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Do these lines actually work for guys? Really?
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Subject: hi Sent Date: 11/28/2009 4:51:34 PM
Hello darlin. How R U? I love your pic :-) I tried to B quiet but I gotta ask, may I have this dance? It's not every day that I get to share a moment with someone as beautiful as U.
S.W.A.K.
Aaron
Earl_the_Pearl
11-28-2009, 06:17 PM
Do these guys know they are corresponding with strippers?
mediocrity
11-28-2009, 06:20 PM
Yes. I am very upfront about my job because I am aware not everyone can handle it.
Nope. Mine don't. And now that I edited their names out you have no way of informing them otherwise! Ha ha.
Earl_the_Pearl
11-28-2009, 06:24 PM
Nope. Mine don't. And now that I edited their names out you have no way of informing them otherwise! Ha ha.
Why would I do that? PLs will be PLs.
mediocrity
11-28-2009, 06:28 PM
Oh Earl. People I date are not PLs like you.
Elvia
11-28-2009, 06:43 PM
I love this thread.
mediocrity
11-28-2009, 06:44 PM
Would you like to see MOAR? ;)
Elvia
11-28-2009, 06:44 PM
^^^YES!!!
Did that creepy guy ever say anything when you told him to stop?
mediocrity
11-28-2009, 06:48 PM
Nope. He cut that shit out. See added pic above. And zees one!
I got this dude too and I nearly pissed myself laughing. This is why I don't go solely on personality- because he sounds super cool. But would I fuck him?
NOT ONCE, NOT NEVAH.
EWWWWW Could you imagine feeling that beard if he went down on you???
Check out this one... he says he's in the Italian Mafia.
sananeko
11-28-2009, 07:33 PM
And I thought mine were bad...
charlie61
11-28-2009, 08:51 PM
Should probably take the pics down...isn't really fair to post them on a public forum...
Djoser
11-28-2009, 09:15 PM
Yeah agreed but god what a bunch of dorks and losers!
Paris
11-28-2009, 09:32 PM
Dude. That's so douchey. Want to see one that I got? This is SO out of the blue.
Him:
"Subject: Caramel Macchiato Sent Date: 11/13/2009 12:45:14 PM
It’s Saturday morning, the sun is shining through the clouds and you walk into your
local Starbucks. Last night you had an amazing night out with your girl friends,
dinner, dancing and enjoying the evening.
Your wearing your favorite blue jeans and T-shirt with your hair pulled back in a
pony tail.
You walk up to the counter take off your sunglasses and order a grande vanilla
caramel macchiato with light foam and savory caramel sauce on top. Your lips are
stimulated with the thought of tasting this delightful beverage.
As you reach into your mini purse to find your credit card you discover your favorite
lipstick you thought you lost and a hand full of business cards with numbers on
them from last night.
You glance over at the drink counter and notice an alluring man standing there,
waiting for his grande vanilla wet cappuccino. He’s wearing his favorite blue jeans,
black belt, white V neck T shirt and Vans shoes. Your eyes meet and you look away.
You then walk over to him with a slight smirk and a quick glimmer....and he says to
you
That looks like a delicious choice, a great way to start a beautiful day. You’ve got to
love Starbucks. How you can travel anywhere in the world and still find your favorite
coffee. Here’s some napkins in case you get a little foam on you lips.
I noticed you standing over there and I knew I had to introduce myself to you. I’m
Gregory....
You laugh and smile a bit as you touch your upper lip and you say........
"
Me:
"
Subject: RE:Caramel Macchiato Sent Date: 11/13/2009 3:05:08 PM
..... ..that this is the weirdest fucking message I have ever recieved. "
This reminds me of someone who used to post on here all the time. He was uber-creepy, but had a loyal female following swooning over his every word.
*shudders*
Stay away from that type. They tend to have psychological problems.
charlie61
11-28-2009, 11:09 PM
Yeah agreed but god what a bunch of dorks and losers!
Dayumm! You iz judgmental. Maybe they're all cool guys. I love dorks... :-[
Elvia
11-28-2009, 11:10 PM
Nope. He cut that shit out. See added pic above. And zees one!
I thought that one was kinda cute.
Djoser
11-28-2009, 11:27 PM
Dayumm! You iz judgmental. Maybe they're all cool guys. I love dorks... :-[
Where were you when I was in high school?
I suppose I am judgmental, but I've definitely seen both sides of the spectrum, being regarded as a dorky/nerd type in high school, as you might have figured out lol! Then I went through a long dry spell in Daytona as well, mostly for not dressing like a punk or acting like an asshole like everyone else.
Lots of cool guys and girls are sort of funny looking, maybe very cool people to hang with, but not really attractive you know?
This reminds me of someone who used to post on here all the time. He was uber-creepy, but had a loyal female following swooning over his every word.
*shudders*
Stay away from that type. They tend to have psychological problems.
Hey watch out, he could still be here even after more than a year, scanning the entire forum for any reference to his existence, no matter how indirect, and reporting it--along with interminable screeds whining about being persecuted, etc.
Lola_sinn
11-29-2009, 01:54 PM
Do these lines actually work for guys? Really?
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Subject: hi Sent Date: 11/28/2009 4:51:34 PM
Hello darlin. How R U? I love your pic :-) I tried to B quiet but I gotta ask, may I have this dance? It's not every day that I get to share a moment with someone as beautiful as U.
S.W.A.K.
Aaron
I used to know lots of people who got care packages that were signed S.W.A.K.......at summer camp lol
mediocrity
11-29-2009, 01:59 PM
EWWWWW Could you imagine feeling that beard if he went down on you???
hahahaha OMFG.
KiwiStrawberry Splenda
11-29-2009, 03:24 PM
Hey watch out, he could still be here even after more than a year, scanning the entire forum for any reference to his existence, no matter how indirect, and reporting it--along with interminable screeds whining about being persecuted, etc.
I don't think you guys are talking about the same person. The one you refer to had absolutely NO fans on here.
luckischalk
11-29-2009, 04:40 PM
That guy is a serious jerk and you are one classy chick. I would have not been that nice. It is a tough call of when to tell guys. I told my husband right away, just like you did and he was ok with it.
Djoser
11-29-2009, 06:33 PM
Dayumm! You iz judgmental. Maybe they're all cool guys. I love dorks... :-[
I don't think you guys are talking about the same person. The one you refer to had absolutely NO fans on here.
The guy Paris and I were referring to wrote the cheesiest, most overdone, 'trying way too hard' erotica ever. It was so bad you would think it could only be viewed as a bad joke, but there were always a few idiot women/women getting paid for it telling him he was the best writer ever, etc., how horny it made them to read it, and so forth. Which meant he kept posting the same schlock, over and over and over and over...
He had many fans amongst the women here, though it was mostly the ones he was sending money to, or those who wanted to join the list. He even had a guy or two sucking up his ass, especially one who also was running his own 'trying way too hard' Game on the dancer members. They even had a little contest to see who could fuck the most female members. The sad thing is, it worked for both of them on the dumb ones.
::)
lestat1
11-29-2009, 07:33 PM
On the other side, I've sent out around 60 well thought out e-mails on online dating sites. All catered to the person's profile, offering up a little more about myself and asking them some questions about their profile. I've had my profile reviewed by pros who gave it glowing reviews and said it was a shining example of an online dating profile. Responses so far: zero. I really think anything written is a distant second to one's pictures.
KiwiStrawberry Splenda
11-29-2009, 08:15 PM
The guy Paris and I were referring to wrote the cheesiest, most overdone, 'trying way too hard' erotica ever.
::)
Oh, I thought that guy was still on this site, paying for it?
Vince Money
11-30-2009, 10:04 AM
Check out this one... he says he's in the Italian Mafia.
Has he referenced you and Meadow Soprano yet?
mediocrity
11-30-2009, 01:22 PM
On the other side, I've sent out around 60 well thought out e-mails on online dating sites. All catered to the person's profile, offering up a little more about myself and asking them some questions about their profile. I've had my profile reviewed by pros who gave it glowing reviews and said it was a shining example of an online dating profile. Responses so far: zero. I really think anything written is a distant second to one's pictures.
Unfortunately, it really is. With me, it's 60% looks, 40% personality.
Check out this puppy.....
I was browsing through profiles when I came across yours. I must say, your a very interesting woman it seems ;) It appears we have some in common too. I won't bore you with cheesy pickup lines or anything like that. But I will ask this... that you take a look at my profile. If you like what you see/read, then by all means message me back :) If not, I completely understand... I'm a tough guy, I can take it hehehe. But in the meantime, take care. Stay safe & stay beautiful...
- Basil
p.s.>>>> I admire your ambition to do great things. Your absolutely beautiful too, and if no one has told you today... Well you heard it here first ;) Again, take care...
^^^^^ Standard stock message sent to many girls
"Let's see, some of my Long-term goals is to get my B.A. in Global Business Management which I am currently in school pursuing at this moment. After obtaining that, I want to apply for, and attend law school to study for a law degree in International Law or Litigations Law. So if you'v always wanted a Lawyer, here's your chance ;) But I'm still working through that, hopefully here in a about two years I can tell you more about that :) I use smilies ALOT, if you haven't noticed hehe."
Hmmmmm, so he's a lawyer that loves to use smilies and says "he he". I'm not buying it.
I wonder what types of girls actually fall for this crap?
charlie61
12-05-2009, 12:40 PM
^ You'd be surprised...he might be a lawyer. I think a lot of people have anxieties about returning to the dating world. They don't know how to be sexy/lighthearted/courteous without coming across as silly. Some of the most brilliant men have no idea how to conduct themselves socially. Either that, or they're really good guys who just make bad first impressions on dating sites.
However, the misspelled "your" in the first response is most definitely a turnoff/red flag.
Charlie, I didn't want to post his pictures, I'm afraid you guys make break a rib laughing too hard. He looks like an Ed Hardy Zoolander Blue Steele Homo. This guy is totally making up the lawyer story to get chicks, IMO. I would bet money that he just finished his basics at a community college, I'm not hatin' but I think this guy is way over exaggerating.
Plus his name is Basil. That sounds made up.
KiwiStrawberry Splenda
12-05-2009, 01:26 PM
I could certainly be a stock message, but nothing wrong with that. Its a numbers game for guys. Read his line again. He isn't a lawyer yet, he's just in undergrad. He's probably just in his early 20's, not too mature to use smilies.
And as for guys named Basil....anyone, anyone?
http://www.virginmedia.com/images/basil_fawlty-290.jpg
KiwiStrawberry Splenda
12-05-2009, 01:30 PM
On the other side, I've sent out around 60 well thought out e-mails on online dating sites. All catered to the person's profile, offering up a little more about myself and asking them some questions about their profile. I've had my profile reviewed by pros who gave it glowing reviews and said it was a shining example of an online dating profile. Responses so far: zero. I really think anything written is a distant second to one's pictures.
I'm sorry man. For me, its more like 90% looks. Or, the person could be the most interesting and compatible person in the world, but if his looks don't intrigue me, I don't bother with a response.
Conversely, even if the guy looks hot, but possesses very incompatible personality, I also won't respond; for example, don't like stoners, religious, hates animals, still married, conservative republican, etc, etc. I also wouldn't answer an add to a guy who requests that only certain races and girls with only a certain look respond.
I've met several of my boyfriends from online, so they are out there.
charlie61
12-05-2009, 04:20 PM
Charlie, I didn't want to post his pictures, I'm afraid you guys make break a rib laughing too hard. He looks like an Ed Hardy Zoolander Blue Steele Homo. This guy is totally making up the lawyer story to get chicks, IMO. I would bet money that he just finished his basics at a community college, I'm not hatin' but I think this guy is way over exaggerating.
Plus his name is Basil. That sounds made up.
Fair enough fair enough. Still...it's true that there are very intelligent/sweet men out there who just lack social skills (hmmm...maybe strippers know that better than anyone else? :D)
Then again, if that's the case, they're still not worth responding to. So you win! 8)
mediocrity
12-05-2009, 07:14 PM
Ugh I HATE silly guys. I mean really. It's so contrived. That shit gets you walking papers with me- that never ending jokey-ness.
Then again, I am a really intense person.
Deogol
12-05-2009, 07:35 PM
I know at least 3 dancers personally that solicit business via dating websites. They find more customers either in the club or for privates that way. You may want to slow down on the job revelation to avoid giving the other members the wrong idea about your intentions. Maybe say you waitress at a stripclub or something instead.
This is so true. I have almost given up on dating web sites and go the old matchmaker route. More than a couple of times I get reeled in and then the truth comes out about what her intentions really are. This is an emotional whiplash that sucks intensely. Every guy on a dating web site long enough has experienced at least a solicitation if not a full blown reel in only to be smacked upside the head with the truth - I feel pretty good on offering that as a guarantee. It has made me very very wary and I am sure such experiences have made others wary.
ArmySGT.
12-06-2009, 01:31 AM
And as for guys named Basil....anyone, anyone?
http://www.virginmedia.com/images/basil_fawlty-290.jpg
Fawlty Towers he he he he.
mediocrity
12-09-2009, 11:44 AM
Check this doucher out.
KiwiStrawberry Splenda
12-09-2009, 01:28 PM
OMG, its the apex of hotchickswithdouchebags! Gross.
I did meet my current SO from POF though. It took about 7 or 8 months of being on there though.
jack0177057
12-09-2009, 01:56 PM
You shouldn't be upset about this - If the goal of your disclosure was to weed-out jerks, you succeeded very efficiently. Be glad you didn't waste anymore time on this loser.
Maybe SW should have an online dating component for guys who like and appreciate dancers. (Yeah, I know... bad idea... I was kidding...)
KiwiStrawberry Splenda
12-09-2009, 02:20 PM
Lots of people from this site have met and dated over the years.
charlie61
12-09-2009, 02:26 PM
Med--it seems a bit immoral to post pictures of these guys in a public forum like this.
jack0177057
12-09-2009, 04:26 PM
^^^ And maybe illegal (copyright violation)- but it's still funny! Also, everyone knows that if you post your picture on the internet - it's fair game.
charlie61
12-09-2009, 07:53 PM
^ Yeah, but I'm assuming these guys are posting their pictures within closed communities (dating sites). Seems a bit different to me. And it's not like these guys have done anything wrong.
jack0177057
12-09-2009, 08:08 PM
^^^ You're right. Shame on you, Med and J.D.
we are evil bitches, what can I say? We're the girls you love to hate.
jack0177057
12-09-2009, 08:59 PM
^^^ Shame, shame... I don't hate you, though... I love "evil bitches"...
Christyismyalias
12-09-2009, 10:46 PM
wow this post has gone crazy! lol
obviously we all have our own online dating world issues..
I wouldn't want him posting my pic up on his man site talking about that stupid stripper he met through online dating..... especially considering I dont even post my pics here...
The dating sites are for people looking for relationships and we post pictures hoping to up our chances of getting interests, and vice versa.. I hate thinking people are taking these photos I've put up and using them to make fun of me. Especially when I can't defend myself.
I understand we girls have to deal with a lot of douschy guys, in life, at the club, and online, but I agree with charlie that posting their photos like that is a little brutal!
MonicaF
12-10-2009, 03:57 AM
Sounds like he either had a crush on or dated a dancer in the past to where it didn't work out.
Christyismyalias
01-04-2010, 03:36 AM
UPDATE!! I went on a date tonight with a guy I met online and had a great experience! He was handsome and the date went perfect, not much awkward silence and good conversation with lots of laughing. He seemed okay with the dancing and hopefully we'll go out again!!
I'm not giving up hope just because of a bad guy... Hope everyone else has positive results!