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DesuvsDeath
12-16-2010, 03:48 PM
^^^I guess I used the above technique as part of everything else... alone it'd get really boring, though... I'd imagine.

charlie61
12-16-2010, 04:31 PM
I am so trying to soak up some of y'alls enthusiasm....for real.

Grac
12-16-2010, 06:59 PM
I used the waybackmachine web archive to retrieve it.

See if this link works for everyone:

http://web.archive.org/web/20060218050124re_/jadecavern.com/articles/blowjob200510.php


If not I'll copy and paste here.

Thank you very much, Ms. Laurielegs; the link works just fine!

Promnesiac
12-16-2010, 09:37 PM
I was having dinner tonight with some friends, and my jaw locked about halfway through the meal (this happens sometimes when I'm really stressed out). The waiter, who was at that moment checking in, looked at me oddly and my friend said, "oh, it's an old cock-sucking injury."

Not only did I laugh myself sick, I thought of this thread. :p

Motivation
12-16-2010, 11:47 PM
I used the waybackmachine web archive to retrieve it.

See if this link works for everyone:

http://web.archive.org/web/20060218050124re_/jadecavern.com/articles/blowjob200510.php


If not I'll copy and paste here.


Thank you so much! You're amazing!

I'll post it on here too:

Advanced Blowjobs: The "Purple Haze"
The combination blowjob/handjob that will send your guy into another universe.
by Maiden Pieria
All of the women I know have different perspectives on giving blowjobs. Some really dislike it, others go through the motions but take no joy from it, and still others truly relish it. But we all agree the male reaction to a good blowjob is pretty universal. There isn't as much differing perspective here; most of them roll their eyes back, call out to their maker, and enjoy the hell out of it.

The art of the blowjob is much more highly praised than its oft-derided cousin, the lowly handjob. Handjobs are generally seen as adolescent, unsophisticated, and (frankly) boring - at least to deliver.
It is therefore ironic that the best blowjob technique I've ever been instructed on is, in essence, one-part blowjob and one-part handjob..
Enter Purple Haze with his suck-pop-squeeze-tug procedure.

He told me the tale a while back. While overseas in the military he encountered a "professional" girl who used this type of blowjob as her modus operandi, and it was the best blowjob he'd ever gotten.
Intrigued, I plugged him for details, tested the procedure, and then returned to my newfound guru to get more comprehensive coaching. Upon administering this type of blowjob to a very willing guinea pig, I can assure you it's enough to make a man lose his consciousness.

I offer this to you all as a public service. Women, learn this and administer to your men, posthaste. if you need more specific instruction, Crazy Hazy is the man to harass.


Directions:
Your new mantra; rhythm and moisture are crucial. I'll say it again, and cannot stress it enough...
Rhythm and moisture are crucial.
Admittedly, when Purp first described it to me, I had trouble understanding. I think the problem was that my perspective is that of someone who would GIVE a blowjob, while his was from the view of the recipient. I'll try not to repeat the breakdown of the communication between us.

First, test it out with a patient guy. I have one of those. Still, my experimenting left him more than a little frustrated while I worked out the kinks. There will be a little bit of required practice. I think most men will suffer it gladly, just like mine did.

Now for the nitty-gritty:
Get him stiff in whatever method you choose. Wiggle the arch of your foot into his fly, grind your ass on his lap, etc. It's all good. You need to work him up to at least a semi to get started.
As you begin, remember the mantra: Rhythm and moisture are crucial. So, if you're afraid toget a little spit on your palms, exit stage left and thank you for playing.

Slobber him up from tip to nuts. Really get him juicy. A lot of tongue lathing along the base and slurping on the tip. Those of you who stock flavored oils would probably be well served to employ them here. Once he's raging and messy, it's time to start the music.
Rhthym and moisture are crucial.

I employed a suck-pop-squeeze-tug tempo, focusing entirely on the head of his cock. The shaft really came into very little play, except to set up the next hand. With one hand resting on the base of his cock, press your lips over the tip and suckle on it like you would a thick shake through a narrow straw, rolling your lips tightly on the underside of the head so that the suction builds up. Then, still sucking, yank your head up. There should be a popping as his cock escapes from your lips. The INSTANT his cock is free of your mouth, slide up your hand to the head (your other hand should immediately take its place on the base of his cock), give it a good squeeze, and tug until his cock jerks out of your hand. Then, quickly, back to the mouth.
suck-pop-squeeze-tug-suck-pop-squeeze-tug...

Lather, rinse, repeat until you're both messy and he can't remember his name.
Damn! I wish I had slides.
Fine points:
1. Remember what makes this so effective is that it's a combination blowjob/handjob. It really is something that incorporates the best of different sensations working in tandem. Learn the little spots and particulars that excite and stimulate your partner. All men are different.
2. I actually had to use both hands, slicked down and slippery, but I'm a very tactile girl.
3. There is a "twist" element that is relatively simple (and common sense when you try this physically):
When you pull your hand up, you aren't just YANKING his cock. I mean, you're giving it a nice, firm tug, but the goal isn't to wrench it in a painful way (well... at least it wasn't MY goal). So, when you tug up with your hand, just as the fingers get to the head, give it a quick, tight squeeze - let him feel the wet constriction of a closed slippery fist wrapped around the tip of his cock for a second or two, and then you "twist" your hand off with a tug.
If you're gripping the neck of a beer bottle and then you would slide your hand up, think of the ridge at the top as the head of his cock. You want to get as MUCH contact between your hand and the head as you can - so instead of just continuing to lift up, swivel or "twist" your grip allowing the palm to pass over and cover the head on its merry way (I might add that wiggling and pressing your thumb against that little hole oozing pre-cum will cause a bit of a happy yelp on each pass).
And don't break down the rhthym. Keep it going. Keep it wet. Trust me, it won't take him very long at all.
Use in good health.
Cheers!

Vyanka
12-17-2010, 12:52 PM
^ I have an idea, but i'd love to watch a video of that. ^

Angel75217
12-30-2010, 02:21 AM
I never got complaints after I got my tongue pierced..... not that you should get yours pierced just to give head.
Really though, fuck this guy. You're sucking his dick for god sake. What a jerk. And the fact that he can't even tell you what to do differently?!?!?! Really?!?!?! You don't like it but you don't know what you like?!?!?!?!
Anyways, swirling your tongue around the edge of the head and using pressure with your tongue on the underside of his dick has always made mine happy. Honestly a big part for me is the mood. If I'm feeling hot to do it, it shows. If I'm not, I might as well not do it.
Reading this kinda helped me rap my head.... lol, .... around head.
http://slaveplay.com/home.htm
Someone on here gave me that link for some sub/dom stuff. I feel like a jerk for not knowing who. Anyways check it out.

exotic0690
12-31-2010, 12:07 PM
You've got to LOVE sucking cock. Love the cock.
A lot of men really enjoy gagging & face fucking.
Don't be afraid to smudge your eye makeup.
I literally fuck the cock with my mouth.. don't be afraid to have the head banging at the back of your throat either.

Check out Sasha Grey, Amy Reid & Belladonna .. all excellent cock suckers.

Take it from an escort - this is how I make my living.

Bunny
01-03-2011, 10:20 PM
You've got to LOVE sucking cock. Love the cock.
A lot of men really enjoy gagging & face fucking.
Don't be afraid to smudge your eye makeup.
I literally fuck the cock with my mouth.. don't be afraid to have the head banging at the back of your throat either.

Check out Sasha Grey, Amy Reid & Belladonna .. all excellent cock suckers.

Take it from an escort - this is how I make my living.


This is why when I do it I'm pretty good at it (or so I've been told) but I do it to very few people, because I have to be really into the guy to even go there. But if I do, I LOVE it and enjoy it.

flickad
01-09-2011, 01:03 AM
I learned everything I know from a book called 'Sex Tips For Straight Women From A Gay Man' by Dan Anderson and Maggie Berman and have had nothing but rave reviews. Go buy it on Amazon (http://www.amazon.com/Sex-Tips-Straight-Women-Gay/dp/0060392320) and do everything it says.

XxChrissyxX
01-09-2011, 11:03 AM
You've got to LOVE sucking cock. Love the cock.
A lot of men really enjoy gagging & face fucking.
Don't be afraid to smudge your eye makeup.
I literally fuck the cock with my mouth.. don't be afraid to have the head banging at the back of your throat either.

Check out Sasha Grey, Amy Reid & Belladonna .. all excellent cock suckers.

Take it from an escort - this is how I make my living.


I totally agree with this. I'm not an escort but I do think IMO that you have to really love sucking dick or at least pretend to make it feel good for the guy. I personally love sucking dick and if I like the guy a lot he's going to walk away very happy.

I've talked to friends about how they give head and it's no wonder why there man is not feeling it. They just do the bare minimum to get there man off.

charlottepower
01-09-2011, 11:55 AM
IMO that you have to really love sucking dick or at least pretend to make it feel good for the guy. I personally love sucking dick and if I like the guy a lot he's going to walk away very happy.

I've talked to friends about how they give head and it's no wonder why there man is not feeling it. They just do the bare minimum to get there man off.[/QUOTE]

Agreed. I know I would feel uncomfortable if someone was going down on me begrudgingly or because they felt obligated.

ManyRoses
01-11-2011, 06:26 PM
This guy sounds like an asshole....I can understand the need to discuss not being totally fulfilled in bed, but comparing you to other girlfriends? Everyone deserves better than this!!

If you really want to improve - it'd be good to hear what you are currently doing?

Some tips that have always got a good reaction for me:
- start off slow and build up - tease the guy a bit, make him desperate for you! lick his inner thighs, his stomach down to the base of his cock and then move away, trail your fingers over it so lightly...get him good and hard before you start (this also means less time for your attention to wander, or for you to start questioning yourself!)
- using your hands and mouth at the same time on his shaft (obviously, you've got to have enough length to work with!)
- playing with and cupping balls while you are using your mouth on his cock - cupping is so important!!
- you can also lick and suck his balls while you use your hands on his cock - bonus points if you can fit both balls in your mouth...just be gentle with them!
- lick all over his cock and watch his reactions to what you are doing - men are sensitive in different parts, and if hes not telling you, his face/body will
- press or rub the flat part of your finger (between the top two knuckles) on the piece of skin between his balls and asshole while you work - takes some co-ordination, but totally worth it because its full of nerve endings!
- if you can, get his whole cock inside your mouth and then stick your tongue out and wiggle it at the base. This one takes a little more practise, but is totally worth it!
- when you see him start to precum, lick, or rub the pad of a finger over the hole, and sort of smear it around...no idea why, but lots of guys love this.

Notes on the deep throat - go for 69, or even better, your head hanging off a bed or couch. This avoids the gag reflex as much as possible. Its seriously impressive. Just go slow. Breath, and if you feel like you are about to choke or puke, push him away, calm down and go again. A lot of guys love the whole choking, gasping thing - makes em feel like they are hugE! (obviously, if its painful or anything like that, just stop with the deep throat!)

And no matter what, so many girls have said it, but have fun! The best bjs are those where you end up messy, sloppy, eye makeup all over the place, and BOTH of you smiling!!

ManyRoses
01-11-2011, 06:28 PM
Oh - two more -

I'm definitely giving that purple haze a shot...LOVE new ideas!!

Not sure if anyone else has done this one, but we experimented with the pop rocks, and it was horrible. I know lots of guys that are fans, but he didn't really feel anything, and it made me gag more, everything got sticky instead of slidy..it was overall just nasty! I ended up on my iphone while his dick was in my mouth googling it and trying to figure out what I was doing wrong (nothing -we just aren't fans)....at least THAT impressed him!!

princessjas
01-12-2011, 02:53 PM
IMO that you have to really love sucking dick or at least pretend to make it feel good for the guy. I personally love sucking dick and if I like the guy a lot he's going to walk away very happy.


I agree with this! If I'm really into a guy, then I want to lick, touch and kiss him all over and love having his cock in my mouth. Seemed to always impress guys. }:D

Kellydancer
01-12-2011, 03:33 PM
I learned a trick in a book where the character gave a guy head by putting hot water in her mouth. I tried this on an ex and he came within minutes.

princessjas
01-12-2011, 03:39 PM
^^Oh, cool! I've crushed up breath mints years ago after reading it in Cosmo, but the reaction was mediocre at best.

Kellydancer
01-12-2011, 11:24 PM
It really does work and it can be uncomfortable in the moutb at first. This varies by person but once he came I spit out the water (I get sick when I swallow cum).

Vyanka
01-13-2011, 08:38 PM
I learned a trick in a book where the character gave a guy head by putting hot water in her mouth. I tried this on an ex and he came within minutes.


I'm trying to picture this. You pour the hot water before or after the penis is in the mouth?

Isn't the hot water uncomfortable? I'm game to try new shit too. ;D

Vyanka
01-13-2011, 08:39 PM
^^Oh, cool! I've crushed up breath mints years ago after reading it in Cosmo, but the reaction was mediocre at best.

I love receiving minty head. ;D

Kellydancer
01-13-2011, 11:06 PM
I'm trying to picture this. You pure the hot water before or after the penis is in the mouth?

Isn't the hot water uncomfortable? I'm game to try new shit too. ;D

I run to the bathroom and put hot water in my mouth then run back. I'm not talking scalding hot water, more warm.

Bunny
01-21-2011, 06:00 PM
what happens to the hot water once you put him in your mouth? do you swallow it? It would all run out if you don't.

Kellydancer
01-21-2011, 10:50 PM
what happens to the hot water once you put him in your mouth? do you swallow it? It would all run out if you don't.

I ended up spitting it up once he came. I know a friend swallowed it before her boyfriend came. Another time I ended up swallowing it because he came on my chest.

Kisca
01-22-2011, 01:55 AM
I give retarded messy blowjobs, though. Like... grab a towel or take off your pants or you'll have to change afterwards messy. :-\

Haha, I agree, those seem to be the best. I used to be a neat freak about it.. but I mean, I dont think its AS good for him when Im going "Oh crap we dirted the bedsheets". So now its dirty whether you like it or not!

Off topic.. But I dont see what the point in swallowing is... I mean it doesnt affect the physical pleasure. Its mainly a mind pleasuring act, instead of physical. I do ... 50/50 ? Use the mouth when he comes, and when he is done, run to the bathroom. Ive talked to him about it and he said it was completely fine since whats so pleasurable about swallowing ?

livingdeadgirl
01-22-2011, 07:06 AM
Off topic.. But I dont see what the point in swallowing is... I mean it doesnt affect the physical pleasure. Its mainly a mind pleasuring act, instead of physical. I do ... 50/50 ? Use the mouth when he comes, and when he is done, run to the bathroom. Ive talked to him about it and he said it was completely fine since whats so pleasurable about swallowing ?


I always swallow, less mess :P
I dont mind it at all..Infact, I dont like keeping it in my mouth so running to spit it out might kinda gross me out haha
Dont know why they like it so much though....

Kellydancer
01-22-2011, 12:48 PM
I literally get sick when they've come in my mouth. I've vomited a few times. I don't get what's so sexy about swallowing it.

Vyanka
01-23-2011, 01:48 AM
Finishing in your mouth is suppose to feel better for them.

princessjas
01-23-2011, 03:22 AM
I literally get sick when they've come in my mouth. I've vomited a few times. I don't get what's so sexy about swallowing it.

Were they smokers by chance? I swallow and have never had an issue, until this one ex who smoked. Wow, was that some seriously nasty cum.

Kellydancer
01-23-2011, 06:18 PM
Were they smokers by chance? I swallow and have never had an issue, until this one ex who smoked. Wow, was that some seriously nasty cum.

Most of them yes. I wonder if that was the reason and it was horrid.

PhxRising
01-23-2011, 06:25 PM
Part of giving good head is finding out what your partner likes. Has he told you anything useful? Or does he just tell you you suck?

Ha! good point!

GlitterBexie
02-06-2011, 05:48 PM
I got told i give head like im sucking a lollipop, i told him if he didnt like it id stop, so he shut up, but its made me wonder about my technique! :S

Spinnerette
02-08-2011, 06:35 AM
I am not a braggadocios type, but if there's one thing I'm proud of, it's my head game. I talk that shit up and I have yet to disappoint. 8)

1.) ENTHUSIASM. This is important. The willingness to perform fellatio is half the battle. A girl who treats a cock like a nasty foreign object is going to "suck" at giving head. Usually the fact that you enjoy sucking dick is enough for "weaker" dudes. Just go at it like it's your last supper and voila..

2.) MOISTURE. Lots of spit. Lots of spit will never hurt. If you must, keep a bottle of water on hand to wet your whistle and just...build it up. This is kind of where deep throating comes in, if you can handle it. I don't know if either actually make a difference in sensation, more of the fact that once again, for most porn-fueled men, the mere idea does it for them.

3.) VOCAL CUES. Screw a man who won't tell you what he wants as he should be happy to be receiving what he gets in that case. ;D But there's more to the art of vocal cues than having him say "put your hand right here". If you hear oddly more pronounces grunts and groans and noises when you're doing something...keep doing that thing.

Swallowing...I don't do much swallowing nowadays as my partner's diet sucks ass (non-drinker/non-smoker though). I just take it in my mouth and spit it out afterward. Oddly enough though, I've been with one smoker, one alcoholic, a body builder, and a coffee drinker. The smoker didn't taste bad, surprisingly. Neither did the alcoholic. The body builder tasted distinctly of of protein (um...duh I guess lol). The coffee drinker gave me a serious upset stomach (caffeine???). As a rule of thumb though, if a guy wants you to swallow and you know that's going down in advance, have him drink pineapple juice about an hour prior. It doesn't completely cancel out whatever grodiness is brewing from horrible eating, but it helps quite a bit. I also know for a fact that swallowing feeling better is bullshit. He doesn't have nerves in his sperm. Once again, just the thought of it is what does it for them.

I'll have to try the hot water thing.

Vyanka
02-08-2011, 02:44 PM
OMG, bodybuilder jizz is the wrost!! GAG :crazy: :gasp: :yuck:

Vyanka
02-08-2011, 02:45 PM
Vegan is the best. :)

Spinnerette
02-09-2011, 07:33 AM
Lol, I don't know. I'm guessing this guy ate pretty clean? He wasn't like "Oooh, I perform in competitions and shit!" big...but he had a nice build. Lol, tbh I'd have to say it was the least offensive jizz I've ever tasted. XD

I don't think a vegan would ever let me near their peen. I probably wouldn't want to be near it. So that experiment is shot. :(

princessjas
02-09-2011, 07:57 AM
I don't think a vegan would ever let me near their peen. I probably wouldn't want to be near it. So that experiment is shot. :(

Do you regularly force men to eat animal products during fellatio or murder small animals as you suck dick....because otherwise this sentence makes absolutely no sense....At all.

Spinnerette
02-09-2011, 08:10 AM
Do you regularly force men to eat animal products during fellatio or murder small animals as you suck dick....because otherwise this sentence makes absolutely no sense....At all.

Woahhhhhhh...

What is not making sense? I love my meat and it's kind of hard to foster a sexual attraction to someone when you're dead set against their way of life. This does not mean there are no exceptions, but I REALLY don't see it happening considering my local culture where any sort of abstinence is a flag to be waved high on a horse where you can look down on everyone who doesn't do exactly as you.

princessjas
02-09-2011, 08:46 AM
Woahhhhhhh...

What is not making sense? I love my meat and it's kind of hard to foster a sexual attraction to someone when you're dead set against their way of life. This does not mean there are no exceptions, but I REALLY don't see it happening considering my local culture where any sort of abstinence is a flag to be waved high on a horse where you can look down on everyone who doesn't do exactly as you.

Actually 99% of vegans that I've known could care less what anyone else eats, as long as they don't try to make them eat it. There are a few ridiculously loud-mouthed exceptions, and those are very egotistical, ignorant exceptions. Expecting all vegans/vegetarians to be that way is like expecting all people that like dislike mayo for it's fattiness to force mustard on a mayo lover. Just plain ignorant and ridiculous. I have been vegan or veggie for most of my life, my younger son is like me and eats everything from artichokes to peas, however my ex-hubby and my older son are tried and true meat eaters, so I prepare it for them every day. I've also had numerous non-veggies try to force me to "just try" meat, but I've never, ever tried to get one person to give it up or eat a salad.

Vegan/vegetarian does NOT equal riot-inciting protester and I'm so sick of that perception. Most of us are VERY open-minded and could care less what others eat (PETA members are a different story though). As a matter of fact, the only two vegan/veggies I've known who were judgemental of non-veggies (and both PETA members too), where also the only two I've ever known who regularly sneaked their roomies meat. In other words, they were hypocrites and weren't even veggies, just loud-mouths who liked to tell others what to do. I've been discriminated against by a mind-boggingly high number of meat eaters who are judgmental as hell, but I have yet to judge one single person negatively for eating meat. It just happens to make me sick when I eat it, like peas do my 7 yr old (anything that has that "spring back" that meat does when you bite it is just out the door for me).

Oh, and for those of you that thought I was nuts for complaining about people acting like this back forever ago and insisted this sort of ignorance couldn't possibly exist, here is your 2nd examply on SW in less than 2 yrs, and we are generally a very accepting group, compared to the general population, ime.

ETA - Done with my little Public Service Announcement and getting off my soapbox. PETA has just given us all such a bad reputation, when that's really only like, I'd guess 1-2% of us.....like comparing all caucasians to the KKK, just not in anyway accurate and just about as offensive.

Spinnerette
02-09-2011, 09:24 AM
Yikes. OK, so the vegans YOU know don't care if people eat meat. That's cool. I meant no disrespect and what I said wasn't at all to disparage vegans/vegetarians. You had a knee-jerk reaction to something I didn't even say. Did I say all vegans were militant and back PETA? Nope. I'm also not going to demonize an entire group of people or hold my personal life experience as the end all be all. But I DO live in a city where there are a disproportionately large number of blowhards who hold their own moral beliefs as gospel...blowhards I would otherwise be attracted to weren't they such judgmental pricks. This speaks more about my taste in partners and the demographic I choose to be a part of than it does about the vegan vs non-vegan (or any us vs them) debate. So please relax and please do not direct anymore venom at me.

Spinnerette
02-09-2011, 09:32 AM
Here, let me rephrase my original post so that it's a bit more PC:

"I don't think any preachy douchebag that I would be attracted to who ALSO claims to be veg would let me near their peen upon discovering that I like steak. My bad for being attracted to losers."

Better?

princessjas
02-09-2011, 10:54 AM
^^Sorry, it's not just a knee jerk reaction though, it's 35 yrs of experience speaking. I went to college in a town with an extremely diverse culture from all over the country (and the world actually) and have lived in quite a few different places. There weren't many areas that were accepting of veggies. No matter how many times I prepared chicken caccitorie, or steak gorgonzola or plain old hamburgers for get togethers, friends of friends from nearly all areas of the country and world, excluding the North East US, California, a few big cities, Canada, India and few Arabic nations were completely intollerant of veggies, regardless of how nice I was. It honestly seems like most people are so self centered that they actually think others care about what they eat..... and somehow they always notice what I'm eating (cause I never announce I'm not eating meat, which boggles my mind.

I'm wondering where this city is, because my experience says from WV to NYC to Greensboro to Dallas to Atlanta, to Parsippany to Columbus to Detroit....in these places, the only people that have issues with the other group, are the meat eaters. Maybe you live somewhere in Cali or out west?? My ex mentioned how I'd despise the self rightous save the planet types out there. (Not that I don't think we need to work on the planet, just hate the type to tell others what to do or assume they are "better" UGH.)

Spinnerette
02-09-2011, 12:07 PM
I had a response, but the internet ate it. Again, I'm not disparaging vegans. At all. That was your projection based on how you think people feel about the lifestyle you've adopted. I could give a shit less what someone chooses to eat and I could also give a shit less if someone cares what I eat. The original off-handed comment was rooted in the fear or being judged, not being the one who judges. No, it may not happen all the time, but to deny it does is wishy-washy. We're humans. That's what we do, judge, and no matter what the stance or the backing, it will be done.

This debate is making me weary though. I don't even know what the end result is supposed to be. That vegans aren't going to shun me? Some will, most won't. See above where I talk about humans and their nature. I shouldn't have to work so hard to defend my silly unimportant opinion, an opinion based on personal life experience just as yours is. I can say with confidence that 99% of meat eaters I know don't care that you don't eat meat, but that doesn't change what you've lived, does it? So I'll just concede.

Now back to talking about cocks.