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Aniela
07-02-2015, 01:09 PM
^^^^ Yeaah … if the guy is really a psychopath, I doubt he actually gives a flying fk abt hurting you, at least for your own benefit. Sry to be harsh, & it's not bc I think you're the kind of person who deserves to get hurt (altho I think you're racking up sm majorly bad karma by just standing by while he fks w/ your coworkers). I'm saying the reason he hasn't tried anything serious along those lines (yet) is bc he probably has smtg else equally not-good in mind, & hurting you/putting you off at this point would only be throwing a spanner into the larger works.

Further, assuming this isn't all bs (from him or you) -- if the $$$$ really isn't going anywhere then he won't object to you doing what you need to (physically & otherwise) safeguard yourself.

HoolaTwister
07-02-2015, 01:14 PM
I'm at the point where I don't even believe a word of this! Who talks like this? "He might be the richest man in the country." I'm calling bs.

Aniela
07-02-2015, 01:20 PM
That ^^^^ out of the way … my supervisor asked if I had ever considered a position as a shift supervisor. I immediately took it as a hypothetical & my first response was 'Do you have any idea how much I loathe most human interaction?' :banghead:

He was so casual that it didn't occur to me right away that he might be suggesting a promotion, but he ended w/ 'Well if you change your mind let me know & we'll talk abt it'

I don't really know what to do abt it. The question's been bouncing around in my head since then, to where I am seriously considering asking if we can discuss it further. I like the idea of a pay increase but not if it means MORE interaction, I already get enough of that to burn me out daily by end of shift. Plus, if I end up getting surgery for my feet I don't want to be That Guy that only briefly manages the additional responsibilities b4 taking off for 6-8wks. That just feels like a dick move to me. I am probably way-overthinking since there are still a lot of gaps to fill-in but this promotion idea really has me feeling conflicted.

carmen_b
07-02-2015, 01:34 PM
If you want it, write an email saying you'd love to do it to show enthusiasm.
I'm a business owner so I can see he was trying to " put the puzzle together " and he wanted you to be a peice! He mostly just wants EASE so if his current thought is that you aren't into it, it may go to someone else. You can probably easily get it if you just show interest.

Edit to add: I have similar human interaction burn out but it honestly is better for me to be the Alpha in most work situations. You may even find that it's easier !

wednesday86
07-02-2015, 01:51 PM
I only had three glasses of chardonnay last night and I feel like I've been hit by a truck today....like the worst hangover of my life and I wasn't even that drunk. wtf

Selina M
07-02-2015, 02:46 PM
The amount of money and time some dancers spend on upkeep is unfathomable to me. Mani/pedi, $40-$50 every 2 weeks. Hair touchup every 4 weeks, $40-$100. Extensions, $300 plus appts to move them every 3 weeks. False eyelashes, $80 every 2 weeks. Tanning, eyebrow threading, bikini waxing... Holy hell.

I am perfectly content to do my own nails, wear $1 falsies, and do my own plucking shaving. The whole "spend money to make money"... Eh I have never seen much of a difference in my income whether or not I've painted my own nails or not.

Genoveve
07-02-2015, 03:18 PM
^^I know what you mean it can get exasperating sometimes, and I'm pretty low-maintenance. Hair was the worst, when I used to get full highlights I'd go every six weeks and those appointments take forever. Thank god I get balayages now and can go a long time between touch-ups. So now it's hair every 3-4 months, but I still get my nails done twice a month, lashes twice a month. Unfortunately with my zit situation I'm having to add facials to the mix, if I don't think they're helping they're going out the window though. I will say though that nothing I do is for work, it's for me. I personally love lashes, I love(am obsessed with) nails.... I will say that when I feel good, I do better at work, but work still isn't the driving force behind my 'maintenance.'

Btw where the hell are you finding $1 lashes, I was horrified when I started seeing drugstore lashes going from a couple bucks to over $5. :( Oh and as far as the eyebrow waxing, sometimes it's a necessity LOL because my brows are extremely asymmetric and waxers know how to give them a lot more symmetry than I ever can.

....

I have a gross confession. My landlady lives next door and always wears those fake glue-on nails. There was something stuck to my foot just now......it was one of her press-ons. WTF. Her husband was just telling me the other day about how he finds her nails all over the place. I walk around barefoot outside all the time...maybe I tracked it in. :yuck:

kaninchen
07-02-2015, 05:36 PM
Lol you guys my regular who didn't want to give me cash for our day trip is taking me shopping instead and he's spending more than he would have if he had just paid me. Why are men so weird? I'm going nuts with his credit card at Victoria's Secret right now.

Elektra Luxx
07-02-2015, 06:14 PM
I got waxed today to get ready for the weekend. I'm preparing like someone is going to get close enough to notice.

baer45
07-02-2015, 07:21 PM
I got waxed today to get ready for the weekend. I'm preparing like someone is going to get close enough to notice.

You'd never know. I have all holiday weekend booked. My cash cow is paying me to go to the shooting range with him.

xStacey
07-02-2015, 08:21 PM
I really want a rhinoplasty. I've been shopping for the best surgeon who specializes in facial surgery... It's hard!!

zoezoebelle
07-02-2015, 09:20 PM
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charlie61
07-02-2015, 09:32 PM
All right kiddies, this clearly has the potential for a thread of its own. Take it elsewhere, please.

zoezoebelle
07-02-2015, 10:40 PM
Made a separate thread.

SimoneGray
07-02-2015, 11:22 PM
I confess that I sometimes wish I lived in a country where stripping wasn't so lame. Here you aren't allowed to make it rain on dancers or to drop heavy cash tips out on the floor of clubs. Tips can be given during private or lab dances only and not in the form of cash, rather tickets that the dancer then has to cash out later. I would totally venture into dancing if I knew that I could make money on stage sets. My pole skills are awesome and I would love to have money pile up faster than it does on cam, but over stripping seems to not really be geared towards girls making that much money, as they aren't allowed to make money with everything they do.

Selina M
07-02-2015, 11:33 PM
Btw where the hell are you finding $1 lashes, I was horrified when I started seeing drugstore lashes going from a couple bucks to over $5. :( Oh and as far as the eyebrow waxing, sometimes it's a necessity LOL because my brows are extremely asymmetric and waxers know how to give them a lot more symmetry than I ever can.


Target, the ELF brand :) I was skeptical because they are so cheap but they work for the club. The glue isn't the best quality but if you have a tube of different glue they're great.

I was getting my brows threaded, but stopped when one of the girls did a half-assed job in 5 minutes, then went "You want me do mustache too?" I was horrified at her 'upsell'.
I hate paying for that stuff, and I REALLY hate trying to find a salon/nail place/etc. that I like... so I just gave up after that little incident, lol.

amberlly
07-03-2015, 01:15 AM
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Cashmere Star
07-03-2015, 06:37 AM
ugh feeling shitty, feel like I am not good at anything, my art sucks, i am forever alone, my eczema is flaring up, my acne is breaking out, but I am sure that a friday night will be a busy night and I'll leave with more money than I had this morning so BRB HAULIN MY ASS TO THE CLUB ANYWAY

Selina M
07-03-2015, 12:32 PM
^ I figured she was just foreign, didn't know she was being rude, but seriously I'm a natural blonde and my hair there is literally invisible. It was rude and tacky, regardless of her training or intentions.
It's not even about their work quality... it's just whether or not they try to talk to me, if I'm comfy in the place, etc. Being a stripper has made me even more private than before to the point that small talk almost enrages me. I'm so sick of being put on the spot and having to lie, then deal with their followup questions.

Confession: 17 days until teaching job starts. Not sure if I'm excited to be around adults who are not strippers/bartenders/DJs/various misfits, or dreading it. I'll be super glad when it's not the first week anymore and people aren't constantly asking about my work history and shit.

Also, I cannot STAND when people are semi-lecturing about things. I had asked an office guy at one of the potential schools I can use, if I have to take classes in any certain order/number per semester and he writes back "You have to complete a certain number to progress per Education Dept requirements. I must impress upon you, Selina, that this pathway is rigorous." Like he thinks I'm being fucking lazy because I asked that question. It's a legit fucking question. Also, there is a huge difference between "rigorous' and "time consuming"... I'm so tired of people with BAs and MAs in Education telling other people how hard their degree was. It's NOT. My friend has one. If you can do it online in a year while teaching full time, and have a 3.8 GPA, it's not fucking hard.

wednesday86
07-03-2015, 12:46 PM
There's this girl at work who is a money magnet. She is mesmerizing. She's not the 'hottest' girl but there's something about her. Men gravitate toward her. I was watching her on stage and I just felt this pull to give her money (I didn't because her tip rail was full)...I'm not even into chicks like that. I wonder if she's on some kind of stripper voodoo.

Genoveve
07-03-2015, 05:18 PM
Being a stripper has made me even more private than before to the point that small talk almost enrages me. I'm so sick of being put on the spot and having to lie, then deal with their followup questions.

Me too.....I wonder how spies deal with it LOL. I always tell people now that I'm a personal trainer; I love researching exercise science and kinesiology so fitness is something that I can yak about endlessly and it sounds like I know what I'm talking about. That's my confession I'm a phony personal trainer. :shhh:

Glamourmilf
07-03-2015, 05:59 PM
Me too.....I wonder how spies deal with it LOL. I always tell people now that I'm a personal trainer; I love researching exercise science and kinesiology so fitness is something that I can yak about endlessly and it sounds like I know what I'm talking about. That's my confession I'm a phony personal trainer. :shhh:

Lol! I do the same thing..Only now even my 'fake' jobs are tiring to talk about, because people are always asking me go help THEM get into the same career also.
I've always had people who meet me want whatever it is that I have, so its exhausting to even make bs talk most of the time...That's why I was so good, and still am at sales.

carmen_b
07-03-2015, 08:49 PM
Eek. I told the therapist all the sex work stuff today . It was fine and there wasn't a weird vibe ( which I hope remains ). She's older but when she asked how I felt about doing it ( dancing and sexy massage ) I said " like I was taking it seriously and running a business ". I think it'll be fine.

carmen_b
07-03-2015, 08:53 PM
On the flip side to the last few comments about the 20 questions thing ..., , I totally think I met a secret sex worker friend in real life. She doesn't ask hardly anything and just focuses on whatever activity we are doing . I know she goes to Vegas. Ha. Or course I'm dying to share stories but want to respect her privacy and am not sure if I'm ready to be out to another person either.

Selina M
07-03-2015, 09:32 PM
Lol! I do the same thing..Only now even my 'fake' jobs are tiring to talk about, because people are always asking me go help THEM get into the same career also.

Oooh I'm always afraid that they'll ask WHERE I do the fake job, if I can hook them up, blah blah... Agh.

I just know some other teacher is gonna see me walking to my car, wonder how a 1st year teacher can afford it, and let the questions ensue. Maybe I'll just tell everyone my fiancé comes from lots of money, tee hee.

charlie61
07-03-2015, 10:08 PM
I fucking hate the fourth of July. I get it that it's an important day, historically, but I hate how it's celebrated.

ScarletKitten
07-03-2015, 10:33 PM
^^Me too. I always feel sad for the veterans who have PTSD. When they hear the fireworks going off, they can get war flashbacks. Also, fireworks can kill birds. Sure, they're pretty to watch. But I can't help but feel for the veterans and the birds. And then Americans go all crazy with their American pride stuff. Their programming kicks in and they get all patriotic. LOL. It's just a big circus to me.

whirlerz
07-03-2015, 11:12 PM
I fucking hate the fourth of July. I get it that it's an important day, historically, but I hate how it's celebrated.

right!

OliveJardin
07-03-2015, 11:50 PM
I confess that I bought a bubble gum flavoured energy drink today-it was awful, as expected lol.

Cashmere Star
07-04-2015, 04:33 AM
I've been working at the new club for only a week but omg I am gonna miss everyone already :( The club is closing so I am like taking everyone's number lol

and I am beginning to see why I don't want to go home after I stay at the club. I just get to be a different person? I actually talk to people and chill with dancers? I am actually very deprived of human interaction. In real life it's really hard talking to girls more than guys, but the girls here are chill (probably because we're not specifically out to make friends so we're not too judgy in that aspect) and the club is like the only time in my life at the moment when I can saunter up to a cute guy and basically molest him into buying dances from me.

and what's up with other dancers kissing me and each other? Is this a thing? A dancer whispered advice into my ears and then kissed me. And a tiny 18 year old told me to sit on her lap when there wasn't enough chairs? wtf haha I like it but what's the chances of this type of thing happening in regular life?

A bouncer was escorting me back to my car at the end of the night and after he put my bag at the back seat of the car, I said "Can you do me a favor? It's kind of strange." and he be like "yeah?" and I am like "can I get a hug" LOL and he probably thought it was funny, he joked "hug? People don't like giving me hugs" and I told him I had a shitty night (not true lol) I just wanted a hug. So he hugged me and I was like thanks and drove off.

sorry yall I had a 11hr shift and it's 5 in the monring

amberlly
07-04-2015, 05:42 AM
I am in the middle of extracting myself from said self created drama.

Selina you would LOVE my nail place. They don't talk at all. What color? That will be $$ - thats about the extent of the conversation. Sometimes they offer me extra magazines. That would be a talkative session.

Aurora_Sunset
07-04-2015, 07:30 AM
Selina you would LOVE my nail place. They don't talk at all. What color? That will be $$ - thats about the extent of the conversation. Sometimes they offer me extra magazines. That would be a talkative session.

My kinda place! I hate talking while getting my nails (or hair) done! I just recently switched nail places because of this. I used to go to a place where they were friendly but basically just "How are you? You want shorter? Go wash your hands. That's $18." Done. Perfect. Then the regular owners had some health issues and brought in family members from out of town and I always kept getting this super chatty woman who liked to joke around. She was nice, but.... noooooo lol I feel bad ditching that place, but they shouldn't have put the chatty Cathy up front!

miss.a.p1600
07-04-2015, 07:37 AM
finally got ho tactics after reading a couple people here recommending it.

[email protected] wish i had read this sooner. Its similar to baje fletcher gold digging book but from male perspective and more blunt about sex.

Genoveve
07-04-2015, 09:39 AM
I ordered Holly Madison's book....SW Book Club in full swing. I was watching some of the promo interviews that she's been doing for it and I totally think she's telling the truth because the things she says about Hef sound like everything that I've heard from all of the sugarbabies I've known. It doesn't sound sensationalized to me at all.

wednesday86
07-04-2015, 12:34 PM
My husband and son are at my in laws today because his family from the Philippines are all there. Secretly I'm glad I had to work last night and couldn't go. I do not feel like socializing or being outside today. I couldn't give two shits about the fourth or any other holiday besides Halloween.

charlie61
07-04-2015, 12:54 PM
I ordered Holly Madison's book....SW Book Club in full swing. I was watching some of the promo interviews that she's been doing for it and I totally think she's telling the truth because the things she says about Hef sound like everything that I've heard from all of the sugarbabies I've known. It doesn't sound sensationalized to me at all.

Do we have a li'l book club thread on here? I ran a search and didn't see anything recent. I'd love to see that happen! A number of us seem to have read her book; it'd be a good place to start.

Aurora_Sunset
07-04-2015, 02:20 PM
Omg it is gorgeous out today. The perfect day to sit outside and drink with friends. However, everyone who has contacted me about 4th of July stuff is either someone who recently pissed me off and I don't want to hang out with or people who just live too far away and I've done a ton of driving in the past week. So I've blown all those people off and told them I already have plans... which are rapidly shaping up to be watching Netflix and drinking wine alone on my balcony. At least I plan to get outside? lol

kaninchen
07-04-2015, 04:44 PM
I love my new stripper workout (polework, flexy stuff, butt tricks) Pandora station. It plays Haddaway, House of Pain, Yello, George Clinton, and Ace of Base! Yaaayyy too fun to listen to!

... unrelated news: all my neighbors hate me

Selina M
07-04-2015, 05:08 PM
Do we have a li'l book club thread on here? I ran a search and didn't see anything recent. I'd love to see that happen! A number of us seem to have read her book; it'd be a good place to start.

I think there's a thread of "What's the last good book you read?"

simone87
07-04-2015, 05:29 PM
I couldn't give two shits about the fourth or any other holiday besides Halloween.

preach. as much as i hate the winters up here, i'm looking forward to october! i planted two rows of pumpkins so that they come up late sept-early october. huge halloween nut.

spending a lot of time with my boyfriends family is making me want another baby :( i keep seeing all their adorable 6 month olds and their pudgy little arms and big eyes and gaaahh its giving me baby fever! then i remember a 7 pound human ripping through my lower half and how utterly terrifying it is giving birth and i snap out of it

LaurenAus
07-04-2015, 05:47 PM
I really wanna lose twenty pounds especially with summer break around the corner....I'm a little sick of being "average" weight at 5'7 and 13something. I've been running for an hour each day at the gym but I almost wanna start doing two gym sessions a day..too bad I have no time with school.

Cashmere Star
07-04-2015, 06:03 PM
me broke and before the club: "I don't feel like doing anything. blah. I don't want to draw."

me after getting money at the club: "THE WORLD IS MY OYSTER LETS MAKE MORE ART ^_^"

Selina M
07-04-2015, 07:27 PM
I can't remember the last time I celebrated any holiday aside from Christmas/Thanksgiving/Halloween.... everyone is out getting drunk and I'm just like "Cool? I'm gonna study for this exam and be annoyed I can't ride my horse because you people will try to suck me into your partying"

Also, just looked at my credit card that I had paid off 2 months ago. Not happy. At all. I froze it and put it in the freezer last week but hadn't looked at the damage :/
Think I might work the entire week at the club and pay that shit off.

whirlerz
07-04-2015, 07:40 PM
Well, I don't really feel like paying good $ to stay in dumps & be afraid, I know it's better n' nothing, but shit I've a hospital & a dr bill to pay..not to mention my sd can't be trusted to be dependable..last wk he left me hanging to see his other sb (who gets a pension & disability). I get it's his $/choice, but I was left in a bad spot. I'm trying hard to push past everything, today I'm proud of the fact I stayed 8.full. hours. in my storage, there's a lot left, but I working away @ it. Despite my stomach being bad, going on like the 3rd day in a row. I'm not yet well enough to dance, but as I said I'm pushing to get there, @ least til late summer when my meds are coming out.
I don't want to be left high & dry $-wise again, so I'm going to rough it starting tomorrow, I gotta check outta here (I'm gonna get out early b/4 all the crap starts around here). I'll have to stay in my car somehow, I can work up to staying up @ night & sleeping in my car in the woods by day.

whirlerz
07-04-2015, 07:48 PM
&, OMG, my potential sd date the other day..he picked a nice restaurant, but way.the.fuck out in the city, I walked my ass off from the train, only to have to cab it anyway..
He's this big fat red faced guy, & while lunch was mostly pleasant, I had to turn my head & bite my lip hard, when he told me he's had 2 hip replacements, I'm sorry I know it's not funny, but the thought of him on top of me after telling me that, just cracked me up.
The best part was the cab rides, I picked the same driver/cab going back, he was honest & nice, & he said to call him again if I'm in the city. Which's great, a lot of 'em are nuts & rip off's.

Laylalust
07-04-2015, 08:13 PM
I wonder how much longer I'm going to lie to myself that I'm still in love with my boyfriend.

Cashmere Star
07-04-2015, 11:58 PM
so yesterday the dancers at my club invited me to go down to LA to work at a club for a week, because they think they'll make way more there than here, especially now that our club is closing.

... and today it just dawned on me. Did I seriously just get asked to participate in something? Not even my "friends" invite me to their birthday parties. Why the fuck is my life so much better as a dancer than as.. me?

Glamourmilf
07-05-2015, 12:20 AM
so yesterday the dancers at my club invited me to go down to LA to work at a club for a week, because they think they'll make way more there than here, especially now that our club is closing.

... and today it just dawned on me. Did I seriously just get asked to participate in something? Not even my "friends" invite me to their birthday parties. Why the fuck is my life so much better as a dancer than as.. me?

Because it is! Im so glad You are finding this out while still young. And p.s. men will...ALWAYS be the ones who will help out in the end.. with money, connections, help legally, with moving....with everything. They are little shitheads with angel wings.

DonaDiabla
07-05-2015, 07:39 AM
Going to casino for my 30th birthday :) YAY! I am finally happy to be 30 on July 10th :)

wednesday86
07-05-2015, 12:09 PM
lately when a non spender asks me to meet him at his hotel I just say "ok let me ask my manager if I can get off early" and let him sit there and sit there, waiting. it's hilarious. I told one I was getting off and to meet me at a restaurant so he would leave. it worked! next time i'm asking for a "down payment" up front. maybe it's evil but i think it's funny.