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xStacey
07-30-2016, 09:27 PM
XStacey have your last consult then see how you feel. Also some Fourtune tellers are really good and some terrible just go and see what they say but don't mention anything to them.
Took 3 cabs and they weren't able to find the fortune teller, I walked around and wasn't able to find it... All the other fortunetellers don't speak English so I gave up.
seashell
07-30-2016, 09:32 PM
I think I finally found a couple of normal, sane guys on Tinder. Really hoping to shake off the bad mojo of the last creep I went out with... Pleeease be normal! <3
charlie61
07-31-2016, 11:51 AM
I'm scared shitless I don't know what to do. For my BA I was excited but for nose I am not, I am so scared it will be botched or won't come out well... I did not tell that many people that I was going to Korea but the ones I did tell are kind of pushing me to get it done... The guy I'm dating keeps saying he loves my nose but I wanted it so bad I went all the way to Korea to do it, I should just get it done because he wants me to be happy with myself. The people I met from a PS forum both got surgeries so they're kinda pushing me as well... and if I do get it done we'll have leave around the same time instead of me leaving alone this Tuesday without getting surgery, and having to come back another time all alone... I don't know. I still have one last consult tomorrow morning but I am so scared I don't know if I am ready. One guy who came here for surgery said you will never be ready, I was reading the forum for 3 years and I was still uncertain till the last minute... :'(
It sounds to me like you aren't ready. I'm being very blunt.
There's risk involved in any surgery, but you're right that this is a highly delicate procedure. If you aren't ready to take on that risk, then don't do it. :hug:
xStacey
07-31-2016, 08:22 PM
It sounds to me like you aren't ready. I'm being very blunt.
There's risk involved in any surgery, but you're right that this is a highly delicate procedure. If you aren't ready to take on that risk, then don't do it. :hug:
Ok I'm really not happy at all. I went to my last consult today and I really liked what the surgeon suggested, very different from what the other doctors said. They all recommend adding more height to the radix and bridge. It's true my radix is low but I think I have enough bridge and it is straight, although from the profile it could be a nicer curve. I have a slight hump and he recommended I shave it, instead of adding material that could become infected or extrude... Doesn't recommend alarplasty but said I could come back if I still think I need it after rhino and raising the tip usually makes it appear smaller.
I really liked how the doctor drew on my picture, I forgot to take a pic but when I asked the consultant she said they don't allow that unless youget surgery with them. They could fit me in tomorrow or wednesday although it's very last minute but at like freaking 5 pm and for that doctor they quoted me higher than the head surgeon I consulted initially because it's open rhino. They tried telling me he only does 2-3 surgeries per day, and in the morning it's surgeries that take a long time but I know how I feel when it's my last body rub customer at 5 pm or the last vip room at 3 am. I do it because it's money but my performance is not as good as the beginning of my shift. And it's way less demanding than peforming surgery 7 hours straight...
My flight is tomorrow early afternoon and tonight my last night at the hotel... I was thinking of extending my stay for one more week if I get it done but I might be better off getting back home and researching some more about what the doctors suggested and get 2-3 consults from western doctors to see what they think? I went on 8 consults since it's free and they don't all suggest the same thing. And maybe photoshopping my nose or hiring a professional to do it would be a good idea to get used to the idea and actually be able to visualize what I would look like... Here they don't do photo simulation. I'd be maybe more mentally prepared next summer?
Because no way I'm paying thousands of $, to get surgery at 5 pm, during peak season when they work 5-6 days per week from 9 am to 7 pm.
He looked less like he's 18 in person though
baer45
07-31-2016, 09:06 PM
Ok I'm really not happy at all. I went to my last consult today and I really liked what the surgeon suggested, very different from what the other doctors said. They all recommend adding more height to the radix and bridge. It's true my radix is low but I think I have enough bridge and it is straight, although from the profile it could be a nicer curve. I have a slight hump and he recommended I shave it, instead of adding material that could become infected or extrude... Doesn't recommend alarplasty but said I could come back if I still think I need it after rhino and raising the tip usually makes it appear smaller.
I really liked how the doctor drew on my picture, I forgot to take a pic but when I asked the consultant she said they don't allow that unless youget surgery with them. They could fit me in tomorrow or wednesday although it's very last minute but at like freaking 5 pm and for that doctor they quoted me higher than the head surgeon I consulted initially because it's open rhino. They tried telling me he only does 2-3 surgeries per day, and in the morning it's surgeries that take a long time but I know how I feel when it's my last body rub customer at 5 pm or the last vip room at 3 am. I do it because it's money but my performance is not as good as the beginning of my shift. And it's way less demanding than peforming surgery 7 hours straight...
My flight is tomorrow early afternoon and tonight my last night at the hotel... I was thinking of extending my stay for one more week if I get it done but I might be better off getting back home and researching some more about what the doctors suggested and get 2-3 consults from western doctors to see what they think? I went on 8 consults since it's free and they don't all suggest the same thing. And maybe photoshopping my nose or hiring a professional to do it would be a good idea to get used to the idea and actually be able to visualize what I would look like... Here they don't do photo simulation. I'd be maybe more mentally prepared next summer?
Because no way I'm paying thousands of $, to get surgery at 5 pm, during peak season when they work 5-6 days per week from 9 am to 7 pm.
He looked less like he's 18 in person though
The situation is getting worrisome by the second. You are not ready and it's very risky to continue. You can go back to korea when you have more confidence in his suggestion.
chanzep
07-31-2016, 10:31 PM
Yes you are not feeling confident about surgery and your alone in a foreign country, you should go home and think more you can always go back or see if you find a doctor you like in Canada or the USA.
xStacey
07-31-2016, 11:46 PM
Thank you so much for your support girls :)
I decided not to get it done this time around and I think I made the right decision. It was expensive flying over here, over $2k for the flight and $1k for an okay hotel, plus food, etc. but I got to consult with 8 doctors, it was very enlightening. Better than if I just stayed in Canada and kept researching online non-stop lol. I was so sure I would go through with it, but it was just so close and attainable I didn't know if I wanted it anymore :)
I think I will end up getting the rhinoplasty one day lol, I've wanted it for so long, but I will go through it once I'm ready. For my BA, I had a great surgeon (although he's an asshat) but I was so depressed the first time because I didn't know what I wanted. I just don't want this to happen with my rhino. It could turn out not botched, but I would be very unhappy if it's not the result I expected. I have a vague idea but not exactly sure what I want exactly. I think now that I have the procedures doctors suggested, I can take the time to research more and think about it... Professional photoshop and maybe computer simulation would be extremely helpful too, I know most Canadian and US doctors offer computer simulation but they don't here since the doctors are so freaking busy some of them barely have time to see you for 10 mins during the consult.
But yeah, I just met the surgeon, and I don't feel comfortable making such a hasty decision such as scheduling the surgery with him the next day, at 5 p.m LOL. I'll try to see the good side of things, I can go back to the gym and burn all the calories I ate from the cakes, can go back home and eat home-cooked meals, I am so sick of eating out, dishes full of salt and fat argg. I can aways improve myself in other ways, there's so much lol. I want to stop slacking the gym so much, I never realized how much better I feel working out until I was away from the gym for 9 days, clean up my diet, spend time reading novels and biographies I've been dying to read but didn't have time the last year and the last month when I finished school because I was such in a rush to get my rhino done this summer I spent days and nights researching for a surgeon and the procedures... And work on myself emotionally. I guess one of the reasons I really hesitated going through this procedure is because I am not really stable emotionally right now LOL and I know how I react if things don't go the way I want especially since I have so much planned for the upcoming month.. I need to find a vanilla job asap for the Fall, school is starting very soon, a lot of professional events in my school in the Fall... It might not go wrong, but I always expect the worse and if it did go wrong, that would really not be the moment. At least I can still make myself look good with make-up, hair and clothes lol so much that some people do not recognize me when I am not made up... And I lived with this nose for 23 years, I can go for another couple of years and it would give me time to say goodbye LOL. Yeah the last year has been rough emotionally, I think I have to work on myself on the inside first :)
It's just, if I get my articling position during the winter interviews I might be working full-time the next summer, the summer after and the last year of law school I am aiming for clerkship so I won't really have time off at all... But I realize there's never really a right moment for surgery. At worse I'll do it during the winter time when I have two weeks off. I already did the boring part, consulting, although I still want to consult a couple more western doctors and some more research... Maybe when I am ready is a better time than when the opportunity arises lol. Last year I had 4 months off and did not get it done, probably because I wasn't ready, and although 4 months off will be ideal, in the "real world" (gosh how much I hate these terms) it's not very realistic. Yeah I guess when I'm ready I won't care about people gossiping or the awkward recovery time.
Thank you for being here <3 I was definitely feeling pressure since I came with people from PF Asian plastic surgery section and they all got their procedures done and I felt left out. They're also leaving in a week, so if I got it done they are so sweet and they said they would take care of me, but I'm just not ready and if I did get it done that leaves me only 2 weeks to sort things out before school starts and it's not enough. Also, the guy I was dating kept pushing me to do it because he said I've been talking about it for a year and I should just get it over with instead of having to fly to Korea again, or if I don't get it done to move on. But he doesn't understand agghhhh. I was really pissed. He's like but you said they are the best and complications are minimal... Yes, however there's still a lot of "but"!!!
Well, instead of spending over $1k in hotel and food to stay one more week I'll be making that monie over the week-end at the club ;)
Omg so sorry for the huge post. This was such a stressful week agh. Oh and since I'm not getting it done then I get to book one week of vacation somewhere before I start school woohoo.
xStacey
07-31-2016, 11:51 PM
Ughh I have a huge nose and was still managed to be a successful stripper the last four years, I can manage my interviews next winter with the same nose! Prolly need to work on my confidence and self-esteem issues. Another reason I was hesitating is that I knew even if I came out with a perfect nose I'd still be struggling with my issues, and if it doesn't go well, it would be much worse. So I guess I will work on that... and when I finally get my nose done it will be much better because I will already be a confident woman who loves herself :)
xStacey
08-01-2016, 12:25 AM
Actually, it's kind of a good thing I'm leaving tomorrow because I ran out of clean underwear and my hotel doesn't do laundry... Lol
miss.a.p1600
08-01-2016, 12:30 AM
Ughh I have a huge nose and was still managed to be a successful stripper the last four years, I can manage my interviews next winter with the same nose! Prolly need to work on my confidence and self-esteem issues. Another reason I was hesitating is that I knew even if I came out with a perfect nose I'd still be struggling with my issues, and if it doesn't go well, it would be much worse. So I guess I will work on that... and when I finally get my nose done it will be much better because I will already be a confident woman who loves herself :)
Sometime we are our own worst critics.
xStacey
08-01-2016, 12:40 AM
Sometime we are our own worst critics.
Lol my mom used to tell me every single day my nose was too huge and laugh at me in front of friends and family for years saying I look like a pig, have my dad's nose unlike her who has a slim nose etc.
miss.a.p1600
08-01-2016, 06:31 AM
That's so wrong for her to do that. Maybe her words affected how you think and feel about yourself. I don't believe it's right to critique a young woman's or girls body (especially about things they couldn't change without getting knifed up) because we need to be empowering them and making them feel they are beautiful not the other way around.
Im sure you're beautiful just as you are.
We had a rabbit like you
08-01-2016, 09:15 AM
Wow xstacey, that is straight fucked, what an evil bitch!
My confession is that it's downright painful to talk to one of my friends.,she ONLY wants to talk about her life and what's going on w her and will quickly shut you down or change the subject if you want to vent (yet believes she's empathetic and that everyone else is a narcissist LMAO, I don't have the heart to tell her she's one of the most self obsessed ppl I've ever met) and today it was like..dragging on and onnnnn about the most boring minute details of what district her kid goes to school in, I just couldn't take it.
charlie61
08-01-2016, 03:08 PM
Ughh I have a huge nose and was still managed to be a successful stripper the last four years, I can manage my interviews next winter with the same nose! Prolly need to work on my confidence and self-esteem issues. Another reason I was hesitating is that I knew even if I came out with a perfect nose I'd still be struggling with my issues, and if it doesn't go well, it would be much worse. So I guess I will work on that... and when I finally get my nose done it will be much better because I will already be a confident woman who loves herself :)
Also be aware that consulting with plastic surgeons can be VERY triggering for self-esteem issues even in the most confident of women. PSs make all of their money off of changing people's appearances, NOT off of validating people and building up their self-confidence. They're trained to pick up on even the tiniest of 'flaws' and to offer solutions based on those skewed perceptions. I'm not for or against plastic surgery; it's just good to be fully aware of what it means to consult with multiple professionals who are there to literally and figuratively pick people apart.
Good job on going with your gut! :grouphug:
xStacey
08-01-2016, 10:17 PM
Also be aware that consulting with plastic surgeons can be VERY triggering for self-esteem issues even in the most confident of women. PSs make all of their money off of changing people's appearances, NOT off of validating people and building up their self-confidence. They're trained to pick up on even the tiniest of 'flaws' and to offer solutions based on those skewed perceptions. I'm not for or against plastic surgery; it's just good to be fully aware of what it means to consult with multiple professionals who are there to literally and figuratively pick people apart.
Good job on going with your gut! :grouphug:
I am currently at the airport waiting for my flight and I am pretty glad I did not get it done this summer :)
I think when I will know exactly what I want and will be ready, I won't care as much about recovery time or what people think. I am usually not the type to care about what others think at all, but this time I was scared because deep down I wasn't even sure what I wanted.
I knew I wanted a sharper, smaller, more elegant and feminine nose that would fit my personality rather than my current " cute nose". But I couldn't really visualize what nose I want exactly that would suit my face. The doctors in Korea do not have time to do photo simulation, did not have that many before/after photos and even if they did, I had trouble trusting them since they are all photoshopped and only show their best work... Unlike Canadian or American doctors you cannot really find reviews or even verify the doctors credentials, the Korean Association of Plastic Surgeons website and search bar doesn't even work, and they do not reply to e-mails so the clinics can write whatever they want. How can I know for sure those doctors graduated from the best university of the country and if they're plastic surgeons ? No way.
I showed pictures of actresses with the style of noses I like, I consulted with 8 doctors since consultation are free in Korea and none of them recommend the same thing to achieve the result I want. My bridge is already pretty high for an asian but some of them recommend augmenting by less than 2 mm, others 2-3 mm, some even say 4-5mm lol. A lot of doctors said my nose doesn't start at the right level and I should augment only my radix instead of the whole nose... Augmentation rhinoplasty is more rare in caucasian patients than asians but they either use silicone or own cartilage, but there's possibility of infection or extrusion with silicone since it's a foreign material and the risk is higher than silicone breast implants.. With own cartilage (such as using ear cartilage to augment the radix) there is possibility of resorption or warping in the long term... The flight is 20 hours long so if I ever have any complication, I will have to fly all the way there...So I met a doctor who suggested shaving my bridge a little since my radix is low and I have a slight bump, to create a nice curve and did not suggest augmentation, I really liked that since it wouldn't require putting foreign material on my face... But I kind of like my current bridge height I am not sure I wanna lose some of it... While other doctors suggested shaving the hump and adding silicone on top to create a nice profile lolol.
For tip work they will defat it to make it sharper and raise it a bit. Some doctors recommended alar reduction while others said it is not necessary because raising the tip will make the nostrils narrower... I was scared of scarring from alar reduction and I know it's very difficult to do it right, can result in uneven nostrils and when the doctor removes too much it's irreversible... And when it's not done right gives an awkward triangle shape :(... Some of the consultants who recommended alar to me had weird looking nostrils, although they said another doctor performed it, I was a little scared.. The last doctor said he could achieve what I want without alar, unless I want a caucasian nose he will remove some of my nostrils but this is not what I want.
Some doctors said it's possible to do my case with open rhino while others said closed.
I am glad I went on this trip because after getting 8 recommendations from different doctors I get to think about it some more. I like understanding the technical aspect of things and since this is such a delicate procedure I want to know everything. I will keep researching some more, and get someone to professionally photoshop my pictures so I can visualize it.
xStacey
08-01-2016, 10:18 PM
Also be aware that consulting with plastic surgeons can be VERY triggering for self-esteem issues even in the most confident of women. PSs make all of their money off of changing people's appearances, NOT off of validating people and building up their self-confidence. They're trained to pick up on even the tiniest of 'flaws' and to offer solutions based on those skewed perceptions. I'm not for or against plastic surgery; it's just good to be fully aware of what it means to consult with multiple professionals who are there to literally and figuratively pick people apart.
Good job on going with your gut! :grouphug:
I am currently at the airport waiting for my flight and I am pretty glad I did not get it done this summer :)
I think when I will know exactly what I want and will be ready, I won't care as much about recovery time or what people think. I am usually not the type to care about what others think at all, but this time I was scared because deep down I wasn't even sure what I wanted.
I knew I wanted a sharper, smaller, more elegant and feminine nose that would fit my personality rather than my current " cute nose". But I couldn't really visualize what nose I want exactly that would suit my face. The doctors in Korea do not have time to do photo simulation, did not have that many before/after photos and even if they did, I had trouble trusting them since they are all photoshopped and only show their best work... Unlike Canadian or American doctors you cannot really find reviews or even verify the doctors credentials, the Korean Association of Plastic Surgeons website and search bar doesn't even work, and they do not reply to e-mails so the clinics can write whatever they want. How can I know for sure those doctors graduated from the best university of the country and if they're plastic surgeons ? No way.
I showed pictures of actresses with the style of noses I like, I consulted with 8 doctors since consultation are free in Korea and none of them recommend the same thing to achieve the result I want. My bridge is already pretty high for an asian but some of them recommend augmenting by less than 2 mm, others 2-3 mm, some even say 4-5mm lol. A lot of doctors said my nose doesn't start at the right level and I should augment only my radix instead of the whole nose... Augmentation rhinoplasty is more rare in caucasian patients than asians but they either use silicone or own cartilage, but there's possibility of infection or extrusion with silicone since it's a foreign material and the risk is higher than silicone breast implants.. With own cartilage (such as using ear cartilage to augment the radix) there is possibility of resorption or warping in the long term... The flight is 20 hours long so if I ever have any complication, I will have to fly all the way there...So I met a doctor who suggested shaving my bridge a little since my radix is low and I have a slight bump, to create a nice curve and did not suggest augmentation, I really liked that since it wouldn't require putting foreign material on my face... But I kind of like my current bridge height I am not sure I wanna lose some of it... While other doctors suggested shaving the hump and adding silicone on top to create a nice profile lolol.
For tip work they will defat it to make it sharper and raise it a bit. Some doctors recommended alar reduction while others said it is not necessary because raising the tip will make the nostrils narrower... I was scared of scarring from alar reduction and I know it's very difficult to do it right, can result in uneven nostrils and when the doctor removes too much it's irreversible... And when it's not done right gives an awkward triangle shape :(... Some of the consultants who recommended alar to me had weird looking nostrils, although they said another doctor performed it, I was a little scared.. The last doctor said he could achieve what I want without alar, unless I want a caucasian nose he will remove some of my nostrils but this is not what I want. He did say we could first do the rhino without and if I am unhappy, to come back 2 months later for alar but I don't live next to Korea, it costs me over $2k for the flight alone and $1k for the hotel not including food so that's $4k minimum per visit.
Some doctors said it's possible to do my case with open rhino while others said closed.
I am glad I went on this trip because after getting 8 recommendations from different doctors I get to think about it some more. I like understanding the technical aspect of things and since this is such a delicate procedure I want to know everything. I will keep researching some more, and get someone to professionally photoshop my pictures so I can visualize it.
xStacey
08-01-2016, 10:24 PM
Ok I'm feeling self-conscious, everyone at the airport have perfect fake noses even the flight attendants. I am pretty excited to be back in Canada lol where you don't see asian women with perfect small and sharp noses everywhere, actually there's like none where I live. Lol
Velveteen.Rabbit
08-02-2016, 01:10 AM
Also be aware that consulting with plastic surgeons can be VERY triggering for self-esteem issues even in the most confident of women. PSs make all of their money off of changing people's appearances, NOT off of validating people and building up their self-confidence. They're trained to pick up on even the tiniest of 'flaws' and to offer solutions based on those skewed perceptions. I'm not for or against plastic surgery; it's just good to be fully aware of what it means to consult with multiple professionals who are there to literally and figuratively pick people apart.
Good job on going with your gut! :grouphug:
Yeah they pretty much all told me to get my nose done, washing almost the last ethnic piece I have. A very prominent nose surgeon told me "it looks so cute from the front but from the side it doesn't fit you" aka you look white from the front but not from the side so it need to be fixed. So dumb. He also asked me my heritage and I gave a very vague answer so he asked "what's your last name"? Lmao so sketch. Seriously, watch out.
xStacey
08-02-2016, 06:54 PM
Arg my friend I met from Korea just sent me a picture of her nose, she just had her stitches removed. It's so beautiful already whoa I kinda regret not getting mine done a little... :( But I did consult with her doctor and he was booked until August 31... I start school on August 29... Anyway it's not a bad thing, will give me more time to think about it and I'll be able to book my surgery in advance and making an informed decision instead of rushing through when I'm ready.
JenniferNorth
08-02-2016, 07:03 PM
xStacey, I just want to say how impressed I am with how you did your homework. I have seen so many people NOT do that. ((HUGS)) Always listen to your gut!
miss.a.p1600
08-02-2016, 07:03 PM
I hope I don't regret giving this f*cker a second chance.
We had a rabbit like you
08-02-2016, 07:29 PM
Is it really judgmental that when I see a middle aged man who doesn't have a girlfriend/wife/ex wife/boyfriend if he's gay/or kids and who still lives with his mom , I get a creepy Ed Gein/Norman bates vibe??
charlie61
08-02-2016, 09:30 PM
Back to confessions, guys! If you find yourself posting in here about the same topic 3+ times, start your own thread and link it here so we can find it! :hug: <3 <3
I confess that I'm WAY behind on answering PMs! >_<
JenniferNorth
08-03-2016, 09:23 AM
Is it bad that I want to go write nasty reviews on Yelp about an old vanilla job of mine?! I totally, totally do! Idk why I out up with that job for so long!
22lligm
08-03-2016, 10:29 AM
The bartender who I hit on last weekend sent me a picture of himself and OMG I think I had beer goggles on. Or it was just an ugly picture. I want him to send me another of just his face because I swear he was hot in person!! I was drunk but I mean I usually know if a guy is hot or not whether I'm sober or not. I'll be really sad if he's ugly because he seems like a cool guy.
Just writing this I sound so incredibly shallow lol. i think its just because I've been content not dating or talking to any guys so if I'm going to start something with anyone I want him to be somewhat attractive. I don't think that's too much to ask!
carmen_b
08-03-2016, 11:21 AM
May be worth a coffee in the day light at least ? :)
Could have been the lighting and beer google combo but maybe just a bad picture !
The bartender who I hit on last weekend sent me a picture of himself and OMG I think I had beer goggles on. Or it was just an ugly picture. I want him to send me another of just his face because I swear he was hot in person!! I was drunk but I mean I usually know if a guy is hot or not whether I'm sober or not. I'll be really sad if he's ugly because he seems like a cool guy.
Just writing this I sound so incredibly shallow lol. i think its just because I've been content not dating or talking to any guys so if I'm going to start something with anyone I want him to be somewhat attractive. I don't think that's too much to ask!
LilLadyLux
08-03-2016, 11:29 AM
@whirlerz when it rains, it pours! Just keep taking deep breaths and remembering this will pass. Sorry your having such a shit show.
22lligm
08-03-2016, 01:38 PM
May be worth a coffee in the day light at least ? :)
Could have been the lighting and beer google combo but maybe just a bad picture !
I'm really hoping it was just a bad picture haha I just asked for another one so we'll see
seashell
08-03-2016, 05:12 PM
The bartender who I hit on last weekend sent me a picture of himself and OMG I think I had beer goggles on. Or it was just an ugly picture. I want him to send me another of just his face because I swear he was hot in person!! I was drunk but I mean I usually know if a guy is hot or not whether I'm sober or not. I'll be really sad if he's ugly because he seems like a cool guy.
Just writing this I sound so incredibly shallow lol. i think its just because I've been content not dating or talking to any guys so if I'm going to start something with anyone I want him to be somewhat attractive. I don't think that's too much to ask!
Some guys just aren't very photogenic... maybe he's cute in person but it doesn't translate well in pictures? Haha. Totally understandable wanting to date someone you're attracted to though! :)
seashell
08-03-2016, 05:13 PM
I am so broke that today I canceled my doctor's appointment because I can't afford a $25 copay. Well, I rescheduled it to Friday, which is after payday at my vanilla job.
Also, annoyed at myself because tonight I'm going on a date instead of stripping or camming. Oh well... at least I get free food! lol *jokingbutnotreally*
22lligm
08-03-2016, 08:07 PM
(Last thing about this guy!)
Oh god he sent another picture and.... He's not unattractive he just looks way older than I remembered. Like I would guess he's around 40? But he looks like he was probably so hot when he was younger. Ugh if only he was 10 years younger he would be perfect lol. I think it was the distance from across the bar & the dark lighting that made him look so good. :(
chanzep
08-03-2016, 08:46 PM
Was at my new job today talking to a coworker she told me she is a server at a restaurant. She showed me her earnings and they were good and I felt jealous when we were talking about our first paycheck because she was not bothered as she makes cash most evenings. Weird as I hate serving food.
lynn2009
08-03-2016, 09:08 PM
I am so broke that today I canceled my doctor's appointment because I can't afford a $25 copay. Well, I rescheduled it to Friday, which is after payday at my vanilla job.
Maybe get a credit card? Obviously not to spend more than you have but for situations like this it would have been great.
DonaDiabla
08-04-2016, 06:47 AM
No real confession other than Tinder sucks!!
xStacey
08-04-2016, 10:58 AM
With some distance and time, I finally realize how much I hate my ex and what he made me go through. I don't ever want to feel the way he made me feel ever again and I will never return to him.
xStacey
08-04-2016, 11:21 AM
Is it really judgmental that when I see a middle aged man who doesn't have a girlfriend/wife/ex wife/boyfriend if he's gay/or kids and who still lives with his mom , I get a creepy Ed Gein/Norman bates vibe??
We have an 80 years old law professor who's a legend, but he's never been married, never had kids and still lives with his mom. He adds a lot of his female law students on Facebook and constantly like their photos. My friend said it's one of the reasons she never added him or wanted to be close to him because she gets creepy vibes lol. I didn't know, at first I thought the woman on his pictures is his wife but nope, his mom.
miss.a.p1600
08-04-2016, 07:46 PM
*sigh*
Im over it now.
Maybe I didn't believe in myself or I was too lonely or something but I know I can get better. Back on match tonight.....again lol!
whirlerz
08-04-2016, 08:11 PM
:):):):)
chanzep
08-04-2016, 10:12 PM
Aw you must be so tired I hate moving stuff hope you are having a relaxing evening.
baer45
08-05-2016, 07:35 AM
Seriously, When you are looking for a mate, you have 3 traits triangle.
1. Attractive
2. wealthy
3.Decent human being
You could only possibly choose no more than 2 traits. Normally, you might end up with just 1-trait man.
miss.a.p1600
08-05-2016, 09:00 AM
Omg. At the gym and this mans muscles are on point.
[email protected]@@@@mn!!! And he used those fine muscles to open his luxury car. Arg! Wish I got here earlier.
LilLadyLux
08-05-2016, 09:12 AM
SWEAR TO GOD miss.a.p fine men are half the reason I keep working out!!
seashell
08-05-2016, 09:29 AM
So I arrive at a bar for a first date with a new guy... And realize I'm seated a few feet away from my ex-boyfriend, the one I never wanted to break up with. He walked right next to me when he left, close enough to brush past my chair, and I was sure he must have seen me.
The date I was on went amazingly well... But I ended up texting the ex, and we both said how much we hated the way our breakup went. We're meeting for drinks on Sunday. We can't be together because of some stuff we have no control over, so I'm not sure if seeing him is just going to make me more upset or bring some closure.
baer45
08-05-2016, 10:29 AM
The date I was on went amazingly well... But I ended up texting the ex, and we both said how much we hated the way our breakup went. We're meeting for drinks on Sunday. We can't be together because of some stuff we have no control over, so I'm not sure if seeing him is just going to make me more upset or bring some closure.
By the way you describe him, I would bet you will get more upset.
baer45
08-05-2016, 10:33 AM
Omg. At the gym and this mans muscles are on point.
[email protected]@@@@mn!!! And he used those fine muscles to open his luxury car. Arg! Wish I got here earlier.
Speaking of the physique, check out this Chinese Olympic swimmer Ning Zetao. I always think swimmers have the best body.
http://i.dailymail.co.uk/i/pix/2016/08/05/04/36E3DAA300000578-3724760-image-m-32_1470367439163.jpg
http://i.dailymail.co.uk/i/pix/2016/08/05/04/36E3FE5600000578-3724760-image-a-33_1470367456415.jpg
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-3724760/Internet-goes-wild-handsome-Chinese-Olympic-swimmer-Ning-Zetao-incredible-physique.html#reader-comments
Cashmere Star
08-05-2016, 10:34 AM
Omg. At the gym and this mans muscles are on point.
[email protected]@@@@mn!!! And he used those fine muscles to open his luxury car. Arg! Wish I got here earlier.
lol a reason why I started working out was because I looked at the low-tier boyfriends of my friends and thought "uh I could do better".
Vyanka
08-05-2016, 01:26 PM
Omg. At the gym and this mans muscles are on point.
[email protected]@@@@mn!!! And he used those fine muscles to open his luxury car. Arg! Wish I got here earlier.
Muscles and luxury car..... mmmmm <3
miss.a.p1600
08-05-2016, 02:21 PM
If your dude ain't acting right. Read Pussy Whip. I bullsh*t you not ... It works (covert mind control lol)
Aurora_Sunset
08-05-2016, 06:12 PM
Today, I left my phone sitting on the floor of a massively busy convention hall.
I also left my keys sitting right on the front seat of my unlocked car.
An employee found my phone and had it nearby when I realized it was missing almost 15 minutes later. And my car was totally untouched...
I don't know where the fuck my head is today, but I am damn lucky!
Velveteen.Rabbit
08-05-2016, 10:35 PM
I just went exclusive with the dude but I don't wanna talk about it Bc ill jinx it lolol