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princessjas
11-05-2009, 02:58 PM
Does being multi-orgasmic suddenly make someone a sex freak?
Uh, I never thought so. I am definitely a sex freak, but not because I'm multi-orgasmic. It's more because I think about sex 24/7 and would be happy having sex 6 or 7 times a day.
That's what I always considered a sex freak anyway. Dunno what a guys definition is tho. /:O Men are weird. }:D
JayATee
11-05-2009, 03:07 PM
You're never gonna get a straight answer here. Every females body is different. Everyone responds differently to different stimulations.
jack0177057
11-05-2009, 04:41 PM
Does being multi-orgasmic suddenly make someone a sex freak?
I meant it as a compliment... As in a good and happy sex freak... It was the "maniacal" description that made me think she's a sex freak... in a good way.
jack0177057
11-05-2009, 04:43 PM
Uh, I never thought so. I am definitely a sex freak, but not because I'm multi-orgasmic. It's more because I think about sex 24/7 and would be happy having sex 6 or 7 times a day.
That's what I always considered a sex freak anyway. Dunno what a guys definition is tho. /:O Men are weird. }:D
Princessjas, you are definitely a sex freak. You might even outdo me, but I'd be willing to try my best and hardest to keep up with you.;)
charlie61
11-05-2009, 05:21 PM
Wow,... you're a sex freak! You're awesome!
There should be a social club for extremely-high-libido people like you and me to meet and date... Seriously, I find that, unless a GF's libido matches mine (which is unusual), she doesn't get me... Low-libido people (and even medium-libido people) just don't understand us. Sexuality plays a cental role in my romantic relationships, but I've heard women say "Why can't you just be romantic without getting sexual?" My response is, "Okay, I'll go down on you first."
I actually have very low libido. There is a possibility that I'm asexual. I don't desire people. Pretty much at all. I get myself off quite nicely, and I enjoy making other people feel good, but I have no desire.
JayATee
11-05-2009, 05:24 PM
Wow,... you're a sex freak! You're awesome!
There should be a social club for extremely-high-libido people like you and me to meet and date... Seriously, I find that, unless a GF's libido matches mine (which is unusual), she doesn't get me... Low-libido people (and even medium-libido people) just don't understand us. Sexuality plays a cental role in my romantic relationships, but I've heard women say "Why can't you just be romantic without getting sexual?" My response is, "Okay, I'll go down on you first."
Im an insanely sexual person with an extremely high libido and I'd find your lack of ability to not turn everything into something sexual completely obnoxious.
charlie61
11-05-2009, 05:39 PM
^ Yeah, it was a biiiit forward. O_o
jack0177057
11-06-2009, 12:58 PM
Im an insanely sexual person with an extremely high libido and I'd find your lack of ability to not turn everything into something sexual completely obnoxious.
If you and I ever date, I'll keep that in mind and tone it down a little.
I don't mean that I'm rubbing on her leg all the time. What I mean, is that romantic intimate physical contact, like making-out and touching each other's face and hair, etc., really turns me on. I am very sensual and kissing and touching arouses me. Plus, I only date women that are very sexy to me, so the sexual appeal is strong.
Now, if we are having a romantic dinner in a public place, watching a romantic movie in a public theatre, taking a romantic walk on the beach, etc., and there is only minimum physical contact, then, I will behave appropriately.
I guess I see love-making as being part of the romance, not something separate from it.
jack0177057
11-06-2009, 01:02 PM
I actually have very low libido. There is a possibility that I'm asexual. I don't desire people. Pretty much at all. I get myself off quite nicely, and I enjoy making other people feel good, but I have no desire.
Oh,... never mind then...
You don't fantasize about other people when you get yourself off? Do you just feel your body, without drawing any erotic images in your head?
mediocrity
11-06-2009, 01:20 PM
Oh,... never mind then...
You don't fantasize about other people when you get yourself off? Do you just feel your body, without drawing any erotic images in your head?
For me, masturbation is a necessary evil. I want to make it as expedient as possible. Without another person, I just don't really get turned on.
It's like being on a road trip and your only option is to grab a bag of chips from the gas station because there's no other suitable food around.
Wow, great analogy, couldn't agree more!
KiwiStrawberry Splenda
11-06-2009, 02:22 PM
I think its creepy when the men overtly hit on all the women on the site, hence I had to take a break some time back. :(
^^^^ Or fly out to see them in person at club, but don't actually spend any money.
KiwiStrawberry Splenda
11-06-2009, 02:36 PM
OMG, really, someone did that?
Anyways, how bout them Cowboys?
charlie61
11-06-2009, 03:26 PM
Oh,... never mind then...
You don't fantasize about other people when you get yourself off? Do you just feel your body, without drawing any erotic images in your head?
I've trained my mind to associate getting myself off with other people...but I've never done so naturally. I've never wanted to kiss anyone for pleasure (or do anything else for that matter). If I do anything with anyone, it's to make them feel good (and I really do derive lots of non-physical pleasure from making other people feel good).
I'm sure most people couldn't imagine 'living like that', but honestly it's no big deal. It's just how I am...and it's something that I've only recently come to accept about myself.
And as a side note, my relationship is actually totally normal despite this. I've been dating my SO for over two years, and we couldn't be happier. We fuck just like the rest of y'all. He just has to accept that it's a different experience for me.
jack0177057
11-06-2009, 05:48 PM
^^^
I don't think you are so different from everyone else. Making-out is a strange thing... Is it supposed to be pleasurable? In my case it just happens instinctively and it is not really pleasurable per se, but only worth doing because: (1) it feels intimate and communicates love, (2) it heightens the sexual energy and leads to love-making and (3) I think my GF enjoys it.
Licking and sucking a girl's boobs is also a strange thing... I love boobs, but does sucking on them produce pleasure on the tip of my tongue? Not really. Again, it just happens instinctively and it is not really pleasurable per se, but only worth doing because: (1) it feels intimate and communicates passion, (2) it heightens the sexual energy and leads to love-making, and (3) I think my GF enjoys it.
If I break down the act of foreplay and love-making, a lot of what I do is for the benefit of my GF and I get no physical pleasure from it. However, the more excited my GF gets, the more excited I become, so I'm just feeding off of her physical pleasure. For example, if I go down on my GF, I am obviously not feeling the physical pleasure on the tip of my tongue, but her moans give me psychological pleasure and increases my state of arousal. When I get to the highest level of arousal from giving her pleasure, then I require very little to finish me off.
charlie61
11-07-2009, 12:46 AM
^ Yeah, but I don't get physically aroused from turning other people on.
Anyway...
MsClaireVoyant
11-07-2009, 10:05 AM
Oh .. I think I did misread it.
Actually ....... even though I read the words ....... I don't think I wrapped my head around the she is *really* satisfied with not having a big finish.
Not only am I satisfied but 90% of the time I prefer it that way. If it happens, it happens and thats okay too.
The pressure to orgasm completely ruins sex for me, so I really dislike it when a guy is making this huge effort to "get me off". It's like, why can't he just worry about making me feel good instead of viewing our time together as a means to an end? Because there wont be an end, most of the time, and sometimes these sort of guys take it as a failure or something if they can't get me off. It just doesn't work that way for me and it's hard to get them to understand that.
All I want is a man to concentrate on making me feel great in the moment, and if that great feeling leads to a finish, that's cool, but if not, that's cool too. For whatever reason orgasms tend to leave me feeling drained and in a bitchy mood. Where as sex without a finish pumps me full of energy and has me all happy. I really can't explain it and I realize it sounds completely alien and weird but this is just the beginning of the ways I'm not like your average human being, lol. I'm just different, and I'm wired differently in all ways it seems.
MsClaireVoyant
11-07-2009, 10:08 AM
Everyone has different libidos, desire for release, etc.
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Oh just wanted to add its definitely not a libido issue. I have a crazy sex drive, me and my ex were getting it on like 5x a day. I LOVE LOVE LOVE sex an insanely crazy amount.
MsClaireVoyant
11-07-2009, 10:13 AM
Oh,... never mind then...
You don't fantasize about other people when you get yourself off? Do you just feel your body, without drawing any erotic images in your head?
When I do masturbate, I don't always think about other people either. Usually it takes thinking about or looking at some kinky/bondage sorta crazy stuff. I'm a freak. }:D I can think about another person touching me and fucking me too sometimes, but it has to be someone I'm INTENSELY in love with or crushing on. Otherwise, I just am... not inspired.
Speaking of that I have basically no sex drive unless I'm super crushing/deeply into someone. I never desire it just for the sake of having it anymore.
mediocrity
11-07-2009, 11:54 AM
^^^
I don't think you are so different from everyone else. Making-out is a strange thing... Is it supposed to be pleasurable? In my case it just happens instinctively and it is not really pleasurable per se, but only worth doing because: (1) it feels intimate and communicates love, (2) it heightens the sexual energy and leads to love-making and (3) I think my GF enjoys it.
Licking and sucking a girl's boobs is also a strange thing... I love boobs, but does sucking on them produce pleasure on the tip of my tongue? Not really. Again, it just happens instinctively and it is not really pleasurable per se, but only worth doing because: (1) it feels intimate and communicates passion, (2) it heightens the sexual energy and leads to love-making, and (3) I think my GF enjoys it.
If I break down the act of foreplay and love-making, a lot of what I do is for the benefit of my GF and I get no physical pleasure from it. However, the more excited my GF gets, the more excited I become, so I'm just feeding off of her physical pleasure. For example, if I go down on my GF, I am obviously not feeling the physical pleasure on the tip of my tongue, but her moans give me psychological pleasure and increases my state of arousal. When I get to the highest level of arousal from giving her pleasure, then I require very little to finish me off.
ALWAYS been a turn off for me and I wish guys would ask me before they do it. I'm sure your GF has communicated her likes etc with you but man. I wish someone would ask before they do it. Instant turn off shut down for me.
I may be acting like an eighth grader, but it makes me giggle that you call it love-making.;D
KiwiStrawberry Splenda
11-07-2009, 02:16 PM
Not only am I satisfied but 90% of the time I prefer it that way. If it happens, it happens and thats okay too.
The pressure to orgasm completely ruins sex for me, so I really dislike it when a guy is making this huge effort to "get me off". It's like, why can't he just worry about making me feel good instead of viewing our time together as a means to an end? Because there wont be an end, most of the time, and sometimes these sort of guys take it as a failure or something if they can't get me off. It just doesn't work that way for me and it's hard to get them to understand that.
All I want is a man to concentrate on making me feel great in the moment, and if that great feeling leads to a finish, that's cool, but if not, that's cool too. For whatever reason orgasms tend to leave me feeling drained and in a bitchy mood. Where as sex without a finish pumps me full of energy and has me all happy. I really can't explain it and I realize it sounds completely alien and weird but this is just the beginning of the ways I'm not like your average human being, lol. I'm just different, and I'm wired differently in all ways it seems.
I can completely relate to this. If a guy is making too much effort for me to make a "big finish", angrily huffing, "did you come yet, did you come yet" then I know that the experience isn't about me or us, its about him and his virility as a lover. FUCK YOU, I'm not gonna throw you a bone so you can be bad at making sexes with the next girl.
I don't think you are different at all, that is completely normal. No one here wants to orgasm just because the guy wants it, despite his lack of skill or understanding of how the process of female arousal and climax actually function.
Whoa, I think I just brought my OP full circle!! See what I mean?
We may all orgasm in different areas of our genitalia, some of us are multi, some of us are not, some require an orgasm from each sexin session, some do not. But it takes understanding and communication from both sides to achieve this. HENCE...the myth is that a man can just pump in and out at his leisure, and we will somehow magically "come", like our orgasm response functions in a completely identical and reciprocal manner.
Sweet, this is interesting I'm glad I brought this up, save for the unfortunate and misleading title. It grabbed attention though!
MsClaireVoyant
11-07-2009, 04:35 PM
^Yep, exactly. I've always felt those sort of guys were trying to make me cum for themselves and not for me and that's why I've never been one to "fake it". I'll look them dead in the eye and tell them "nope, didn't even come close" lol... if they were pressuring me about it anyway.
I'm not some wind up toy you can just pound away at until the jack springs out of the box... orgasm through sex for me requires a deep understanding and intimacy with my partner and also NO pressure. For me, trying to have one is the quickest way not to have one.
Also, for me, the way I can cum through sex is kinda weird, the guy has to be going at a really good, steady rhythm rubbing against my gspot but then he has to just suddenly STOP and not move at all. lol its kinda weird because we will be going and then there will be this moment and I'll suddenly scream STOP! DONT MOVE! and if its our first time together he usually is like "what? what did I do?" and then I'm like "Mmm.. Just came." :D
I should really warn guys that this is how I cum ahead of time so they don't think there is a robber breaking in the window behind them or something lol. It's really weird though, I don't know why I just can't have his cock moving at all. Also I can/feel like cumming WAY more if I have sex in the morning. No clue why. Oh the mystery of my body lol.
bigmarv
11-07-2009, 06:22 PM
Not only am I satisfied but 90% of the time I prefer it that way. If it happens, it happens and thats okay too.
The pressure to orgasm completely ruins sex for me, so I really dislike it when a guy is making this huge effort to "get me off". It's like, why can't he just worry about making me feel good instead of viewing our time together as a means to an end? Because there wont be an end, most of the time, and sometimes these sort of guys take it as a failure or something if they can't get me off. It just doesn't work that way for me and it's hard to get them to understand that.
All I want is a man to concentrate on making me feel great in the moment, and if that great feeling leads to a finish, that's cool, but if not, that's cool too. For whatever reason orgasms tend to leave me feeling drained and in a bitchy mood. Where as sex without a finish pumps me full of energy and has me all happy. I really can't explain it and I realize it sounds completely alien and weird but this is just the beginning of the ways I'm not like your average human being, lol. I'm just different, and I'm wired differently in all ways it seems.
I know this subject is about the ladies, but if I don't cum during sex it also gives me a lot of extra energy and makes me not only happy but very horny. :)
Earl_the_Pearl
11-07-2009, 09:34 PM
I know this subject is about the ladies, but if I don't cum during sex it also gives me a lot of extra energy and makes me not only happy but very horny. :)
If one has more than one friend the vital essence must be conserved. Let it be know that women get POed if the man doesn't cum.
MsClaireVoyant
11-08-2009, 12:59 AM
I know this subject is about the ladies, but if I don't cum during sex it also gives me a lot of extra energy and makes me not only happy but very horny. :)
Yeah, it's some sort of energetic thing, I don't know. Orgasms almost feel like a shot of a drug or something to me. They feel great for a minute, but then there is a blah, comedown feeling after. Where as sex just gets me pumped and in a great mood and if I don't cum, I stay that way, and yes I also stay horny but I love it!
KiwiStrawberry Splenda
11-08-2009, 08:51 PM
If one has more than one friend the vital essence must be conserved. Let it be know that women get POed if the man doesn't cum.
I don't get PO'ed...unless he can't come and he wants to me to fuck and suck him for 3 hours until he does. Ugh, viagra is the devil if the man doesn't actually need it. >:(
Earl_the_Pearl
11-09-2009, 01:13 AM
I don't get PO'ed...unless he can't come and he wants to me to fuck and suck him for 3 hours until he does. Ugh, viagra is the devil if the man doesn't actually need it. >:(
I have never used the blue pill. I do what is necessary to give the women satisfaction but I may have to save my vital essence for a later "date".
jack0177057
11-09-2009, 09:38 AM
ALWAYS been a turn off for me and I wish guys would ask me before they do it. I'm sure your GF has communicated her likes etc with you but man. I wish someone would ask before they do it. Instant turn off shut down for me.
I wouldn't do it if she didn't like it... I mean, I love them, but they don't taste that amazing... I do it, because she is very sensitive in her boobs and it feels good to her... (I can tell by the breathing and the wetness.)
I may be acting like an eighth grader, but it makes me giggle that you call it love-making.;D
Sometimes its called fucking and sometimes its called love-making... Whatever word works...
Jack: [Kisses GF tenderly] Want to make love?
GF: I'm too busy today, I've got to do X, Y and Z...
Jack: Grabs her forcefully (playfully). Okay, let's just fuck then... right here...
GF: Okay...
NEXT DAY
Jack: [With a mischeivous grin.] Let's fuck...
GF: I'm not in the mood...
Jack: Okay, no problem, let's just cuddle in bed and watch a movie...
GF: That sounds nice...
[30 minutes later - They're in bed, watching a "romantic" movie with plenty of steamy scene, Jack is massaging/caressing his GF's neck, back and legs...]
Jack: You are so pretty. I want to make love to you so bad...
GF: Okay...
SerenaSin
11-09-2009, 10:12 AM
I can only give myself an orgasm, and only thru clitoral stimulation of myself. I've never been able to achieve orgasm w/ a partner, male or female, and CERTAINLY never through intercourse. It has nothing to do w/ liking or disliking men or women, I think maybe deep down I'm just into weird shit sexually and can't fantasize properly and get myself revved up for orgasm if theres someone else in the room...
charlie61
11-09-2009, 10:29 AM
(I can tell by the breathing and the wetness.)
::crosses legs:: :ill:
coco34
11-09-2009, 10:56 AM
I can only give myself an orgasm, and only thru clitoral stimulation of myself. I've never been able to achieve orgasm w/ a partner, male or female, and CERTAINLY never through intercourse. It has nothing to do w/ liking or disliking men or women, I think maybe deep down I'm just into weird shit sexually and can't fantasize properly and get myself revved up for orgasm if theres someone else in the room...
I've been giving myself orgasms for many, many years. I can always make
myself orgasm...I've also had sex with plenty of men and Ive only had
2 orgasms from a man. One from oral, and one from intercourse, and these happened in the last 6 months or so. I thought I was incapable of orgasming from a
man, but nope, it finally happened. I think it was a combination of these guys paying attention to me and figuring out what I liked, and me totally letting my inhibitions go.
charlie61
11-09-2009, 02:31 PM
I wouldn't do it if she didn't like it... I mean, I love them, but they don't taste that amazing... I do it, because she is very sensitive in her boobs and it feels good to her... (I can tell by the breathing and the wetness.)
As a side note, it's a common misconception that vaginal wetness is an accurate indicator of arousal. Everything from her menstrual cycle to the mere expectation that sex is coming can lead to increased lubrication. And I wouldn't necessarily say that breathing is an indicator either.
Just sayin'.
mediocrity
11-09-2009, 02:55 PM
I wouldn't do it if she didn't like it... I mean, I love them, but they don't taste that amazing... I do it, because she is very sensitive in her boobs and it feels good to her... (I can tell by the breathing and the wetness.)
Sometimes its called fucking and sometimes its called love-making... Whatever word works...
Jack: [Kisses GF tenderly] Want to make love?
GF: I'm too busy today, I've got to do X, Y and Z...
Jack: Grabs her forcefully (playfully). Okay, let's just fuck then... right here...
GF: Okay...
NEXT DAY
Jack: [With a mischeivous grin.] Let's fuck...
GF: I'm not in the mood...
Jack: Okay, no problem, let's just cuddle in bed and watch a movie...
GF: That sounds nice...
[30 minutes later - They're in bed, watching a "romantic" movie with plenty of steamy scene, Jack is massaging/caressing his GF's neck, back and legs...]
Jack: You are so pretty. I want to make love to you so bad...
GF: Okay...
That's why I said I am sure she has communicated her likes and dislikes to you. :)
I don't think I have ever said I wanted to make love to someone. I'm also not romantic especially it normally goes like this with me:
Me: [looks at groceries brought up from the car] Do any of those need to be refrigerated?
Him: No I already put those ones away.
Me: Put the box of cereal down. [throw him into wall and starts unbuttoning his shirt.]
or
Me: Babe, you look smokin' hot tonight. When we get home, I am going to beat you up like you owe me money.
Both true stories. I am thoroughly convinced I was a dude in my last life. I also don't get why girls say no theyre busy etc. I mean, if you're with someone, I am assuming they are hot. Who doesnt want to bang their hot SO? Muahaha.
laurcon
11-09-2009, 03:08 PM
^ i tend to find myself dating men that aren't especially hot. i find making me laugh, caring about the world around us, and treating me like a princess are the things i look for most in a partner. hot is way down on the list, so sex isn't really a priority of mine either. i fucked enough hot mindless assholes in college. if you have a hot, funny, caring, faithful, successful man, then yeah i'd probably wanna fuck him too.
mediocrity
11-09-2009, 03:28 PM
^ i tend to find myself dating men that aren't especially hot. i find making me laugh, caring about the world around us, and treating me like a princess are the things i look for most in a partner. hot is way down on the list, so sex isn't really a priority of mine either. i fucked enough hot mindless assholes in college. if you have a hot, funny, caring, faithful, successful man, then yeah i'd probably wanna fuck him too.
I'm picky- and shallow. I admit it. I want someone equally or more attractive than I am. With a personality like House. And who is funny, caring, faithful successful. I have the 60-40 rule: 60% looks and 40% personality is what draws me in.
I'm surprised I can actually date at all. I find I am really only attracted to like 5% of guys I see.
Oh shit. Did I just channel commanderadama?
laurcon
11-09-2009, 03:43 PM
I'm picky- and shallow. I admit it. I want someone equally or more attractive than I am. With a personality like House. And who is funny, caring, faithful successful. I have the 60-40 rule: 60% looks and 40% personality is what draws me in.
I'm surprised I can actually date at all. I find I am really only attracted to like 5% of guys I see.
Oh shit. Did I just channel commanderadama?
i'm surprised you can date too. i don't think i could even find 5% like that. i've never been to texas, but i went to college in virginia and then men were much hotter down there. i think we have a lot of ugly here in the northeast :-[
mediocrity
11-09-2009, 03:45 PM
^^ Austin is like a hot guy candy store. I'm absolutely amazed. I walk down South Congress and it's just freaking incredible. Seems like it must be in the water- they're all taller than me!
jack0177057
11-09-2009, 03:52 PM
As a side note, it's a common misconception that vaginal wetness is an accurate indicator of arousal. Everything from her menstrual cycle to the mere expectation that sex is coming can lead to increased lubrication. And I wouldn't necessarily say that breathing is an indicator either.
Just sayin'.
Well, in her case, I know she likes it, because... well, let's just say I know.
But, are you saying that most women don't like their SOs to kiss, lick and play with their boobs? I know that dancers hate it when customers do it, but what about when your BF does it? (I'm asking generally.)
jack0177057
11-09-2009, 03:55 PM
I don't think I have ever said I wanted to make love to someone. I'm also not romantic especially it normally goes like this with me:
Me: [looks at groceries brought up from the car] Do any of those need to be refrigerated?
Him: No I already put those ones away.
Me: Put the box of cereal down. [throw him into wall and starts unbuttoning his shirt.]
or
Me: Babe, you look smokin' hot tonight. When we get home, I am going to beat you up like you owe me money.
Both true stories. I am thoroughly convinced I was a dude in my last life. I also don't get why girls say no theyre busy etc. I mean, if you're with someone, I am assuming they are hot. Who doesnt want to bang their hot SO? Muahaha.
All I can say is -- you're awesome!
laurcon
11-09-2009, 04:06 PM
^^ Austin is like a hot guy candy store. I'm absolutely amazed. I walk down South Congress and it's just freaking incredible. Seems like it must be in the water- they're all taller than me!
i may have to plan a trip. although a trip doesn't really help cause i'm not looking for a one-night stand. perhaps i'll move out there eventually. i absolutely need a warmer climate and somewhere less materialistic than nyc. i'm going to look into it, thanks for the heads up on hotties!
KiwiStrawberry Splenda
11-09-2009, 10:10 PM
I can only give myself an orgasm, and only thru clitoral stimulation of myself. I've never been able to achieve orgasm w/ a partner, male or female, and CERTAINLY never through intercourse. It has nothing to do w/ liking or disliking men or women, I think maybe deep down I'm just into weird shit sexually and can't fantasize properly and get myself revved up for orgasm if theres someone else in the room...
I'm like this, but by choice, as I have been able to orgasm from others. I just prefer to do the actual stimulation myself, and think of the things I need to get me there, which is weird shit that I don't feel comfortable discussing. Orgasm during sex for me is pretty much like masterbation...the intercourse part is great, but almost completely unnecessary,although I do enjoy the bonding part between my partner and I.
Also, I like to masterbate when my bladder is slightly full, not too much though. It pushes against the urethral sponge tissue, where the g-spot is, and I have a stronger orgasm, without needing internal prodding. And I've never once peed or even leaked from it. In fact, its actually kind of hard to pee right afterwards, I have to give myself a major push.
KiwiStrawberry Splenda
11-09-2009, 10:10 PM
i may have to plan a trip. although a trip doesn't really help cause i'm not looking for a one-night stand. perhaps i'll move out there eventually. i absolutely need a warmer climate and somewhere less materialistic than nyc. i'm going to look into it, thanks for the heads up on hotties!
You should totally come out here! :D
JayATee
11-12-2009, 07:05 PM
I don't think I have ever said I wanted to make love to someone.
I have never used this term in my life either. Not once. Not sure why since I know I've "made love" but I just think it's the dumbest phrase on the planet. Even typing it right now just made me wince.
charlie61
11-12-2009, 07:11 PM
^ Same!! No joke.
mediocrity
11-13-2009, 02:56 PM
I have never used this term in my life either. Not once. Not sure why since I know I've "made love" but I just think it's the dumbest phrase on the planet. Even typing it right now just made me wince.
I loved how it was hyphenated too; "love-making". Muahaahaha. I'd rather just say "Hey dude, when we go home, I'm going to fuck the shit out of you."
Then again I'm not into that lovey-dovey slow bullshit. I want to walk away limping.
Sorry Jack, I like you- I'm not directly picking on you or hatin' on your style.
JayATee
11-13-2009, 02:57 PM
Then again I'm not into that lovey-dovey slow bullshit. I want to walk away limping.
Hell fucking yes. Preferably marked as well to show his territory. }:D
KiwiStrawberry Splenda
11-13-2009, 02:59 PM
I was put off by my boyfriend using the term, but he's European, and 9 years older, so I got used to it. But it really used to give me the creeps, especially after I heard a few custies using it, "asking me, "let's make love?" even though I had just me them. Gross.
mediocrity
11-13-2009, 03:01 PM
Well, in her case, I know she likes it, because... well, let's just say I know.
But, are you saying that most women don't like their SOs to kiss, lick and play with their boobs? I know that dancers hate it when customers do it, but what about when your BF does it? (I'm asking generally.)
It's individual. I can be revved up and ready to go, but man.. you lick my nipple, game over, instantly. No saving it. It feels really creepy to me and makes me physically nauseated. I don't mind having the whole boob touched, or if you kiss them... or hell, even fucking motorboat me. Just don't focus on my nipples.
Guys always ask at work "Oh your boobs are so cute, are they sensitive?" and I'm always all yo, why do you even care? Cuz if I'm at work you aren't touching them anyway.
Or if I am feeling sassy, I'll ask them if they want to lick my elbow, because it feels the same.
That being said, if I love someone and they really want to do it, I will grit my teeth occasionally.