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bem401
03-15-2010, 06:36 AM
Will this do?

It was a response to an attack on me. It attacked that which you said or she said. It was not a subject I introduced. I've never been the one to turn any of these discussions into personal attacks of any sort.



She's not saying you can't BEM, she is saying that the rest of us can if we want to.

All we (KS and myself at least) are doing here is responding to your narrow minded view of women, dancers, strip clubs and friendship.

My narrow-minded view? Why, because I've moved or been moved out of the customer classification, where my friends (for the most part) and I have decided that paying them to provide me sexual thrills is over the line for us?

bem401
03-15-2010, 06:50 AM
That's bullshit. I've never known of a club to ban a paying customer over stripper drama. Like, really, the clubs care about getting their cover charge/drink quota above their dancers.

I honestly cannot believe this with the amount of information you have given me. It makes zero sense.

Believe what you will. It's the absolute truth. The girl was the club's biggest earner because of one customer, who had walked away. Her drinking took over. I did the prudent thing IMO by taking the action I did. Her "friends" didn't like the fact they got ratted out, so they tried to get even. So be it. BTW, I've made absolutely no effort of any kind to reverse this. I'd be able to return whenever I want but I have no incentive to go there. I have a handful of friends at my usual club, all in their late 30's at least, all talking about hanging it up asap. Once they're successful, I seriously doubt I'll even bother going there at all.

yoda57us
03-15-2010, 10:31 AM
It was a response to an attack on me. It attacked that which you said or she said. It was not a subject I introduced. I've never been the one to turn any of these discussions into personal attacks of any sort.

lol, you asked, I answered...


My narrow-minded view? Why, because I've moved or been moved out of the customer classification, where my friends (for the most part) and I have decided that paying them to provide me sexual thrills is over the line for us?

BEM, no one cares what you do or don't do with your friends. Your definition of what you are to them means nothing to anyone here. We could care less. Your laughable insistence on trying to claim moral superiority inside a strip club is what is at issue here. Keep it up though, it's entertaining reading....

charlie61
03-15-2010, 12:13 PM
Because I was recently attacked for cleaning up a thread that was heading in the same direction, I'm just going to leave this one alone. Looks like things are workin' out reaaaalllly well that way. /:O

Hopper
03-16-2010, 03:59 AM
I wouldn't attack you.

bem401
03-16-2010, 07:16 AM
BEM, no one cares what you do or don't do with your friends. Your definition of what you are to them means nothing to anyone here. We could care less. Your laughable insistence on trying to claim moral superiority inside a strip club is what is at issue here. Keep it up though, it's entertaining reading....

I never claimed moral superiority. I never even used the words "moral" or "superior". For some reason, you just don't like the direction in which some of my interactions have headed (and not at my insistence) and that causes you to keep bringing them up.

I just said that my information told me that most(?) girls don't think particularly highly of the married guys who habituate the clubs. It had nothing to do with you or me. You caused the thread to crash and burn by personalizing things.

yoda57us
03-16-2010, 09:39 AM
I never claimed moral superiority. I never even used the words "moral" or "superior". For some reason, you just don't like the direction in which some of my interactions have headed (and not at my insistence) and that causes you to keep bringing them up.

Um, I could care less about the "direction" that any of your interactions have taken BEM. Moreover, I would challenge you to find a post anywhere on this site where I said I had a problem with you being friends with any dancer or called you a liar the way that many others on this board have. How your dancer acquaintances spend their time at work is their business, not mine.

I think you are however suffering from some sort of delusional memory loss here. I never bring up anything having to do with your club relationships. Why on earth would I do that? It's boring and off topic most of the time.

Honestly this whole thread derailment BS is meaningless. It's a message board. Threads go off topic all over the place on a very regular basis. Who the fuck cares? If someone in authority wants to close it, crop it or have it friggin dry cleaned I could care less. As long as people post opinions there will be off topic posts and thread derailments and as long as you keep bringing up irrelevant BS and claiming superiority over strippers and customers simply because you don't spend money BEM I will keep calling you on it...

bem401
03-18-2010, 07:51 AM
Honestly this whole thread derailment BS is meaningless. It's a message board. Threads go off topic all over the place on a very regular basis. Who the fuck cares? If someone in authority wants to close it, crop it or have it friggin dry cleaned I could care less. As long as people post opinions there will be off topic posts and thread derailments and as long as you keep bringing up irrelevant BS and claiming superiority over strippers and customers simply because you don't spend money BEM I will keep calling you on it...

First off, I didn't criticize the derailment, though I'm quite bored by it myself. I commented initially strictly on what the OP asked. The irrelevant BS wasn't brought in by me, but I'm not about to allow myself to be the target of it either.

I claimed no superiority over anyone (like I said in a prior post) because I'm neither a stripper nor anyone's customer any longer. I was once every bit the customer you portray yourself as but my interaction with certain girls just outgrew that and I'm happier with what has replaced it. Most people would be. More often than not, the end to the dancer/customer thing was initiated by them.

yoda57us
03-18-2010, 09:25 AM
Blah blah blah, you sound like a broken record BEM. They got tired of trying to get money out of you. It's just that simple...

I am the one saying that you are claiming superiority BEM. It is my opinion. You don't have to use any particular words for me to form that opinion. It is apparent in every post you make here.

If you are bored you can always just stop posting to the thread.

bem401
03-19-2010, 07:01 AM
Blah blah blah, you sound like a broken record BEM. They got tired of trying to get money out of you. It's just that simple...

I am the one saying that you are claiming superiority BEM. It is my opinion. You don't have to use any particular words for me to form that opinion. It is apparent in every post you make here.

If you are bored you can always just stop posting to the thread.

Tired of trying to get money out of me? More often than not, it was the dancers who pulled the plug on dances. I guess they didn't want to lump me in with the over-the-hill married losers who drive 50 miles each way to pay them a modest sum for their attention for years on end. And I'll be honest, I was initially briefly disappointed to see the dances stop in some of the cases.

Your thinking I'm claiming superiority is more likely you feeling inferiority. Only you would know why.

Let's end the thread. We can finish the discussion next time I see you in town.

yoda57us
03-19-2010, 09:17 AM
Tired of trying to get money out of me? More often than not, it was the dancers who pulled the plug on dances.

Which would back up what I just said...


I guess they didn't want to lump me in with the over-the-hill married losers who drive 50 miles each way to pay them a modest sum for their attention for years on end.

Either that or they got tired of your "do you want me to buy a dance or do you want me to buy you a drink" approach. Most girls get tired of games pretty quickly and just move on to guys that actually spend money without playing head games.

Now, is the word "loser" your word or theirs? I mean, since you are claiming no moral superiority over customers you really wouldn't want to be so judgmental...would you?



And I'll be honest, I was initially briefly disappointed to see the dances stop in some of the cases.

Your money is green BEM and you are in a strip club practically every day. It shouldn't be that hard to find a lap dance.


Your thinking I'm claiming superiority is more likely you feeling inferiority. Only you would know why.

LOL, if anything reading your drivel is an ego boost for me BEM. I feel superior every time I finish reading one of your posts.
You can try to twist your unwarranted superiority complex around any way you like BEM. The fact remains that we are talking about strippers and strip clubs here. Strippers dance and customers pay. Any other guy in the club is just in the way.


Let's end the thread. We can finish the discussion next time I see you in town.

Lol, BEM, I banned you from my email box because I was tired of you indiscreet gossip mongering. Why on earth would I want to subject myself to it in person? I don't go to strip clubs looking for male companionship. In my experience most guys who approach other customers in strip clubs have a screw loose on some level or another...

You wanna stop the thread? Don't respond.

bem401
03-22-2010, 08:01 AM
Either that or they got tired of your "do you want me to buy a dance or do you want me to buy you a drink" approach. Most girls get tired of games pretty quickly and just move on to guys that actually spend money without playing head games.

Now, is the word "loser" your word or theirs? I mean, since you are claiming no moral superiority over customers you really wouldn't want to be so judgmental...would you?

I've not once ever used that approach with any girl in any club. The interaction just went to a place other than dancer/customer where I was no longer viewed as "just a customer". like you. I know you can't grasp that being you, but try.

The word "loser" is both their word and my word and I'm not claiming any moral superiority. I'm just not as desperate for attention as some.



Your money is green BEM and you are in a strip club practically every day. It shouldn't be that hard to find a lap dance.

I'm in one club once or twice a week for an hour or two each time. I could find all the dances I wanted if I wanted them, though not from the girls I'm friendly with and with whom I'm spending my time.



LOL, if anything reading your drivel is an ego boost for me BEM. I feel superior every time I finish reading one of your posts.
You can try to twist your unwarranted superiority complex around any way you like BEM. The fact remains that we are talking about strippers and strip clubs here. Strippers dance and customers pay. Any other guy in the club is just in the way.

You are a superior customer, no doubt. I was actually offended when described as a customer by one girl before we became friends back when I outspent you. Realizing I was primarily viewed as a source of money to her did not make me feel good. Apparently you revel in that.

In the way? I always get out of the way of guys who travel a long way to pay for the attention they need. The girls are content to hang with me till a Benjamin or two in the pocket of some custy like yourself enters the club. Nowhere in my life am I willing to pay someone money to pretend I'm of interest to them. Why would anyone want to bask in the attention they're only able to get by forking over money?



I don't go to strip clubs looking for male companionship. In my experience most guys who approach other customers in strip clubs have a screw loose on some level or another...

You wanna stop the thread? Don't respond.

You think I'm offering you male companionship? Those clubs are on the other side of town. LOL. I'm going to keep my eyes open for you though.

If I have any screws loose, its because I once thought you to be more normal than you proved to be. Then I read how you were stunned to be invited to a club when you had no money for the girl, how you were accused of soliciting a common acquaintance for OTC, etc, etc etc, and I that gave me insight I initially lacked. You are 'just a customer" who social life revolves around paying for attention.

charlie61
03-22-2010, 10:12 AM
Are you guys seriously having a dick size competition over how much money you spend in SC's?

KS_Stevia
03-22-2010, 05:52 PM
No, Bem is bragging about his invisible money cock, because he DOESN'T spend, and this one particular club has not yet banned him. He thinks that gives him bragging rights somehow, because no one has forcibly ejected him from spending hours a week sitting in a club without paying.

FBR
03-22-2010, 06:22 PM
I would like to play in the competition but I have a beenie weinee. What is to become of me? ;)

FBR

charlie61
03-22-2010, 06:23 PM
^LOL. I've never heard that phrase. Fabulous.

FBR
03-22-2010, 07:04 PM
^LOL. I've never heard that phrase. Fabulous.

charlie I bet you are vegan :P A beenie weinee is one of those tiny little hot dogs about the size of your pinkie finger. Sad to say that is me ::)

Having said that, this thread has run it's course. Thank you all for your participation.

FBR