was also helpful of her.

Basically, these dancers were nice to us. It was all good. ;)

lmiller22134
09-26-2009, 09:43 AM
Yes, we could have approached them or put our hand up like in 6th grade and asked for one, but should we have to?? I dont get it, do the girls just not want to dance for another female? do they think she will get hostile?? She is in a fuking strip club, I dont see why she wouldnt want to see strippers
Yes. We are strippers, not mind readers. A lot of strippers are intimidated by couples or have had bad experience with them and thats why they dont approach them. If you just sit around waiting for your fav girls to approach you are just going to be waiting around for ever and might get bugged instead by girls who arent your type.

Same goes for non couples too. If you like a girl, approach her, she wont say no 99 percent of the time, we cant always approach EVERY customer and sometimes you guys give off a vibe that you dont like us and thats why we ignore you.

Personally, when I go to a strip club with a bf, I like the fact that most girls wont approach me. I hate having to say no to a girl because she is not mine or his type. Usually I will sit on the stage and tip everyone to make sure no unwanted girl approaches me.

lmiller22134
09-26-2009, 09:47 AM
First of all, in no way do i feel like i am better then a stripper, but at the same time i dont appreciate feeling like she thinks she is better then me. Isnt the whole idea of a stripper is her catering to you? dont you provide fantasys to make guys think you want them? And as far as a good business move, im pretty sure i know it was a bad business move to avoid my table i had 4 or 500$ in my pocket and nobody was willing to take it, so i'd say thats a bad move. As far as sitting ther with drinks, like i said, tables to the left and right sat there with drinks, and were all approached.

wtf since when is being too scared to ask a customer/couple for a dance mean the dancer thinks she is better than you? if anything she is too scared precisely because she is either intimidated by you or thinks she isnt pretty enough for you to want a dance from her.

laurcon
09-26-2009, 10:28 AM
wtf since when is being too scared to ask a customer/couple for a dance mean the dancer thinks she is better than you? if anything she is too scared precisely because she is either intimidated by you or thinks she isnt pretty enough for you to want a dance from her.

i don't know about that. i don't think that happens to most dancers past their first few years of dancing, or days. especially if you read through this thread you'll see that's especially not the case with couples. at all.

SerenaSin
09-26-2009, 11:13 AM
Hey James, has any of this sunk in for you yet?

JayATee gave you helpful advice that a lot of other girls are corroborating and I think you owe her an apology. For real.

lmiller22134
09-26-2009, 11:39 AM
:-X
This depends on what you are looking for. I remember one evening at work all the girls were trying to convince a customer that they really liked him and had no ill feelings toward the guy when he asks me "You hate me, don't you?"

I looked at him and answered, "Yep. You're a lowlife." at which point he hands me $50 tip and then asks me to go to VIP with him for an hour. He wanted the attitude and the humiliation. I didn't know this, but I was too busy to deal with his games when he asked me if I hated him, so I simply said yes.;)

Omg i met a customer like that once! He acted like a douche to me, tellling me to turn around for him so he could see my body, asking me if my dance was gonna be good, etc, etc. Then i dance for him and he makes me stop halfway telling me hes not gonna waste my time and to just end it there and that he didnt like my dance. I asked him why and he said its because i was too far away (i was freaking hugging him!)
Later i find out that he is a submissive and he acts like an asshole to get girls to blow up at him. I was having a bad night so I was taking his shit, usually i would call guys out for acting like that, and if i had i would have made so much off of him!

kameryn
10-08-2009, 03:50 PM
I LOVE dancing for couples. They're usually really nice and don't grab and touch much. They're usually just looking to have a good time, add excitement to their own relationship and look at some pretty woman. Often it's a bi or lesbian woman going in with a guy-friend to feel more comfortable. Sometimes it's a couple that's been married for 14 years. But either way, they got money and they're usually the nicest.

A lot of times I'll start dancing for them and then half way through they'll start making out and cuddling...then i don't even do anything other than sit there and they pay me!

I know most girls in my club don't go after the lady customers, so I always jump right on it and they're usually pleased.

:)

KiwiStrawberry Splenda
10-09-2009, 01:21 PM
I think couples are an overlooked market. In my experience, if the woman doesn't want to be there, I figure that out the moment I approach them. Also, never speak to the male, always address and look at the woman, make her feel good. If she's bitchy and catty, thank them, excuse yourself, and walk away.

To me, its no worse than sitting down to talk to a man, him telling you he'll only get dances if you suck his dick, or something like that. Just walk away, report them if your club cares.

Also, I've never danced with a woman that didn't have underwear on. Or if she didn't have any, I was unaware of it. I'm surprised this happens so often. Perhaps I've been lucky.

XOXO.Katie
10-12-2009, 12:18 AM
Before I was a stripper I had a bf who loved going to strip clubs. We would go, he would give me a stack of singles and we would sit at the tip rail, tipping generously, while I picked out which girl I fancied. After she was done on stage he would go ask her to dance for me (what a gentlemen lol!). Never in a million years did it occur to us to just sit there like whiney little bitches waiting for a busy girl at work to come talk to us. God I fucking hate entitled people!

audrey_k
10-14-2009, 10:07 AM
I don't avoid all couples, it depends.

I find a lot of girls in strip clubs are just fucking annoying stupid bitches. They either want to sit and talk shit about all the strippers or glare at any girl who talks to their boyfriend.

If I'm getting an OK vibe from one of the couples, I'll talk to them. But I usually avoid them because so many female customers are such nightmares.

pogocat
10-14-2009, 07:14 PM
Gotta be honest. I hate couples. The women act like retards most of the time and their either uncomfortable or way to comfortable and try to hump/scratch/grab me. The women treat me like more of an object than the men do! I can't put my full body weight against them so it's physically harder. I've only had a few that didn't get jealous at some point. The last one I danced for was lactating and the guy was nice enough to clue me in or I would have had breast milk on me. That's something I don't have to worry about with men.

Most of the time couples aren't going to get bigger rooms either and as I try to talk them into something she's reminding him about bills, ect. It seems like I have to talk to the women forever too if they are going to buy anything. It's just easier to get a dude to go back, do a few dances and try to make it to a bigger room. I'll do a dance for them if I'm asked and when I turn to look at her she looks like she wants the dance, if she doesn't then I tell them no. I really won't go up to a good customer of mine if there is a woman with him (other than saying hi) because I don't want to take the chance she won't like me and it will upset my money on another night.

On the other hand If I get too bored and there are too many female customers I've just started walking up to them just like they're dudes, plopping down in their lap and rubbing my tits in their face and asking for a dance. I'm not super aggressive, but if you hate tits everyone knows it now. It's amazing how many chicks leave after that happens. I figure if I get money from it great, but if and I make them leave great too.

princessjas
10-14-2009, 07:53 PM
On the other hand If I get too bored and there are too many female customers I've just started walking up to them just like they're dudes, plopping down in their lap and rubbing my tits in their face and asking for a dance. I'm not super aggressive, but if you hate tits everyone knows it now. It's amazing how many chicks leave after that happens. I figure if I get money from it great, but if and I make them leave great too.
Hey, not fair doing this while trying to run me off!! If you rub your boobs in my face I won't realize you don't want my attentions..I'll think you want me to stay and spend money on you! I think I retain a tiny bit of brain function when aroused, but its a "tiny bit" keep in mind. }:D

lopaw
10-14-2009, 08:02 PM
...... plopping down in their lap and rubbing my tits in their face and asking for a dance.


Do that to me and the LAST thing I'm gonna do is run away.

If you ever run into a female custie like me, you may be in for more than you bargained for! }:D

JayATee
10-18-2009, 09:11 PM
Do that to me and the LAST thing I'm gonna do is run away.

If you ever run into a female custie like me, you may be in for more than you bargained for! }:D

Promises promises. ;)

lopaw
10-19-2009, 08:54 PM
Promises promises. ;)

Heh heh heh....I can get quite saucy in the VIP (with the dancer's approval, of course).

I only hope that I may share my sassiness with you someday, JayAtee....:hyper:

JayATee
10-19-2009, 08:57 PM
Heh heh heh....I can get quite saucy in the VIP (with the dancer's approval, of course).

I only hope that I may share my sassiness with you someday, JayAtee....:hyper:

That makes 2 of us. ;)

holly07
10-21-2009, 04:33 PM
we were not in back - we were in the middle of the club the fist night - the dancers literally walked to the table to the left and right of us, but walked right by us, without even looking our way. The next night we moved to the stage, tiped the girls. Same story. As far as being idiots, i dont see how we could have been if no girl even said hello we just sat there drinking and talking to eachother and looking at the girls. As far as having agressive couples, how can my gf be agressive if all you do is say hello? I cant see anybody getting mad at a "hello would you like a dance". I guess the answer is just beg a girl pleeeeeeeeeeeeease give me a dance, i would love to give you my $20 since you are so much better then me, i could never get you in real life so i would be soooooo fuking privelaged if you took my $20.


Couples are never big spenders. Typically a waste of time and frankly read the other posts about female customers, most are bitches who really don't want to be there and are just doing it for your sake. So $20 for some bitch to glare at me in MY world, no thanks, keep it and get the hell out of the club because with your attitude, you're right I 'll never give you or your gf the time of day and I think it shows with the other dancers when we ignore you, so stay out.

Vyanka
10-22-2009, 07:11 PM
Lately, I LOVE couples. BC when other men see me dance for the girl, they think it's hot & want to get a dance from me. Then the other dude, & the other. OR, the shy female customer whose BF brought her in & doesn't want a lapdance in public....so instead, we go to VIP. :)

I've gotten lucky with them lately. I am all for cool, fun couples.

Actually, i've gotten lucky with a lot of female customers the last night I worked. They were all cool, chill, & respectable.... *cough* wish the guys were more like this.

Anyway.............

next time make eye contact with one you like or ask her to come over. A lot of the times strippers avoid couples bc usually the GF goes to make her man happy, & she isn't having fun. They just want to avoid the drama.

Ava Adele
10-22-2009, 09:51 PM
wow we were at northern in fargo too, thats the club we went to early at around 6 or 7 pm. There was literally 5 or 6 patrons, and maybe 10 stippers, and none of them would even glance at us. I tried looking at them, figuring if i looked at them and smiled they would realise to come over, but they wouldnt even glance in our direction, they were clearly going out of there way to avoid us. Maybe we just picked a bad club (other club was scarlett oharas in sd) to go to, hopefully a club in ny would be better. hopefully we dont run into a stuck up bitch like jayAtee



hey, im working at scarlett oharas starting this weekend, ill give you guys a dance :)

lildreamer316
10-22-2009, 11:12 PM
Just for the record; I have had women yell at me for approaching; for dancing; and have had my clothes and an ashtray THROWN at me by a woman.

So yes, I do think that women will react badly. Gee, I wonder where i got that idea!

I still approach if I feel comfortable; am tipped; or am asked; however. Most of those things mentioned above happened in my first three-four years of stripping.

Pretty_Penny
10-23-2009, 08:54 AM
I think it's funny that some girls ITT are saying "couples are never big spenders". That's obviously false. I've banked on couples before, many girls have. I've also been part of the couple that other girls have banked on. :P

Although, I will agree that there is a higher prospect for drama. For that reason, I only approach a couple if they came to tip me on stage or if they asked me to sit with them. It has to be clear to me that they are both COMFORTABLE with being there and that they are abiding by all the rules I would hold true to a single customer.

JayATee
10-23-2009, 09:10 AM
My little niche has always been the swinger couples that come in. They love me for some reason and I love how much they spend on me. Its the perfect relationship. ;D

Pretty_Penny
10-23-2009, 09:22 AM
^Yes. Swingers are exactly what I'm talking about.

Vyanka
10-24-2009, 11:31 AM
Sorry for the slight thread jack here

I forgot to add...

The BEST female customers are the ones who were strippers, or still are. They know the deal, & hard work. 8)


I went to Miami this year before the summer. Me & my stripper friend, & a few guys hit up a shitty ass club in Miami. We all sat at the stage to tip, since there were chairs & a rail for that. We were the only group tipping, we made our guys tip every girl on stage, if not made them sit away so someone else can tip. Then other men saw us tipping on stage, & then they started. It's like c'mon, wtf are you doing sitting on a tipping rail without tipping?? ::)

Anyway....

We were there for a while, & only one genuinely nice(& the prettiest, down-to-earth/small-town girl) dancer approached us & talked to all of us. So me & my GF decided to take her to VIP, chat it up a bit, cut it off short & made our guys buy multiple dances after we got out of VIP. We made her bank that night! It made me & my friend feel good. :goodvibesWe knew she was so happy to have refreshingly good customers, esp in that seedy ass place.


When I came back from my vacation to work, I banked like a motherfucker the first night. I honestly think it was good karma in return. :headbange

Ha. I have to say, it was fun being a customer. :)