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charlie61
07-25-2016, 11:34 AM
^No, you're fine! Most of us use terms like that without being aware of their roots. I'm trying to get better about that too. It's only in the last few years that I've stopped calling my tank tops "wife beaters" - yikes!!! Seriously - none of us are perfect! :hug:

JenniferNorth
07-25-2016, 02:22 PM
I don't feel qualified to be someone's wife. I just feel like there's days where I can't put up with in-laws annoying me with stupid shit, and there's days where I can't deal with being someone's partner. It's soooo much easier when you're just boyfriend/girlfriend. Don't mind me guys, just ranting. I feel like I don't have the tolerance for this shit anymore (marriage #1 really soured a lot for me) and I feel like my husband would be better off with somebody younger, and way more stupid. LOL.

rareaspasia
07-25-2016, 03:45 PM
I don't feel qualified to be someone's wife. I just feel like there's days where I can't put up with in-laws annoying me with stupid shit, and there's days where I can't deal with being someone's partner. It's soooo much easier when you're just boyfriend/girlfriend. Don't mind me guys, just ranting. I feel like I don't have the tolerance for this shit anymore (marriage #1 really soured a lot for me) and I feel like my husband would be better off with somebody younger, and way more stupid. LOL.

I totally get it. I never married my partner and it's been eleven years. We don't really believe in it and while I don't think marriage is a bad thing I also think if it isn't broken, why fix it? Marriage really does change things. People often let themselves go both physically and emotionally because they think they're safe and don't have to try anymore. For some people, getting married can really mess up a good relationship.

amberlly
07-25-2016, 05:03 PM
Ok so I've been doing some research on where to find a sugar daddy and discovered whole foods is one place - duh! Should have known.

I get here and suddenly I realize i forgot to shave my legs and I have on gym short (I'm totally not dressed right - I'm headed to the gym) that plus dude glimpse at my legs and going to think I'm Sasquatch or something. Please don't look at my legs! Agh!

Well I also discover they serve breakfast! I was pissed cause I stop at McDonald's first then these hoes claim they only take cash and is that alright. No it's not alright cause I'm hungry and all I have is my card. Well I leave and go to whole foods and find out they have a dude making omlettes and this sh*t is gooooood! Plus they are playing live music.

Spotted a few dudes who looked like they had money but many are with their matronly looking wives.

Whole foods is an awesome SD pick up spot. Weirdly when I have been dressed down/badly I got the most attention. Random.

seashell
07-25-2016, 05:44 PM
No one ever hits on me at whole foods. :( Probably because of my resting bitch face. lmao

Today's confession... I'm supposed to be doing CampNaNoWriMo (the nerdier "summer camp" version of NaNoWriMo, where you write 50,000 words in a month) and I am FAILING MAJORLY. Mostly because this month I broke up with someone, started talking to enough guys on Tinder/Plenty of Fish/Match.com to legitimately set up a Bachelorette scenario, and started taking courses online. I might still be able to pull off the 18,000 words that are left... fingers crossed.

miss.a.p1600
07-25-2016, 06:02 PM
^^^Love the Bachelorette scenario - and you are wise to hit up more than one site. I can't multitask like that yet but Im working on it.

Just got an offer for a meet up/date! Hope this dude is better than the last. If not ill be back ranting on here lol! And I am shocked an Indian dude hit me up. I thought they like to date only other indian women or blondes. Trying to erase the negative stereotype I have caused by the aggressively horny Indian dudes in the club. I literally only met 1 in the club who was cute and nice but he wasn't spending any money because he allegedly was scared to cheat on his arranged marriage bride. Guys are so dumb sometimes.

JenniferNorth
07-25-2016, 07:43 PM
rares-I agree. I don't take my hubby for granted, and I know he loves me, but I just miss those early days. Butterflys, being on my toes....I don't know. Honestly, I just need to take a vacation with him. I just feel so drained for being my age. Go figure.

seashell, you inspired me to actually TRY NaNoWriMo this year!! I hope you have much success with your men! I remember my batting the guys away stage when I first signed up on POF-LOL fun times!

Miss P., please keep up updated!

LizzyMe
07-25-2016, 09:06 PM
I put in my 2 week notice at my vanilla job. I am happier working for myself. As I look towards the much distant future, I prefer being a hot sexy granny making $$$ in the adult business than an old lady in a suit. No way!

There are so many opportunities out there to be able to work for yourself. I am an independent contractor in both vanilla and adult work.

LegoMoney
07-25-2016, 09:48 PM
I spent all of July partying, hanging out, smoking weed, and barely working. Met a couple guys during this period. Sooo.... Let's talk about love vs. money now lol. I met a "nice" guy. Level headed, stable job, not rich but enough money to live comfortably together if we got married. He's slightly outta shape and a bit boring, but he seems genuinely interested in me for ME and ready for commitment. That alone is so rare nowadays, it's a turn on.

Guy #2 is Mr. Money. He's in the NFL and a cutie. He doesn't know I dance (thank God, no stigma lol). Two years ago, I got my heart decimated by a different baller. I now know 90% of them are trash and in no way ready or looking for commitment. Me and the new guy have talked a bit, and he's shown some legit interest, but who knows? He's leaving my city to head back to training camp that starts this week. We were supposed to spend some time together b4 he left. We had two days to make this happen. I told him if it was important to him, he'd find a way no matter how busy he is with preparations b4 he has to leave town. He called yesterday, but no word from him today.

I was a bit sad, but overall I'm really fucking proud of myself. I didn't mope around all day cause he didn't call. I ran errands, spent quality time with my family, read, applied for vanilla jobs, and rejoined my gym. I cried for a year and a half straight over that first ex. Questioning myself: Who would want to wife up a "dirty" stripper? Beating myself up for not being as accomplished or financially stable as he was. But today, I shrugged all that off. I would have loved to spend time with this new dude before he left, but if this silence is a sign of his disinterest cause I haven't put out yet.... well fuck him. If he heads back to his team's city, never to be heard from again...... Fuck him. I realize that I am an amazing woman who any man would be blessed to have in their life. Whether he be rich or poor.

miss.a.p1600
07-26-2016, 07:32 AM
^^^^you will be glad you didn't f*ck him because he probably would still pull the disappearing act. At least now if he is still interested, he will be wondering what is like to f*ck you.

Yes I'd even increase that statistic and say 97% of pro ballers are masters of womanizing and manipulation. So you gotta hustle them before they hustle you. Most of them arent that generous, even though they are rich, and they are entitled, narcissistic, and expect sh*t for free. You'll be competing with countless thirsty groupies who will jump through their hoops and offer p*ssy on a platter for free.

Most times, dealing with these dudes is not worth the headaches anyways. Unless you happen to snag one of the generous relationship minded guys in the 3%.

JenniferNorth
07-26-2016, 12:52 PM
Lizzy-that is awesome! Congrats!

Lego, your story could be mine (my ex made me feel like no one could ever want me-ha ha, look at me now, fucker!) Keep up the self-love and positive attitude. What your ex has could come crashing down around his ankles faster than you realize. I always tell friends that life is like a race, to a degree. Every time you go to look back at your exes, other people's exs, haters, and the like, you are really slowing yourself down. But, if you stay focused on you, you'll never go wrong.

Hopefully that makes sense!

buttonpop
07-26-2016, 01:19 PM
I'm seriously considering ending my relationship even though my man treats me like a queen. Buys me shit constantly, brings me flowers, cooks for me, is so kind to me, loves to travel with me, provides for all my emotional needs...

but I'm not attracted to him anymore. A few months ago he let himself go, got too comfortable and stopped trying to be attractive. Since then we've talked about it and he's whipped back into shape, worked on his wardrobe and looks better than ever but my attraction hasn't come back yet. We haven't had sex in weeks and i think 23 is too young to be in a sexless relationship. We recently decided to have an open relationship as a last ditch effort to save things. I haven't met anyone else yet so idk if it will work.

He needs to get his confidence back. I think the conversation where I gently told him that he was getting too comfortable really got to his head. He used to be able to read my body SO WELL and now its like he's clueless in bed. Its a huge turn off. Its impossible for me to have sex when I'm not 100% into it due to past trauma & sexual assault, so the whole "just have sex everyday for 1 month and pretty soon you'll be feeling it again" thing is not an option for me.

i'm so torn and its ripping me up inside. isn't 6 months too soon for the honeymoon stage to be over? is this a sign we're just not right for each other? will i ever meet a guy who treats me this well again?

baer45
07-26-2016, 02:10 PM
We haven't had sex in weeks and i think 23 is too young to be in a sexless relationship.


The only problem that matters in your story. This is critical.
6 months to a year is the testing period for every relationship. You could only learn about someone after a year of dating/living together.

miss.a.p1600
07-26-2016, 04:06 PM
I'm seriously considering ending my relationship even though my man treats me like a queen. Buys me shit constantly, brings me flowers, cooks for me, is so kind to me, loves to travel with me, provides for all my emotional needs...

but I'm not attracted to him anymore. A few months ago he let himself go, got too comfortable and stopped trying to be attractive. Since then we've talked about it and he's whipped back into shape, worked on his wardrobe and looks better than ever but my attraction hasn't come back yet. We haven't had sex in weeks and i think 23 is too young to be in a sexless relationship. We recently decided to have an open relationship as a last ditch effort to save things. I haven't met anyone else yet so idk if it will work.

He needs to get his confidence back. I think the conversation where I gently told him that he was getting too comfortable really got to his head. He used to be able to read my body SO WELL and now its like he's clueless in bed. Its a huge turn off. Its impossible for me to have sex when I'm not 100% into it due to past trauma & sexual assault, so the whole "just have sex everyday for 1 month and pretty soon you'll be feeling it again" thing is not an option for me.

i'm so torn and its ripping me up inside. isn't 6 months too soon for the honeymoon stage to be over? is this a sign we're just not right for each other? will i ever meet a guy who treats me this well again?

No a persons true colors come out around 6 months.

It doesn't sound like anything that wrong with him except you're just not attracted anymore so that kind of fizzles everything else out. Can you not keep him and get a Man on the side???

buttonpop
07-26-2016, 04:58 PM
We are in an open relationship now so yes I could find someone else on the side. But if the attraction never comes back, I will have to leave eventually. It also feels like a red flag that he let himself go after only a few months of dating. I don't want this to come up as a problem again in another year or two. I put A LOT of effort into my appearance and it causes resentment when my partner doesn't even try.

seashell
07-26-2016, 10:12 PM
At my strip club, I feel like I am HOME. Maybe because I was gone for so long and it supported me in desperate times, but I am weirdly comforted by this dark, loud place. Also, the familiar faces. A lot of the other girls from 5 years ago are still there or have returned, and it's nice to see them again.

buttonpop
07-27-2016, 10:11 AM
. I put A LOT of effort into my appearance and it causes resentment when my partner doesn't even try.

Going back and reading this a bell went off in my head. I'm holding onto resentment toward him which is why even though he's changed my attraction hasn't come back. I'm gonna ask for a week break while I work on letting go of my resentment. I think I have some internalized misandry. I get VERY worked up whenever the subject of men working on their appearance comes up. It's so easy for men to be attractive and yet most don't even try. Meanwhile women are expected to spend hours a week maintaining ours. I'm projecting this anger onto him.

Anyway I'll stop hijacking this thread now but thank you for your input everyone. It helps just to hash it out.

LegoMoney
07-27-2016, 10:41 AM
^^^^you will be glad you didn't f*ck him because he probably would still pull the disappearing act. At least now if he is still interested, he will be wondering what is like to f*ck you.

Yes I'd even increase that statistic and say 97% of pro ballers are masters of womanizing and manipulation. So you gotta hustle them before they hustle you. Most of them arent that generous, even though they are rich, and they are entitled, narcissistic, and expect sh*t for free. You'll be competing with countless thirsty groupies who will jump through their hoops and offer p*ssy on a platter for free.

Most times, dealing with these dudes is not worth the headaches anyways. Unless you happen to snag one of the generous relationship minded guys in the 3%.


^^^^^^THIS! THIS! THIS! THIS! THIS!^^^^^ The game is so fucked up nowadays. I don't get it. I look like the typical Instagram baddie with surgery and all PLUS a graduate degree and I can't get one of these dudes to settle down. It's so frustrating to be SO close to life-changing money and never be able to fully capitalize on it. These new younger groupies got the game fucked up. They want to be simply associated with these dudes soooo bad that they will do anything just to hop in bed with them, and think of getting nothing in return.

And the ball players know this which is why they have become so cheap. Why spend when I can get it for free?? Both dudes I dated pulled in over 500k a MONTH and the best I got was a couple of 5 star dinners, VIP booths in clubs, and nice hotel suites. I'm like wtf?? When I was younger, I used to watch Basketball Wives (with the original good cast like Evelyn Lozada-a true hustler in this game, an original OG lol). I used to think once you snagged one of these dudes it would be instant commitment cause you're pretty, Red Bottoms, and exotic trips. Not so much. Toward the end of our "relationship," me and my baller were eating at Buffalo Wild Wings. Lmao!! This shit isn't as glamorous as it looks.

Anywho, who can blame them? If I was a young, horny, multi-millionaire, I'd be reaching for the low hanging fruit too.... Girls who are willing to give it up on day one. And yes, I'm much happier that I didn't fuck him. I'm still the pretty girl who's a mystery instead of a girl who got fucked and tossed.

Confession: His disappearing act nearly got to me. I spent yesterday in bed all day eating junk food and just feeling like shit. It's hard not to take this shit personally. I started this morning the same way too. Took like 5 shots of vodka before noon. Almost called up one of my homeboys to smoke me out which would completely ruin my vanilla job search process. I'm not religious, more so spiritual. But, I prayed to God last night. I felt my self-esteem spiraling down like it was with my first ex. I said God: If I'm about to be ghosted by another VERY eligible bachelor, at least give me the means to take care of myself and get back on my boss shit. Stack up some $, and revive my vanilla career.

Soon after the 5 shots of vodka this morning, one of the vanilla jobs I applied for called. It would restore my previous income, and move me back into a more lucrative stripping city. When all else fails, working on YOU and improving yourself is always the best option. Pray for me y'all. The interview is tomorrow.

JenniferNorth
07-27-2016, 10:48 AM
^ Crossing my fingers for you girl, please update us!!

chanzep
07-27-2016, 12:56 PM
I confess story's like that are exciting for me nowadays now I'm married and vanilla!. Also LegoMoney I like your positive attitude.

lynn2009
07-27-2016, 06:44 PM
I'm starting to really get a little worried about work. This is my fourth job in six years after college and I feel like if I can't make it work I'll never get hired anywhere decent again. I could go back to school full-time, which I would actually love but I don't see that being a reality without borrowing again plus I think my poor job history would still be a major problem. But the last couple weeks I am not exaggerating I am frequently so pissed off and frustrated at work i get dizzy. My boss seems like he's starting to blame me for not dealing with my coworker better who I still loathe like I have never hated in my life. After our manager talked to him last week he keeps asking me thr DUMBEST questions, stuff he should know after a week and he's been here six months!!!! I really, really want to make it work but j swear...I am not having it with men treating me like shit anymore. I don't even know anymore how many unpaid hours I've put in and then at the same time my boss acts like I don't do anything all day >:(>:(

miss.a.p1600
07-27-2016, 08:20 PM
I am supposed to log into the dating site .... but I am procrastinating.

I have 3 offers to meet and I don't feel cute, sexy, nor do I feel like putting in the effort at the current moment.

*sigh*

I wish I knew in advance if these dudes were wealthy and generous. Guess Ill have to do a bit of profile lurking.

Aurora_Sunset
07-27-2016, 09:25 PM
Me when I haven't voluntarily dated in years: "Psh, sex is dumb. I have no libido. I wouldn't hook up with some rando for free if the world depended on it."

My brain when I'm actually starting to become attracted to dudes that are trying to date me: "But what about all the people I have yet to have sex with!?"
Me: You don't want to have sex with anyone anywa - "
My brain: "But I COULD. That's the point."

I make literally no sense to even myself.

snakesandmonkeys
07-27-2016, 09:29 PM
I am so sick of being the "wanna fuck?" Girl. And I know that's where I am because that's how I have presented myself.
I'm a smart, hot, lovely women with a lot to offer.
Why am I stuck in this place between respectful, got-their-shit-together men who are as attractive to me as moss, and terrible assholes who make me wet when they text "wanna fuck?"

xStacey
07-27-2016, 09:31 PM
Me when I haven't voluntarily dated in years: "Psh, sex is dumb. I have no libido. I wouldn't hook up with some rando for free if the world depended on it."

My brain when I'm actually starting to become attracted to dudes that are trying to date me: "But what about all the people I have yet to have sex with!?"
Me: You don't want to have sex with anyone anywa - "
My brain: "But I COULD. That's the point."

I make literally no sense to even myself.


I looved casual sex before I started stripping, I have commitment issues LOL but after sex work? No thanks. I feel more "gross" than being paid afterwards.

JGB2009
07-27-2016, 10:03 PM
I am on the same dating website as my daughters biological father. I don't have a profile picture up but he sent me a note on there not knowing it was me. I decided to reply back for shits and giggles. Mind you his profile has lies on it so I figured it would be funny to see what he had to say. Any who he proceeded to tell me he only has 5 kids which is a lie because counting our daughter he has 6. Also he said all 5 kids are teenagers and that is not true because 2 of the 5 are adults. I guess he's trying to keep his image together on there because he has himself listed as way younger. All I can say is wow.....

xStacey
07-27-2016, 10:28 PM
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miss.a.p1600
07-27-2016, 11:10 PM
I am on the same dating website as my daughters biological father. I don't have a profile picture up but he sent me a note on there not knowing it was me. I decided to reply back for shits and giggles. Mind you his profile has lies on it so I figured it would be funny to see what he had to say. Any who he proceeded to tell me he only has 5 kids which is a lie because counting our daughter he has 6. Also he said all 5 kids are teenagers and that is not true because 2 of the 5 are adults. I guess he's trying to keep his image together on there because he has himself listed as way younger. All I can say is wow.....

Wow! Can't believe he'd message someone with no picture?!? And lie about his life like that.

JGB2009
07-27-2016, 11:21 PM
Wow! Can't believe he'd message someone with no picture?!? And lie about his life like that.

Very true....plus he got the DNA test results back last month telling him our daughter is indeed his smh.

Elektra Luxx
07-27-2016, 11:34 PM
I've been feeling kind of "blah" the last couple of days. I'm surrounding myself with family. Right now I have my younger sister, her bf and my little brother in my little apartment. It's a little crowded, and I'm having trouble finding time to myself, but I need people around me. I fall asleep hugging my little brother and I love that. Maybe I should say younger brother, he's going to be 13 in less than a week he's already bigger than me.

xStacey
07-28-2016, 02:49 AM
Finished all my consults after 4 days... Really considering getting my nose done this summer, they do so many noses per day it can't be that bad right? :/ I met a lawyer from LA in Korea from a forum, her primary was with Dr Paul Nassif I think he costs $20-30k USD and it looks really nice but he shaved down too much so she's been getting fillers the last 10 years it causes her breathing problems... She's not asian but came to Korea to get a bridge augmentation with rib...

I'm shopping around and everytime I try something on, I can't stop thinking about how much I hate my nose.

And for the head surgeon who graduated from the best medical university in the country a rhinoplasty here is only $5-6k CAD.

miss.a.p1600
07-29-2016, 06:54 AM
Supposed to be meeting with a new dude from the dating site today and I totally do not feel like it.

I know he gonna take me to a cheap place so I'm not straightening my hair - even though all my pics on my profile my hair is straight.

If it rains I'm going to cancel.

*sigh*

I'm going to try to be optimistic.

whirlerz
07-29-2016, 07:17 AM
If you don't feel like it, don't go..time's valuable, I sure wasted my friggin' time on the last one..

So, I'm waiting for this 'Regional Mgr' to call me back from the storage place, & it's prob going to be a long wait. Sorry, but I'm not paying 242. for a hot, non climate controlled piece of garbage place, after I've been renting there 2 yrs now, not to mention having to explain stuff to the police when their bldg alarm went off & the girl waltzed off. leaving me to deal w/it.
Also, they're not forcing me out that quick. They can fuck off, thank you.

miss.a.p1600
07-29-2016, 08:51 AM
If you don't feel like it, don't go..time's valuable, I sure wasted my friggin' time on the last one..

So, I'm waiting for this 'Regional Mgr' to call me back from the storage place, & it's prob going to be a long wait. Sorry, but I'm not paying 242. for a hot, non climate controlled piece of garbage place, after I've been renting there 2 yrs now, not to mention having to explain stuff to the police when their bldg alarm went off & the girl waltzed off. leaving me to deal w/it.
Also, they're not forcing me out that quick. They can fuck off, thank you.

You talking about That dude who took you to the place that only had salads? I get dating costs money especially if men are taking out say 3 women per week for dinner that equals about $300/week. And maybe going for a lunch, coffee, tea, salad is a way to keep expenses down in the beginning? I like the fact of meeting the dudes during daylight hours but I really want an early dinner like 4:30 so I still meet them in the day but I can see they're not thrifting.

You're right I feel like I'm wasting my time doing normal dating and I really only want to date wealthy guys. I haven't been dancing at the club so funds are tight. And I'm going to have to get relentless about ditching dudes who don't have money and aren't generous.

Hope you get a remedy to your storage situation. I accidentally triggered their alarm once and I didn't know what to do so I drove off and went to the coffee shop. Minutes later police rolled up on me lol! The didn't ask me to get out the car but I think they ran my tags. Saw I didn't steal anything And then just left.

22lligm
07-29-2016, 10:57 AM
I'm not going to work today and I feel guilty. I'm not about to pretend like I have a valid reason either lol I just don't want to go dammit. I also agreed to go to a concert with some guy I know from back home tonight while I was drinking and whenever Ive had a few drinks all of a sudden everything sounds like a great idea. So now I'm like UGH I don't feel like it! But he paid for my ticket and that would be really rude of me to flake. Idk why I'm so antisocial today I just want to stay in my apartment all day (aka my cave). Blah.

xStacey
07-29-2016, 03:52 PM
My hotel has no gym and I've been eating out everyday since I got here... I will have to go to the gym everyday once I'm back to Canada lol

miss.a.p1600
07-29-2016, 06:23 PM
Haven't heard from dude who was supposed to meet me for lunch. I'm relieved cause I didn't feel like getting cute and spending gas for a possibly thrift dude. I want 5 star motherf*cker.

And I'm horny.

We had a rabbit like you
07-29-2016, 06:25 PM
Why did I decide to read all about Americas most horrific serial killers today..now I REALLY can't fucking eat. The most disturbing shit I've ever read. Pro diet tip I guess

seashell
07-29-2016, 07:17 PM
Why did I decide to read all about Americas most horrific serial killers today..now I REALLY can't fucking eat. The most disturbing shit I've ever read. Pro diet tip I guess
Omg I get sucked into articles like that, too... I still refuse to go hiking alone because of some murders I've read about!

seashell
07-29-2016, 07:23 PM
Speaking of which, last night I went out with a guy who was SO CREEPY. He looked like a less attractive Christian Bale from American Psycho, had no social skills, and did not laugh... He smiled continuously (creepily), but did not give the slightest laugh...

Uuugh online dating is the pits! The last guy I dated lived with his mom, and a different guy lived with his ex-fiance's twin brother. How hard is it to find a normal person?! I mean yes I'm a stripper but that's not forever... You can't fix a bad personality. Lol

xStacey
07-30-2016, 02:43 AM
I had a great consultation last Friday, the doctor spent 30 mins with me (very rare in Korea), although they called him for surgery he did not seem to be in a rush and took his time to answer all my questions. Did not find any review about him but booked a consultation because he's a speaker at the Korea Rhinoplasty Forum along with some other eminent rhino specialists I consulted... He took the time to explain my alternatives and said if I want to use silicone to augment the radix there's a 1% chance of infection and that 1% worries him because to one patient it's either 0% or 100% and the number of his patients who get infected doesn't matter. He asked where I come from and said even if it's 1% it worries him because if complication occur I will have to fly all the way from Canada (17 hrs flight) unlike Chinese patients it's 2 hrs and he often goes there to do surgery... He not only explained what he wanted to do esthetically for me but also took the time to explain the methodology thoroughly and used medical terms almost as if he were teaching a class lol. Whereas some doctor I consulted I pushed to know more about the methodology and one of the most expensive doctors in Korea who writes medical books replied "this is not a med class". Before I even said it, he told me he likes slight improvements but that produce dramatic results that look natural. He took the time to show me what he would do with my tip and I never realized how much of a difference 1 mm makes, 1 more mm looks fake and unnatural. I was really impressed, and his English was perfect.

I think I would trust him, he doesn't seem like a money-hungry doctor who would just ignore the patient once he gets the money knowing foreigners have little recourse incase anything goes wrong knowing korean laws protrct the doctors (one head surgeon of a famous 16 floors clinic is known to have killed multiple patients and then opened up that new clinic to cover up, he's still practicing and making $$$$$). He even asked me what other clinics I will be consulting so he could tell me which ones to avoid and which ones to go to. Lol not surprising all the "good clinics" he approved were those whose headsurgeon speak at conferences. He was soo nice and I think the chemistry was mutual lol, I'n thinking he will at least make an effort to not botch me up since he seemed to like me LOL. He was pretty good looking too and said he lived in Canada before.

I have one last consult on Monday with Dr Jo, my friend highly recommends him. Arg my return flight is on aug 2nd, not sure if I'll get surgery and extend mu stay here or not yet... So scared about recovery, swelling and scarring.... :(

Why didn't I get it done last summer when I had 4 months off?! Or this May so I would have had 4 months to recover before school? Ugh.... I don't know if I'm ready but I'm scared I'll regret not getting it done and next summer be thinking why didn't I get it done last aummer?! Lol...

I can get 2 weeks to recover but I have to return to the legal clinic, hmm it's only one day a week and at the club it's so dark... Exactly 4 weeks before school starts. :( in the professional world I guess it must be difficult having 4 weeks off... Although I would have preferred to have 4 months lol. There never seem to be a right moment to get it done ahhh. Imve been reading online and some lucky ones look great after 10 days while some people are suicidal until 3 or 6 months post-op... :( not sure what to do...

Help!!!

xStacey
07-30-2016, 04:38 AM
I had a great consultation last Friday, the doctor spent 30 mins with me (very rare in Korea), although they called him for surgery he did not seem to be in a rush and took his time to answer all my questions. Did not find any review about him but booked a consultation because he's a speaker at the Korea Rhinoplasty Forum along with some other eminent rhino specialists I consulted... He took the time to explain my alternatives and said if I want to use silicone to augment the radix there's a 1% chance of infection and that 1% worries him because to one patient it's either 0% or 100% and the number of his patients who get infected doesn't matter. He asked where I come from and said even if it's 1% it worries him because if complication occur I will have to fly all the way from Canada (17 hrs flight) unlike Chinese patients it's 2 hrs and he often goes there to do surgery... He not only explained what he wanted to do esthetically for me but also took the time to explain the methodology thoroughly and used medical terms almost as if he were teaching a class lol. Whereas some doctor I consulted I pushed to know more about the methodology and one of the most expensive doctors in Korea who writes medical books replied "this is not a med class". Before I even said it, he told me he likes slight improvements but that produce dramatic results that look natural. He took the time to show me what he would do with my tip and I never realized how much of a difference 1 mm makes, 1 more mm looks fake and unnatural. I was really impressed, and his English was perfect.

I think I would trust him, he doesn't seem like a money-hungry doctor who would just ignore the patient once he gets the money knowing foreigners have little recourse incase anything goes wrong knowing korean laws protrct the doctors (one head surgeon of a famous 16 floors clinic is known to have killed multiple patients and then opened up that new clinic to cover up, he's still practicing and making $$$$$). He even asked me what other clinics I will be consulting so he could tell me which ones to avoid and which ones to go to. Lol not surprising all the "good clinics" he approved were those whose headsurgeon speak at conferences. He was soo nice and I think the chemistry was mutual lol, I'n thinking he will at least make an effort to not botch me up since he seemed to like me LOL. He was pretty good looking too and said he lived in Canada before.

I have one last consult on Monday with Dr Jo, my friend highly recommends him. Arg my return flight is on aug 2nd, not sure if I'll get surgery and extend mu stay here or not yet... So scared about recovery, swelling and scarring.... :(

Why didn't I get it done last summer when I had 4 months off?! Or this May so I would have had 4 months to recover before school? Ugh.... I don't know if I'm ready but I'm scared I'll regret not getting it done and next summer be thinking why didn't I get it done last aummer?! Lol...

I can get 2 weeks to recover but I have to return to the legal clinic, hmm it's only one day a week and at the club it's so dark... Exactly 4 weeks before school starts. :( in the professional world I guess it must be difficult having 4 weeks off... Although I would have preferred to have 4 months lol. There never seem to be a right moment to get it done ahhh. Imve been reading online and some lucky ones look great after 10 days while some people are suicidal until 3 or 6 months post-op... :( not sure what to do...

Help!!!

Ugh... I'm doing research on realself and other forums, and everyone recommends finding a great doc who does hundreds of noses per year... And in Korea, from what the consultants told me, they do not want to overwork their surgeons so they let them perform 3 noses per day, and max 4 during peak season when they really have to, multiply this number by 30, that's almost 100 noses per year and they reach 1000 so much faster than western surgeons... Multiply that by 10-20 years of experience hmm... I'm just scared because of the high volume they might rush me or not be as meticulous as western surgeons.... But then even if a surgeon only does one nose per day I doubt he'll spend 6 hours on it, when on the websites even western surgeons say a nose job takes 1-3 hours to perform and that's about the same amount of time the korean surgeons said it will take...

In Korea they value speed, but the service I received everywhere in restaurants or clothing stores, even if they are very quick, the service they provide is much better than in Canada. Everyone is so courteous, they pay so much attention to detail. It doesn't seem like they sacrifice quality over quantity...

But it's so true Koreans are so hard working whoa. Their surgeons work from 9 am to 7 pm every day doing difficult surgeries and in between they do consultations (here they're not allowed to charge for a consult so even for the head surgeon, he's doing it free). They work even on Saturdays except it's from 10 am to 5 pm lol. Unlike Western doctors who only do surgery two days per week, the rest of the time spend his time consulting, and have the whole week-end off... (at least that was my doctor lol)

22lligm
07-30-2016, 11:42 AM
Speaking of which, last night I went out with a guy who was SO CREEPY. He looked like a less attractive Christian Bale from American Psycho, had no social skills, and did not laugh... He smiled continuously (creepily), but did not give the slightest laugh...

Uuugh online dating is the pits! The last guy I dated lived with his mom, and a different guy lived with his ex-fiance's twin brother. How hard is it to find a normal person?! I mean yes I'm a stripper but that's not forever... You can't fix a bad personality. Lol

This is like the guy I met at work who turned out to be really creepy too. He keeps asking me for a picture of my feet after I pretty much told him I'm not interested. He's like begging for one and it's creeping me out. What is he gonna jack off to a picture of my toes? No thank you. Now I know why he really wanted to take me to get a pedicure. Vomit.

ETA: I wanna add to my confession. I'm such a guy when I go out! I went out to some bars after the concert last night with my friend and saw this hot bartender. So I was totally creeping on him telling him he's hot and asking if he's single haha but I did end up getting his number and he texted me today. But it's so funny normally it's a female bartender with a male customer hitting on her but the roles were reversed last night lol. I like to go out and get what I want when I have a few drinks in me.

xStacey
07-30-2016, 05:44 PM
So stressed out, not sure if I should get my surgery next week... I'm gonna go see a fortuneteller for the first time lmao to help me decide.

wish
07-30-2016, 06:18 PM
So stressed out, not sure if I should get my surgery next week... I'm gonna go see a fortuneteller for the first time lmao to help me decide.

I spent $40 on a fortune teller once. I asked her about buying a house and she kept wanting to tell me about a man. Smh the man she kept describing was my daughters father or someone extremely close in personality to him. Either way if said man tries to come around I'm kicking off my heels and running. Never did get a answer about my house. She may have put a curse on me because I haven't dated seriously since.

seashell
07-30-2016, 06:19 PM
This is like the guy I met at work who turned out to be really creepy too. He keeps asking me for a picture of my feet after I pretty much told him I'm not interested. He's like begging for one and it's creeping me out. What is he gonna jack off to a picture of my toes? No thank you. Now I know why he really wanted to take me to get a pedicure. Vomit.

ETA: I wanna add to my confession. I'm such a guy when I go out! I went out to some bars after the concert last night with my friend and saw this hot bartender. So I was totally creeping on him telling him he's hot and asking if he's single haha but I did end up getting his number and he texted me today. But it's so funny normally it's a female bartender with a male customer hitting on her but the roles were reversed last night lol. I like to go out and get what I want when I have a few drinks in me.
Haha, I've become the same way. Something about stripping makes it hard to not take the initiative with guys! I don't feel embarrassed about openly flirting, in fact, I think it's my preferred method of communication. XD

Although I do try to hold back once I've got a guy's attention. Since they want to be the pursuer, after all. I feel like a guy in the way that I approach dating... like I have an arsenal of mind games, depending on what the situation calls for. lol

miss.a.p1600
07-30-2016, 06:35 PM
I spent $40 on a fortune teller once. I asked her about buying a house and she kept wanting to tell me about a man. Smh the man she kept describing was my daughters father or someone extremely close in personality to him. Either way if said man tries to come around I'm kicking off my heels and running. Never did get a answer about my house. She may have put a curse on me because I haven't dated seriously since.

Lol! I went to one too. I was like tell me if I'm going to find a man and get married. She was like yeah there will be a dude and he wants to get married.

Low and behold the dude wanted to get married and have a baby but my womb is picky and come to find out the dude was a nutjob. He showed his true colors after a few months I ditched him.

Like [email protected] lady why didn't you warn me about that?!? I could have saved my p*ssy and 6 month of my life - wasted! Ugh!

22lligm
07-30-2016, 06:56 PM
Haha, I've become the same way. Something about stripping makes it hard to not take the initiative with guys! I don't feel embarrassed about openly flirting, in fact, I think it's my preferred method of communication. XD

Although I do try to hold back once I've got a guy's attention. Since they want to be the pursuer, after all. I feel like a guy in the way that I approach dating... like I have an arsenal of mind games, depending on what the situation calls for. lol

You just described me to a T! I'm not afraid to go out and get the guy but once I have him I back off lol

chanzep
07-30-2016, 08:50 PM
XStacey have your last consult then see how you feel. Also some Fourtune tellers are really good and some terrible just go and see what they say but don't mention anything to them.

xStacey
07-30-2016, 09:26 PM
I'm scared shitless I don't know what to do. For my BA I was excited but for nose I am not, I am so scared it will be botched or won't come out well... I did not tell that many people that I was going to Korea but the ones I did tell are kind of pushing me to get it done... The guy I'm dating keeps saying he loves my nose but I wanted it so bad I went all the way to Korea to do it, I should just get it done because he wants me to be happy with myself. The people I met from a PS forum both got surgeries so they're kinda pushing me as well... and if I do get it done we'll have leave around the same time instead of me leaving alone this Tuesday without getting surgery, and having to come back another time all alone... I don't know. I still have one last consult tomorrow morning but I am so scared I don't know if I am ready. One guy who came here for surgery said you will never be ready, I was reading the forum for 3 years and I was still uncertain till the last minute... :'(