View Full Version : Dancers Who Think They're Really Really Good Looking....
femmefatale88
03-14-2010, 07:06 PM
It's a little bewildering to me to see a few people missing the point of this thread.
I can understand how it would look as though those of us participating in this discussion are hating on other girls, propagating the stereotype of "girls just sitting in the dressing room talking shit about one another", etc. But like a bunch of us have said - this isn't about talking shit about confident, gorgeous girls we're intimidated by. This is about the girls that kind of make us want to kick puppies, take candy from babies, and get sex changes to disassociate ourselves with them.
When you work at a larger club, where you have 50+ of these girls to deal with at work every night, you need a place to just VENT. Hell, working with ONE of these girls is enough to make me want to run away and never return. It's stressful, annoying as fuck, and frankly it jacks with my stripper mojo worse than knowing Vice is in the club. I HATE IT. HATE IT.
I shouldn't be having to sit here, justifying that I really DO admire sexy, confident girls who can appreciate their own beauty and manage to remain friendly and somewhat humble. Damn it, I should be able to let some shit off my chest about the girls who's faces I want to smash into the dressing room mirror just to make them be quite for 30 seconds! >:(
...though, a few of these types I've worked with would probably look BETTER after they had their faces smashed. It would knock them down a level or two, and hell - I'll be honest ... a little facial rearrangement might make the bitch prettier. :-X
Jesus CHrist! How about some anger management. It seems like it's you who has the problems, with some of the things you said. Scary
rubyredlipsss
03-14-2010, 09:06 PM
ugh seriously could that be anymore presumptuous and critical? i, for one, found the post funny as hell, but maybe that's my dark sense of humor. with a post like that sounds like anger management would be good for you if you're that quick to jump down her throat.
femmefatale88
03-14-2010, 09:13 PM
ugh seriously could that be anymore presumptuous and critical? i, for one, found the post funny as hell, but maybe that's my dark sense of humor. with a post like that sounds like anger management would be good for you if you're that quick to jump down her throat.
whatever lol
hot4ablackchick
03-14-2010, 09:46 PM
ugh seriously could that be anymore presumptuous and critical? i, for one, found the post funny as hell, but maybe that's my dark sense of humor. with a post like that sounds like anger management would be good for you if you're that quick to jump down her throat.
+1 I thought it was funny. There are a couple of ghetto ass ugly girls who I wouldn't mind running over in my car. I never would, but it is annoying when you have to be in the dressing room getting ready with idiots. Especially when they are UGLY idiots who THINK they are really good looking and feel the need to announce it all the damn time.
hot4ablackchick
03-14-2010, 09:48 PM
whatever lol
I think you may have missed the point of this thread.
OJenni!
03-15-2010, 09:00 AM
Girls come on, strong, confident not-needing-to-prove -anything dancers are great, those girls are not who we're talking about!
The focus of this thread is the IN YOUR FACE, "I'm so beautiful" deluded dancers.
Well it's not the "I'm so beautiful" that bothers me, but rather the, "I'm better then everyone else" that does.
There's one in every club. There is a lady in her late 20's that comes to mind in my club. She has that 80's style hair and cakes on the make-up, making her look more like 45 then 29. She is very self centred, rude to other dancers and has even told me that she is better then me and the "black chic". When infact, she barely makes any money and is often seen sitting alone at a table.
alphak87
03-15-2010, 10:26 AM
there are times i hope to hell that i'm not one of them.
OMG. This is a CONSTANT fear of mine! :shocking: lol
Although, confidence does go a long way in how other people view you- and working in clubs you get used to guys constantly complimenting you and swooning, etc.
But- Sometimes I wonder if I'm just fooling myself.
Maybe they just think I'm hot because they're men....And they're drunk...and horney.... (sigh).:boxedin:
Athenathefabulous
03-15-2010, 10:56 AM
Girls come on, strong, confident not-needing-to-prove -anything dancers are great, those girls are not who we're talking about!
The focus of this thread is the IN YOUR FACE, "I'm so beautiful" deluded dancers.
I think im super beautiful, but im not in your face to other dancers about it. although they might catch me staring at myself in the mirror a lot in the DR.
Now to the customers? Im very much so in their faces }:D.
she sells sanctuary
03-16-2010, 05:12 AM
I sometimes wonder.... Do you ever think these girls who are considered to be "ugly" just act hot and all that to get their confidence up? Maybe they want to feel like their something special by making others listen/believe it? Just to put a shield up and not think of their reality so they act in that sort of manner?
i think they were probably cute as kids, or had parents who thought they were cute kids. they probably spent their younger years getting their asses kissed. then they went to school and because of their primadonna attitude go their asses kissed some more and probably even bullied others.
they probably genuinely believe they are all that great. and if anybody contradicts that belief, they'll come up with excuses like jealousy and stuff.
For a sex partner, men tend to be more lax in their standards when it comes to their bed buddy. They raise when it comes to who they will actually DATE, like, in public. And raises still when it comes to who gets to meet and hang out with mom and dad. Are you familiar with the saying, " Women need a reason, men just need an opportunity"? Well, there's a lot of wisdom in it.
i'm really insecure. friends, family, and coworkers have tried to convince me that i'm attractive. and i can think maybe they're right. but at the end of the day, all i can get is guys trying to bang me, never date me, not even pretend to date me to bang me.
at work, sometimes i can't even talk to customers, because i only like to go up to one after i've caught his eye and he's looked back. and they avoid eye contact. and i feel like a monster. and it sucks.
then i try to fake confidence and hold my head up, and i worry that the girls i'm not friends with at work (who don't know how i am) will think i'm an arrogant fugly bitch who thinks she's hot.
so yeah...the girls y'all have talked about in here, you're hating on them cos they are deluded AND brag, right? i don't want to get hated on just for genuinely trying to feel a little better.
As for dancers who are delusional about their appearance, I figure it stems from customers (especially those with beer goggles) who are quick to tell any scantly clad or totally nude woman that she's beautiful especially if they think they have a shot at dating her.
it's so true.
Victoria669Jones
03-16-2010, 05:45 AM
People that know they're beautiful don't feel the need to go announcing it to everyone. I know I'm good looking, but I wouldn't dream of saying it to everyone. I mean why would you do that?
People that are insecure are generally the ones that go around trying to convince everyone that they're something they're not. It's pathetic really.
solenia
03-16-2010, 08:25 AM
ME ME ME ME ME ME ME ME ME!!! Cause my mommy told me I was..... :D
Rayna Skye
03-16-2010, 08:38 AM
Oh man I got a good one, but when you google me some of the stuff i say on this site pops up with my burlesque stuff. I'd hate for her to know, and this story she would know.
They say all the pretty girls think they are fat while the scary ones want to wear spandex and show off not knowing how unattractive they really are. lol
Now I had exes who thought they were the ideal image of perfection, but while no1 really is I can't say they weren't close cuz they were hott and knew it. Still the ego was rather unflattering at times.
Me personally I know either people find me attractive or not cuz my looks are more of an acquired taste then an idealized image of female beauty as I have too much edge and androgyny to ever represent that, but to each their own I still believe I'm hott shit and it get reinforced enough where I know I can be cocky about it. If others don't see it well then I just believe I'm not their type or vision of what attractive is.
I know I have my own vision of what attractive is and it's rather subjective, but can be pretty superficial when it come down to it. While I always can find something attractive about a woman as it's my belief that most are for my personal taste not many girls are all that as impressive as they might believe they are myself included. I just think sometimes when you work as a dancer for example more people tend to focus on your looks and after hearing your sexy all day it's hard for many to keep an objective self image.
I've met plenty of DROP DEAD GORGEOUS girls (google Crissy Hilton, perfect example of this) in Dallas, but their personalities were so ugly, meaning they were greedy, insecure, only concerned with their image and showing off, whiny, bitchy, stuck up, had no morals, not sweet at all, just UGLY, UGLY people on the inside, so after a few months of knowing them, I honestly no longer saw them as physically attractive. They repulsed me.
Now, on the other hand, I have met women who were nothing special, but after getting to know them, they were just physically gorgeous to me, their personalities really made them more attractive! Anyone else know what I'm talking about here? I don't know, I kind of think it pertains to the OP.
Avery90
03-17-2010, 02:00 AM
My grandma always says Its nice to be pretty but its even prettier to be nice. I believe this is so true,
MissMynxx
03-17-2010, 12:32 PM
Jesus CHrist! How about some anger management. It seems like it's you who has the problems, with some of the things you said. Scary
Um ... okay? I didn't say anything "scary" in that post. Perhaps you're missing something - anything said in my post that I guess may have come across as "scary" was sarcastic and for effect. Sometimes in large "packs", these types of girls who make life a living hell for you and those around you can conjure up some pretty ... interesting ideas.
I've never become violent with another dancer, and when a situation comes up - especially related to the types of girl being discussed in this thread - I have a long and established history of sitting at my little spot in the DR or on the floor, and looking at the girls like they're completely fucking retarded.
...which is exactly the look I'd be giving you. No need to be personally attacking here - it was a statement, and plenty of other girls are venting their frustrations. I don't come here to be judged.
princessjas
03-17-2010, 09:02 PM
I've met plenty of DROP DEAD GORGEOUS girls (google Crissy Hilton, perfect example of this) in Dallas, but their personalities were so ugly, meaning they were greedy, insecure, only concerned with their image and showing off, whiny, bitchy, stuck up, had no morals, not sweet at all, just UGLY, UGLY people on the inside, so after a few months of knowing them, I honestly no longer saw them as physically attractive. They repulsed me.
Now, on the other hand, I have met women who were nothing special, but after getting to know them, they were just physically gorgeous to me, their personalities really made them more attractive! Anyone else know what I'm talking about here? I don't know, I kind of think it pertains to the OP.
I know exactly what you are talking about here! I've met so many stunningly beautiful people, that after getting to know them and seeing they were not nice people, I just couldn't see what made me find them beautiful in the beginning...they look less attractive or sometimes flat out ugly. There've been just as many average people that I've come to find gorgeous after knowing there kind or fun nature for a bit. It honestly isn't just that I like them better because of their personality, it's like they actually visually look different to me after a bit (and no matter how hard I've tried, I can't ever see what they used to look like again). Weird, but true!
MarvelGirl
03-17-2010, 09:39 PM
I've met plenty of DROP DEAD GORGEOUS girls (google Crissy Hilton, perfect example of this) in Dallas, but their personalities were so ugly, meaning they were greedy, insecure, only concerned with their image and showing off, whiny, bitchy, stuck up, had no morals, not sweet at all, just UGLY, UGLY people on the inside, so after a few months of knowing them, I honestly no longer saw them as physically attractive. They repulsed me.
I had a roommate like that in the army. I thought she was gorgeous but after about a month she just looked like an ugly little troll because she was such a hateful and dirty person. I mean dirty literally as in wearing dirty underwear and stacking up half eaten bowls of cereal in the fridge for weeks, ugh.
It got to the point where I was surprised if someone said she was attractive because she had become so hideous to me.
femmefatale88
03-18-2010, 01:07 AM
Um ... okay? I didn't say anything "scary" in that post. Perhaps you're missing something - anything said in my post that I guess may have come across as "scary" was sarcastic and for effect. Sometimes in large "packs", these types of girls who make life a living hell for you and those around you can conjure up some pretty ... interesting ideas.
I've never become violent with another dancer, and when a situation comes up - especially related to the types of girl being discussed in this thread - I have a long and established history of sitting at my little spot in the DR or on the floor, and looking at the girls like they're completely fucking retarded.
...which is exactly the look I'd be giving you. No need to be personally attacking here - it was a statement, and plenty of other girls are venting their frustrations. I don't come here to be judged.
oh sorry i was really stoned when i was reading this thread lol. i should never post anything when high. i get a lil paranoid when i'm high. i didn't mean to be rude and i understand how u ladies feel about working with other girls, can sometimes be crazy.