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Velveteen.Rabbit
08-06-2016, 03:11 AM
Is anybody else's guy obsessed with talking about all the crazy shit you've done with guys? At first I thought he was a cuckold but he's totally not. It was confusing Bc he's super alpha male (I normally date feminine betas) but then I realized it somehow developed due to his love of counterculture and punk fuck it attitude. Lmao. It's just so weird because it's so rare. I was crazy suspicious of him at first but it's literally what he's into. So weird lol. Anyone else experience this?
lynn2009
08-06-2016, 06:53 AM
I slept through my hair appointment and now I'm too lame to answer the phone :/
SimoneGray
08-06-2016, 07:07 AM
I hate the fact that I still want to screw men...I mean, the patriarchy is fucked up and most of them are gross, uncaring, selfish douchebags. And I know this. And I know better, but I still desire them sexually...I wish I could kill that part of myself off and just be desire free.
Not that I have slept with anyone in like 2 years mind you, but I WANT to sometimes and it horrifies me a bit.
miss.a.p1600
08-06-2016, 07:35 AM
No. Don't wish to kill that part of yourself. It's the dudes fault for being gross douchebag lol.
I can relate. Too bad some of them can't be easily trained. I just ended my four year celibacy with a dude - I got oral (which wasn't orgasmic - *sigh*) Maybe in due time.
Sometimes I wish I could be a praying mantis and eat the dude if his sex skills are whack.
baer45
08-06-2016, 08:45 AM
It's around 1 am today. I was on my way home from the range. I ran into a lovely scene made me almost burst into tears. A girl, who's appearantly don't know how to ride a bicycle, was learning how to do it. A young man ( presumingly her boyfriend) had his hand on the backseat of the bicycle to ensure her safety. She looked worried for a second while turning the corner in front of my car. He must have said something comforting that made her giggle a little. Yes, no worry missy, he's right behind you all the time. If you fell, you would have fallen into arms of your young lover.
I was moved. Young love is always the best.
whirlerz
08-06-2016, 03:57 PM
I disagree, I see older people holding hands that've been together many years & I think it's the best
charlie61
08-06-2016, 09:19 PM
Isn't true love, in general, the best?
seashell
08-06-2016, 10:06 PM
I hope everyone's love life is going well...!
Speaking of which, I met up with a Tinder date today. He seemed SO promising... he's a teacher, a marching band director, founded/runs a music-related nonprofit... and he was really funny over text message. When I finally meet him, he's covered in tattoos and looks like/acts like he's slightly high. I mean, I'm open-minded, but not about guys I'm dating and especially when it's the complete opposite of what I expected, lol.
I started trying to pull information out of him about whether he was on drugs, hahaha... :detective He didn't drink alcohol, so that's where I began:
"Why don't you drink? Did you just overdo it?"
"I bet you just traded alcohol for LSD, huh?"
"You know what would be great, watching a marching band on LSD. No, seriously. I bet that would be AMAZING."
Then he finally admits, "Oh yeah, I actually have watched a marching band on LSD."
:rotfl:
Then he invited me to a second date of netflix-and-chill.
Tinder strikes again.
Velveteen.Rabbit
08-06-2016, 11:11 PM
^^^ The best tinder dates I ever had were guys I had a lot of mutual friends with via what the app shows you. The more mutual friends, the better the date / quality of guy.
seashell
08-07-2016, 08:17 AM
^^^ The best tinder dates I ever had were guys I had a lot of mutual friends with via what the app shows you. The more mutual friends, the better the date / quality of guy.
I would have thought the same thing, but no joke, this guy and I have 9 "common connections"/mutual friends that the Tinder app showed. XD One was an ex-boyfriend, and a couple went to my high school, so I thought I might already have known him.
miss.a.p1600
08-07-2016, 11:31 AM
I hope everyone's love life is going well...!
Speaking of which, I met up with a Tinder date today. He seemed SO promising... he's a teacher, a marching band director, founded/runs a music-related nonprofit... and he was really funny over text message. When I finally meet him, he's covered in tattoos and looks like/acts like he's slightly high. I mean, I'm open-minded, but not about guys I'm dating and especially when it's the complete opposite of what I expected, lol.
I started trying to pull information out of him about whether he was on drugs, hahaha... :detective He didn't drink alcohol, so that's where I began:
"Why don't you drink? Did you just overdo it?"
"I bet you just traded alcohol for LSD, huh?"
"You know what would be great, watching a marching band on LSD. No, seriously. I bet that would be AMAZING."
Then he finally admits, "Oh yeah, I actually have watched a marching band on LSD."
:rotfl:
Then he invited me to a second date of netflix-and-chill.
Tinder strikes again.
What the...?!?
Who shows up to a date, a first date at that, high? I mean I get people do sh*t recreationally but
[email protected] only a dope fiend couldn't restrain for a few days or hours before/during a date.
That's crazy.
Oh and I like your reverse psychology tactics lol!
baer45
08-07-2016, 12:03 PM
Isn't true love, in general, the best?
Charlie, Can you describe what true love is?
baer45
08-07-2016, 12:07 PM
I went on a date yesterday. He's a nice guy, everything about him in real life is better than what he described in the profile, except, he has two kids. he didn't mentioned that in his profile. I consider that's dishonest and I am not ready to be a stepmother. I want my own kid/s.
charlie61
08-07-2016, 04:08 PM
Charlie, Can you describe what true love is?
My point was more that love at *any* age is a beautiful thing. :)
baer45
08-07-2016, 04:22 PM
My point was more that love at *any* age is a beautiful thing. :)
I got your point. I just want to hear how others decribe what true love is. You seem like someone who's good at sum up things. :)
seashell
08-07-2016, 10:22 PM
What the...?!?
Who shows up to a date, a first date at that, high? I mean I get people do sh*t recreationally but
[email protected] only a dope fiend couldn't restrain for a few days or hours before/during a date.
That's crazy.
Oh and I like your reverse psychology tactics lol!
Hehe, thanks! And yeah, I don't know if he was actually high, but there were clearly some residual effects of years of hard drugs. lol... and this guy is a teacher... >_>
seashell
08-07-2016, 10:35 PM
Meeting up with the ex-boyfriend over drinks was good and bad... we had some laughs and did some catching up... but he kept asking me about my life, and I finally admitted I went back to dancing. I figured it wasn't that big of a deal because he knows about my past, but he just stopped talking and didn't say anything for the longest time. We got back to a normal conversation, and then he was like, "Well, that's the only bad news you have, right?" And I started crying and told him about my health problems. :(
So, probably shouldn't have seen the guy. lol. He offered to help with my bills, but I just wouldn't feel right about that. He's not some random asshole in the club, and he's also not a significant other. I did text him and offer to do a charcoal pet portrait for him for my usual commission price, but he hasn't responded... I'm actually more sad about that lack of response than anything else, lol. Fuck, I really need to move on...
Elektra Luxx
08-07-2016, 11:43 PM
I'm never ever going to volunteer the fact that I escort. It never goes well and it will never go well. I'm just going to pretend like that part of my life never happened. So. in the future when someone tells me "Did you know that So and So has sex for money?" I'll be really judgy too and say things like "Really, that's shocking, doesn't she know that she doesn't have to resort to doing something so disgusting?" "She's so pretty too, I feel sorry for her."
A family discussion about a person who had done sex work in the past.
Selina M
08-08-2016, 02:40 AM
If your dude ain't acting right. Read Pussy Whip. I bullsh*t you not ... It works (covert mind control lol)
YASSSS. I thought I was the only crazy lady who believed in that book.
miss.a.p1600
08-08-2016, 06:42 AM
I went on a date yesterday. He's a nice guy, everything about him in real life is better than what he described in the profile, except, he has two kids. he didn't mentioned that in his profile. I consider that's dishonest and I am not ready to be a stepmother. I want my own kid/s.
I'm same way. I wouldn't mind it as much if the dude was rich and could afford to support multiple people at once but most dudes are average middle class. That's why I prefer a dude with no kids but the older we get the harder it is to find that. If they have kids I prefer them to be older like adults or damn near on the way to self sufficiency. Less money he has to spend support kids the more he can spend on me and our baby lol!!! Yes I'm greedy sometimes.
I didn't put I had kids either cause I didn't want to attract pervs preying on single moms. I put I'll talk about it later and mentioned it before the first date.
baer45
08-08-2016, 10:04 AM
I'm never ever going to volunteer the fact that I escort. It never goes well and it will never go well. I'm just going to pretend like that part of my life never happened. So. in the future when someone tells me "Did you know that So and So has sex for money?" I'll be really judgy too and say things like "Really, that's shocking, doesn't she know that she doesn't have to resort to doing something so disgusting?" "She's so pretty too, I feel sorry for her."
A family discussion about a person who had done sex work in the past.
Just go Hillary about it. The conversation like that will never go well.
carmen_b
08-08-2016, 10:36 AM
I've been mad for DAYS that we didn't celebrate our anniversary properly but it was BOTH of our faults.
Anyway ..... what I have in mind is an early dinner in the mountains. I picked the spot . It's got a GREAT view. I bought some hard cider from a local producer ( I went today and tasted the new batchl ) and I have it in the fridge.
If my partner doesn't MATCH or EXCEED the effort I put into today , I think he is smart enough to know there will be hell to pay. We have always been SO GOOD about celebrating our milestones and I can't believe we botched this one ( 5 years together ).
EDIT - His effort was matched . :)
We botched it, no question but have gone out a couple times / attempted to turn it around.
xStacey
08-08-2016, 12:44 PM
I feel so unwell and tired all the time. So much to do but I don't have the will to do anything. I just wanna stay all day in bed and sleep so I don't have to think.
Cashmere Star
08-08-2016, 02:18 PM
I'm never ever going to volunteer the fact that I escort. It never goes well and it will never go well. I'm just going to pretend like that part of my life never happened. So. in the future when someone tells me "Did you know that So and So has sex for money?" I'll be really judgy too and say things like "Really, that's shocking, doesn't she know that she doesn't have to resort to doing something so disgusting?" "She's so pretty too, I feel sorry for her."
A family discussion about a person who had done sex work in the past.
I do that too, except I stay neutral and not judgy because the latter can imply that you're an escort yourself. The smart ones can tell that it's usually the homophobes who are secretly gay, and the self righteous evangelicals who have crazy fetishes in the closet. When someone is a sex worker, and I just go "why would she do that?"
"what about STDs and creepy fat guys? that sounds dangerous."
"well it's her life"
lynn2009
08-08-2016, 02:37 PM
.........
rareaspasia
08-08-2016, 02:40 PM
Here's my awful confession for today: a couple I'm close friends with announced that they're having a baby and I'm trying to be happy for them but it's really weird. I know for a fact that she didn't want kids. We talked about it many, many times. I seriously thought it was a joke for a minute when they announced it on facebook. She seems happy and they have a solid marriage so I'm really hoping finding out she was pregnant changed how she feels about having kids because it would be so awful if she doesn't really want the baby and is having it because her husband wants her to. I can totally see him leaving her if she had an abortion.
Aurora_Sunset
08-08-2016, 03:28 PM
Here's my awful confession for today: a couple I'm close friends with announced that they're having a baby and I'm trying to be happy for them but it's really weird. I know for a fact that she didn't want kids. We talked about it many, many times. I seriously thought it was a joke for a minute when they announced it on facebook. She seems happy and they have a solid marriage so I'm really hoping finding out she was pregnant changed how she feels about having kids because it would be so awful if she doesn't really want the baby and is having it because her husband wants her to. I can totally see him leaving her if she had an abortion.
One of my best friends has been dating a guy for about 6 years who badly wants children. He brings them up all the time, and adamantly wants biological kids. My friend and I have had many conversations where she's stated that she doesn't want kids, and definitely does not want to put her body through pregnancy.
Yet, she talks about buying a house with this guy and marrying him and saying she can't see herself ever being single again or with anyone else. Anytime she talks about "being with him forever" I either want to say "Are you sure? Cuz, ya know... the kid thing?" or I'm terrified that her massive fear of being single will cause her to stay with him and give into having kids just for the sake of keeping him... Oh well, I guess I can't control her life.
baer45
08-08-2016, 05:10 PM
One of my best friends has been dating a guy for about 6 years who badly wants children. He brings them up all the time, and adamantly wants biological kids. My friend and I have had many conversations where she's stated that she doesn't want kids, and definitely does not want to put her body through pregnancy.
Yet, she talks about buying a house with this guy and marrying him and saying she can't see herself ever being single again or with anyone else. Anytime she talks about "being with him forever" I either want to say "Are you sure? Cuz, ya know... the kid thing?" or I'm terrified that her massive fear of being single will cause her to stay with him and give into having kids just for the sake of keeping him... Oh well, I guess I can't control her life.
A successful marriage requires two people have similar life goals. Having kids is one of the biggest goal out there.
xStacey
08-08-2016, 07:51 PM
I am really much more productive when every single hour of my week is planned in advance. Ugh, less than three weeks before school and I feel like I haven't done anything at all the last 6 weeks. I waste so much time doing useless things, I really have to get it together.
xStacey
08-09-2016, 04:25 AM
I don't understand why I still miss my ex.
miss.a.p1600
08-09-2016, 05:30 AM
I want to ditch this dude again so I can maybe go back to stripping or some kind of adult industry work without having to explain myself, compromise, lie, or feel guilty. Money, not regular relationship, is on my mind.
*~*Zorn*~*
08-09-2016, 09:05 AM
My son starts Kindergarten in a couple of weeks and today they're doing "playground buddies" at his school where they meet their teacher and classmates - and since I have to watch the baby I'm staying home... And I'm SO relieved...!! The last thing I need today is to dress up and put on the fake smile and perky attitude for the stepford wives in my son's school district.. 😌
Velveteen.Rabbit
08-09-2016, 09:14 AM
When people are like "...So what's the plan with XYZ???" And you're like "Don't have one yet, everything is circumstantial" only to be met with "Wow get it together that's irresponsible!"
and then:
"...So what's the plan?" To reply with "The tentative plan is ABC but it depends on DEF." only to be met with "Stop changing plans and get it together!"
Do people's brains not work? A lot of courses of action are tentative and there's nothing that can change that. That's why is tentative? That doesn't mean you don't have your shit together, that means you're flexible and able to make great quick decisions for the best possible outcome lol
We had a rabbit like you
08-09-2016, 09:44 AM
When I'm mad I know it looks like I'm being manipulative and doing the silent treatment but it's really because I'm bad at expressing why im angry or hurt, and I feel like it's not a good enough reason and they'll just laugh at me. Like for instance, my husband told a "joke" last night that really upset me and I'm still wicked pissed but it's going to sound absolutely ridiculous so I just sit here and seeth with rage and don't talk lol.
I've also realized that I've gotten myself into a position where, if he wanted to turn I to a real dick, I'd have no way out right now and nowhere to go and it makes me very uncomfortable. Not that I think he would but I don't like feeling dependent.
rareaspasia
08-09-2016, 11:09 AM
One of my best friends has been dating a guy for about 6 years who badly wants children. He brings them up all the time, and adamantly wants biological kids. My friend and I have had many conversations where she's stated that she doesn't want kids, and definitely does not want to put her body through pregnancy.
Yet, she talks about buying a house with this guy and marrying him and saying she can't see herself ever being single again or with anyone else. Anytime she talks about "being with him forever" I either want to say "Are you sure? Cuz, ya know... the kid thing?" or I'm terrified that her massive fear of being single will cause her to stay with him and give into having kids just for the sake of keeping him... Oh well, I guess I can't control her life.
She's always been kind of a pushover is the thing. Me, I've always been 100% against having kids and that's all there is to it. It's a dealbreaker for me, and it was discussed the very first week I was sleeping with my partner. Her husband wanted kids but loved her so he didn't pressure her, so I can so her going, well, shit, I guess I'm pregnant, might as well have a baby. I know most pregnancies aren't really planned and that doesn't mean those kids are loved any less, and I know she'll be a good mom, but in this case I'm just really hoping she doesn't end up resenting her husband. Ugh. Tricky situation. My guy and I are going to be seeing them this weekend so hopefully I'll be able to tell if she's legitimately happy so I can let it go. If they weren't such good friends I wouldn't feel involved but these are two of the only people who've been with us through thick and thin.
miss.a.p1600
08-09-2016, 12:13 PM
When people are like "...So what's the plan with XYZ???" And you're like "Don't have one yet, everything is circumstantial" only to be met with "Wow get it together that's irresponsible!"
and then:
"...So what's the plan?" To reply with "The tentative plan is ABC but it depends on DEF." only to be met with "Stop changing plans and get it together!"
Do people's brains not work? A lot of courses of action are tentative and there's nothing that can change that. That's why is tentative? That doesn't mean you don't have your shit together, that means you're flexible and able to make great quick decisions for the best possible outcome lol
Prime reason why you can't tell people your plans cause they'll hate, nag, cause you to second guess yourself, try to get you to change your mind, etc
buttonpop
08-09-2016, 05:30 PM
I broke up with my boyfriend. I am glad I tried everything first, but there was nothing I could do. Me being the neurotic over-analyzer I am, I looked for every possible reason why I fell out of love and tried to fix it. But ultimately nothing worked and the simple fact is I just wasn't in love anymore.
He could tell something was wrong and it was eating him alive. So I just did the best thing for us both and ended it. We are going to remain friends which I feel deeply lucky for. It sucks breaking up with someone who treated you so well. I feel guilty for breaking his heart.
miss.a.p1600
08-09-2016, 06:36 PM
At this dudes place *sigh* and if he only knew I'm perusing stripperweb lol!
xStacey
08-09-2016, 07:34 PM
I don't like getting ready lol. I have a dinner with a friend I haven't seen in a long time tomorrow and she told me she totally forgot but she's keeping her sister's dog tomorrow so has to be home early, probably can only stay for an hour and a half... So I scheduled to meet with another friend to catch up right after because he's been texting me for months and I'm always too busy, so I could make the most out of the day I take an hour to get ready LOL... I'm horrible.
xStacey
08-09-2016, 11:22 PM
I want to deactivate and delete my Facebook account so bad. I would if it wasn't so important to have an account in my program because a lot of the professional events and some conferences are only announced on Facebook, I would miss out on some stuff if I only relied on the faculty weekly e-mails... I waste so much time lately, even stalking and I have been feeling unwell so all I've been doing lately is spend time in bed in front of my computer screen, and following other people's lives instead of living my own lol, which just makes me feel even more miserable.
I need a digital detox. I remember when I was active on social media years ago and how obsessed I was with posting pictures all the time and how many likes I get, I don't wanna go back. Years later, I re-opened an account last summer and I still haven't posted a single picture lol some people ask me why I tell people who know I'm stripping it's because I don't want clients to recognize me (which is true) but it's also because I don't want to be dependent on other people approval... I mean I see people with thousands of friends and followers, it must be so time-consuming to constantly update and maintain your fans...
I deleted the Facebook app and Messenger on my phone, people who want to talk to me will just have to text me. I blocked Facebook and I deleted my Instagram pictures, even if I am no longer active and do not post any content, I have to admit I sometimes have difficulty resisting checking out other people's pages lol esp when my life is not going well and it doesn't help. I am constantly comparing myself to others, how they're all so good looking, successful and their lives are so perfect compared to mine... Very unhealthy and bad for self-confidence.
Selina M
08-09-2016, 11:28 PM
So that cat that was given to bf a few months ago is in awful shape. She may be starting to have kidney failure, definitely has a bladder infection, and is otherwise incredibly weak because she stopped eating. Now she's on IV fluids every night, antibiotics, and being fed from a syringe so I can make sure she eats something. She's being called Hospice Cat now.
I feel REALLY bad, like we should have noticed sooner or taken her to the vet when we got her. The prior owner said she had looked like that as long as he had her, and I know old cats tend to be picky and get skinny, so we ignored her weight. I also confess I made it clear that "I didn't ask for another cat, she is YOUR problem financially and to clean up after". I just put her food down every day and petted her, but she'd refuse to eat unless you left & was eating so little anyway it was impossible to tell she had stopped. She never came into the rest of the house because the dogs are overwhelming, so we saw very little of her. Cats hide stuff so well too... like 1.5 weeks ago she had hopped up on the couch with me and surprised me that she was actually strong enough. I don't know if we WOULD have caught it earlier :/
TLDR: I feel like a crap pet owner and I hope this poor cat doesn't die, because now I'm spending time with her and she's a sweetheart.
xStacey
08-09-2016, 11:40 PM
It's 2:39 am and I can't fall asleep. I haven't done much all day so I'm not tired... Those existential crisis... Not really happy with where my life is right now.
We had a rabbit like you
08-10-2016, 08:36 AM
I've never known any of them personally (I don't exactly travel in Olympic social circles) but I can only imagine how dreadfully stage-parenty these moms and dads are w their kids..yeah, let's have our three year old practice 9 hours a day for the next ten years All so they can compete for a few weeks! Those kids must have NO life
miss.a.p1600
08-10-2016, 08:51 AM
^^^^i went to school with a dude who competed in olympics. I turned the channel and I'm like I know that dude! Fine as body. Decent face. Definitely f*ckable.
I was at that dudes place and I was bloated all night. I farted twice in my sleep. Part of me was embarrassed and hoping he didn't hear. And the other part of me wished I could revenge fart in his face lol!
Aurora_Sunset
08-10-2016, 09:27 AM
I signed up for a volunteer thing today, but now I really don't want to go. It started raining just now, and since it's an outdoor event, I'm hoping that the rain will continue all afternoon and it'll be cancelled....
I'll fulfill my duty if that doesn't happen, but I am desperately crossing my fingers! I would rather meal plan and cook all afternoon.
miss.a.p1600
08-10-2016, 11:59 AM
Omg. Many hot DILF's and potential sugar daddies in the airport. I'm horny and unsatisfied with the current state of affairs, financially and vaginally *sigh*
baer45
08-10-2016, 12:15 PM
I am not even sure I have any real female friends anymore. I feel like everyone of them come to my place for a reason. They were all bothered by relationships and stuff. Some stupid stuff, cheating bf or husband, and then they wanted to pick up my brain for that!
I am straight forward, I don't BS. I tell everyone exactly what the problem is without sugar coating it. Sometimes they know what to be done. They just want to talk, and want to hear me say it. But I hate to be that person.
Why can they just come here and chill?
carmen_b
08-10-2016, 12:43 PM
^ It can be so easy for us as sex workers to see that if a man isn't treating you well, the simple solution is just to LEAVE. The think civilian women have less experience overall with men and see things less cut and dry.
baer45
08-10-2016, 01:54 PM
They knew what's going on. They just wanted to have someone to talk to.
carmen_b
08-10-2016, 02:46 PM
I had a runner at the massage parlor .
He ran away about 30 minutes ago before even we started the session.
Hahaha. Clueless. Obviously we have all banned him.
When I suggested he tip me for my time for coming to meet him even though he was not getting the session at his scheduled time , he was just SHOCKED I suggested it. Lol.
I think I scared his cheap ass away forever. I certainly hope so.