View Full Version : Do Men Prefer Very Thin Women? Elle article
vmurphy252
10-04-2009, 06:06 PM
The only thing small about you is your height, and at 4'11 92 lbs isnt exactly super thin, maybe if you had a lot of muscle it would be.
Is that white trash before photo supposed to show me that hes a handsome, and quality guy? because honestly, id rather have the fat ass.
You clearly are not shallow enough to date a good looking man as is. i guess this gives hopes to all the customers on this site oggling your photos. the truth is though, dating guys like that doesnt make you look "unshallow" it just makes you look like your looks and personality are so lacking that thats the best you can do, and thats kind of sad. at least date a guy who doesnt dress and give off a vibe like he grew up in a trailor park, he doesnt have to be drop dead gorgeous.
1) She would have made a better choice with me... ;)
2) Strangely enough, she mentioned her height and weight in another area, and several of us guys were telling her that 92 lbs was too low a weight for her...
princessjas
10-04-2009, 06:09 PM
Hmm, I never claimed to be super thin. I actually said I'm curvy, oh and I DO have quiet a bit of muscle. I do 20 bench press reps at 65lbs. I don't consider that too bad for my size.
The white trash photo? That was taken while he was in the Navy and stationed in California, thus the casual clothing. As for what you'd rather have I don't really care. Sure we are getting divorced for reasons that are none of your damn business, but M has his Masters in Finance and in Management from Babson College...which btw, is a very elite business college. I drive a 550 and live in a 4000+sq ft home and was treated like an absolute princess for many years...so I don't think I married so badly. (Nothing can last forever, but I wouldn't give up those good years for anything.)
If you think my personality is lacking...well that is sort of a compliment coming from you. Damn, I wouldn't want a super-cunt like you to actually like me.
The only thing small about you is your height, and at 4'11 92 lbs isnt exactly super thin, maybe if you had a lot of muscle it would be.
Is that white trash before photo supposed to show me that hes a handsome, and quality guy? because honestly, id rather have the fat ass.
You clearly are not shallow enough to date a good looking man as is. i guess this gives hopes to all the customers on this site oggling your photos. the truth is though, dating guys like that doesnt make you look "unshallow" it just makes you look like your looks and personality are so lacking that thats the best you can do, and thats kind of sad. at least date a guy who doesnt dress and give off a vibe like he grew up in a trailor park, he doesnt have to be drop dead gorgeous.
lmiller22134
10-04-2009, 06:11 PM
1) She would have made a better choice with me... ;)
2) Strangely enough, she mentioned her height and weight in another area, and several of us guys were telling her that 92 lbs was too low a weight for her...
keyword- GUYS
guys have absolutely no perception of female weight. women are for the most part lighter than men because we do not have as much muscle. believe it or not at 4'11 92 lbs is not too thin. a person who is 4'11 has much smaller and lighter bones and much less muscle and need for body fat than a person who is of an average height. You are using average height ideals for someone who is way below it. if she was 5'5 and 92 lbs then yeah she might be too small...but at 4'11 its fine
JayATee
10-04-2009, 06:14 PM
Why isn't a mod on this? This is absurd.
lmiller22134
10-04-2009, 06:15 PM
Hmm, I never claimed to be super thin. I actually said I'm curvy, oh and I DO have quiet a bit of muscle. I do 20 bench press reps at 65lbs. I don't consider that too bad for my size.
The white trash photo? That was taken while he was in the Navy and stationed in California, thus the casual clothing. As for what you'd rather have I don't really care. Sure we are getting divorced for reasons that are none of your damn business, but M has his Masters in Finance and in Management from Babson College...which btw, is a very elite business college. I drive a 550 and live in a 4000+sq ft home and was treated like an absolute princess for many years...so I don't think I married so badly. (Nothing can last forever, but I wouldn't give up those good years for anything.)
If you think my personality is lacking...well that is sort of a compliment coming from you. Damn, I wouldn't want a super-cunt like you to actually like me.
Well no duh you were treated like a princess, you married a low life. of course he is going to treat you like you are above him because you are!
ever hear that song "if you want to be happy for the rest of your life, never make a pretty woman your wife"? Well same goes for girls. of course if you marry way below your league youre going to be worshipped. thats a given.
ghetto isnt the same as casual btw. and as far as i know, that horribly tasteless tattoo and presentation has nothign to do with him being in california
im not saying your personality is lacking, because quite frankly i dont judge peoples personality whom i dont know. i only point out things that are obvious ,such as things that can be seen via photos. im saying if you have to settle for a guy like that then most likely yes, your personality is lacking.
callah44
10-04-2009, 06:17 PM
can we all just agree to close this post and leave lmiller here to argue with herself? This is pointless...
Vyanka
10-04-2009, 06:17 PM
keyword- GUYS
guys have absolutely no perception of female weight. women are for the most part lighter than men because we do not have as much muscle. believe it or not at 4'11 92 lbs is not too thin. a person who is 4'11 has much smaller and lighter bones and much less muscle and need for body fat than a person who is of an average height. You are using average height ideals for someone who is way below it. if she was 5'5 and 92 lbs then yeah she might be too small...but at 4'11 its fine
Oh shut the fuck up already, will ya!
You are annoying as fuck... like a stubborn hemroid that doesn't want to go away. You keep talking out of your ass.
Do us all a giagantic favor.... You see that little red box with the small white X in it, it's in the upper right corner... click on it.
LEAVE....NOW.....OK.......THXBYE
vmurphy252
10-04-2009, 06:18 PM
Woohoo. I got called ignorant by you! Because there is no way in the world that I could actual perceive something objectively.
I wrote a nice long post with links to sites showing ideal female weight ranges and how they match my assumptions, but, meh, you're really not worth it. Assume away. You know what they say, when you assume, you're a bitch.
vmurphy252
10-04-2009, 06:20 PM
can we all just agree to close this post and leave lmiller here to argue with herself? This is pointless...
Wow, the most reasonable post by any of us. Seconded. No more negative responses from me.
Elvia
10-04-2009, 06:23 PM
^^ I agree. How do we go about requesting that a thread be closed?
justifymylove
10-04-2009, 06:24 PM
really you ALL disagree with me? because i see the same 3 people responding over and over. Everyone else is taking the "if you have nothing nice to say dont say it at all" road
You can be assured that others are reading and marveling at your classless behaviour.
JayATee
10-04-2009, 06:25 PM
^^ I agree. How do we go about requesting that a thread be closed?
I reported her. Nothing has happened of yet. There do not seem to be any mods on atm.
Elvia
10-04-2009, 06:28 PM
I'm going to report her nasty response to tinydancer's pics.
Vyanka
10-04-2009, 06:29 PM
I bet you if you mention the other stripper website that would be swiped off out of here in the matter of seconds. LOL. Yet they let some troll run rampant & no one does shit about it. Fucking ridiculous. Never in my SW posting years have I seen them let some asshole run rampant like this & let them get away with this shit.
AH wait.........But then again, they let predators post here... so what do you expect. ::)
xdamage
10-04-2009, 06:49 PM
Jess and Jas fwiw that took balls (the metaphorical kind) to post pics; you both look great, but it was a no win scenario to begin with so you couldn't have possibly changed any minds by posting. Sucks though to be torn apart, and a bit ironic in light of the BA thread where we heard the usual thing about how "society" (that bad society) is holding women to standards they can't possibly meet, yet you both look far better then the average population and get ripped a new one. Hmm.. i guess another reminder that society is nothing but "us people" and we people are often not so great.
Before i started dancing, i was a personal trainer. I love to workout and i coached many women with different shapes and sizes. I'm not sure there is an ideal body weight for everyone. Its not a "one size" fits all scale.
The scale can be very deceiving.
Some women look great with a few extra pounds and yet they are listed as being overweight (which is total Bull).
I'm 5.8 and usually weigh between 130-140 with a 25 inch waist. I tend to be a little chunky but that's mostly in the Ass and Chest. No fat on the body...just a little more muscle and bones than most girls. I'm listed as a Mesomorph physique which tend to carry more muscle than Ecotomorph's who tend to have longer muscles and smaller bones.
Bone size will affect your weight.
Some girls at my club are the same height, but weigh 120. They have smaller waist lines, Narrow Hips and thinner legs. I was made for breading...with wider hips.
As far as each individual, its depends on the girl and how she can carry the weight. Don't look at the scale. Look in the mirror and listen to how your body feels.
TRUTH
Some dudes prefer the skinny girl look...and many men like chunky women with some Ass. Some men like flat chested women...and that's the straight up truth.
I say don't waist your time considering things you can do nothing about.
Princess,...sorry to hear about your problem. Hope you get better soon...
~abby
mediocrity
10-05-2009, 01:36 AM
Before i started dancing, i was a personal trainer. I love to workout and i coached many women with different shapes and sizes. I'm not sure there is an ideal body weight for everyone. Its not a "one size" fits all scale.
The scale can be very deceiving.
Some women look great with a few extra pounds and yet they are listed as being overweight (which is total Bull).
I'm 5.8 and usually weigh between 130-140 with a 25 inch waist. I tend to be a little chunky but that's mostly in the Ass and Chest. No fat on the body...just a little more muscle and bones than most girls. I'm listed as a Mesomorph physique which tend to carry more muscle than Ecotomorph's who tend to have longer muscles and smaller bones.
Bone size will affect your weight.
Some girls at my club are the same height, but weigh 120. They have smaller waist lines, Narrow Hips and thinner legs. I was made for breading...with wider hips.
As far as each individual, its depends on the girl and how she can carry the weight. Don't look at the scale. Look in the mirror and listen to how your body feels.
TRUTH
Some dudes prefer the skinny girl look...and many men like chunky women with some Ass. Some men like flat chested women...and that's the straight up truth.
I say don't waist your time considering things you can do nothing about.
Princess,...sorry to hear about your problem. Hope you get better soon...
~abby
Awesome post, Abby. Good job breaking it down.:)
jack0177057
10-05-2009, 03:40 PM
Lmiller, does this show that I have a tiny little bit of muscle tone? BTW - No one has ever called me big before. I got quiet a chuckle out of it after I calmed down. I think you really dig me and are just trying to goad me into posting pics, so I'll indulge you a bit. :-*
http://i491.photobucket.com/albums/rr279/lprincess75/Legs.jpg
This thread might have turned to shit... But, I'm glad I got to see this...
princessjas,... I'll say it again, you are super-hot!!!...
jack0177057
10-05-2009, 03:49 PM
I don't have washboard abs because I am a total lazy ass and hate the gym. I do indoor rock climbing. But I've never had lipo or anything, and i am 5'8 1/2" and 130lbs (says the scale at work yesterday!). Last I checked measurements were 34-24-35. Then again I'm vegetarian and I don't eat sweets ever.
I'm not saying that I am the type Jack is cheering.
I've seen your picture and you are definitely my type (i.e., a super-hot babe)... just a slightly taller version...
Earl_the_Pearl
10-05-2009, 04:48 PM
http://i491.photobucket.com/albums/rr279/lprincess75/Legs.jpg
I don't remember what this thread was about but would you like a massage; I've been told I have good hands. :juggle:
jack0177057
10-06-2009, 05:25 PM
I do not have an hourglass shape. I would consider myself slender athletic with small breast, flat/small waist, curvy hips/ass and muscular legs. Yes you can have hips and no gut. Check out my photos. I've often wished I had slightly smaller hips - I just don't tell people that because I don't see the point in pointing out one's insecurities. I just strut around like I'm the bomb whether I feel like it that day or not. Things I would change about myself have never came to me as an idea from a man or the media.
The best thing I've learned from working in strip clubs is...guys like women in all shapes and sizes. Everyone has different tastes and that's what makes the world such an interesting place. Im bi-sexual and don't actually have a specific "type" of woman. I think a beautiful face is most important to me. As for men I like thin guys so there you go!
Wow, how did I miss these pics before? If the girls keep insulting each other, will we get more awesome pics like this?... This is not such a bad thread after all... You are one very fine lady, Jessie_tinydancer...
jack0177057
10-06-2009, 05:30 PM
I'm 5.8 and usually weigh between 130-140 with a 25 inch waist. I tend to be a little chunky but that's mostly in the Ass and Chest. No fat on the body...just a little more muscle and bones than most girls. I'm listed as a Mesomorph physique which tend to carry more muscle than Ecotomorph's who tend to have longer muscles and smaller bones.
Do you have any pics of yourself to illustrate the Mesomorph physique?
mediocrity
10-06-2009, 05:41 PM
I've seen your picture and you are definitely my type (i.e., a super-hot babe)... just a slightly taller version...
Haha thanks! I am just the antithesis of curvy.
jack0177057
10-07-2009, 07:52 AM
Haha thanks! I am just the antithesis of curvy.
You looked incredibly hot to me in that schoolgirl outfit, but that was just one picture... How about posting some more?
mediocrity
10-07-2009, 02:06 PM
You looked incredibly hot to me in that schoolgirl outfit, but that was just one picture... How about posting some more?
I'm feeling indulgent.
sashakitty
10-07-2009, 02:12 PM
Hi Ladies. I'm tiny, pretty skinny, and have a girl next door kinda look. I always feel like the thicker women are making more money. I think it depends more on your attitude.
Golden_Rule
10-07-2009, 02:22 PM
I'm feeling indulgent.
Now, while I am truly sure you are a beautiful woman, that shot makes me want to take you out for a big steak and a loaded baked potato. Maybe something rich for desert. [Its the ribs, but I am sure its just the nature of the pose, but it does make me want to feed you. :) ]
mediocrity
10-07-2009, 02:34 PM
^^ I'm tall and lanky. I do plow down about 1800-2000 calories a day. Don't worry. :)
vmurphy252
10-07-2009, 02:59 PM
I'm feeling indulgent.
Quit doing that! But don't!
JayATee
10-07-2009, 03:02 PM
Now, while I am truly sure you are a beautiful woman, that shot makes me want to take you out for a big steak and a loaded baked potato. Maybe something rich for desert. [Its the ribs, but I am sure its just the nature of the pose, but it does make me want to feed you. :) ]
Not me!!! M you're perfect!
jack0177057
10-07-2009, 03:10 PM
I'm feeling indulgent.
Wow!... You've made my day!.... Thank you... Thank you... Thank you...:)
stressed
10-07-2009, 03:14 PM
Not me!!! M you're perfect!
+1
But i would still feed you if you like;)
mediocrity
10-07-2009, 03:35 PM
Thanks everyone!
Jessie_tinydancer
10-07-2009, 04:35 PM
Wow, how did I miss these pics before? If the girls keep insulting each other, will we get more awesome pics like this?... This is not such a bad thread after all... You are one very fine lady, Jessie_tinydancer...
Thanks :)
Jessie_tinydancer
10-07-2009, 04:38 PM
I'm feeling indulgent.
Looking hot and loving the skirt hehe.
There is a very very rich customer that is at my club that may want to marry you or at least give you all his money. My ribs also stick out most of the time (although I wouldn't consider myself skinny). He always says "mmmmmm.. I love hungry girls" hahaha. My husband also loves thin thin girls too.
Earl_the_Pearl
10-07-2009, 09:12 PM
This is fun. :thanx:
modlgrl
10-13-2009, 02:43 PM
Do men prefer very thin women?
Yes in my experience they do. A girl I know makes a ton of money and suffers from bulimia.
She just had a child 3 weeks ago, and I believe throughout her pregnancy practiced her eating disorder. She currently has no visible evidence of pregnancy (her stomach has completely regained its pre-pregnancy shape). She dabbles in drugs, neglects her children (she has another 13 year old daughter). She is 37 with small ugly boobs and no ass, looks like a skeleton, has terrible teeth, and when closely examined, sunken cheeks. She smokes like a chimmney, survives on diet coke, and allows her daughter to run hungry and alone, paying for nothing as she cannot manage her money, and spends everything.
So yes, men do prefer thin, as many cannot see past the illusion.
Earl_the_Pearl
10-13-2009, 06:13 PM
So yes, men do prefer thin, as many cannot see past the illusion.
That is the corner stone of the business. I can't see myself being attracted to her though. Big extra girl I would guess.
princessjas
10-13-2009, 07:38 PM
That is the corner stone of the business. I can't see myself being attracted to her though. Big extra girl I would guess.
K, I REALLY HATE to agree with Earl on anything. However, the only crackhead-thin girls I've known that were able to make a living, did so by selling sex. Normal, healthy thin, yep, I think guys love it....unhealthy, scary thin, only if they are sucking cock and hooking them up with a drug connection.
erotictonic
10-13-2009, 08:37 PM
I honestly think beauty is in the eye of the beholder. There are ALL kinds of people in the world. I think each man prefers what he prefers, for his own reasons. I can show my bf a pic of someone I think is attractive and he will pick a totally different woman, as will each of his friends.
And I think for most men, it is secondary to what is going on in his life, with his family, his career and his friends. Kind of like enjoying chocolate cake the most, but that doesn't mean I don't want to eat strawberry cake some too. My bf I know prefers women to have some meat on their bones. That doesn't mean he doesn't think the skinny girl is cute too, and if she was more attractive personality-wise, he would buy the dance from her.
I honestly see this article as just being one more article from Elle magazine pushing super-skinny agenda. I'm not buying it. It has to do with how you feel about yourself more than it has to do with how skinny you are. If you project self-confidence, you're gonna get hit on whether you are 100 lbs. or 140 lbs.
lilgameplaya
10-14-2009, 04:46 PM
This industry is all about being able to market yourself successfully. In order to do so you have to generalize and figure out which customer(s) you're most likely to sell dances to.
With that said, these are my personal observations:
The fake, toned, cosmetically enhanced, exaggerated curves look is pretty much a universal sell across the country - regardless of race, financial status, etc. This look is a usually a guaranteed sell. The only men who don't go for it are blue collar types.... who hate it when it's paired with a baaaad attitude. If the girl is as nice as she looks though, it's all good.
Thicker women tend to be loved by hispanic and black men above all, but have good luck with Caucasian blue collar types as well. Blue collar men are often intimidated by 'perfect' looking girls and often go for 'real' looking ones. Most of the south, southwest, and midwest are abundant with these types of girls. Upper crust NY clubs wouldn't hire them, but farmers in Nebraska don't see what's attractive about the super model look.
Girls who are straight up fat (and I do mean fat!) can bank (and I do mean bank!) at dives which mainly have illegal (Mexican) aliens for clients.
Super thin women are a turn off to most 'average Joe' and small town guys, but rich, big city executive types love em. This look sells at the upscale clubs of NY, Vegas, and Dallas.
erotictonic
10-14-2009, 05:30 PM
This industry is all about being able to market yourself successfully. In order to do so you have to generalize and figure out which customer(s) you're most likely to sell dances to.
With that said, these are my personal observations:
The fake, toned, cosmetically enhanced, exaggerated curves look is pretty much a universal sell across the country - regardless of race, financial status, etc. This look is a usually a guaranteed sell. The only men who don't go for it are blue collar types.... who hate it when it's paired with a baaaad attitude. If the girl is as nice as she looks though, it's all good.
Thicker women tend to be loved by hispanic and black men above all, but have good luck with Caucasian blue collar types as well. Blue collar men are often intimidated by 'perfect' looking girls and often go for 'real' looking ones. Most of the south, southwest, and midwest are abundant with these types of girls. Upper crust NY clubs wouldn't hire them, but farmers in Nebraska don't see what's attractive about the super model look.
Girls who are straight up fat (and I do mean fat!) can bank (and I do mean bank!) at dives which mainly have illegal (Mexican) aliens for clients.
Super thin women are a turn off to most 'average Joe' and small town guys, but rich, big city executive types love em. This look sells at the upscale clubs of NY, Vegas, and Dallas.
True, when it comes to the industry, there are definitely regional/ethnic differences in what the guys want, and sometimes I think that has to do with what they are used to seeing and knowing. It's familiar and comfortable to them.
millions_of_peaches
10-14-2009, 10:15 PM
This is so very true. I use it to my advantage, if I gain weight, I go to club 'A', lose weight, I go to club 'B'. My weight fluctuates these days, and I find it the best way to make money regardless. Thank god for men being mostly predictable!
Earl_the_Pearl
10-15-2009, 01:45 AM
Remember you are dealing with PLs not real men in the real world. I will leave the hustle up to you.
Megan86
10-15-2009, 09:49 AM
I'm 5'0", half Asian and half Spanish, and weigh 99 pounds. Measurements are 34D (natural) - 26- 32. I'm small, but not a stick by any means. I honestly think it depends on the woman. I've known larger dancers with gorgeous hair and stunning faces who make a lot of money. I've also known skinny dancers who men will tell to "go eat a cheeseburger."
I truly believe women of any size can be hot. Look at Kim Kardashian or Jessica Biel. You really have to develop and emphasize what is beautiful about you.
Evan86
10-15-2009, 09:59 AM
Its actually a social behavior known as female fat talk. Its actually a very hot topic in research right now. It usually goes like this:
-oh, you're so skinny
-no I'm not, I'm totally fat. I need to go to the gym everyday
- you're definitely not fat. Look at me, I'm fatter than you
etc., etc., etc
Its a way for women to bond and express their feeling about their weight without breaking the taboo of not talking about it.
Not saying that I support this...Just mentioning facts
Funny but true!
If all men love skinny girls, I must have found the one man in the world who doesn't. I'm 5'2" and 110 lbs, and currently dating a guy who likes girls with bellies. Not huge, mind you, but he loves a girl with a 'pooch'. Somedays I think my 6-pack turns him off. What can ya do?
Gia2608
10-17-2009, 02:14 PM
Maybe it's a sex thing? Maybe a little dainty waifish girl makes a guy feel "big" and "strong".
Going to research this also.
^^^ That makes a lot of sense. Very astute of you.
Earl_the_Pearl
10-17-2009, 02:53 PM
Maybe it's a sex thing? Maybe a little dainty waifish girl makes a guy feel "big" and "strong".
Going to research this also.
Men and women who's bodied fit together have a better chance at a successful long term relationship. Notice very few couples in long term relationships have a great difference in size.