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Simone NinaNin
03-27-2010, 12:30 AM
I admit I am picky to some extent because I won't date neither an obese guy nor one with kids. I think to some extent most of us are picky with regard to looking for partners. It all boils down to taste. For instance, I don't think that because you don't have an interest in other races makes you a racist. From what I've heard (I don't do online dating anymore) many sites will kick off people when they say they won't date certain groups. I know personally I have little interest in dating Arabs or Indians. I'm sure there are great men in those groups, but I just don't think their views in many matters are compatible. I'm not really interested in Asian guys either (besides most are considerably shorter). As for black men, I'd gladly date a professional black man. I would never date a black man who looks like a thug. Sadly, from my experience, most of the black guys I've seen online look like thugs and not my type at all. Then again white guys that look like hicks (mullets, etc) aren't my type either.
It is so refreshing to hear you speak the truth, whether or not it is politically correct. Thank You!
Glamgirl
03-27-2010, 08:08 AM
It is refreshing to hear your views and i am inclined to agree with you!
princessjas
03-27-2010, 09:39 AM
For some reason I can relate to this, though I am a brunette.
Related to this (sort of), I hate when fat women call themselves "curvy". Marilyn Monroe was curvy, J Lo is curvy and I am curvy. I have large breasts (natural) and small hips (so I don't have the big butt). However Roseanne and Rosie O'Donnell aren't curvy, they are fat.
Curvy: large chests and/or large hips/butt.
Fat: obvious to everyone.
I hate this too!! I'm curvy and it took me a while to realize if I described myself this way on the internet, people automatically thought I meant obese!! No!! I'm 100lbs...just with CURVES. )( If someones shaped like a beach ball...that is NOT curvy.
Curvy )(
Fat ( )
princessjas
03-27-2010, 09:43 AM
I confess I have just been made incredibly angry by a photo. No, nothing was going on in the photo or anything like that....the person just looked...I dunno? Arrogant maybe. And this brought up a shitstorm of negative emotions from the past. Besides that, WHY do people send bad photos of themselves out? Makes no sense!
Kellydancer
03-27-2010, 12:59 PM
Ok, here's a confession. There is a guy I really like, but right now he's being a jerk to me (he's scared of getting hurt). Every night I pray that we get married and have a child. I've always fantasized this about him, even years ago when I told him I just wanted to be friends (he wanted more). The strange thing is I am not someone who has this urge to have children and marry, yet with him I always desired this. The even stranger thing is I'd be devastated if I got pregnant by any other guy. Every night I have dreams where I am either marrying him or having a baby. I just hope both of these wishes come true.
It is so refreshing to hear you speak the truth, whether or not it is politically correct. Thank You!
It's something I am often attacked for on other sites, for being "racist". or "judgemental", etc. I just have standards and refuse to lower them. This is partly why I gave up on online dating. I will admit that I prefer to date a white or Hispanic male in shape (but will consider a black professional). In regards to the race thing, it really is hard to date, and especially marry someone from a different background. I have no problem with interracial dating (my sister in law is black) but I think it only works if both people come from related backgrounds (she grew up near my family). I just can't see myself marrying someone who's much different than me. The guy I like is Italian and that to me is fine because we have similar backgrounds though I am not Italian.
I hate this too!! I'm curvy and it took me a while to realize if I described myself this way on the internet, people automatically thought I meant obese!! No!! I'm 100lbs...just with CURVES. )( If someones shaped like a beach ball...that is NOT curvy.
Curvy )(
Fat ( )
The dating sites are the worst. I've noticed that most of the time both "curvy" and "athletic" means obese. I happen to be both, but not obese. Men who are obese tend to use "athletic". I've also seen obviously obese men use "average" to mean obese too. I don't use online dating sites anymore partly because of this.
pixierocksonthepole
03-27-2010, 01:15 PM
I feel fat sometimes. I know it sounds selfish but I don't really care. I am 5'2" and weigh 130. I would feel comfy at 115. But I used to be so incredibly active that I was stayed around 90-100lbs and that was it. So I am much much less active these days and it shows. I like my curves and I like my little bit of jiggle on my butt, don't get me wrong. But the rest...honestly, it's gotta go.
I cut out my caffeine, most sodium, I don't eat fast food anymore, no pop (only small or shared on very rare occasions), I don't over eat and sometimes I don't eat as much as I used to either. I work out but it just seems like I'm not doing enough still.
15hrs of figure skating a week, then 3 hours of dance, then 3 hours of coaching figure skating...and that was just off season. All that and being in school from 7am-530pm 5 days a week.
How do I compensate for that now? IDK.
I feel fat. :(
MarvelGirl
03-27-2010, 02:03 PM
I hate when fat women call themselves "curvy". Marilyn Monroe was curvy, J Lo is curvy and I am curvy. I have large breasts (natural) and small hips (so I don't have the big butt). However Roseanne and Rosie O'Donnell aren't curvy, they are fat.
Curvy: large chests and/or large hips/butt.
Fat: obvious to everyone.
I also hate this. I have an hourglass figure, my hips and bust are the same size and my waist is 11 inches smaller. BUT, I can't call myself curvy because that now means fat so... WTF am I?
It's irritating.
Michigan
03-27-2010, 02:36 PM
I feel fat sometimes. I know it sounds selfish but I don't really care. I am 5'2" and weigh 130. I would feel comfy at 115. But I used to be so incredibly active that I was stayed around 90-100lbs and that was it. So I am much much less active these days and it shows. I like my curves and I like my little bit of jiggle on my butt, don't get me wrong. But the rest...honestly, it's gotta go.
I cut out my caffeine, most sodium, I don't eat fast food anymore, no pop (only small or shared on very rare occasions), I don't over eat and sometimes I don't eat as much as I used to either. I work out but it just seems like I'm not doing enough still.
15hrs of figure skating a week, then 3 hours of dance, then 3 hours of coaching figure skating...and that was just off season. All that and being in school from 7am-530pm 5 days a week.
How do I compensate for that now? IDK.
I feel fat. :(
It's not just WHAT a person eats but also WHEN a person eats. If the only thing you change is CONSISTENTLY not eating three hours before bedtime, you will lose some pounds.
That was the ENTIRE secret of Trimspa.
People used it and lost weight following the directions which included not eating at least three hours before bedtime and then take the Trimspa.
Research proved it wasn't the Trimspa that was causing the weight loss. It was the not eating three hours before bedtime.
Best wishes on a healthy life.
pixierocksonthepole
03-27-2010, 06:34 PM
It's not just WHAT a person eats but also WHEN a person eats. If the only thing you change is CONSISTENTLY not eating three hours before bedtime, you will lose some pounds.
That was the ENTIRE secret of Trimspa.
People used it and lost weight following the directions which included not eating at least three hours before bedtime and then take the Trimspa.
Research proved it wasn't the Trimspa that was causing the weight loss. It was the not eating three hours before bedtime.
Best wishes on a healthy life.
I don't eat for almost 5hours before bed though. :(
It's like some days I feel fat and others I'm just fine.
Simone NinaNin
03-28-2010, 03:17 PM
Confession: My ex is a runner. When we were still married, every time he used to go for a run, I would have a fantasy that he dropped dead of a heart attack and his mother would knock on my door to tell me that my husband was dead. My reply was always, "I am so sorry for your loss"
Kellydancer
03-28-2010, 04:34 PM
My new confession: I just want to run over my neighbor. He is annoying me blasting his lousy country music with his long mullet. Years ago he asked me out, but because I rejected him (and so would anyone with a brain) he blasts his music. I can't wait to get away from here.
I also hate this. I have an hourglass figure, my hips and bust are the same size and my waist is 11 inches smaller. BUT, I can't call myself curvy because that now means fat so... WTF am I?
It's irritating.
The big girls will take hourglass too. They already have curvy and voluptuous.
sxcbbw
03-28-2010, 04:41 PM
^ I never understood the curvy thing. Unless you have a boyish figure or "extra" curves, like a spare tire? You're curvy. You can weigh 100lb and be curvy. This "real women have curves" thing has got to stop, with its implication that women with less than a set amount of curves/rolls are fake or not women.
Voluptuous just means sensual and luxurious. I mean sure, I know I'm that, but I also know I was voluptuous 70lb lighter and that YET AGAIN, weight is irrelevant to that word.
Kellydancer
03-28-2010, 04:56 PM
^ I never understood the curvy thing. Unless you have a boyish figure or "extra" curves, like a spare tire? You're curvy. You can weigh 100lb and be curvy. This "real women have curves" thing has got to stop, with its implication that women with less than a set amount of curves/rolls are fake or not women.
Voluptuous just means sensual and luxurious. I mean sure, I know I'm that, but I also know I was voluptuous 70lb lighter and that YET AGAIN, weight is irrelevant to that word.
I don't think it was ever meant to imply skinny women don't have curves, because even many of them do. Even if they don't have "curves" they are still real women unless they had sex change surgery. The whole real women have curves to me seems in many ways to be a way for fat acceptance. It's fine to be curvy, it's health hazard to be fat. Also reminds me of the word "full figure". Women with full figures used to mean women with bodies like Marilyn Monroe, now it means Roseanne.
Xiomara
03-28-2010, 09:59 PM
Cant even say my confession. I can only imagine how that would go! But I will confess that I am totally off my plan of GO TO THE GYM EVERYDAY. Oh well, my abs still are hanging in there for me... LOL
malayataylor
03-29-2010, 10:45 AM
I heart this thread!
Harleigh HellKat
03-29-2010, 11:49 AM
Confession: My ex is a runner. When we were still married, every time he used to go for a run, I would have a fantasy that he dropped dead of a heart attack and his mother would knock on my door to tell me that my husband was dead. My reply was always, "I am so sorry for your loss"
I do this as a form of therapy also... people I can't stand I just imagine horrible things happening to them. Mine involves my man's ex girlfriend though, but that's because every time I hear her name I throw up in my mouth a little, and I'm not joking. One of my exes is a belligerent drunkard I fantasize about drinking himself to death.
It keeps me sane.
Glamgirl
03-29-2010, 02:55 PM
This is going to sound weird but for as long as ive remembered id always imagined how i would die. Like if some serial killer was getting me and what pics of me the papers would show and stuff. I am really into true crime and obviously i never ever want to be in that position ever but sometmes i think about what it would be like.
When me and my friend first got talking she said she could see me wrapped in plastic ala Laura Palmer!
Is there something wrong with me?
pixierocksonthepole
03-29-2010, 03:06 PM
^^^I always have dreams like that. Every night almost. It's insane.
Glamgirl
03-30-2010, 03:06 AM
Yea me too! Like i will eiher be targeted and chased and stuff or i will be a lone survivor of some horrible mass murder.
mayajaya
03-30-2010, 11:11 AM
I've been fantasizing about this guy I met at the club about two months ago and when he came in last week he got like 7 ld's from me. We spent some time together afterwards and by mistake on purpose I gave him my real cell number. He called me up on Saturday for a Sunday brunch in the city and I turned him down. I agreed to meet with him for HH last night and we had the best time, I found out he's 14 years older than me and I'm 32 I thought he was late 30's early 40's. He hasn't called yet today but I can't wait to see him again, it's been a while since I've been on a real date.
Firewall
03-30-2010, 02:49 PM
When a customer that had previously gotten tons of dances from me came in, ignored me, and spent his money on another dancer, I wasn't at all sympathetic when he started harrassing her to the point of forcing him to leave, because she can be a real bitch.
Glamgirl
04-01-2010, 03:28 AM
I am so bad at remembering to call friends back or txt them that i have to pretend i lost my phone or something. Rather than say "i forgot"
Also if a friend asks me to meet her or something and i dont want to, rather than say i dont want to i sound interested and make them feel like i want to, then mention ill call them if i can......hence i genuinely forget to call them!
I feel like such a shitty friend cos i cant be up front and say "i dont want to"
hot4ablackchick
04-05-2010, 01:05 PM
Maybe you are picky. Who cares? You're the only one who should have a say in who you're dating. If you don't like fat guys (and, I'm sorry, but what healthy woman wants to date an enormous guy?), then that's your decision and your decision only. OWN IT!
My 'I'm a bad person' confession is that I'm not attracted to men of other races. I think it's because I spent the first 16 years of my life in an all-white neighborhood (we had a total of 3 black kids in our high school), so I just never developed that attraction. I think they can be attractive, but I'm not attracted to them. :-\
I get annoyed when people say you are racist if you aren't physically attracted to another group. Its one thing to say that other races are not capable of being attractive (like saying all blacks are ugly or hot for a black chick lol), but to just not be attracted to them is different. I'm not all that attracted to black guys but I do know that there are some attractive black men. It really doesn't matter to me if the black man is good looking and professional, I am simply more attracted to white men so that is what I gravitate towards. I really can't see myself dating a black man if my marriage were to hit the rocks.
Another confession. Christians seriously annoy the shit out of me. It used to be the "In your face" sort of christians that annoyed me. Now its not just them, but religions in general. Christians seem to annoy me the most however. I respect everyones right to practice what they believe, but I see no point in trying to pretend that I don't think religion is stupid and moronic.
Kellydancer
04-05-2010, 02:17 PM
I get annoyed when people say you are racist if you aren't physically attracted to another group. Its one thing to say that other races are not capable of being attractive (like saying all blacks are ugly or hot for a black chick lol), but to just not be attracted to them is different. I'm not all that attracted to black guys but I do know that there are some attractive black men. It really doesn't matter to me if the black man is good looking and professional, I am simply more attracted to white men so that is what I gravitate towards. I really can't see myself dating a black man if my marriage were to hit the rocks.
On a dating site I am lurking on (why I'm not sure) this guy is claiming that if you prefer a certain race you are a racist. I don't like when people think this because it's not true. To me being a racist is when someone doesn't even want to be friendly with someone of a certain race, that I consider racist. Just out of curiousity would you be more attracted to a hick looking white guy or a professional black guy? There's no right or wrong answer, just curious. I've given up on online dating because of people like him (he's Asian).
Here's a confession. I hate the head of HR at my last job. She only got her job because she is the alleged mistress of a local politician/minister. This guy is scum and if I was still in his district I'd vote for anyone running against him. Though he is a Democrat, he keeps pushing through various state laws including funding for religious schools and for things like that. Anyway, I just heard this HR bitch got cancer and honestly I had no feelings. Why should I feel for someone who got me and others fired, who bad mouthed me to other companies, made my life a living hell the entire time I worked there, and hated everyone who didn't attend the chuch she did (run by her lover). I hate her and if she dies of cancer I won't care one bit.
GrlWithTheMost
04-05-2010, 02:42 PM
I really, really, really hate obese men as dating partners. I've been called shallow because of this, but I don't care. My one friend thought she could change my view on this by setting me up with an obese guy. According to her, he was nice, looking for someone serious, and great. I should have listened when she didn't mention his looks. So anyway, I get to the restaurant, see him, and walk out. I then told my friend never to do that again. She stopped talking to me, but I don't care. I don't date fatties.
lmfao. awesome!!
GrlWithTheMost
04-05-2010, 02:45 PM
I feel fat sometimes. I know it sounds selfish but I don't really care. I am 5'2" and weigh 130. I would feel comfy at 115. But I used to be so incredibly active that I was stayed around 90-100lbs and that was it. So I am much much less active these days and it shows. I like my curves and I like my little bit of jiggle on my butt, don't get me wrong. But the rest...honestly, it's gotta go.
I cut out my caffeine, most sodium, I don't eat fast food anymore, no pop (only small or shared on very rare occasions), I don't over eat and sometimes I don't eat as much as I used to either. I work out but it just seems like I'm not doing enough still.
15hrs of figure skating a week, then 3 hours of dance, then 3 hours of coaching figure skating...and that was just off season. All that and being in school from 7am-530pm 5 days a week.
How do I compensate for that now? IDK.
I feel fat. :(
maybe its just muslce hun.. it weighs more than fat ya know
Kellydancer
04-05-2010, 03:57 PM
lmfao. awesome!!
I felt bad doing it, but she did that knowing I don't date obese men. I've done that anytime I met a guy while doing online dating and he wasn't anything like his profile states. I hate liars and if they lie about that, they lie about other things (like being married).
Speaking of online dating, I created a fake profile for the free dating sites. Any guy that is either looking for sex, or looking out of his range I am going to taunt. Not going to meet these guys, just might be fun to play with them. I am tired of these types of guys.
Lexi_Girl
04-05-2010, 04:26 PM
My confession is a little silly, but... I'm afraid that I could be given the world and have everything I ever wanted and live my most perfect life and I'll still be battling my depression and that terrifies me :|
I have a college education and an extremely well paid day job that includes a pension and benefits and if I work here for 30 years, I'll be able to retire at age 55. And that terrifies me too :| I don't want to be mediocre.
Lola_sinn
04-05-2010, 09:08 PM
I suffered from debilitating social anxiety for most of my childhood and teen years. I'm out of my shell now but I still have trouble understanding how friendships work. It's so bad that sometimes a friend will tell me they miss me and want to hang out, and I will get embarrassed at the idea that my friends actually like me.
I don't brush my teeth every day. :O
firemaiden04
04-05-2010, 09:35 PM
Here's a few confessions from me:
I think about killing myself aaaalll the time. Sometimes I just feel so fucking sick of this life and this world, because nothing ever seems to go well for me, and I never get anything I really want or that would really make me happy. All I've ever wanted, even when I was a kid, was just to be happy. And it doesn't ever really happen. I'll have moments when I think I'm happy, but then I'm at home by myself afterwards and feel like it was just me fooling myself and pretending to be happy. No one notices, either. I have an incredibly good social mask, and I am very good at compartmentalizing. Sometimes, I feel that I'm too good at it. Like I'm fooling everyone, including myself. And a lot of the time I feel like my purpose in life is not to be happy or productive or find true love. I'm suspicious that my purpose in life is to provide temptation, because that's what ends up happening. Guys want to fuck me, day in and day out, but they never want to date me. I've been told by dozens and dozens of men since I was like 15 (hundreds since I started stripping, but that doesn't really count) that they were really in love with their girlfriend/fiancee/wife/whatever, but they wanted to fuck me to the point that they were obsessing about it, and dreaming about it every night, and couldn't get it out of their minds. I mean, sooo many men have told me that, verbatim. And I get so angry about it, because I just want someone to really love me, in a healthy, non-obsessive way, and it never happens. It's like these guys will sleep with me a few times, then suddenly have this epic revelation about themselves that leads them to lead their lives to the fullest, and they'll go off with this other girl and be happy, and their lives will be more meaningful... and it's because of something they learned when they were with me. It's beyond fucked up. It happens CONSTANTLY. And I'm so sick of being that girl, and if that's my purpose in life, then I just don't want to live in this world anymore. It's fucked up. I'm sick of this place. I want to find out what's next.
I think I'm in love with one of my best friends, who is also my friend-with-benefits. And I know he's not up for a relationship because he's still detoxing from an ex. That's okay, I understand that; I've been there, too. But I don't know if he'll ever be interested in dating me, and I hate that.
mediocrity
04-05-2010, 09:43 PM
My only confession is a year and a half ago with my millionaire ex M. He did five hours in VIP with me and I told him I couldnt do anymore or I'd lose my job. He proceeded to romance the shit out of me for four months and spoil me rotten. /fin.
Harleigh HellKat
04-05-2010, 10:16 PM
I am mad girl crushing on this chick that lives two hours away and that I met on the internet. I'm not sure if that is just kinda sad or what. But damn. She pushes my buttons. :D
Being a stripper made me realize that yes, I do like girls.
This one time I hustled this guy out of 450 bucks by telling him I was going to hang out with him after work, so he kept tipping me like crazy. My boyfriend was three feet away laughing his ass off. This was when I first started dancing and I act way more professional now. Still funny though. Oh and this guy looked at my bf who was tipping another girl and called him a loser. Little did he know that I went home with the 'loser' and boinked his brains out. I love being me sometimes.
I very much enjoy babysitting drunk custies... all the way to the ATM. Then giving them airdances because I'm afraid of drunk pukey guys.
OHHHH this one time... I had this stalker-ish guy that kept trying to be my boyfriend and would come by my apartment uninvited even after being rejected several times... so one day he comes by and expects me to go to the bar with him and with the promise of free alcohol... I oblige. Long story short, I ended up leaving with another guy and having... um relations. We ended up dating and being friends long after. And I don't feel bad at all... stalky boy was a doucher.
This one time I got really whiskey drunk at a friends house and got sick... he gave me a wash rag to wipe my face with and I was so drunk I flushed it down the toilet.
Kellydancer
04-05-2010, 11:54 PM
Here's a few confessions from me:
I think about killing myself aaaalll the time. Sometimes I just feel so fucking sick of this life and this world, because nothing ever seems to go well for me, and I never get anything I really want or that would really make me happy. All I've ever wanted, even when I was a kid, was just to be happy. And it doesn't ever really happen. I'll have moments when I think I'm happy, but then I'm at home by myself afterwards and feel like it was just me fooling myself and pretending to be happy. No one notices, either. I have an incredibly good social mask, and I am very good at compartmentalizing. Sometimes, I feel that I'm too good at it. Like I'm fooling everyone, including myself. And a lot of the time I feel like my purpose in life is not to be happy or productive or find true love. I'm suspicious that my purpose in life is to provide temptation, because that's what ends up happening. Guys want to fuck me, day in and day out, but they never want to date me. I've been told by dozens and dozens of men since I was like 15 (hundreds since I started stripping, but that doesn't really count) that they were really in love with their girlfriend/fiancee/wife/whatever, but they wanted to fuck me to the point that they were obsessing about it, and dreaming about it every night, and couldn't get it out of their minds. I mean, sooo many men have told me that, verbatim. And I get so angry about it, because I just want someone to really love me, in a healthy, non-obsessive way, and it never happens. It's like these guys will sleep with me a few times, then suddenly have this epic revelation about themselves that leads them to lead their lives to the fullest, and they'll go off with this other girl and be happy, and their lives will be more meaningful... and it's because of something they learned when they were with me. It's beyond fucked up. It happens CONSTANTLY. And I'm so sick of being that girl, and if that's my purpose in life, then I just don't want to live in this world anymore. It's fucked up. I'm sick of this place. I want to find out what's next.
I think I'm in love with one of my best friends, who is also my friend-with-benefits. And I know he's not up for a relationship because he's still detoxing from an ex. That's okay, I understand that; I've been there, too. But I don't know if he'll ever be interested in dating me, and I hate that.
This sounds a lot like my life. I often slept with guys thinking that they'd fall in love with me and in reality they never did. It would hurt thinking they loved me, but then they'd go any marry other women. Then of course while dancing I'd get all these guys who wanted to sleep with me, but this part I expected being a dancer. I too am in love with a friend (former regular oddly) except he's not a friend with benefit because he strongly feels sex is part of a very serious relationship (he's the marry them if they get pregnant type). He told me when we saw each other he was ready to fall in love again, that he always loved me, etc, then he told me he never wants to fall again because he's still hurting from a previous relationship (gold digger). I don't know when he'll be ready to get serious (I can't now anyway) or even if. This part scares the hell out of me because I know he's the one, I know he knows I am the one (years ago he told me he intended to marry me and be the father of my children). Every night I lay in bed worrying whether he'll come around and how serious we'll get. I pray we marry and have children and feel this so strongly, more than I have before. My advice to you is to stop sleeping with your fwb. I had to make a vow to wait for sex and am glad I did. It attracts better guys.
jennsweet
04-06-2010, 12:03 AM
i'm fucking 3 different guys right now................ 4 if you count my bf ~oops
cayday19
04-06-2010, 04:46 AM
I stole money at work once. A customer left $200 in singles unattended at his table for 15 min. while he went outside (who knows why...)... after 15 min. another girl and I snatch the money and split it. The dude comes back literally 10 seconds later screaming his head off "who took my fucking money!!" He threatens to call the cops and management was pissed and was asking around to see if anyone saw anything. I was terrified that they would look at the cameras and see us taking it and I would lose my job lol I never stole anything before! Turns out they just told the guy that he was shit out of luck. Man was my heart racing....
Also.. I love my boyfriend to death but if I had the chance to fuck the shit out of my manager just ONE TIME...
hot4ablackchick
04-06-2010, 03:34 PM
On a dating site I am lurking on (why I'm not sure) this guy is claiming that if you prefer a certain race you are a racist. I don't like when people think this because it's not true. To me being a racist is when someone doesn't even want to be friendly with someone of a certain race, that I consider racist. Just out of curiousity would you be more attracted to a hick looking white guy or a professional black guy? There's no right or wrong answer, just curious. I've given up on online dating because of people like him (he's Asian).
Hmmm. Well I guess I'll answer your question honestly. If they were both equally 'hot' or close to the same lookswise, I'd pick the hick. As long as he was cool. If he just looked a bit "dukes of hazzard" and was still cool and professional. But I'm guessing you mean that everything is close to being equal, like they make similar incomes, bodies, 'hotness', right? Of course a 'hick' looking guy isn't generally my type, but a black guy doesn't stand much of a chance with me. Ahh sad but true.
pixierocksonthepole
04-06-2010, 08:46 PM
maybe its just muslce hun.. it weighs more than fat ya know
That's what I thought too, but my body has always been mainly muscle. Just not lately. I just can't get this layer of fat to go away, even if it is small. It's horrible on days I feel bloated, for obvious reason lol. Today...I don't feel fat. I'm actually feeling in better shape. Think it has something to do with the skating I've been doing lately.
Kellydancer
04-06-2010, 09:30 PM
Lately I have been depressed all the time. Right now my life is in shambles because I can't find a job, the guy I love is being a jerk and my tooth needs a cap. In addition my grandfather has recently been diagnosed with Alzheimers. I keep asking why does bad things happen to good people. If I don't find a job by the Fall I am fearful of what I'll do because I can't take this anymore. Why does bad things happen to me but good things happen to others?
Hmmm. Well I guess I'll answer your question honestly. If they were both equally 'hot' or close to the same lookswise, I'd pick the hick. As long as he was cool. If he just looked a bit "dukes of hazzard" and was still cool and professional. But I'm guessing you mean that everything is close to being equal, like they make similar incomes, bodies, 'hotness', right? Of course a 'hick' looking guy isn't generally my type, but a black guy doesn't stand much of a chance with me. Ahh sad but true.
Yeah I meant they are equal. It's funny because I am the same way in certain instances. Then again I have weird taste in men and guys that appeal to other women don't to me.
crystalize
04-08-2010, 06:29 PM
i'm fucking 3 different guys right now................ 4 if you count my bf ~oops
LOL...
AustinIndiana
04-08-2010, 08:53 PM
My confession: my boyfriend and his wife have been seprated for 2 and a half yrs and he lives 2 hours away from me. When I go visit him at his apt and he goes to work, etc I go drive by his wifes house and stalk her. She is 11 yrs older than me, pushing 280lbs, and is extremely pathetic. I actually laugh when I get off the phone w my boyfriend when he tells me she saw all my pictures on fb of me and him kissing, us hanging out at her fav resturants, etc. But what really hurts her is the fact I have a little boy (who is 2) and my bf is totally in love with him....(They don't have kids cuz she couldn't get preg). I intentionally leave pictures of all three of us as a "family" as my profile pic so it hurts her. I don't know why I hate this woman, I just do.
prettysammie
04-08-2010, 09:30 PM
I'm a little afraid to mention this one, but does anyone else ever have fantasies about having sex with a bunch of guys at the same time? I don't know why, but I always think about it. Maybe it's because of those rumors in high school about me. I was the girl they said fucked the whole football team (I didn't) and any time I did anything sexual at a party it would get blown out of proportion.
If I kissed a guy the story would turn into how I blew him. If I did have sex then it would turn into a story about how I had sex with every guy there. Now that I'm in college it's the same thing here. Part of me just wants to do it. If I'm going to have the reputation anyway, I might as well try it at least once.
I've even gone out with the intention of doing it before but I always chicken out. I'm worried one day I'm going to either push it too far and it's going to happen, or worse yet, chicken out and it happens anyway.
It makes me feel like I'm crazy. It's like I know what I'm doing is stupid and can lead to something bad happening, but I do it anyway. I can't talk about it with my guy friends because I bet they'd all volunteer and I don't have any girlfriends I trust enough to not tell everyone. So that's my confession.
Harleigh HellKat
04-09-2010, 09:52 AM
My confession: my boyfriend and his wife have been seprated for 2 and a half yrs and he lives 2 hours away from me. When I go visit him at his apt and he goes to work, etc I go drive by his wifes house and stalk her. She is 11 yrs older than me, pushing 280lbs, and is extremely pathetic. I actually laugh when I get off the phone w my boyfriend when he tells me she saw all my pictures on fb of me and him kissing, us hanging out at her fav resturants, etc. But what really hurts her is the fact I have a little boy (who is 2) and my bf is totally in love with him....(They don't have kids cuz she couldn't get preg). I intentionally leave pictures of all three of us as a "family" as my profile pic so it hurts her. I don't know why I hate this woman, I just do.
I can identify with this. I'm not even a really jealous person but my boyfriend has an ex that I just wish would keel over. She's not fat, just a major slut that stabbed him in the face. When I hear her name I just want to punch something. I'm waiting for the day she gets hers. ;D
I love it when the ex's see the pictures and stuff. That reminds me... I need to get a camera.
Simone NinaNin
04-09-2010, 10:05 AM
I can identify with this. I'm not even a really jealous person but my boyfriend has an ex that I just wish would keel over. She's not fat, just a major slut that stabbed him in the face. When I hear her name I just want to punch something. I'm waiting for the day she gets hers. ;D
I love it when the ex's see the pictures and stuff. That reminds me... I need to get a camera.
I have a camera for you. ::) hehehe
xoxo
Harleigh HellKat
04-09-2010, 10:13 AM
I'm a little afraid to mention this one, but does anyone else ever have fantasies about having sex with a bunch of guys at the same time? I don't know why, but I always think about it. Maybe it's because of those rumors in high school about me. I was the girl they said fucked the whole football team (I didn't) and any time I did anything sexual at a party it would get blown out of proportion.
If I kissed a guy the story would turn into how I blew him. If I did have sex then it would turn into a story about how I had sex with every guy there. Now that I'm in college it's the same thing here. Part of me just wants to do it. If I'm going to have the reputation anyway, I might as well try it at least once.
I've even gone out with the intention of doing it before but I always chicken out. I'm worried one day I'm going to either push it too far and it's going to happen, or worse yet, chicken out and it happens anyway.
It makes me feel like I'm crazy. It's like I know what I'm doing is stupid and can lead to something bad happening, but I do it anyway. I can't talk about it with my guy friends because I bet they'd all volunteer and I don't have any girlfriends I trust enough to not tell everyone. So that's my confession.
Sorry for two posts but I wasn't sure how to put two quotes into one post. Have you ever considered the possibility of becoming polyamorous? I think it's a way safer option than going out with strangers... plus you have the emotional support of two or more partners that won't judge you for having this fantasy. Poly is having a serious relationship with more than one partner. This might not be what you're looking for, but I myself am trying to enter into poly-land to fill MY needs. Fuck what everyone else says, it's about what YOU need and want.
You could also try swinger/swapping parties. I've never been but you would meet like minded people that won't look down on you for wanting to try something new sexually. Also, the internet is a good place to find support. Trust me, you are not the only woman who has had this fantasy and I'm sure there are many guys that also have this fantasy. Hell, my boyfriend has done it. Not with me, but with a couple of exes.
I think the main thing is being safe, in many different respects. I don't think I would pick up guys at the bar to fulfill this particular fantasy... there are a lot of bad people out there who could take advantage of the situation and 'gang up' on you.
Anywayyyyy this is getting long... but if you want to talk or share, feel free to PM me. I'm poly/swinger/orgy friendly and I don't judge. ;D
Harleigh HellKat
04-09-2010, 10:31 AM
I have a camera for you. ::) hehehe
xoxo
I know! I need to get to my bf's mom's house to complete the paperwork!
MissMynxx
04-09-2010, 04:36 PM
Clowns scare the shit out of me, but the horribly violent and borderline serial killer that lives in my head REALLY loves some of ICP's music. :D
I also have a paralyzing fear of pool drains. Yes, really.
I have purposely fucked a few people over in relationships when I decided I was bored with the relationship just to get my jollies.
I care more about animals than I do about humans. If I saw a person and a cat about to get hit by a car, you can bet I'd save the cat. There are literally only maybe 5 people I care about enough in this world to even START to consider liking them more than I like my cats. :O
MissMynxx
04-09-2010, 04:37 PM
My confession: my boyfriend and his wife have been seprated for 2 and a half yrs and he lives 2 hours away from me. When I go visit him at his apt and he goes to work, etc I go drive by his wifes house and stalk her. She is 11 yrs older than me, pushing 280lbs, and is extremely pathetic. I actually laugh when I get off the phone w my boyfriend when he tells me she saw all my pictures on fb of me and him kissing, us hanging out at her fav resturants, etc. But what really hurts her is the fact I have a little boy (who is 2) and my bf is totally in love with him....(They don't have kids cuz she couldn't get preg). I intentionally leave pictures of all three of us as a "family" as my profile pic so it hurts her. I don't know why I hate this woman, I just do.
I AM THE SAME WAY ABOUT AJ'S LAST EX. I do NOT know what the fuck it is about this woman, but oh my god - she just .... UGH! When I need to be catty or cutthroat about something, I think about this girl and BAM! Insta-bitch.
MarvelGirl
04-09-2010, 05:03 PM
I wish single people who give marriage advice would just STFU.
MissMynxx
04-09-2010, 05:27 PM
I wish single people who give marriage advice would just STFU.
Or at LEAST people who either are divorced and haven't successfully been in a new relationship. People who are in serious, long term relationships where they're essentially married (joint finances, etc.) don't bother me.
prettysammie
04-09-2010, 06:55 PM
Sorry for two posts but I wasn't sure how to put two quotes into one post. Have you ever considered the possibility of becoming polyamorous? I think it's a way safer option than going out with strangers... plus you have the emotional support of two or more partners that won't judge you for having this fantasy. Poly is having a serious relationship with more than one partner. This might not be what you're looking for, but I myself am trying to enter into poly-land to fill MY needs. Fuck what everyone else says, it's about what YOU need and want.
You could also try swinger/swapping parties. I've never been but you would meet like minded people that won't look down on you for wanting to try something new sexually. Also, the internet is a good place to find support. Trust me, you are not the only woman who has had this fantasy and I'm sure there are many guys that also have this fantasy. Hell, my boyfriend has done it. Not with me, but with a couple of exes.
I think the main thing is being safe, in many different respects. I don't think I would pick up guys at the bar to fulfill this particular fantasy... there are a lot of bad people out there who could take advantage of the situation and 'gang up' on you.
Anywayyyyy this is getting long... but if you want to talk or share, feel free to PM me. I'm poly/swinger/orgy friendly and I don't judge. ;D
Thank you! The first time I heard about polyamourous was when I took an online quiz about three weeks ago. According to it, even though I've had a lot of partners I'm not poly, I'm just a regular old slut. It sucks when even the internet is calling you a slut.
Don't worry, I haven't done a gangbang with strangers. It just keeps running through my head. Probably part of my playing with fire personality. I get weird urges to do illogical, and maybe self destructive things. Like jump off high places or step in front of busses. I don't think I'm suicidal, it's just this incredible urge to see what might happen.
I don't really know if poly is right for me. Sometimes I really really wish someone would love me, and other times I'm glad I'm single and can date around and have friends with benefits and just regular old fuck buddies. It used to really bother me that I got labeled the "school slut" and I did everything I could to get people, especially guys, to like me. Which really turned me into the school slut. Part of me has come to terms with it and part of me hasn't.
I went to enough groups and counseling to know that my relationship with sex is never going to be exactly normal. It's kind of hard to live with that sometimes but also kind of nice to not worry about being normal because I know I'm not.