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Elektra Luxx
06-08-2015, 05:15 AM
Feeling super resentful of my sister's wedding right now. It's during the summer, so flights are starting at like $600 just for me to take red-eye flights on shitty airlines. I'm going to end up paying around $1k for this whole wedding (including flight, hotel, car, wedding present, dress for the event, food, gas, etc.). I'm super, super frugal. I HATE this kind of shit. Why does she have to have her wedding during peak vacation season?! Why not wait until September or some shit? FUCK.

$1,000 is a lot of money and you're suppose to spend it happily for her "special day". Fuck that! I hate weddings. They give me so much anxiety because of all the distant family you're expected to go up greet and pretend that you're happy to see them.

michele11
06-08-2015, 07:48 AM
^ I confess I'm kinda jealous of all the wedding talk. I'll never get married but I've only been to two in my life. One was my uncles and I was like 11 and I through a fit I couldn't go to the reception (they said I was too young to be around adults drinking) ok. And the second I had a lot of fun was my 2nd boyfriends best friend. Whoops. I've been to 3. Forgot about the key west one because it was also the first time I worked there. That one was made into a movie. Lol. No joke.

Elektra Luxx
06-08-2015, 08:02 AM
I took a day off from work today to spend with my little brother. We are going to the zoo. He doesn't like to exercise and he eats when he gets bored. So he's gaining too much weight. He's 11, maybe 4' 8" and weighs 130 lbs!. That's what I weigh. So the family has decided it's intervention time. We going to get him moving. So we need an interesting place to walk for several hours, the zoo.

Confession - He's starting 7th grade at a new school and I don't want him to get picked on. So want I'm going to help him get in better shape. I'll kick some little punk 7th grader ass if they mess with him.

audrey_k
06-08-2015, 08:21 AM
I know exactly what you're going through!! My ex's family is ultra wealthy, old money, stiff upper lip etc. I come from dirt poor hillbillies :) So even though I am well read, I'm not stupid, I take care of myself, they never accepted me. My ex pretended he was different from his family and he didn't care about stuff like that but it eventually drove us apart. The worst was having to sit though a dinner with them or being stuck on a boat for the afternoon with them,....ugh. I felt like they were really uncomfortable with me and just wished he was with CeCe or Buffy from the Yacht Club and not this gal. Little did they realize I was the first non junkie, white trash girl he's ever been with. In fact, I think he's dating a meth head from Tampa now lol

My boyfriend is always sort of straddling two worlds, he has his rich boarding school friends and then he has his university friends that come from either middle or low class backgrounds (guess which ones I like better). I don't think he really cares about it that much but it's easier for him to move up and down social circles than it is for me, especially when you throw in all the unspoken British social/societal rules that we don't adhere to in America and I don't understand. I went to high school with a lot of rich kids who had celebrity parents, but there wasn't this whole 'class' difference. They just had more money and nicer clothes.

Compared to his ex girlfriends, I'm a mile ahead, which his friends and his step brother (the only one on that side of the family that talks to me, though he's a bit off... either has Asperger syndrome or just really really bad ADHD) have freely admitted. But they preferred the girl he was dating before me I think because she was Asian (his stepmother is Asian and they spend most of their time in Asian countries).

Anyway, his dad was supposed to be busy today working before he flies out tomorrow evening and has now realised he has downtime, and who does he want to see? My boyfriend, alone. Yesterday there was a reason to see him alone, they needed to discuss my boyfriend's mortgage (he's just signing it and his dad is helping) but today there is no reason. I love my boyfriend but a part of me is thinking, do I really want to have someone like this in my life forever? If I have a child is this the kind of person I want in their life? How difficult is he going to make things between my boyfriend and I and my future child? We've already had three huge arguments over his dad's behaviour and if I had my own place, I would be going there this evening as I don't even feel like seeing either of them at the moment. If I'm not good enough for him now I doubt I ever will be, so do I really want to spend my life dealing with this person? He has to know that turning down three opportunities to meet your son's girlfriend is probably going to put her off you and he doesn't seem to give a shit.

My boyfriend keeps stressing this "well you're not family" with me, and I don't get it. We've been dating for 10 and a half months now, living together for six and a half months. My ex's family invited me to everything once we'd been dating for about six months and we weren't even living together. I went to every birthday party, every family event, including when his uncle committed suicide. They always treated me like I was a part of their family and were so friendly/open with me. That's the kind of family I want to adopt when I get married, not this "well you're not family even though you live with my son, until you've changed your last name I do not recognise you as having any significance, so I have no time for you" bullshit. I mean, my mum and my stepdad have been planning a trip to Italy for August, but they've decided to change it and go to Scotland (where my mum is from) instead so they can come through London... why? Because they want to meet my boyfriend.


Feeling super resentful of my sister's wedding right now. It's during the summer, so flights are starting at like $600 just for me to take red-eye flights on shitty airlines. I'm going to end up paying around $1k for this whole wedding (including flight, hotel, car, wedding present, dress for the event, food, gas, etc.). I'm super, super frugal. I HATE this kind of shit. Why does she have to have her wedding during peak vacation season?! Why not wait until September or some shit? FUCK.

My boyfriend's friend is getting married the first week of September in Italy and it's going to cost us about £600 each for flights and accommodation and whatnot. I don't even like the groom. If I'm going to spend that much money on a vacation I want to go where I want to go and have fun, not go to a boring wedding (I know some people love weddings, I find them excruciatingly boring).

I can't stand people who plan weddings that end up being super expensive/inconvenient for their guests. When I get married I just want to go to the beach, sign the papers, and be done with it. Who cares.

HoolaTwister
06-08-2015, 09:15 AM
Audrey_K- Wow, that sound so much like my situation! Down to the dad having re married an Asian! My ex's family are East Coast Old Money so a lot like the English. I mean, they have tea time as well haha :) I have also dated a really cute Jewish guy from LA, his dad is a big time agent so he grew up with money but never ever did they make me feel small and unwelcome. They accepted me completely and were warm. These people? Icy cold. I think I put them off with my openness and "sexuality" I guess, they were not used to someone like me. Not that I was ever overtly sexual obviously but, for example, we were visiting his family once and they were having a pool party. I had on a red bikini. They look mortified. Like, look at that obscene peasant!
It also hurt a lot because his brother's girlfriend was so accepted and they would fall all over themselves for her and she was this lame stupid hippie, so annoying. She reminded me of one of Charlie Manson's girls or something. And it didn't matter that she did drugs, she drank, she fooled around on his brother. It mattered that she was from a "well off" family and wore Patagonia fleece sweaters.
My ex and I would get into fights about it all and he said the same thing, I'm not family. It would make me furious. In the end, it was too stressful for me. I would leave their place completely drained and feeling worthless so I broke up with him .

xStacey
06-08-2015, 10:28 AM
Whenever something happens in her life, my mom's always praying to god in hope of meeting someone who will save her. I can't stop myself from thinking she wouldn't have lasted long, had she ever stepped foot in the industry.

Selina M
06-08-2015, 01:17 PM
They give me so much anxiety because of all the distant family you're expected to go up greet and pretend that you're happy to see them.

I want to print off yours and Charlie's posts and give them to my parents. Ugh. There was a huge discussion involving my mother going "What do you MEAN you're not inviting Dramatic Aunt/Cokehead Cousin/Your Dad's Estranged Children That Look At You Like The Scum of the Earth/Selfish High School Friend?!" She had a real hard time with the whole "only inviting people I WANT there" thing.

Anyways, confession, it really pisses me off that I have to take a 3 credit "Serving English Learners" course in order to teach. I'm sick of catering to these illegal immigrants. They piss me off so bad because most that I met in the club had been here for years and chose not to learn english out of laziness... now I'm expected to learn how to pander to their children that don't speak it either?
When I was in school, kids that didn't speak english got put in ELL programs. They weren't mixed in with the regular population and the teachers weren't expected to attempt to teach them the same curriculum in whatever broken spanish/english hybrid they could get through to them with.

Aniela
06-08-2015, 07:27 PM
Awwww....I say, go for it, love! Really, life is so short, and you need cuddles with this man, damnit! *mwah!* *virtual cuddles* *hugs*

We may not always see eye to eye SK, but DAMN am I a sucker for your cuddles :lovestruc

Curse the six-states-away distance from this guy. I could totally see myself showing up suddenly at his door ready to collect on the cuddles he was promising me!

Confession: my 'inner stripper' has been getting away from me at my vanilla job lately. I notice myself sassing idiotic/disrespectful customers more frequently -- sm times I am able to be subtle abt it, but other times it's been quite blatant. I need to re-learn how to keep a civil tongue in my head b4 I lose my job & the lovely medical benefits that it will be bringing me.

HoolaTwister
06-08-2015, 08:49 PM
I want to print off yours and Charlie's posts and give them to my parents. Ugh. There was a huge discussion involving my mother going "What do you MEAN you're not inviting Dramatic Aunt/Cokehead Cousin/Your Dad's Estranged Children That Look At You Like The Scum of the Earth/Selfish High School Friend?!" She had a real hard time with the whole "only inviting people I WANT there" thing.

Anyways, confession, it really pisses me off that I have to take a 3 credit "Serving English Learners" course in order to teach. I'm sick of catering to these illegal immigrants. They piss me off so bad because most that I met in the club had been here for years and chose not to learn english out of laziness... now I'm expected to learn how to pander to their children that don't speak it either?
When I was in school, kids that didn't speak english got put in ELL programs. They weren't mixed in with the regular population and the teachers weren't expected to attempt to teach them the same curriculum in whatever broken spanish/english hybrid they could get through to them with.

I once worked with this Brazilian chick, she was an illegal. Her English was so bad that I thought she had just come over. Oh no. At that point she was in the US for 15 years already! GRADUATED FROM HIGH SCHOOL. With barley able to hold a conversation. How is that even possible??

Elektra Luxx
06-08-2015, 09:08 PM
I once worked with this Brazilian chick, she was an illegal. Her English was so bad that I thought she had just come over. Oh no. At that point she was in the US for 15 years already! GRADUATED FROM HIGH SCHOOL. With barley able to hold a conversation. How is that even possible??

This is a big issue in Texas. If you run a business in Texas there is someone that can speak Spanish. Anywhere you go there is bilingual signage to accommodate Spanish only speakers. Even the corporate law firm I work for have lawyers who specialize in dealing US/Mexico business dealings. This says that businesses are not expecting everyone to learn English.

lynn2009
06-08-2015, 11:50 PM
It is almost 3am and I cannot sleep. I miss my ex a lot tonight, Idk why, I've been pretty over it for a while now. We ended up not lasting very long but on the day we made it official we laid in bed just cuddling for almost an hour, or was so sweet and one of the few times I've really felt calm and peaceful.

Prettyglitter
06-09-2015, 12:28 AM
Sometkmes dancing is annoying and it takes a toll on me physically and emotionally. But most of the time, I really do enjoy my job. I love getting dressed up, getting compliments, being able to travel, picking when I work, drinking and having fun on the job, meeting new people, and making instant cash. This job has given me so many opportunities. But as you guys know, no one outside of the dancing world really know I do this. So sometimes it's stressful trying to hide it all. And it sucks when I wanna go on vacations and do fun stuff but can't because none of my peers make close to what I make. Then I made the mistake of telling a "friend" that I had danced before and she really just threw it back in my face. We're no longer friends. I just can't forgive her for that. Yet I fear her putting me so I keep it cordial. So sometimes this job can be so isolating. I really don't mix my regular life with my dancing life.

Lately I've been wanting a dancer friend like myself. Someone who understands and isn't jealous and competitive. Someone that's beautiful and that manages their money so that we can actually do fun stuff as well as plan strip trips. Someone who can really relate to me I guess. I also want a dancer friend from another culture.

kaninchen
06-09-2015, 09:28 AM
I need to be finishing my French final presentation right now, but instead I'm twerking around my house to Ying Yang Twins.

whirlerz
06-09-2015, 10:32 AM
Sometkmes dancing is annoying and it takes a toll on me physically and emotionally. But most of the time, I really do enjoy my job. I love getting dressed up, getting compliments, being able to travel, picking when I work, drinking and having fun on the job, meeting new people, and making instant cash. This job has given me so many opportunities. But as you guys know, no one outside of the dancing world really know I do this. So sometimes it's stressful trying to hide it all. And it sucks when I wanna go on vacations and do fun stuff but can't because none of my peers make close to what I make. Then I made the mistake of telling a "friend" that I had danced before and she really just threw it back in my face. We're no longer friends. I just can't forgive her for that. Yet I fear her putting me so I keep it cordial. So sometimes this job can be so isolating. I really don't mix my regular life with my dancing life.

Lately I've been wanting a dancer friend like myself. Someone who understands and isn't jealous and competitive. Someone that's beautiful and that manages their money so that we can actually do fun stuff as well as plan strip trips. Someone who can really relate to me I guess. I also want a dancer friend from another culture.

Yes, Please.:yes:^

SimoneGray
06-09-2015, 03:32 PM
I confess that at this moment I am curled up on my bed, watching Say Yes To The Dress and eating cocoa pops cereal. I couldn't be happier.

tuesdaymarie
06-09-2015, 03:35 PM
This girl calls me one of her best friends, but I am really over the relationship. I just ignored another one of her calls, even though she moved to another city a few months ago and wants to catch up. I just don't have anything to say to her. I thought she was nice enough when we met, but she got annoying pretty quickly. Like, she'd constantly complain about wanting to lose weight, then get pissy when I suggested not eating several servings of pasta three times a fucking week. Oh, sorry, forgot real solutions are bitchy--my bad. I completely checked out of the friendship when she had a shitty day at work, got drunk at a bar, drove, wrecked her car, lied about it, and blamed Jesus for "making that happen to someone who believes in him." I didn't even know what to say to that shit. Like, I'm an atheist, but I'm offended for Jesus that you tried to go all Carrie Underwood and pin that shit on him. Wake the fuck up.

Selina M
06-09-2015, 04:30 PM
So my fiances ex is completely nuts. They've been split up for 2 years and it's still going on. She's been basically harassing us in some form or another every few months for the last year. The extent of her bizarre insanity is astounding to me.

Short summary of the crazy: At first, she was just messaging him wanting to cry on his shoulder about various things. Then she wanted him to get her the last of his sleeping pills (they were both junkies together, but he got clean, and now she wanted help kicking.. she also lives 2 hours away). I kiboshed the idea, and she lost her mind... 17 texts and 4 phone calls in an hour, one giant tantrum. The whole thing was just a way for her to make sure he would still do anything she wanted. We blocked her #s on our phones, and both of her FB profiles. For a week afterward, I was getting calls from either blocked #s, or #s with her area code.

Last month, she messages him from her "fiancé's" FB account, wanting to meet up and get stuff of hers he allegedly has in a storage unit. He ignored her until his dad said she had been calling his office. He writes her back that he doesn't have time, and to leave his dad alone. This morning (3 weeks after he wrote back... I think her 'fiancé' doesn't actually know she's been writing him on his account), he gets the longest FB message I have ever seen, rambling about how "normal people trade stuff back when they break up", "I guess my bf will just keep your stuff, he's taken to wearing one of your shirts for work" (CREEPY), "I don't live far from you, we live -cross streets 3 miles from our old apt-", "I want you to meet my fiancé", "We go dancing now, you're bound to run into us eventually", and "Was that you I saw at Phantom of the Opera last week? If not, you should see it, -rambling about how good the show was-"

Confession: This chick is carrying the biggest torch for someone I have ever seen. There is no way this is just about getting her stuff back or what have you. Who the fuck moves 3 miles from their ex and starts dragging their new bf out doing the same hobbies they did with the ex?
And you know what? It makes me laugh. I love the drama. I love that she is probably ripping her hair out because he isn't giving her even a mouse-sized door to put her foot in. She is such a nasty person, and treated him like garbage, and I love that she wants him and can't get him. That's super horrible of me on some level, I'm sure, but she fucking deserves it after some of the shit she pulled. Take that, you little shit.

charlie61
06-09-2015, 05:16 PM
I confess that I've started to become super aggressive with non-tippers/non-spenders lately. I'm talking about the kind of guys who won't even give me a dollar to tip the girl who's dancing on stage (when they're staring right at her, clearly watching her show). I've started to hardcore shame them. I need to get that habit in check. It takes more energy from me than it's worth to say stuff like that to people, especially since I'm naturally a very, very chill person. Like, aside from these instances, I literally can't even remember the last time I experienced anger... It's best to just walk away!

amberlly
06-09-2015, 06:09 PM
^^those guys should just be kicked out. We have one guy that comes in week after week. Asks who is on and then sighs can't spend any money. The one person he wanted isn't on. No matter who is on, he asks for who isn't. And if they are on - he sighs he didn't say Ali - he said Anna.

baer45
06-09-2015, 07:33 PM
One guy got so drunk that he threw up while receiving a massage from my friend Tina and passed out afterwards. It was a mess although she had his credit card swapped and could charge him an extra half hour fees.

ScarletKitten
06-09-2015, 08:48 PM
Well, I don't know what has come over me lately. I've completely lost interest in the Korean guy. I guess I came to my senses. I was going insane for like 4 days. This is embarrassing, but I didn't feel like it was me. Like it was another personality in me that went love crazy. And then I wake up yesterday and feel numb and cold. So I pulled away from him.

I just wanted to reach out to someone I guess. I feel so fucking weird about all this though. I had really good sex with my bf today and afterwards, I thought to myself, "Damn, I could never have any other cock inside me. Ever. I only want my bf's cock." And that was that. lol

Maybe my 4-day crush on the Korean was just a way for me to test myself? I met my current bf in 2007 and have been with him ever since. So that's 8 years of being with the same person. I guess my heart wanted to get a taste for love outside, to see if this is really what I want?

Well, I know now. I couldn't be with anyone else. I love my bf. Sometimes he annoys me with his Asperger/autistic self. How he's so damn analytical about everything, and everything has to have a method, and his little quirks. Sometimes he irritates me or overwhelms me, so I have to be alone for a while. But that's okay. He's always respects me, and gives me my space when I need it.

I just feel bad for the Korean guy, and I feel like a complete idiot for offering my love so easily. It's like the "hippie, free-love fairy" character that lives inside me is dying to express herself. But goddamn it, I'm in charge here. Must be logical. Must be like Spock. Control your emotions!

:spin:

lol who am I kidding. I could never be like Spock. I admire the hell out of him though.

amberlly
06-09-2015, 09:06 PM
I just want a peaceful existence with lots of pretty clothes and faster delivery service.

OliveJardin
06-10-2015, 05:52 AM
...I just spent $180 on presents for my cat's 1st Birthday...I think I need to get one of these "life" things I keep hearing about ::). I have "incarcerated" myself and have no idea where to start...maybe I'll give up and buy another cat :(.

whirlerz
06-10-2015, 06:38 AM
There's a guy I;ve got my eye on @ the motel..he's waved to me a couple times, I ignored him, cause a lotta weird ppl here..walked past him the other night, & go a close look sooo hot. He was getting a pizza, & must've tipped the guy really well, the guy goes, "Really, are you sure"?
Anyway, I haven't seen him til last night, walked by, we both said hi to each other, & asked how each other was..shoulda talked to him. :(

kaninchen
06-10-2015, 08:00 AM
Ugh! I have to make a point to eat fruits and veggies for the rest of the week. I've been stress eating French bread sandwiches and bean & cheese burritos for the past few days. They're so delicious, but I feel like a big sack of flour now. Not sexy.

tuesdaymarie
06-10-2015, 09:08 AM
...I just spent $180 on presents for my cat's 1st Birthday...I think I need to get one of these "life" things I keep hearing about ::). I have "incarcerated" myself and have no idea where to start...maybe I'll give up and buy another cat :(.

Pfft! Only $180? Come to the truly crazy side: www.kittymansions.com
Editomg: I want to buy this one: http://www.wayfair.com/Go-Pet-Club-92-Cat-Tree-in-Beige-FC06-GPC1070.html /cat lady



I have a confession, and holy shit, y'all are going to think I'm a bad person, and maybe I am... But living in one of the fattest cities in the country has finally made me snap. I cannot stand all the obese people around me every day. I understand issues like misinformation, food deserts, hypothyroidism, diabetes, etc... But I just don't think any of it is an excuse to feed you or your children into morbid obesity and chronic health issues. Once, I was walking into WalMart, and I saw this obese man and his kid running in the parking lot. It warmed my heart! There that man was, realizing he had made a mistake and trying to make exercise fun for him and his kid! No. They were racing to the single mobility scooter left. The father got there first and yelled, "HA!" in the kids face as he clambered on and scooted away. It was horrifying. And ever since then, I see it everywhere. I was getting fresh greens, and this obese woman on a scooter rammed my leg at the grocery. All she said was, "Whoops." I went to my endocrinologist's office and couldn't figure out why they had bench seats. Me and TWO other girls sat on one. Then we realized it was a double-wide reinforced chair meant for ONE obese patient. I had to get my blood drawn with a family of all super obese type two diabetics, and all of them had XL fast food drinks and bags of food. The father kept trying to "flirt" with me, and he said skinny people having diabetes is proof that it's all about the genetics. I try to be kind and understanding, but the self-delusion is maddening.

zoezoebelle
06-10-2015, 11:08 AM
Is it normal to get this many marriage proposals? o.o As a commitment phobe, it really freaks me out. I feel like every other night someone says "I would leave me wife/girlfriend for you" or "I want to marry you" with actual seriousness. I feel really sad but I don't want to screw up my job so I just say nothing and smile. They end up walking away with this dazed and confused look at the end of the night. Is it bad to keep some of them as regulars? I'm not trying to lead them on and I don't say anything to suggest that I'm interested in a relationship, but I let them keep their fantasy unless they start actively trying to convince me to leave my boyfriend.

kaninchen
06-10-2015, 02:52 PM
^ Yes, girl, it's normal -- exploit it! I've had tons of customers say that and unless they're legitimately unbalanced (in which case, they're going to say any number of crazy things) they're not REALLY serious. They just want to say it and fantasize about it, but I swear as soon as they leave the club they're just like, "Haha, yeah right." I've had lots of Arab/Middle Eastern customers tell me they're going to take me back home, same with Mexican/Central American guys, and even a few bachelors tell me they're about to call off their wedding for me!

I just giggle and go along with it, like, "Oooh, what will it be like in Tunisia/Michoacan/Wherever? What's our house going to be like? Can we have sex EVERY night? I'd be a great wife! Hey do you want to renew VIP for another half hour? Yeah? Okay. So what kind of food can I cook you when we're married?"

wednesday86
06-10-2015, 06:27 PM
Finally got approved for MFC and Streamate and got internet in my new place today.
Logged into Streamate for 2 minutes, got bored, logged off.
Logged into MFC and a guy asked me if I could burp on command. Logged off.

After running errands and doing laundry all day I'm just not in the mood.

charlie61
06-10-2015, 06:42 PM
I confess that all of the money negativity on SW lately is really starting to get to me. It's making me think that I'm going to suddenly start making $5/shift soon, and I'm just getting lucky with the money I'm pulling in. It gives me anxiety to read all of these threads with statistics about how no one is spending money in clubs anymore, how the summer is shit everywhere, how extras are the only way to make money anymore, etc. Aaaahh!! :(

whirlerz
06-10-2015, 06:46 PM
I confess that all of the money negativity on SW lately is really starting to get to me. It's making me think that I'm going to suddenly start making $5/shift soon, and I'm just getting lucky with the money I'm pulling in. It gives me anxiety to read all of these threads with statistics about how no one is spending money in clubs anymore, how the summer is shit everywhere, how extras are the only way to make money anymore, etc. Aaaahh!! :(

Yep^. Which's why I try to selectively skim over that shit. & make myself focus on the positive.

Vyanka
06-10-2015, 06:50 PM
I don't like to read it either.

Christ. It's still possible to make money clean. Even make more than the dirty ones.

Just be a smart hustler!

wednesday86
06-10-2015, 06:57 PM
I confess that all of the money negativity on SW lately is really starting to get to me. It's making me think that I'm going to suddenly start making $5/shift soon, and I'm just getting lucky with the money I'm pulling in. It gives me anxiety to read all of these threads with statistics about how no one is spending money in clubs anymore, how the summer is shit everywhere, how extras are the only way to make money anymore, etc. Aaaahh!! :(

Just ignore it, if you can! I also refuse to read the "Camming Sucks" forum since I want to start camming for reals this week. I will only read the Camming Rocks thread! lol!

kaninchen
06-10-2015, 07:08 PM
I guess I have a lot of confessions today...

I confess that I'm super awkward about writing a paper about the meanings/experiences of black womanhood because my professor is herself a black woman. I couldn't NOT address the topic, and I think it's really interesting and I'm enjoying my research, but I keep feeling like I'm going to do something wrong and offend her. Should I write Black instead of black?! Is it okay for me to talk about the strong black woman stereotype?! Is it weird to be white and talk about "white supremacist society"? Is my whole thesis super-wrong??

I'm being eaten alive by my own awkwardness!

amberlly
06-10-2015, 07:35 PM
...........

ScarletKitten
06-10-2015, 07:37 PM
I guess I have a lot of confessions today...

I confess that I'm super awkward about writing a paper about the meanings/experiences of black womanhood because my professor is herself a black woman. I couldn't NOT address the topic, and I think it's really interesting and I'm enjoying my research, but I keep feeling like I'm going to do something wrong and offend her. Should I write Black instead of black?! Is it okay for me to talk about the strong black woman stereotype?! Is it weird to be white and talk about "white supremacist society"? Is my whole thesis super-wrong??

I'm being eaten alive by my own awkwardness!

Awwww....it's okay love. I think she will understand. Start a thread about it maybe? I've been trying to find black girl power movies to watch, so it's interesting that you are writing a paper about that. Whoa. Strange universe and its coincidences!

HoolaTwister
06-10-2015, 07:45 PM
I guess I have a lot of confessions today...

I confess that I'm super awkward about writing a paper about the meanings/experiences of black womanhood because my professor is herself a black woman. I couldn't NOT address the topic, and I think it's really interesting and I'm enjoying my research, but I keep feeling like I'm going to do something wrong and offend her. Should I write Black instead of black?! Is it okay for me to talk about the strong black woman stereotype?! Is it weird to be white and talk about "white supremacist society"? Is my whole thesis super-wrong??

I'm being eaten alive by my own awkwardness!

This is a sensitive subject and she *may* side eye you. When taking about white people, do you capitalize it? If you do, capitalize Black as well. Also, I don't know, but I would feel super awkward writing about Asian women or wherever, you really picked an awkward subject! Sorry, this is not helpful in anyway! Haha

kaninchen
06-10-2015, 08:02 PM
This is a sensitive subject and she *may* side eye you. When taking about white people, do you capitalize it? If you do, capitalize Black as well. Also, I don't know, but I would feel super awkward writing about Asian women or wherever, you really picked an awkward subject! Sorry, this is not helpful in anyway! Haha

Lol. Well, to clarify, the class was specifically about books by Caribbean women of African descent, and for this paper we have to engage the topic of race. I just feel weird because I really loved the book that I'm writing about, but I don't want it to come across as fetishizing or appropriating in any way. I would NEVER feel this way if I were analyzing, say, a white man's equally alien experience, I guess I'm just really self-conscious about not speaking over WOC ... even though it's my paper ... So my anxiety is pretty unfounded.

But I'm 100% sure that my professor does not give a single fuck and that I'm just being totally weird, as usual.

emma383
06-10-2015, 08:12 PM
I guess I have a lot of confessions today...

I confess that I'm super awkward about writing a paper about the meanings/experiences of black womanhood because my professor is herself a black woman. I couldn't NOT address the topic, and I think it's really interesting and I'm enjoying my research, but I keep feeling like I'm going to do something wrong and offend her. Should I write Black instead of black?! Is it okay for me to talk about the strong black woman stereotype?! Is it weird to be white and talk about "white supremacist society"? Is my whole thesis super-wrong??

I'm being eaten alive by my own awkwardness!


Try the "participant" observation style deemed as an objective approach, like in anthropology. Be weary of the subjectivity that lies within it by conscientiously attempting not to get too involved and likely what your professor is actually trying to do. You know, looking for objectivity in the result of “truths” that can ensue or become a sticky issue.

charlie61
06-10-2015, 08:22 PM
It drives me fucking crazy that the same people who encourage girls to quit vanilla jobs to dance full-time are the same ones who quote statistics on how customers aren't spending money in clubs anymore. Like....?????

ScarletKitten
06-10-2015, 08:54 PM
I cannot wait until the day when Holly Madison writes an autobiography. She better do it!!

I just read on yahoo today how horrible Hugh Hefner treated her, and that she almost committed suicide because she was so miserable there. He manipulated the girls, criticized them, encouraged drama, and was a total hypocrite because he would accuse her of cheating on him. Yet, it was okay for him to bone dozens of playboy bunnies every day? Okay, yeah, no double standard there! ::) Anyway, I want to read her biography now. It's coming out this month! The universe has granted your wish. :) http://www.amazon.com/Down-Rabbit-Hole-Adventures-Cautionary/dp/0062372106

charlie61
06-10-2015, 09:13 PM
I just read on yahoo today how horrible Hugh Hefner treated her, and that she almost committed suicide because she was so miserable there. He manipulated the girls, criticized them, encouraged drama, and was a total hypocrite because he would accuse her of cheating on him. Yet, it was okay for him to bone dozens of playboy bunnies every day? Okay, yeah, no double standard there! ::) Anyway, I want to read her biography now. It's coming out this month! The universe has granted your wish. :) http://www.amazon.com/Down-Rabbit-Hole-Adventures-Cautionary/dp/0062372106

Holy CRAP. OMG! I cannot believe I just thought of this, and it's coming out soon. I thought for sure she had some sort of signed non-disclosure agreement with him that extended until after his death. Woah!!! Thank you!! I hope she writes frankly about her experiences and doesn't just allude to vague events. I want a juicy tell-all!!

She earned every fucking dollar she's going to make from this book. For real.

HoolaTwister
06-10-2015, 09:14 PM
Lol. Well, to clarify, the class was specifically about books by Caribbean women of African descent, and for this paper we have to engage the topic of race. I just feel weird because I really loved the book that I'm writing about, but I don't want it to come across as fetishizing or appropriating in any way. I would NEVER feel this way if I were analyzing, say, a white man's equally alien experience, I guess I'm just really self-conscious about not speaking over WOC ... even though it's my paper ... So my anxiety is pretty unfounded.

But I'm 100% sure that my professor does not give a single fuck and that I'm just being totally weird, as usual.

If you have to write about this, don't be too dainty about it, if you know what I mean? Black people are just people and I think any kind of white guilt walking on eggshells thing is pretty ridiculous. Write freely. Why do white people have to be so angsty when it comes to the issue of race?? Would a Chinese student have an issue like this? No.

I had a black professor for a class I took and she would want us to write about race but then get super angry and try to correct us about everything. Everything was personal. So everyone was super paranoid, anxious etc. I would never take any class that's about "race" ever again.

kaninchen
06-10-2015, 09:18 PM
I just read on yahoo today how horrible Hugh Hefner treated her, and that she almost committed suicide because she was so miserable there. He manipulated the girls, criticized them, encouraged drama, and was a total hypocrite because he would accuse her of cheating on him. Yet, it was okay for him to bone dozens of playboy bunnies every day? Okay, yeah, no double standard there! ::) Anyway, I want to read her biography now. It's coming out this month! The universe has granted your wish. :) http://www.amazon.com/Down-Rabbit-Hole-Adventures-Cautionary/dp/0062372106

OMG! This could be a SW Book Club book!!! 100% reading this for sure.

ScarletKitten
06-10-2015, 09:22 PM
It amazes me how the universe works. We wish for something, and then, BAM, there it is!!! I am blown away by the LOA every day now. It's real!!! <3

MyButter
06-11-2015, 05:05 AM
I was writing out a snark fueled reply to a post that twisted my invisible panties into a wad on here, and before I could hit post BAM--my pc mysteriously catches some sort of virus.

Instant karma I guess:(

ava$
06-11-2015, 10:35 AM
I have been all blonde hair for a while now and a few months ago my hair guy gave me umbre, which was pretty much my natural color which is brown and then to blonde with extensions. I really like it but I've not gone back to him since, I've even adjusted my own extensions. IDK, feels kinda trashy but it still looks good, not as good tho as a fresh do and a cut.
Ive been spending way too much money lately, idk why cause Im about to have to spend lots on a move and didn't even make much last weekend.

wednesday86
06-11-2015, 11:52 AM
I used to love to write fantasy/fiction but I have not felt inspired at all in the last month. I can't think of any good ideas to keep any of my stories going. I have the house all to myself until Sunday and don't even start work until next week...I have all this time to write and nothing is coming to me. :(

lynn2009
06-11-2015, 03:59 PM
I brought my facebook back today for all of 7ish minutes to try Tinder. All I saw on Tinder was a whole lot of NOPE. Perused an ex's page for a few minutes. Now I'm sad again. Apparently he got invited to appear on the Colbert Report (turned it down, idk why).

KikiGem
06-11-2015, 06:44 PM
I went on a date with a guy, 27 years old, cute, goofy, liked him. Thought we were having fun.When we were eating I offered to pay out of politeness and he said "I'll getcha next time." I confess I'm more than a little put off by the fact that he actually let me pay especially for both of us and especially since this was the first date. AND he picked the restaurant. Yea scratch what I said before I'm extremely put off. Never mind feminism or whatever that was just really bad manners.

Oh and the other guy I'm talking to... Takes him almost a full day to reply. He did this twice before I figured it out as a game. Too cool to text me back same day? Yeah sure whatever buddy..