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SweetJulia
10-09-2014, 07:05 AM
I've made a shitload of money in the past few weeks, so I bought some leopard print stuff and pole dancing classes.

hamdinger
10-09-2014, 04:07 PM
My husband took me out to dinner last night. We got all dressed up and everything and I accidentally got drunk on sake. He spent all night talking about the first time we met and how beautiful I am. <3 I'm glad things are getting better between us and he's making an effort. I really hope the move to Wisconsin works out.

This is such a sweet confession :) I'm in Milwaukee. Let me know if you have any questions about the area. Good luck!

I have spent my whole day scouring SW and calculating (the impossible calculation of) whether I can afford to quit teaching and start stripping, when I should have been reading for school. Now I'm looking at a really late night.

Aniela
10-09-2014, 06:33 PM
I'm in a raging depression right now over my ex. I wanted nothing more than for him to call tonite, but I have nothing good to say to him. The things he's said & done don't have me questioning just this past yr, but doubting just abt everything over most, if not all, of the time we have known each other. That's almost six yrs, & I can no longer say for certain that it wasn't mostly just lies on his part. I just want to hurt him the way he's spent most of this past yr hurting me, I want him to feel like an absolute piece of shit & have him come down here & beg forgiveness on his fkng knees -- at the same time I am afraid that if I opened up w/ both barrels it will push him to do smtg he can't take back.

lol1337a
10-10-2014, 01:18 AM
......

GlamourRouge
10-10-2014, 01:43 AM
OMG little girls selling chocolate bars outside grocery stores. There is absolutely NO WAY to say no. Its like taking candy from a baby. Literally.

audrey_k
10-10-2014, 06:38 AM
Last night my boyfriend and I were talking about work, and he suggested that if I'm stressed about making enough money that I should come and live with him. He said he had been thinking about it for a few days but was afraid to bring it up since we've only been dating for two and a half months now. He said he knows he wants to be with me every day anyway and that he likes me and is more comfortable around me that he's ever been with anyone else. I know he doesn't want me to escort anymore and he doesn't really like the idea of dancing. I'm not sure how I feel about dancing anymore, I honestly didn't have the energy to defend it to him... I don't know if I really could right now. A part of me misses it but then another part of me feels like I'm going to have an anxiety attack at just the thought of auditioning and I just don't want to go back to the stress and the ups and downs. He wants me find a regular job that I like and is basically offering to pay all the bills and whatnot so I don't have to worry.

I'm torn, on the one hand I love being around him, we spend 5/6 out of 7 nights together anyway, I think he's amazing and feel so connected to him after such a short time. I don't know what it is about him, but I just feel so comfortable around him, like I've known him forever, and I love the idea of getting to go to bed with him every night and wake up with him every morning. I love that I'm finally dating someone who's mature, successful, emotionally available, fun, sexy/good-looking, and great in bed. But another part of me feels like it's too soon, and what if things go wrong? I worked so hard to find this place, I don't want to throw it away just to find out we can't stand living together. But then another part of me feels trapped in this place, the rent is so high I'm stuck working a sex-worker job, which I haven't felt happy doing for a while now. We both agreed we would wait until the end of the month, I need to save up anyway, I'm thinking perhaps we should try living together for a couple weeks and see how it goes? I don't know.

Kellydancer
10-10-2014, 09:34 AM
Audrey, hard choice. Years ago I had that same dilemma, moved in and wished I hadn't. He gave me a hard time dancing and so I gave up dancing for him and got a job at a fast food joint. Hated it and we eventually broke up anyway. Months later we got back (no idea why)and he allowed me to move back in and to dance. By then he started to think I was a slut and decided it was okay (according to him)for me to sleep with his friends while he watched. I left him and never went back to him (though for years I would periodically spend weekends with him platonic and no sex).

audrey_k
10-10-2014, 09:54 AM
He's a wonderful person, I can't imagine him doing that, he treats me like a princess. I mean he doesn't put dancing down or anything, we talked about it for a long time last night and I know escorting makes him uncomfortable/jealous/sad and he puts that down, but I think he can sense I'm torn as to whether I really want to go back or not... the thought of working a regular job kind of appeals to me right now, and the thought of being able to go back to school REALLY appeals to me.

I just don't want to move in with someone out of financial desperation, I would want us to live together because that's what we both wanted, not because it made things easier financially. But I do love being with him so much, a part of me feels like I would go anyway even if it was a 50/50 situation. But when someone is offering to take care of you 100% it muddies the waters. And a part of is nervous at that prospect, I don't want to become completely dependent on him, I like having my independence and knowing I can take care of myself.

Kellydancer
10-10-2014, 10:05 AM
Yeah it can be difficult to decide. This guy was nice to me before I moved in, taking me out, etc. I was blinded by this because it came after a string of horrible dates and exes.

wednesday86
10-10-2014, 10:14 AM
Audrey, my husband and I moved in together after 3 months...and I quit dancing due to burn out, and he supported me for a while (which worked out fine, until we had the baby.) I know we have our problems but we're still together 3 years later. I know there are "rules" to dating but honestly, people can move in together after 2 months or 2 years and it still doesn't work out. I've known couples that were engaged for 6 years and broke up. You should follow your instincts. It sounds like he wants to take care of you, which I don't think is a bad thing.

audrey_k
10-10-2014, 10:18 AM
^thanks! yeah, I guess it doesn't really make much difference how long you wait, either you're compatible or you're not, that's not going to change just because you wait a year to move.

wednesday86
10-10-2014, 10:22 AM
Oh yeah, my confession:

My regular messaged me last night just to tell me he wasn't coming in and that he would come next week. He keeps trying to get me to come to his restaurant and I'm not doing it, especially not now! I am so over him as a person, but I still want his $. I have no idea how to play this, so I'm just going to ignore him like I would a guy I'm dating. No more contact unless/until he comes back to the club. I'm good at playing the dating game. I feel I could get almost any man to fall in love with me and marry me, but when it comes to regulars, I'm lost.

I also suck as a salesperson. I had 2 customers last night mention VIP/CRs to me and I failed to upsell. They both bought multiple dances and I don't think they were looking for sex either. I don't know what my problem is.

Kellydancer
10-10-2014, 11:02 AM
^thanks! yeah, I guess it doesn't really make much difference how long you wait, either you're compatible or you're not, that's not going to change just because you wait a year to move.

That's true but generally the longer you wait, the more likely the issues will appear. We didn't wait, moved in long before the reality of it happened so I jumped from one stage until another quick. People are generally on their best behavior early in dating. He certainly was.

Vyanka
10-10-2014, 06:04 PM
Ugh. That frikkin young male model I had a fling with over the summer is reaching out again. That hot as hell motherfucker... mmmm!! Lol. The shit is, he's 5 hours away and can't make it. Wtf reach out to tease me then?? Grrrr!!

He's so hot. Like an Abercrombie and Fitch model. His face and body is just perfect!! Especially his teeth. Now I'm sitting here with a female boner. That kid can fuck like a master and has the biggest most beautiful cock and balls I have ever laid eyes on. Jesus Christ.

lol1337a
10-11-2014, 02:16 AM
Sometimes I feel like there's only so much of a return on investment I can attain by improving my appearance as a stripper. Of course looking as hot as possible gets your foot in the door, but all I hear day in and day out are weird compliments on obscure parts of my body. "I love how juicy your pussy looks through your g-string," "You have the best tasting pits," (yeah it happens in VIP), "This spot on your shoulder smells like kinda like my ex wife," "The arch of your foot is so fucking sexy," etc. What's the point of diet and exercise after a point if I can get close enough to display these traits, right!? I think I'm gonna eat whatever the hell I want today and let my roots keep showin.

fishielicious
10-11-2014, 09:10 AM
^^Ha yesterday I didn't shave my pits before I went into work because the skin had been getting irritated. I had one guy tell me I had "just the right amount of stubble" lol.

My confession is somewhat related, in that I am pigging out today because I won't be back into work for a few days. I just want to eat and eat and eat...

And prepare for a rant, but... even though I never get into drama with girls at my club, I am starting to get frustrated by how often everyone else seems to cause trouble. Well, not "everyone else." Really, most of the girls are great, the problem is that it's the ones who are always starting shit who kind of "rule the roost." Like, they're in there everyday, are always high by the time they come in and drunk by the time they leave, rarely seem to leave the dressing room except to drink more, and just seem to like to start shit with people for the fun of it. They're always getting fired and rehired. Most recently, one of them got fired for coming in supposedly just to hang out and then selling dances on perv row in her street clothes. They goad other girls into fights and then when they both get fired, usually it's these girls who get rehired while the other girls stay gone. One of them seems to like me most of the time, but the other is always giving me nasty looks and I have no idea why cause I've never exchanged more than two words with her. I swear it's like high school all over again (I did go to a pretty violent, drugged up high school I guess...) Just yesterday as I was getting ready to leave one dancer who is such a sweetheart and as far as I know has never done anything to piss anyone in the club off came out of the dressing room in street clothes, in tears, making a beeline for the door. I go back into the DR and sure enough one of these drunk bitches is yelling after her about how she's gonna kick her ass next time she comes in the club, etc. I asked the girl with the locker next to mine what happened and she just shrugged and was like, "Who knows? It happens every damn day." Apparently the owner is trying to make some big changes in the club and wants to class the place up (lol). I am hoping this means these girls will stop getting rehired when they get fired. Or at least maybe they'll stop being able to get trashed at work and hang out here pretty much 24/7 even when they're not working, cause that's what seems to cause most of the problems. But I somehow doubt it.

kirakonstantin
10-11-2014, 10:25 AM
I got engaged last night.

Not planned or anything and not telling our family until the holidays so... SW is pretty much it.

But, dude... I'm totally getting married.

fishielicious
10-11-2014, 10:29 AM
Congratulations!

Aniela
10-11-2014, 10:34 AM
I got engaged last night.

Not planned or anything and not telling our family until the holidays so... SW is pretty much it.

But, dude... I'm totally getting married.

Поздравляю! Congratulations & best wishes … PM me where to send my wedding gift -- it will be a shovel, just in case things don't work out }:D

SweetJulia
10-11-2014, 10:39 AM
@Audrey_K

Please, stop escorting and go to dancing and cam. PLEASE, save your relationship. We all get overwhelmed with adult work, just please use whatever resources you can.

I'm torn, on the one hand I love being around him, we spend 5/6 out of 7 nights together anyway, I think he's amazing and feel so connected to him after such a short time. I don't know what it is about him, but I just feel so comfortable around him, like I've known him forever, and I love the idea of getting to go to bed with him every night and wake up with him every morning. I love that I'm finally dating someone who's mature, successful, emotionally available, fun, sexy/good-looking, and great in bed. But another part of me feels like it's too soon, and what if things go wrong? I worked so hard to find this place, I don't want to throw it away just to find out we can't stand living together. But then another part of me feels trapped in this place, the rent is so high I'm stuck working a sex-worker job, which I haven't felt happy doing for a while now. We both agreed we would wait until the end of the month, I need to save up anyway, I'm thinking perhaps we should try living together for a couple weeks and see how it goes? I don't know.[/QUOTE]

kirakonstantin
10-11-2014, 12:43 PM
Thanks ;-) We're SO excited. 5/10 is a momentous day for both of us so... 5/10/15, to mark the day and appeal to my obsession with numbers.

amberlly
10-11-2014, 08:36 PM
@Audrey_K

I agree! Hun - from your posts you are a survivor. If your relationship didn't work out - you would be back on your feet in no time. You can always get another apartment. This guy sounds awesome.

There are so many jobs out there! Especially retail/hospitality coming up to Chistmas. Promo modelling is easy $$.

Whatever you decide you have shown everyone again and again you will be tops at it.

wednesday86
10-12-2014, 10:43 AM
I still don't feel like "a stripper" and I'm wondering if it's affecting my $? I feel like I'm just playing at it. I get comments all night from guys who say I'm "not like the other girls." I "look like a *real* girl" (whatever that means.) They all want to date me and take me home to Mom but they don't want to spend.

I think I'm just going to sell out: get tan, go platinum blonde, put on a ditzy, slightly bitchy persona and see what happens!

audrey_k
10-12-2014, 03:01 PM
@Audrey_K

Please, stop escorting and go to dancing and cam. PLEASE, save your relationship. We all get overwhelmed with adult work, just please use whatever resources you can.

I'm torn, on the one hand I love being around him, we spend 5/6 out of 7 nights together anyway, I think he's amazing and feel so connected to him after such a short time. I don't know what it is about him, but I just feel so comfortable around him, like I've known him forever, and I love the idea of getting to go to bed with him every night and wake up with him every morning. I love that I'm finally dating someone who's mature, successful, emotionally available, fun, sexy/good-looking, and great in bed. But another part of me feels like it's too soon, and what if things go wrong? I worked so hard to find this place, I don't want to throw it away just to find out we can't stand living together. But then another part of me feels trapped in this place, the rent is so high I'm stuck working a sex-worker job, which I haven't felt happy doing for a while now. We both agreed we would wait until the end of the month, I need to save up anyway, I'm thinking perhaps we should try living together for a couple weeks and see how it goes? I don't know.[/QUOTE]

I told him I wanted to move in with him, the financial aspect aside I love being with him and love the idea of seeing him everyday, so whatever, but it's going to be a long process... he wants me to meet him mum next weekends, so I have to charm this woman, and we have to figure out a way for me to get out of my lease without me getting a mark next to my name-- I have no idea how to do that. I do want to escort for the next 3/4 weeks to make sure I have a good chunk of savings in my account, like around 10gs. As soon as I move in I'm going to be applying for jobs everyday but it could be a few weeks before I find something, and I don't want to be asking him for 10 pounds to buy a pack of cigarettes or 150 pounds to get my roots done. And if things do go bad I want to make sure that I have something to fall back on. I just don't feel like I can make that much money caming or at an SC and consistently. :-\

But I'm worried about the effect that even 3 weeks of escorting is going to have on our relationship... it's really straining it right now, our sex life is totally f-ed up, it's this white elephant in the room the whole time that we can't talk about, it upsets me and it upsets him, but I feel like moving in there with only a couple thousand to my name and no immediate job would ALSO put a shit ton of stress on us at a time that's going to be a bit stressful anyway....

lol1337a
10-12-2014, 03:24 PM
I still don't feel like "a stripper" and I'm wondering if it's affecting my $? I feel like I'm just playing at it. I get comments all night from guys who say I'm "not like the other girls." I "look like a *real* girl" (whatever that means.) They all want to date me and take me home to Mom but they don't want to spend.

I think I'm just going to sell out: get tan, go platinum blonde, put on a ditzy, slightly bitchy persona and see what happens!

That's pretty much what I did. It's made working so much easier.

fishielicious
10-12-2014, 03:33 PM
^^I've been thinking about the same thing recently, especially after reading this (very interesting) article on escorting my friend sent me: https://medium.com/matter/sex-is-sex-but-money-is-money-e7c10091713f I think the points she makes about spending money to make money are easily transferable to stripping.

Even though I work in a very casual club where triangle tops and side-tie bikini bottoms are the norm, I'm thinking about investing in some nicer lingerie sets and make an effort to wear heels without so much lucite, etc. And at least see if that changes things at all. I'm not gonna get tan or go blonde and get implants or anything... yet. Baby steps first haha. But I really want to try out looking like I put more money and effort into my appearance (not that I don't put effort into it now, but you know) to see if that makes people think I'm worth more generally. I make good enough money in my club... But I'd always like to make more. ;)

Aniela
10-12-2014, 06:48 PM
My anger & depression finally got the best of my this morning & I sent a not-very-nice txt to my ex, thinking he has just been 'business as usual' shutting me out. Tonite he replied that he had been out of the country for work the last few days -- he had said he was going but not for how long -- & just got back. He was in the Bahamas where there is very little to no mobile reception. So he is pissed off at me now bc I stepped in it, & I am also pissed off at myself for stepping in it, but I am equally pissed off at him for having wrecked my trust in him in the first place. It's all just a vicious cycle of pissed-off-ness.

kirakonstantin
10-12-2014, 10:46 PM
Audrey... just do it. From what you've said, your man sounds phenomenal. Just do it. Life is really too short to sit around worrying about maybes and what ifs. Go for it! If he loves you, he'll help you out until you get your job situation sorted.

tantra4
10-12-2014, 11:22 PM
I have something that makes me feel ashamed. I feel dirty and humiliated even thinking about it. But I can say it here because tantra4 is not really me. My stepfather whipped me when I was sixteen. You guys thought it would be a lot worse, right? lol

simone87
10-12-2014, 11:58 PM
i'm getting so numb at work. i had this french guy grab me and lick my pussy during an LD when my hands were on the floor, and he not only didn't tip me, he shorted me 6 bucks. i only had the energy to push him away from me, growl at him, and get back on the floor to make more money. i didn't even feel anger about being assaulted, my mind was busy calculating how many more dances i needed to make my goal that night. i've just gotten so numb to customers doing that, its like taking a drug where you tolerance goes up and up til you don't even notice it anymore, i don't think that's probably a good thing

amberlly
10-13-2014, 02:43 AM
Audrey - going out on a limb here but I am assuming as a stripper/escort you would be pretty good at applying hair/make up.

Why not set up an advert online and start charging to do make up on rich older women who want to look great. They have the $$$, pay upfront and your in an expensive area and paying rent anyway so you have a location.

I bet your boyfriend would know people he could refer. Seriously - everyone wants to look better.

Just a case of marketing yourself.

wednesday86
10-13-2014, 01:22 PM
i'm getting so numb at work. i had this french guy grab me and lick my pussy during an LD when my hands were on the floor, and he not only didn't tip me, he shorted me 6 bucks. i only had the energy to push him away from me, growl at him, and get back on the floor to make more money. i didn't even feel anger about being assaulted, my mind was busy calculating how many more dances i needed to make my goal that night. i've just gotten so numb to customers doing that, its like taking a drug where you tolerance goes up and up til you don't even notice it anymore, i don't think that's probably a good thing

Girl I feel the same way!!!!! I remember the first time a customer touched my pussy I lost my shit, punched him, started crying, etc. Now I get some idiot grabbing it at least once a week and I just push their hand off, tell them "No no" like they're a little kid and keep dancing. Last night some dude pulled his dick out and I just laughed until he put it away. It's like nothing phases me anymore. I don't feel traumatized but I wonder if I should?

wednesday86
10-13-2014, 01:27 PM
I started sharing my artwork on facebook and instagram. I love drawing but I'm so shy about anyone seeing it and I need to get over it. I'm not looking for approval, but now that I've shared some pictures I see ALL the flaws and mistakes in them. I'm cringing just thinking about it.

chanzep
10-13-2014, 03:17 PM
Im soo burntout, I just want to study and not dance but can't afford to, my club was so bad on the weekend im thinking of quitting and maybe just doing the dive, Im so confused.

Tsepmet1
10-13-2014, 03:19 PM
I had a guy in VIP on Friday who would not stop grabbing my vagina and kept licking me. I finally just left the room and told the bouncer, but I got stopped by the housemom and bitched at because I didn't put my dress back on before I left the room. I told her that I just wanted away from the guy and she was just like, "WELL IF THE GM WAS HERE, BLAHBLAHBLAH." Fuck off. Seriously. Then the bouncer acted pissy because he wasn't going to get a tip for the room since I walked out.

My confession is that I'm not numb to these things after all this time and I have been upset and stress eating all weekend over it. Why doesn't the staff at my club give a shit?

Aniela
10-13-2014, 03:37 PM
I started sharing my artwork on facebook and instagram. I love drawing but I'm so shy about anyone seeing it and I need to get over it. I'm not looking for approval, but now that I've shared some pictures I see ALL the flaws and mistakes in them. I'm cringing just thinking about it.

We are always our own worst critics! I just finished these two baby blankets for my (very recent) ex's sister. They are hand-sewn, everything measured & done by hand. I know where all the goofs are & it annoys the shit out of me bc I don't want her to think they are cheap or poorly made. My stitches are solid & even, I know they aren't going anywhere, but there are sm measurement mistakes that were only really noticable during the finishing stage & by then it's too late. But w/ a few exceptions, even my mother can't find most of them & she is an expert seamstress. Unless sm1 is really familiar w/ the medium, or is literally picking apart your work, those mistakes will not be too big a deal.

lynn2009
10-13-2014, 05:21 PM
I really miss sex, cuddling after and feeling close to someone.

Vyanka
10-13-2014, 08:43 PM
I really miss sex, cuddling after and feeling close to someone.

Ditto, but I think I gave up on wanting a relationship. Men now a days are useless.

I just want a big penis and a fat wallet. Screw everything else. I get unconditional love from the animals I'm surrounded by.

Vyanka
10-13-2014, 08:48 PM
I had a guy in VIP on Friday who would not stop grabbing my vagina and kept licking me. I finally just left the room and told the bouncer, but I got stopped by the housemom and bitched at because I didn't put my dress back on before I left the room. I told her that I just wanted away from the guy and she was just like, "WELL IF THE GM WAS HERE, BLAHBLAHBLAH." Fuck off. Seriously. Then the bouncer acted pissy because he wasn't going to get a tip for the room since I walked out.

My confession is that I'm not numb to these things after all this time and I have been upset and stress eating all weekend over it. Why doesn't the staff at my club give a shit?


Idkw clubs now a days have staff that protect the girls.
My friend had a guy try to pull her g-string down in front of everyone on the main floor, she smacked the shit out of him. The housemom had the nerve to tell her he can sue her. I quickly told the housemom that was an assault, & that he can get into legal problem over that. Plus he deserved the smacking. She stayed shut.

Security in clubs are fkn useless!

wednesday86
10-13-2014, 10:26 PM
I had a guy in VIP on Friday who would not stop grabbing my vagina and kept licking me. I finally just left the room and told the bouncer, but I got stopped by the housemom and bitched at because I didn't put my dress back on before I left the room. I told her that I just wanted away from the guy and she was just like, "WELL IF THE GM WAS HERE, BLAHBLAHBLAH." Fuck off. Seriously. Then the bouncer acted pissy because he wasn't going to get a tip for the room since I walked out.

My confession is that I'm not numb to these things after all this time and I have been upset and stress eating all weekend over it. Why doesn't the staff at my club give a shit?

UGH! That pisses me off just reading it!! I rarely get upset when customers misbehave because I expect it by now, but I get VERY upset with the staff at my club. I also don't feel like they're really looking out for us, and it seems like all they do is sit on their asses with their hand out, trying to bleed as much $ from us as possible. House Moms are useless and so are most bouncers. Get a real fucking job, cunts!

SamanthaSugar
10-13-2014, 10:35 PM
Sometimes I feel that if I allow myself to cry I'll never stop

lol1337a
10-14-2014, 02:01 AM
I write 80% of my posts after taking my ambien. The first thing I do when I wake up is check all my FB and forum posts to make sure I didn't make an ass of myself. Unless I can't because I spilled whatever drink was in my hand when I passed out on my laptop. I should swap out my seltzer for vodka after 6 AM.

Elektra Luxx
10-14-2014, 02:02 AM
I have something that makes me feel ashamed. I feel dirty and humiliated even thinking about it. But I can say it here because tantra4 is not really me. My stepfather whipped me when I was sixteen. You guys thought it would be a lot worse, right? lol

If it made you feel "ashamed", "dirty and humiliated", it may be something you should bring up with a professional. It's making you feel that way for a reason. Therapist keep your conversations confidential and can help you resolve the emotions you are feeling. I know it's helped me deal with things in my past that made me feel the same way.

audrey_k
10-14-2014, 05:58 AM
I had a client who had come into town today for 3 hrs but I stayed with my bf last night, he left for work and said the tube was suspended because of a suicide or suicide attempt. I could have taken a taxi or a bus back home, but once my bf said he was going to work all day from home I wasn't going to go back... so I canceled on him and feel kind of shitty, but I seriously have NO motivation to work right now. I had a client last night and he left 20 mins early, so apparently I'm doing a pretty shitty job even when I do work.

wednesday86
10-14-2014, 02:36 PM
Ugh, I broke down and texted my 'regular' last week because I was waiting on him at the club and he wasn't answering his emails. Now he has my # and he's texting me every day...I had to tell my husband about it last night when he texted me while we were spending time together. So awkward, but my husband was surprisingly understanding about it.

He's blowing up my phone again today. Just so damn annoying! I went from having the hots for him to being completely irritated. Even if I ignore him, he keeps texting me. Last week he was blowing me off and now he's obsessed again? I guess that saying is true: "The best way to get someone's attention is to stop wanting it" or some shit like that.

SweetJulia
10-14-2014, 02:58 PM
I had a client who had come into town today for 3 hrs but I stayed with my bf last night, he left for work and said the tube was suspended because of a suicide or suicide attempt. I could have taken a taxi or a bus back home, but once my bf said he was going to work all day from home I wasn't going to go back... so I canceled on him and feel kind of shitty, but I seriously have NO motivation to work right now. I had a client last night and he left 20 mins early, so apparently I'm doing a pretty shitty job even when I do work.

I would have done the same thing, no need to inconvenience yourself for a client. Maybe he would have been awful? He was new, right?

simone87
10-14-2014, 05:22 PM
tomorrow is my birthday and my bf hasn't gotten me anything at all and doesn't have anything planned ( his own admission). granted, his car broke down today at a really bad time, which is why i'm being understanding and telling him its ok. I'm still a little hurt though, he knows when my birthday is and he's had so much time..but idk if i have the right to be a little hurt or if that makes me entitled and bitchy.

audrey_k
10-14-2014, 06:13 PM
I would have done the same thing, no need to inconvenience yourself for a client. Maybe he would have been awful? He was new, right?
I've seen him a couple times, I felt bad canceling on him only because he plans travel with his business trips around seeing me. But I was tired and it's not a really question when it comes to, cuddling on the couch with my boyfriend while he works, or taking a $75 taxi/$50 uber back to my flat to see a client...

I have to work this week though :( I was super under the weather last week, so I took Thursday and Friday off, I'm not working weekends anymore so my boyfriend and I can have the days together, and have only see one client for an hour this week. I have never felt so unmotivated to work, I know it's largely because I'm sick but it's also really difficult for me to have to see a client and then go over to see my amazing, perfect and supportive boyfriend, it makes me feel so guilty and disgusting. His best friend (who lives far away) needed a 25 page paper edited tonight and I've been working on it for 3 hrs while my boyfriend sleeps next to me, I just feel SO guilty all the time, he went on about how incredibly wonderful it was of me to agree to do that which of course just made me feel worse...I'm just glad that it looks like I'll be getting something back from my rent/deposit, so it means once the next two and a half weeks are over, I've saved up my 5 grand, I can put this behind me...

wednesday86
10-14-2014, 08:20 PM
I've been seeing more and more stripper 'jokes' popping up on my fb feed from my husband's LOSER single friends. Today it was something about "strangling strippers." They're obviously visiting clubs if strippers are on their minds so much. I can shrug it off when I see/hear a joke about strippers once in a while, but it's like a daily thing now. I don't know if they know I'm dancing again but it's really starting to piss me off. They're about to get unfriended on my fb and unfriended by my husband when I tell him to stop hanging out with them.

charlie61
10-14-2014, 08:52 PM
I've been seeing more and more stripper 'jokes' popping up on my fb feed from my husband's LOSER single friends. Today it was something about "strangling strippers." They're obviously visiting clubs if strippers are on their minds so much. I can shrug it off when I see/hear a joke about strippers once in a while, but it's like a daily thing now. I don't know if they know I'm dancing again but it's really starting to piss me off. They're about to get unfriended on my fb and unfriended by my husband when I tell him to stop hanging out with them.

You see a similar phenomenon in pop culture - the trope of the beautiful woman who is stalked / brutally murdered / tortured / raped / etc. People definitely have some additional issues when it comes to sex workers, but it seems to be part of a larger issue of misogyny.