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Selina M
11-03-2014, 01:10 PM
However, if he bought me a cheap ring I would think he just wasn't trying, does this make sense?
That does make sense. My bf tried to logic with me that way as he is deadset on a real diamond.
The way I see it... If a guy was loaded and bought his girl a cheap ring, she should be pissed. But in my situation... he's a student, and works part-time bartending, so a nice ring is not really an option without going into credit card debt. I told him to buy me a cheap one that looks real, because I would rather get married sooner than later and money isn't important to me in that sense, and to buy me a real one as an anniversary present when he is settled in a career and wouldn't have to scrimp for a year to afford it.
But that's the sappy love-over-money view, and it's funny because it conflicts with my inner stripper that hates cheap men and expects nice shit. I guess I just <3 him so much that I don't care (vomit... I need to go shooting and then take some men's money and regain my independent spoiled self).
Kellydancer
11-03-2014, 01:29 PM
Exactly, Selina. If he was struggling and bought me a decent ring that didn't cost a lot I wouldn't be upset. If however he had a good job and decided to get me something at Wal-Mart in their bargain bin I would be livid. It's one reason I generally don't date previously married men as strange as it seems because this apparently is common with them. The thinking is either they can't afford a new ring because they are spending so much on the ex and kids, or they figure it might fail again so why spend money?
I have an interesting twist on cheap men. If I really like him and he is broke because of circumstances beyond his control (like he lost job that went overseas)I would date him but if he's broke because of supporting other people (a choice)then I wouldn't date him. Also, if I'm not into a guy and he wants to date he'll pay but if I am into him I am willing to split. Sounds weird but after a lifetime of broke ass guys and cheap guys (not always the same)I don't want to deal with them.
audrey_k
11-03-2014, 02:15 PM
Thought matters more than just spending money to me. My ex bought me a promise ring and I reeeeally wanted a diamond because I do think they're beautiful, but he couldn't afford a diamond so he bought me this beautiful 30s style ring with a black onyx and some small diamonds on the band, I absolutely loved it because I could tell he put a lot of thought into it as it was totally my style and he probably spent hours searching for it online/in stores. If you're not into big diamonds or diamonds at all, buying you a diamond ring basically says "I don't know anything about you." Although I love expensive jewelry and designer clothes, I am always totally happy with a small, expensive gift if it was something that shows the person really put thought into it.
MyButter
11-03-2014, 02:44 PM
I think I'd punch somebody in the face if they bought me a Diamond.
Elektra Luxx
11-03-2014, 02:48 PM
I think I'd punch somebody in the face if they bought me a Diamond. I hate them so much.
I like diamond rings, but nothing too gaudy. The rings people wear say a lot about the person.
SnuffleUffleGrass
11-03-2014, 04:12 PM
I gotta confess I love my giant diamond ring & have a smaller more modest one for regular wear. I used to be all down on diamonds but now I like them. btw the problem with cheaper jewelry is it turns your finger green or or wears badly and falls apart.
Just my thoughts, never thought I would feel that way but I figure I work hard, so I deserve a few nice things.
charlie61
11-03-2014, 05:00 PM
Oops - my comment turned into a threadjack! My bad.
Back to confessions!
michele11
11-03-2014, 05:11 PM
^ Ugh my ex is like that, I can't just be polite and answer him occasionally because then he takes it as a sign I want him back or something. It's kinda the same way as you, I wish I could just talk to him as a friend bc we do get along very well... but guys always take that as something more.
Maybe you should just ignore him from now on? You don't owe him anything even if you were together for 9 years and there's no reason to get stressed out when you have all the other shit on your plate.
Yeah. Lol. Not anymore. We built this house together and i wrote a note and notarized it saying I'd give him his money back if we broke up. Lol. He use to use that against me too because I didn't give him the full amount sating he'd get a lawyer. Haha. No I don't owe him anything but he basically raised my daughter with me who's 18 now. she was 3 and like 10 months when we git together. So he knows everything about me so I like to tell him about my daughter or things but yeah then he does think I love him. Ha. When he has a girl( I don't ask anymore) I think he's better and when he don't he acts crazy. But he denies that and says he hasn't had a girlfriend since we broke up just fucked people. He is gorgeous. Has no baggage, is a perfect catch for someone. Just not me. I must say I was the bitch in the relationship he treated me really good. Like my mom said when I was telling her about it. YOU can't be with anyone michele. You are all in love in the begining because they're good looking then a few years down the line you find fault in everybody. And your perfect but you can't except anyone elses faults. LOL.
michele11
11-03-2014, 05:14 PM
My two main exs are like that too, I'm Facebook friends with the and my ex that I broke up with 7 years ago still comments and posts on all my pictures and sends me tons of msgs which I just ignore, he got married and had a baby after we broke up and we were speaking on the phone once and he told me he had left dinner with his wife and her parents to speak to me on the phone... now he's divorced. I tried to be friends with my other ex and he just kept trying to get back together with me. I don't think it's possible for guys to just be friends with ex girlfriends.
I am so happy, my bf is going out with his friends tonight and I have decided not to work and just sit in bed, watch old episodes of Nip Tuck and hang out with my cat. It's pathetic how excited I am about just having one evening to myself. For the last month I've either been with my bf or with a client, I do love being with my bf and didn't want him to leave but sometimes I just want to be alone... I'm so boring and lame.
I'm the same way. That's why I'm single. I like watching my own programs and just being ...alone. I like being with a guy for like a few days and then I'm like ugh! I'm like that with girls I travel with too though. Haha.
michele11
11-03-2014, 05:25 PM
I gotta confess I love my giant diamond ring & have a smaller more modest one for regular wear. I used to be all down on diamonds but now I like them. btw the problem with cheaper jewelry is it turns your finger green or or wears badly and falls apart.
Just my thoughts, never thought I would feel that way but I figure I work hard, so I deserve a few nice things.
I thought I was crazy. Hell I updated a carat 4 months after I got my first ring. I guess that does say a lot about me. Lol And I wear it all the time. It cost me a vip once but I don't care. i really am single and if a custie asks why i still wear it ( I earned it) and I say until I get a bigger one and a new fiance I'm not taking it off!
simone87
11-03-2014, 08:48 PM
( i feel like i might have confessed this already but whatever).i'm so proud of myself for cutting out processed sugar and eating kale/spinach salads everyday, but now i feel like its almost turned into some anal OCD thing. today was my son's 7th birthday, and i ate one slice of blue confetti cake and felt SOO guilty! i immediately went home and drank a ton of water and ate another salad..if i don't take my hemp oil and coconut oil everyday i feel panicky, if i don't get my omega ratios right i feel guilty, etc. its nice to be healthy and see the changes to my hair, skin, and energy levels but i don't want to turn into some obsessive freak!
Kellydancer
11-03-2014, 09:22 PM
Never had kale but love spinach salads. Now I am hungry for that.
I confess that one of my big obsessions is finishing things fast. I take online classes and like to finish in a day or two though they give me 6 months to complete.
charlie61
11-03-2014, 09:34 PM
I took my first Bikram class yesterday...holy sweatbuckets! Felt amazing. The more I sweat when I work out, the happier I am! :)
SamanthaSugar
11-04-2014, 12:24 AM
I think I want my ex back. I left him about 6 months ago, I was bored and I didn't care for his family plus there were some other things, nothing too major.
If I do want him back I'll have to probably do some groveling which I'm not very good at. I blocked him for about 3 mos and then a couple of weeks ago I unblocked
him, at first he was excited to hear from me and wanted to see me but now he's ignoring me and giving me the cold shoulder. When I left he said I'm going to regret it and I think he's right. I'm all worried that he's going to find someone and be happy and I'll be alone with no one :(
michele11
11-04-2014, 04:46 PM
My sister is coming over. We've been hanging out a bit lately. I had to hide the pain pills. Why can't i just have a normal sister. I gave her 8 the other times. I don't want to get a refill. Ugh. I'm afraid to leave the room because she might go rumaging through my room when I do. I just wish we could have a nice sister relationship. She says this all the time and then fucks it uo.
michele11
11-04-2014, 04:48 PM
Then also I have to hide and take one if I need it. This is fucked up!
Prettyglitter
11-04-2014, 05:23 PM
So tired of school. It doesn't feel like I can read another fact. Dancing has mad me feel even more like fuck school. And lately, I don't know if I really even want a real job. I'm just confused. And getting up every day for class is the hardest thing. I can't even focus anymore.
SweetJulia
11-04-2014, 05:28 PM
1-I hadn't done anything to my hair besides wash it and brush it in....two months, maybe? Before yesterday, when I took all of ten minutes out of my time to flat iron it. My former, bleached, extension wearing self would wanna kick my current selfs' ass lol.
[email protected], I've been stolen from, but never by a family member, not sure how I'd react.
ScarletKitten
11-04-2014, 07:16 PM
Then also I have to hide and take one if I need it. This is fucked up!
Michele, don't feel guilty for that! YOU are the one with the broken arm. They were prescribed for YOU, not her. If anything, you are merely following the law by not giving your prescription away. ;)
Aniela
11-04-2014, 07:20 PM
My sister is coming over. We've been hanging out a bit lately. I had to hide the pain pills. Why can't i just have a normal sister. I gave her 8 the other times. I don't want to get a refill. Ugh. I'm afraid to leave the room because she might go rumaging through my room when I do. I just wish we could have a nice sister relationship. She says this all the time and then fucks it uo.
Then also I have to hide and take one if I need it. This is fucked up!
If you can't trust a person to not go thru your things, they do not belong in your home. This goes for family along w/ any1 else. I have a couple relatives I would nvr have in my home for this very reason. Fk that disrespectful noise!!
xStacey
11-04-2014, 08:30 PM
Girls who make up their entire life and talk like they actually believe in their own lies are so annoying. It's especially funny because I have a good memory and they end up contradicting everything they ever said before.
ImmoralAllure
11-04-2014, 10:35 PM
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wednesday86
11-05-2014, 07:38 AM
Anyone else notice that bigger girls/homely girls are rude to you, or at least, won't get close to you? One of my husband's friends asked why all my girlfriends are "hot." It's because the only girls who are nice to me and will hang out with me are pretty. I honestly wish I had more friends but it seems most women aren't interested.
MyButter
11-05-2014, 08:11 AM
^
my related confession:
I have a guy friend/acquaintance who I'm dreading going to lunch with later because I think he is trying to get in my pants. And I'm so frustrated because I haven't done anything to lead him on. All in all, it makes me realize why I became a stripper in the first place, tbh.
Elektra Luxx
11-05-2014, 08:46 AM
Anyone else notice that bigger girls/homely girls are rude to you, or at least, won't get close to you? One of my husband's friends asked why all my girlfriends are "hot." It's because the only girls who are nice to me and will hang out with me are pretty.
Girls in general are not so much rude as stand offish with me. At my vanilla job, I know a couple of girls that I get along with, but most of the people that I hang with are guys. It's usually me and 2 or 3 guys for lunch.
^I have a guy friend/acquaintance who I'm dreading going to lunch with later because I think he is trying to get in my pants. And I'm so frustrated because I haven't done anything to lead him on.
Which brings me to my second point. If he's a guy friend, it doesn't matter if you haven't done anything to lead him on, he's trying to get into your pants.
wednesday86
11-05-2014, 12:26 PM
^
my related confession:
I have a guy friend/acquaintance who I'm dreading going to lunch with later because I think he is trying to get in my pants. And I'm so frustrated because I haven't done anything to lead him on. All in all, it makes me realize why I became a stripper in the first place, tbh.
Yep I gave up on guy friends years ago. I had one best guy friend and I really thought we were 100% platonic...I would introduce him to my boyfriends and we would all hang out together, etc. He was super cool. Then one night he got drunk, called me and confessed his "feelings" for me. UGH
MiraMichele
11-05-2014, 05:24 PM
So I decided to create an account on POF and I'm seriously about to delete it. I met one guy on there the other night who was a total creep, but atleast he paid for the drinks when we met. I created my profile saying that I'm looking for men to date or hang out with but nothing serious since I just got out of a long relationship. What I really mean by that is I want to find someone who is actually cool to go out, have some drinks, food, have a good time and have them pay for it - if things go well and he is hot, then yea I want to get laid too. What is wrong with these men, so many of them are asking to just come straight over to my place, bring wine, or stupid shit like that. Seriously?! Can these men not atleast take a woman out, I'm NOT going to just invite these guys over and screw them, which is obviously what they are trying. This is feeling impossible.
chanzep
11-05-2014, 05:51 PM
I have been drinking lately at work at my dive eurgh! because it was near my birthday, I need to stop, cant stop eating too.
SamanthaSugar
11-06-2014, 12:01 AM
I'm seeing my ex tomorrow, it's been 3.5 months since we've seen each other. I miss him and love him. I just hope I stay strong and not do or say anything I may regret.
Jay12
11-06-2014, 01:02 AM
Anyone else notice that bigger girls/homely girls are rude to you, or at least, won't get close to you? One of my husband's friends asked why all my girlfriends are "hot." It's because the only girls who are nice to me and will hang out with me are pretty. I honestly wish I had more friends but it seems most women aren't interested.
Nope, never: not even when I was much thinner. I always try to project myself in a friendly, mild manner way to everyone. The only people who never approached me were snobs who may had thought I was being fake. If you feel lesser looking women don't approach you, it's probably NOT because of your physique but because of the attitude you project. Let me explain myself better: you may radiate a standoffish aura and they may feel "turned off" by that even if your true personna might not be like that. Don't think that I'm calling you a bitch or a snob: I do not know you well enough to make such judgement.
MyButter
11-06-2014, 10:21 AM
^ idk. I for one, am completely intimidated by beautiful women. There's this one mom at school who looks like a supermodel, and I'd much rather continue to stare at her from a distance than initiate any sort of conversation with her, lol. I don't think she's putting out any negative or weird vibes, either--I just literally can't get over how stunningly gorgeous she is and have convinced myself that she'd never want to have anything to do with me.
SnuffleUffleGrass
11-06-2014, 10:21 AM
Anyone else notice that bigger girls/homely girls are rude to you, or at least, won't get close to you? One of my husband's friends asked why all my girlfriends are "hot." It's because the only girls who are nice to me and will hang out with me are pretty. I honestly wish I had more friends but it seems most women aren't interested.
I have a fat older chick at my day job who is fascinated with being bitchy to me. I have no problem calling her all that b/c she is very mentally immature.
My funny confession- I was emailing back and forth with my first-ever sugardaddy b/c he sent an email out of the blue asking for advice related to his day job/getting a lease for an apartment for his workers in my area. He then asked if we could meet & I basically said "no" due to my current boyfriend. He sent a last email and ended it with "Bye." It cracked me up because when I was dealing with him he had some weird behavioral quirks that got on my nerves. He was very generous but there was no way things were going in any permanent direction. I guess he's on "Ignore" now.
SnuffleUffleGrass
11-06-2014, 10:24 AM
^ idk. I for one, am completely intimidated by beautiful women. There's this one mom at school who looks like a supermodel, and I'd much rather continue to stare at her from a distance than initiate any sort of conversation with her, lol. I don't think she's putting out any negative or weird vibes, either--I just literally can't get over how stunningly gorgeous she is and have convinced myself that she'd never want to have anything to do with me.
Aww this is kind of sad. My bff looks like LeeLee Sobieski & a lot of guys were too terrified to talk to her due to her great looks. She's shy so it would have been nice for someone to break the ice & try to befriend her.
OliveJardin
11-06-2014, 10:41 PM
I confess that I've hurt my foot and I'm feeling REALLY sorry for myself :(. I planned on throwing myself into work while it's the busy season and I physically, just can't :(. I'm trying to stay positive, but hurting your foot as a dancer is frustrating and devastating.
Jay12
11-06-2014, 10:51 PM
I have a fat older chick at my day job who is fascinated with being bitchy to me. I have no problem calling her all that b/c she is very mentally immature.
You "kill" those people...with kindness. You "calling" her all that just puts you at her immature level...and I assume you aren't an immature person, right?
^ idk. I for one, am completely intimidated by beautiful women. There's this one mom at school who looks like a supermodel, and I'd much rather continue to stare at her from a distance than initiate any sort of conversation with her, lol. I don't think she's putting out any negative or weird vibes, either--I just literally can't get over how stunningly gorgeous she is and have convinced myself that she'd never want to have anything to do with me.
Beauty is something extremely subjective, so I don't treat people differently based on their physique. What someone may consider "homely" or "ugly", someone else may consider "beautiful" or "handsome".
ScarletKitten
11-07-2014, 12:40 AM
I confess I'm turned off from giving advice now. I don't think I want to give much input on this site anymore. I don't want to take anything seriously anymore. I just want to laugh at everything because everything is a fucking JOKE anyway. I think too many girls take themselves WAAAYYY too seriously on here sometimes.
michele11
11-07-2014, 09:21 AM
^ Awe! That sucks because your such a sweet person and give good advice. I'm very serious but I've always been that way and irl too. But I'm goofy as fuck. Just ask Ava. Hahah.
Aniela
11-07-2014, 12:33 PM
I slept WAAAAAYYY too much today & am now hating myself bc I feel lazy as fk, goddammit I had important shit to do today!!! :banghead:
Selina M
11-07-2014, 02:34 PM
Sometimes college makes me feel really fucking stupid. I've always been the smart kid who never did homework, got As on all the tests, got scholarships just for standardized test scores, etc etc so this shit really makes me upset. I'm also very very hard on myself and competitive about everything which makes it worse.
I just BOMBED a physics exam and I want to cry, because I spent 9 hours over the last 2 days making sure I could do every single homework problem, and then the exam was nothing like the homework. It's even more enraging because I tried to study theorems and shit for the first exam, and that one was 95% homework problems word for word, so I changed my strategy for this exam and he changed the whole style. What gives?!?!
I have 3 As right now and 2 Bs. Never mind that the Bs are in classes that are so ridiculously hard that the grading curves have 65%+ being a B... the first physics exam, the class average was a 40%... but It makes me feel fucking awful that I can't get As.
ScarletKitten
11-07-2014, 03:24 PM
^ Awe! That sucks because your such a sweet person and give good advice. I'm very serious but I've always been that way and irl too. But I'm goofy as fuck. Just ask Ava. Hahah.
Thanks, Michele. You made me feel better. :) :-*
I was just upset b/c I tried giving advice to someone and they completely shot me down and basically made me feel like shit. I even cried over it! Oh well, I'm over it now. And it's ok to be serious sometimes. :) I just can't stand it when girls take their feminism too far. Don't get me wrong, I'm all for feminism (I'm a girl afterall) I just don't like to take it too seriously or go over the top with the mentality that just b/c we are women, the entire world is out to destroy us!!!! ::) I'm also tired of hearing about feminism/sexism. I think I'm just going to ignore the entire subject altogether from now on.
michele11
11-07-2014, 03:36 PM
Who made you cry ( I'll hurt them). No I get upset over things on here too sometimes and my daughter or friends who don't come here laugh at me. Their like seriously it's Stripperweb. Lol.
^^LMAO, Michelle!
Ugh, I slept all day too and I so don't have time for it, I have so much to do and nobody to really help me. If you want it done right u gotta do it yourself! That saying is so true but it sucks having to do all the work for what I want, can't I get a clone??lbs
^^LMAO, Michelle!
Ugh, I slept all day too and I so don't have time for it, I have so much to do and nobody to really help me. If you want it done right u gotta do it yourself! That saying is so true but it sucks having to do all the work for what I want, can't I get a clone??lbs
michele11
11-07-2014, 05:46 PM
^ Haha. I got my junk food last night. haha. And just went and got more cheddar goldfish and a chocolate cream pie. Guys will love my fat ass when i go back to worl. Lol.
fishielicious
11-07-2014, 07:46 PM
Thanks, Michele. You made me feel better. :) :-*
I was just upset b/c I tried giving advice to someone and they completely shot me down and basically made me feel like shit. I even cried over it! Oh well, I'm over it now. And it's ok to be serious sometimes. :)
I'm sorry, girl, I think you give great advice! And yeah, I've definitely gotten waaaay upset over stuff on this forum. Sometimes I get so nervous when I post something I think will be "controversial" that I get too chicken to ever check the thread again cause I'm worried someone will be flaming me over it or something haha.
My confession: It's taken me like thirty minutes to type out this comment because one hand is fully occupied rubbing my dog's belly. It's just so nice to come home to a warm fuzzy little guy who doesn't want anything from me other than food, walks, and belly rubs. He gets so excited to see me, and I know there's no chance he's going to try to stick anything in any orifice where it doesn't belong. Ugh.
wednesday86
11-07-2014, 09:11 PM
All I want to do is eat and sleep. I've only left my room today to go to the bathroom. My sweet husband brought my food and coffee to me all day, bless him. I just don't want to get out of bed.
fishielicious
11-08-2014, 10:30 AM
I had the weirdest experience at the vet this morning. I took my dog in to get his Comfortis, which is prescription flea/tick prevention. I take him to a couple of different vets because one is cheaper and less likely to try to sell you unnecessary stuff, but is also open very sporadically and doesn't carry Comfortis. So I went to the expensive vet and apparently they don't have my dog's records from when he last got his shots/check-up at the cheap vet. But the cheap vet is closed so they couldn't get that info and wouldn't sell me the Comfortis. I was so irrationally upset, it took everything I had to wait until I got back to my truck to start crying like a loon. I know it's not that big of a deal, but something just kind of boiled over in me. Like that was one too many rejections for me to take or something. I have a feeling it's connected more to stress from work and how I never let anything make me upset when I'm dancing--despite the fact that in the past week I've had a guy pull out his dick and try to force me onto it and another guy try to grab my hand and force it around his dick while trying to insert his fingers in me. I guess it all has to find an outlet somewhere. I am so ready to have a day off but I really need to be spending today lesson planning and doing homework. It's so hard to try to find time to relax lately. And now, since I never have any time on a weekday, I'm going to have to try to get someone in my family to take my dog into the vet this coming week so they'll let me buy him his prescription. AND I still have to make myself a doctor's appointment, because they're withholding my bc prescription until I do. Which seems royally unfair to me, and I have no idea when I'll be able to make an appointment with them. I've got friends staying with me this coming week, too, and towards the end of the month an ex will be staying with me for a few days, too. I'm already stressed out thinking about how the hell I'm going to spend time with/entertain them while still making time for work and school.
Ugh /rant
michele11
11-08-2014, 11:39 AM
Can you get revolouton somewhere?
chanzep
11-08-2014, 01:50 PM
I have some homework to do, but not in the mood, the fact that I had to go out on my day off annoyed me so Im just gona binge on crap tv, might catch up on Teen MoM .
fishielicious
11-08-2014, 02:03 PM
Can you get revolouton somewhere?I have Frontline (and some other generic brands I tried, too, at home), but last year he had a terrible flea infestation to the point where he had scabs all over him because of how much he was scratching, despite the fact that I was giving him his regular flea medication, and the only thing that worked to stop it was a dose of Capstar followed by Comfortis. I'm going to give him a dose of the leftover Frontline today, though, to hopefully tide him over until I can get a new prescription. It's just so frustrating to me because it's such a routine medication and as someone who worked with dogs and provided healthcare to them professionally, I think I would know if there were any reason he shouldn't be taking it.
But also, like I said, even thought I know it's not a big deal I think I just freaked out because that very minor setback brought out some emotions in me I had yet to deal with head-on. Just embarrassing that it happened in public!