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ava$
10-28-2014, 11:16 PM
^^speaking of fb, someone from an old club I used to work at,(a bartender) requested me as a friend on there, it doesn't make since how she found me tho cause my fb is in my real name and I don't tell anyone my actual real name in a club. So she had to have been told by management or looked at my paperwork in the back which is creepy they let that info out…

@michelle, something had just happened when I wrote that, we didn't talk after that tho so your fine but ill call u tomorrow.

Aniela
10-29-2014, 12:06 AM
I have been thinking seriously abt going back to dancing for a few months b4 boot camp, but the logistics of making it happen just feel daunting. I don't think my family would appreciate me dancing while living under their roof, & I would respect that, so I would need to find sm1 to crash w/. I have thought abt asking my brother & his wife if I can borrow their couch, they know I'm straight, no drugs or anything, but I know he doesn't like my stripper history & Idk how she would feel bc I have only met her once.

I have a huge loan to repay to my dad & a retail/grocery job bringing home $200/wk won't cut it. I've done the maths for dancing, how much $$ avg + how many nites; the numbers aren't that scary & I feel optimistic abt paying it off long b4 I leave. Just the thought of sitting them down to have the 'I'm thinking abt dancing again …' talk has me anxious. If I can figure out living arrangements in the event they tell me to take it outside their four walls that will be an enormous load off, so that's the first thing b4 telling them anything. I have a couple ppl to talk to abt that tomor, including my brother if I can reach him. I just hate this unsettled feeling I'm having in the meantime.

audrey_k
10-29-2014, 04:31 AM
It's not even lunchtime and already my day sucks... there is seriously nothing that pisses me off more than boundary pushing clients. I've dealt with them in SCcs for years but there's something even more insulting and degrading about them with escorting, like you're already getting to fuck me what more do you want?

One of my best clients has been pushing me for anal and has basically said he won't see me until I offered it, so I told him to go stick a dildo up his own ass. Now I get an email from some guy I saw once asking for CIM-- yes, I saw you once and I'm willing to open myself up to disease that I could possibly not only give myself but transfer to my boyfriend, sounds fucking great. I told him to fuck off as well. I'm hating all my clients at the moment, I feel like I can barely get through the day lately, I get super anxious the hour before, put off getting ready, am late, and the ten minutes before I'm just completely dreading them coming through the door. I have one person booked today and my goal is two everyday, it's all I can do not to cancel him, definitely won't be doing two today. Going to break out the Smirnoff to get through this appointment... I know I have only 7 days of work left, but it feels like a fucking eternity.

MyButter
10-29-2014, 04:44 AM
I so don't want to move back to California. A standard 3 year stint would be fine with me, but allegedly this is going to be a "4+ year" stint, and the spouse will only have 5 years left by the time we leave this area. So we'll likely be stationed there for 5 motherfucking years.

SweetJulia
10-29-2014, 09:34 AM
It's not even lunchtime and already my day sucks... there is seriously nothing that pisses me off more than boundary pushing clients. I've dealt with them in SCcs for years but there's something even more insulting and degrading about them with escorting, like you're already getting to fuck me what more do you want?

One of my best clients has been pushing me for anal and has basically said he won't see me until I offered it, so I told him to go stick a dildo up his own ass. Now I get an email from some guy I saw once asking for CIM-- yes, I saw you once and I'm willing to open myself up to disease that I could possibly not only give myself but transfer to my boyfriend, sounds fucking great. I told him to fuck off as well. I'm hating all my clients at the moment, I feel like I can barely get through the day lately, I get super anxious the hour before, put off getting ready, am late, and the ten minutes before I'm just completely dreading them coming through the door. I have one person booked today and my goal is two everyday, it's all I can do not to cancel him, definitely won't be doing two today. Going to break out the Smirnoff to get through this appointment... I know I have only 7 days of work left, but it feels like a fucking eternity.

I so wish I could talk you into webcam, it was a godsend when I got sick of people violating my boundaries in clubs. That said, I probably won't, so I won't push and Smirnoff's my favorite, too :)

PinkiePie
10-29-2014, 11:13 AM
Last Wednesday was my last night stripping. I start a 'real' job on Monday with long hours, but a high salary.
I told everyone it was what I wanted and that I was happy to be leaving the industry, making a consistent salary, etc.
I've actually spent every night this week waiting for my husband to fall asleep then crying my eyes out for hours. I'm utterly devastated and I feel like my life is over and I'll never have fun again.

lynn2009
10-29-2014, 11:15 AM
Last Wednesday was my last night stripping. I start a 'real' job on Monday with long hours, but a high salary.
I told everyone it was what I wanted and that I was happy to be leaving the industry, making a consistent salary, etc.
I've actually spent every night this week waiting for my husband to fall asleep then crying my eyes out for hours. I'm utterly devastated and I feel like my life is over and I'll never have fun again.

Monday as in 3 days ago or a week and 3 days?

Give it a little more time hon...but sending hugs.

PinkiePie
10-29-2014, 12:21 PM
Monday as in 3 days ago or a week and 3 days?

Give it a little more time hon...but sending hugs.

I haven't started the new job yet, Monday as in next Monday. It's a job I've done before, and I know I can do it well, I just don't want to.
It feels like a break up or something, I keep remembering the good times and bursting into tears. I've never even behaved like this over a man!
Thank you for taking the time to reply, it helps to have people on here to talk to. Even my RL friends in the industry would think I was crazy if I told them. xxx

ImmoralAllure
10-29-2014, 06:41 PM
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hamdinger
10-29-2014, 06:49 PM
I have been a night eater since I was 15. About an hour and a half after I fall asleep, I wake up and walk zombie-like to the kitchen where I paw through the fridge and cupboards til I find something to eat. Sometimes I take the food to the living room and sit and eat in the dark, but usually I take it back to bed and eat reclining next to my sleeping boyfriend. Normally I'm so groggy that I spill on myself and get food on my face, and I almost always wake up with a little cluster of dishes and containers on the ground on my side of the bed. My memories of night eating are hazy at best, and my judgment is definitely impaired in the night eating state. For example, I once ate part of my roommate's girlfriend's lunch that she had packed for the next day at work, which I would never do in my right mind. If anyone catches me night eating, I get pissed and ignore them. I do this at least five nights a week, maybe more.

My most frequently night-eaten foods:
cereal
peanut butter on a spoon
peanuts
cold leftovers from dinner
desserts

Aniela
10-29-2014, 06:59 PM
My little boy died over a yr & a half ago, but when I come home sm times I still expect him to be there waiting for me, & I have to stop myself from greeting him out loud.

simone87
10-29-2014, 07:05 PM
My little boy died over a yr & a half ago, but when I come home sm times I still expect him to be there waiting for me, & I have to stop myself from greeting him out loud.

omg that is so sad :'( you are a stronger person than i am, i can't imagine *hugs*

Aniela
10-29-2014, 07:09 PM
omg that is so sad :'( you are a stronger person than i am, i can't imagine *hugs*

Just love yours like you'll nvr see him again :hug: I'm not looking for sympathy, I just sm times worry if it's unhealthy to still feel that way.

Vyanka
10-29-2014, 07:13 PM
Just love yours like you'll nvr see him again :hug: I'm not looking for sympathy, I just sm times worry if it's unhealthy to still feel that way.
Oh. I am so sorry. Xo

newb2
10-29-2014, 07:24 PM
My little boy died over a yr & a half ago, but when I come home sm times I still expect him to be there waiting for me, & I have to stop myself from greeting him out loud.

omg i'm so sorry i cannot even imagine

hamdinger
10-29-2014, 07:30 PM
Just love yours like you'll nvr see him again :hug: I'm not looking for sympathy, I just sm times worry if it's unhealthy to still feel that way.

I'm so sorry. I don't think it's unhealthy to feel how you do. It takes a lot of time to heal. *Hug*

whirlerz
10-29-2014, 08:22 PM
Just love yours like you'll nvr see him again :hug: I'm not looking for sympathy, I just sm times worry if it's unhealthy to still feel that way.

No, it's not^..Hugs to you!

charlie61
10-29-2014, 08:59 PM
I so wish I could talk you into webcam, it was a godsend when I got sick of people violating my boundaries in clubs. That said, I probably won't, so I won't push and Smirnoff's my favorite, too :)

Ugh...if only webcamming could offer the anonymity of dancing (tax-wise and visibility-wise)! I would've jumped on that boat a long time ago if not for that. :/

ScarletKitten
10-29-2014, 10:40 PM
My little boy died over a yr & a half ago, but when I come home sm times I still expect him to be there waiting for me, & I have to stop myself from greeting him out loud.

Aniela, I am crying for you right now. I don't know how you stay strong, but props to you, soldier girl. I love you.

lovelydancer
10-30-2014, 01:09 AM
My little boy died over a yr & a half ago, but when I come home sm times I still expect him to be there waiting for me, & I have to stop myself from greeting him out loud.

I'm so, so sorry for your loss. I can't even begin to imagine what that feels like. I am here for you if you ever wanna chat hun.

Elektra Luxx
10-30-2014, 05:35 AM
Just love yours like you'll nvr see him again :hug: I'm not looking for sympathy, I just sm times worry if it's unhealthy to still feel that way.

I'm very sorry for your loss. Allow yourself as much time as you need to grieve and talk about your son as much as you need to. If people feel uncomfortable when you talk to them about your son that's their problem.

audrey_k
10-30-2014, 07:45 AM
I so wish I could talk you into webcam, it was a godsend when I got sick of people violating my boundaries in clubs. That said, I probably won't, so I won't push and Smirnoff's my favorite, too :)

If I was going to continue working I would honestly have considerd camming, as I am sick of the physical interaction.

But with how short my work span is/was I feel escorting is the best option. I'm moving in with my bf on the 13th so either Friday is my last day, or maybe I will work a few days that next week, ugh, can't wait.

wednesday86
10-30-2014, 07:52 AM
Just love yours like you'll nvr see him again :hug: I'm not looking for sympathy, I just sm times worry if it's unhealthy to still feel that way.

I couldn't imagine losing a child, but my little brother died and as long as I lived in the same house I felt like that. I don't think it ever completely goes away. Even though I don't live there anymore, whenever I go "home" to visit I half expect him to be there. *HUGS*

MyButter
10-30-2014, 08:04 AM
My little boy died over a yr & a half ago, but when I come home sm times I still expect him to be there waiting for me, & I have to stop myself from greeting him out loud.

hugs and much love to you, Aniela.

fishielicious
10-30-2014, 09:51 AM
Aniela, I'm so sorry for your loss, and I don't think there's anything wrong with how you're feeling about it. All love to you.

chanzep
10-30-2014, 05:57 PM
My little boy died over a yr & a half ago, but when I come home sm times I still expect him to be there waiting for me, & I have to stop myself from greeting him out loud.

So sorry for your loss.

amberlly
10-30-2014, 10:47 PM
I hung up on my sugar daddy because he couldn't talk and I wanted attention.

I had to apologise. Sometimes I forget Im not 5.

audrey_k
10-31-2014, 09:03 AM
Men drive me crazy sometimes... I got angry at my boyfriend last night because he has been trying to work something out with me moving in but has basically been keeping me in the dark about it (I thought he had already worked it out but he hasn't)-- when I directly asked him about it he was honest, but I shouldn't have to ask you about something and find out things are not as you told me they were. I got angry at him not because he hasn't worked it out but because he hasn't been open with me about it, we argued and he kept making excuses and finally was like "OK I fucked up, I'm a fucking failure are you happy?" For god's sake, it's not about the fact that you did something wrong, it's about how we communicate with each other, this is the first real issue we've had since we got together and I don't want us to get into a pattern of keeping things from each other when we're struggling with something... then he went off about how he is afraid to tell me because he doesn't "want to let me down" well the only way you could let me down would be to keep something from me. I don't understand why men have to have such pride, like just be honest and don't take every issue I have with the way you act as a criticism about you!

And I reeeeally want to wear stripper heels instead of regular heels to my Halloween party tonight, they are SO MUCH MORE COMFORTABLE.

Aniela
10-31-2014, 09:15 AM
Men drive me crazy sometimes... I got angry at my boyfriend last night because he has been trying to work something out with me moving in but has basically been keeping me in the dark about it (I thought he had already worked it out but he hasn't)-- when I directly asked him about it he was honest, but I shouldn't have to ask you about something and find out things are not as you told me they were. I got angry at him not because he hasn't worked it out but because he hasn't been open with me about it, we argued and he kept making excuses and finally was like "OK I fucked up, I'm a fucking failure are you happy?" For god's sake, it's not about the fact that you did something wrong, it's about how we communicate with each other, this is the first real issue we've had since we got together and I don't want us to get into a pattern of keeping things from each other when we're struggling with something... then he went off about how he is afraid to tell me because he doesn't "want to let me down" well the only way you could let me down would be to keep something from me. I don't understand why men have to have such pride, like just be honest and don't take every issue I have with the way you act as a criticism about you!.

UGH this is the EXACT CORE of the problem w/ my recent ex!! :mad: I am glad your guy at least seems to have the stones to eventually admit he was wrong to hide smtg from you!

michele11
10-31-2014, 09:23 AM
Anelia I'm so sorry. I'd be messed up forever if something happened to my daughter. A year and a half is not a long time. My dad died 13 years ago and I grieved everyday until about 3 years and I could not look at pictures of him until recently.

Aniela
10-31-2014, 07:34 PM
'Attention, Halloween stash of mini 3Musketeers bars: ALL of your bite-size butts are MINE. I will be stopped by nothing, short of reaching the bottom of the bag. You may thank my PMS-enhanced super-swinging moodiness for your impending annhilation. Thank you, that is all.' *Munchmunchmunch*

lovelydancer
11-01-2014, 10:29 PM
I'm really, really burnt out at my home club and need a change of scenery...but I feel I don't have any other options to go to in my area. I like my club but there just isn't enough traffic and money for what I need to make per week. My area has very few clubs; either gown clubs (I don't own any gowns as I hate working in them, and I don't think either would hire me because of my tattoos or the fact that I'm not "supermodel" hot, I'm girl-next-door cute), full blown young crowd party scenes (I don't make money off of the young guys at all), or all black clubs. I don't know if it'd be worth my drive to go to Miami or Fort Lauderdale...but I'm stressed out and at a total loss for what to do right now. I need money but I want to scream out of frustration.

fishielicious
11-02-2014, 11:50 AM
Confession: I just ordered $35 worth of sushi to my apartment. After I ate out and went to a movie yesterday. I guess I'm having a "treat yo'self" weekend. It's really hard for me to feel okay about spending money even though I'm making much more than I ever had before I started dancing. I'm getting palpitations over all of my spending this weekend even though I know I can technically afford it. It just feels like something terrible is going to happen to me every time I let go of more than $5 at a time.

wednesday86
11-02-2014, 11:58 AM
I bought a camera and downloaded photoshop. I am in love...I think I found my thing. :)

SnuffleUffleGrass
11-02-2014, 12:09 PM
I confess I am feeling pity for someone I used to HATE so bad I wished she would die.

I worked with her at the club, she was a waitress first then a stripper. She always had really bad drug problems. She annoyed the hell out of me & caused my ex problems too (he worked as a bouncer at the club.)

I saw recent pictures of her and she looks BAD, like twice her age. I now realize she took after her crackhead mom & had no normal role model (her dad died when she was young.) Maybe she never had a chance.

I don't like her and could never be her friend....I can say she is one of the few people I've met who "never had a chance."

TransdimensionalPrincess
11-02-2014, 02:31 PM
I confess I am madly deeply horribly in love with Chinese food this year, its just... so good....

Selina M
11-02-2014, 03:53 PM
I confess that I am keeping my mouth shut even though my friend is probably making a big mistake... because I am just too tired to argue with her.

She is in love with her ex (who broke off his own engagement and then called her the same night because HE obviously loves HER... and she told him to take a hike out of pride)... and she just got engaged to this other guy (who she dated, told me she couldn't stand because he's a know-it-all asshole that works in politics, and then got back with because her mother pushed him on her). A month ago she was telling me about this newer guy and saying things like "He's a good guy, we just have some issues" in this tone like she's trying to convince herself... Meanwhile she's got Pinterest boards full of quotes about still being in love with someone and moving on and why it didn't work out, etc. directed at the guy she IS in love with.

Am hoping to avoid the topic as long as possible because I don't want to shit on her parade but I feel like this is going to be a big disaster with some kind of wedding night meltdown.

Also, this is SO shallow... but I think the ring is ugly as hell, and looks like it came from the $3 jewelry bin at a flea market. He also stole his proposal idea off an internet meme she's seen numerous times... I would have said no just because of his lack of originality or putting any unique thought into it. I'm horrible.

charlie61
11-02-2014, 04:04 PM
Also, this is SO shallow... but I think the ring is ugly as hell, and looks like it came from the $3 jewelry bin at a flea market. He also stole his proposal idea off an internet meme she's seen numerous times... I would have said no just because of his lack of originality or putting any unique thought into it. I'm horrible.

I think most wedding rings are super ugly. The more expensive they are, the faker they look! Most of them look like costume jewelry to me. I think diamonds look tacky in general. All I can think when I see them is "some poor guy spent a shitload of money on a piece of carbon that could have instead been used to buy literally anything else." Shrugs. I don't get it!

simone87
11-02-2014, 05:36 PM
seriously..i told my bf if he's going to buy me a ring, i'd prefer amethyst, opal, or preferably moon stone. i'd also love cool antique ring. i don't get diamonds but my sister adores them so to each their own i guess. but i don't want a big wedding either, i'd rather spend money on the honeymoon or our future!

fishielicious
11-02-2014, 06:21 PM
I think most wedding rings are super ugly. The more expensive they are, the faker they look! Most of them look like costume jewelry to me. I think diamonds look tacky in general. All I can think when I see them is "some poor guy spent a shitload of money on a piece of carbon that could have instead been used to buy literally anything else." Shrugs. I don't get it!
I agree completely. I have never understood the appeal of engagement/wedding rings unless they're family heirlooms or something. I am generally a pretty unromantic person, which probably contributes to this. And maybe if I had a serious boyfriend, I'd feel differently, but I don't think so. I think I'd still just be like, "Bitch, you spent three months' salary on this ring when you coulda spent that on like a hundred fancy dinners and candy and booze and a vacation and..."

Aniela
11-02-2014, 06:37 PM
A thread abt jewellery preferences might be interesting! Glad to see I am not the only one on here who thinks diamonds, for all their sparkly-shiny loveliness, are seriously overrated.

My confession is that I am finding the Word Association Thread slightly addictive.

Selina M
11-02-2014, 07:58 PM
I think I'd still just be like, "Bitch, you spent three months' salary on this ring when you coulda spent that on like a hundred fancy dinners and candy and booze and a vacation and..."

Exactly!
It's so stupid. I told mine I'd be happy with a $100 cubic zirconia ring, and that I would literally be angry if I found out it was a real diamond. It makes me nervous to walk around with $1000+ on my finger, and I'd be pissed he wasted that much money when we could have taken a trip or something. The resale value of diamonds is also piss poor so it's not like it's something that'll be a source of income in an emergency, like one of the old "traditions"/logic says. I like how they look but c'mon, a shined up cubic zirconia is indistinguishable from a diamond except to a jeweler.
Same with the wedding like Simone said... my bf was all concerned that I wouldn't get a fairytale wedding if we got married anytime soon... Yeah right. Not renting a venue, not feeding people dinner, bam 80% of the costs slashed because that shit is ABSURDLY expensive. I can't fathom paying $3000+ (and that's the cheap end!) for the "privilege" of spending 5 hours in a ballroom. As long as I get my princess ball gown, I'm good :D

But ooh yes, thread on jewelry preferences coming right up!

audrey_k
11-02-2014, 09:25 PM
I'm not into the idea of spending tons on a big wedding but I do want a traditional diamond wedding ring, doesn't need to be huge, quality of the diamond is more important than size to me, but I think diamonds are beautiful and would want something traditional and boring for a ring I'll have to wear for the rest of my life so I don't get bored of it. But I love jewlery, I think you're into it or you aren't. I do agree there are more exciting things than a clear diamond... my bf gave me a blue topaz necklace for my birthday and I'm glad he went with something different.

But I'm also utterly conventional, traditional and old-fashioned when it comes to that sort of thing...

I've been in such a horrible mood for the past week and I'm not sure why, it's like everything everyone does annoys me, my cat, my boyfriend, my clients, and felt so antisocial, I don't want to see anyone. And then today I went on Facebook and saw a video my mum posted with her voice and it made me cry I missed her so much. I would say I'm pms-ing but I'm nowhere near that on my cycle. But I'm going to spend tomorrow night cooking my bf dinner to try and make up for being such a snappy cunt lately... I hate being so irritable and antisocial.

And, I hate my body so much right now. Everytime I walk by a mirror or see a picture of myself I just cringe because I feel sooo fat right now. I have struggled on and off with an eating disorder for 12 years now and when I start to feel like this it's usually a sign that I'm stressed about something else and focusing on my body instead, but all I can think about right now is how fat I feel and how I want to order new diet pills and go on a diet.

amberlly
11-03-2014, 04:30 AM
I only actually like my family right now. And certain friends. The rest of the world is annoying me.

wednesday86
11-03-2014, 08:59 AM
I think most wedding rings are super ugly. The more expensive they are, the faker they look! Most of them look like costume jewelry to me. I think diamonds look tacky in general. All I can think when I see them is "some poor guy spent a shitload of money on a piece of carbon that could have instead been used to buy literally anything else." Shrugs. I don't get it!

I know right?! I picked my own ring. It's a super light aquamarine stone, in an antique looking setting and it was only $300 I think? My husband was like "Really? That's what you want?" Haha. I love it though. I don't like those giant sparkly rings. They look like they came from Claires....

wednesday86
11-03-2014, 09:07 AM
Yesterday my husband woke me up (after I had worked all night), going through everything in our room looking for the fucking nail clippers. He finally got fed up he couldn't find them and went to the store to buy new ones. They were in my bag the whole time, and I knew it, but he pissed me off so much I didn't tell him. He's never getting them back.

michele11
11-03-2014, 10:43 AM
^ I LOVE diamonds. Obviously I still wear my 2 and a half carat engagement ring my ex gave me 14 years ago. Only time I ever took it off was last week for my surgery. My ex won't leave me alone. I still like to talk to him and I would have wanted him to come back like 3 years ago but i don't feel that way anymore. He is obsessed with me, not in love. I still will pick up like once a month( because we were together 9 years) but then he still thinks I love him. He called 2 days ago and I was doing something and saw he called. He texts me " don't call back if you don't want to hear me tel you I love you". Because I hung up on him a few days before that for this shit. WERE fucking broken up! I don't wanna hear", How come you haven't sent e pictures of the kitten or your hot ass"? Then I say Were not together Jason get fucken over it and hang up. Then he tries to xonvince me since were both single and still talk that I do love him. I have to scream at him and get all stressed. Maybe if he just was a friend ( which we never were) and talked about stuff that's going on and be normal. I might consider it. Not like when I talk about the kitten he gets mad because I got one and he can't be here to enjoy him. Fuck get a life!

Selina M
11-03-2014, 11:17 AM
^ Ugh my ex is like that, I can't just be polite and answer him occasionally because then he takes it as a sign I want him back or something. It's kinda the same way as you, I wish I could just talk to him as a friend bc we do get along very well... but guys always take that as something more.
Maybe you should just ignore him from now on? You don't owe him anything even if you were together for 9 years and there's no reason to get stressed out when you have all the other shit on your plate.

audrey_k
11-03-2014, 11:38 AM
My two main exs are like that too, I'm Facebook friends with the and my ex that I broke up with 7 years ago still comments and posts on all my pictures and sends me tons of msgs which I just ignore, he got married and had a baby after we broke up and we were speaking on the phone once and he told me he had left dinner with his wife and her parents to speak to me on the phone... now he's divorced. I tried to be friends with my other ex and he just kept trying to get back together with me. I don't think it's possible for guys to just be friends with ex girlfriends.

I am so happy, my bf is going out with his friends tonight and I have decided not to work and just sit in bed, watch old episodes of Nip Tuck and hang out with my cat. It's pathetic how excited I am about just having one evening to myself. For the last month I've either been with my bf or with a client, I do love being with my bf and didn't want him to leave but sometimes I just want to be alone... I'm so boring and lame.

Kellydancer
11-03-2014, 12:50 PM
I thought I was alone about rings. If I ever get engaged I would be very happy with a garnet and diamond ring or just garnet. I don't see the appeal of diamond rings that are huge. However, if he bought me a cheap ring I would think he just wasn't trying, does this make sense?

Regarding exes, I am FB friends with two exes (and one who is more of a FWB). The FWB and the one ex will chat but are mostly just chatting. In fact the one ex is happily married and I have chatted with his wife. Anyway, the other ex won't leave me alone. Many times I post something they he takes offense to, like the time I said I would never date a man with kids with different people. He has 4 kids by two of his exwives, and there are three exwives. I have repeatedly told him I am not going to date him again and he replied "but I thought we were friends". Yeah but that doesn't mean we'll get back together. How many women desire to date a man married three times (one was a short lived marriage)with 4 kids who really doesn't have money? He's not cute either (in fact he looks even uglier than he did). Not to mention he can barely read and write, graduated high school at 21, has a police record (minor activities but still)and is weird. Oh and the reason we broke up was I gave him money to take the bus to visit me (he lives 5 hours away and didn't have a car)and he spent it on another girl. Honestly, why would he think he would even be an option? I'm not that desperate and would rather adopt cats then marry him.