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3-Legged Man
11-16-2009, 12:12 AM
We understand you guys get horny sometimes, but there is no reason for you to be a pervy boner guy.

Having a boner only means a guy is stimulated. Do you really think your dancing is worth $20-30 every 3 minutes for it's pure artistry and beauty? C'mon! Do you???

I can understand that you may not like the idea of grinding on a boner, but labelling the owners of boners as pervy is a bit much. :O

Christyismyalias
11-16-2009, 12:46 AM
Having a boner only means a guy is stimulated. Do you really think your dancing is worth $20-30 every 3 minutes for it's pure artistry and beauty? C'mon! Do you???
I can understand that you may not like the idea of grinding on a boner, but labelling the owners of boners as pervy is a bit much.

You are pervy if you let it to continue. I dont think it's about the "pure artistry and beauty" I just think there are some things that you need to keep to yourself, or get under control if it happens.
I *definitely* dont think my 20-30 per dance is worth having to look at your boner.
If it happens, ok, but you letting it stay there for an extended period of time is gross.

MOP
11-16-2009, 05:01 AM
Im a newbie but I enjoy dancing for a hot guy,and I HAVE been turned on dancing for a hot guy,like I've actually gotten wet like once or twice. Lol but its def not a normal thing,it is rare. And as far as compliments and attention I like it,it is appreciated and it actually makes me feel better at the end of the night and it affects my self confidence in my "normal" life.

3-Legged Man
11-16-2009, 06:52 AM
You are pervy if you let it to continue. I dont think it's about the "pure artistry and beauty" I just think there are some things that you need to keep to yourself, or get under control if it happens.


Only two things would allow the customer to "get under control", one, the ending of the stimulation, or two, the "happy ending". I suspect you wouldn't like option one, since that means the end of your earnings. And no doubt, option two would gross you out no end. Sorry, Christy, but an erection is the NORMAL result of sexual stimulation. If you can't deal with that, I think you are in the wrong business.

3-Legged Man
11-16-2009, 07:14 AM
Im a newbie but I enjoy dancing for a hot guy,and I HAVE been turned on dancing for a hot guy,like I've actually gotten wet like once or twice. Lol but its def not a normal thing,it is rare. And as far as compliments and attention I like it,it is appreciated and it actually makes me feel better at the end of the night and it affects my self confidence in my "normal" life.

MOP, I'm happy to see that there are dancers on this thread that still get some satisfaction from their customer interactions, instead of labelling us all gross and pervy. Your avatar tells me that you'd be a member of my group of favorite dancers, as I'm crazy about petite non-white dancers. If only you danced in Chicago. Anyhow, thanks for your comments. You are deserving of the compliments you receive. You're adorable and have a refreshing attitude.

Caprica6
11-16-2009, 08:31 AM
I would much more prefer to have my face looked at then my crotch. I don't mind just as long as it isn't staring straight into my eyes the entire time like a psycho.
I just really hate the "gyno" guys... They act like they are examning the damn thing, it's so gross..

Overall, just be RESPECTFUL and try to have a good time. Take it for what it is and don't try to give us a hard time. Just have fun and oh yeah, be respectful :)


You are pervy if you let it to continue. I dont think it's about the "pure artistry and beauty" I just think there are some things that you need to keep to yourself, or get under control if it happens.
I *definitely* dont think my 20-30 per dance is worth having to look at your boner.
If it happens, ok, but you letting it stay there for an extended period of time is gross.

So don't look at his boner? You seem to think they can control their gaze away from your goodies, but that's the whole fucking point in him even being there... What's your excuse?

You should try telling your manager you don't like guys looking at your no-no bits because it's disrespectful, and that boners frighten you. See how long he can stifle his laughter. :)

princessjas
11-16-2009, 09:15 AM
^^ LOL fair enough for you. I'm just saying, I'm not shallow at all when it comes to men or women. I mean of course I love hot people, but some people like me appreciate people beyond their physical self. Sexy comes in many forms. What changes when you get older? I'll be old and wrinkly too one day. I hope someone will still want to shag me. I'm not saying I go out there looking for 80 year olds to shag. But I think Heff is a one-of-a-kind type of man. I've studied a lot about him and his life. He is fascinating. If I can think so, I'm sure there are a number of hotties out there who wouldn't be using him.
+ 1 !! I really am not very impressed by appearance at all, especially with men. Sexy is all about personality and how they make me feel (and honestly, older men tend to be much more interesting). A good sense of humor, intelligence, dominant personality, self confidence, and being sexually adventurous/open minded are traits that attract me. Quiet honestly, a chisled body does next to nothing for me, unless it comes along with a LOT more. ;)


^^I don't think it's shallow to rule someone out as a lover because he isn't physically attractive. I mean, personality can blind me to things like crooked teeth or a pot belly, but if a dude fills my entire field of vision with his fat rolls, then it doesn't matter how many hilarious jokes he cracks. He'll forever be my friend.

I don't think it's shallow to rule out people you aren't physically attracted to either. I find older men very attractive, but they must meet certain criteria, like be fit, good smile, nice eyes, etc, and I don't find men Hef's age attractive. That's pushing it, at least at my age now, I'll probably feel different as I age and end up just as wrinkly. 8)


I work in a no grinding club, and thank GOD for this, b/c of this whole boner issue. I am not grinding on anything, so there should NEVER be boner situation. Period. We understand you guys get horny sometimes, but there is no reason for you to be a pervy boner guy. I don't really get the aversion to boners? I mean, if you aren't having to grind on them and they aren't taking them out and waving them around, they seem pretty innocuous. I lost my fear of boners sometime during Jr High when the majority of the boys had them near constantly...In the club there are naked girls on stage, I figure half the guys walking around are hard even if they aren't getting a dance...when I've been a customer, just sitting at the stage I've gotten a bit, ehm, aroused before...it's hot girls doing a sexy dance. (No before anyone asks I don't get horny while dancing on stage, but it's entirely different from a customers POV.)

KiwiStrawberry Splenda
11-16-2009, 10:03 AM
I don't think guys can control their boners that easily. And if they have to do so, they will shift their focus on non-sexy thoughts, killing their propensity for wanting more dances.

Do not fear the boner, its about as easy for them to control as us getting hard nipples. Go with it, and you might make more money.

Besides, not all boners are prominently visible, it depends on what kind of pants/underwear the guy is wearing, and his general build. I can assure you, most of the guys you are airdancing for are sporting wood.

Phil-W
11-16-2009, 12:26 PM
I don't think guys can control their boners that easily....

QFT. 'Boners' (to get all technical) are an involuntary physical response. Physical stimulation (i.e. grinding) will tend to produce one, but in the absence of grinding it's the visual stimuli that produce it.

And that often comes down to how turned on a dancer appears to be during her dance (or how good she is at mimicking excitement). Dancer apparently getting hot and horny = boner; dancer going through motions = no boner.


I can assure you, most of the guys you are airdancing for are sporting wood.

Or maybe not. Alcohol can have an effect. To quote Shakespeare "strong drink giveth the desire but taketh away the means". Ditto, a dancer 'going through the motions' won't have much effect.

And familiarity with strip clubs can also have an effect. Nudity is a stronger stimuli when it is less commonplace - frequent exposure to nudity tends to dull its effect - much the same way as we can build up a tolerance to alcohol by regular drinking.

Phil.

Earl_the_Pearl
11-16-2009, 04:43 PM
And familiarity with strip clubs can also have an effect. Nudity is a stronger stimuli when it is less commonplace - frequent exposure to nudity tends to dull its effect -
So true; I go to a clothing optional beach and after a few times it is like being on a regular beach. One still looks at the attractive women while not noticing the others.

It does make it odd when I go to a SC and a dancer thinks it is a big deal if she shows me her breast after I have just seen thousands of them for free.

I found this funny; I took a dancer friend to the clothing optional beach and she wouldn't even take off her top as she "didn't want to give it away". :O

hockeybobby
11-16-2009, 07:04 PM
^^^ hahaha

KiwiStrawberry Splenda
11-16-2009, 07:06 PM
I found this funny; I took a dancer friend to the clothing optional beach and she wouldn't even take off her top as she "didn't want to give it away". :O

I will no longer go to clothing optional beaches in the US. Too many pervos watching. We have a clothing-optional beach in my area, and some pervert sat next to me and started jacking off, while I was sunbathing and not looking.

Europe, and Euro-Caribbean island nude beaches are better.

Earl_the_Pearl
11-16-2009, 07:32 PM
I will no longer go to clothing optional beaches in the US. Too many pervos watching. We have a clothing-optional beach in my area, and some pervert sat next to me and started jacking off, while I was sunbathing and not looking.

Europe, and Euro-Caribbean island nude beaches are better.
In New Jersey the clothing optional beach is a federal park. Jacking off is a federal offense and he will be housed with a guy with a bomb in his shoe.
Boaters do come in close to get a look but the life guards whistle them away. When the life guards go off duty and they come in to gawk the men will often form a line with our penises just above the water line in front of the beach. I miss the summer.

KiwiStrawberry Splenda
11-16-2009, 07:34 PM
In New Jersey the clothing optional beach is a federal park. Jacking off is a federal offense and he will be housed with a guy with a bomb in his shoe.
Boaters do come in close to get a look but the life guards whistle them away. When the life guards go off duty and they come in to gawk the men will often form a line with our penises just above the water line in front of the beach. I miss the summer.

Ours is also a federal park. And we have the same gawking boaters, and penises abound. If I wasn't in such shock, I would have reported him to park security. But I just wanted to get the hell away.

chris91
11-17-2009, 02:31 AM
I'll probably feel different as I age and end up just as wrinkly. 8)


That's what I'm thinking too. I wasn't attracted to 35 year old men when I was 17, but I am now. So, maybe when I'm 70, I'll be into 80 year olds. Of course, he'd still have to be a good looking 80 year old.

Christyismyalias
11-17-2009, 02:53 AM
Only two things would allow the customer to "get under control", one, the ending of the stimulation, or two, the "happy ending". I suspect you wouldn't like option one, since that means the end of your earnings. And no doubt, option two would gross you out no end. Sorry, Christy, but an erection is the NORMAL result of sexual stimulation. If you can't deal with that, I think you are in the wrong business.

I just don't think it needs to be all about the boner. I don't have a problem with them as a whole, I just don't think they should be all in my face as a dancer. I try to get my customers to have a good time, and NOT just sexually. I try to get them laughing, entertaining them in other ways, not just getting their penis all excited. It's not about him getting so turned on that he gets off or has to leave to get off. I am not in the wrong business and I am not saying it shouldn't happen, I'm just saying it shouldn't be the focus of the VIP/LD. If I wanted to get guys off for a living I would be a prostitute, not a dancer. Not that I have anything against prostitutes, it's just not for me.
The fact that I'm having this conversation against a "three legged man" tells me I won't be getting my point across anyway.



Besides, not all boners are prominently visible, it depends on what kind of pants/underwear the guy is wearing, and his general build. I can assure you, most of the guys you are airdancing for are sporting wood.

And that's fine. I don't expect it to never happen. It's the guys who have it bulging out of their pants, look all sweaty, and try to air hump me to get off, or expect me to play with it. That is not what I'm here for.



So don't look at his boner? You seem to think they can control their gaze away from your goodies, but that's the whole fucking point in him even being there... What's your excuse?

You should try telling your manager you don't like guys looking at your no-no bits because it's disrespectful, and that boners frighten you. See how long he can stifle his laughter. :)
I don't think it's disrespectful to look, I think its weird to stare it down. There's more to the female body then a vagina. And boners don't frighten me, I just think it's annoying for guys to come in, get all horny, and expect me to play with it. I understand you get horny, but there's a difference between getting horny from a great dance and trying to get your knocks off. My job is to dance and entertain, not to just hardcore grind on cock/try to get him off. I know a lot of dancers would disagree.
But this is my opinion. And we're all different.

3-Legged Man
11-17-2009, 11:56 PM
I just don't think it needs to be all about the boner. I don't have a problem with them as a whole, I just don't think they should be all in my face as a dancer. I try to get my customers to have a good time, and NOT just sexually. I try to get them laughing, entertaining them in other ways, not just getting their penis all excited. It's not about him getting so turned on that he gets off or has to leave to get off. I am not in the wrong business and I am not saying it shouldn't happen, I'm just saying it shouldn't be the focus of the VIP/LD. If I wanted to get guys off for a living I would be a prostitute, not a dancer. Not that I have anything against prostitutes, it's just not for me.
The fact that I'm having this conversation against a "three legged man" tells me I won't be getting my point across anyway.


I think I understand your point. You probably belong in more of a vaudeville-style show instead of the typical strip club. I suspect that I could bring my wife, mother, and my kids to see your performance. Which might be fun!

But I wouldn't pay the 20-30 per song or 200/half hour in VIP for that.

chris91
11-18-2009, 12:33 AM
I think I understand your point. You probably belong in more of a vaudeville-style show instead of the typical strip club. I suspect that I could bring my wife, mother, and my kids to see your performance. Which might be fun!

But I wouldn't pay the 20-30 per song or 200/half hour in VIP for that.

Actually, if she's making money, I'm sure she's belongs just fine right where she is. You may not be willing to pay that much for a good time sans boner grinding, but plenty of other men are. I meet them all the time.

Don't you know how obnoxious it is to tell a dancer that she doesn't belong in strip clubs? If you don't, then maybe it's you who doesn't belong on a forum for strippers.

Christyismyalias
11-18-2009, 01:40 AM
I think I understand your point. You probably belong in more of a vaudeville-style show instead of the typical strip club. I suspect that I could bring my wife, mother, and my kids to see your performance. Which might be fun!

But I wouldn't pay the 20-30 per song or 200/half hour in VIP for that.

A vaudeville-style show? Really? Because I don't want to grind on your erect dick I should go do a variety show instead of stripping?
Thank god for the many men I deal with each night who pay me that 200/half hour in VIP for my vaudeville-style showings, or I'd be one broke bitch. :)

I understand it's hard for you to understand that not all men want the kind of "experience" you do. But thankfully, the majority I deal with are not like you...

Funny, you are the kind of customer I avoid, and I am the kind of dancer you avoid. Let's just leave it at that.


Actually, if she's making money, I'm sure she's belongs just fine right where she is. You may not be willing to pay that much for a good time sans boner grinding, but plenty of other men are. I meet them all the time.

Definitely. Many men don't even want contact, they just want to enjoy visually and have a good time with a dancer. Not all men need to be grinded on to have a good time. And yes, I love my club and know I wouldn't do well in many other clubs because I don't like high contact. It's a personal preference. Everyone is different.



Don't you know how obnoxious it is to tell a dancer that she doesn't belong in strip clubs? If you don't, then maybe it's you who doesn't belong on a forum for strippers.

Thank you so very much.