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charlie61
01-26-2010, 03:07 PM
i don't understand how you conclude that chris must not have regulars. only girls like your LD queen who kiss guys and put dudes' hands on her tits during their first dance can get an awesome reg like you huh?
QFT. I have tons of regulars, and I give strict airdances.
Some of us are hot AND can make money without prostituting ourselves.* Geeeniuus. ::)
*statement not meant to insult outside-of-club prostitutes
jack0177057
01-26-2010, 05:07 PM
i don't understand how you conclude that chris must not have regulars. only girls like your LD queen who kiss guys and put dudes' hands on her tits during their first dance can get an awesome reg like you huh?
Because she's comparing getting a LD to eating hot wings... With that attitude - that getting a LD is no more exciting or thrilling than eating spicey hot wings - I don't see how she can be successful at attracting regulars.
And, by the way,... I've had LDs from dancers that do a lot more than what C did - like undo my zipper and grab my dick (without me asking for any extras), and although that experience was pleasureable (I didn't ask for it, but I couldn't help liking it), I got more pleasure with C, who didn't do that.
C has been doing this for a long time and she has obviously mastered the skill of dancing and the art of seduction... She pushed every single one of my "turn-on" buttons (eroticism, sensuality, fantasy, attraction, etc.) in a way no other dancer has done. It was as if she could read my mind and know exactly what I wanted/needed.
I don't see why other dancers have to ridicule a custie for appreciating an exceptional dancer and imply that she is a prostitute... You guys are unbelievable!... This is supposed to be a dancer-friendly site?...
QFT. I have tons of regulars, and I give strict airdances.
Some of us are hot AND can make money without prostituting ourselves.* Geeeniuus.
*statement not meant to insult outside-of-club prostitutes
That's wonderful for you, but at least in Texas,... there are no airdance clubs that I'm aware of... Are you implying that any dancer who has some contact with her custies is a prostitute?... Frankly, I'm a little disappointed in you for making that comment.
mediocrity
01-26-2010, 05:09 PM
^^ Some of us, myself included, view kissing et al as acts of prostitution.
Jack, I'm glad you found a girl you like. Everyone else, I get why it boils your blood but remember- it's Houston.
Athenathefabulous
01-26-2010, 05:15 PM
^^yep i view kissing, beyond pecks on the cheek etc, as prostitutiton. Pecks on the cheek are ok in my book, especially since they are a customary form of greeting in lots of countries. but kissing on the lips with a parted mouth as you described, i consider to be prostittution.
and if i was in a commited relationship with affection as you described, and my SO went to the titty bar and started kissing a stripper, i would be pissed. and im generally speaking not the type to get angry when im in a relationship, im actually very mellow. but IMO, kissing another chick, stripper or not, is cheating.
mediocrity
01-26-2010, 05:19 PM
^^ For all my leniency Athena, I completely agree with you. I would flip my shit, but for multiple reasons.
jack0177057
01-26-2010, 05:30 PM
^^^ I agree with you guys, I'm used to kissing on the cheek, etc,... not the lips (though it's happened a couple of times),... and definitely, not making out...
With C, it just happened once or twice (quick little kisses) towards the end of our encounter... I think it was just because I was very excited with the dance and she could see that,... so maybe it was the way to complete the fantasy and say good bye. (It was a "girl-friend experience" type of dance with lots of eye-contact, slow sensual moves, etc... so the kiss was a little part of the fantasy.)
By the way,... I've been with my GF on-again and off-again, for a long time (and this time we're probably together for good)... We have a very loving and solid relationship, but the little butterflies in the stomach are long gone and replaced with something stronger... Anyhow, getting a little of those butterflies from my interaction with C is only a fantasy,... my relationship with my GF is not threatened in any way.
mediocrity
01-26-2010, 06:54 PM
^^ Yeah, but if J kissed another chick behind my back... ooof. Things would get UGLY, quickly. I don't know what the parameters of your relationship are, but as lax as I am, I would classify that as lying.
laurcon
01-26-2010, 07:20 PM
Because she's comparing getting a LD to eating hot wings... With that attitude - that getting a LD is no more exciting or thrilling than eating spicey hot wings - I don't see how she can be successful at attracting regulars.
And, by the way,... I've had LDs from dancers that do a lot more than what C did - like undo my zipper and grab my dick (without me asking for any extras), and although that experience was pleasureable (I didn't ask for it, but I couldn't help liking it), I got more pleasure with C, who didn't do that.
C has been doing this for a long time and she has obviously mastered the skill of dancing and the art of seduction... She pushed every single one of my "turn-on" buttons (eroticism, sensuality, fantasy, attraction, etc.) in a way no other dancer has done. It was as if she could read my mind and know exactly what I wanted/needed.
I don't see why other dancers have to ridicule a custie for appreciating an exceptional dancer and imply that she is a prostitute... You guys are unbelievable!... This is supposed to be a dancer-friendly site?...
yes dancer-friendly, not PL friendly. you can brag about how amazing your lap dance was all you want, that doesn't mean we have to care or agree with you.
and i really don't think chris thinks a lapdance is just like a hot wing, i think she was only pointing out how you're acting all crazy over a professional's product. her job is to give lap dances, and in 14yrs of doing it, she's become good at it apparently. i just don't understand the point of this whole thread. you can't really be confused about how to buy a product.
but congrats on the amazing lap dances you've been receiving, once again. ::)
Jessie_tinydancer
01-26-2010, 07:23 PM
^^yep i view kissing, beyond pecks on the cheek etc, as prostitutiton. Pecks on the cheek are ok in my book, especially since they are a customary form of greeting in lots of countries. but kissing on the lips with a parted mouth as you described, i consider to be prostittution.
and if i was in a commited relationship with affection as you described, and my SO went to the titty bar and started kissing a stripper, i would be pissed. and im generally speaking not the type to get angry when im in a relationship, im actually very mellow. but IMO, kissing another chick, stripper or not, is cheating.
I also have to agree with this. I would not be happy if girls I work with are kissing guys on the mouth. I also would not be happy if my man was getting kisses from a stripper. I have an open relationship, but would still not be cool with it unless I was asked in advance. I know to you Jack it seems harmless and just an addition to the fantasy, but I think your GF would see things differently. Would you be ok with her meeting some guy for drinks and getting cuddles and a kiss on the mouth because the butterflies are gone? I'm not judging you or saying to stop, but just think about why you justify your actions and decide if thats what you want to do.
charlie61
01-26-2010, 08:14 PM
I don't see why other dancers have to ridicule a custie for appreciating an exceptional dancer and imply that she is a prostitute... You guys are unbelievable!... This is supposed to be a dancer-friendly site?...
That's wonderful for you, but at least in Texas,... there are no airdance clubs that I'm aware of... Are you implying that any dancer who has some contact with her custies is a prostitute?... Frankly, I'm a little disappointed in you for making that comment.
Frankly, I don't care if you're a little disappointed in me.
Pretty sure you said in the OP that she was giving you extras. You'd be pissed too if you owned a business, were trying to operate it lawfully, and everyone else was getting away with breaking the law.
I hear they give even better dances in the parking lot.
^ The parking lot is too weird even for me. RR is not that expensive and much more comfortable.
FBR
mediocrity
01-26-2010, 08:55 PM
^^ Have to say I'm a little surprised hearing that inflammatory comment come from a moderator.
^ Med I am surprised that you are surprised and didn't get my point. My point was that is that if things happen (and we know that they do every once in a while) it is best to take it totally off site. And my comment was not inflammatory.
FBR
charlie61
01-26-2010, 09:11 PM
I will also mention, Jack, that I am nearly always very objective when listening to blue members' experiences with extras ITC. What set me off is that you claim to not understand why it might piss off the pink members that you started a thread about how incredible this extras dancer's dances are.
Your "exceptional dancer" is, by law, a prostitute. I have no problem with prostitutes. I do have problems with women coming into strip clubs and breaking the law.
chris91
01-27-2010, 02:11 AM
Lol... The hot wings are giving you a hard-on?
So,... you're implying that dancers are just like chicken wings - just a piece of meat to enjoy and then discard,... and not get too excited about... I'm glad a blue didn't say that... I take it you don't have very many regulars.
No, I am not implying that you should enjoy your dancers with a side of blue cheese dressing. And no, I don't have many regulars. They annoy me with their cheapness and constant professions of love.
My point was that, like a pizza hut manager doesn't care if you like the wings or not as long as you pay, the dancer doesn't care if you think she is the best. She only cares if you pay.
Plus, I thought it would be funny. And it was.
chris91
01-27-2010, 02:25 AM
I don't see why other dancers have to ridicule a custie
You're not a custie. You're some dude on stripperweb. If you'd like me to agree with everything you say and stroke your ego, it will be $500 per hour. I accept Paypal, cash, and Harrah's casino chips.
hockeybobby
01-27-2010, 03:28 AM
^^^Haha good one
Christyismyalias
01-27-2010, 03:48 AM
^Agree.
This thread is great! I've enjoyed it very much. :)
Jack~Glad you found a dancer you like, enjoy her and have fun!!
I agree with Charlie~ I have regulars and give airdances as well.. Maybe in Texas that's not common, but in many other places in the country contact is not a requirement and we can still make great money.
And I think the point of the prostitution comment wasn't to put down the dancer, b/c like you said, this is a dancer friendly site, but that when girls give extras they are no longer a "dancer" and they are blurring the lines of the entertainment that we try to provide for our customers.
jack0177057
01-27-2010, 10:19 AM
you can brag about how amazing your lap dance was all you want, that doesn't mean we have to care or agree with you.
If I sounded like I was “bragging” - that was not my intention... I wouldn’t brag about something I’m paying for... I only intended to express how erotic she was...
Maybe, I have approached this thread the wrong way or expressed myself bad - the questions is simply this: I met a dancer that I really like (in a custie-dancer way) and I want to let her know that I appreciate her very much and that she’s my fav, but I don’t want to be creepy. (Yes - I’ve allowed myself to get a little “creepy” here, I admit it,... but better here than in the SC.)
Pretty sure you said in the OP that she was giving you extras. You'd be pissed too if you owned a business, were trying to operate it lawfully, and everyone else was getting away with breaking the law.
There are extras that are commonplace here (like a dancer rubbing her tits on the custies face, rubbing her leg over his dick, touching him over his clothes, pulling his hands to her breasts, etc.) and then there are the happy ending extras... She did not give me a handjob, blowjob or have sex with me... I would consider the happy ending extras to be prostitution (without passing moral judgment on it)... Every dancer in that club does what C did, she just did it way better.
On reflection, I can now see why a thread that was intended to express my appreciation for the erotic art of dancers, has offended some of you... I guess you're interpreting my excitement for this dancer as suggesting that I'm only excited about C because of all the extras she gave me... That's not the case. I've gotten more unsolicited extras from other dancers and did not feel any desire to go see them again... Even without extras, C was a very exciting dancer... She had the ability to create a lot of excitement and "chemistry"... For the first time ever,... I understood why some men buy dancers jewelry and cars... She had that kind of power... (Not saying I intend to buy her anything.)
I'm not going to lie, I enjoyed the "extras",... but, that's not the only thing I enjoyed about the dance... Even without any extras, she'd still be my fav... She was just a genuinely nice and positive person. For example, in my convo with dancers, I usually ask them about the club and the other dancers there, and they usually have very negative things to say, like calling the other dancers prostitutes (yes, I know, ironic)... But, C had nothing negative to say about anybody...
No, I am not implying that you should enjoy your dancers with a side of blue cheese dressing. And no, I don't have many regulars. They annoy me with their cheapness and constant professions of love.
My point was that, like a pizza hut manager doesn't care if you like the wings or not as long as you pay, the dancer doesn't care if you think she is the best. She only cares if you pay.
Plus, I thought it would be funny. And it was.
Yeah, it was funny... I'll give you that.
JayATee
01-27-2010, 01:35 PM
Because she's comparing getting a LD to eating hot wings... With that attitude - that getting a LD is no more exciting or thrilling than eating spicey hot wings - I don't see how she can be successful at attracting regulars.
Again, are you really this dense??
You're not a custie. You're some dude on stripperweb. If you'd like me to agree with everything you say and stroke your ego, it will be $500 per hour. I accept Paypal, cash, and Harrah's casino chips.
I am officially in love you. ;)
Jack - Try and see this from our pov. How many threads are there like this? How many times have you responded to threads like this? And now you're here with your own thread acting like a child and like you haven't been here (on this site) forever and already know everything that's been said in this thread bc it's been said 1000x's. I mean really. What were you expecting exactly?
laurcon
01-27-2010, 03:57 PM
Even without extras, C was a very exciting dancer... She had the ability to create a lot of excitement and "chemistry"... For the first time ever,... I understood why some men buy dancers jewelry and cars... She had that kind of power... (Not saying I intend to buy her anything.)
you should have just said this a long time ago. that's actually nice and understandable.
but then i love the not saying you intend to buy her anything part, how sweet.
i just feel that some newbies might be trying to figure out how to give the best lap dance and think they have to put a guys hands on her and kiss them.
KS_Stevia
01-27-2010, 04:44 PM
Ladies, calm down!
If Jack is indeed in Houston, then the dances he got were mild to average, in comparison with the norm in that town. Sorry if you don't like it, I don't like it, but its the way things are in that town. Boobies in the face, and pecks on the lips aren't considered an extra down there, since 90% of the girls do it.
Almost Jaded
01-28-2010, 07:05 PM
What an interesting thread to stumble upon specifically at this moment in time. I can identify with Jack in numerous ways just now that I never would have before.
I have spent the last 5 days in SoCal on business. Tuesday night, making our way from Long Beach to Riverside down the 91 at rush hour, my partner and I decided to break away from the 10 mph parking lot that was the freeway and see some boobies, then get back on the road when traffic let up.
And both he and I - old hats in SC's around Vegas - left there wide-eyed and with much lighter wallets then we intended, lol. Without going into his experience, I'll divulge mine.
Same as Jacks, without any kissing.
I called MM as soon as I got back to the car and told her I was in total shock in a good way and that I'd just had bar none the BEST lad dance EVER at some little club I'd never heard of from a girl that wasn't really my type. It was amazing. And judging on what I saw in there, plus what she told me, plus my partners experience, I'd say it was more or less par for the course for that club as far as (A LOT OF) contact and whatnot.
I intended to sit for an hour, and spend <$100, figuring $40-$50 in stage tips and maybe a dance or two if the mood struck. Spent maybe $20 on stage tips before 1 $20 dance led to a 3 for $40 led to a VIP led to one last 3 for $40 - plus tips - before I literally FORCED myself out of there, lol. And my partner, who also intended to keep our little break to <$100, ended up with 2 VIP's. Between the two of us we dropped close to a grand and got out after 10 pm instead of 7, lol.
I will probably hit that spot at least once every time I'm down there in hopes that she's working that night, lol.
laurcon
01-29-2010, 03:25 PM
I intended to sit for an hour, and spend <$100, figuring $40-$50 in stage tips and maybe a dance or two if the mood struck. Spent maybe $20 on stage tips before 1 $20 dance led to a 3 for $40 led to a VIP led to one last 3 for $40 - plus tips - before I literally FORCED myself out of there, lol. And my partner, who also intended to keep our little break to <$100, ended up with 2 VIP's. Between the two of us we dropped close to a grand and got out after 10 pm instead of 7, lol.
I will probably hit that spot at least once every time I'm down there in hopes that she's working that night, lol.
okay well, seeing as your on a board for dancers, care to share with us how this girl was able to get you to drop so much more money and time than you planned? that would actually be useful to us.
how often did she suggest doing more dances or going to VIP? was it you that initiated these things? did she have to sell you on anything? did she say anything good that we could use? like that's great that you guys got great dances with a lot of contact, but is there anything the rest of us can get out of your story?
and glad to hear you tipped the girl, cause doing 7 dances for $100 blows in my book.
laurcon
01-29-2010, 03:31 PM
I called MM as soon as I got back to the car and told her I was in total shock in a good way and that I'd just had bar none the BEST lad dance EVER at some little club I'd never heard of from a girl that wasn't really my type. It was amazing. And judging on what I saw in there, plus what she told me, plus my partners experience, I'd say it was more or less par for the course for that club as far as (A LOT OF) contact and whatnot.
sorry but i'm just totally confused as to what "A LOT OF contact" is? you touched her pussy or something?
Almost Jaded
01-29-2010, 04:52 PM
Nothing blatantly sexual, not like that.
I didn't tip her as well as I usually do 'cuz I was already WAY over budget and I just made a down payment on a house. The VIP was $125 (house takes $25, I asked), + 7 total songs besides the VIP (1 $20 dance and 2 3-for-$40 specials, house got a total of $20 from that) for another hundo, I tipped her a total of $50 or so above all that plus a couple of ladies drinks and a few bucks on stage. She made over $200 off me in a couple hours. Normally I tip much more heavily than that, and like I said, I apologized repeatedly for the moderate tips (totalled just under $100 in tips for those dances). Also, the 6 for $125 was their highest VIP special, they didn't offer 1/2 hour or hour VIP's there (much to my dismay, lol).
ANyway...
The clubs I'm used to are "high contact" in that grinding and contact in general is the norm. I am ABSOLUTELY a hands-off, let her do her thing type in VIP. When a dancer informs me that some "hands-on" contact is acceptable, I will play along, albiet usually very little.
This girl let me know that in this club, if a guy keeps his hands completely off, the girls worry that he's not enjoying himself, and PLACED my hands on her hips/ass/abdomen. Over the course of the dance, she stated that she liked me as a customer, and requested that I feel free to get "a little more aggressive with my hands". I immediately told her that I was not able to tip more for such allowances, and kept y hands where the were. She leaned back over me from my lap with her back to me, grabbed my hands, shoved them under her bikini top, and told me she would really like it if I showed how much I liked her dance. I kept my groping to a minimum, but didn't give her further reason to protest, either, lol.
She also grabbed my erection (on top of pants, no inside zipper crap) and rubbed it/stroked it several times - very aggressively - during the first session, util I told her that that wasn't my thing and it actually distracted me from enjoying the dance. She looked at me like I was crazy and said that was a shame, but stopped (mostly). Once more during teh VIP she got her hand there again underneath her but when grinding and told me she was doing it for her and not me and to deal with it for a few seconds, lol.
All this on top of good conversation and fun interaction.
As for how she sold me... Hmm. Really, just good conversation and aggressive sales, lol. All the girls there were impressive hustlers, much more aggressive and on the ball than many of the clubs here. They were not dissuaded when the saw me turn down other girls, and would come chat and offer dances one after the other regardless of my actions. This girl had a BEAUTIFUL and exotic face that got my attention, and that plus her conversation skills won meover despite her almost full sleeve tats (I don't mind ink at all, but I'm not into it either) and her very large fake breasts (which I can't stand). She was pleasant and fun, offered dances continually without being too high-pressure, and was just all around good at what she did.
She also sold me the line about she was enjoying her time as much as I was. This is actually a sticking point with me, something that's come up in other threads before. I know this is a hustle, and that's fine - but some girls over do it and that annoys me. On the other handm I hate it when they're "all business" and come off as cold or distant. This girl balanced that all very well.
All told, I would have been jst as taken with her without the high contact and hands-on type dance (since I'm not usually like that anyway). But she made breaking that rule a fun part of the experience, which mattered more than the actual contact.
That better?
laurcon
01-29-2010, 05:56 PM
^ much better, thanks dude! :)
KS_Stevia
01-29-2010, 08:08 PM
They don't "worry" about the customer enjoying himself, they just know the status quo for contact and if a custy isn't keeping up with a moderate level of expectation, they want to see if he can be pursuaded to keep spending.
Sometimes, working in high contact clubs, I've had guys not touch, and sit back with sad face. After the dance, I'd ask them why, they said they weren't happy. They were obviously the types that read about all the whoring in the SC, on the internet forums, and thought it just happened like magic.
So, having worked in a high contact club with a lot of these types, sometimes a girl will take some initiative because she can keep the bullshit going a little long until guy realizes he is never going to get his dick sucked.
Not saying that you aren't a gentleman about these things, A.J. Just sharing my experiences in high contact clubs.
Almost Jaded
01-30-2010, 01:06 PM
No offense taken. I personally am leery of actual sexual contact in a club, as I've known a few dancers who offered those services and they were, to be blunt, nasty as hell. I've had a couple of girls with whom I was a longer-term regular who got a little friskier than normal when I'd been coming around a while, but still nothing blatantly sexual. One girl would brush her lips against mine, which she knew drove me insane, lol.
About the 'worst' I can fess up to is a dancer that - after a well-established period of me being in there and patronizing her - would get VERY aroused and sexual during our VIP's, and told me repeatedly that she wished she could fuck me back there. I thought it was typical SS, but it got to the point where she would openly masturbate during our sessions (which frankly I found unbelievably hot). I told her all the time that such behavior was not necessary to bring me back, and she was very insistent that she knew that and to shut up and enjoy myself and let her do the same. During one of these sessions when we were both in quite a state, she fingered herself to orgasm and stuck her fingers in my mouth afterward. That is something that - while REALLY hot to me - I would NEVER allow most girls to do! In this case, I knew enough about her and had spent enough time with her that it didn't worry me or gross me out. She was a little embarrassed about it the next time I saw her but also confided that she didn't regret that session one bit. This dancer is known for not only NOT bing an extras girl, but being vicious to the girls that were, and shes been in that same club for 4 years.
Jessie_tinydancer
01-30-2010, 08:07 PM
^no offence, but ewww
laurcon
01-30-2010, 10:28 PM
I thought it was typical SS, but it got to the point where she would openly masturbate during our sessions (which frankly I found unbelievably hot). I told her all the time that such behavior was not necessary to bring me back
Playing with yourself for a guy is typical CR activity. Guys love it, it kills time, they're not touching us, we get to lie on our back and not dance, its pretty much a win all around.
But keep telling yourself she couldn't contain herself ::)
During one of these sessions when we were both in quite a state, she fingered herself to orgasm and stuck her fingers in my mouth afterward. That is something that - while REALLY hot to me - I would NEVER allow most girls to do! In this case, I knew enough about her and had spent enough time with her that it didn't worry me or gross me out.
Yes this part would be considered "extra." :-\
^ in bold
Almost Jaded
01-31-2010, 02:57 AM
Yes this part would be considered "extra."
Yeah, that would be an extra, lol. And as I stated, that's by far the biggest "extra" I've ever been party too (or care to, lol).
But keep telling yourself she couldn't contain herself
I don't know how this was intended, but it came off as a bit rude. I'm not stupid, lol. On the other hand, I can usually tell if a girl is in to me or not. I didn't jump to the conclusion that she was, but I also realized a distinct difference in her behavior toward me and that of most dancers when they pretend to be. It doesn't matter, just saying for the record. Also for the record, I'm lucky in that I do attract more than my fair share of attention from ladies in general, and can separate an honest compliment from a fake one most of the time. Hell, if it's ALWAYS fake ITC, please explain my current engagement, LMAO!
laurcon
01-31-2010, 09:57 AM
i'm only saying that her masturbation means nothing because it is quite common and it is typical "SS." i'm sure it was real in your case though.
and who ever said it was ALWAYS fake? you can meet someone you really like in the club, but if you really like him, generally you go out on a date with said fellow and not just shove your pussy juice-covered fingers into his mouth.
unless i'm wrong and that story is about MM and that's how she got you to pop the question? ;)
Almost Jaded
01-31-2010, 11:12 AM
i'm sure it was real in your case though.
See, it's these snarky little add-ons that you just can't resist throwing in that befuddle me. I've never been anything but completely honest and helpful on these boards, yet you have to jab at me as you would a newbie troll or a Cyril or an Earl.
nd who ever said it was ALWAYS fake? you can meet someone you really like in the club, but if you really like him, generally you go out on a date with said fellow and not just shove your pussy juice-covered fingers into his mouth.
unless i'm wrong and that story is about MM and that's how she got you to pop the question?
More of the same, and just plain insulting. I dunno what I did to deserve your sarcastic ire, but I'll stop replying now.
charlie61
01-31-2010, 11:36 AM
I'm closing the thread. Feel free to start another thread about the topic that is now being discussed, but I think the trajectory has deviated too strongly from the OP...and it will only continue unraveling.