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mediocrity
10-17-2009, 03:13 PM
Maybe it's a sex thing? Maybe a little dainty waifish girl makes a guy feel "big" and "strong".
Going to research this also.
Admittedly, being tall myself, I do want someone who feels big and strong to me. Texas men seem to suit the bill well. ;D
Elvia
10-17-2009, 03:21 PM
Men and women who's bodied fit together have a better chance at a successful long term relationship. Notice very few couples in long term relationships have a great difference in size.
I've often wondered about this. I'm very petite, and I really don't like guys who are too big and tall. Especially tall. I like shorter men. A man who's about 5'6" and has a smaller frame feels about perfect to me. But most of my girlfriends, even the petite ones, don't get this and are all about the tall men. It just feels like an impediment to intimacy when I have to crane my head back to look him in the eyes, or if it feels like i have to scale a telephone pole to hug him around the shoulders.
Really? I'm quite the opposite. At 5'2", a 6'2" person is PERFECT for me. I love feeling protected when it comes to men, though. Tall thing helps with that.
Earl_the_Pearl
10-17-2009, 10:57 PM
Really? I'm quite the opposite. At 5'2", a 6'2" person is PERFECT for me. I love feeling protected when it comes to men, though. Tall thing helps with that.
How does that work long term though?
Elvia
10-17-2009, 11:11 PM
^^^ why would it be a problem?
Earl_the_Pearl
10-17-2009, 11:19 PM
^^^ why would it be a problem?
Most people are more comfortable with other people about the same size long term. One doesn't very often see a great height or weight difference between couples that have been together for a long time.
Kellydancer
10-17-2009, 11:43 PM
Most of my exboyfriends have been between 5'8-5'10 (I am 5'6-5'7). What I've never understood are those petite women who just have to have a tall guy. I've noticed this with almost all my shorter female friends. However my taller female friends don't care.
JayATee
10-18-2009, 02:15 AM
Most of my exboyfriends have been between 5'8-5'10 (I am 5'6-5'7). What I've never understood are those petite women who just have to have a tall guy. I've noticed this with almost all my shorter female friends. However my taller female friends don't care.
If you're a small female you want a large male around so you can feel safe and protected. Before my husband (who is tiny) I dated large, large guys. Ppl are less likely to fuck with you if you're with a big guy.
Most people are more comfortable with other people about the same size long term. One doesn't very often see a great height or weight difference between couples that have been together for a long time.
To be honest, I would say height has little to do with it, for me. Perhaps statistically it shows patterns, but I've dated mostly short guys and grown tired of them in the long run. This is because of their -personality-, however, and had nothing to do with their height. Sure it sucked a little when I'd wear high heels and be taller than them, but who really cares about things like that? When someone makes me happy and we can spend years together and still not wanna kill each other, I'd say that's what outweighs most everything else.
To be honest, it sounds a little silly to me that this would affect a relationship in a very strong way (other than aesthetically), but I suppose numbers don't lie. I guess I should feel lucky that my current freakishly tall bf has been the most compatible for me so far. Maybe I'm just weird?
vmurphy252
10-18-2009, 08:46 AM
How does that work long term though?
I'm 6'1" and my wife's 5'. We've been together 15 years...
vmurphy252
10-18-2009, 08:47 AM
If you're a small female you want a large male around so you can feel safe and protected. Before my husband (who is tiny) I dated large, large guys. Ppl are less likely to fuck with you if you're with a big guy.
Large, large guys, huh? }:D
princessjas
10-18-2009, 08:48 AM
Most people are more comfortable with other people about the same size long term. One doesn't very often see a great height or weight difference between couples that have been together for a long time.
I don't really see this at all. All the women in my family are very tiny (5-foot or under) and all are married to men well over 6ft and they aren't short marriages, no one really gets divorced in my family, well except for me. ;D
I see very tiny women with tall men constantly and most are long term marriages. Also, the sex issue is just retarded. I am TINY and some of the best sex ever was with my ex who was 6'4" no issues "fitting together" whatsoever. It's not like you glue your feet to your partners before sex, so I don't see how height differences matter at all. /:O
vmurphy252
10-18-2009, 09:09 AM
I don't really see this at all. All the women in my family are very tiny (5-foot or under) and all are married to men well over 6ft and they aren't short marriages, no one really gets divorced in my family, well except for me. ;D
I see very tiny women with tall men constantly and most are long term marriages. Also, the sex issue is just retarded. I am TINY and some of the best sex ever was with my ex who was 6'4" no issues "fitting together" whatsoever. It's not like you glue your feet to your partners before sex, so I don't see how height differences matter at all. /:O
There's another Heinlein quote to the effect "all women are the same height lying down".
princessjas
10-18-2009, 10:03 AM
There's another Heilein quote to the effect "all women are the same height lying down".
Exactly. Being tiny actually makes most positions easier imo, and if standing sex is a biggie, well, there are always 8in stripper heels. ;)
vmurphy252
10-18-2009, 10:28 AM
^At 100 lbs +/-, I think standing sex can turn into carrying sex easily enough...
Earl_the_Pearl
10-18-2009, 02:55 PM
If you're a small female you want a large male around so you can feel safe and protected. Before my husband (who is tiny) I dated large, large guys. Ppl are less likely to fuck with you if you're with a big guy.
Thank you for providing more empirical evidence that people chose people of similar size for long term relationships.
Earl_the_Pearl
10-18-2009, 03:10 PM
Sure it sucked a little when I'd wear high heels and be taller than them, but who really cares about things like that?
Me; one of my friends is almost as tall as I am. She is in the habit of wearing 6" spike heels; my tallest shoes are 1 1/2". When we are bare foot and face each other our eyes meet; when we are out I have to look up slightly to make eye contact and I don't feel comfortable. Her body proportions are the same as my ex's but my ex rarely wore heels.
This goes for weight also one rarely, if ever, sees a long term couple with a great BMI difference.
Earl_the_Pearl
10-18-2009, 03:17 PM
no one really gets divorced in my family, well except for me.
Are they Catholic? I was the first in my family, and I mean not just my linear family, to experience divorce.
Earl_the_Pearl
10-18-2009, 03:19 PM
I'm 6'1" and my wife's 5'. We've been together 15 years...
You beat me by two years already.
Earl_the_Pearl
10-18-2009, 03:22 PM
There's another Heilein quote to the effect "all women are the same height lying down".
Yes, but not standing, kneeling, bending over or with mutual genital oral contact.
hockeybobby
10-18-2009, 03:26 PM
Multi-quote button.
Earl_the_Pearl
10-18-2009, 03:27 PM
Exactly. Being tiny actually makes most positions easier imo, and if standing sex is a biggie, well, there are always 8in stripper heels. ;)
Similar thigh length is good when both are kneeling on the bead; bow-wow.
For me I think it's more the idea of carrying on "superior" genes, though I hate to make it sound like that. For me being tall has always been a desired trait, because EVERYONE in my family is short as hell. Growing up, I always liked the taller guys more because for some reason there weren't that many of them around. Boyfriend after boyfriend were barely taller than me, or even shorter (believe it or not), so I built up the tall guy stereotype in my mind, leading me to prefer it. Now it's more of a practicality and preference for me concerning children. Someday I want kids. I'd prefer those kids to be tall. The only way that's going to happen is if my partner gives me a little help.
And you never know when you're gonna need that box of cereal from the top shelf.
Similar thigh length is good when both are kneeling on the bead; bow-wow.
Seconded!
Earl_the_Pearl
10-18-2009, 03:29 PM
Multi-quote button.
I am limited to one task at a time; DOS you know.
Elvia
10-18-2009, 03:33 PM
Eh, I don't know. I would think physical attraction would take precedence over how "well matched" you are for various sex acts. What good is it being perfectly matched if you're not attracted to people of that height/body type?
princessjas
10-18-2009, 03:40 PM
In my experience "well matched" doesn't even come into play. Earl's assumptions that things would be difficult just aren't correct, at least not for me. 69, no problems there ever, doggie, same. There are really, really easy corrections for these issues, I'm not going to be overly graphic here, but come on, it doesn't take a genius to figure these things out. It's never even been an issue enough to even mention or discuss with a partner honestly, it's pretty easy to just make a minor body adjustment and always just seemed to happen without planning or discussing.
Elvia
10-18-2009, 03:43 PM
^^^ I agree. I have been with men who were a lot taller or bigger than me and it's never been a problem. Hell, when you're a tiny woman with short legs it's going to be pretty much impossible to find someone you don't have to make some creative adjustments with ;D Even the short guys are "tall" from where I'm standing!
laurcon
10-18-2009, 09:04 PM
I don't really see this at all. All the women in my family are very tiny (5-foot or under) and all are married to men well over 6ft and they aren't short marriages, no one really gets divorced in my family, well except for me. ;D
I see very tiny women with tall men constantly and most are long term marriages. Also, the sex issue is just retarded. I am TINY and some of the best sex ever was with my ex who was 6'4" no issues "fitting together" whatsoever. It's not like you glue your feet to your partners before sex, so I don't see how height differences matter at all. /:O
ya you don't see it being cute and petite, but at 5'7 w/a long torso, if i'm with a guy under 6'0, his face is in my shoulder when spooning. or having sex on the side from behind. not so sexy. i really fit perfect with a guy who's 6'4. but i don't honestly expect girls that are 5'2 to tell a hot tall guy "oh thanks you're really hot and i'd love to date you, but let me save you for my friend who's 5'7 and i'll just date a guy who's 5'7 with a napolean complex! thanks though!" ::)
kittygirl
10-19-2009, 07:13 AM
Touche.
I know. I'm 5'7" and 6'3" or 6'4" is pretty much my minimum.
Don't get me wrong if a cool guy who was shorter wanted to date I would and have done it but the sex is always better with tall guys.
I've been told that guys don't find tall girls very attractive which I think is totally true. They like to fell big, so they tend to go for small.
In my world it takes a tall big guy to be the man who likes these tall girl rejects.
In fact, these big guys are the only ones who I've heard say some girls are too small it makes them feel weird.
So given that most guys prefer short to tall you little girls better stay away from my tall guys.
There's even this one mini girl in my class that says "tall girls are disgusting". Gee I wonder who she meant that for.
princessjas
10-19-2009, 07:34 AM
ya you don't see it being cute and petite, but at 5'7 w/a long torso, if i'm with a guy under 6'0, his face is in my shoulder when spooning. or having sex on the side from behind. not so sexy. i really fit perfect with a guy who's 6'4. but i don't honestly expect girls that are 5'2 to tell a hot tall guy "oh thanks you're really hot and i'd love to date you, but let me save you for my friend who's 5'7 and i'll just date a guy who's 5'7 with a napolean complex! thanks though!" ::)
Touche.
I know. I'm 5'7" and 6'3" or 6'4" is pretty much my minimum.
Don't get me wrong if a cool guy who was shorter wanted to date I would and have done it but the sex is always better with tall guys.
I've been told that guys don't find tall girls very attractive which I think is totally true. They like to fell big, so they tend to go for small.
In my world it takes a tall big guy to be the man who likes these tall girl rejects.
In fact, these big guys are the only ones who I've heard say some girls are too small it makes them feel weird.
So given that most guys prefer short to tall you little girls better stay away from my tall guys.
There's even this one mini girl in my class that says "tall girls are disgusting". Gee I wonder who she meant that for.
Wow, I'm feeling some animosity here guys. I don't think most short girls think that way at all kittygirl. Some of my very best friends have been very tall. 6ft, 5'7', & 5'10" Tall girls are models and and willowy and delicate looking and stuff, how could we think that is disgusting? Some girls are just bitches, short tall or in between.
Oh, and laurcon, no I don't turn down tall guys, but I don't go hunting them down either. It does seem that the vast majority of guys that hit on me are over 6ft, but I just assumed they are more confident or something and hit on everyone more. Honestly, height just doesn't matter to me much at all, but if I was getting EXACTLY what I want I'd pick someone a bit shorter than most of my ex'es, so I didn't get a crick in my neck or picked up to dance. (Yep, one ex just picked me up to dance. I'm sure we looked like idiots. ;D )
I do feel bad that you have issues with height, but it's not like us short girls are doing something to make it worse or anything. You guys have all sorts of advantages too, like not having to have clothing altered, being able to reach the top shelf in your cabinets without climbing, not being automatically killed by car airbags, and I bet drunk strangers in nightclubs don't just walk up and pick you up just to show they can (I've been dropped)...the list goes on and on.
ETA - Not to come across like I don't like being mini. I like being tiny just fine, but would also like being tall. I see pros and cons to both. ;)
kittygirl
10-19-2009, 08:37 AM
I was just joking, probably should have said.
I don't dislike short girls and I don't think they have a conspiracy going.
But, even though models are tall and all guys claim to love models doesn't mean they like tall girls in real life.
It's a bummer cause not only am I tall, at 100 pounds I still wear an 8 and am not healthy.
Healthy the smallest I can fit into is a 10/12.
So I think my body intimidates a lot of guys except for the giants. Fine with me except that means I have very few potential guys to choose from.
Yeah I like being tall as a human being able to reach stuff, but it intimidates both men and smaller women who then (like the girl in class) lash out I guess out of some insecurity.
Grass is always greener....
It's too funny how much this thread has changed.
I don't dislike short girls and I don't think they have a conspiracy going.
*hides a "Short Girls to Conquer the Earth" sign behind her back*
You saw nothing... }:D
Lklucky
10-19-2009, 10:07 PM
I need to interrupt the thread I started: Anyone who knows San Francisco well:
http://forum.stripperweb.com/showthread.php?t=136157
laurcon
10-20-2009, 12:08 PM
*hides a "Short Girls to Conquer the Earth" sign behind her back*
You saw nothing... }:D
lmao! ;D
mediocrity
10-21-2009, 01:23 PM
I was just joking, probably should have said.
I don't dislike short girls and I don't think they have a conspiracy going.
But, even though models are tall and all guys claim to love models doesn't mean they like tall girls in real life.
It's a bummer cause not only am I tall, at 100 pounds I still wear an 8 and am not healthy.
Healthy the smallest I can fit into is a 10/12.
So I think my body intimidates a lot of guys except for the giants. Fine with me except that means I have very few potential guys to choose from.
Yeah I like being tall as a human being able to reach stuff, but it intimidates both men and smaller women who then (like the girl in class) lash out I guess out of some insecurity.
Grass is always greener....
It's too funny how much this thread has changed.
How in the hell is that even possible? I'm 5'8" and change, and currently about 125lbs, and I wear a 4.
devilkitty
10-21-2009, 02:01 PM
I agree. I am 5'7 125 and wear a 6. You must have some crazy wide hips or something. I have really big hips and only wear a 6 like I said. Anyways how did this go from a weight thread to a height thread.
laurcon
10-22-2009, 01:31 AM
yes yes i'm quite confused too!! i'm 5'7 125 too and a size 4 in most things, 6 in really expensive dresses. but when i was like 115 even i was way skinny, when i was 100 in HS i was literally non-existant was was checked into the hospital soon after for anorexia. so that concerns me some. :-\
kittygirl
10-22-2009, 09:34 PM
I can't believe some of you would even question someone on this.
As some of the older members know, I was anorexic at 19.
At 5'7" and 85 lbs. I was a size 8, maybe a size 6 in some brands.
Call it "crazy wide hips" but I almost died due to heart problems.
I can't even believe I'm responding to this bullshit.
Yeah I'm big boned, but to me I'm normal.
Not everyone is built like you. That's why jean size doesn't mean shit.
Not trying to be a bitch, but how could you even question me over dress size?
kittygirl
10-22-2009, 09:41 PM
I had to respond again because I'm still so upset.
Everyone is built different and it is so dangerous to act like everyone of the same weight and height should be the same size.
I'm proof that even an anorexic could be called a plus sized model. This is why some people have such a problem with beauty being attributed to one size.
In a size six my hips would go numb.
How women can question other womens' sizes is beyond me.
Tragic.
Elvia
10-22-2009, 09:47 PM
^^^I really think you're taking it the wrong way. People were confused so they asked for clarification. No big deal.
kittygirl
10-22-2009, 09:56 PM
I hope you're right, but at the same time it shows me that people have very different ideas of what size is healthy.
Basically it's anything.
But thanks, cause I was really upset.
To me it's why a size 00 model is an aberration.
Maybe I'm a breeder but tall guys love it!
kittygirl
10-22-2009, 09:58 PM
It was probably when Mediocrity said how is that even possible.
Trust me, it is.
Pretty_Penny
10-22-2009, 10:33 PM
I'm always worried that I look "too thin". I just personally prefer larger framed girls. But, myself, I'm just naturally very thin. My frame is very small. I'm 5ft6 3/4 and currently 125lbs (which is the most I've ever weighed). Typically I fluctuate between 120 and 125. However, I had a bad bout of insomnia plus some nasty anxiety combined with a cold/flu a few months back. The combination resulted in me dropping to about 118, which I did NOT like.
But, I'll tell you this, I -absolutely- attracted more customers.
Don't tell me it was confidence either because I was super down on myself then and I hate when I get really thin. I prefer myself at the weight I'm at now and with muscle tone.
But, really, Guys who never talked to me before were approaching me and telling me how I looked "different" and "hotter". The only change was my weight.
Now, I'm not big on "I made more/less when I did X" because I've never really noticed a change before. I've had different hair colors, different looks, etc.. and I've never noticed a significant difference before.
kittygirl
10-22-2009, 11:30 PM
Yeah, when I was anorexic almost at like 120 guys got down on their knees and would ask me to go to dinner.
At 115 homeless dudes would say insulting shit about how I was so skinny they'd break me.
But, I believe most WASPy men like oversly skinny girls.
kittygirl
10-22-2009, 11:35 PM
OOps it cut me off.
This is why I love big guys.
IF I'm a big woman, they still like it.
What trips me out is if some girls think I'm big, then you can imagine a lot of dudes probably think the same.
So, there are very few dudes to choose from.
I love the way I look and so do a lot of guys. But i'm far from looking like a girl.
Vyanka
10-23-2009, 12:14 PM
I'm petite, & I LOVE BIG TALL men. Six feet & over for me, please thank you. I just love getting lost in them. I've had no problem in the sex department either. Every position was do-able. ;D
I'm 5'0" tall & my exbf was 6'5" tall. At first I was a bit concerned on "how the hell am I gonna fuck this man?" LOL. We had no problems at all!
I don't like short men. Never had, never will.
erotictonic
10-23-2009, 02:09 PM
I'm petite, & I LOVE BIG TALL men. Six feet & over for me, please thank you. I just love getting lost in them. I've had no problem in the sex department either. Every position was do-able. ;D
I'm 5'0" tall & my exbf was 6'5" tall. At first I was a bit concerned on "how the hell am I gonna fuck this man?" LOL. We had no problems at all!
I don't like short men. Never had, never will.
LOL, my bf is kinda big and tall - he is 6'2" and wears a 2XLT. And I'm 5'4", not quite as big of a difference..... but I too now like big and tall, after I got to know him. My last bf was like 5'9" and 145 lbs. lol.
hot4ablackchick
10-24-2009, 11:03 AM
I work with a girl who clearly has an eating disorder. She is very very skinny. I LOVE really skinny women (as long as they still have a nice shape to them) but it is very obvious that nobody that ate food would be that skinny. Yeah I have had customers say things like "OMG ew that girl is too skinny," and "Can I tip that girl a doughnut," but she cleans up onstage and gets dances with sooo many guys with zero effort. She is very sweet, but not a hustler at all and always makes money. I did a VIP with her once, and the guy kept talking about how she had the perfect body while we were dancing for him. The big spenders seem to flock to her. She seems to not just get the whales, but better qaulity spenders too. I think guys absolutely prefer tiny women. Yeah every guy has a different type and nobody will appeal to ALL customers, but what men say and what they do is totally different. Its like the natural is better, but yet the "easy" money makers (the girls who earn a good amount of money most of the time and are NOT hustlers or give extras) are fake barbie doll types. I plan on getting the thinnest I can possibly get without killing myself, while I work in this industry.
I am currently 138 and 5'9" and I feel like a whale. This is the heaviest I have ever been, but I had twins 6 months ago. I'd like to lose 10lbs, and I absolutely made more $$ when I was thinner. It could just be a confidence thing + business was better then, but I'd like to lose a few.
devilkitty
10-25-2009, 01:55 PM
Kittygirl I didn't mean to offend you, truly I didn't. It just seems off.