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yoda57us
11-29-2009, 09:41 AM
The *intent* of my specific example was as SteveSmith said, not a purchase, but a recoup of loses, but I can definitely understand your reaction. Your reaction is what I would have expected, and judging from the response, the most common.

Maybe "buy out" was a poor choice of words to describe what happened? Although the result is the same, the "recoup your loses" implication is less mercenary.

So what exactly did happen? Did she give her dancer friend an agreed to amount of cash? Did they go clubbing and the evening's expenses were picked-up by the "buyer". The longer this thread goes on the less clear it becomes...

bem401
11-29-2009, 04:58 PM
Maybe "buy out" was a poor choice of words to describe what happened? Although the result is the same, the "recoup your loses" implication is less mercenary.

No, what you described was a "buyout". A dancer never knows what she is going to make on a given shift. Every shift is pretty much a roll of the dice to a certain extent.

bem401
11-29-2009, 05:00 PM
The friend is not saying to the dancer, "Hey, would you hang out with me for $500?" like a custy would (buy-out). -- He's saying, "Hey, come hang out with me on Saturday night for this special occasion. I know you're going to be losing a lot of money by doing so, so let me cover your lost wages."

What's the difference? In either case, he's saying "let me make you whole for skipping the club and hanging with me".

Elvia
11-29-2009, 05:13 PM
It's still a really bizarre question. I know for a fact that someone has taken a bath with an otter. It still would be a bizarre question to ask a group of people in an open forum if they've ever done it.

SteveSmith
11-29-2009, 06:18 PM
What's the difference? In either case, he's saying "let me make you whole for skipping the club and hanging with me".

Intent. :)

Shy_Guy
11-29-2009, 10:04 PM
It's still a really bizarre question. I know for a fact that someone has taken a bath with an otter. It still would be a bizarre question to ask a group of people in an open forum if they've ever done it.

Don't specify "otter" and just ask how many people have bathed with a pet. Maybe the results would surprise you. Maybe not . . . you never know until you ask.

How do you know what's a bizarre thing to ask? I had no idea whether it was a common occurrence or a once-in-the-history-of-the-world thing. I had my suspicions, but reality has a way of shredding assumptions. So I asked.

And really, what's so horrible about asking bizarre questions? It's what keeps things interesting.

bem401
11-30-2009, 06:29 AM
Intent. :)

Sorry SS, I'm not in agreement. While the particulars of the two cases may not be identical, they both amount to paying someone what they otherwise would be making to spend time with you.

If the inviter finds it necessary to make such an offer, either:

a) they're not really friends,
b) the event is not that special, or
c) both of the above.

yoda57us
11-30-2009, 07:07 PM
And really, what's so horrible about asking bizarre questions? It's what keeps things interesting.

It helps pass the time..."Interesting" is a bit farther than I am willing to go...