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laurcon
11-21-2009, 03:16 PM
Your strippers are being polite, and smart.

How do you WANT the stripper to respond? "You're right, I'm not into you, my feet are killing me, I need a snack, and all I want to do is go home, get into baggy sweats, and watch bad movies snuggling on the couch with my (much hotter) boyfriend".

Instead of being angry at them for doing their job, have a reality check.

lmao! i totally usually want a snack and to be in sweats! ;D

Earl_the_Pearl
11-21-2009, 06:42 PM
It just makes me upset with myself for "breaking down" and acting like an inexperienced SC rookie, and then I don't want to spend more money on the girl on subsequent visits because I feel like a jerk and a moron. WHY DO DANCERS DO THIS?! If it works with the PL type, why do they do this with me when they know I'm a regular, know who I'm dating, and the biggest one - why do they insist when I tell them that I don't like that hustle?! Grr.
Could it be they want to see if they can bag some big game PL? When I get the hard luck I really need the money hustle I tell them I can help them; OTC.

Almost Jaded
11-21-2009, 08:53 PM
To clarify - objectiveyl speaking, I'm a good looking guy. Not God's gift to women, not super holy shit hot, but I do get more than a little attention. And I can take a compliment - I'v ebeen around ITC's and OTC's to know that girls more often than not respond positively to my looks and attitude/personality. I say that to clarify that if a girl - dancer at the club or not - says she likes me/finds me attractive, I thank them and return a compliment.

It's the ones that REALLY overplay this. "God I can't stand this, I want to have you inside me SOOO bad right now it makes this dance really hard to do" kinda stuff. Keep at it, keep pushing those types of comments and talking aout how you're single and bored and lonely at home and how after this dance right at closing time you're going to toss and turn all night... Then shut me down when I carefully offer a solution, lol.

I do not see where this makes sense. I just don't. :shrug: And it's girls that know I come around a lot - many of them recognize me the second I walk in, know me MO and who I usually get dances from or at least "my type". This girl last night - she's seen me around there for 2 years, knows MM, knows my ex, knows the friends I've brought in, we've talked several times, I've bought dances from here here & there over the years and one VIP before, tip her well on stage... So last night more than usual it was really bothering me.

Kandi - that's a very good question. But in all honesty - tell me about your feet. Tell me about your day. Tell e about your last asshole customer or even about your hot as hell boyfriend - fine by me! Make good conversation. I've been around a long time. I've dated a lot of dancers. Many of the girls in these clubs ask me for advice about outfits and style and hustle, lol - I have a reputaion for helping girls make money. And again - I can take a compliment; that's not the problem. Stop making a big deal about how it's killing you to have to keep MY clothes on and not fuck right on the floor blah blah blah. If it's true - fine! Let's go play somewhere OTC! If it's not - giggle and laugh about how guys like to hear that and change the subject, or respond when I change the subject instead of going back to that!

Almost Jaded
11-21-2009, 08:57 PM
I'll also postulate this partially in response to laurcon: If she (in this instance, otherwise "they") meant it, why shut me down or dodge meeting OTC? Especially in a situation where I'm well known to many of the dancers OTC and have a sterling reputation for respect. :???:

HelloJ
12-02-2009, 10:37 PM
Good lord I never pay any dancer any attention with their sob stories. That is definitely no fun and ruins the mood of being in the club as a customer. Thankfully I have had limited run-ins with these types of girls. Find new girls or a new club bud. Good Luck.

laurcon
12-03-2009, 09:06 AM
I'll also postulate this partially in response to laurcon: If she (in this instance, otherwise "they") meant it, why shut me down or dodge meeting OTC? Especially in a situation where I'm well known to many of the dancers OTC and have a sterling reputation for respect. :???:

oh i forgot about this thread, but like i said maybe she has a boyfriend? otherwise yeah it doesn't really make sense. :-\

Almost Jaded
12-03-2009, 11:39 AM
Meh - I was whining anyway, lol. Regardless of if it was 'real' or not, I let her get to me and that's my bad, I know better. Haven't been back to that club in a while, maybe I should pay her another visit and see if I get the same attention outside of VIP... :rolleyes:

JRdancer
12-03-2009, 12:35 PM
Almost Jaded, It sounds less like SS and more like she's talking dirty to you to give you a better fantasy/more enjoyable dance. Whether or not that's making the dance better or just driving you crazy is another thing.

OP, I agree with Audrey K. I've never used a sob story. I think a sob story might signal that you're not going to get a very good experience with her at the club. Her brain is too focused on her problems or herself. If you're asking leading questions to get her to open up about her life, then it's your fault if someone ends up unloading on you. But if a dancer just lays into you about her problems I would definitely continue my search for another girl. There are a lot of great dancers who want to make sure you have an amazing night at the club and wouldn't bring stuff like this up. No need to be frustrated by the sob story. It's just your clue to look for another girl.

MissMynxx
12-07-2009, 04:12 PM
I've used every tactic known to man, and my best one was still the night I watched a business man turn down every girl that walked up to him - big boobs and blonde all the way down to redhead tattoo girl. He was obviously just there to tip and have a drink. I was getting pressured to go hustle, but the room was dead, so I went and plopped down next to this guy.

Before he could get a word out, I told him, "I've watched you turn down every girl in the club, so I know you don't want a dance. I'm getting yelled at to go hustle, but the room is dead. So I'm gonna buy a drink and sit here, and keep the other girls away from you, and the managers away from me. Kay?" He just sorta nodded with a little smile, and half an hour later he'd bought me 2 drinks and we were on our way up to VIP. LOL!

I hated being a sob story stripper. Wannadance never worked for me. I seem to have the best luck just sorta watching who watches me onstage, the plopping down next to them and flirting and basically being myself. ::)

Almost Jaded
12-07-2009, 08:01 PM
That would be because yourself is really awesome. :)

princessjas
12-09-2009, 08:24 PM
I'll also postulate this partially in response to laurcon: If she (in this instance, otherwise "they") meant it, why shut me down or dodge meeting OTC? Especially in a situation where I'm well known to many of the dancers OTC and have a sterling reputation for respect. :???:

A lot of girls drink at work....remember that. I personally have talked a leetle more than I should have and admitted how attractive I found someone a few times...but ya, I was totally brought back to reality by an invite for OTC fun.

I dunno, maybe they just got a bit carried away by the low lights, sexy dancing, alcohol and charming guy and your invite brought reality crashing down hard on their heads? Sometimes we really do dance for someone that in other circumstances we might date. It happened to me a few times when I was fairly new. ;)