View Full Version : My 6 yr. old devil....
Marilynxoxo
01-22-2010, 10:27 PM
Xiomara I'm glad it sounds like things are working out for you. I feel like some people have been WAY too harsh. You definitely didn't deserve it. I have a five year old son and I won't claim he is an angel or that I have been the perfect parent. He can have a wicked temper. He is worse with my parents then with me by far. I'm a traveling stripper by the way so they watch him while I'm working- it's the most stable life for him. My mom told me he started kicking her- I was horrified! I refuse to acknowledge or give into temper tantrums. I just firmly tell him "GO TO YOUR ROOM! Come out when you are calm". I won't talk to him until he is calm. He almost always apologizes. I think he knows just like I knew as a kid that my mom would cave to whatever I wanted. I don't think spanking is good but I applaud your firmness and willingness to seek help!
There was an article in some magazine or newspaper (I wish I could remember) that talked about young children with bipolar disorder. They interviewed super rich families from New York City that had kids that were out of control. These kids had the best of every thing and yet it was a mental condition. I'm not saying your daughter does have one but not everything is the parents fault. I really disagree with everyone that has blamed you or your living situation. It sounds like you are in a steady relationship with a nice guy. If people are criticizing you I've been a much worse parent by letting my sons dad have chance after chance to be involved in his life. He has let my kid down and stolen an X-box from him (I wasn't really sorry to see that thing go). He lost all respect for his dad and even told me I was fired if I spoke to him again. He is a smart boy. No one is perfect and parenting is hard. It really sounds like you are doing the best you can.
sxcbbw
01-22-2010, 10:28 PM
I agree with paris she may be depressed..
But I have to say when I saw the title I said "SOMESONE met my Ex's son!"
My ex has an autistic son and he got away with murder.. seriously! He was the worst child on the planet, so dont feel bad! I looked up every single thing on autisum and this kid was just COMPLETELY out of control!
Its all his parents fault, his mom was a middle school drop out, and just lets her kids run wild!
and his dad my ex, was just an idot all together!
ONCE my ex was like all (my devil) child eats is apple jack and I said umm he can eat something else cause Im not going to the store at 7AM for one kid when we have food..
WELL he (as in his dad) threw a fit so I went, when I came back the little BASTARD wouldnt eat them!! I wanted to KILL him!
after that EVERY single day his son would sleep in the living room cause he was TOO good to sleep in the guest bed in my kids room!! yea, so at 11 a clock I had to go in my room cause the bastard child could sleep, WHY the kid always went to sleep at 11 I have no fucing idea. BUT every morning the devil would scream At the TOP of his lungs "DADDY DADDy I want eggs" he screamed like this for a FUCing full hour, til his no good loser ass dad would get up.. he didnt want me to make him eggs but whatever..
the devil child would flip my kids plate over when it was full of food.. I saw him do it about 4 times!
My two kids who were 3 never EVER hit each other before til the devil child started hitting him!
There are worst kids out there.. just meet my exs son
...he's autistic. He can't exactly help that. He most likely has no idea whatsoever that what he is doing is wrong, or that his punishments are for that behaviour. Autism is comorbid with sensory disorders that prevent them from being able to taste/touch/hear/etc certain things without being in genuine pain. They cannot express themselves like normal children. Note, cannot, not will not. This leads to screaming for what they want, and venting frustration through hitting or shouting.
That's not anybody's fault. His mom and dad can work through it, and over a course of years improve his behaviour very slowly, but the fact he acts like this as it is isn't anyone's fault and conventional punishments will not work.
Xiomara
01-23-2010, 03:40 PM
Thank you, Marilyn....
And Autism is sad. Ive always heard about it, but never knew what it was until now.
Xiomara
02-01-2010, 09:12 AM
So we moved into the new house. Ahrie has calmed down I can see already after just yesterday and this morning. More room to play, and I dont have to stay on her about being quiet. I think being so crammed in the apt. and having to ssshhhhhh every 2 mnutes bcuz of the bish next door.... was stressin her and the rest of us out.
I think it will be better here. She is still going to see a pediatric psych this week. Feels weird sayin that,about my 6 yr. old... but I think Ahrie has some lil anger issues that I cant dig out alone. So we'll see. But living here will def. help I think!
Xiomara
02-22-2010, 09:12 AM
Been here in the new house almost a month, Ahrie has her own room and she just chills in there doin homework, reading, or watching Disney movie on my Netflix. She'll play outside for a whil with her sister, but she likes to have her own quiet time so it workss out for her hving her own personal space. She has only been in trouble a couple of times here, but Im pretty satisfied with her behavior here. Shes totally turned around.
Im happy. :)
papillonluvr
02-22-2010, 07:36 PM
Im so happy to hear your little devil is doing so much better! I know when I was younger, having my own space really chilled me out. I used to have to share a twin bed with my sis, and we were always going at it. As soon as we each how our own room, everything became very zen.
I hope it stays this way for you. :)