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wednesday86
10-14-2014, 09:03 PM
^I think it has a lot to do with the fact that these guys haven't had a girlfriend and probably haven't gotten laid in a lonnnng time. It's like they're getting more and more aggressive and bitter about women/strippers. Like a year ago they both lived with their girlfriends and they were fine, but they fucked it up and now they're all alone and pissy. It's the same 3 or 4 dudes that all hang out together and constantly make the 'jokes.' They are pathetic.

SweetJulia
10-15-2014, 09:15 AM
I had sex with someone who really sucked in bed last year and I'm now stuck being friends with him,listening to him whine about how women keep dumping him.

Kellydancer
10-15-2014, 09:55 AM
^I think it has a lot to do with the fact that these guys haven't had a girlfriend and probably haven't gotten laid in a lonnnng time. It's like they're getting more and more aggressive and bitter about women/strippers. Like a year ago they both lived with their girlfriends and they were fine, but they fucked it up and now they're all alone and pissy. It's the same 3 or 4 dudes that all hang out together and constantly make the 'jokes.' They are pathetic.

I was reading about this problem in gaming and it's scary. I'm a gamer myself but not into these violent misogynist games. I see these types on men everywhere and this attitude seems to be increasing. When I did online I came across so many hateful men and I assume they were so angry about constantly being rejected they acted up.

wednesday86
10-15-2014, 12:03 PM
I'm a gamer as well. I haven't experienced much direct sexism, but I tend to play a lot of PC games and MMOs which is a different crowd than FPS games. I don't think my husband's friends are really violent, or would ever actually hurt a woman, but their little jokes are obnoxious, in bad taste and immature. They're in their 30s for crying out loud. That kind of shit stopped being funny in middle school. I feel like my generation is made up of Peter Pans. They refuse to grow up.


My confession: I've gotten so used to seeing my face in glammed out make up that I think my real face looks weird. I put on full eye make up-gel liner cat eye and everything-yesterday just to buy groceries and diapers..Don't know if this is a good or bad thing.

KikiGem
10-15-2014, 12:19 PM
I feel like my generation is made up of Peter Pans. They refuse to grow up.


I second that! That's a big reason why I deleted my FB account. Reading people's crap posts and obnoxious shares became a daily *facepalm* for me.

My confession: I am getting to a point where I want to burn down every fast food joint in the U.S. Especially McDonald's. The more I read about the disgusting and poisonous things they put in their food, the more furious I get.

They are so disgusting and greedy, that they sell people that shit for the sake of a higher profit. There is a special place in hell for these bastards. I just worry about all the people who get so sick and they have no idea why! It's the food you're eating! My family still eats at those places from time to time- if, God forbid, one of my family members gets cancer, I might go crazy and track down the CEO of every fast food joint, and take them out myself.

MyButter
10-15-2014, 12:45 PM
Sometimes I daydream about going back to college and becoming a socially acceptable super educated (albeit underpaid) citizen... and then I think of all of the remedial courses I'd have to take, and I get discouraged.

lynn2009
10-15-2014, 01:02 PM
Sometimes I daydream about going back to college and becoming a socially acceptable super educated (albeit underpaid) citizen... and then I think of all of the remedial courses I'd have to take, and I get discouraged.

I had to take remedial math & I got my 4 year degree in STEM, been working full-time since I graduated. If you really want to go back for something I'd hate for that to stop you.

Aniela
10-15-2014, 01:26 PM
Sometimes I daydream about going back to college and becoming a socially acceptable super educated (albeit underpaid) citizen... and then I think of all of the remedial courses I'd have to take, and I get discouraged.

There's always trade school. Go for smtg that will always be in demand sm where -- electrician, mechanic, etc

Selina M
10-15-2014, 09:56 PM
I am SO excited to drop my calculus class, it's not even funny.
I don't find calc hard... but this teacher is a nut bag. He's teaching on a grant, and using this class as guinea pigs; it's halfway through semester and we've not done a single actual equation; no integrals or derivatives; tests are just trying to navigate his trick word problem questions, and homework is like 6 hours a week of the same sort of bullshit, PLUS sitting in class and preventing me from working 3 days a week. I'm not learning ANYTHING and would be fucked if I tried to take Calc II after him.

Today I found out that none of the programs I'm applying to for med school even require ANY calculus at all, much less the full year I expected, and since I decided not to get a 2nd bachelors but just do a year of post-bac for GPA purposes... I don't need this godforsaken class.

I didn't even realize how much stress it was putting on me until I figured out I could drop it. Yay!!!

charlie61
10-15-2014, 10:26 PM
I am SO excited to drop my calculus class, it's not even funny.
I don't find calc hard... but this teacher is a nut bag. He's teaching on a grant, and using this class as guinea pigs; it's halfway through semester and we've not done a single actual equation; no integrals or derivatives; tests are just trying to navigate his trick word problem questions, and homework is like 6 hours a week of the same sort of bullshit, PLUS sitting in class and preventing me from working 3 days a week. I'm not learning ANYTHING and would be fucked if I tried to take Calc II after him.

Today I found out that none of the programs I'm applying to for med school even require ANY calculus at all, much less the full year I expected, and since I decided not to get a 2nd bachelors but just do a year of post-bac for GPA purposes... I don't need this godforsaken class.

I didn't even realize how much stress it was putting on me until I figured out I could drop it. Yay!!!

You're applying to med school?!!! fapfapfapfapfap

Selina M
10-16-2014, 12:42 AM
^ yeeeees! I thought that was semi common knowledge on here, haha.

But yeah, I took a year off before applying, so 2 years before starting :)

Jay12
10-16-2014, 03:13 AM
The housemom had the nerve to tell her he can sue her. I quickly told the housemom that was an assault, & that he can get into legal problem over that. Plus he deserved the smacking. She stayed shut.

Security in clubs are fkn useless!

You don't have to go that far. My man had tried to use that line with me before when I used to dance: he'd said a judge would take the word of the customer over mine solely because I'm a dancer, even if I was on the right and had witnesses.


Sometimes I daydream about going back to college and becoming a socially acceptable super educated (albeit underpaid) citizen... and then I think of all of the remedial courses I'd have to take, and I get discouraged.

I'm getting a 2nd degree right now. If you want to become even more educated, it's never too late.


I had sex with someone who really sucked in bed last year and I'm now stuck being friends with him,listening to him whine about how women keep dumping him.

Well, now that you're just his friend, tell him the truth. There are ways to improve the skills in the sack.

Jay12
10-16-2014, 03:35 AM
-I have some basic bitch tendencies, I'm not going to deny it anymore.

-I binge watch Sailor Moon twice a month: when a new episode is posted on Hulu or Crunchy Roll.

-I am having PTSD episodes once again.

-I am getting lazy about working out despite all my awesome progress.

-I am contemplating returning to the clubs, but I can't push myself into doing it. Also, this time my man would totally hate it. Why? For the same reason he also hated that I also did IT work: inconsistent, contract work. He craves extreme income stability and had given me a lot of shit for having jobs (like dancing, IT, etc.) that rely on contracts and inconsistency. So, if I do decide to return...it'll be in secret.

wednesday86
10-16-2014, 07:58 AM
I'm buying my first fake lashes today and more make up...getting a spray tan tomorrow and then getting all over highlights or maybe even going full blonde. Full on Makeover day tomorrow-all for work. I keep thinking about that Jenna Marbles video "How to trick people into thinking you're really good looking." lol!

Jay12
10-16-2014, 10:12 AM
^^
In the "body business" sub-forum, there are tons of suggestions regarding going blonde.

SweetJulia
10-16-2014, 04:52 PM
Lately, people who piss me off seem to get hit with instant bad luck. I don't know if it's instant karma, or my toxic energy affecting them, or what-but I don't feel too bad about it.

JessaJade
10-17-2014, 06:14 AM
I confess that I find it hard to just take the high ground and hope none of the people who have been dismissive and judgemental about my depression never experience the pain and despair of it for themselves.

I actually wish they could feel it at its worst for just one hour of their lives, just so they know how hellish it really is. I don't even think many of them would last the hour.

I also confess that I feel bitter when the same people talk about someone with an obvious physical illness and are sympathetic and tolerant and understanding.

Aniela
10-17-2014, 06:30 AM
I confess that I find it hard to just take the high ground and hope none of the people who have been dismissive and judgemental about my depression never experience the pain and despair of it for themselves.

I actually wish they could feel it at its worst for just one hour of their lives, just so they know how hellish it really is. I don't even think many of them would last the hour.

I have a short list of ppl I would wish my severe depressions on, & even the trauma of forced hospitalisation, in the interest of a learning experience.

In the same vein -- after the guy I was seeing several yrs ago left me, I had severe recurring nightmares for yrs. It wasn't just bc of him leaving, that was the icing, the relationship as a whole was pretty traumatic. He ended up marrying the slag he left me for. I got sm harassment from her briefly bc of the things he told her abt me that were distorted to favour himself or were flat-out untrue. All these yrs later, I still have the occasional nightmare, but while they are isolated occurrences they still really upset me. I find myself wishing that my ex & his bitch of a wife would be plagued w/ those recurring nightmares like I was for so many yrs. It feels like that would be the only way to make them understand just how fked up the things he & his friends did to me were.

Vyanka
10-17-2014, 10:04 AM
I'm way too proud to lie about my heritage at work. I don't understand why some girls fake the funk. Be proud of what you are. That's one hustle I never understood.

simone87
10-17-2014, 10:07 AM
Lately, people who piss me off seem to get hit with instant bad luck. I don't know if it's instant karma, or my toxic energy affecting them, or what-but I don't feel too bad about it.

haha same here! i've had some really spooky experiences, in some instances i've almost felt guilty..but most of the time i'm like " yup that's right, don't fuck with me!"

hamdinger
10-17-2014, 11:36 AM
I actually wish they could feel it at its worst for just one hour of their lives, just so they know how hellish it really is. I don't even think many of them would last the hour.
I know how you feel... I'm sorry the people in your life aren't supportive about your illness.

I have my depression mostly under control, but sometimes it takes me down. My boyfriend can't relate to this at all, and he becomes distant and frustrated. He can be harsh ("I don't get it. Nothing is wrong. You need to snap out of it.") He won't hold me when I am falling apart because "it makes him uncomfortable." I feel repulsive to him when I have an episode. It breaks my heart and makes me worry about our future. I wish I had a partner who could be understanding and kind when I get depressed.

Aniela
10-17-2014, 04:10 PM
I know how you feel... I'm sorry the people in your life aren't supportive about your illness.

I have my depression mostly under control, but sometimes it takes me down. My boyfriend can't relate to this at all, and he becomes distant and frustrated. He can be harsh ("I don't get it. Nothing is wrong. You need to snap out of it.") He won't hold me when I am falling apart because "it makes him uncomfortable." I feel repulsive to him when I have an episode. It breaks my heart and makes me worry about our future. I wish I had a partner who could be understanding and kind when I get depressed.

Toss his ass then. Sm of the guys I have been w/ were that way, & the others understood bc they experienced it themselves, but rather than seek help they preferred to destructively self-medicate. There is no helping ppl like that, & they aren't really much use to you when you need their support bc they think it's just you causing drama. You deserve a supportive partner :hug:

ScarletKitten
10-17-2014, 04:15 PM
^^hamdinger, I am so sorry to hear that. Please PM me if you want to talk about your depression or just have a listening ear and some support. I have to fight depression every single day. You deserve a partner who understands AND supports you!!!

hamdinger
10-17-2014, 06:31 PM
Thank you ScarletKitten and Aniela. Your words warmed my heart:heartbeat

Jay12
10-17-2014, 07:44 PM
I'm way too proud to lie about my heritage at work. I don't understand why some girls fake the funk. Be proud of what you are. That's one hustle I never understood.

I had done it, but not for shame. Sometimes it's just easier to pretend to be another ethnicity to close a sale quicker. I hated how much time I used to waste defending what I am in front of customers who just won't stop saying "but you can't be, you're too tall and/or too pale" that I just started to play along. Playing along saved me tons of time and made me much more money. IMO, lying about one's ethnicity it's no different than dying the hair, getting plastic surgery, or lying about things like age and marital status.

Aniela
10-17-2014, 09:50 PM
I hate how when I write down my mobile number for a guy I am interested in, until I actually hear from him I always look back & worry that I wrote it incorrectly.

Vyanka
10-17-2014, 10:22 PM
I had done it, but not for shame. Sometimes it's just easier to pretend to be another ethnicity to close a sale quicker. I hated how much time I used to waste defending what I am in front of customers who just won't stop saying "but you can't be, you're too tall and/or too pale" that I just started to play along. Playing along saved me tons of time and made me much more money. IMO, lying about one's ethnicity it's no different than dying the hair, getting plastic surgery, or lying about things like age and marital status.


I hear you on that tho, bc I get the same stupid ignorant shit. But I just cannot. I just tell them, "believe whatever you want then".

lynn2009
10-17-2014, 11:55 PM
If it were a viable option at all I really am ready to give up on all aspects of real life and move back into my parents house.

chanzep
10-18-2014, 07:48 AM
I am so burnt out, thinking of excuses to get out of work tonight, the thought of going to the club to 4 am ugh noo, and I have my dive for the next 5 days ugh FML.

chanzep
10-18-2014, 07:49 AM
And School Monday to Wednesday, yes I think I will stay in tonight. And watch Netflix.

newb2
10-18-2014, 08:20 AM
When I was 18 I did something I know was 'bad' but tbh I never felt bad about doing it, and I never told anyone in real life:

Some guys were drinking in the kitchen of this shitty hostel I used to live in. One of them started being sleazy and asked me to join them, I said 'no thanks' and quickly left once I had cooked my dinner. While walking past the kitchen I heard talk of 'bitch just needs a few drinks... ' 'haha spike her' Ect ect. It made me so angry because I knew they were thinking I was young, naive, alone and an easy target.

When I went back into the kitchen hours later it was just the one sleazy guy left standing. I pretended to drink with him knowing he was planning to either spike my drink or get me really drunk/comatose. But we were drinking rtd cans, only I never drunk any of it, just waited for an opportunity to pour it out. I could see that he was holding back and trying to make sure I drank more than him.

Before long he was very drunk. And I was pretending to be. I led him back to my room and left him on the bed saying I was just going to the bathroom. Then I knocked on this gay guys door (stone cold sober) and told him the guy was on my bed and my door was unlocked. I went and watched television in the lounge. After a while the gay guy came back and told me sleazy guy freaked out while he was giving him a blowjob and he reached down only to feel his short hair. (He also said that sleazy guy 'was too fat to roll over anyway' hahahahaha)

I went back into my room and pretended I was oblivious. This guy was clearly distraught 'oh god, oh god' I had to hold back the laughter while I stood by the bed and asked him 'a www what's wrong', ' I can't talk about it' he said in between 'oh god, oh god''s. 'Just hold me' he said. I didn't want to let on I knew anything so cuddled him while he kept freaking out. And although he was ugly and disgusting I was smirking over his shoulder the whole time, and enjoying his mental suffering. I let him fall asleep in my arms.

He was in a hurry to leave the next morning. I heard him and his mates in the kitchen, they knew he had come from my room but nothing more.

serves him right tbh

tempest666
10-18-2014, 05:34 PM
I am finishing up my backpiece. I cried for the first time ever getting tattooed. They had to use numbing cream on me. Granted it was near my ribs, but still.

lovelydancer
10-19-2014, 03:07 AM
My GM at work (as I was leaving) grabbed my ponytail and shoved his tongue in my mouth. It took me a few seconds to react since I wasn't expecting it, plus I drank a lot more than normal tonight which I think slowed my reaction down. It all happened so fast. I did not like it. When I reacted I loudly asked what he was doing, and he pulled back and told nearby male coworkers and regulars that he, "kissed the girl that loves her bf". Like he was bragging or the man or something. I literally feel so disgusted. I cried the entire ride home. I immediately went home and told my bf what happened, and obviously he wants me to go to another club and I agree. I just feel like such a moron. Like I should've seen it coming. I should've. I feel totally violated.

charlie61
10-19-2014, 08:36 AM
My GM at work (as I was leaving) grabbed my ponytail and shoved his tongue in my mouth. It took me a few seconds to react since I wasn't expecting it, plus I drank a lot more than normal tonight which I think slowed my reaction down. It all happened so fast. I did not like it. When I reacted I loudly asked what he was doing, and he pulled back and told nearby male coworkers and regulars that he, "kissed the girl that loves her bf". Like he was bragging or the man or something. I literally feel so disgusted. I cried the entire ride home. I immediately went home and told my bf what happened, and obviously he wants me to go to another club and I agree. I just feel like such a moron. Like I should've seen it coming. I should've. I feel totally violated.

Oh my god. Honey. That's horrible. We kind of expect that sort of behavior from customers (sadly), but management?! Fuck. I would recommend suing for assault, but I think that might end up making it even more traumatic for you... and it's likely that nothing would even come of it. :(

:grouphug:

smeca
10-19-2014, 03:31 PM
I don't listen to other girlsanymore, I don't even read this site anymore for what clubs are like. For all the advice and hustle tips, I did better when I stopped overthinkign everything and just talked, smiled, flirted, and took whatever new experiences come my way. Going into a night/new club without preconceptions... this job and life is what you make it.

Laylalust
10-19-2014, 03:36 PM
I am so utterly sick and tired of myself and my inability to take action. It feels like many nights that I go to sleep I hope I don't wake up. I detest the town I live in and I resent my boyfriend for insisting we stay here because of his job while there are absolutely no opportunities for me. I hate my day job and the more I dance again the more I want to quit the vanilla job after more than doubling my weekly pay in five SLOW days at the club. I despise getting up early for my day job and can't seem to force myself to wake up earlier to prepare properly, so I'm always rushing out the door. I hate my lack of motivation, my laziness, my engulfing depression and anxiety that prohibits me from leaving the house a lot of the time. I hate that our apartment is always so filthy and never clean because we are always so exhausted from working 8-5 all week that we do nothing but come home and collapse on the couch and smoke ourselves stupid. I hate my weed habit that I can't muster the willpower to kick. There is constantly weed here because BF has a big habit but it doesn't debilitate him the way it does me. I'm tired of eating takeout. I'm tired of making to-do lists and needing to take Adderall to get anything accomplished. I'm so dependent on outside factors to get stuff done. I spend most of my time on the internet, reading self-help articles and articles about what not to eat and that I should meditate and do more yoga and change my attitude and blah blah blah. I go to the bookstore and every self-help book seems to be marketed to me. I have been isolating myself and feel alienated from my friends and I'm regularly anxious that they're mad at me for some reason. I don't even know what I enjoy anymore, I don't know what my goals are and I don't know where the fuck I'm going with my life. I turn twenty-eight next month and feel more lost than I ever have. I keep convincing myself that leaving this wretched town I live in will fix things but I have always had "grass is greener" syndrome and the fact is I'm just depressed and naturally inclined to be sad and dissatisfied. I don't know how to be happy because I keep running into myself. I obsess over my appearance and don't feel I'll be content until I get multiple cosmetic procedures. I have little to no sex drive anymore and have not been sexually attracted to my BF and our standard sex for months. I read the news and the fear-mongering that pervades our media and it makes me feel even more hopeless and full of doom. Lately I find that the one day I work at the club each week is the only time I even kind of feel alive anymore because I'm playing a different part and I'm in a different reality and I'm actively working towards a goal while I'm there. The rest of the time I am far too lenient on myself and give myself permission to do nothing constantly.

Ever just feel completely sick and frustrated of yourself? That's where I am. I'm not blaming any other factors for my misery, I know it's all my own fault and it makes my self-loathing worse. I don't know what to do. I have no energy. I lie in bed and read the internet on my phone and wait for something to happen but it never does.

Sorry. I really needed to get that out.

ScarletKitten
10-19-2014, 04:25 PM
My GM at work (as I was leaving) grabbed my ponytail and shoved his tongue in my mouth. It took me a few seconds to react since I wasn't expecting it, plus I drank a lot more than normal tonight which I think slowed my reaction down. It all happened so fast. I did not like it. When I reacted I loudly asked what he was doing, and he pulled back and told nearby male coworkers and regulars that he, "kissed the girl that loves her bf". Like he was bragging or the man or something. I literally feel so disgusted. I cried the entire ride home. I immediately went home and told my bf what happened, and obviously he wants me to go to another club and I agree. I just feel like such a moron. Like I should've seen it coming. I should've. I feel totally violated.

I am so angry for you it's not even funny. WHO the fuck is this sleazy, piece-of-shit "GM" so I can go and slap the shit out of him and kick him really hard in the balls. No, I would do worse, but I'm afraid to say that here, even in confessions. I would seriously castrate him.

And sweetheart, please DO NOT feel like a moron. How the hell would anyone be able to see that coming?! From a GM?!?! It's completely uncalled for and shocking and disgusting of him to do that. So please don't feel like you could have prevented that. That's like trying to prevent getting shot in the back of the head. Don't blame yourself, and don't feel bad. You'll get stronger because of this incident. *hugs*

Jay12
10-19-2014, 04:47 PM
I had sex with my man five times today (two early in the morning, two in the afternoon, and just now). He finally ran out of MJ.

lovelydancer
10-19-2014, 05:35 PM
Oh my god. Honey. That's horrible. We kind of expect that sort of behavior from customers (sadly), but management?! Fuck. I would recommend suing for assault, but I think that might end up making it even more traumatic for you... and it's likely that nothing would even come of it. :(

:grouphug:

If a customer tries something my defenses are up and I'm somewhat prepared for just about anything (not that it makes their actions excusable because it doesn't, but I've accepted it as a potential job hazard), but when it comes to co-workers/management my guard is completely down. Especially with my home club (the club this happened at), I'm pretty open with staff and Managers about my life; school stuff, my boyfriend, hobbies, my cat, etc...I let these people in and I trusted that I was safe. I've never had any reason to expect this type of behavior from any of them. I know it was just a kiss and maybe not as big of a deal as it feels like right this moment, but it was an unwanted advance and the entire situation sucks. :(

I've been sexually assaulted violently twice before I ever started dancing, and this takes me back to that; did I do something/say something to make him think that was okay, did I miss warning signs, etc. I feel really gross, and disappointed in myself that I let my guard down around people in this business that obviously are not trustworthy/safe.

I spoke more about it to my boyfriend today, he's been super understanding of how I feel. He knows I didn't do anything to deserve it, nor did I ever expect anything like this to happen from not only someone I work with, let alone my GM for that matter. Unfortunately there's not a lot of clubs in my area where I can make the kind of money I make here. :( We decided that for now I'm going to try to act like it didn't happen, and to treat him and the other staff members as I would a customer - with my guard/defenses up, and to always stay in the view of the security cameras if I can (unfortunately this happened where I know is out of sight of the camera). He also said I should threaten to call the Police and Owner if he happens to try anything again. Regardless I'm taking a few days off from work so I can gather myself and just rest. :(

charlie61
10-19-2014, 06:05 PM
I am so utterly sick and tired of myself and my inability to take action. It feels like many nights that I go to sleep I hope I don't wake up. I detest the town I live in and I resent my boyfriend for insisting we stay here because of his job while there are absolutely no opportunities for me. I hate my day job and the more I dance again the more I want to quit the vanilla job after more than doubling my weekly pay in five SLOW days at the club. I despise getting up early for my day job and can't seem to force myself to wake up earlier to prepare properly, so I'm always rushing out the door. I hate my lack of motivation, my laziness, my engulfing depression and anxiety that prohibits me from leaving the house a lot of the time. I hate that our apartment is always so filthy and never clean because we are always so exhausted from working 8-5 all week that we do nothing but come home and collapse on the couch and smoke ourselves stupid. I hate my weed habit that I can't muster the willpower to kick. There is constantly weed here because BF has a big habit but it doesn't debilitate him the way it does me. I'm tired of eating takeout. I'm tired of making to-do lists and needing to take Adderall to get anything accomplished. I'm so dependent on outside factors to get stuff done. I spend most of my time on the internet, reading self-help articles and articles about what not to eat and that I should meditate and do more yoga and change my attitude and blah blah blah. I go to the bookstore and every self-help book seems to be marketed to me. I have been isolating myself and feel alienated from my friends and I'm regularly anxious that they're mad at me for some reason. I don't even know what I enjoy anymore, I don't know what my goals are and I don't know where the fuck I'm going with my life. I turn twenty-eight next month and feel more lost than I ever have. I keep convincing myself that leaving this wretched town I live in will fix things but I have always had "grass is greener" syndrome and the fact is I'm just depressed and naturally inclined to be sad and dissatisfied. I don't know how to be happy because I keep running into myself. I obsess over my appearance and don't feel I'll be content until I get multiple cosmetic procedures. I have little to no sex drive anymore and have not been sexually attracted to my BF and our standard sex for months. I read the news and the fear-mongering that pervades our media and it makes me feel even more hopeless and full of doom. Lately I find that the one day I work at the club each week is the only time I even kind of feel alive anymore because I'm playing a different part and I'm in a different reality and I'm actively working towards a goal while I'm there. The rest of the time I am far too lenient on myself and give myself permission to do nothing constantly.

Ever just feel completely sick and frustrated of yourself? That's where I am. I'm not blaming any other factors for my misery, I know it's all my own fault and it makes my self-loathing worse. I don't know what to do. I have no energy. I lie in bed and read the internet on my phone and wait for something to happen but it never does.

Sorry. I really needed to get that out.

I'm really glad you shared this. I hope you'll pop into this thread and add anything that might be of use: https://www.stripperweb.com/forum/showthread.php?196122-Dancing-Suppressed-Emotions

lovelydancer
10-19-2014, 10:04 PM
I am so angry for you it's not even funny. WHO the fuck is this sleazy, piece-of-shit "GM" so I can go and slap the shit out of him and kick him really hard in the balls. No, I would do worse, but I'm afraid to say that here, even in confessions. I would seriously castrate him.

And sweetheart, please DO NOT feel like a moron. How the hell would anyone be able to see that coming?! From a GM?!?! It's completely uncalled for and shocking and disgusting of him to do that. So please don't feel like you could have prevented that. That's like trying to prevent getting shot in the back of the head. Don't blame yourself, and don't feel bad. You'll get stronger because of this incident. *hugs*

Thank you ScarletKitten. I really appreciate your kind words. I'm honestly feeling overwhelmed and numb at the same time. I'm very grateful for the women on here that I can lean on (and hopefully they all know they can lean on me too) in times of need.

Aniela
10-19-2014, 11:10 PM
@lovely dancer if that shitsack GM'of yours is located ANYWHERE in FL -- well, all I will say on this public board is that I would be honoured to make an extra-special road trip just for him. PM me.

Just want to re-iterate, you have NO REASON to feel bad, or like a moron. He is a grown-ass man & his disgusting actions are 1000000% on him. So sry that happened to you.

ava$
10-19-2014, 11:44 PM
My GM at work (as I was leaving) grabbed my ponytail and shoved his tongue in my mouth. It took me a few seconds to react since I wasn't expecting it, plus I drank a lot more than normal tonight which I think slowed my reaction down. It all happened so fast. I did not like it. When I reacted I loudly asked what he was doing, and he pulled back and told nearby male coworkers and regulars that he, "kissed the girl that loves her bf". Like he was bragging or the man or something. I literally feel so disgusted. I cried the entire ride home. I immediately went home and told my bf what happened, and obviously he wants me to go to another club and I agree. I just feel like such a moron. Like I should've seen it coming. I should've. I feel totally violated.

First of all this is horrible, he's an asshole! Right after he did that, you should've looked at him real serious and said "u know I have herpes right?" LBS.

TransdimensionalPrincess
10-20-2014, 01:16 AM
My GM at work (as I was leaving) grabbed my ponytail and shoved his tongue in my mouth. It took me a few seconds to react since I wasn't expecting it, plus I drank a lot more than normal tonight which I think slowed my reaction down. It all happened so fast. I did not like it. When I reacted I loudly asked what he was doing, and he pulled back and told nearby male coworkers and regulars that he, "kissed the girl that loves her bf". Like he was bragging or the man or something. I literally feel so disgusted. I cried the entire ride home. I immediately went home and told my bf what happened, and obviously he wants me to go to another club and I agree. I just feel like such a moron. Like I should've seen it coming. I should've. I feel totally violated.

I would make a post about this under the club thread with your club name and his name as a warning to others. Also, post it on every pro-stripper website I can find, and you know, all over social media too. I would wait until you can find out his full legal name too, so every time someone googles his name or the club it comes up... who knows, maybe one day they will fire him? But at least you can warn others. I am so sorry this happen. I can think of some pretty nasty illegal things to do to him, but the only legal way to harm him I can think of is the this, just spread his name through the mud on every stripping website you find. But thats just what I would do, it might not be the choice for you. Go take a warm bath and eat ice cream and feel better. <333

sexsells
10-20-2014, 02:51 AM
I am utterly and completely addicted to greek pop music this past week, I don't even want to listen to it any more but i feel compelled to. its so cheesy and dramatic and i love it. Greek music is my crack. I don't even know most of the words as I know only a little greek hahahaha. I'm turning Euro trash yay!

audrey_k
10-20-2014, 07:26 AM
I feel really shitty, I forgot my work phone at home this weekend and I knew I wouldn't get home until just when I wanted to work, so I changed the # to my personal number-- my bf has told me before when I forgot my phone not to do that and it would really upset him as he wants to keep that part as separate as possible and also doesn't want my personal # exposed online, but I changed it anyway this time as I didn't want to miss my calls for the day. I wasn't thinking and AW fucked up on listing me today and I sent him a text about it, and he got SUPER pissed and said he couldn't believe I would something that he specifically told me would upset him and on top of it lie about it.

He has never gotten angry at me before, I've flipped out on him a few times but this is the first time I've pissed him off. I don't even know what I was thinking, like it's that important to not miss work for a day to lie to my bf and upset him? He's letting me sleep with other men and do a job he hates and I can't even not post a fucking phone number? I feel like I'm so used to lying to men with work to do and get whatever I want, sometimes it permeates into my personal life.

wednesday86
10-20-2014, 07:59 AM
I don't know if it's just burn out or exhaustion or what, but I've lost my positive attitude and my club is starting to piss me off. I want to move so badly but my husband wants to wait until January. Ugggggggggghhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh

tantra4
10-20-2014, 08:19 AM
I feel really shitty, I forgot my work phone at home this weekend and I knew I wouldn't get home until just when I wanted to work, so I changed the # to my personal number-- my bf has told me before when I forgot my phone not to do that and it would really upset him as he wants to keep that part as separate as possible and also doesn't want my personal # exposed online, but I changed it anyway this time as I didn't want to miss my calls for the day. I wasn't thinking and AW fucked up on listing me today and I sent him a text about it, and he got SUPER pissed and said he couldn't believe I would something that he specifically told me would upset him and on top of it lie about it.

He has never gotten angry at me before, I've flipped out on him a few times but this is the first time I've pissed him off. I don't even know what I was thinking, like it's that important to not miss work for a day to lie to my bf and upset him? He's letting me sleep with other men and do a job he hates and I can't even not post a fucking phone number? I feel like I'm so used to lying to men with work to do and get whatever I want, sometimes it permeates into my personal life.

When you are in a serious relationship things like this happen and someone can get REALLY pissed. If you apologize and are honest with your partner, it doesn't have to mean so much. Even if it's terrible now, I bet you guys will get over it.

ava$
10-20-2014, 08:19 AM
I don't know if it's just burn out or exhaustion or what, but I've lost my positive attitude and my club is starting to piss me off. I want to move so badly but my husband wants to wait until January. Ugggggggggghhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh
I feel the same and am wondering if I need to move to a new city as $$ isn't seeming to be good around my parts, (I know its a cheap extras problem). I feel like this every time I have a bad weekend tho but my bad weekends recently have become 200$ less than what they used to be and this makes me think It will only get worse! What to do.. what to do..

wednesday86
10-20-2014, 08:37 AM
I feel the same and am wondering if I need to move to a new city as $$ isn't seeming to be good around my parts, (I know its a cheap extras problem). I feel like this every time I have a bad weekend tho but my bad weekends recently have become 200$ less than what they used to be and this makes me think It will only get worse! What to do.. what to do..

It seems like my club is dying too and I thought October is supposed to be better? Wtf is going on? I'm doing okay, but not pulling the $ that I want to...and there's no where else to go here unless I want to drive 2 hours. I've already tried the other clubs in my area and this is the only one I've been able to work at for more than a week. I know there's lots of extras going on all over this area...I want to move to a low contact/no contact place like my home club.